Hello again. Today is a better day. This was another difficult episode for me to watch, but this is our reality and that is what we signed up to give you. We can never predict what will come out of each other's mouths at any given time, but once those words or actions are said and done, there is absolutely no way of taking them back. Words and actions in TV land are documented and replayed for us to relive many times as well as put out there for many others to judge and criticize. Imagine some of your worst moments being played out back in your face and to millions of viewers. All I can say is it's real, it's raw, it's relatable to many, and there are lessons to be learned from watching us and also for us watching ourselves.
There's not only a downside but a positive side too. I appreciate all of you that have reached out to my daughter and me and shared your own stories and experiences that are relatable to ours. Thank you to those that have offered your kind words, advice, and support. It does help, and it makes me realize that we are not going through these struggles alone. I may not get the chance to respond to all of you, but I do read each and every one of your postings. Thank you so much! XOXO!
For the rest of you judging us relentlessly... Imagine picking a private moment from your life that you wouldn't be so proud of and letting us share our opinions with you. Everybody has a story. At least we can make a living while sharing ours. LOL! Whatever happens is going to happen on or off camera anyway, so we might as well get to pay some bills out of sharing it with others. My family and I (Ashley included) agreed to be open and honest about these struggles. If people can relate to us and learn from our mistakes, then we are satisfied to have at least helped somebody in some way. It does help us to see ourselves as well. It's better than therapy. We learn a lot by watching ourselves. I don't think arguing with a daughter is all that uncommon anyway. This too shall pass.
I always love your blogs. I hope Ashley does well in LA. My lil sis moved there right out of college and it was difficult even though she had a job AND a plan AND a boyfriend there. I hope you guys are safe from Irene!
jacqueline, ashley needs to respect you not for the sacrifices you have made for her, but for the simple fact that you are her MOTHER! stop beating yourself up. do not engage in arguments with ashley. it's so hard to argue alone!
Just because you preface mean statements with some sort of explanation or astrological lesson doesnt make the statements any better. Im glad you talked face to face with Teresa. Thats where it should have ended. The blog was relentless and long winded and made you look winey (we have all seen you act better then that). You could have gotten your point across in one page or less. Just think how it would have felt for you to start this show with your sister in law you werent getting along with and had just had a fist fight with. It would be akward and wierd for you too. Teresa is in no ways "right" about everything or "wrong" about everything. Last weeks blog of yours was hard to read and came off very nasty. You have always been the voice of reason without being like that "Taurus" or not. Hurt is hurt and bullies are bullies, and last week you sounded like one of those bullies you and all the housewives complain so much about. Just food for thought. Still love you and the jersey housewives!
Dear Jacqueline - Watching the past 2 epsidoes was heart breaking. I understand how you feel about wanting to enjoy the fruit of your labor. I wish it was easier for you both. I'm not gonna break Ashley down and say nasty things because she is your daughter and even if she deserves it.. I would break bad on someone if they said something mean about my kid no matter what she did or said. That's my little bear cub. I also read her blog about moving Sept 3rd to LA.. I wish her good luck and I hope she starts appreciating how good she had it in NJ. Maybe then her attitude will change. Just do US ALL A FAVOR - don't help her finacially.. she wants to learnon her own.. let her. =) love you girl- you are definately my favorite H.W.
Real Class! You've addressed every issue you brought forth in your last blog and every scene from the previous episode with class. Great job!
My opinion of you has just been elevated 10 fold.
JACQUELINE, i love you. i was like you and did everything i could for my kids (2). unfortunately i probably fixed things that they should have fixed and i probably protected them too much. as mothers all we want for them is protection and to make everything good in their lives. i went thru all the hurt you are feeling and blamed myself when i felt her pull away. nothing i said was good enuf and she blamed me for everthing wrong in her life. i felt "why did i bother trying to make everything right" she didn't even notice. it hurts ur heart soooo bad. i was crying with you. kids will always hurt the one they love most because they know we aren't going anywhere. it doesn't feel like it now but that's a good thing. i let her start making her own mistakes and with time she was forced to grow up on her own. we now have such a close relationship it's almost too much. we talk everyday. i agree with you that this to shall pass and it gets better. try not to be angry at her so you don't lose her. let her be her. she'll start learning from her mistakes. Remember we all do eventually. love you girl. keep up the good work. i think you're a GREAT mom.
