Happy Birthday to Ashley! Although it was a joy to have my parents here visiting and we had a great night of celebrating with them along with some of Ashley's favorite cousins, aunts and uncles, I still felt bad that Ashley's dad, Matt, and stepmom, Jody, were unable to fly out to surprise Ashley for her Birthday. Matt got the flu right before coming out and was unable to fly. The thought was there and an effort was made, so I thought Ashley should know. That's who Ashley kept texting during dinner. She was missing him.
It's got to be hard dividing your free time and holidays between two families. I didn't grow up like that, so I can only imagine what it's like. When Ashley was celebrating with one family, she would be missing out on those celebrations with the other family. Since Ashley lived with me year round, whenever she would get a break at school she would usually spend that time visiting her father and his family. That was also the same time CJ was out of school, so we would travel or do things as a family that Ashley would have to miss out on. It was hard on both of us, because although I was happy Ashley was with her dad, I wanted her to be with us experiencing and enjoying what we were doing. Ashley felt the same way.
I have always encouraged Ashley to have a good relationship with her dad. I think that is very important. I never talked badly about Ashley's father to her while she was growing up. I could never make her feel that her daddy was a bad guy, because he's not. That is something Ashley would have to grow up and decide for herself. Matt's relationship with me would never be the same relationship he would have with his daughter. It wouldn't have been fair to put my issues with him on her. I just wouldn't do it.
Ashley grew up idolizing her dad. He was the guy she would look forward to seeing and taking her somewhere fun. He'd make her laugh for a few hours and then would bring her back home to me. She always wanted more time with him and waited anxiously for the next time he would come get her. I was the one making her clean her room or do her homework and taking her privileges away for bad behavior, and so on. Of course we had our wonderful fun times together also, but she saw me everyday. Maybe she thought he was cooler than me. LOL! As Ashley grew older, she seemed to respect and admire Matt more than she did me. As much as I wanted her to feel that way toward her dad, I also wanted her to feel that way about me, especially knowing all I've done for her. I was the one who was always there for her, so it hurt me that I didn't get the same attention that he got from her.
I think you are my all around favorite HW! I also want to say "Your boys are adorable"!!! I think you are a wonderful friend to Teresa and am so glad you are sticking by her side. She needs you right now more than she lets on. I loved when you let Kim G have it! You go girl!! LOL
Kim G. Kim G. Kim G.
Can't help but think that Melissa knew what would happen when she added her name to the guest list. Melissa WANTED drama and Kathy WANTED drama.
LOL @ the good Christian calling Teresa a f*ing bitch.
Love your Blog, Jacqueline! And I love the reasons for the party being a recipe for disaster. I hope you've reconsidered your friendship to Kim G. You don't want any of her bitterness rubbing off on you.
Still loving your candid and witty take on Jersey Land! Hang in there with Ashley - she knows NOT what she says and how much it can sting. She'll get it some day, hopefully sooner than later...
ALL I CAN SAY IS GOOOOOOOOOOO GIRL!!!!!! I so love this BLOG! I do believe this is the BEST BLOG I've EVER READ! TOOO HILARIOUS!!! KIM G, GET A LIFE, MONEY "might" have bought u CLASS in ur town, but it HASN't BOUGHT U FAME! SO BUTT OUT KIM G! Jacqueline has SPOKEN, and GUESS WHAT? IT IS THE DANG TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!! WAY TO GO JACQUELINE!!!!!!! WAY TO GO TERESA AND JOE! WAY TO GO MANZOS! WAY TO GO MELISSA AND JOE! SO CAN't WAIT TIL SUNDAY!!!!!!!!!! SEE YA THEN! xoxo SENDING LOVE BACK! I'm seriously LMBO!~!~
Jaquiline, I love your sense of humor. You are very fortunate to have a good husband. I am glad you are a true friend to Tre. I hope things get better for her and her family. I know you are a friend and live next to Kim Grannytel, but stay as far as away from her as you know and see she is trouble. I also think your daughter needs a little tender love a-- wipping, so wrong to say that about her step dad. He has been there for her not only moneywise. He as tried to be a good father to her. Be yourself and thank the good lord for the wonderful family he has given you.
great blog. now i dont have to keep looking for Jay. you did a very good job with the drama details. BUT i think everyone should not overlook that silent guy that is watching everything and everybody-CHRIS. "STILL WATER RUNS DEEP"
So glad to see that you have Teresa's back unlike Caroline!! I always loved Caroline but her blog was wrong and I think she's lost alot of fans because of it. It's sad to see all the stuff people wrote to her since she's been loved since day one. I think Caroline missed this one and took the wrong side & unfortunately, things won't be the same for her on the blogs. Ashley's comment was rude and hurtful, my heart broke for Chris. I grew up without a Dad (alcoholic) and for her to have two who love her so much, she has no clue how lucky she is!!
