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Kathy Wakile

Beating a Dead Horse

Kathy comments on her beach battle with Teresa.

Sep 20, 2011

So we get to Punta Cana and I'm thinking luscious palm trees and balmy breezes, and it's funny to hear the Manzo boys refer to the setting as Jurassic Park. It's a big laugh for us, because they are always saying how much my husband looks like Jeff Goldblum in case you missed that joke. So the joke about Jurassic Park and Rich being comfortable there was a hoot.

On our trip over to the hotel it was clear that boys will be boys. You can take the boys out of Jersey but can't take Jersey out of the boys. We have arrived, as Melissa so perfectly put it, and if they have to go, they have to go. They never grow out of that need to be free, and as men grow up they don't seem to grow out of that little boy quality.

Our villas were amazing! They were so beautiful. When we reached the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino, it was just gorgeous. Our host there, Dale Hipsh, was so accommodating and took such good care of us, making sure our stay there was perfect. I was very impressed with the hotel and the grounds and it was a really great stay.

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Kathy, you and your family are awesome! Don't change a thing!

Kathy,

You are a class act! Keep your head up and don't let the BS bring you down!!

A.

aw, come on kathy... you know that comment you made was a dig at your cousins expense and you knew she'd know it was-- you baited Teresa, and you were mean

I have to say, Kathy, it did seem like a dig!

Though I think you have great intentions the problem is that you haven't addressed your issues with your cousin. After the fashion show you called Caroline and met her at her house to apologize, but did you ever call your cousin and meet to talk? All of you are so great at shoving things under the rug and as you could see by the christening dinner things will only get worse if you don't confront them and deal with them. All of you are wrong, there is no innocent party, each of you have gossiped about the other causing deeper rifts. Talking about your cousin to Melissa who also has problems with Teresa is not good that only causes more division. Its best if you talk to someone who can be objective and has no stake in this relationship. I do wish you all the best but each of you must own your bad attitudes, negative and hurtful words, and apologize first then and only then can you move on.

How about taking some responsibility for throwing gas on the fire?

You're an instigator until you approach the conflict with Teresa and Joe with humility and accountability for your role. Instead of pointing fingers and blaming the other party, how about communicating with tact and diplomacy? Or giving up the sarcasm, snark and talking smack behind Teresa's back? Hmm... there's a strategy... unless what you really want is to stir the pot?

You got what you wanted a tv show. Leave teresa alone,

Kathy,

I feel so bad for you everytime Teresa gives you a hard time. We all know you tried to reach out to her, and everytime she lashed out. Doesnt look very good on her part. Im over her and her "ingrediences". God bless you and your family, and your mommy reminds me alot of mine.

xoxo

Kathy, I gotta admit...I was not sure of you for the first few episodes. BUT, Now I see!! I get it!! Teresa is like a dog with a bone. She just keeps on and on. And really, what you said had NOTHING to do with her at all. I see that you are a kind person with a big forgiving heart and I just want to say how sorry I am. I sat in judgement of you every week and really had nothing to go off of, other than what we heard from Teresa. Well, no more. This fan has woken up and Ive smelled the coffee ;) Thank you for joining the cast!!

Kathy, I think you're the greatest!

Love you.... keep doing what ur doing.

Hey Kathy, I think your an awesome person

Dear Kathy,

You and Rich have made watching this show so much more enjoyable! I love you guys!!! You have an amazing family.

I think the only way the feud between you and Teresa is going to end is if you are the bigger person and apologize over the comments you made at the fashion show--I don't personally think you meant any harm, but she was upset about it, so just tell her you are sorry and you weren't trying to accuse her of being a bad mom. If she doesn't accept your apology, then let her look like an idiot. Personally, I think she should just let it go, but she is like a dog with a bone.

I wish you much happiness and success with your future ventures.

Really. Maybe Greg, Melissa and yourself had a private discussion to get the Party started. After all Greg is harmless

Team Wakile !!!!!!!!

