Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline Laurita explains what led her to hug it out with Danielle at the end of the reunion.

on Sep 8, 20100

Well folks, we all survived another challenging season together. Holy crap life can get sticky at times, but I have learned to live by the saying "This too shall pass," and it ALWAYS does. This is my last and final blog of the season. I wanted to write about the reunion as a whole and not divide it into two parts. I want everyone to understand that we filmed for 12 hours, but you are only seeing two hours of it. There was a LOT said at the reunion that may have answered some of your questions, but there was also a LOT that got cut out! Not everything got to air in the two hours that you saw. I think it's because a lot of what was going on between everyone wasn't aired during our season, a lot happened behind the scenes, and what really needed to be addressed and discussed was what the viewers had actually seen. Try and understand that please.

Not going to lie, my intention was to go into the reunion swinging. I was ready to go to battle and win. I wanted to call Danielle out on every lie that I have caught her in. I wanted to hurt and embarrass her with all the truths that I had learned about her and expose her with all of my collected facts. I wanted her to feel the pain that she had inflicted on me and onto others with the lies she had told and for her to answer to the danger I felt she had put all of us into on many different occasions, in many different forms and levels. My dislike for her had grown so much since the end of filming. I had become bitter and angry toward her. I figured that this was my last chance to put it all out there and make it all known. I came fully prepared and loaded.

A lot of things were brought up that you did not get to see. It had been a long day, and I was getting worn out from spewing my venom. We took a long break after one of the few times Danielle had stormed off the set. What had we accomplished by this point? Nothing! Nada! It turned into a big "he said, she said" game, and it wasn't getting us anywhere! Danielle was not admitting to ANYthing! Even with the proof in front of her! If you're going to lie, lie to the end, I guess? I was feeling increasingly  frustrated! The game was getting old real quick.

During the break, we all went back to our corners. I wanted to come back in the game mimicking her just to piss her off. I had enough by that point! I found myself pacing back and forth and swearing. Then I got to thinking some more while I was drinking a Bellini to calm my nerves. I called my husband to vent. I had some time to put out the fire under my ass and reflect on this past year. That's when I had an epiphany!

689 comments
tlr
tlr

jacqueline you are a real lady and I respect you a lot. I feel for you with regard to your daughter, I have a son whom I wasnt able to advise nor teach my work ethic to as I have all my life until my spinal surgery , had a job and worked to support him through his life, I hoped the navy would have done the trick for him but he messed that up, but my situation neither here nor there, yet he's 31 and in jail. so, I do understand your desperation and desire to have Ashley make good for herself in her life and she needs to get off her high horse expecting every one to do for her, her family does not owe her a livelihood, she owes herself! dont beat yourself up about her situation, tho it is hard to sit back and not do anything, lord knows I have front row seats at that show, but you did a good job raising her, she's got to do the rest now. cheers not jeers to you, and all good things to you and yours.

Sarah D
Sarah D

Jacqueline, I have loved watching you this season, you seem to be the keel that steadies the ship! With all you have had to deal with, you have kept your dignity, but most importantly you tell the truth!

I do however sometimes feel your frustration with your daughter Ashley, who is at that difficult age we have all been! The age when we know everything, take no responsibility for what we do, and want everything given to us! I think you handle her well, just remember its ok to give some tough love, she will thank you for it ....when she's older!

Keep living in the moment!

aussiewagirl
aussiewagirl

Jacqueline, you are a joy to watch. my friends and I have loved every minute of the show with you on it. your a great mum and a very loyal friend. your hubby pretty cute too!! we just feel that you tend to get sucked in a bit by false people and need to take a leaf out of caroline book more. she is such an inspiration to all mothers and women in general. You have a big heart and it is not always easy knowing when you are being used. Danielle is a fool to ever have lost your friendship. good luck in coming years and from the land down under. GDAY MATE!! AND WE WILL BE WATCHING YOU XX

