Wow...I didn't blog last week because quite honestly I was bored. Well, I am not bored anymore! I don't even know where to start. OK, scene one. I can't help but focus on Danielle. I have said in the past that I don't like four against one and try to be impartial. I do call it the way I see it. She decides after the book has been discovered to tell her children for the FIRST TIME that it exists and that the only three things are true: She was a stripper, got arrested and changed her name. I need to STOP here first. She casually said these three things when in fact each one individually is extremely damaging and life changing. Changed her name? Who does that? I can think of only two reasons. 1. Witness protection or 2. Plea-bargaining with the "feds" and turning in major drug dealers for a deal. Either is extremely dangerous. What normal person would risk their safely and privacy after going through the effort of changing their name? CHANGING YOUR NAME? Just think about that for a second. She risked everything for money and fame. Now her ex husband really does have grounds to take custody of the girls. She has put her children in possible imminent danger. I am the queen of accountability so here we go.
At dinner Danielle, you told Teresa to LISTEN and that only two things in the book were true: Getting arrested and the name change. So what happened to being a stripper? Did you forget? Or did you want to try to humiliate Theresa and talk down to her? "Pay attention please." But Teresa surprised you, didn't she? I think Teresa was the popular girl in high school and probably had one boyfriend. I also think she was the jealous type and would scratch out the eyes of any girl that looked at her man (she still would for her husband) and that is the girl she became when she flipped the table. "No one puts baby in the corner" comes to mind right now. I digress...sorry.
Jacqueline's parents came to town. Adorable. Love them. Colonel in the Army. Listen to your father in your head when you don't know what to do as a parent. He can teach you anything you want to know about discipline. By the way, can he tell me where to rent one of those motorhomes? I am dying to go cross-country or just visit the National Parks in one of those things. DYING. I can have Wayne drive us in August and maybe stop in your town. So if anyone knows where I can rent one please go to www.jillzarin.com and post on my blog. I love that she calls Chris Dad.
Jill, I really really appreciate your take on this situation. I've loved you since Season 1 of RHONYC and I think you have a good head on your shoulders. You're right - Danielle is pulling the victim card and it is sad and puny in my opinion. I know her daughters seem "well-adjusted" to some now, but years from now this will all take a toll on them psychologically. I have a master's degree in developmental psychology and have done tons of research on children and their families. I don't think this is going to end up good for them. Take care Jill!
I love you jill your my favorite real housewife on Bravo. Your classy, honest, upfront and there's no Bull****.
Jill. You are the BEST! Talk about calling a spade a spade...can you please make a phone call to Jacqueline and make her see the light??? Thanks!!
Thank you for the clear, concise, account! I'm so glad you weighed in to this mess!
The show would have been great without the drama queen and I certainly would love to see everyone EXCEPT for Danielle to be back. I think its absolutely irresponsible to put Danielle's children through this mess. Bravo needs to be held accountable for that because they did bring the crazy lady on the show. These poor kids are now paying the consequence of their mother's constant need for sex (who asks a man to have sex in a public restuarant on National TV?) and constant need to stir up drama. Danielle needs some SERIOUS mental help! Continuing on this show is NOT going to be the answer.
Love the NY Housewives and thanks for trying to protect the brand. You are right. The show can be a positive to those that are sane. Jill and Danielle need to take a pass on any future offers!
Jill, I couldn't have writtin it better myself! Your analysis of Danielle is right on. It was beyond inappropriate to bring out the book. I know this is reality television, and let's face it, it made for riviting television. But this is a narcisstic woman who is playing the victim card for all it is worth. I cannot believe that people post that she is a good mother. Talking about phone sex? Not telling her children in advance about this book? I cringed when I saw her children at the restaurant.
Are you serious? You want to criticize Danielle for not working, living off of a rich man and picking a fight with grown women. Isn't that the pot calling the kettle black?
Get real! Mario was right, you don't work. You live off of your husband's money and attacked the other ladies on the show for things that were obviously none of your business.
Thanks Jill for your spot on evaluation of the show and Danielle! I am amazed so many people have fallen into this web she so cleverly weaves.
you are a true sophistcated ny housewife and ny socialite. stay just as you are - your perfect you are to the bravo housewives what susan lucci is to soaps - absolutely great
I have been watching from season 1. You so rock. You are also right about Danielle. What kind of mother puts her kids through this. They have to go to school and kids are so mean. Why? I just dont understand.I agree there is more behind her that we see. She sold her kids out for money and 15 minutes of fame. Her ex should take the girls maybe they would be better off. You can be a friend to your child but have to know when to put the mother hat on, and I think she lacks that ability. Jill thanks for your awsomeness. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks. PS you have done a great job with Ally.
You are ridiculous!!!! My assumption is that you are scared on the Mafioso Manzos. Who knows, maybe you are apart of the jewish mob. What a waste.
