Kathy Wakile

Kathy thinks attending Teresa's book signing was a step in the right direction for everyone.

on Sep 10, 20110

As New Jersey was one of the states hardest hit by Hurricane Irene, I want to start off my saying that my thoughts and prayers go out to those who have been so adversely affected. In my area of Northern N.J. so many neighborhoods have been so severely flooded that the clean-up seems almost insurmountable. Please, everyone, just know there is help out there and there are those of us who do care. In my town, as in most others, there are disaster relief centers set up and everyone should try to take advantage of the help that is being provided.

As I am writing this week and looking back at this episode, I find myself becoming a little philosophical about the events taking place. Overall, I am feeling hope and positive energy.  Very personal and emotional family situations often cloud our ability to see, think, and speak in ways that we would like. Tempers and anger can get the best of us, and we may have a slip of the tongue that we may not be proud of.  Often, our words just come out without even thinking about what the consequences are of what we have said.  It is at these times that I have found that you can depend on having your actions speaking louder than words, and we should lead by example. I feel that going to an event to support your family members when something great is happening for them is the most important thing. It rises above the spoken word. Often we may say something we don’t mean, and you may wish to take back your words, but when you back it up with your actions, you show people that you love them and that your heart is in the right place and you don’t even need the words.

When Teresa called Joey, she was giving him what he was looking for, just a simple invitation. It was clear that it meant so much to him to be asked to come to the book signing, and he backed it up by his actions and of course he was there. That is a great start in the right direction for the two of them to be answering each other with what they were looking for. It felt as if they asked and they received, and it set up a communication start between them that speaks volumes.

155 comments
megamom42
megamom42

I really LOVE you! I have enjoyed watching your family this season! I feel the main problem with Teresa and Melissa is jealousy. Teresa can't stand it if she's not the center of attention; Melissa comes along and she is prettier, younger and has the love and devotion of Teresa's brother. Joe Gorga showers Melissa with fabulous gifts, and even tho Teresa has bankrupted her husband into providing her the same luxuries, she calls Melissa a gold digger: how is Teresa any different. You are caught in the crossfire of Teresa's jealousy bc you decided to befriend Teresa's mortal enemy: Melissa. She will never forgive that and she will never embrace Melissa as family because jealousy never goes away. It always lurks just below the surface and rears up with any opportunity to discredit Melissa, and you, also. Melissa's snarky comments are a response to the hundreds of snarky comments made by Teresa. Teresa is a bully and the only way to deal with a bully is head-on. You might as well write off Teresa as you will never be able to trust her; her jealousy has ruined her. Good luck!

CJM1981
CJM1981

You and Melissa are the reason that the family is divided. That is obvious, and very sad. You can talk a big game, and you are right abouth one thing, actions speak louder than words. Poor Teresa, she doesn't deserve for you and Melissa to come on the show and attack her and her family.

chris76
chris76

it is obvious you are writing your own comments Kathy. NOBODY thinks you're a class act lol. How can someone who went on a show to sell out her cousin be a class act? not to mention the constant bad mouthing. Grow up! you are far from a class act lady.

TheRealEligibleDallas
TheRealEligibleDallas

Kathy, I LOVE you! I love Teresa too, and I really hope y'all can mend your relationship. I think T is pulled and pushed by her husband. All the best to you and your family!

Elena H.
Elena H.

Kathy your good people. I love your family. Keep on being you. You are trying to keep peace and that is all you can do. Stay neutral is the safe way to go. You and your husband are such a good couple. He is so into you. God bless!

Devyn
Devyn

Kathy, you and your family are a wonderful addition to the show this season. Your husband richie is great he's so funny it's nice to see a housewife husband just being himself. Where do all these funny jersey men hang out hahaha

Liamsmama
Liamsmama

Kathy I think you are great and your family is just too cute! You need to see Melissa for what she really is - a trouble maker!!!! Keep her at arms length and you will be able to work out your issues with Teresa! I hope as you watch the episodes every week you are able to see how Melissa loves to stir the pot!

