So here we are, almost at the end of Season 3. I have to admit, I had no idea what lay ahead when I started this amazing journey. I want to say that it has been wonderful to connect with so many terrific viewers, and I appreciate your concern and support for my family.
I'd like to start by addressing some of the questions and issues that have come up during the season and at the first part of the reunion.
Really .... u r so ignorant u "had no idea" that going on the show would UPSET Teresa??? U and Melissa RUINED the show, season, series for me! Hope u r happy!
Kathy, you are a wonderful woman. I know Teresa is family and you will always lover her but I think realistically you just have to give up on having a normal relationship with her. She is self absorbed in her and her husband's lives (and the mess he made of it). You have a beautiful family. Consider yourself blessed.
I'm so over you always playing the innocent victim. Please stop with all the "facts" and just move on. You knew for a "fact" that going on the show would create drama and you went for it. If you were such the innocent peace maker you would have never done the show. Now there is a true fact for ya.
Kathy: I admire you for working and hoping that the family can be reconciled with Teresa and "Juicy" Joe. However, I feel that Teresa has let the "Fame" go to her head and her already irrational tactics and ideas are even more so now. Please just hold your wonderful family close (Rich, Joe and Melissa, etc.) because those are the folks who hold you dear and love you through thick and thin. I think Teresa needs help... both emotionally, mentally and obviously financially.
Kathy, you really do not have to defend yourself! Your cousin has not been very nice to you or your husband. During part I she made it perfectly clear that she was "salty" before the season even started. Sharing the spotlight does not seem to be something that she was ever willing to do graciously. Throughout the season I have really enjoyed your introduction into the group. You have a beautiful family and so much to be proud of! I think Rich is a riot and the children are awesome...seeing how much your family loves I am sure it is very difficult feeling a strain elsewhere in the family. I give you a lot of credit for your continued efforts in making a mends. P.S. Your food presentations are amazing, all I need now is taste-o-vision!
Fact:Your cousin is hurting deep down inside about her husband and how things turned out. Fact: You have to realize Melissa is NOT related to you. She is not your blood and you allowed her to feed negativity to you that just fueled the fire between you and your cousin. Teresa isn't perfect,but it is time for you and your cousin to put EVERYONE to the side and not only talk but spend time together. It is too many people in your business. Fact: If I were Teresa,I wouldn't want my family on the show either. SHe has been on TV the longest and she knew what it could do to a family. TV take words and have a way of twisting them.Your family fell for it. It is not only Teresa,but everybody is at fault here.
I hope Bravo posts this! Well Kathy I want you to know that you are easy to like but you made it so hard this season for people. You tried to tell Teresa u were signing on to te show? tried basically means you didnt regrdless of ur intentions to. Second, yes of coarse Teresa isnt going to be happy Bravo is sugning you guys on, she had been on 2 seasons and saw first hand the trouble it brings, Danielle had left and the show needed drama, a feuding family is perfect and she saw it coming, esp. From Melissa. Ppl are always saying that Teresa envys Melissa? What did she have to envy? She had a family, friends, money, and fame, if anything the one who wanted to have a singing career was Melissa, and like she said shed do anything to get it. I want to tell u that it looked like the only times u tried making up with T was when everyone esp Melissa were ok with her. