Kathy Wakile

Kathy comments on her beach battle with Teresa.

on Sep 20, 20110

As this episode starts out I sit here looking at the snow on the ground and I don't look forward to it at all. I am reminded that the colder weather is around the corner. I am happy that this episode takes us to a warmer place. I just want to enjoy the sun and the beach and the Caribbean and the wonderful Dominican people.  I want to thank them for being so kind, warm, and welcoming to us.

It is such fun to watch the children stuffing themselves into mom and dad's suitcases. It's a riot to see what kids will do next. They find such interesting places to hide and play in. It's just adorable to see.

Packing is such a big chore. Unpacking is even worse. I try to do it when I am excited to be getting away, and I try to be so thorough, wrapping in tissue paper and being so neat. I think I inherited this from my mom. She came to help and you can see how great she is at being so neat and perfect with what she does. I hope that's not the only thing I inherit from her. She has such a positive attitude and I love having our little chats. She always encourages me to take the high road and try to be the best that I can be. I am so lucky to have her in my life. She's one of a kind.

393 comments
Saintlover
Saintlover

I absolutely love you and Melissa!

PamTod
PamTod

Kathy, You are such a sweet person and frankly I think Tre should seek some mental help. I know she has been through a lot,but please. I also wanted to comment your cooking of desserts. I also try to cook a lot of desserts at Christmas and it is a lot of work. I encourage you to write a cookbook. They looked yummy and I certainly would buy one. Don't let Teresa get to you, she is ALWAYS right in her own mind. You can't compete with that.

Karen F
Karen F

Kathy: Just wanted to say hi - I just found your blog and will be following! I admire you so much and love watching you and your family every week!

Carolyn L
Carolyn L

Hi Kathy, LOL@ at your sister for giving Teresa the stare down. keep your head up and don't let that petty ish get to you.

Linda B
Linda B

Kathy may may not have been conscious of what she said to give her the benefit of the doubt but it was clear that she was saying she wasn't going to detach from her kids by opening a restaurant making it clear hat she thought Teresa would be spending less time with her kids by getting involved in the restaurant with Joe. She may be innocent about what she says but I think she is truly giving "digs" to provoke Teresa.

debbieinmissouricitytx
debbieinmissouricitytx

kathy...often, even in the best of relationships, we overstep our boundaries...we blame someone else for our failures or a situation that ultimately, we alone must take responsibility for. we caused our very own meltdown with our negative words or actions and then we point the finger at our victim. but instead of owning it we become entrenched in the mud and sewage and like pigs we roll around in our mud and sewage until we can no longer see what we have done....to hurt others...we become so blind with all the mud and sewage in our eyes...that often times we fail to see our own faults and bad behavior....I said all that to say this....it is not classy to say you want to club your cousin with a golf club...she did apologize to you. Did you apologize to her for all the mean and hateful things you said to her? Kathy...you have plenty to apologize to her for and sending flowers would not hurt anyone...so please Try working on your heart feeling lighter, and the rest of your life will follow suit. hope everything works out

Lindsey  Iannello
Lindsey Iannello

Whoa, Just watched the last episode Kathy seriously....I need another vacation, one with my kids. Thats a real vacation rolling your eyes disgusting you may not have meant to bash Teresa at the beach but you surely do a great job in your little interviews

Stuffedcabbages
Stuffedcabbages

You said you couldn't detach yourself from your children then you looked directly at Teresa and said "good luck." That most certainly was a dig. Seems everyone is ignoring that shot.

miamiHW
miamiHW

Kathy, you are my favorite housewife and your husband is the BEST!! I love him, you are two very classy people. You are the kind of people we like to be around, pleasant, yet playful, still respectful and humble. You bring sensibility to some unsensible situations. :)

Anna Marie Murphy
Anna Marie Murphy

Hi Kathy,

As I watched the show and saw how Teresa turned something so innocent into something so vile, I wanted to hug you and tell you that you were not at fault. You are a beautiful woman along with Jacqueline. I know Teresa is your cousin, but I am Italian and never in my family have I experienced anything like the fighting that goes on in this family. Maybe you should look into writing a dessert cookbook as you make fabulous desserts. Good luck to you and to your family.

stay on teresa's side
stay on teresa's side

athy glad that you made up we teresa with that see i can't beleived how some members of the manzo are acting towards Teresa.Jaqueline,lauren,Caroline! who has a blog to give advise.I am so sad to see how she is getting treated.She said one thing in her book which sorry i think is true they could never cooked the way you and your famly cook.Caroline has said so many more things about Teresa this season so i don't get why Gregg (a nobody on the show that will in time be no good to the manzos boys because he is a fame whore) making a situation worse by making stupid remarks.