Daisy33
Daisy33

Kathy, people like you who come on a show for the sole purpose to bash a family member you dont like & to destroy and hurt your family for fame & to have a dessert cook book or show are disgusting! Nikki Hilton said it best about you & Melissa after 1st episode, "Sad what some people do for fame." You are sick!!

moezilla
moezilla

It's unbelievable how snarky you are when you talk about your family. On the one hand you say you want yer family back together, and on the other, you and your husband debase and degrade teresa at every chance. It's despicable.

Dory J...from Bermuda
Dory J...from Bermuda

You are a georgous person and I am a little sick and tired how Teresa is treating you and Melissa. Keep being the beautiful person that you are and it will take you a long way..trust me! One day just one day Teresa might wake up and smell the coffee ..she needs to stop being jealous cause thats how it comes across. Remember your beautiful and kind and don't let anyone tell you different.

khrish
khrish

Do you suppose this show will remain on the air long enough for us to get to see Teresa and Melissa grow up. They are so infantile. I'm not sure they are not the same person.

Cat-with-Boots
Cat-with-Boots

Hi Kathy, I think that you are a great addition to the show. Certainly, a freshing change of personality and character from that of Danielle; polar opposites. I can relate to your love of food and family. Good luck with whatever food ventures you decide to follow. You have so much to be proud of, from what is shown on the show. Your children seem to be treasures. And, your husband, well..., is such a character!! He must make your lives a lot of fun. Some of your comments towards Theresa have been pretty biting. But, I could never possibly know what has gone down between you, your family and her and hers. You are entitled to your Feelings without defending them to me or anyone else. There just seems to be a lot of "keeping score" going on. And, Theresa seems to be the biggest score keeper of all of you. But, she doesn't seem willing to fess up to what part she plays or had played in Hurting others with her comments and actions. She seems like a woman who is carrying a mountian of pain and wants to give away a piece to each one of you. You know, many of the snarky comments made by you and the other ladies are so unnecessary and, sometimes, Really Ugly!! And, Kathy, the "Coo Coo" comment, what can be mended by equating her to a nutjob or a even worse, a Dumbass?

Ani Wright
Ani Wright

Kathy, I love your family! Your husband is funny and your kids are awesome. When is your cook book going to come out?

T. Calvin
T. Calvin

Kathy,

Rich says the most horrible things about Teresa behind her back, but at the book signing he was so sweet and supportive. Kind of like you.

I guess my point is the viewers are not stupid and those of us who have been watching for years understand what is really happening. It's pretty low.

On a lighter note...you have two beautiful children that would make any parent very very proud.

Upset
Upset

What's with your husband and his mouth? Not only does he swear continously but he makes gay slurs too?! And everyone thinks he's great? I've been offended all season by him.

Mary87
Mary87

Can someone please tell me what Kathy said to Teresa that got Teresa so mad. If you are going to tell me that Kathy told Teresa that she left her kids unattended at the christening, well isn't that the TRUTH!!!!

So why is Teresa so mad? Does the truth hurt? Teresa shouldn't be mad at Kathy, she should be mad at herself for leaving the kids alone and not accepting the fact the Kathy was right!!

Patricia Abrecht
Patricia Abrecht

I think YOU are so classy. Your eyes and your mouth say that you would like to say something at times, but you have control enough to just keep quiet, often in the background, and look like the lady you are. I also think you are the most beautiful and exotic women I have seen in any of these shows. Your children are well mannered and respectful, which I have notice in your attentive husband too. It is such a joy to watch all of you, you are so calm and soft spoken...which seems to have created a nice peaceful welcoming home atmosphere. You and your family stand out...class has no words, just actions...and YOU have it. You have such talent, so go girl, do your thing.