Hi Kathy,

You knew exactly what you were doing by making that comment to Teresa. It was a smart move on your part. You had the perfect audience, setting and an easy target. You knew she was going to be defensive. Well played! One piece of advice...stop rolling your eyes. It freaks people out. Not a good look for you.

Kathy no need to apologize.. I commend you for always taking the high road. Thank you for acknowldging the people of the Dominican Republic. I'm Dominican born and raised in the US and the people in DR are so welcoming and very hospitable. So happy you had such a great time in Punta Cana.

I was in Punta Cana this summer and I absolutely loved it so I see why your family always takes trips down there every year.

Love you and your family!!!!!

Kathy you said "i couldn't detach myself from my kids" I took that the same way tresea did You implied that treasea was ready to detach herself from her kids

Maybe you didn't mean it but you should realize what you were implying

Kathy, You knew EXACTLY what you were doing! You set her up and than pretend you were all innocent in your comment. You didn't open a restaurant because you had no money or investors, not because of your kids! I would have went off on you the minute you said "Well, Lots of luck with that" in that negative tone! Mind your business!!! Previous poster made an excellent point about going to Caroline's house but not Teresa's. I guess a relationship with Caroline is more important than with your cousin.

High road? I have never, EVER seen anyone as hypocritical with what they say and then put “out there” in action. "There's enough stars in the sky, they can all shine bright." You want Teresa to shut up and forget how you used, turned on and trashed her family strife, and her livelihood for fame. Fascinating how after you got everything you wanted: fame, a tv show and a chance to get rich with your,uh, catering ,by completely blind sighting her cuz she was having a great run on a reality show, you now want her to "be nice" and never, ever bring it up again cuz you want everyone to forget about that little part. She's a wreck and things will NEVER be the same between, her and her brother, her parents and their son, their nucleus family as a whole and her children that are old enough to remember (at least two) Foerver!! This was a big deal. And why did it happen? Because Teresa was having success, notoriety and you and Melissa wanted it. You wanted it enough to sell your souls really. If you really do as you preach, saying Teresa never grew up cuz she can't be happy for other people, you wouldn't have had to move in on her show, you would have been happy for her. YOU should have grown up instead of sitting with Melissa and plotting how to get in on her fame. Please leave with dignity. Puleeeease

Kathy, Let me enlighten you on social etiquette. If you are addressing the subject at hand, never inflict your own opinions into someone elses situation. Of course Teresa took it as a dig ~ You know you meant it to be! she was already feeling you questioned her mothering abilities and you came right out and told her that what her and her husband are considering is something YOU would never do.... Inferring YOU are a much better mother than her! You owe Teresa an opology. I know you have more class than that.

Kathy - there is no way that was a dig. Teresa is delusional and narcissistic and foaming at the mouth for a fight. It isn't about you at all - it is about her. There is no way that was a normal reaction. You seem to be one of the most normal, well-adjusted people on any of the Housewives shows. You had me in the first episode when you biked to the grocery store! Stay true to yourself and don't let the "koo-koo" get you down!

I think you knew exactly what you were doing with your underhanded comment. Grow up Kathy. Makes you look jelous. Even if by chance you didnt mean it like that. Thats how it came out so you should apoligize.

Interesting how some people think it would have been easy to sit down with Teresa and talk. That's laughable. Teresa has said several times during the season and she is "not ready" and at other times she has said that she 'doesn't care." Hell, she doesn't even listen to her friends when they try to give her a different point of view. She's defensive and obnoxious - so reasoning with her is a lot like trying to reason with a donkey (a.k.a. an ass), it's just not going to happen. Kathy, I was not sure about you in the beginning of the season but I really enjoy watching you and your lovely family. I do not think you are an instigator. I do not think you have to humble yourself in Teresa's presence or refrain from stating your opinion in social settings. She and her husband are both hotheads and irrational so you should choose to save your breath every now and then and don't bother trying to explain yourself to her - remember 'never argue with stupid.' To the Teresa defenders, maybe you have missed half of Teresa's scenes because she talks behind everyone's back half the time she is on the tv screen: e.g. Joey is disrespectful, Melissa feeds her husband poison, Richie is annoying, Kathy is sneaky, and so on. Get over yourselves. I would like to end on an agreeable note, so I'll say this: Everyone is correct about Kim G. She is garbage and shouldn't be allowed within a mile of the ladies when they are filming. I'm tired of looking at her and hearing that annoying guttural voice.

