As New Jersey was one of the states hardest hit by Hurricane Irene, I want to start off my saying that my thoughts and prayers go out to those who have been so adversely affected. In my area of Northern N.J. so many neighborhoods have been so severely flooded that the clean-up seems almost insurmountable. Please, everyone, just know there is help out there and there are those of us who do care. In my town, as in most others, there are disaster relief centers set up and everyone should try to take advantage of the help that is being provided.
As I am writing this week and looking back at this episode, I find myself becoming a little philosophical about the events taking place. Overall, I am feeling hope and positive energy. Very personal and emotional family situations often cloud our ability to see, think, and speak in ways that we would like. Tempers and anger can get the best of us, and we may have a slip of the tongue that we may not be proud of. Often, our words just come out without even thinking about what the consequences are of what we have said. It is at these times that I have found that you can depend on having your actions speaking louder than words, and we should lead by example. I feel that going to an event to support your family members when something great is happening for them is the most important thing. It rises above the spoken word. Often we may say something we don’t mean, and you may wish to take back your words, but when you back it up with your actions, you show people that you love them and that your heart is in the right place and you don’t even need the words.
When Teresa called Joey, she was giving him what he was looking for, just a simple invitation. It was clear that it meant so much to him to be asked to come to the book signing, and he backed it up by his actions and of course he was there. That is a great start in the right direction for the two of them to be answering each other with what they were looking for. It felt as if they asked and they received, and it set up a communication start between them that speaks volumes.
Kathy, who are we kidding?? The only reason you went to teresas book signing was FOR SHOW. Omg how could you lie like That!!!! Lame! And how could u not hear about her Previous signings? I'm sure you stalk Teresa online. You are not being true to yourself and the few fans you have. Good luck on the show.
You are a voice of reason. I love to read your blogs. Glad your family and friends had a wonderful time at your husband's birthday.
Hi Kathy, I like you and your family. You are a sweet person. You have a husband that adores you and you must be so proud of your children. They are wonderful. The Birthday celebration for your husband looked great. People were having a great time. Rich makes me laugh a whole lot. Love the way he talks and his jokes. Please continue to try and get close to Teresa. I love her and her Family, but there is a BIG problem with Joe and Joey. I like both of them. But they are both are enraged with each other. They have an inmature relationship or maybe we do not know the whole story between what has happened between them. Teresa is working hard and is making so many things at the same time. She is handling too many things. Try to call her and meet with her. If you ever meet, say what you need to say and listen to each other without interruptions and maybe she will come back to the love that you have for her. God Bless you, your Husband and your Children.
From San Juan, Puerto Rico Yolanda Garcia Berdecia
Kathy -- it is really apparent that Teresa is possessed by the green-eyed monster of jealousy. Her fame has gone to her head and she has become nothing more than a sorry caricature of herself. It's too bad she thinks she epitomizes a "jersey housewife". I may not be married but I am a jersey girl and she's an embarrassment to all of us.
Kathy, I do agree with you that actions speak louder than words. But, "often our words come out without ever thinking about consequences or what we have said..." sounds like a statement Jacqueline has made to Ashley. Our frontal lobes, unlike Ashley's, are fully developed. I am by no means pointing a finger at you solely. You, Teresa and Melissa all say hurtful things that at this age you are accountable for and they just keep digging this whole wider and deeper. It's really been awful watching this season play out but I am hopeful for resolution. I do see Caroline's concerns when she addresses the amt of baggage and inability to move forward in all 3 of you ladies. On a lighter note, I hope your baking career soars because you most certainly have been given a gift with that talent.
I have a big brother and amongst siblings, invitations aren't necessary...siblings aren't acquaintances, they just support each other. if my brother was having a book signing, I would just show up and show support, I wouldn't wait for an invitation, I would show him that I care about what he is doing, I wouldn't stew at home waiting for an invitation. Also, it was cold for melissa and joey to stand over a seated teresa (domineering position) and make her read what she wrote. Both sides need to stop trying to bully the other side under the assumption that they are always right but live in the middle ground.
THANK YOU for FINALLY posting a blog!! I've been looking for the past 2 weeks!
Kathy, I must say at the beginning of the season I really didn't like you, but you have grown on me over the season. I appreciate your class in not commenting on certain aspects of the episode.
I really hope everything works at with you and Teresa!