Be with your cousin and drop the people aboved hey are only talking to you to hurt Teresa and if you want real loyal friend's they are not the ones. a dog in a street is better than there faked frienship.

RebaD
RebaD

Kathy, just love your breath of fresh air! Rich and your children are delightful! It seems that you and I have a lot in common when it comes to raising children, cooking and caring for our households along with wanting something of our "own"! I too am an Italian/American and love it!! I feel for you having a cousin such as Tre, I too have a Tre, gotta love em but does not mean we have to like em! It get so irritating speaking to a brick wall that cannot retain what you're saying! It has to be the in the water that you and I did NOT drink! As an Italian/American, I believe that family comes first and that we hold our husbands "high", but if I had a man like Joe Guidice, he'd never get out of that bed, she's constantly telling him to get out of! I cannot imagine a MAN who does not bring home the bacon or dies trying! If my husband EVER disrespected myself or spoke to me in the manner in which Joe spoke to Tre the night you went to have her sign your book was dispicable!! You can only imagine what reprecussions that would have brought upon himself from the male family members. Now, as for cookbooks, after seeing all of your wonderful dishes, desserts, etc., YOU are the one that I'm wanting an Italian cookbook from! I would love to have all those dessert recipes that YOU make versus a book filled with Tre's mumbojumbo and just a few recipes after speaking of the women on the show.... who does that in a cookbook? Anyway, who cares what she or others think if you should, at least you can say, you actually COOK them....... can't wait to see you next week and on the finale! Hear that Jacqueline has quit.... but could be rumor, but I think it's time for a change up of cast anyway.... with you, Caroline and Melissa as the main crew awaiting the new ladies..... so done with the BS Drama of the others.... we have enough of our own at home versus watching the crap on television! Again, LOVE you and your family, you are what America SHOULD be seeing! Love, laughter and actual Living!! ;)

Nancy G in NJ
Nancy G in NJ

Kathy: Be the bigger person where tre is concerend. If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. I agree with you that Joe Gudice is nothing to look at, and the image of him with tre , you know being "So active" burs my eyes! lOL but just ignore her and maybe keep your negative comments to yourself, and she will have nothing to come at you with. Stop feeding into her negativeness.

nanaNancy
nanaNancy

Kathy I have to admit that the fighting on the beach was not your fault, Teresa did not want to listen to you and she has been in attack mode for sometime, but I think that she is like that with you because you don't know when to shut the hell up. You say you want to let things go and just be family and that the way to resolve issues with Teresa is to just let it go, but then you go and do your interviews and you throw down the gauntlet once again and start talking your crap. Why? I dont understand you three, you say one thing to the camera in front of each other and then you and Melissa attack Teresa when her back is turned and can't defend herself and then when she sees what you did she gets mad and you play all innocencent. Are you that delusional? I think Joe Guidice had the right idea. Who cares who said what, did what etc. just get along already or leave each other the hell alone. If you don't like Teresa, then don't invite her to do things with you anymore, its that simple. remove yourself from the scene.

Marcie G in DC
Marcie G in DC

OMG.........are all of you Kathy fans watching the same show I am?!?! You commend her for being such a wonderful, classy person for trying to mend things with her "stubborn/impossible" cousin.......Hellooo!! Do you not see her interviews where she does nothing but talk trash about Theresa and her husband?!?!?! A wonderfuly, classy person does not do that. She is a sneaky snake who tries to play both sides!! Kathy, Melissa, Rich and Joey are all a bunch of fakes - your 15 minutes are almost up (tick-tock, tick-tock)!!

Jean Connors
Jean Connors

Hi Kathy: I have to agree with some of the blogs when they say that you are a classy lady and that you and have wonderful children and that everyone can see that you and Richie love and support one another. I am also glad that Teresa apologized to you for lashing out at you about your comment on the beach. But I have to say, Teresa needs to grow up. She has proven time and time again that she is all about the material things. I love the way you have brought up your two children. It is obvious that you did not just offer them materials things. Their love for you and Richie is a wonderful thing for all to see! I also love your ability at catering and hope that you will write your own book and become very successful!

OTexViewer
OTexViewer

hmmmmmm.....could it be something about the FAMILY they are trying so hard to keep together? The people we see as being just a little "class-less" (sorry, can't think of a better way to phrase it) are Tre and Joe, Joe and Melissa?? Their family are the ones stirring up the pots and causing problems.