Joyce Marcalo
Joyce Marcalo

Hi Jacqueline - enjoyed meeting you and Chris on Sunday - started to drink the water - will let you know about the blood pressure - if it goes down or not. I got the high blood pressure from my asthma medication. Everything will work out with Ashley - she is young. As, I mentioned on Sunday my husband bought all 3 of my kids cars - they didn't appreciate him at the time - but now, they do - but they are a lot older than Ashley - My son who is in the A/F when we went to graduation in San Antonio - my son introduced my husband as his Father. He is also "Pop" to the grandchildren. Hang in there - it isn't easy - I haven't received a present from my son for Christmas, my birthday or Mother's Day in years - I know the hurt that brings.

one up
one up

you are awesome!!! love!

Bowen'smommy
Bowen'smommy

I absolutely adore you and your family. You are such an amazing mother and friend... I love the fact that you are trying to be the bigger person (as tough as it is, I'm sure)... you are such a beautiful person. I love watching the show, and you are by far my favorite of all the housewives from any of the shows! Can't wait to see the opening of Season 3 tonight!!!

 Heidi
Heidi

I cant wait to see you back next monday on the show! And even more happier that danielle is not going to be it she has to much bs and drama in her life. She needs to focus on her life and her girls and get her act together like right now. I am on team jacqueline! I love your family! Watch out with the other 2 new ladies pls! luv ya!

terr
terr

i think that if anyone was to forgive danielle it should be u cause you know her well you guys were friends ok so u never will forget what u went through with her u know she has good and bad sides we all saw that but have we seen your bad side yet nope only a piece and it was not good but you heal all that scar up cause some how i knew you was different but pressure is what i think got u out but u overcome it and im glad you deserve to be happy out of all those girls to be honest cause your really nice.danielle and u should be friends hi and bye is ok but just be true to yourself girl u are blessed muazzz from terrice the jamaican girl.

Debra Long
Debra Long

Thank you to all of these ladies for letting us come into their lives and feeling all of the tribulations between them and their family members; watching with them as their children grow into success-driven adults, and of course sharing the intimate times with their significant others. I have watched this program since it began and am eagerly looking forward to your next season. I would love to meet you, though it's just dreaming, I think I would faint first then ask for a glass of your choice in wine.

Halee
Halee

I love all the ladies but Danielle. Danielle is a lady that wants attention and she tried to get it by crying and other ways. The episode of the fashion show was unreal. I do beleive Danielle was crying and being and acting like a crazy person just to get attention. She was also out of control. Jackie you are a great person. I also must say the lady Kim G. she was trying to be on both sides of the fence. One day she was your friend Jackie. Then she wanted to be Danielle's friend.

gloria silva
gloria silva

thank you jackie you are a good person you have always been one, it did take me for suprise by your behavior, but like you said it was gossip and people putting things in your ear that made you become angry and a different person, then you truly are, but you see now it was all for what? nothing, every person lives there own lives, no one is perfect ,just different but that is was makes a person there own person ,and we dont treat another human being that way, and you are a great mother for telling your daughter that she was wrong it takes alot to admit you where wrong but you did and ashley, so that was the way ive always thought of you and your family , we learn from our mistakes and it makes us stronger ....

Christi O
Christi O

Jacqueline, I am so very impressed with your gracious words to Danielle. You are a wonderful example of forgiveness to all women and most importantly to your daughter. I understand that we as women live in a society where it has become a trend to judge and put each other down. Our faith has called us to forgiveness and what a lovely example to all of us you have been. Please do not allow all of the naysayers to corrupt your insightful, strength, and kindness. God must be smiling upon you. Thank you!

