Hi Jacqueline,

Watching this past weeks episode, i gave you a "standing ovation" when you got on ashley. It's hard to be that tough to your own child but she is getting older and has to learn. You have been there for her so much and she is a lucky young lady that has "four" parents that love her and wants the best for her. "YOU ARE A GREAT MOM"! If ashley has issues with you, you keep your head up regardless and say I am a good mom and i do the best i can for my children. Keep up the great work!

OH...and the Teresa comments...Woo Hoo!!!

u got teresa. thanks

OMG, Jacqueline- I am reading some of the comments people are making about your blog and I'm like holy crap people can you really be that judgemental? It really makes me laugh that other people can make comments about other people's lives and really think that they know what the hell they are talking about.....lol..come on people don't be haters. Jacqueline- Please don't take certain comments to heart, everyone has their own opioion about things, but that doesn't mean they are right. Keep loving your family and friends they way you have always done, and don't worry about anything else. Until you have walk in another person's shoes then you really don't know what that person is feeling and going thru.....Stay sweet Jacqueline, we love you

Thank you for calling out teresa. She is becoming unbearable. Ever since she flipped that table she is milking on the "angry lioness" persona. Because Danielle was so much hated it gave that much pleasure to the audience to love Teresa's response but thats where the fallacy is.

Whoa Jacqueline!!! I thought your friendship with Teresa was important. There isn't a need to rant and rave about her. She probably would have gotten your point if you talked about it with her instead of embarrassing on your blog like his. Also, I don't think Teresa was provoking Danielle. She was calling her bluff.

Nasty blog Jacqueline! Your frustration with Ashley is spilling onto someone who is already down. Think about it.

Wowser!!!! What an explosive blog. I do believe my dear that you have removed your rose colored glasses and now see Teresa for the jealous person she is. I believe Melissa more and more as I observe first hand Teresa's comments and behavior towards her. However, unlike Melissa, I would NOT try to be her friend or kiss her behind.

Well said Jacqueline! Keep being awesome!

I'm so sorry for the pain you must have felt talking to Ashley. I think you're going to have to let her stub her toe before she will understand what you have done for her.

Jac, you are so right about Teresa. She has no reason to bring up D at all! Why even udder her name after everything? It's because of Melissa and to get back at her for something else she did. She's the one on the hate bus and I hope she gets her daughters straightened out. They are spoiled brats and will never change. She thinks it's funny though. She'll find out the hard way down the road. I felt so bad for what you've been going through with Ashley. You are doing the right thing with the tough love, you've done all you can. Now it's time for her to figure things out on her own, since she knows everything. Down the road she'll realize what a wonderful mother you are and respect you! Hang in there...LOVE u! Hugs!

Thank you Jaqueline for finally stating the truth. Even though you are not a fan od Danielle, finally someone told the truth about the incident at the Brownstone with Teresa and Danielle. To be quit truthful with you, if it wasn't for Teresa causing a scene with Danielle and creating havoc at the Brownstone, Ashley would not have had to go to court. The fact that Teresa has never admitted that it was her fault should tell you something about Teresa. A true friend would have apologized to you for causing such a scene therefore creating an issue which caused your daughter to use bad judgment. I am not saying that Ashley is blameless, she physically touched Danielle, but had Teresa not been so confrontational, there would have been no reason for Ashley to attack Danielle. The mere fact that so many people Love Teresa and see no fault with her actions amazes me. She has her own reality which is so different from what most of us see. Why is it that everyone is ok with her going after your family for inviting Kathy to new years eve and calling Caroline out for not being loyal (read Teresa's blog) but when you call her out on her bs people attack you.

As for Ashley, know that you have done the best you can. STOP FEELING SO GUILTY YOU LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER AND HAVE DONE THE VERY BEST FOR HER. Hopefully one day she will understand that. You need to allow her to be free to make her own choices and her own mistakes in life without giving her the safety net you have always provided. She is old enough to take on responsibility for herself. You can always be there to support her emotionally, it is just time for her to support herself and to find out what the real world holds. I would like to believe that someday she will come to respect and appreciate everything you have done for her, however some people never see that. They feel as though they are entitled to it. I do hope for you and Chris that she is someone who will get it, that all you have instilled in her is there somewhere, and she will have the light bulb go off in her head. Best of luck to you.