Jean Connors
Jean Connors

Hi Kathy: I commend you for taking the extra step towards getting along with Teresa. You are a great addition to the show! I am also in awe at your ability with baking/cooking. I hope that you will find a venue for your culinary talents. Every time I saw the deserts and other culinary fare, I wish that I was there to partake in it. You truly have a gift. I also love how you get along with your children. They are adorable, mannerly and respectful. God Bless!

animasch
animasch

I love seeing you and your beautiful family on the show. You are great and the show is much better since you and Melissa have joined.... not so much for the negative drama, but for the laughs and being real that you bring to the show. If I still lived in Hasbrouck Heights, NJ, I would be a supporter for all that you do for charity. Keep a stiff upper lip, the haters will go away. :)

Viva
Viva

Kathy, I did not like you in the begining, but then I started to like you and how you tried to make peace, you ended going to the book signing, and then BAM, your makes a gay slur about Joe Guidice, Really, that says it all. But nobody is coming after him b/c some did not get what he said. What does that say about the two of you. Of course your not going to comment on this, why would you. As far as Miss Melissa is concerned, watch you back, your useful now to her, but sooner or later she will dig her talons into you. REMEMBER LA FAMILIA, you never discuss your dirty language outside the family and you never ever go against family.

susan-austin
susan-austin

kathy- love you- you've made a real difference on the show- took a couple of shows before you could tell "who's who". It didn't take long. You have such a great family, and yeaa, your hubb's a "ball ---ted" by a funny one, and is only protecting his wife. I loved it when he ran off the guy trying to dance with your daughter- more dads should be like that. I REALLY hope that you write a cookbook, your foods look so GOOD! I know Teresa has been through all the mess with her husband, but it's almost gotten to be like the "emperior's new clothes" Teresa has become a caracature of herself( i know -- you'll have to explain that to her). It seems the worse things get, the more make up and gaudy clother. That outfit at the beach was a horror! You are very lucky to have a lovely home, loving husband and some actually nice kids. You must have done something right. Sometimes when family problems get soooo bad, you have to walk away and wait for the dust to settle. I'd suggest becomeing closer to Caroline, it's evident that she likes you , and I think that she is really OVER the Teresa thing. You guys might have a calm and growing friendship, that could last for years..

gina winters
gina winters

hi kathy,i just wanted to tell you that i loveeeee you and your family!!!!!!your hubby is the best!!!!!!!he keeps me laughing!!!!!your son and daughter are soo respectable to you and the rest of your family---your definetly raised them correctly!!!you are th highlight of the show and i enjoy watching you!!!!i admire you and everything you do!!!!i wish i can try your cooking!!!!!!lol.....please give your hubby and kids a big hug and kiss from me!!!!love you kathy!!!!!xoxoxo

Priscilla151
Priscilla151

I have a sister like you. She walks around saying she is the nice one. When in reality she isn't so nice. You are not the nice one and your husband is not funny he creeps me out in the same way Joe Gorga creeps me out.

Nikki NYC
Nikki NYC

Hi Kathy! I love you and your family. Your kids seem to have good heads of their shoulders and your husband-what a B-buster, I love it!!! I think that some people take themselves a little too seriously and in turn, don't get Richie's humor. I don't believe he stirs up any trouble, I feel he does the opposite and doesn't entertain the BS...which is a good thing. Keep doing what you're doing because you're doing it right. I will always be one of your cheerleaders :) Hope that your town recovers as quickly as possible from the hurricane, thoughts and prayers xo

Guess12
Guess12

C'mon Kathy look at the big picture. Joe and Melissa do not need an invite. You do not need an invite. Joe and Melissa, showing up late, tormenting Teresa, making her read what she wrote. He is an idiot. Are you forgetting, Joey started it not Joe Guidace. Melissa's sister egg it on. I am sorry but you do the same thing. MOVE ON ALREADY!!!!! You wouldn't be on the show if it wasn't for Teresa. Your children are beautiful, get off the show and put your total focus on them.

Viewer9999
Viewer9999

You are on the show because you are related to Teresa. Truth be told, you agreed to be a pot stirrer in order to get on the show. Your husband has been and always will be creepy.