diamondgirl1225
diamondgirl1225

Hi Jacqueline Laurita I want to say thank you for your comment to Danielle on the reunion show with Andy Cohen and the other New Jersey’s housewives. Your change of heart made me happy in knowing yes, you were a bigger person when you said these words to Danielle, "The more you would say, the more angry I would get, and the more I wanted to lash out at you," she tells Danielle. "I hated the person I was becoming, and it's gotten so ugly and out of control now. I just don't want to be in that place anymore, and I really don’t want to be this person that’s angry and attacking you all the time." I know exactly how Danielle feels because I have been in her shoes when someone treats you bad and ignores you at the same time, never get invited to events or socials. I was once married to someone who had a criminal background to which I didn’t even know about. It finally took 9 years and 2 kids to find out the truth about him, The bad treatments were mainly people from church who I thought were Christians I always felt very alone when I would go to church and would go home to cry and feel bad till one day I realize you know what I am a child of “GOD” And I don’t go to church for the people I go for my own salvation. So I said no more will I let them tear or bring me down I knew the truth and that was all that matter to me, he (speaking of GOD) is the only one I answer to and no one else. I know you and the other mothers were good role model for your children and I give you all praise for that and that yes one can forgive as well to let the other person know that you are asking for forgiveness or just apologizing to them and to accept theirs. The world would be a better place if they would just follow your examples. Again I thank you for showing me that I can forgive those in my life who has done me wrong and move forward so that I can be a better person and achieve my dreams without road blocks. I would like to thank the other mothers to who was in the show for we all need each other. I read your post and you are so right I loved every word that were spoken Thank You.

nicole040608
nicole040608

aww your so amazing and warm hearted ... just like i have said about some of the other women i love your family and friends yall are all amazing .... your so beautiful and hold your head high and try and do right its wonderful... im so proud of you ... your children are beautiful as well

 Tyrone Ambrose
Tyrone Ambrose

Good morning Ms. Jacqueline, How are you doing today i would like to tell that your daughter need to be scare and to have a hard lesson, Because she feel that every thing is very funny to her, And the issue that she facing with an ex friend of your's is not. With this Kim i see that she playing both side of getting information from you to give the feed back to this womsn she called a freind of her, Ms. jacqueline the next time when your family or friends who giving a party and kim want to go you don't invited her at all let that kim stay at home were she don't have to be in the middle. Tyrone Ambrose

pixieelle
pixieelle

im sure you are a good person but i did not agree with anything you or your family and friends did danielle would not even do anything and your friends would attack her for no reason you did too which is completley stupid and disgusting if you really wanted her to go away and leave you alone you would do the same you really are obsessed with her its all you ever talk about.

Camille dorga
Camille dorga

Jacqueline i think u r a wonderful person in and out, and i really love the way u carry yourself. but i do not like the relationship u have with your daughter. and it is too late to change things :-( love u anyway girl

Chairri Chaker (Sherah Shaker) 21 Years Old
Chairri Chaker (Sherah Shaker) 21 Years Old

Hi Jacqueline,

I just wanted to say that I absolutely can not wait til Season 3!!! I would have never thought I'd be watching any of the "Real Housewives Shows", but you ladies are off the chain!!! You have such a tender heart for others, and try to give them a chance before you go ahead and accuse them of anything. Most of the time, when I've watched the other Real Housewives Shows, they are all so immature and selfish. But you guys really care about others, and have a life!!! Thank you all for making television great! By the way, you ladies were sensing things about Danielle, and I don't blame you guys for wanting to stop having contact with her. Sometimes you have to slowly ease away from people you see that are going to cause harm in your life. I work for a teen ministry called "The Basement" (TheBasementOnline.com), and the head guy who started it, used to be a big time drug addict. Now he is totally clean, and is helping other teens to get on the right track. Something he always says is, "Show me your five closet friends, and I will show you your future." That is such a true statement. The only thing is that some people do not take things the right way, and handle them in an immature manner once you try to do the right thing. We are all human, and fall short of the glory. But we have to get back up, and be who God has called us to be. I love you ladies (You, Caroline, Dina, & Teresa) & even Danielle lol. Thank you again for being such a beautiful person on the inside and out!!! I enjoyed reading your last blog, and hope to read more in Season 3!!!