You know how to bait Teresa..we get it..now stop.

You throw the rock and hide your hand. Support and love your cousin during this very difficult time! Get off the Melissa train....she's toxic!

Kathy,

Most of the viewers know that your comment was not about Teresa. DON'T LISTEN TO THE NEGATIVE COMMENTS. You are a very nice lady. I love your family. Your mom is just the greatest.

Once again you just couldn't help yourself when you saw the perfect opportunity to throw a nasty dig at Teresa. When will you learn that this strategy will never work with her. Like you said while rolling your eyes "Good Luck With That".

All of you who took what Kathy said as a "dig", have issues like Teresa. And who is Teresa to get offended by what SHE INTERPRETED as a "dig" when she made a "dig" to Melissa about brother/sister relationships being ruined once they marry. Melissa took the high road and ignored Teresa's "dig". So even if Teresa thought Kathy made a "dig", that's no excused for her to respond so irrationally. Teresa is outrageous. Kathy did nothing wrong in this situation.

If it weren't for Teresa, nobody would even know who you are. For someone who owes her big time, you sure don't act like. Instead of taking digs at Teresa in your interviews and when you're surrounded by your band of loyal followers, why don't you be a grown u and hash out your problems with her one-on-one in private, unless your motives are more camera time? Yeah the latter is more like it. By the way, you keep saying Teresa is unintelligent, but she has a degree and had a career. Did you go to college? Did you ever have a professional career? Didn't think so.

Please, the only reason for you being on the show is to be an instigator. You don't do anything else. ALL your comments to the camera are not just digs but name-calling and insults against Theresa and her husband. You don't talk about anything else. If that is really the way you feel about them, why would you want to be close with them? If Theresa is "delusional" and "unintelligent" and "cuckoo," what kind of relationship are you seeking with her? If you really want to let the past go then DROP IT. Oh, but then there would be no reason for you to on the show anymore. Right, I see. You have made watching this show a real chore.

Kathy,

You have been nothing but gracious and classy this whole season. Over and over, you have tried to show Teresa kindness and patience only to have her throw it back in your face. You have been more patient than most would have been with her.

The bottom line is--Teresa is addicted to drama. Last season, she had someone on the same "crazy" mentality level who loved fighting as much as she does--Danielle! This season, she's on her own. You, and the rest of the ladies on the show, have more self dignity and class to "freak out" at other cast members. Teresa just needs to constantly stir the pot; and unfortunately, this season, you and Melissa are her targets. She has no self awareness of how foolish she looks.

We watch every week; and trust me, viewers love you and feel for what you have to deal with every week. You are a wonderful person with an lovely, and so adorable!, family!

Teresa comes off unhinged & a ridiculous hot head this year. She's upset because she's having to share the spotlight. She needs to grow up.

Kath, Don't worry the viewers aren't stupid. Teresa has such a HUGE chip on her shoulder. She takes everything personally. And always needs to be in competition with everyone. Who cares who has the most or best bikinis. She looks like an idiot always competing with everyone. Plus she can NEVER be happy if something good happens for someone else. That makes her feel insecure. I love how she has to tell us how good of a mother she is and how she is going to look the best and her husband is good in bed etc. No one else does that.Well maybe Melissa does about how good she looks but when she does it ,it doesn't feel offensive it feels more playful. Just keep being your classy self.

I really enjoy watching now that your family is on. Your teaching your daughter to distinguish between a man that flatters her and a man that compliments her. A man that spends money on her and a man that invests in her. A man that views her as property and a man that views her properly. A man that lusts after her and a man that loves her. A man that believes he is God's gift to women and a man that remembers a woman was God's gift to man...and your teaching your son to be that type of man. They will be great adults, I give you & your Husband kudos! I loves when your Mom is on with you it's so sweet to see the special bond ya'll have. Your doing what you love to do (cooking) life is too short not to be happy.

