Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline outlines why Melissa's party was destined for drama.

on Jul 20, 20110

21. Kim G. 

22. Ashley, who is there at the party. Need I remind you of last year's Posche fashion show? I hope she learned not to involve herself in adult conflicts.

23. Kim G.

24. Chris, my husband, the silent observer. He's not a problem at all, but I couldn't leave him out of a recipe when everyone else was in it.

25. Kim G.

26. Me. I know what Kim is capable of and how she, Monica, and many others feel about Teresa and Joe, who are at this party. I know Kim enjoys stirring up drama, especially to those that she feels have hurt her. Should I help Teresa to "silence the lamb?"

25. Kim G., who I've known in the past to have a lovely, generous, and more positive side to her but is CLEARLY and INTENTIONALLY the catalyst for this Christmas party drama and seems to be enjoying it entirely too much. I think she must be bored. I wish she would let go of her crazy vendetta and learn when to shut up! 

155 comments
carolina girl
carolina girl

Jacquelyn, Just wanted to say I am of divorce .You and your husband have been wonderful parents to Ashley. My situation was similar my parents got divorced when I was very young. My Mom always told me even her marriage didn't work out. She never regretted having me. My biological father had very little to do with me. Fortunately my Mom met a wonderful man when I was five ; who later adopted me as his daughter.Dad( My stepfather) and I are very close now.We didn't always get along. We had our rough times, because I was very rebellious at times. When I saw Ashley and Chris 's conversation it brought me to tears. It reminded me of Dad and I twenty years ago. I was torn because at time my biological father suddenly decided he wanted to come into my life. My parents encouraged to have a relationship with my biological father and be glad that I had three parents who loved me very much. It didn't work out that way; unfortunately I have not seen my biological father in eighteen years. Over the years I have come to appreciate everything my parents did. The man who raised since I was five will always be "Dad". Don't worry Ashley will come around ,and appreciate how much you and Chris have done her. Keep on being supportive .You are great parents! God Bless, Tara

Camera party
Camera party

I enjoyed your blog this week. Very comic book strip! If you want Kim G to shut her mouth, then why do you give her an ear to listen to? Do you realize that you are adding fuel to the fire by doing that? You might have the best of intentions hoping to reason with her, but you can't reason with someone who will stop at nothing to get attention, even attacking your own daughter Ashley (by supporting Danielle Staub last year with her court charges). You really need to cut your loses and just accept that you will not be able to reason with her or be friendly with her and just support your family (who will always have your back). When I say support your family, I am talking about the Manzo's (they are your family and they have an issue with Kim G and it is not helpful to Chris Manzo and his relationship with Kim G's son for you to be friends with Kim G or even for you to be "neighborly" with her).

unidentified
unidentified

I think Kim G needs to quit causing drama and stay out of family business. She needs to let the Gorga family handle their own business. All she does is stick her nose into other peoples problems. I don't know if she thinks it will help her gain friends or what, but who can respect and be friendly with such a trouble maker? Seriously, get a life Kim G. You are acting pathetic!!

sadiekins
sadiekins

Jacqueline, you crack me up! I love reading your blog each week, keep 'em comin!

JorelR
JorelR

You and your husband are great! You obviously have a strong marriage. You both present yourselves with class and seem like genuinely nice people.

TEAM CHRIS AND JACQUIE!

rossy
rossy

Jacqueline, you are my favorite housewife. Your husand is an amazing father to Ashley. I do believe that in time when she matures she will show her appreciation to both of you. She is still a kid and spoiled. You both put up with more than i think i would of. I am a step-mom and have been in my son's life since he was 9 and have been there for him more than his bio-mom will ever be. Yet, i am the punching bag, i am the hated one, which means i have done my job. It does hurt, although i truly believe we do what we do because we love them and are expierenced in life. I do hope that these kids do appreciate all we step-parents do, as it is not easy raising someone else's kids. You both are great parents!!!!

Mrs. A
Mrs. A

I usually do not like to read blogs when they are too long. But, yours was funny, touching and smart. Thanks J. L.

