Your family is a lot like mine. You remind me of me. I am a single mother of a lovely 3 year old boy. His dad reminds me of Ashley. He lives at home, hasn't worked in 3 years, and doesn't pay his child support. He is verbally abusive to his parents that pay for everything he needs; gas, food, cigarettes, you name it. And these people have no money.I go to school, raise my son, and work. My baby daddy reaps all of the benefits. He gets to have him without any interruption from work or school. He doesn't have to pay one cent for anything for our son. I understand what you mean by working so hard and the ex getting to reap the benefits. That's exactly what I am going through. While my ex is cancelling visitations to go to football games that he can somehow afford, or going spending a fortune on going out and drinking, I am going to school and raising our son. It's very frustrating. I really hope you show Ashley some serious tough love. That is the ONLY way she will learn to appreciate you.