I agree with you, this tooo shall pass. My son who is sixteen feels as if he knows it all and as hard as it is I have to let him make his own mistakes and learn. Stay prayerful. You are a good mom.
Jacqueline, I think you are apologizing in this blog for your actions. Frankly, I don't think you have anything to apologize for. Your relationship with Ashley is tough one right now. However, I think you and Cris handled yourselves great and that no apologies were necessary. I see you as wanting the best for your daughter and that Ashley is a bit of a rebel. I think you are right when you say this will pass. Don't be so hard on yourself. I think you are doing a very good job!
Jacqueline, you are a great mother. I've been through the same thing you are going through, and I will tell you there is light at the end of the tunnel. When Ashley gets older, she will see your relationship with different eyes, and I just know you two will be close again, especially when she had children of her own. There is nothing like a mother, and you are an exceptional mother. Dry your tears, God will work it all out! xoxo
Well, still disappointed that you have been fooled by the trolls Kathy and Richie. Apparently what Jersey calls funny, I call obnoxious. Melissa is a conniving and hateful person. Her sucking up to you and Caroline is so obvious that it makes me lose respect for you both that you do not see what is going on.
I think your blog was to long and it was to much of "I" and "me". To be honest I just did a control F on my computer and typed in Teresa to read the next nasty thing you said. I was sad you couldn't apologize and I feel that you have to much pride. Teresa is my favorite and many, many others.
Jacqueline, I feel for what your going thru with Ashley. I really and truly do. I couldn't imagine having to deal with these issues in such a public maner. I applaud all of Ashley's parents for supporting and loving her. Now, it's up to her.
I have to ask what purpose were you serving by blasting Teresa that way in your blog?? Also, if you talked to Teresa face to face why put it in a blog?? Low class Jaqueline, very low class.
It's a shame that Teresa has to worry about her shady family members but now she has to also worry about the people she calls her "friends".
Ya Ritchie is great...you forgot to mention his claims that Teresa "stole" her recipes as opposed to his wife making hers up out of thin air....he is obsessed with Teresa and he's ugly towards her....wow, once you turn on your friends you really turn...you're what I call a fair-weather friend...
This is a great blog. You explained and expressed yourself perfectly. Haters and bashers are just that, haters. We all have said and done things that we aren't proud of, just without a camera documenting it, thank goodness. People in glass houses....... And haters may respond that they don't put their life out there for everybody, but honestly, most would jump at the chance. No one should fault you for that.
Ashley will come around. I can promise that. It is very hard being a teenage, young adult. She takes it out on you because you are closest to her, she knows that you love her unconditionally, and that you will love her no matter what. That is why kids give their parents so much grief, I believe, because they know that they will always be loved and forgiven. It's comfortable.
Again, fantastic blog.
Hi Jacqueline! You think, and parent, EXACTLY like me! Which I think works at times for us, and at other times, terrifies and disappoints us. You think/plan/prepare for each action's consequences to the n'th degree, JUST as I do, and become just as frightened for our little nestlings, when they don't seem to heed (or even hear) the pros, cons and possible benefits, of our lifetime's worth of mistakes we've learned from firsthand. No matter what you say or do, everyone who knows you, should know that your heart comes first and foremost with ANY decision you make about, and/or for, them. Your heart is totally bigger than your tiny body, as is your love for your family, especially your children. My daughter and I went through, almost parallel to an absolute Captial T, what you and Ashley are going through. If it gives you any hope or peace of mind, a family therapist we saw when she was 15, told me to just hang on, practice the tough love + mother's instinct, and the little loving, kind-hearted child I thought sure I'd been raising, would return to the nest in her own time. As an adult who then realized who she'd been during those LONGGGGGGGA$$ teen years, and grateful that we never gave up on her, though we did learn to let her make her own mistakes and fix them herself. I couldn't be more proud today of the woman she's become. She's still stubborn as a mule. Still marches to her own, often-offbeat, drum. Still learning, as we're never too old for that... But she loves and protects us with a ferocity I'd never have thought possible of a child who didn't want to be in the same state with me for years, much less the same home. She's a mother herself now, and believe it or not, I see, and she admits, to parenting our grandson in the same ways we parented her! I very very much understand your tears from feelings of 'losing' the child you worked so hard to raise, and loved more than life itself. I believe, as an observer (and someone who kinda knows you from before the show), that your planets will align, ha, and you and Ashley will have a wonderful relationship, balanced and loving. And you'll finally be able to EXHALE, and just love, as I'm thrilled to be doing myself, now. As my daughter says now, in her 20s, it was ALL about HER. Even into the early 30s. Fortunately, it didn't take that long for the metamorphasis to begin! I feel for your public struggles, but I know that others, including myself, relate to them oh so well. And as yours and Ashely's relationship mends, it will give so much hope to other mothers and daughters going through the same turmoil. Best of luck to you both! You're both such talented, loving ladies, AND you're a mother and her child. i just feel it in my bones; the healing will happen! Lotsa love and best wishes!