DuffyGal
DuffyGal

Jacqueline, I love watching you. I see you have a big heart and high tolerance for people, but it really pains me to see you wasting your time and goodness around people who are undeserving of it. You say that Kim G has a good side to her, well, everyone has a good side to them, that does not mean that they do not also do things purely for their own gain even if it causes issues for others. She is an opportunist of the worst kind and it shocks me that you can’t see that about her and continue to be around her. When she wanted to be in the good graces of the Manzo family, she turned her back on Danielle and now that she is making another push to be a cast member on the show, she’s hob-knobbing with Melissa and Kathy in order to have a common “nemesis” in Teresa? It’s so blatant and it really worries me that you will find yourself in the same position of having to prove your loyalty for someone who is clearly not worth it. Kim G is a snake, please don’t get bitten. Ashley is a piece of work. I won’t disrespect her because she is your daughter, but the things she says sometimes are so rude and disrespectful and I feel her selfish tendencies are being hidden under the cloak of not having had her real father as a constant presence in her life. She said in the other week’s episode that you like to put yourself in the midst of drama and that you were “friends with Danielle for a reason”. Seriously? She has no idea how lucky she is and she keeps being handed things to appease her and because of this is never truly going to learn what most adults have to learn that to be an adult means actually BEING an adult. Being respected as an adult means learning to respect adults.

ansha
ansha

Dear Jacqueline and Chris, So Ashley doesn't like you. What else is new? No teenager really likes their guardians who enforce rules. You might not even like her right now. But you do love her, that is evident. She knows it and is currently holding this other relationship with her 'real' father over your heads. Chris thank you for being man enough to be there for her every day of her life and being involved, for loving Jacqueline and Ashley enough to forsake everything else to be there for them. Don't know Ashley's real father and not judging him, but obviously there were other things he wanted more at the time than being where he needed to be. Ashley can't see that. When Ashley is older she will appreciate you and like you and love you... really. She is a teen ager. Get ready for this - her brain isn't even fully developed yet. All she knows is that there are things she wants to do and YOU are standing in her way. This is selfishness and immaturity. Give her time. Don't let the things she says and does bother you. Please keep correcting her when she is wrong. Accept that she won't like you, you might not always like her. But you do love her. She'll come around, but it takes time and maturity on her part. God bless you!

Mrs. A
Mrs. A

Jacqueline, you are one lucky lady. Honey be good to that man of yours,because he is not only fine as hell, he loves your child he has a sensitive side(which is extremely sexy on strong men)and he seems to love himself some Jacqueline. My wish for you guys is everlasting love and harmony. I hope Ashley will realize how lucky she is, while still in her youth. Best Wishes.

Noelle
Noelle

Ha..ha.. you are hysterical! Positively the BEST housewife. You crack me up.

Viewer10000
Viewer10000

I feel that Ashley has grown up a lot since last year. I feel that she is finally understanding what you and Chris have been trying to teach her. I believe that she will enstill the values that you have taught her and carry it on for the rest of her life.

I also feel that this season we are able to get to know a little bit more about each of you guys. I like this show a lot because it incorporates a lot of family values and stresses on how important it is to stick together as a family no matter what.

Jenny
Jenny

Growing up with a stepfather and a biological father, and seeing how great Chris is with Ashley, I felt bad for Chris when I heard Ashley say that about "money can't buy love", or w/e it was. Everyone can see from watching the past 3 seasons that Chris is so much more than a pocketbook where any of this family is involved!

crisco
crisco

Jaqueline, I know. Kids always think the grass is greener on the other side when it comes to divorced parents. Chris is an awesome Dad, and you are an awesome Mother. Just know that and roll with it. There is only so much you can do. Loved your blog!

cm79
cm79

Jacqueline, I left a comment a few minutes ago but forgot to tell you how adorable CJ was at Ashley's birthday dinner!! He is soooo cute, all your children are beautiful!! Bless you guys!!

Ms.Diva2U
Ms.Diva2U

Kim G, Kim G.......this was so funny to me did the Manzo's and Laurita"s take over Melissa and Joe's Christmas Party? ROFL.........This was one of the best espisodes. Still Laughing............Hilarous. Who does this kinda stuff? Kick someone out of another person's house........Still laughing.