Can we say AMEN!!!!!!! Finally somebody wrote the truth about Teresa....

My heart broke for you. Reality tv couldn't have been any more real. XO

wow, jacqueline...you were a little rough on T. friends don't put this kind of stuff out in public...this sounds like maybe a private email or letter should of been sent. yes, sometimes we all contradict ourselves and we don't realize it. but I don't think T is telling you how to live. she even avoided saying anything about ashley - ever.

I Loooooooove you blog Jacqueline, everything you said in your blog are so true abt Teresa I didn't think you ladies noticed that abt her. The type of person Teresa is its like she wants everything for herself. She would love to see other people down but HER on top of the world. I like when she talking to you and Caroline, she says something abt Melissa and Kathy to you guys and when she doesn't get any respond she said "right" and you guys like ummm. Like Caroline said she should appreciate her brother came to her house for Christmas even if it was for only 10mins only, at least he came. She should appreciate more in people. I don't see why Kathy's killing herself to talk to Teresa, you tried twice and all you its her ATTITUDE like always, leave alone she's not "God". I wish you the best with Ashlee, she got a smart beautiful mother. She's in that AGE mode, I would not dare to talk to mom like that because she would have my head. She's lucky she has a step-father like Chris, I can tell Chris loves Ashlee as his own child, and care a lot about her. He doesn't care how many times Ashlee messed up, he's always there to give her anything she wants even if he doesn't get what he's looking for in Ashlee. I hope she fix herself and realize how great her parents are and how much they love and care about her. She doesn't know how much she has it. God bless you and your family Jacqueline. I've always loved you and Caroline since the beginning of the show, you guys are wonderful mothers, now I'm adding Kathy and Melissa with you guys. All the four of you are great moms. Teresa needs to be a mother instead of a drama queen. Those kids don't know how to behave and the word respect, she needs to teach them that "respect". Those kids are so loud like their mother and she has beautiful kids too. Keep up the good job Jacqueline.!!!!!

Your blog was pretty brilliant, I must say. Don't back down on the Ashley stuff. She's old enough and smart enough to know how to use your insecurities against you. I do not have kids but will share with you one thing. My best friend of 25 years has a son. My friend, while a wonderful Mother, allowed her son to do anything and everything to compensate for the fact that his Father was not around. This did bite her in the arse.....Saying no to him was impossible and once he reached 16 - even he figured it out - his Mom's guilt. Keep the confidence and do not allow her to bully you. Let her go to CA but you and Chris can't continue to "give" her everything to make her happy. She's got to do somethings to make herself happy. That's the hardest thing to realize - giving in and saying yes all the time...does NOT prepare your kids for the real world and living on their own. I hope none of that sounded judgmental - but sometimes an outside objective opinion can help. (Alright, so even though there are 166 other opinions posted here, I hope I may have said something that will help...)

As for Teresa. She is the type of person you try to sugar-coat everything with because she doesn't want friends that tell her the truth. She wants friends that will be on her side, right? Teresa perceives people being honest with her, as a betrayal. You don't want her to think you're not on her side so you just say, nothing. That wears on a person and you finally have to let it all out like you did above.(Still better than a knock down-drag out on TV!!). In short, nice job and stick to your guns with Teresa.

Sorry, I sound like a psychologist here. I'm not, just interested the whole dynamic on your show!!!

For anyone who doesn't understand why Jacqueline's blog was perfect. If you cannot tell a friend the truth then are you really friends. Theresa needs to face the inconsistencies in her story, especially the untruths she tells herself. A real friend does not simply listen as you rant and rave, and make statements that could hurt you in the long run. A real friend tells you the harsh truth and tries to help you face the reality of your situation, so that a real resolution can be found. Jacqueline is being a real friend. I hope Theresa understands that. P.S Jacqueline you are a great mother, most kids a lucky to have one or two good parents, your daughter has four. She is truly blessed.

