Cast Blog: #RHONJ

My <i>Real</i> Family

Ashley talks about the hair pull, her relationship with the Manzos, and rising above the negativity.


Hey everyone! I'm sorry that my blog is so late! This past week three of my friends celebrated birthdays! I've been busy. Let's get started. Well, where should I begin?

The show opens with Joe and Teresa getting the girls ready for karate. How freakin' cute are they? That whole family is just so precious. LOVE LOVE LOVE them! Was anyone aware that Joe is a black belt? How awesome is that?

As for Danielle's boxing scene - seriously? What a joke. "I find it pathetic that 7 police cars arrived and no arrests were made." Well Danielle, I find you pathetic in general. A few people were asking why her girls were there with her. Really? It's Danielle, when aren't her girls in awkward situations with her? I think it's perfectly fine, in my opinion, for a mother to bring her children to a defense class. It's good to have a basic knowledge of self-defense. It is not OK, in my opinion, for a mother to bring her children to a defense class, and then proceed to talk shit on people. Whatever. I also find it a joke that Danielle claims that she's NEVER thrown a punch in her life...hmm. Really Danielle? Really? The part that made me laugh most is when Danielle was mocking us and said, "I don't know why you keep saying I'm the victim," and then responded with, "Well bitch 'cuz I am! Stop chasing me." Yeah Danielle, you're as innocent as a bunny. As far as us chasing you goes, I don't know where you've been, but that episode is over, no one is "chasing" you anymore. You said that I ran at you, and pulled your hair as you were being carried away. If you watch the footage, you can see I wasn't really running. Oh, and you weren't being carried, you were walking, being escorted by your bodyguards. Which reminds me Danielle, considering that I put my hand on your bodyguard's arm before I pulled your hair, and he did nothing. I can't help but wonder, did he slip up on the job? Or did you tell your bodyguard that if one of us were to get physical to try not to respond? I think you brought them for show, pushed buttons, and then told them to let whatever was going to happen, happen. Just sayin', but I don't know, I'm just trying to get inside your head for a second, but then again I never really was that good at calculating. He did push Teresa, so maybe it's just me, who knows. Let's bring it back to the comment you said about how, "It only takes one good smack in the head to make a person never walk again." Yeah Danielle, you really sound like a victim. Was that a threat directed towards me? Hmm.. interesting.

Let me say this now - in the scene with my mom and Kim G., THERE WASN'T ANY HAIR IN MY HANDS AFTER I PULLED DANIELLE'S HAIR. NONE. Rewind the tape, pause it, do whatever you need to, it's a quick scene, and you can see that I have NO HAIR in my hands. I didn't "drop" anything. Kim G. knows that, for the record. At what point would she have picked up hair that I "dropped" and delivered it to Danielle anyway? Also, why would she even pick them up and deliver them? What makes me angry about this scene, is that Kim G. told me (and later told my mom) was that Danielle's extensions were loose, but that Danielle pulled them out herself when she was in the car. Just sayin'. Kim G. is not really on my good side right now.



How funny are my cousins? Eggs! I love how they all interact with one another. On a side note, the whole thing with Albie, I hate seeing him and my Aunt Caroline upset. However, knowing Albie, I know that he will come out of all of this on top. I have faith in him.

Every time I watch an episode where Derek makes an appearance, I laugh because I can tell he isn't used to the cameras yet. How sweet is he though? He's so freakin' adorable. He is always the voice of reason. I feel bad watching that scene, you can tell he was trying to talk some sense into me, but my mind was somewhere else. I don't like Danielle, and that will probably never change. I have every reason to not like her. My issue is that I wanted and still want people to see Danielle for who she really is. What I have learned is that in the same way that you can't make everyone like you, I can't make everyone not like her. I just have to have faith and pray that karma takes hold of her. Hey Danielle, "Karma is a bigger bitch than I'll ever be." On a side note, when I said extensions were thousands, I meant the upkeep can cost thousands. Depending on the quality of the hair extensions, they are generally in the hundreds.

I was laughing during the whole scene of Danielle having lunch with her buddies. Her behavior really blows my mind. She really is just one big joke to me. My mom's blogs always cover almost everything that I want to say, so in case you haven't read hers yet, here's a clip from it:

"What was that Danielle said, 'Likes attracts like' while she was sitting in front of two troublemaking ex-cons? Interesting. Hello, my daughter was born to me. You picked the company you keep Danielle. That comment she made did not make sense. I also noticed that when Danny said that if he saw the fight, he would have been back in jail and she condoned that remark. What would he have done to us Danielle that would have put him back in jail? So you hang out with people who believe in fighting violence with violence? THAT is what you are teaching your children? Wow! Interesting. Love and light, Danielle. When Danielle said that she hopes Ashley isn't listening to the advice around her, I hope she feels foolish now after seeing the advice we gave her and prays that Ashley DOES take our advice. By the way, I took the same self-defense class that Danielle did except that I'm certified; I didn't just take just one class for TV. How funny would THAT battle be? It would be like a rock, paper, scissors match! Eyes! Throat! Knee! LOL! 'All it takes is one good smack to the head to make a person never walk again.' Was that another threat Danielle, caught on video again? EEks! Don't make me press charges against you Danielle, and the 'coke whore' comment, that's defamation of character and emotional distress. You wanna play? Let's play!