Jill, I am one of your biggest fans but I have to disagree with you on this. Why was it alright for Teresa to talk explicit about her boobies and her husband sexual situation at the table(the kids were close by), but when Danielle took out the book, it was not alright.
I am from NYC and the best time to confront people abut a situation is when EVERYBODY is present. It is not like they would of accepted an invited from her to talk about the book.
You are from NYC like myself and you mean to tell me you didn't have a problem seeing Bernard Kerik at Carolines house and you know that he is being INVESTIGATED by the FEDS, that says alot for Caroline and her husband. The conversation at first had nothing to do with Teresa, she just wanted to have something to say(as Bethanny stated) she is boring and she needs to disipline her girls and teach them how to act in public. Teresa and her husband needs to be INVESTIGATED as well. Would you(Jill)walk around with CASH like that...............be honest like you claim that you are.
ITA, Danielle totally set this up, from the previews, I was worried for the children and wondering why Teresa would start a fight in front of them. However it was Danielle who started it, and I don't blame Teresa for being angry at Danielle for starting a fight at her dinner party!
Jill I think your taking this way to seriously. You know a lot of this is for the ratings. The way you went off at your charity event you really don't have a lot of room to talk. I truly think people get tunnel vision and begin to think your opinion not only count but it's relevant. It's pure entertainment on all of the shows. All we can do is live our life the best we can. It's sounds like it's a little harder for some folks with camera's in your face. You start believing the hype.
Jill, listen to your husband and mind your business. Remember this book is 20+ years old. You sound like you are hating on Danielle. We all know these Housewives shows are staged. She did not come into the restaurant with the book and the producers seen how the dinner was turning into a snooze fest with inappropriate conversation with children present. They wanted to start some drama and they planted the book under the table and told her at some point in time to interrupt and present the book. Leave Danielle alone...she has her off moments but I felt that it was very brave of her to confront those "bullies" about the book. Its never fun to watch more than two people gang up on one person.
A whole lot of judging & very little perspective taking going on in each season of Housewives. I guess I’m most surprised that a “vet” would stand so firmly on one side of the fence without actually having been there. Don’t get me wrong; you & Bethany were my favorites (BY FAR) on Housewives NY, & Danielle’s personality totally rubbed me wrong. However, each season, all of the housewives talk about how much goes on behind the scenes that viewers don’t know about. I may cringe here & there, but I fully reserve judgment. Plus, I have not walked a mile in Danielle’s shoes; if she has been through all those things, she probably had to be a fighter to get where she is. Considering that, she probably IS going to be abrasive. I haven’t walked in Ramona’s shoes. I mention this, because I found her to be quite repulsive (behaviorally). Yet, I don’t know her & haven’t lived her life. How can I make value statements about her? I was just a little disappointed to read this blog.
from another new york girl, to another : you are the voice of good reason.
its all sad and shocking. Protect the Real Housewives brand.
Ladies discuss things in private not on national tv. I am worried sick about her kids (danielle)
love you love you xx (like teresa would say!!):)
Jill, I am in complete agreement with your assessment of Danielle---who, but for someone and starved for the spotlight, even at the risk of exposing her children, behaves like that? They seemed to be having a pleasant, laughter-filled book and then she quietly pulls the book out and dares them to say anything with her stare? Please, she may as well have brandished a red flag in a bull ring. She wanted to pick a fight because she loves the attention. Keep up the great work! I follow your and Bethenny's Twitter updates & I look forward to your season coming back. take care, T
Jill, You are absolutely correct in your judgement of Danielle (and the other women too). I am a huge fan and am grateful you're so honest and call 'em like you see 'em. Danielle clearly wants a sugar daddy to take care of her...why can't she make her own money?! I think she was supposed to be on the other housewives show...DESPERATE Housewives! I think the other housewives in NJ deserve a better castmate next season. I can't wait until the RHoNYC come back on...By far you and the rest of the NYC housewives are the classiest, most beautiful, and well rounded women in the Real Housewives series!
You were my favorite housewife on NYC.. but are we watching the same show when it comes to NJ?
Dina and Caroline went around spreading rumours behind Danielle's back about this book which has never been confirmed as true.. They have a past, we all have pasts.. why is it anyone's right to judge someone? The book was written by a bitter ex, obviously it's not going to put Danielle in a flattering light.. The book was the elephant in the room at dinner.. everyone knew about it.. everyone talked about it.. Inappropirate bringing it up? hardly.. they talked about sex and boobies, this isn't exactly the classiest bunch.. Danielle didn't bring it up to cause drama, she simply wanted to address the rumors and set the record straight.. Instead of listening with an open mind (no surprise there) Dina and Caroline attacked her and Teresa lost her mind.. Danielle is the way she is bc her life is screwed up, I'm sure if you had to go through the same things you'd feel the same way.. Don't jugde someone unless you've been in their shoes
I completely agree with you. Danielle is acting for the camera with her fake crying and playing the victim. I think it was convenient for her to say that the only truths in the book are the ones that can be verified by others. The other "issues" are her word against her ex's and can't be proven. I would not have her as a friend because I wouldn't trust a word she says. The whole younger boyfriend story was too much. She made the relationship up in her head and when she saw that there was nothing more than sex involved she decided to dump him. It was obvious that he could have cared less. I feel for her kids...hope they turn out better than she did.