Hi Kathy, I would just like to say that I think your family has been a wonderful addition to the show. It's actually inspiring to see someone have so much fun with the creative process of cooking, your desserts look wonderful!! Rich is hilarious and obviously in love with you, and your children are refreshing and seem like kind-hearted young people. That speaks volumes about you and Rich as human beings. Every family has drama and hope yours will work itself out (I had a cousin who actually stole my identity and cost me thousands of dollars, that one I haven't resolved). You go, girl!!!
Hi Kathy, I think you and your family have been a wonderful addition to the show! It's inspiring to see someone who loves the creative process of cooking as much as you; Rich is hilarious and obviously in love with you; and your children seem to be well-adjusted, kind hearted young people. It's refreshing. And it speaks volumes about you and Rich as people, as well as parents. Every family has drama and I hope you can work yours out. Sometimes it's healthier to not be around certain people, family or not. I had a cousin who stole my identity and cost me thousands of dollars...we're not exactly pals now. So if someone is bringing negativity to your life, decide whether it's worth the energy. Good luck!!
Great post Kathy, Teresa crying about Joey signing his book was moving. Teresa should have jumped up and gave him the big hug she wanted. I felt horrible about the way Joe was treating Teresa, so disgusting and then poor Gia crying and actually trying to move away from Joe like she was scared. But I appreciated Teresa saying she was tired of him putting her family down. Joe needs to wake up and look at his wife and girls face and their hearts and if he can't step up and be a man and not some bully, she needs to remove that toxic man out of their lives. Glad you and yor family are okay.
Kathy so glad your on the show, I think ypi I get Rich and I like him alot he maked me laugh. I don't understand in the very begi why it was so hard.
I enjoyed reading your blog very much! It was a welcome relief after viewing many of the other blogs that are written.
Your generous spirit and your devotion to friends and family are a breath of fresh air.
I also enjoy seeing you on facebook.
Thank you for joining the show this season! It is a pleasure to watch you and your beautiful family. You and Richie are very blessed and you have done a tremendous job with your two children. You have set an example and raised the bar.
All the best,
It's ironic how you have used your relationship with Teresa to get on a show (that you would have never been asked to be part of if it weren't for her) and yet you STILL behave in such a crude and demeaning way towards Teresa. Unbelievable!
And what's with all the "team Wakile" crap you promote on other sites? How old are you, 15? I hope this is your last season. You really don't add anything to the show and it's clear you're just using it to promote your "catering" business.
I am afraid I am not convinced. This rubbish about "being invited" and "not knowing" does not hold water. In all the book signings that I am sure have taken place had any of you really wanted to go it would haven been a simple matter to say "when is your next signing, I would love to go". If you didn't need a personal invite (like the other professional victims Joey and Melisssa) this time then you didn't need it before. A phone call to your mother or aunt could also have been easily made to find out too. The difference this time? Cameras were present! It is also interesting that you choose not to comment now on the bullying by Joey at the book signing and the fact that Teresa truly tried to defend her brother against her husband Joe. Not one word of sympathy or support but, as we know from previous blogs, had the bad behaviour been from Teresa towards her brother or your friend Melissa, you would have written your opinions at length. I was opened minded about you but this constant manipulation of the truth and nastiness from you and your husband, combined with a very recent tweet from you to Melissa saying you would rather be a squashed bug on the windscreen than travel in the car with Teresa, indicates you are playing a game and a role. Not impressed! (Hope you are allowed to read this as I am sure it will not get posted).
Kathy thanks for getting a blog up! I was starting to worry! Poke the other ladies along will you!? I was really glad to see the whole family starting to move in the right direction! I hope there is hope for Joe Giudice to stop the sillyness. But either way I'm not picking sides I am #TeamHappyFamily :)
Nice try with the new blog- dodge people reading this by posting a blog the day before a new show? Hmmmm:Here's why you are not liked; plain and simple: You came on the show to make money and launch a business via tv fame (that's fine, who wouldn't, I would). The PROBLEM is you did it by exposing,(created or there already) a family fight with your cousin which has destroyed her and her parent’s lives; hopefully just for now. Not cool at all. You then acted like Teresa was the problem. And when you realized we were all “on” to it, your new moa was "What?,there's room for everybody to be a TV success." Everyone, including yourself and Teresa's family will NEVER forget it in their hearts. I hope the ends justify the means but I think not. Success isn't so great when you get it by destroying others is it? The sad part is, had you gone to Teresa before you joined RHW, and told her what you wanted to do with your talent, she probably would have helped you when she could have tied it into her storyline but you didn't. You went with Sneaky Melissa when you wanted it NOW and saw the success others were having from the show. Even if Teresa would never have helped you, it doesn't matter- you rode tails that weren't yours via mean,manipulation with Melissa who did the exact same thing but it will never bother her. Fame is all she cares about which is sad because she may have a little for a bit, but she'll have forever what you two did in her soul which will deteriorate when she is not on display,on display,on display. SHE'LL never care but I fear you will. You now have to live in it. Enjoy your success.