Jacqueline, You are a Beautiful Woman,Wife,Mother,and Friend. I love everything about you and your Daughter feel's the same way.You are right in saying,"This to shall pass" and you will have a Beautiful relationship with Ashley filled with loving Beautiful Memories! Know that Ashley see's in you ,the exact same thing we(fans and viewer's) all see in you. You do not need to explain yourself to anyone! Your time with Ashley will come Jacqueline and it will be the Best of Time's! Good luck to you!
I have 3 children. They are all grown up now. If I could offer one piece of advice, do not bend over backwards as you and Chris have done to make life so easy for Ashley. She obviously does not appreciate your sacrifice, help, etc. and on top of that is totally disrespectful. I had 3 adolescents at the same time. There were a lot of things going on but one thing I would not tolerate was a sassy mouth.
Jacqueline, I cannot believe that anyone would sit in judgement of you for your relationship with your daughter. We don't know what has led you guys to this point and we should not pass judgement on another family for any reason. I felt your pain, your entire family's pain and my heart ached for all of you. God bless you and may He give all you Peace.
Jacqueline, I think you are the most real on the show, love you can relate, and hope all works out in the near furture for you and Ashley. While I am sure it will work out becouse can see the love you have for her and she for you hope it is sooner then later. But dont back down sometimes some kids need a little tough love, it doesnt make them bad people just hard headed haha, she is a good person inside can tell Ashley will grow up one day and thank you for all you have done, You are right not that that matters but she does need a little push into the adult world and thats okay she wouldnt be the only person who needed that so dont beat yourself up just love one another and if you have to let her go then so be it, she will be back to strong a bond between you i can see it while maybe right now its alittle cloudy for you its there and always wil be. Chin up your a great mother and a strong Lady Ashley needs you to stay strong this is just one of them really big hills in life but the valley with the rainbow is right around the connor been there done that and ya know what we are closer then ever and more productive too!
Jacqueline, great blog. If life were a bowl of cherries we would only pick the best moments. In real life there are a few pits.
Jacqueline, you dont have to justify or explain yourself to anyone. You and Chris are taking care of Ashley no one else. What you says goes PERIOD. Believe me, she knows how good she has it at home, thats exactly why she's still there. Stop stressing/worrying, you are not the first or last mother that will be going through this with a 20 year old. No judge or jury will convict you for worry about your daughter's future. Stay strong doll, Ashley will eventually come around and give you all the credit and praises you deserve. And whe she does just sit back and think about what i said. Follow me on Twitter please LaShawn_MUA.
Much love for you, LaShawn
Jacqueline...I wish you and Ashley the best of luck working out your relationship. Sounds so familiar. I loved what you wrote about the couneseling...i have tried the same with my daughter and she says ...she always agrees with you...or they were givine me a dirty look, which in reality, the psychiatrist was asking her a direct question, staring directly at her and waiting for an answer. Sometimes I wish our children could see things from our perspetive. Let's just hope they do some day. Love watching you and Chris. You are a great team!