From one Jill to another, I could not agree more!
You're dead on with your analysis of all the women, and you call it like you see it. The victim act Danielle has put on for the whole season has REALLY bothered me, because she is a smart woman and it is yet another form of manipulation.
Who do you think you are, saying that Danielle wants to play victim, but you "won't let her"? It's not up to you to "let" anyone be WHATEVER they want! You have become the worst Housewife in ALL the incarnations of this show. You're insufferable. Seriously - look at the person you are - someone like you should never judge another person. EVER. Shame on you.
You've restored my faith in you Jill with this blog. You GET it and you are dead on with everything you wrote. I dont understand why anyone would stick up for this malicious attention seeking sociopath for one second. Sure, Chris, invite her over ... yea, right. Your wife needs your attention - she's the dumbest of the bunch for falling prey to Danielle's manipulations in the first place. Danielle used her to get to Dina. End of story.
Jill, I used to have so much repsect for you. After reading your blog, I have to wonder if you saw what everyone else saw? Why would Danielle tell her children about her past. THEY ARE CHILDREN. You think that Dina is warm? She was completely revealed to be the liar. It funny that you make no comment about this. Maybe you are a part of the "family" too.
You are absolutely RIGHT ON about Danielle--what a crazy person she is and the other housewives SHOULD get restraining orders. I love how you call it as you see it and you are always right on target--keep it up!
Jill, You are a smart women and you nailed your summation of the women. Good for you, and thank you.
I understand your disdain for Danielle, however, what she has been accused of was over two decades ago. Not only that but she every right to stand up for herself, especially when she attempted to contact Teresa who just hung up on her. Also, her daughters are very smart, and I think she's done a great job thus far. She is raisin' them the best way she knows how, as most mothers. Every parent has their own way. Also too, I understand you "call it as you see it" but I also remember you sayin that you yourself makeup stories in your head. And also youve known nothing different than the life you have. I feel as though your view is slightly biased, as your views are those that come from your somewhat sheltered life style. With all do respect, there are plenty of respectable people who have been arrested, one. Two, dare I say there are also women who have been strippers, who also become professional women. As far as the name change, yes it was bit extreme, but Ive known women who have changed names, due to bad domestic relationships. You/We/Viewers dont know her entire history, childhood and etc. I think if you did know, you'd be a lil more tolerant of who she is. Love you anyway Jill, as I know from what Ive seen that you mean well. Peace.
Wow. I tend to think I'm pretty perceptive, and I saw a lot of what you mentioned. But you hit the ball out of the park with this analysis.
You thought of multiple angles I didn't even think of and all were valid concerns.
I agree that it's against common sense for Danielle to be on a reality show considering her past and the fact she changed her name to escape that past. I think she is disingenuous and completely unstable.
I FRICKEN LOVE YOU! You are a force to be reckoned with! You had observations about this episode that no one else has even thought of! Although I am not sure if Danielle's childrens father would have grounds to take the children, only because he probably knows about her past. But knowing what we know about her I doubt that she did tell him since she is a very manipulative person. I totally agree that she was not acting like a victim by bringing out the book at dinner. She wants to be a victim but look like a strong woman. I have never pair those 2 attributes together cuz they don't exist at least together in 1 person. Keep on keeping real, Jill!
Great perspective Jill! Maybe I will get to read your comments on the new show NYC Prep that's coming out? I will miss the Housewives!!
Your mom seems like such a sweet and loving lady. I would love to kibitz with her any day...you..not so much. There is no shortage of well off, opinionated and judgmental women in my town. Your husband is a mensch. Take a lesson: If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all
Bravo for Bravo! Jill I love you! You are amazing and you have an amazing insight on things. I started watching Housewives, after seeing you on your show. This show is quite different, but entertaining nonetheless! You hit the nail right on the head with these girls! Definitely not N.Y. can't wait until next season. Thank you Jill for everything you do!
So only Danielle needs to be accountable? I think all the women behaved poorly and truly the ball was set in motion not at that dinner but at the the beauty salon. Your analysis of Danielle is good, however the other vipers on the show need a calling out as well.
Totally disagree with your analysis.....Those House Wives had no right to judge or spread rumors about Danielle. It was appropriate to expose the book on the table. The look on everyone's faces was great. Danielle has every right to confront them in their face about the rumors and what's true and not. Im sorry for Jacqueline to defend Danielle shows how mean spirited & liars Caroline & Dina truly are.
All I have to say is JILL I ADORE YOU! You are spot on with all of your comments and thoughts of this show. I have only ever seen the NY and NJ episodes of the "housewives" and I enjoyed them both but you are by far, my favorite wife of them all!