Never Give Up
Caroline describes the heartache she felt over Albie's law school rejection.
Hello again! I'm sitting here blogging on an absolutely gorgeous Saturday evening, now that's dedication! Don't ever let it be said that I don't love my fans. Look at the sacrifices I make for you! LOL, KIDDING! I'm going out to dinner as soon as I finish writing.
OK, let's start with my LaLa. As I watched this scene two things struck me. First was the difference in Lauren’s appearance from last season to this season. Wow! Secondly, and most importantly, is Lauren's attitude. If you recall, Lauren was kind of "iffy" about pursuing a career in cosmetology. I'm proud to say that she not only graduated from Artistic Academy, but continued her education by going to Make-Up Designory (MUD) in Manhattan. While at MUD Lauren took courses in Runway, Print, Fashion, Television, Movie, & Air Brush Makeup application. She is now a full-fledged makeup artist and has already done makeup for television, print, and bridal. That's my girl. I wanted to surprise her in school for Avante Garde day and show my support. She spent the entire night before practicing (Albert and I let her use us as models, you read right, I said Albert!) Lauren told us she was nervous and wanted to do a good job. I knew I would be in the city the next day for a lunch date, so I thought a hug from mom would do the trick. As I peeked in the room and watched Lauren it hit me that she had finally found her passion. She looked confident, happy, and comfortable in her surroundings. What more could I ask for? We actually laugh about how she was "forced" into going to school. Sometimes children don't have the confidence in themselves to pursue their dreams. I believe that it is our job as parents to recognize these passions and talents and give them the little "push" they need. It's like the momma bird watching her baby fly out of the nest and flap their wings for the first time ... the feeling is PRICELESS.
My heart went out to Jacqueline when she started to cry as she explained to Ashley that she wasn’t her enemy. I feel like Jacqueline is constantly apologizing to Ashley. I agreed when Chris told Jacqueline that he expects Ashley to start respecting them NOW, not SOME DAY. I get where Jacqueline is coming from, I really do, and I love her for it. She just wants a peaceful relationship with Ashley. Guess what? You can’t let the inmates run the jail. Instead of asking Ashley if the rules were acceptable to her, Jacqueline should have said, "These are my rules in my house, take them or leave them. There are no other options." No worries, Jacqueline’s getting a handle on things, and I have faith in a happy ending with those two.
How cute were Teresa and Joe at the housewarming party? It was a happy night for them and I was glad to be a part of it. I could not believe how rude that party planner was! For once I agree with The Countess: "Money can’t buy you class."
OK, time to talk about the two Kims. What was the one thing Teresa stressed on the phone to Jacqueline? She didn’t want to mention a certain topic, right? I thought I was hearing things! Both Kim G. and Kim D. knew how Teresa felt, and frankly I thought it was out of line for two reasons. First, the obvious, you were invited at the eleventh hour out of pity, and you completely disregard your host's one request. Secondly, why would you fuel the fire? This is a kid you’re talking to! You claim to be Jac's friend, then you corner her daughter and proceed to interrogate her? Why? I could sense Ashley getting a little tense, and I wanted to put out the fire before it got out of control. Next I get pulled over to be told of Jacqueline’s "obsession." I don’t know about you, but I think the pot was calling the kettle black on that one! Wait! I almost forgot about Kim D. and her cameo appearance during Teresa’s speech. I still don’t know how that happened! One minute Teresa was thanking everyone and the next minute, BAM! KIM D. I felt like I was on the Gong show, I was waiting for the hook to come out. Not only did Kim interrupt Teresa’s speech, she took the microphone and made her own! Who does that!? Teresa was great about it, I think it's because she's so nice ... right? Ain't she? Ain’t she a nice person? LOL, I love her, I really, really do.
OK, now I need to talk about Albie. For those that are parents out there, I'm sure you knew exactly what I meant when I said how badly you feel when your child hurts. I really can’t disclose too much of the story, it plays out over the next few episodes, so I’ll just talk about tonight. Albie has been classified since he was in Junior High School. He’s always struggled academically, but he persevered and overcame many obstacles with the help of his Special Education teachers and support at home. The one thing Albie never did was give up. As a high school senior he was told not to apply to Fordham University as an undergrad. His counselor didn't think Albie had what it took to get in, and even if he did get in, he'd never make it. I was at that meeting with Albie; I thanked the counselor and we excused ourselves from her office. When we got in the car I looked at Albie and told him to never let anyone tell him he can’t do anything. If you have the heart and desire to work it will happen. Albie applied to Fordham University. Al and I told him to make an appointment for an interview with the application committee. Although his grades were average, after meeting Albie and reviewing his records, he was accepted. Albie graduated with a BA in business from Fordham University in May of 2008. If you look back at the scene when Albie is at his desk, you’ll see two bulletin boards. On those bulletin boards are affirmations that he’s collected over the years on succeeding and overcoming obstacles. While he was away at school he would read them every day. On the lower board there is a picture of the Fordham Graduates throwing their caps in the air. Albie is in the second row. Can you imagine hearing your child tell you that they feel worthless?
I am not that mother that thinks my children deserve to have the world handed to them. I’m quite the opposite; I believe everything in life is earned, especially with my kids. To spoil your child and pave their way in life is the biggest disservice you could do. They will never survive once you're gone. Albie deserved to be in that school. He deserved the chance to be heard. He certainly didn't deserve to be told he wasn't smart enough and didn't belong. No one deserves to hear that, especially from someone who teaches. More to come, WATCH WHAT HAPPENS!
P.S. To my kids - if any of you are reading this, Mom and Dad are very proud of each of you and love you more than anything. :o)
As always, thank you for watching. See you next week!