Watching Ashley, seeing the attitude and listening to the flaming words that come from her mouth is EXACTLY like watching MY 23-year-old son who...could really care-a-less as to whether I am alive or dead! After being on the receiving end of that treatment for as long as Jacquline has been, I've just resolved to believing that it is a sign of IMMATURITY as well as INSECURITY....immaturity in not knowing how to process ANYTHING that has to do with the everyday trials of being an "adult"...and the insecurity...they just have to make SOMEONE seem lower than their own image of themselves...and the easiest person to do that to is too often the one(s) closest to him/her... It will get better it has GOT to!!!
Jacqueline, I think you did the right thing by throwing her out. Let her see how it is to live on here own. In time she will become the person that she needs to be when she gets a taste of the "real world". Then and only then she will appreciate you. Its like the saying, people need to loose what they have to appreciate it . I think this is the case. The good thing about it is, you seem like the type of mother that when she realize that you will be there for her, But you need to let that happened first. If you don't let here stand on her own two feet now, she will never, and she will continue talking to you the way she does and expect you to take care of her. She is an adult. I am 29 now and been working since I was 16 years old. My mom was never there in my life and my father was there, but never did not even one quarter of the things you do for your daughter and I never ever open up my mouth to talk to him the way she spoke to you. Not even as an adult living under my own roof, paying my own bills. I think she is very ungrateful, and thinks that you are obligated to do those things for her and you need to show her your not, she is an adult. she is 20 you did what you had to and more. let her stand on her own, she will hate you now but love you later. Trust me..
Jaqueline, You are a beautiful mother and have wonderful intentions for you daughter. She's young and people seem to forgot how they were at that age. We sometimes take our parent's for granted until we experince lifes journey on our own and realize wow my parents were Right, and I should have listend, I know I did growing up, My mother is my best friend And Ashley will come to realize it takes time to build a good strong relationship especially when you have a stuborn child lol. I hope and pray for the best with you and your family. god bless xoxo..
jacqueline if you were a clothing I would wear you any time any season and not take you off! I get you and your sense of humor too. be yourself and we know you are noone's puppet.
This was a nice blog and I appreciate you explaining the laughter at the goddess party. I thought you were joining Teresa in her bad behavior but this makes a little more sense. I didn't think that you would be that rude to anyone in their own home.
Mothers know best, but daughters have to make their own mistakes. Ashley is a young adult that still needs her mother. She just doesn't know it. So, Let it be. Let her stay home and stethly watch over her and be there only if she tries to hang herself too high. You know they are always ready to let the parental units financially support them. Act as if she is a roommate instead of a daughter. Let her lead her life independently of the family. Don't ask anything of her. Let her do her own thing. Ignore all the stuff. You never heard it or saw it. Your too busy leading your life independently of Ashley. It's super hard, hold your opinions and directions and let her be, just in sight of family safety. Hold her near but let her go. Been there done that. Good luck, she is worth it.
Good Grief Jaq! Listen all parents have the same concerns, worries and problems that you do. Hundreds and thousands of kids are like Ashlee. As a parent we often have to make difficult decisions when it comes to our kids, most of difficult of all is letting them"Learn the hard way". Yes, I know that's a hard one but sometimes the only one to make. We only see a small part of your conflicts so I'm sure you all have some positive moments. But you have to realize all kids go through that period when they think their parents are stupid. Go ahead, decide what you will do in terms of supporting her move to california, whether it's rent for 3 months, car payments or insurance, or whatever, but choose something that will help. It's like weaning her off the parental support teat, it works though. Best of luck, but really toughen up a bit, your daughter will 100% love you and one day, I promise you, she will tell you how much she loves and appreciated all that you did for her. It may not come tomorrow, next month, or even this year! It will come, be patient and enjoy life, your husband and your boys, and of course, your only daughter.