God bless you and your wonderful family,

~Chairri Chaker~ (Sherah Shaker)

anger
anger

i just finished episode 10 of season 2 and i realized something: everything that Danielle did to you and all you're anger towards her made that Ashley was becoming a bad person. you got to be careful with that ! she felt you're anger towards Danielle in herself because she you're daughter.. that's why she was acting crazy and disrespecting like that but i hope everything going well with her and you're family. good luck !

Emma1
Emma1

Where did Dina get your fertility bracelet from? I am in need of one and really want one! Please help.

SoccerMom36
SoccerMom36

Dear Jacqueline, Thank you for your honesty....in discovering your "AHA Moment!" you opened our eyes to how easy it is to lose oneself "in the heat of a moment". I am proud of you being the best friend you could, you were true to yourself. I wish you and your family all of the best for the future. God Bless. E

maineiac2020
maineiac2020

I just love the comments! Girls you all are very good actresses. And I can see why all of you are doing the show.Because your husbands can't aford you!! It is quite entertaining though. Thanks. P.S. I am a layed-off constuction (dump truck) worker, are you hiring???? :)

TulsaHousewife
TulsaHousewife

Jacqueline Can we now look forward to Season 3 without the Drama Queen on the show? Is it true Danielle is gone? THANK GOODNESS!!! So sick of her juvenile, paranoid antics. If she is still on the show, I will not watch.

Kathleen Pianka
Kathleen Pianka

My step mother got me hook onto to your programing. She lived in Milan 20 plus years. Treresa you are a great person when it comes to your husband and children. But you are not a good person when you don't releaize what is going on with the money in your family and think that no one can touch you, the money, or your house. Sometime it takes someone to fall down in order to get back up and releaize that your are not the boss otr God. You do show your meansness alot and you are a person that can says certains words and start the fights.

Amber Bourgeois
Amber Bourgeois

I kive you jacqueline but your going about it all wrong this whole season you let Danielle get to you and im about to give you some real advice. You cant change a persons mind when all they see is themselves and what is happeneing to them and not what they do to other people. Honestly on the first episode when i first saww danielle i knew she was a liar And honestl you can catch her in ehr liek because EVERYTHING she says is a lie EVERYTHING thats what you guys never understood Danielle needs to be left alone because there is no getting through to a person with a mental problem . And expessially you cant let someone like that make your life so upsettinggg , She has no friends and needs help i think thats the worse she can go through. AND CAN WE PLEASE ADD A NEW HOUSEWIFE AND GET DANIELLE THE F OUTTA HERE PLEASE!

Natalie Mccabe
Natalie Mccabe

Kathy is sooooooooo true in every word she has said! I, like that person from from ireland have just saw the show as i am from Scotland, that 'person' spoke sooooooooo much BS!!! U r a fab person Jacqueline! wife, friend & mother. i think u r also the funniest in the show. u, Caroline, Teresa & Dina have a lovely, deep bond & its so hartwarming watching how much u all love n care for each other. i too hope Dina comes back next season but if she cant then i will still love tuning in 2 laugh n giggle at u, Teresa & Caroline. u guys r awesome! xxxxxxxxxxxxxooooooooooooxxxxxxxxxx

memyselfandi
memyselfandi

Just wondering why neither you or Theresa breastfeed?

TaraLondonUK
TaraLondonUK

I think you may have misunderstood the situation...easy to do considering all the commotion! Jacqeline and Danielle made peace with each other after Jaqueline said she wanted nothing to do with her but before the baby came along...it wasn't a case of 'have something to do with my child/don't have something to do with my child'...they were friendly when baby Nicholas came along, but Danielle (in my opinion) was too caught up in causing trouble for Dina at that specific time. x

TaraLondonUK
TaraLondonUK

Wow, that is without doubt the most honest self reflection I've ever heard...I actually shed a tear! It is sometimes too easy to let someone elses poison seep into our own personalities, thankfully you realised before the real you was lost forever! I just wanted to say, regarding your daughter, she does have a filthy attitude and a smart mouth...but I was so so so much worse at her age! But she will come through the other side wiser and completely ashamed of the way she treated the one person in the world who had her back more than any other! For me personally I had some unresolved father/abandonment issues, so there was absolutely nothing my mother could have done to fix it, I just needed to be angry...I also have a fantastic REAL (step-) Dad...hang on in there, it will get better! I wish you and your lovely family (I could really do with one of those baby making bracelets by the way lol) all the love, luck and happiness for the future and I am so looking forward to (a calmer?) season 3 xxx huge hugs xxx