Dezi
Dezi

Kathy, don't believe Teresa's apology. She has an agenda now that she is not getting along with more than half the cast. Think about it...if she doesn't make up with you and Melissa, she won't have ANYONE on the show to be on her side, since she doesn't get along with the Manzo's anymore. Don't be a fool! Even in Italian families, you need to know who your true family is.

Monica S.
Monica S.

I just have to say how much I LOVE you and your family. Don't listen to all that other S#@*!!!! Your are amazing and I am so sorry about all the drama you have to go through. Just know there are a million more like me who want to say this to you and wish you the best. Keep your chin up!!!

So Sad!
So Sad!

Not a fan! All you and Melissa want to do is talk trash about Teresa and its not classy!! You booth came to the show to cause drama! So many of my friends have stopped watching!

kimibbear
kimibbear

OK Kathy....you're "KOOKOO" if you think for one 2nd that Teresa will not turn-around & stab you in the back. Don't let your guard down w/her as she cannot be trusted & does not have your best interest @ heart. Your sister was right to give Teresa the stare-down as the 2 of you were talking, because she isn't buying Teresa's garbage either.

Lanehousewife
Lanehousewife

Please don't get wrapped up in all the nasty fighting. You look like the much better person by not saying anything negative about cast mates. Bite your tounge and you'll come out smelling like a rose. Hopefully, only positive for the rest of the season. Would hate to see anyone of you ladies fired like Jill, Kelly and Alex.

babyt
babyt

My brother, sister-in-law and I have spent the last year bickering and taking jabs at one another (with major low blows). My mother just got diagnosed with Alzheimer's... Instead of making memories together with our mother and all the grand kids we just threw away an entire year on nonsense. We are in our 30's and our children range from toddler to 13, so, it's not something we thought was going to happen this early... My advice... get over it! Let it go and enjoy being a family before it is too late.

Dee Dee 2
Dee Dee 2

BRAVO PLEASE POST MY COMMENT. THANK YOU.

Kathy, Maybe you are winning, because you realize as long as you say negative things about Teresa you will be noticed. If you didn't stop talking out of both sides of your mouth you wouldn't be so bad. You and Melissa are on the show with your family, so you don't need to get that kind of attention.

michele saracino
michele saracino

I totally agree with dc2truckee . Kathy you are a very beautiful and classy woman. Caroline and Jacqueline are right up there also.

kellilyn01
kellilyn01

I didn't like Kathy at first. Her or Melissa not at all.. I see Kathy and Melissa really trying to work things out with Theresa. Kathy has won me over hands down. Just her unique ways of being nice. Theresa is the one i'm worried about. Something is just not connecting at all with that girls brain.. She really ought to seek help. She gets everything twisted and backward all of the time.. and she use to be my favorite hands down... Melissa i don't know about her.. the verdict is still out something about her just something just doesn't sit to well with me.. Kathy is great ! Carolyn was won over by her too.. and that does say alot !!!

dc2truckee
dc2truckee

Kathy you are a classy lady. Caroline and Jacqueline share that trait with you. Teresa, the Joes and Melissa not so much.

Mel from Texas
Mel from Texas

Kathy, first of all, Kudos to you and Richie for going after your dream of owning and running a catering business. I know you will succeed! I think Teresa was mad because the reality of opening a restaurant based on her cook books, was not looking as "glamorous" or easy to her and Joe after Al gave them a harsh reality about opening and maintining a restaurant. For someone who just "crushed" their dreams, as Al did, she surely held her tongue about it, which I find very surprising, considering how vocal and opinionated she is!! I believe you walked into a conversation which had already headed south for Joe and Teresa and she used you as a verbal "punching bag" to let her true frustrations out. Also, for someone who brags as being the best mommy in the world, she surely does get defensive on the subject. Noone has ever accused Teresa of being a bad mother, especially you, but she keeps bringing it up to reassure everyone that she is a good mom, or maybe she's just trying to reassure herself. Whatever the case may be, stick to the high road and I know it's hard, but try not to engage in her nonsense and stay the Classy Lady which you are !!!

kylen
kylen

Kathy regardless of what others may say, I love you, and I also love Teresa. Even if Teresa is in the wrong, about her leaving her children unattended to, then just don't bring it up. Just talk to her in a quiet place and be honest about how you feel, and let her be honest about how she feels, and then both of you should apologize for whatever words that were spoken, and agree to move forward. May God bless you in Jesus name and surround you with his love, peace, kindness, hope, and with his precious blood that he shed for all of us. Be blessed.