Sabela
Sabela

As a Chef, I always say that too many ingredients in a "recipe" is most certainly set for disaster, lol! Honestly, it always seems like Theresa is the main common denominator where all disasters with you ladies are concerned! However, it did go a lot better than I expected. Kim G. is totally insignifigant in the big scheme of things and she just needs to get a life, seriously. I really enjoy watching you and your family on the show. You are such a sweetheart. I want to come over and drink wine with you! One day Ashley will grow up and realize what all you and Chris have done for her. If you're listening Ashley, "Just know that how you are to your parents, comes back to you two-fold with your own children", it really happens!

cm79
cm79

Jacqueline, you are absolutely hillarious!! I think your great. The hurt feelings you and Chris are feeling are normal, and your right, you two have been the parents who have had to discipline, while her dad gets to basicly be Santa Claus. No one is at fault, it's the nature of the beast (divorce). But, I see your heart and the seeds of love, care, and respect you have shown by being instrumental in helping Teresa's family overcome their differences to become close again. I believe, those seeds will come back to you and your family many times more than you have sown. I believe Ashley will understand just how much you and Chris love her and become much closer to you guys. I do think that Ashley tries to manipulate Chris into buying her what she wants. But, he loves her, or he wouldn't put up with all the stuff teens put their parents through. And I have to say, I see glimpses of Ashley begining to mature. It will take time, but I see her trying more. Call it karma, whatever you sow you will reap, or anything else you want to call it, but your kindness will come back to you and your family. Can't wait to see the show next week, take care!!

cher-cher
cher-cher

Can someone please tell me why Kim G. is getting all the air time???? She is not a housewife? And why in the world if she was such good friends with this lawyer that she brought to the party, didn't she leave with her?? If I brought a friend and they were asked to leave, I would have left also. That just tells you she was there for trouble making. Bravo to Chris for removing her. Thank god her friend was classy enough to leave without trouble. And where did she get that body guard. Must have been one of Danielle's rejects. On a lighter note I was hoping to see Gina and Lex at Caroline's christmas. I miss them. Jacqueline you are one very lucky lady with the man in your life. I love watching the two of you.

Melissa Hulsey
Melissa Hulsey

I have to say that watching you and Ashley, in your 'mother/daughter' relationship, is heart wrenching. I am a stepchild with two AMAZING families. In fact the term 'stepchild/stepdad' was foreign to me till I was an older child and had to explain my extended family to friends. I cannot tell you how many times I have called my mother after watching an episode of housewives, just to tell my mother I'm sorry that I was such a bitch to her in my later teenage years. (I am forty now, with a 19 year old daughter who I had from a previous marriage. I've been doing that alot lately. Lol) My 'stepdad' came into my life at an early age, and he has always been 'Dad'. I also saw my 'daddy' on a regular basis too. However, it was not till much later in life that I realized how truly blessed I was that Dad was a part of my life. Dad, and Mom, gave me the morals and self respect that I try so hard to instill in my own children today. It was my 'dad',and Mom, that taught me to have the self respect to be the strong woman that I am today. I love my daddy, don't get me wrong; he did the best he could by me in the circumstances that evolved, but I am so grateful that God sent me Dad to be there because he couldn't. Watching your family this season has been like seeing a piece of my own history played out before me, and I thank you for the chance of seeing it from my mothers point of view. Hang in there, the rewards are coming. I promise she will see the light, eventually. Lol. Now if you'll excuse me I should go call my mom and tell her Iove her.

ang151
ang151

First I would like to say...I just love how mellow you are, Jacqueline. Secondily, this is for Chris & Ashley. Chris - by buying Ashley everything you think she wants or deserves ... Ashley's right. It doesn't make a relationship. Ashley - crying because you don't get things YOUR way ... also doesn't make for a relationship. Ashley, your actions due reflect on you. So the spoiled brat, crying at work, oh feel sorry for me ... stuff really needs to end. You're a beautiful young lady. Now show your parents (all of them) that you can be a grown up. Go to work, help out around the house (without being told), and pay for things that YOU can afford. Not everyone has the best of the best, right out of the gate. Chris & Jacqueline - Stand firm on the rules. No changing them without talking with either. If you do, don't involve the other. I am from a divorced family. So I can relate to Ashley a little. From what I can see, Chris and Ashley don't have a relationship WITHOUT Jacqueline. And that is what they need. They need to get into something together and build from there. Not to fall back on Jacqueline & Chris's relationship. I'm 30 and have the same problem with my step father. I grew with a similar relationship that Chris & Ashley have and now I don't really speak with my mom because things have become so bad between my step father & me. However, I now have to look after my son and husband. So PLEASE fix your relationships before you lose your mother/daughter relationship like my mom, my siblings and me. Love from PA FAMILY!