Love you Jacqueline....love your humor. Glad that you voiced how you feel about Ashley saying what she said about Chris. She is young and learning the "very hard" way that what you say will come back to bite you. The things she says, like this, is the very reason Jay Mohr has made her his comedy focus. Maybe after this season she will get it right. Also, how happy am I that you are really calling out Kim G.. We realize Bravo has her in there for drama but does she really enjoy being the most hated wannabe Real Houswife of all time?
Hi Jacqueline! I went to Wegmans in Fairfax on Monday and found your excellent blk water-I hope they had plenty more in the back because I grabbed 8 bottles of it-the taste is refreshing and I noticd a difference in my skin and energy level the same night I drank one full bottle. People really need to try this blk water and improve their overall health. Also, I always love watching how you deal with all of your family and friends, always ready to help them work things out when they need help, but without being overbearing about it. You truly show that you come from a place of love and respect for others, and yourself as well. Ashlee is truly blessed to have you and Chris as parents as well as her father's family that loves her in Texas, your parents in Las Vegas and her other friends. Keep up the way you are living and loving your life! Much love!
Jacqueline - i just love you! You have the best sense of humor and a wonderful family! Kim G' needs to get a life - if she wants to be on tv so bad why doesn't she get her own show?? Oh that's right - no one would watch it!!
I can completely relate when it comes to sharing your kids with an X. They go every summer to Vegas, and we go on trips with out them...it makes me feel sad. Love your blog..your too funny.
Ashley is still young and under "the grass is greener on the other side". She'll come under as she gets older and matures. Your take on the Christmas party is hilarious. You could have your own sitcom.
Your husband is too smart for this non-sense.
Your daughter will appreciate you when she gets older and starts to have her own children. She will really understand if she is ever a step-parent. Your husband is very unique in how he treats Ashley. I hate to say this but most step-parents struggle to like the step-kids.
LOVE your blog Jacq, just the right amount of sincere candidness and playful humor! You are so fun, and Chris seems to be amazing.
Jacqueline, it looked as though the party went well in spite of a few minor "set backs". It's a shame Melissa had to call you in for reinforcement when talking to Kim G. Kim should have gotten the message THE FIRST TIME Monica was asked to leave. As always, you just mind your own business until you're asked to butt in, and again it served you well. I wish you would stop hanging around Kim G. You don't need people like her in your life. None of you do.
You hit all of the nails right on their heads in this July 20th blog. Both of my kids (from different Husbands...*eyes rolling*) had to grow up with two separate families during all of those special occasions and Holidays...but funny how they NEVER complained about receiving twice as many gifts!!!
My kids, son now 22 who still lives with me >:O and daughter (lives in CA) soon to be 30 (w/ my g-son 11) had what THEY called an "Unfair Childhood"...they got over it when I had them write down on paper ALL of the material things, and non-material things (advice, breaks, punishments, support, etc) that they can remember, that I gave them. Here's the kicker...they also had to write down all of the things they gave ME during that same period.
I'm angry with myself because I've lost those letters, but we all kinda remember what was written anyway. When they saw how much they TOOK and how very little they GAVE...it kinda made them feel like shit and very selfish. They DID change their "gimme this, can I have that" ways and still has lasted all this time!!!
I was wondering if Ashley (& you) would benefit from her writing this kind of letter to you. It will really open her eyes and also show her how needy and how much she doesn't appreciate you for all you do for her. I was also "The Bad Guy", but when we discussed the letters, there was a bunch of "oooooohhh yeaaahhhs" from them. Try it or don't, but eventually you'll wish you had.
I love you and all of your family...but you're my fave. xoxo Pauline ~ Chicago
Jacqueline, you have such a good heart and I don't think you could be vindictive if you tried, but please stay away from Kim G and in particular, STAY out of her house. Nutcases like Kim G and Danielle Staub do not look at life the same way that you do. Your attempts to be fair, in their crazy heads , were confirmations that you were their ally and supported them. Now that is just nuts, but consider who you are dealing with and stop being so naive. There are some people you just cannot be around without their stink rubbing off on you. Plus these two psychos hurt and are still hurting people who have been friends and family to you. This defending of yourself "I am my own person and I can pick my own friends" shows a bit of a lack of self esteem. And while it is obvious you were trying to stand up for your own decisions, you chose a somewhat disastrous situation ( defending Danielle) in which to make your point. You almost ruined your friendship and sister in law relationship with Dina. Now you show up in KIm G's house even though she is trashing Teresa not only on the show, but on the internet. Love your kind heart Jacqueline, but come on, wake up, and adopt a little bit of Caroline's caution when incorporating people into your life. I remember a really creepy scene between you and Danielle when she toasted you with some white wine and was talking about true friends. Go back and watch that and you will see a master manipulator at work. Danielle did not respect your intellect and she took total advantage of your kindness because of her own desperate need for someone, anyone, to befriend. And while that desperateness is pitiable, it is also dangerous and does not make a good baseline for a friendship. Kim G is no better. Your showing up in her house is construed by nut cases like her as supporting her. Even though you told he to f off, she just laughed. She did not take you seriously. DO you get that? How insulting that she was pissing you off, totally ignoring your tellingher to STOP talking about Teresa and laughing when you lose your cool and tell her, not once, but twice, to eff off . Lose her and keep your eyes open and your radar up for the parasites out there who prey on well meaning people like yourself. You can retain your wonderful sweetness, but wise up. Dina is kind and thoughtful, but she recognized a viper when she saw one . Also, Teresa wised up after that nite in the bar with Danielle and her phanthom date that never materialized. She shut Danielle out after that, but you just kept getting sucked in. WISE UP!!!