maryleebr
maryleebr

Hi there Kathy, think you and Caroline are amazing. Really enjoy watching the show. Also love Melissa and Jacqueline, not too fond of Theresa I'm afraid, lol. Are you thinking of doing a baking cook book? Love to see one by you. I'm a Canadian born with Italian back ground and would love to get some of your recipes they looked amazing in the thanksgiving episode. Here in Canada we receive the episodes later then the U.S we are just watching the Thanksgiving episode, and all the baked goods your brought over to Melissa's looked amazing! So I hope you think about sharing with the rest of us! By the way, good for you for rescuing Theresa's children. Theresa is the one that keeps causing things to happen instead of walking away and taking the high road. My friends and I who are all fans of the show clearly see that you are not trying to stir up trouble. If anything, they only people without class on that show is Theresa and her bully husband Joe. I'm almost embarrassed to be Italian when I watch the way they behave, absolutely no class. Kathy your kids and husband are very lucky to have you! :)

ahintexas
ahintexas

I understand wanting to keep your family together, but I don't think Teresa wants anything to do with her family, except maybe her brother {and I find it weird, she acts like his GF}. I don't think you were trying to take a dig at her. After watching RHoNJ from season one to now, I think Teresa has changed. I think she's let the fame get to her. She has real issues she needs to work out. I honestly don't buy that she had no idea they had money trouble. She, in my opinion, is just as guilty has her husband. Kathy, you and your family have been a great addition to the show this season. Hope you are back next season. Stay classy!

Christy B
Christy B

Kathy, I absolutely love you!! I think you are a perferct example of what a Classy Ladie should be...And your husband is Hiarious!!!!

dkettle
dkettle

Kathy - I admire your grace, maturity and continual ability to show that you can bite your tongue and be the bigger person. I did not take from your conversation regarding your decisions about opening a restaurant as being directed whatsoever at Teresa. What hasn't been been mentioned or discussed on Andy's show with the playback to prove was that "Yes, in fact her infant daughter was left unattended" during the disagreement at the christening. We all saw it and I was disgusted. I am a mother with a 6 year old son and I still under no circumstances take my eye off of him. You have been right all along and she has been wrong. What is sad is that I use to enjoy her from a viewer standpoint and I feel particularly this season and it started some last season was that her behavior is causing severe damage to her future. I would have had much more respect for her if she could stand up and admit the many faults she has as a person. I love to cook, but I will never spend a dime on any of her cookbooks. On the other hand, if you decide to publish one, I would be very inclinded to purchase it. Best of luck to you!

kelly rice
kelly rice

I think you & Caroline are the smartest ones out of the whole bunch :o)

LadyTexan
LadyTexan

Teresa would argue with a tree if she thought she'd get 15 more seconds of air time.

Meliie
Meliie

Kathy, hang with the ladies that play nice. Sometimes family can be a big pain the butt! You are not the problem, we ALL know who the problem is. Be the lady that you always are. Take a step back and smell the roses. Life is too short to let others suck all the life out of you. I would love to see some of those delicious receipes you make on the show. I think Bravo should base a show around you cooking. You would sell way more books then T ever could. You are the real deal! :) Be happy, you have a beautiful family. God bless.

Asia28
Asia28

I'm amazed at the people who totally blame Teresa. Yes, she is a bit edgy the season, but I believe it has a lot to do with all that she is going through. Meanwhile, you and Melissa act as though you are totally innocent. I knew immediately why Teresa went off. Insulting any mother about their kids are fighting words. I knew immediately that she was still sensitive about what was said at the christening. You should apologize for what you said back then Kathy. It was WRONG. You and Melissa annoy me because you do and say just as much negative and never own up to it!!!!

24kDAR
24kDAR

I have nothing but admiration for you Kathy. You held in a lot this season and acted like a lady. Teresa IS in the wrong here but she just can't see past herself! I truly believe she needs to get some help--maybe sell off one of her many raggie furs to pay for the counselling. I know how hard it is to put on a happy face when someone is out to get you. You did good and I enjoy watching you and your family.

kikiViewer
kikiViewer

kathy i think you should show common curtiousy when you see your cousin by saying hello, and then leave it at that. its obvious she still carries a gruge and we all know gruges are wts of poision. let her go already! when the time is right, God will bring it around to a happy medium! God bless and take care of your heart...............u dont want it cold like her's. (teresea)

not a jersey mom
not a jersey mom

Kathy, I don't think you did anything wrong. My dad use to say that a hit dog will holler. Teresa lives to be the center of attention and she never listens to anyone because she is so busy running her mouth