Thanks for this candid and very on-point blog! About time! Teresa is starting to leave a bad taste in my mouth as well. I doubt that she realizes how contradictory she is .."leave my family alone" (while i go ahead and do all i can to degrade them to the world). There is enough to go around Teresa, you are ALL trying to make a buck.

Bravo Jacqueline! Preach it sister!!

Ok ----- I get most of your comments about Teresa BUT you pushed a little too far with naming off all the businesses etc. You were borderline WRONG if she is supposed to be your friend. If you remember Teresa's family is/was in serious financial trouble - if anyone had the need to come up with a way to make money it's Teresa and I am so proud of her for all that. Go Teresa, Mama will bring home the bacon! PLUS this is Teresa's family (real family not castmates in a plot) with all the ins and outs that come with family YOU don't know everything (and neither do I). Melissa is trying and I think Teresa will be fine with her family BUT you are treading on thin ice with all your SNARKINESS. Teresa looks geniunely confused this season with some of the "new, creative ideas" and I believe that. PLUS I don't care what you say some of Teresa's motivation was fueled by the MANZO train and you didn't see anything wrong with it then but now to try to cut her with your words is wrong.

Listen, I see it like this. Jacqueline is calling like it is, just like Teresa. As a friend to Teresa i dont think she is disrespecting Tesera by stating that in her blog. It is not like Jacqueline havent told Teresa anyways. Teresa always called it like it is from day one, but sometimes i think she need to take a step back and ask herself "really, am I really tripping about this. What she is upset about i can understand, but guess what soemtimes you just have to forgive and forget!! So i am with Jacqueline all the way!!

Jacqueling you are a awesome person. To have a daughter that doesnt appreciate you is very sad. No need to say any more. I would love to have conversation with your daughter. I want to be able to let her know that you only have ONE MOTHER and when she isnt here any more to protect you or have someone to talk to what are you going to do. I am not going to bash her, because maybe there is something deep within her that she is keeping inside. I was in her shoes before and soon realize I have only ONE MOTHER!!

People!!! If Bravo came to you and offered to pay you money to be on a show that would give you income and possibly a platform to start a business or dream would you say no? Even if your not so nice cousin is already on the show with some other cool chicks? Heck no!!! How are Melissa and Kathie at fault here? Teresa needs to get OVER herself already. Yuck!

Thank God you have finally decided to respond to all of the comments Teresa has put out there. I don't get why people are criticizing you for responding publicly when the comments from Teresa were made publicly to begin with. Teresa seems to be a very 'small minded' person who will never be able to take the high road, whether it be with her family or friends. She just doesn't get it and will probably never get it because she is so shallow and kinda stupid actually. The whole bankruptcy thing irks me too. I've spent the last 5 or 6 years working hard to pay off credit card debt rather than take the easy way out and claim bankruptcy. Now, as a taxpaper, I have to work hard to pay off hers. Sure wish I had a nice house like that...

Jacqueline you bloging about Teresa was very mean =(, I kinda of agree with Teresa about Caroline starting on the hate train and her getting on it..mind you that the flipping of the stable happened before her saying anything about her nephew or her house being in foreclosure.

Truly the best blog I have read from any Bravo housewife! Well said Jacqueline. This was not a hate on Teresa (as many dumb fans have posted) this was simply clarifying some inconsistencies that were observed of Teresa. I honestly don't see what people see in her. Ever since the table flipping incident, it just seems that her ego has been inflated from all the media hoopla to the point that she has lost touch of herself. Sad human being indeed. Nice to see that someone is still keeping it real!

Your blog was pretty brilliant, I must say. Don't back down on the Ashley stuff. She's old enough and smart enough to know how to use your insecurities against you. I do not have kids but will share with you one thing. My best friend of 25 years has a son. My friend, while a wonderful Mother, allowed her son to do anything and everything to compensate for the fact that his Father was not around. This did bite her in the arse.....Saying no to him was impossible and once he reached 16 - even he figured it out - his Mom's guilt. Keep the confidence and do not allow her to bully you. Let her go to CA but you and Chris can't continue to "give" her everything to make her happy. She's got to do somethings to make herself happy. That's the hardest thing to realize - giving in and saying yes all the time...does NOT prepare your kids for the real world and living on their own. I hope none of that sounded judgmental - but sometimes an outside objective opinion can help. (Alright, so even though there are 166 other opinions posted here, I hope I may have said something that will help...)