Kathy don't listen to these other posters and their stupid comments. That was NOT A DIG...

They are not thinking. It makes no sense for you go on all season to try and make amends with Teresa then take several steps back and purposely make a blatant dig at her and disturb the peace. That's just ridiculous for people to assume.

Keep your head held high and i wish for once Bravo would post my comments. This is ridiculous.

You knew exactly what you were doing. That said, on a better note, I love your immediate family's dynamic. You & Richie have 2 great kids!

The comment truly was a dig at Theresa.. knowing she would take offense, what mother wouldn't??

Also... I don't recall Kathy even being IN the conversation to begin with.. just sat back down and invited herself (rather rudely I might add), into the conversation.

Knew what she was doing... period.

I love the picture that Bravo put up with your typical krazy kathy face! eyes bugged out screaming koocoo koocoo! now if only they could show you rolling your eyes numerous times!

Kathy,

Honestly, it did come across as a dig. I'm a relater and I sometimes make passive-aggressive comments like that when I don't approve of someone's behavior. Just own it. You don't approve of how she handles her kids, and that's okay. That's your opinion. Teresa is not reacting as much to what you say, but HOW you say it. She would rather you come straight out and insult her instead of trying to cover it up with sweetness. Of course, Teresa's reactions are not your responsibility, but you have to realize her self-esteem is very low. Until she gets help for that you have to lay off the judgments and just lead by example. Try a different approach and just love her the best you know how. She needs therapy.

kathy you and your husband are a hoot! love watching you both! but my big question is ~ why do you and melissa keep trying to work things out with Teresa, family or not!? Blood does not equal love and they have no love for you or melissa! If there is one person who is always having problems with other people (Joe G and Teresa) it would seem that it would be obvious who has the real problem! wipe your hands and be done with them!

Ignore the haters. They've gone and mixed Teresa's koolaid with grain alcohol and are doing shooters under the boardwalk. There is no reasoning with either them or your cousin.

oh come on Kathy! The "I didn't mean it that way" excuse is really getting old!! Try something new......bless your heart

I'm not sure you're as innocent as you claim to be...

Teresa will never grow up. Doesn't matter what you say or do she will always find an opening to attack. Anyway...why the tissue paper? Don't they mess it up when they inspect your bag?

Why in front of everyone did you say something like that, I took it to mean Theresa wasn't going to be interested in her kids anymore. Just shut up already, everyone feeling sorry for you when you know exactly what you are doing. Get over yourself and why would you want to muscle in on Theresa's friends, don't you have any of your own. The wonderful Manzo family should all be ashamed of themselves and they way they treat and talk about Theresa, with friends like you and them, who the heck needs enemies.

Kathy and Teresa are too close to see the situation clearly. I don't think Kathy meant it as a dig. They are talking about 2 different things. In Kathy's case, it would be "her" restaurant. "She" would be doing the managing, etc., she would be "hands on". That would "detach" her from her children. With Teresa, Joe would be manager, etc. and Teresa would be less hands on, thus it would not be as large of a time committment for "her".

I just think that Teresa has been beat up by these two for so long (as families do) that she can't step back and see the bigger picture. Hopefully seeing it on TV will help???

I hope they all work it out! Looking forward to Teresa having a genuine smile again!! :-)

I myself did not take that as a dig towards Teresa. I would have said the same thing. My husband was going to purchase a bar and restraunt and keep his full time job in another state. I also work full time, but I know I would have had to spend alot of time there to help manage it and I did not want to take anymore time away from my children. Thank god he listened to reason ( his father ) and didnt buy it. I could tell from Rich and Albert's faces and body language that they think Joe is delusional. It's been very hard watching Teresa this season. It's always me,me,me with her. I hope she grows up soon and becomes a little more humble.

Kathy

You and Melissa make me sick. Go back to baking your cookies and leave Teresa alone! You girls jumped on her bandwagon and now look to throw her off it!