HoneyTalks
HoneyTalks

I cannot believe how insecure Teresa is...Kathy, you did not start anything on the beach. You were giving your opinion from your feelings pertaining to your family, not Teresa's. Teresa is the one that took it wrong. She is the one who is so so insecure. Even with editing of the reality show, the comments coming out of Teresa give a big impression she is insecure, whether it is Kathy or Melissa. Even her husband understands this insecurity to some degree, when he yells "stop, just stop" to Teresa. He wants Teresa to drop it, but Joe tries to do it without upsetting her...poor guy. He is between a rock and a hard place living with Teresa.

VIP@YAKIMA,WA
VIP@YAKIMA,WA

Kathy you are the most simple minded fool if you didn't know Teresa would act that way. You make simple gestures like, "I wouldn't do that because of my kids". Come on that is a shot at Teresa saying i am better. Teresa should do it like we do over here and just beat the crap out of you. You do have excellent children and i do respect that, but your comments are rude and you have a wrong way of bringing them out. Teresa is just trying to make a long-term career to support her family and you say i can't have a restraunt because of my kids. Well some of us make careers because of our kids. Your way of saying it was disrespectful to all of us hard working mother's and father's who have to both work.

Faye McCutchion
Faye McCutchion

Love, love you Kathy. Good luck on your catering venture. I hate your picture on Bravo, it looks too hard. You are a pretty lady. I love that Greg thinks you are so pretty too. Seems like he would be a good friend for you and Melissa. Good luck with your family, they are all so cute. Love the hubby too.

Temecula Viewer
Temecula Viewer

Okay, I am not a fan of Teresa but I am not a fan of yours either. Teresa and the swim suit fashion show so over the top, Joe G and the rude comments about how Caroline's husband doesn't know anything about a night club/restaurant , the who is hotter competition between sister-in-laws, all over the top Teresa family norm. But, behind the facade is a woman wonder how things went so wrong financially, and how her family is not what she projects it to be. Her brother is the same way, he is over the top and it will be his downfall. She says they have a great marriage and we don't see the real Joe. Maybe if we did he would be more likeable. But, Kathy, you know Teresa is still fuming about the christening and the comments made by you about leaving her kids. Jeez! Kids should be off limits. I think you try to make everything in your life look, sound, feel perfect. I bet there are some cracks there.

Karen V.
Karen V.

Kathy,

Teresa ALWAYS instigates trouble. She did before you were on the show with Danielle. And she ALWAYS wants to be the center of attention.

I say tolerate her. Be polite and say hello when you see her and leave it at that. I do NOT like her. I never have. And I certainly would not trust her in any way.

Caroline, Melissa, Jaq, and you are my favorites.

Teresa will continue to argue with anyone willing to argue with her (and anyone not willing too also).

Life is too short to waste your time arguing with someone like her. She will never get it. You just have to be the bigger person and walk away sometimes.

Anyway, take care.

Karen

njViewer
njViewer

Sigh, not really happy with how Teresa is portrayed but giving her a little rope due to her circumstances. You are self proclaimed more intelligent than teresa but you are not very articulate. You are older and know how she is so are you not bright enough to talk to her at her in a manner in which she can understand. The cuckoo comment was totally not necessary and very immature. Were you acting like a lady (like Greg thought you were)? Hell to the No.

Linda
Linda

Kathy, walk away from Teresa. She's crazy. Why even try? You can't win an argument with an ignorant crazy self deluded person.

Catdoc
Catdoc

Sorry, Kathy, I still think that you owe your cousin an apology for saying that she left her child unattended. You don't bring someone's baby into the mix.

BTW, you looked great in your modest bathing suit--so much classier than what Melissa and Teresa were wearing. Just because you can wear a bikini, doesn't mean you should!

Viewer-DEBB
Viewer-DEBB

LOVE YOU AND RICH....WE WOULD HAVE A BLAST ON VACATION TOGETHER. I HAVE 17 YEAR OLD TWINS. TEAM Kathy all the way...have been from the start.

Kelly Moore
Kelly Moore

Kathy...you are the sane one. You've raised your kids well and your family dynamics are awesome to watch! Forget about all these haters. You've got it going on. Don't for one minute let anyone tell you different! Life is hard enough. Stay away from Teresa! She's showing what a pig looks like with lipstick!!!!!