Lori 108
Lori 108

Kathy i give you alot of credit, family issues are hard to deal with , and Teresa i love her but OMG i cant she doesnt hear anything anyone is saying Caroline tries to give her advice and she hears NOTHING only her own voice oyyyyy it makes me crazy I do want to say you have a beautiful family and fantastic kids, i dont have children but if i did i would want kids like yours and you have a husband who adores you, your a very lucky woman dont let anyone even family get you down!!!

WindyCityWondering
WindyCityWondering

I cringe when your husband is in a scene - you can count on him to say something mean and all the "funny deliveries" doesn't hide that fact. Putting a show before your family was not a wise decision. Hope you are happy because you will never have a close relationship with your cousin again.

debbieinmissouricitytx
debbieinmissouricitytx

Kathy...The world can be cruel at times...some people, it seems, delight in being cold and disapproving...they will go out of their way to force others to be cold and disapproving! Negativity begets negativity. Intolerance begets intolerance. hate begets hate..But love and friendliness fortunately is just as contagious. If you generate postive energy, it can dispel alot of gloom..Find the courage to be kind to your cousin Teresa and BE STRONG ENOUGH TO BE SOFT AND TAKE A STAND AGAINST ANY KIND OF CYNICISM. no matter how weak you feel because love will always beget love!

TMontoya
TMontoya

Kathy I never comment on these things but I just wanted to let you know how I felt about watching you and your family. You guys are my FAVORITES on the show which I have watched since season 1. You seem to be the most genuine and real people on the show. I love how close nit you guys are and cuddos to you and RItch for raising good kids. Its not an easy thing to do. As far as your cousin, I feel bad for her. I havent seen anyone so consumed with appearance as she is. She tries so hard to prove shes not what we can all see she IS. It has to be exhausting to live everyday of your life in denial and on camera. Its hard Im sure but try not to lower yourself to her level. Good luck and god bless!

Jules0Gross
Jules0Gross

Kathy; I just love the addition of you and your family... You guys seem so down to earth; i pray all works out and your entire family can come together again...

Why Do I Watch This Show
Why Do I Watch This Show

You can also count on your husband to keep the trouble stirring! You also do that kind of crap. If you really want an end to all this then you and your husband should stop making all your bad comments about your family and stay out over their business!!! You try to act like you are so good and that none of this is your fault!! Hello

boncast
boncast

It was nice that you and your hubby showed up for Teresa's book signing. That was a good will gesture considering how ugly she has been towards you two.

Flamingo Road
Flamingo Road

Kathy, love you and your family. You are one classy lady and Richie is a doll - great sense of humor, too. I don't understand Teresa's attitude toward you and think she is all wet. I'm not sure her marriage is as happy as she trys to show on tv, but I hope all goes well with her. Love to you and your family!!

Cathy
Cathy

Kathy, I'm not your biggest fan because you cause a lot of the problems with your husband, but I have to tell you...You looked the best you have all season last night!!! Your hair & makeup was great!!!

Cathy

Jen Osbeck
Jen Osbeck

Kathy, I have really enjoyed watching you this season! You are a very classy woman, and it shows through your family. Your kids are respectful and love you and your husband very much. It is very refreshing to see! I just wanted to let you know how much I've enjoyed watching you this season!

hulali
hulali

I think Teresa is being overly sensitive about your comments and that there is a deeper problem between the two of you that has not surfaced on the show. Maybe you and her should sit down for an honest conversation (off camera) and try to work things out. With that in mind you should also ask you husband to hold back on the snarky comments about Tre and simply NOT engage in spitful conversations with Melilssa about her as well.

Rib
Rib

Love you! Love Rich! Haters are going to hate.

Ally
Ally

You are a great lady. Forget the haters. They never count anyway. You are going in the right direction with Tre. Still a little wary of Melissa. I think she feeds her husband and that isn't helping. She and Teresa's husband are really making a bad situation worse. Joe Gorga and Teresa need to tell their spouses to shut up and butt out!!! Gia's song should have gotten to all of them. If it didn't. There is no hope for any of them.