Love you!!! You are DEFINITELY my fav. I don't see you liking to stir up the drama at all and have no idea why - ahem - *anyone* would have said that. I agree that it seems more like you try to put an end to it. Unfortunately that's a very thankless job and is it ever possible? Just when you get the water to stop from boiling over, someone else turns up the heat again. Round and round it goes - where it stops? Never mind, it doesn't. Anyway, love you!!!
You are a great writer! Soooo funny!
Ashley is just a kid. They say the wrong things at the wrong time a lot! Grain of salt, right?
Jacqueline you are the Best mom! I can totally relate as I was a single mom for 20 years and my daughter is very similar to your Ashley as well. We do our best to raise them properly and hopefully one day they mature enough to actually appreciate it all and realize the sacrifices that we have made for them. If that day never comes, so be it.. We love them unconditionally. They are now at an age where they know right from wrong no matter what we say. No need for all your explanations regarding your daughter, us moms get it - COMLETELY! You look FAB!! Keep being you! xox Cheers
Jacqueline, Yes, I would have been hurt if I were in your or Chris's shoes. But, Ashley is often a negative gal and at that age where the "drama" behind things seems to overcome them more than the actual issue. Very, very funny~~and spot on of Kathy. You're right, she claims to be a Christian, but not Jesus!!! Haha-excellent line! Timing is EVERYTHING and Kathy has no clock! Well, you're a great Mom and Chris is a great Dad. More importantly, Ashley will come to realize these things as time goes on. Take care. Great blog!
I am loving you and your husband. You seem to be very down to earth. I totally agree with your recipe. I am amazed sometimes on how people act. I will give Teresa, Mellissa, and both Joes credit for how they handled that night. I hope you keep trying to help them. I love how you help with humor.
Jacqueline~ you are fuuun-nay! You & Teresa are my all time favorites! Beautiful, Smart, and yall both have a hysterical sense of humor! Much Love!
Jacqueline - i absolutely love you , u seem like such a genuine person its refresing to watch. && i love love love your "recipe" in this blog! i am still LOL'ing :)
Jacqueline...PERFECT blog. You're almost as funny as Jay Mohr. Do ya think Kim G. has issues????? Oh hell yeah !!!
Tell Ashley, it is better to have two families than one that is many pieces, and sometimes makes one feel like there is no family (experience talking).
Jacqueline, I hope that you will steer clear of Kim G. She has shown in so many ways that she only wants to break up friendships and families. For some reason this brings her great joy. What a sad individual! In the past, you have tried to look for the good in others (Danielle and Kim G), however there may not be any in some people. She buddies up to you to further twist the knife that she has in Teresa or Dina's back. Wise up and avoid her.
Good blog. I think step and custodial parents everywhere are under-appreciated by their children. It's not just you and Chris, although, it can feel that way when you're living it.
Jacqueline!!!! You ROCK as a friend and a mom!!! Love you. Life has a way of teaching ungrateful people. Am sure your daughter will one day realize how much you and Chris do for her and how much you love her. C.J is a doll, simply delightful to watch. I am so proud of you for standing up to Kim G.!
Jacqueline, I luv the relationship that you and Chris have. I feel like you two were made for one another. You are "happy go lucky" and Chris just goes with the flow. I would love to have a husband like Chris that is just there when you need him and not over spoken. My husband speaks for me too much and sometimes I feel like I need to defend myself on my own (but that is what love does). I like how you pointed out that Kim G is a trouble maker and needs to step down. She may be your neighbor but, you stand firm on Teresa and your friendship. Ashley will eventually get used to her two way relationship because I was in the same boat growing up from age 4 till 21 knowing that my step dad was there but also my dad. It is hard and just always let her know that you are there fro her and as the years progress (I know she should know now) she will eventually know that you and Chris were there for her first and provided the most. Jacqueline, you are fabulous and I love Chris for being such a great step dad and wish every step father supported their kids from other marriages the same.
Cant wait for your website to launch! I think you are one of the best on the shows! So real and so funny and GORGEOUS I might add! You seem to be the voice of reason! your hubby isnt bad either! LOL Thank you for making this show so fun to watch!