Jacqueline, While I respect you and think you are an amazing mother and are doing your best with the Ashley situation, when it comes to the Teresa situation I have to say I see her side of it. While her and Danielle had problems she took Carolines side in it from day one. Caroline didn't even get to know Danielle before judging her and writing her off as well as gossiping and trying to ruin her (bringing up the book). Don't get me wrong I am not a big Danielle fan at all but it is a bit hypocritical to jump in without knowing Melissa and be her BFF (I'm sorry but Caroline is up Melissa's butt). Especially when you know all the issues T has been having with them be a friend, I'm not saying be nice but Teresa is going through a very hard time without having her own family members bad mouthing her on national TV you think you could support her like she supported you. And getting back to the Danielle thing, uh I don't care if it was two years ago Melissa did Facebook Danielle quite a bit, and you and Caroline don't seem to care? seems a bit odd to me. Caroline writes off anyone who has contact with Danielle but for Melissa its okay. To me both you and Caroline go to the person who is either becoming a. the most popular or b. who is the new hot rich young thing. First is was T now its Melissa. Again T has been there for you even inviting you to Italy with them, and she has been there for Caroline as well yet you two are so quick to write her off and bash her knowing she is going through a hard time, her family members who gossip and bad mouth her are on the reality show she's on making her life more difficult, and one of those two women is communicating with Danielle yeah she's so trustworthy. Be there for her don't abandon her. Lastly with Richie there is a fine line between "ball busting" and being a bully when it comes to Teresa he is a bully and mean. and how would you know if he was obsessed with her did you know the man when they all first met...NO! you've only known him for less then a year. so stop pretending like You are a richie expert I would trust Teresa on him more than you, any man that says the things he says to a woman has a problem.
I have commented several times and BRAVO NEVER posts the comments!!! Bravo to you Jackie you are the BEST!!! I KNOW how hard it can be to be a mom, not only with a grown daughter but with two little boys. You and Ashley will be best friends before she's thirty!!!!! LOL
Jacqueline, I was glad to finally hear from you, but felt bad that you were feeling the need to explain yourself. Anyone with an ounce of sense or humanity could have understood what you are going through and what you were feeling. Ashley does need to go, and she is the kind of person who needs to make life's mistakes by herself. I have a son who is the same way. He left home at one point, and his relationship with his Dad is problematic, but things began to turn when he saw for himself what life is really all about. In time you and Ashley will find a new and better relationship. At this point she is driving your house, and that is not fair to your other family members.
Just pray for her and be patient. I really hope the rumours are not true that you are leaving. You add so much grace to the show.
Hi Jacqueline, God has a way of preparing us for transitions with our children. You and Ashley clearly love each other or you wouldn't be so upset about the situation. As you reduce your resources with continued support she will find her way. I know because I have been there. You have advised her, it is time to step back and let her find her way. She is a very smart young lady, and though it seems as if she doesn't listen she has heard every thing that you have said. I think that sometimes we get in God's way when we call ourselves helping. Life's experiences build character. Let her find her way.
May the peace if Christ be with you,
Oh gosh...I can't take the fighting anymore! I don't get the situation between you and Ashley. I'm a 22 year old junior in college, I'm studying to be a doctor. I don't live with my mother, I don't receive any financial assistance from my family and I work my butt off to pay my bills all while going to school full time and taking hard science classes. Why do I do it? Because I realize that sacrificing my free time right now will pay off BIG TIME in the end. Some people just aren't like that. I have a friend who went through the same exact situation, fighting with her mom, not going to school, not getting a job, but wanting to be 'independent' while not being independent. Needless to say, she lives with a boyfriend and works at a bank. If that's what she wants in life, that's what she wants. And it's fine. Just let your child know that if she wants to be mediocre in life then she can be mediocre while NOT living at your house and without your assistance. Not everyone has the drive to be the best they can be. And we just have to accept it. We're all different and it is what it is. Although I could never picture myself working at a bank, in a cubicle for the rest of my life, for some, that's okay. And it is ok. Just let her live her life (and not with you). You've done all the pushing you can.
I totally can relate to your relationship with your daughter. My mother and I had such a tough relationship, much like you do (almost always my fault with talking back and being disrespectful). As soon as I had my son I realized how much work it was to have a kid and I thanked my mother for not killing me. I have had a father who was much like ashleys and in and out of my life. Once I had my son I realized how little my dad had done to support me and how much my mother had done for me. I love my mom and as an adult I still am frustrated with her, but our relationship is so much better and looking back I would have changed how I treated my mother. I think soon enough Ashley and you will stop clashing, but she needs to move out before she realized how important you are to her. I think you are doing the best you know how to do and I admire you for that. Be strong and I believe your relationship will get better once she is through this phase in her life. I did not appreciate your blog about theresa until I heard your explanation and you are completly right. I wish Theresa would go back to the person most her fans loved and adored.