Felicia-Texas
Felicia-Texas

Jacqueline, in my Wendy Williams voice "How You Doing". I love your comments, right now you are like my friend in my head. I could'nt have said it better, and your husband is as handsome as he is sweet, polite, friendly and very loving. You guys were made for each other.

Maurang
Maurang

Love your breakdown of events....just want to comment on how hot Albie was when he stepped up to throw Kim G out. He is awesome! It was so great to see a family go to the plate for each other. As for Ashley, I feel bad for her because she is saying what many teens vent, yet it is caught on film forever. Chris is an awesome dad, and I think she knows it. Good luck with that!

RHW fan
RHW fan

Jacqueline,

You're a riot! You're too cute and my favorite. Ashely is lucky to have a mom like you!! You guys will get past it...It took me until I was in my late 20s to have that perfect mother daughter relationship that we always wanted. She will grow out of her rebellious phase and when she does you guys will be best friends and look more like sisters than mother daughter!

Lucy111170
Lucy111170

Please give some insight on the Ashley thing! I have a 5 yr old boy who only sees his dad when it is convenient for his dad. My son idolizes him even if he blows him off for 2 months. I never say anything bad about him, but he does (in front of our son) all the time. I think you are doing a good job, and Ashley is truly growing up and understanding bit by bit.

NJ4ever
NJ4ever

Jacqueline, I just think Ashley is going through some growing pains. It just may be time for her to find her 'niche' in life. What about her moving to be closer to her dad? After all she is grown so nothing is really holding her back. However, it seems like she is the one that hasn't come to the realization that she is an adult. Really nothing is holding her back from making her happy but her. She is in a position of pure opportunity with a loving supportive family. Once SHE realizes grows mentally...then she can move forward with her life and be happy. Wish you both the best.

Tommy93654ca
Tommy93654ca

Jacqueline ,

Teresa is known  for telling it like it is but YOU have earned that title , you just told it like it is , I'm glad you are watching the same show we all are watching , Kathy REALLY wanted to let Teresa know it was good to see HER and I guess needed to her Teresa tell her multiple times(Caroline must of missed that) talk about bi-polar she went from a good Christian to dropping F-BOMBS about her cousin.

The comment Ashley made bout chris was  a real ouch moment , I too have a step dad who treats me like his own , gotta give the good stepdads credit cause there are some bad ones out there. Jacqueline thank goodness you r on the show , someone level headed and with common sense  

Alfie1
Alfie1

You're a better person than me, I just don't see the friendship worthy qualities you do in Kim G and Danielle.

also a Jersey girl
also a Jersey girl

I don't know why I bother, Bravo doesn't have the nerve to print my comments, everything must be editied to within an inch of its life. Your problems with Ashley will ease as soon as she grows up. Her imaturity and the fact that you make too many excuses for her are the causes. I, too, had a daughter who displayed all the same symptoms and I, too, felt guilty because her father and I divorced. She was also the oldest child. When she was 18 we had a huge blowup and she moved out for a while. Believe me the tough love thing was harder on me than on her. Today she and I are so close and I am so grateful. She is married with children and finally gets it. It will happen for you too, just try to be patient and draw a line and you and Chris stick to it. Not easy, but you two are loving parents and eventually she will see that and stop beating you both up emotionally because she knows you are safe.

Nina Girl
Nina Girl

Love it.... love it.... love it!!!! You are a very good friend specially when you went to Kim G. and told her what was she doing? Kim wants an apology for Teresa calling her old or granny-tell whatever..... No well respected "lady" would do the things she does, why would she bring this lady to the party to cause DRAMA!!!

Deb Schneider
Deb Schneider

Jacqueline, I don't know why people wait for "events" to straighten out their issues. If I recall correctly, didn't someone at the christening say Joe Giudice didn't say hello to them because Joe owed them money? What's wrong with these people?

I'm glad you stood up for Teresa. Right is right no matter what. It's a Christmas party. That's not where business deals are settled, nor is it the place to hash out disagreements or pursue a vendetta. I'm really liking your bolder personality this season. Screaming at Kim G to shut the F up when you were at her house, and calling her out at the party was priceless. You're the last person she would expect that from, and I think the message about what a cad she's being really sinks in when YOU say something to her. You go girl.