NO COMMENTS????? What happen... there is a reason for this.... What are you playing at????.... Im still trying to figure you out..... you should try being the peacemaker... ever thought of that. You talk about family falling apart.. but how about trying to keep one together. Teresa can have friends, I think you and Melissa are jealous over this... So if you are older, you should try and act it.
I have been waiting for comments from all you! Jay was the only one. I'm wondering if you were all mum because of juicy joe's actions at the end of the episode. It was good to see you visit T at the book signing. And it was great to see Joey and Melissa there. Rich's dinner looked like fun. It's nice to see you all mingle more with Caroline and Jacqueline. How I wish Dina was still on. I feel horrible for your cousin...who does this guy thing he is to talk down to his wife the way he did. I used to be a huge fan of Tre and Joe but now its just Tre. Hoping you both can mend fences and become unified again. Love the show...oh, and can your kids be anymore gorgeous?
You are a positive role model for women everywhere, Kathy. I'm so glad that you were added to the show. You have demonstrated a great ability to handle adversity with grace and patience. I'm so glad that you're finding success too with your cooking! I've read that you're doing quite well with your desserts.... Again, so glad that you're on the show!
Kathy, Making an effort in spite of the weather,etc. shows what you are truly made of. I thought it very generous of you and Rich and you said all the right things. Very supportive. Hopefully it was received in the same manner. However, one should always do the RIGHT thing no matter what. Be the bigger, better person and then you have done your very best. I found it very sweet and kind. And as always you have given your children a life lesson in the way to behave in spite of situations out of your control. Good job.
It is nice to see you trying to mend fences with Teresa. The invite to your party and then showing up at her book signing was a big step in the right direction. You truly seem like a good soul. Your desserts look great!
Thanks for your blog, Kathy, had almost given up on seeing anything from any of the cast members. Part of that episode was disturbing, I agree. enough said...
I'd like to say thank you for finally posting your blog. BUT I'D JUST LIKE TO KNOW HOW COME YOU NEVER CALL JOEY AND MELISSA OUT ON ANYTHING THEY DO TO TERESA? WHERE IS HER APOLOGY FOR HER BROTHER HUMILIATING HER BY CALLING HER "GARBAGE" AT HIS SONS CHRISTENING? AND WHY DID THEY GO SO LATE TO THE BOOK SIGNING? IT SEEMS TO ME YOU CALL TERESA OUT FOR EVERY LITTLE THING BUT YOU CAN'T SEE THRU YOUR ROSE COLORED GLASSES WHEN IT COMES TO THE GORGAS. JUST CURIOUS
By choosing to not speak about the elephant in the room in the last episode shows us what a great person you really are...
Kathy, I was glad to read your blog. I know you had a rough month with the storm and flooding. I hope the East coast recovers quickly. I'm looking forward to your Dessert cook book, I hope it's out by Christmas. You make wonderful looking food and desserts.
Kathy great blog.. I really like you and your family and I'm glad your on the show. You bring a very honest look into your life, family as well as your starting a business venture which I have no doubt that it will be a great success. I've been watching Bravo and all the shows from the time they were born and I've never bought anything, however, you could change that by coming out with a desert cook book. Everyone should see and know that your hands on and you actully do cook the food you serve and it always looks awesome. I would buy it as soon as it came out. I hope you'll think about it.
Your patience is amazing to see when your around difficult people like Teresa and her husband. You and your husband both handle situations with a lot of class. I can see maybe in the near future you may have a intense time around Teresa and her husband. At this point anything you may say or do regarding Teresa and Joe they have coming to them. It's hard to always take the high road because theres just to many times that they both cause drama and cross the line. This episode disturbed me alot, her husband being drunk like that around the kids was just wrong. I hated seeing Gia so upset and she really seems nervous with a lot of anxiety she shouldn't have and thats hard to see. She's just a little girl.
Glad to hear that you guys were ok with that bad storm.
SO touched and proud of you guys for going to Teresa's book signing and I was even proud of Teresa because I thought it was so sweet and she genuinely appreciated it. I'd love to see more and more of that, I have faith you guys can fix this!