Jacqueline,I think you and Chris are great parents it is too bad Ashley can't see this, let her go out on her own she will wake up very fast when there is know when there to help her.
Jacqueline, I don't get it at all. If you had a private conversation with Teresa about how you felt about her actions, then why did you feel the need to so publicly bash and humiliate her. In my eyes, NO FRIEND does that. Regardsless of whether you are on a show together or not. I think it is uncool. I don't care what she has done (and I think she is wrong with a lot of things this season), if you are her friend, why would you throw her under the bus like that just because you feel she did it to you? One of God's hardest lessons in my opinion is the Golden Rule. To treat others the way we would like them to treat us. NOT the way they actually treat you. They spit in our faces, our greatest challenge is to turn around and hug them. When we can do that, then we are worthy of his love.
I couldn't imagine having my life and its challenges shown to everyone. There's a Foster Parent ad that says "You don't have to be perfect to be a perfect parent. Best advice I ever got about resolving... "Don't be the second a-hole in the room. Every situation can handle one problem, but not two." Never let 'being right' come before resolving the issue. If you resolves the issue, you give everyone a chance to DO right. When you try to BE right, you just become another problem in the room. Good luck to everyone who fights with family.
Jacqueline I think you and Chris are great parents. Let Ashley go out on her own she will wake up very fast when know one is there to help her,
I feel for you and your struggle with Ashley. To start, I live in California, about a half hour away from LA (which I am sure LA is where she is wanting to move). Let me tell you, it is not easy out here, and I have lived here my entire life. Everyone here is aspiring for the same thing, and very few make it. You are like a tiny fish in the huge sea, it takes a lot to get noticed. I highly suggest a concrete plan before she moves here (if that is still the case), because without one it is going to be difficult. However, I do agree with you that sometimes life just needs to teach its own lessons. My mother is going through a very similar situation with my younger sister. Yet, she continues to live at home and do nothing. I, on the other hand, moved out at the age of 20 to live with my boyfriend (now my husband). But it was HARD. I worked full-time and went to school full-time. I only wish that I had stayed home a while longer to get my feet on the ground before jumping into the world. I think a lot of young people do not fully realize the numerous responsibilities of living on your own. I know I didn't. But life teaches you very quickly- all of a sudden the bills start pouring in, and eventually there isn't enough money to go around. Living on your own doesn't just mean rent- it means rent, renters insurance, gas, water, electric, trash, sewage, internet, tv, phone, etc etc. The list goes on. I think that some people need life to kick them in the butt a little bit for the lesson to hit home. You never want to see a child fail, let alone hit rock bottom, but sometimes it is necessary. We learn a lot through failure. My prayers go out to you and your family, and I am wishing for the best. Good luck!
My heart was absolutly broken last week at all of the negative comments people were making to you, I actually cried when I read a few of them because they were so mean and judgemental. I wrote a couple of comments asking people to stop being haters, but to no avail. I have said this in a couple of my comments already, however I think it is worth repeating: We the viewers DO NOT have the right to judge you or anyone else for that matter. People I plead to your kinder side and ask that you refrain from making ugly comments to any of these housewives. Sure they are out there for us to view and it is ok to laugh at them or with them, or have an opinion, but let's not carry it too far this go around. No one could possibly know or feel what another person is going through, let us have some compassion for each other. Jacqueline- I had both of my sons before I was 20 years old and I did not know what I was doing but I did my best. My sons are in their 30s now and I have 5 grandkids (I still don't know what I'm doing LOL) and my sons finally understand all of the things I have done for them and they know that I have loved them and did my best. It might have taken them a while to get it, but they did and we are closer than ever. I'm not saying that it will take Ashley another 10 years to figure it out, boys are just a little slower than girls.....lmbo.... Anyway, loved your blog, keep doing what you do and don't worry about the rest......much love to you and your family......
It appears your friendship with Theresa has come to an end..i don't know who's right but it does seem sad.
