Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Bullshit Buzzer

Dina explains why she'd never be friends with someone like Danielle!

Hello All,
I want to start by thanking you for your kind words, I truly appreciate it and on this wild rollercoaster that we are on it sometimes helps me get through the day! xoxo it looks like I may have to address a few issues from last week before I move onto episode 2. I would also like to answer a few fan questions.

1. I will say this once again and maybe this time I have to be a little less silly about this issue. It is a serious matter. I DID NOT LEAVE MY CAR PARKED IN THAT HANDICAP PARKING SPOT! I am actually getting hate mail over this. Not only do I work with sick children every day, but my own mother has a handicap tag. So why on earth would I do something like that? The car was moved within seconds.

2. I think my cats are beautiful. I have been getting a lot of inquiries about the bald one. She is a Sphynx, her name is “Grandma Wrinkle” and she is a lover. The Chinchilla Persian is named “Ladybug”…of course. I also have a paralyzed bunny named “Handsome” and a love bird we call “Belle” who murdered her lover “Monkey” a few months ago. The homicide is still under investigation.

3. Lots of people have been asking about all the buddahs and religious accents in my home. I am a very spiritual person and just like to surround myself with empowering and positive symbols. I never leave the house without some kind of religious or spiritual piece of jewelry on. It just makes me feel protected.

4. My darling husband will not be making an appearance on the show. We have our time together in the mornings when we have breakfast and we have date night once a week. He works so hard and on his down time he didn’t want cameras in his face. I respected his wishes and happen to agree with him.

OK, now onto DANIELLE”S BLOG last week. Danielle, Danielle, just don’t know when to quit do you? The girl admits she pushes buttons and I like to say she knows exactly where my buttons are. Here’s the truth.

“Girls night out”:
Before dinner we were headed to the premiere of Sex and the City. We had four tickets…COUNT THEM DANIELLE, FOUR. Even if we had an extra ticket you would not be included, because you were running your mouth and spreading lies about me all over town. I wouldn’t invite anyone who does this for a trip to the supermarket, never mind a girl's night out. Teresa was invited to the after dinner from day one, which by the way, she DID join us with another girlfriend of hers. On the bench outside the salon Danielle said she likes to make people angry. Huh? That is just unhealthy. LOL.

“I will kick your ass”:
The $750 that I asked her to give to my brother was something Danielle gladly took the thousands and thousands of dollars profit that came out of the deal. By the way, I absolutely gave my brother that money and wasn’t included from the beginning either. I did threaten to kick her ass because I felt she was bothering Jacqueline, who was having a miscarriage at the time of this nonsense. I said “If you call her one more time and bother her with this BS, I will kick your ass." I’d say it again.

I could go on and on about the other nonsense, but as I said in the show I have a low tolerance for this kind of stuff and my “Bullshit Buzzer” just went off. ; )

Now…Episode 2. Where do I begin? I am thinking this may be perceived as one of my “asshole” episodes that I spoke of in my last blog. BUT the truth of the matter is I make no apologies for my attitude towards Danielle.

I don’t want to get too into it, but if you all knew what this woman was saying about me from day one behind the scenes you might understand the fact that I have zero desire to be her friend. ZERO. Friends like that I don’t need! It was also starting to affect my relationship with my sister-in-law Jacqueline, because I was baffled why she would be so close to someone who would spew such vicious, hurtful lies about her family. I think you may see more of that as the show progresses.

I would love to post a letter I wrote to Danielle way before the cameras started rolling and offered an olive branch, so to speak. I told her that we should be civil, so we could teach our children how grown women should behave. I even gave her a small gift along with the note.

She never mentioned the letter and for someone who wants so badly to be my friend, that was a wide open door. Hmmmm. Her hugs at Jacqueline’s party were followed by more lies and BS the very next day. So are you hearing me people? Something smells and let’s not forget that acting in soap operas was one of Danielle’s many past occupations. Oops...I hear that buzzer again! Let’s move on.

Now, let's talk about bitch mode. LOL. Again, I make no apologies for my behavior, because that’s how things get done. If I were a man I would probably be admired for my work ethic, but because I am a chick…I’m a bitch. For the most of that evening I was surprisingly calm, they just happened to show that half an hour of crunch time where I am a lunatic. But guess what? If I am a nut, I am a nut that helps sick children.

My foundation means the world to me. I have always been overly compassionate towards children with cancer and if you visit our website you will find out more about our cause.

If this was my birthday party, I wouldn’t be as crazy. I want these events to be as fabulous as possible so that guests return every year and support Project Ladybug. These events are what allow us to put smiles on the faces of the beautiful children we help. I appreciate each and every one of my volunteers and I always apologize in advance and then afterward for being stressed and maybe a little bossy. I just want things to be perfect. All of them do understand and we laugh about it the next day…that’s what friends and family do. I was a little shocked to see that Jacqueline wasn’t expecting to help. She at the time was on the board of Ladybug and that just kind of comes with the territory. I guess Danielle’s poison was already getting to her, I understand. Also, I feel badly about Danielle’s financial position since the divorce, but if you can afford to be in the salon every other day, you can afford to shell out $75.00 for sick children. I’m just sayin'. When I heard that she was looking for a free ride, she was no longer welcome. I pay for my ticket and I don’t even sit down and eat.

In closing I would like to make it perfectly clear that my family is not the anti-social monsters that we are portrayed to be. There is always that extra family at our house for holidays that has nowhere else to go. If Danielle didn’t start with her nonsense, I am sure that she and her daughters would have been that family this Christmas… now, I’m thinkin’ NOT. Well, her daughters are still welcome ; ) I wish I didn’t have to spend so much time talking about the “Danielle show” so I could comment on how funny I think the rest of the show is. Hopefully on my next blog I will have the space to do so. She decided to go there in her blog last week and so “THIS girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!”

By the way, the NY housewives had their reunion at Cipriani’s, so why the HELL wasn’t Danielle invited? (If you don’t get that joke you may have to watch episode 1 again!) I’m thinking it might be my sense of humor that gets me in trouble sometimes...LOL.

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.