Generosa
Generosa

Teresa and her brother made such a big "imbroglio" over the book signing - he wanted an invite, she wanted him to come on his own -- and when he and Melissa did go, they came 3 hours late. Teresa and Joe are my least favorite couple, but what's right is right. Also, I'm tired of hearing about Gorga's "tarzan" and I thin Joe Giudice has a big drinking problem. I really used to love this show - not so much this season. Too much angst.

chili256
chili256

Kathy,

You are definitely a class act. Best to you and your family :D

Artistfriend
Artistfriend

Words hurt, and they can never be taken back. Once they are spoken they have caused someone pain and even if you say you're sorry those words are imprinted. You should set an example, especially with children, but what we say to them and in front of them effects them forever. This season should be a lesson to all adults.

Debi
Debi

Sorry Kathy, not falling for the BS. I don't get why your even on the show, you add NOTHING.

GVHousewife
GVHousewife

Kathy, please reach out to Teresa, it's obvious that her husband is falling to the rock bottom and can't handle his own life and with Teresa's success Joe is getting worse. Teresa is in a horrible place and dosen't need judgment she needs understanding. Yes she lashes out and does hurtfull things, I think she is lost and doesn't know what to do. She needs your love and understanding. Can you imagine being married to that loser. Dont judge her cry for her. She's putting on a tough act but she has to cry herself to sleep at night. I know that this show was months ago but it's never to late family

Tracy in Florida
Tracy in Florida

Hi Kathy, I do not think Joe Gorga was just looking for an invite he could of just shown up I would for my family no invite needed Joe Gorga was still mad at Teresa and especially her husband. Joe Gorga looked like a jerk the way he behaved he should of stayed home was it worh it making his sister read out loud what shw wrote. It was tasteless and rude and Melissa lookign on like a complete 8th grade bully. PLEASE give us a break and look at the entire picture MELISSA AND JOE could give alot more then they do. Hopefully with all the time that has passed things have changed. FRIENDLY reminder Joe Gorga started the drama at the christening not Teresa or her Joe.

carmencromartie
carmencromartie

Classy womans. You look great!!!! Your're husband loves you and your kids are beautiful and intelligent. Keep your head up with all these "die-hard" Teresa fans. Remember some people relate to her beacuse they're just like her and they can't she what she does wrong.

Kacymamaof4
Kacymamaof4

I think it's sad that you are always putting your cousin down...I agree with the person who pointed out, how the Gorga's can do anything, and you never say a wor to them....your on here out of jealously, so is Melissa...but Joe...Teresa on the show, I should be too...Love how little miss Melissa, who says she wants peace with Teresa, then says, that your hubby wants to have sex with Teresa...Teresa never said that, in fact she almost puked, after Melissa make that statement, about your hubby....listen to Teresa's words, she states that's not what I mean...but little miss gossip, jealous Melissa, ran with it to stir up shit...you may really want peace, but it doesn't really show! I think you need to tell Teresa sorry for what you said about her kids being alone...no mom, wants anyone , family or not, saying anything bad about there parenting. I hope it works out for ya's.....Melissa step back, your hubby loves you, even with all the critizing you do to him...I don't put my hubby down in front of no one...but I love whole heartedly...your there for the money...sad!!!!

el paso girl
el paso girl

Kathy as I commented on Caroline's, you girls are great. The Wakilie's are such a nice and beautiful addition to the housewives. I just love getting my hour with you and your families. Thank you.

Fan from DC
Fan from DC

Kathy, can you please tell your husband to stop "obsessing" over Teresa. Not the way Melissa implied (and lied about) but he's never on camera without talking about Teresa. I don't know what episodes you are are looking at but if you start at the beginning until now, you will see, if you want to, how Melissa lies and distorts every situation. This episode, she blatantly lied about "seeing" the text message sent by Juicy Joe to her husband. Her husband actually summarized his interpretation of what Juicy Joe texted back to him after he called him stupid. This is exactly why Teresa didn't want you all on the show. She didn't want her parents to see the constant bickering amongst all of you.