Jacquline, you always handle yourself with class. I think that all of America shed a tear for you and with you during that difficult episode last week. Most of Bravo viewers are parents, so we get it, we understand and we feel for you. It makes me sad watching your struggles with Ashlee, but you have made the right decision by throwing her out. She will one day learn or rather remember the values that you have instilled in her. Hang tight and remember that you have fans that really care about you and your family.
God Bless ....... From Houston, Texas
It kills me to watch the way Ashley is to you. You are so sweet, fun, and all around great person. You remind me a lot of my mom and we were best friends and when i say BEST i mean that we would tell each other EVERYTHING! Untill she passed away last summer in a car accident. It tore my world a part(Im only 21). You never know what can happen and im thankful everyday for the moments we had together. Im glad i didnt take advantage of that time to argue about petty things, I respected her sooo much. I wish you could have that with Ashley because you deserve at least that. She should appreciate everything about you. I hope yall work it out and have the relationship my mom and i had.
Thanks Jacqueline for your thoughtful blog. I have to say, I don't understand the dynamic. Richie Wakile has made some incredibly vulgar comments toward Teresa and everyone just pooh poohs him as a ballbuster. Meanwhile, Melissa/Kathy's cattiness is overlooked, while Teresa's admitted cattiness is criticized by all. I can understand Teresa's negative feelings, because if I were in her shoes I would also be devastated if my relatives convinced Bravo to cast them on the show on the basis of their negative relationship with me. Given Teresa's ongoing legal issues and related public humiliation, it really feels like piling on. Essentially, Melissa and Kathy are profiting off of their negative interactions with Teresa. How does that not bother you and Caroline? Way to kick a girl when she's already down ...
Also, I appreciate that at least Teresa acknowledges her cattiness in her blog. Meanwhile, her cattiness is about people's food, clothing, and singing abilities. Meanwhile, people call her a witch, a -itch, and all kinds of other terrible things - and never apologize for it. As her good friend, how does that not bother you?
Finally, I wish you the best in your ongoing efforts to help Ashley. Those scenes were hard to watch and I really felt for you.
Dear Jacqueline, I think most mothers understand that we give our children the BEST YEARS of our life 20s and 30s and all we want is to be appreciated. I understand what you went thru because I myself have been there. Good Luck
So if you already had it out with Teresa, to her face, why did you have to go and blog about it too? Especially since your "over it now"? I know that a lot of this drama is for tv, but I think your last blog was pretty harsh.
when I was Ashley's age I acted out the same way, never came home on time. Wanted to party with my friends. But until I came home one night to find my stuff out side packed up, then I knew my parent kicked me out. I moved in with my older brother thing went fine. so short story I move away from my parents with my ex husband and I saw that my stepbrother in law acting the same way I did.. I picked up the phone and called my Mom and Dad to tell them sorry for everything I had put them threw. and now me and my MOM are very close. She is my best friend in the world!!! Even tough love works :) I wish you and Ashley the best and that this shall to pass!!!
Jacqueline. I so feel your pain with what you and Ashley are going through. I know how you feel. Although, my daughter is only 16, we have certainly shared these same struggles that I see you and Ashely going through. Although, I do hate it for you, it is comforting to me to know that other mother-daughter relationships struggle with same things I do. It's so hard especially when you are single. You and Chris seem like you've been more than fair with Ashley. Chris is a saint. You have yourself a good man....as a viewer I can see that you know that.... Good luck. Thanks for sharing. PS- I'm sure Ashley will come around one day. I've always heard that your brain does not fully develop until the age of 25, so I guess we can keep that in mind... Ha! Ha!
Hang in there girl, you will get thru this. And as far as the hater's let them hate. I believe you are a great mother, friend and person. Teresa needs someone to call her out on her non-sense. She is acting as if this is Teresa show. I love Teresa dont get me wrong. But this season she has shown a very I am the star of this show attitude. And Joe I have met men like him, very shady if you ask me. But I understand Teresa standing by her man. But sometimes your man needs an attitude check also. How he talks about her family is so insulting and he should be ashamed of himself. I believe he is very jeoluos of her Brother. And should be, he shows he is the better man by his actions on the show. Joe is a hot head and claims he is this and that and he is not. Oh well I vented. Love ya girl.....