As for Teresa. She is the type of person you try to sugar-coat everything with because she doesn't want friends that tell her the truth. She wants friends that will be on her side, right? Teresa perceives people being honest with her, as a betrayal. You don't want her to think you're not on her side so you just say, nothing. That wears on a person and you finally have to let it all out like you did above.(Still better than a knock down-drag out on TV!!). In short, nice job and stick to your guns with Teresa.

Sorry, I sound like a psychologist here. I'm not, just interested the whole dynamic on your show!!!

I think that you have completely gone about dealing with this in the wrong way in regards to Teresa. To call her out like that? What kind of a friend are you? If you've seen the past few episodes Caroline has made gnarly remarks concerning Teresa...Saying "I will not hate Someone because you want me to," but when Kathy came by her house she was quick to put up a wall and not listen to her. Now all of a sudden she's inviting her to her parties? Seriously? Concerning you, Tre has never spoken badly about you and that is really a low blow what you did to her. I really want to know her reaction to your blog. For starters you and Caroline should get your noses out of her business, instead of forcing a reconciliation between HER family. Teresa is definitely right about the get-rich-scheme. If Melissa were not to have been on the show you think ANYBODY would know who the hell she is?? No! I'm not saying her ONE song has been a hit, because it obviously hasn't. Anybody can sing and that doesn't necessarily make you an artist! So it is true she got on the show for publicity and it has obviously not worked well for her since she is VERY disliked. You were honestly one of my favorite housewives but after reading the distasteful things you had to say It is quite disappointing. And you should be a supportive friend that Teresa is doing anything she can to better her situation and not be pointing stuff out! What do you have to say about BLK water or whatever the hell it is?! Seriously who would buy a pack of water for like $50?! Now that is ridiculous! Anyhow...I don't know if your friendship with Teresa will be the same after what you said, but You definitely are starting to SHOW YOUR TRUE COLORS!!!!!!!!! How about that for an EYE OPENER?!

I was crysing as I was watching the scene with you and Ashley. I was glad my husband was asleep and didn't see me crying, he would have made so much fun of me! Love you Jaqcueline

Instead of publicly flogging Teresa, I wish you would put some of that tough love into your relationship with your daughter. It seems like you are projecting a lot of frustration onto the wrong person. Teresa is not perfect, but your blog was mean and hurtful. I expected better from you.

Let's all jump on the hate Teresa ban wagon... That's pretty sad... I would challange any of you to go through what she has been going through with the same amount of class... First, I think you all forgot about the beginning of the season - bash Teresa fest... Second, I think what she said about the get rich quick scheme was referring to the fact that her family would join the show to bash her just to make a record or start some sort of new business... She responded out of shock... IS IT WORTH THE FAMILY? I SAY NO...

I think that was a bit of a cheap shot at Teresa.

Because Teresa was on the show she was able to capitalize on her name rcognition. What Teresa said about Melissa and Kathy is that they joined the show with an agenda--and, since they came out of the gate running it's impossible to deny. Both were willing to trash Teresa for a chance at fame and recognition.

Apples and oranges. BIG dififfernce.

Super bummed and disappointed by your comments and opinions.

Please, Bravo, post my comments! I've tried dozen of times.... Anyway, Jacqueline, you are my favorite housewife out of ALL of the RH shows. This is the best blog you have written. It is refreshing that you can be a role model to us ladies, who tend to be catty and clique-ey by nature, and show that you can hold your own ground. Keep it up girl and all the best with Ashley - in time, the two of you will laugh about this rough patch in your lives. What doesn't kill ya only makes you stronger!!

This is my third attempt to have something posted regarding this blog. It appears if you are a Melissa, Kathy or Caroline fan your comments are posted. I am beyond disgusted with RHONJ and Bravo. It appears this year the producers are going out of their way to show mean women. One wonders at the motives. So disappointed to see a public flogging like this. While Teresa did make a contradictory comment in her blog, this does not excuse all this venom you poured out on your blog. Talk about over reaction. Maybe Ashley was right when she said you loved drama. I'm sure this won't get posted as they only show the Teresa haters comments. Par for the course.