I just saw your Top Chef Desserts clip and noticed that many components of your "baking" is not home made! Ummmmm... layering with store bought lady fingers? Not difficult and not impressed.
Kathy I feel that it was so nice of you to attend Teresa's book signing and not wait for a PERSONAL INVITE. Who cares whether a person receives a personal invite....its family go support your family. When you think for yourself and not follow up with Melissa and her sisters you are a better personal. I still say Teresa never said Rich wanted her in a sexual way....it was Melissa who used those words.
I totally feel that Teresa needs to always be the center of attention after watching and listening to her comments at your latest party especially when you mentioned opening an restuarant. There is more than enough money to made in the business, why she had to bring up that they are opening a restaurant is puzzling to me. It was about her!
Good luck and I must admit I wasnt fan of yours but I know your heart is in the right place and going to they book signing without an invitation showed that. Stay positive, you are awesome. Joe Giudice has a reason to be upset, remember his wife your cousin was called trash at her nephew's christening. She never received an apology. Your huband would be just as upset. Remember that!
You and Rich went above and beyond going to the book signing! Keep your chin up and continue to do good and all will prevail. The more I watch Teresa, the more I can see she does not which way to turn. She is an emotional wreck and her husband is not helping at all. He is bringing her down with him...so sad!!
I really like you Kathy and I hope Theresa can put her differences aside and make things better for both of you. You are a class act!
I know what you mean. It was the most disturbing thing I saw When Joey was making T not only write her true feelings (implying that she wouldn't unless he made her), and then to make her read aloud (can he read/write?) what she had written. Only after she did this did he tell her they can never be close unless she tells Joe not to text him. Really?? WTF?!?! How many hoops will he make her jump through before she will finally reach the dangling carrot that is his "love". 6 mos. and a TV screen away and I was still freaked out and intimidated by him (shivers). He does not seem like a nice person and I hope T watches out. Perhaps the distance between them is a blessing in disguise. You said the first truly compassionate words about you and T this season. Thank you because your family has become unbearable to watch.
Hi Kathy, I think that you going to the book signing for Teresa was a great and genuine gesture. You seem to be such a nice person and I hope to God that when you start your catering business Teresa calls you or better goes to your house personally to congratulate you-that would be the best and hopefully the most sincere thing for her to do. She has to put whatever happened in the past and remember that you are her cousin and family is everything. You have to appreciate people while you have them, our time on this earth is very short and it is a shame to waste time on trivial things. We'll see what happens, I hope it is a good outcome for all involved. I just want to tell you one thing that is not related to this. I think you have done a great job with your kids, they seem like good,respectful children-something that is not seen too often in today's world. I hope they continue to bring you and Richie joy and happiness and I hope they realize what good parents they have. I look forward to see the upcoming episodes and I hope you all return for another season. May God bless you and your family always. Good luck with the catering. I have a huge sweet tooth and everytime I see your "goodies" I feel like going into the TV to have some, everything looks yummy!! Take care.
Actions do speak louder than words Kathy, and as one of my British friend says, "good on you". You and Rich did the right thing to show up at Teresa's signing, and you came at a time when you were sorely needed. Her guard was down and she needed support, so good on you.
Dear Kathy. I have been watching cast members getting their Brand out there such as Black Water, Cookbooks etc. Now it's your turn, you are so creative with your presentation that it makes me want to try your recipes !! Please give us a little hint as to whats coming. Thank You, a fan of Kathy.
Kathy u are one of the best people on the show! U stay true to yourself and family. Always take the higher road and u will come out on top!
Best wishes Josh
I'm excited about your culinary future!
Happy to have found your Facebook page... love the updates.
Sending Best Wishes, ~ Jes
Teresa gave her brother what he wanted, now when is he going to reciprocate? Yes coming was nice but the, "I need an invitation" and bashing about her huband was poor timing. Teresa loves her brother and if your husband, Melissa, and Joe Guidice would butt out things would be much better for your family.
Showing up at Teresa's book signing does not erase all of the nasty words that you have said about her and her family. So, actions may speak louder than words, but words matter.
Do any of you think that maybe you shouldn't be speaking bad about your FAMILY members in front of your kids? You wouldn't want to instill whatever problems you may have with Theresa in your kids. Especially you since your kids are older. Just a thought! :) Oh and by the way.... hookas do NOT have marijuana in it and definetly does not change someones personality! So all those people at your party that were "suddenly" acting differently because they took a hit from the hookah are a bunch of fakers!