Sg from Belfast
Sg from Belfast

dear J im from Belfast in Ireland and we just got the final reunion show and i just have tosay bravo what a brillant actor you are all your fake breakdown lets just end on a postive wow did caroline tell you to say that or did u think of it yourself? and you say D is fake.

imogen
imogen

heyyah i love you i think you are amazing and so pretty i love the show. Me and mam love the show we always watch it.I stayed up till 3.30 to watch the show and i loved it. Stay away from danielle your better than her she just want the attention but your better than that keep your head up hi we all love you and will stand buy you cant wait till next season x

IrishAudrey
IrishAudrey

Are you sure you were watching the same show?????

Danielle has nothing but nasty things to say about everyone but then again I can see why you would defend her.... Your post was not an opinion it was a splurge of vemon.

liz bell scotland
liz bell scotland

i would like you to convey my thanks on really good television it takes me away from all the problems in myself and families lives. it goes to show no matter what walk of life u come from everybody has problems but i wish i had ur quality in life at times and i no it is just envy on my part. please take care as so many people have been really twofaced and i think that is terrible when they claim to be your friend these are people you can do without. i admire your husband for the way he advises your daughter and she will one day realise just how much he cares for wellfare goodluck toyouall merry christmas and a happy new year xx

Tiffany S
Tiffany S

Stephanie,

The bracelet came from zenjewelz.com.

Good Luck with your purchase. I love the bracelets that I have purchased from there.

Stephanie Smith
Stephanie Smith

Jacqueline, I hope all is well with you & your family! I was just wondering if you may know where Dina found your fertility bracelet. My sister-in-law is having a hard time right now and I would love to hopefully either get the same bracelet or something similar in the hopes that it will bring her the same good luck ;)

Thank you in advance for any information you can provide!

Regards, Stephanie

suellen
suellen

You show on the show, gentleness, sensitivity and yet an inner strength......and i admire your wish to stand up for what you think is the right thing to do.

I am glad you have moved on from Danielle, i think, the more we believe in people initially, the more it hurts when we find out it is all untrue.

Ashlee Turner
Ashlee Turner

I believe that your behavior was completely human. I would have acted close to the same way, and I appreciate your honesty. I believe anyone that bashes you is not realistic and obviously can't put themselves in your shoes. Danielle was truly over dramatic and I could see right through her. She was seriously evil and I really don't think she has a good bone in her body right now and she definitely needs JESUS! I believe that everyone makes mistakes but she needs to set a WAY better example for her girls. If your going to be open with your girls you should be honest as well. She was not honest. I get that sometimes we just see our side of things but I believe that when you are an adult you should be able to step back and be able to recognize the other side as well. I know I do. I think you are a great person as well as the other ladies (of course beside Danielle). I am happy that you are past all of that and you have rised above her terrible behavior. Thank you for setting such a great example to others out there that might be in a similar situation. Have a great Thanksgiving with your family!

leeleganceboutique@liveid.com
leeleganceboutique@liveid.com

Jacqueline, YOU NEED MORE THAN AN EPIPHANY: You out of every housewife are the most laughable. Your phony innocence last past seasons should let everyone know how phony you are. By the way your bad build will never make you look half as good as Danielle. Let's say a thing or two about ''Ms. "think she's all that"s Teresa; AND I DID SAY "THINKS'S she's all that. Let's say of Teresa's WEAVES or WIG, WHATEVER; IT'S FAKE,FAKE,FAKE,FAKE!!!! THERE IS SO MUCH OF IT, IT LOOKS LIKE HER BROKE HUSBAND HAD TO BUY TWO HORSES; JUST SO SHE WILL LOOK (FOR SURE) BETTER THAN ALL OTHER WEAVES AROUND. Jacqueline, WE ALL THOUGHT YOU WERE BETTER THAN THAT.