Danielle mentioned how she used to do so much for Ashley. What a joke! She drove her to school ONE time! Ashley never talked to her about anything. She always used to get mad at Danielle for trying to intrude into her business. I wish she would stop with her fabricated stories. I, on the other hand, fell into her scam and did a LOT for her and her children. I bought them food, clothes, toys, etc. I even gave them school clothes and supplies. I never once got a thank you either."



If you want to read the rest of it, go read her blog if you haven't already. She sums all of my thoughts up PERFECTLY. Everything my mom is 100% right. Danielle is such a nut job. I really am over it. She said I would call her for “every single solitary part of my day." Really? WHAT A JOKE. I would never call Danielle, let alone call her over my family. As far as me using her tanning bed, well let me ask you this, would you lay somewhere where Danielle’s sweaty, naked body has been? Yeah, didn’t think so. Also, did I miss the part where I "pulled Danielle's hair out and held it up in the air and bragged about it." Seriously? Why would she even tell them that?

Also, I would like to address a comment that I have gotten from some "haters," who claim, "The Manzos aren't your real family." Even Danielle said something similar. Let me tell you where I stand, and if people still have the same opinion afterward, then fine. I have known my step dad since I was 5 years old. I don't have many memories of my life before him. I've been around his family just as long. When I moved to New Jersey when I was in fifth grade, I was around his family all the time. Yeah, there were nerves, similar to a newlywed meeting their spouse's family. The Manzos made me feel welcome right away. I am very close with them. I don't feel that just because I was "married in" to the family, that they aren't my family. My step dad is my second DAD. I call him Dad, not Chris. He has gone above and beyond for me all of my life and so have the rest of his family. What is a real family anyway? Are you people trying to tell me that if someone is adopted, that isn't their real family? I wasn't adopted, but I might as well have been. The Manzos are my real family. I also have a step brother who is 12 years old. I have known him since he was not even 2. He is my BROTHER. I don't look at him as if he isn't my "real" family. Thinking that way is so ridiculous. People need to stop being so ignorant.

I was happy to see Albie get the letter he wanted. Like I said before, I know he'll do well in life. He will come out of all of this stronger and on top.

How cute were Teresa's kids making the pizza? "You're the best pizza guy." HAHA! LOVE THEM!

The scene with my mom and my Aunt Caroline was unsettling for me to watch. I acted very immaturely, and I still do at times. However, I have grown a lot since filming. I just hope once this season is over, we can all move on from the negativity of last year. Danielle makes it hard for me to do so. I act in ways I shouldn't at times, and I'm not going to make excuses for myself.

As for Danielle at the court house, haha well, honestly I had a lot to say originally, but I am legitimately sick of talking about her. So I think I'll just quote my mom's blog again:

"When Danielle stood outside the courtroom and said that Ashley yelled, 'I'll get her' before pulling her hair and that somebody yelled, 'I'll kill her,' both statements were lies. In the actual courtroom, when my husband was there, Danielle ACTUALLY told the judge that Ashley said BOTH of those things to her right before ripping her hair out. She committed perjury, as if the truth of Ashley admitting to the hair pull wasn't enough.

I also wanted to say thank you sooo much Danielle for being so worried and concerned with saving my daughter's future that you did her a favor and saved her and protected the safety of others by pressing charges against her. I could see your fear of her vicious hair pull possibly leading her down a dark and scary, dangerous path to becoming a kidnapping, drug dealing, drug using, prostitute who gets caught up with the Colombian cartel, holds someone for ransom and beats someone with a 9mm gun. Yes, I can totally see your point. It could happen. I would never want that. Thank you for possibly stopping her from growing up to be a back stabbing, pathological lying, husband stealing, desperate, dangerous, narcissistic, people using, contradicting, hypocrite, martyr, con artist, slut. I appreciate your efforts. I'll quote you when I say, one day you'll see, 'Karma is a bigger bitch than I'll ever be.'"

Well said mama, well said.



On that note, who caught Watch What Happens Live? Danielle's little dance? WOW. Just WOW. Classy. Poor Andy. Also, how weird was Danielle on the show? So phony. As for Jeff, I totally understand his opinion of me, and even though I don't think he likes me very much, I still think he's handsome and I love him! Haha! However, I think my mom might be confused about his comment about me, considering they had just recently gone out to dinner. Hmm. OH WELL! Big thanks to everyone who voted in the poll! 80%?! WOW! I LOVE YOU ALL! xoxox

Before I end this thing, here is an update on my benefit for To Write Love On Her Arms. I found a venue for the event, I am just waiting on a few email responses. ALSO, I have some great bands lined up to play! I'm so excited to get this going. I hope everything works out as planned. For more updates on the event, or my life in general, follow me on Twitter at @_ashleyholmes or find me on Facebook. Thank you all for the kind words and support!

Until we meet again,
xoxo Ashley

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Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo


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