I couldn't figure out why her brother would be so upset with Teresa. He must have been upset with something. The whole christening party was a big crazy mystery to me and a complete shame. I felt horribly sad for everyone involved. I knew everyone had to be hurting. It hurt me when I saw how hurt Teresa seemed by it all. When your friends hurt, you want to help them. But with her family being involved, I needed to be very careful how it was handled. I certainly didn't want to add any more fuel to that raging fire.
Knowing that we were all going to be face to face at Kim D's annual Posche fashion show, I didn't want it to be weird. I didn't think it made sense for me to say anything to Melissa about what her husband said or even to Melissa's sister for yelling at Teresa. Besides that when I'd talked to Melissa, she was always very friendly with me. I had no problem with her. Picking sides would only help fuel the fire and put more of a wedge between Teresa and her family. My goal was to help make it better. That's her family. After all if I did jump in to defend Teresa, especially not knowing all of their family history, I could be the one coming out in the end as the jerk when her and her family made up. Families always make up eventually! It could take days, weeks, or years, but they always make up. Family is family.
My only advice to Teresa before the fashion show was to reach out to her brother and his wife and acknowledge what had happened. It wasn't that I thought that Teresa owed them an apology by any means, but I thought that maybe she could say she was sorry it had gotten to that point. I thought that acknowledging everyone's pain at that point would be a step toward getting to the root of it all before they could resolve it. Even if Teresa didn't intentionally do anything wrong, her brother's perception is obviously much different. If she loves her brother, which I know she does, and respects his feelings, I felt she should listen to where this hurt that had turned to anger was coming from. Maybe she could help to change his perception of things, because Teresa truly believed that she has done nothing wrong to him. I did feel, however, that it is wrong for anyone to call their family member garbage, especially for a brother to call to his sister that on national TV. I felt it would help if Joey apologized for the name calling, but then explained his pain to her. The problem I'm starting to see between them is their lack of communication with each other, and then having too many people jumping in to fuel the fire. I wanted to stay as neutral as possible.
The Fashion Show was a huge success minus the slight altercation at the end. Kim D. really knows how to pack a room! I felt like a total idiot on the runway. Like I said, it's not my thing. I wish I had an ounce of the confidence those other girls had up there on that stage. They were working it! Things seemed to be going well. Everyone was being so pleasant to eachother and ignoring the big fat elephant in the room (the fact that there was a huge brawl at a baby's christening!). I knew it was only a matter of time before it got mentioned, although I really think it should have been acknowledged and discussed before coming to the fashion show.