As a former spoiled teenager who spent plenty of time laying around just not WANTING to work, you need to know that nothing will change Ashley unless you stop enabling her. My parents took away my credit cards, slowly stopped paying for food and rent, and guess what - I got a job and learned to walk. I realize now this must be pretty scary for parents, but it is the only way to learn the real meaning of money and making it.. best of luck, you are a GREAT mother and person.

All this great job. high 5's to Jacqueline for this Blog..Wow, I get people hate Teresa, but geeze can't you see how wrong this is to do? Publicly humiliate her..Geeze.. I'm not a Teresa Fan, I'm a fan of people that do the right thing,and publicly humilating a "friend" and follow castmate is so wrong!

theres a reason why Jac has punched out her caroline, and been fueding with Dina and has issues with her daughter and now teresa?....Seems to me that Jac is the problem!! maybe she is the one that needs to grow up and act like an adult!

There is something that my Mother used to tell me that really, works for both Teresa & Ashley. "You Don't Miss Your Water, 'Til Your Well Runs Dry!" I don't care about any bankruptcy, etc. Teresa will NEVER know what that feels like. Ashley, on the other hand, still has time. It sure wouldn't hurt her one bit!!

I feel like Teresa has consistently been respectful to you as a person and while everything you claim could be true, why the abrupt change from the witty, introspective Jacqueline to this raging, caustic woman who is determined to slay her target on behalf of multiple other entities? Let them fight their own battles. This is uncharacteristically immature and underhanded of you.

Well said Jacqueline!! I agree 100% with everything you said about Teresa. She really has become a totally different person and acts so selfish. Keep doing what you're doing...you are an amazing and beautiful person!

Also, just read the rest of your blog on Teresa, and WOW, where has this amazing Jaqueline been!? SO PROUD of you!! Speak the truth strongly and know you are right - use this same conviction with Ashley. You are so great. Life gives us choices and challenges to keep us evolving, and clearly you are a class act doing just that. Way to make not just a life for yourself, but an AMAZING one worthy of us watching. :)

Jacqueline, I'm sorry about whats going on with Ashley, but I am truly saddened by your hateful and vindictive blog toward Teresa. Your intention was was probably to set your version of the record straight but what it comes across is vindictive and spiteful, I really didn't think you were that type of person Soooo sad.

Good luck with Ashley. I think its time she goes on her own. let her see what the real world is all about. I can tell she loves you and Chris, but she needs to venture out on her own, and , then she will come home and go to school.

Wow, Jacqueline! That blog was the most truthful I've read from any of the 'Housewives'. Ashley may be over-the-top self-absorbed right now, but I think she'll come around and realize her selfishness is keeping her from leading a truly full family life. Take it day by day and eventually things will work out.

As for Theresa, god bless you! I have had a hard time watching all of you pussyfoot around her ego. Yeah, she's going through a lot, but she and her husband did it to themselves. Hopefully she'll stop being such a monster.

Good luck to you and your family!

I am so with "Theresa Hicks" on this one.

Glad someone finally told it like it is about Teresa. She is a very angry, stubborn, jealous, insecure woman with a very nasty streak.

"I was saddened to read Jacqueline's blog this week and her comments about you..the way I see it is you are just upset about Melissa and Kathy coming on the show and bashing you and your family and now promoting themselves: singing, dessert cookbook (possibly)..it's hurtful and you had your friends and now they are invading that as well, I would be hurt and frustrated to...It is sad the way this season is torture Teresa time..." - Melissa AA

Wow...Jacqueline love your honesty. I just wonder why you chose to air this out on the blog in lieu of speaking to Teresa directly.

Keep on pushing with Ashley you will have a breakthrough!

wow! I can't believe i'm reading this coming from you... who are you? weather Teresa is right or wrong she is your friend and hasn't done anything to you but be on your side with the whole Danielle drama. you don't have to agree with her but to kick her while she is down especially when the issues have nothing to do with you is really low...