P.S. The things you're going through with Ashley (on average) are pretty normal. I'm sure it did hurt your feelings and Chris's feelings too that she puts her real dad so high on a pedestal. You said it yourself, he's not a bad guy. You almost have to expect that attitude from Ashley, because at your house there are rules and expectations. At his house there isn't. What kid wouldn't think the latter is better. Keep your chin up, when it comes to the REALLY important things... it's you and Chris she turns to. By the way, if she needed a car... why didn't her real dad buy her one or pay for half of the one she got? Ashley may think money doesn't buy a relationship, but it sure buys the necessities in life though, doesn't it?

PoohA
PoohA

Good blog. Glad to see you understanding how Teresa & Joe must have felt.

Really.
Really.

Ok, good to know you are not on Kim G 's side. We were worried there for a bit.

Lulubean
Lulubean

Smart, beautiful, funny, witti, loving, kind, now that's a recipe for great parent, wife, friend, sister, sister in law.

Patty Anderson
Patty Anderson

I don't think Kathy or Melissa were looking for drama. The producers probably had something to do with having Kim G on. She's a snake. Teresa's husband is a puke. Your daughter (you really need to check out her sneaky smiles and eyes on the films) is looking for drama and trouble. I think she's way too coddled and spoiled for her age. Millions of kids are in her situation being bounced from pillar to post, but they don't have the opportunities you can provide for her. She needs to get off the pity potty and appreciate all that she has. One thing I do like about you - you are always trying to quell further upsets - you have a kind heart. It's obvious you care for everybody. Kim G is a snake and deserves a good ole kick in the butt - LOL.

DeShea
DeShea

BRAVO!!!!!...pun intended! You rocked that blog sister, and you showed class and loyalty.

RHONJFanatic
RHONJFanatic

OMG your 'recipe' had me laughing my a** off!! And it's even better b/c it's all TRUE!! Kim G. has been a trouble-maker from Day ONE! I'm so glad she's not one of the main characters of the show, or I don't think I would watch. Keep bein' the funniest housewife ;o)

luvujacqueline
luvujacqueline

You are a wonderful mother and it is ALWAYS a complicated situation with children of divorce. What is up with your sister in-law saying that Ashley is just negative. Wow... So far you and Teresa are my favorites and even though Joe Gorga isn't a housewife, he is growing on me and is the other favorite of mine.

gessie
gessie

I'm glad you are Teresa's friend. and I love your husband, he is so non-judgemental about others, and one day Ashley will appreciate him more than she can express.

Justchillladies
Justchillladies

You are my favorite housewife out of all the series! Your blog was soooo funny. I love that you added your husband just so he wouldn't be left out of the recipe. My favorite episode so far was the Catskills because you really seemed to let your hair down and have a great time. I never laughed so much watching the show. Can you post the recipe for Nutella Pizza?

CJ1984
CJ1984

This blog def made me LOL! You got it girl! I love your witty humor and ability to step back from a situation and take in all aspects fairly.... You are my absolute fave! Keep blogging girl!

Castello22
Castello22

Luv U and the Show!! and Thank you for putting Kim G in her place, man i dont like her!!! She knew Teresa would not want her there and Good for Melissa and Joe sticking up for her, that what family does.

lovenj
lovenj

Ashley is 20! She can jump on a plane to see her dad. What a shocker, I love Jay's take on all of this each week :)

DaizyGirlz
DaizyGirlz

I completely agree that it was a recipe for disaster...especially to invite Kim G. But these are her friends and family too and she has a right to invite who she wants...Teresa by no means wouldn't have NOT invited someone to her party. So buck up ...put your big girl panties on and deal with it. I believe Teresa threw the 1st hit that night by showing up 2 1/2 hours late(when you live 5mins apart) ...saying you all did the same. Why bother coming at all? Although Teresa mentioned she had another party...editing shows nothing of another party just her taking her sweet ass time getting ready and Joe sleeping. What was that? Get there early and cut out early! Didn't you just say "TIMING IS EVERYTHING" ? Teresa needs to get the bug out of her bonnett and make peace when it's offered to her and get off her high horse before she falls off, lands on her head and has no one there to take care of her! TAKE THAT to your friend Teresa with a bottle of wine!

myguiltypleasure
myguiltypleasure

I think your observations and comments are right on. I'm concerned that your forgiving nature will facilitate your continuing a 'friendship' with Kim which will allow her to continue her vendetta against Theresa. If a tree falls in the woods and no one is there................