"DEE" P.S. Teresa was jealous of your friendship with Danielle; you were having lot's of girl time with her, having girl lunches, shopping; Dina was spending more time with her family, because she was a newlywed; and everyone admired him & her husband for that MAJOR decision. Everyone I knew, YOU WERE THEIR FAVORITE; YOUR BROWNIE POINTS DROPPED RAPIDLY.

"BIG MOMMA" (Caroline) THIS ONE NEEDS TO GO SHAVE MORE THAN HER FACE CAUSE "BIG POPPA" GOT HIM SOMETHING @ THE BROWNSTONE; AND IT AIN'T MONEY"; AND I CAN GUARANTEE SHE DON'T SHAVE HER FACE. {SHE WAS THE BIGGEST WEDGE BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!!

Heather Gardner
Heather Gardner

Jacqueline,

You have a breath of fresh air for those us who cannot help but watch Reality T.V. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. You were so good to Danielle and look at what she has done to you and your family. Your epiphany was so dear and heart felt. I'm sorry you had to be put through all of that drama, but I am glad to see you are moving on. If I were in New Jersey I would want to be your friend! Stay sweet, Heather

joananne
joananne

I wish you would have had your epiphany quite earlier in the reunion. I've like you because you seem to have a big heart, but I was a bit disappointed with your behavior during most of the finale. That being said, keep your mind clear of the clutter and you will find peace.

Kathy - Boynton Beach, FL
Kathy - Boynton Beach, FL

Jacqueline - you are such a trooper. You really know how to handle yourself. You try to be kind to everyone and that is so admirable. You, Caroline, Dina and Teresa are such lovely and interesting people and your kids are great, too. I think all four of you are great Moms, and I don't know who I would pick as the best because you are all terrific. I think it is a four-way tie. Through all the craziness, the four of you managed to show the viewers you could hold up no matter how tough it got. You go girl!!!!! Hope Dina comes back next season.

tylah
tylah

jaqueline you r a very sweet person...and i commend you for being the bigger person...but your daughter ashely? what going on with her where she feels that it is ok to disrespect adults and most of all you? she needs to learn respect and as for the thing with danielle .... she had no right to touch her.

tngrl
tngrl

Jacqueline, I totally identify with your epiphany however, Danielle thought her lies again won you over as you forgave her. This has again allowed to get off with all her lies and she will continue hurting others. I know you took the high road however, as I see it and I can only post my thoughts, I deemed it as getting you nowhere. This is not what I would have done but had rather just agreed to disagree, to say the least. Take care and beware of D!

Hi D!
Hi D!

EPIPHANY SHMIFFANY. It was all so insincere. Too little, too late. Danielle is better off without you.

Love you, Danielle!

none
none

jacqueline, i think that u did the right thing being the bigger person i hope that everything does work out for u and ur daughter your one of my favorites

seasuzie45
seasuzie45

Jacqueline,

Thank you for explaining what was going on. As a viewer it was very confusing. But I totally understand what your blog says. I think you did the right thing. I hope peace now comes to you and your daughter and family.

I HOPE THEY BRING DINA BACK!!!!!

How it comes accross
How it comes accross

Jacqueline, at the reunion Teresa attacked Danielle and told her that she was wrong for not acknowledging your baby, but Danielle said that you made it perfectly clear that you wanted her to stay away from your family. You then told Danielle you did say that but after you changed your mind and told her that she could see him. Do you know how that can play with a person's emotions? If someone told me to stay away from their family the first time, they wouldn't have a second time to change their mind because I wouldn't go. Since she didn't see him after you changed your mind, your entire family wants to say that Danielle didn't care. Do you see how that comes across?; I guess Danielle was fed up with everyone playing with her like she's a rag doll.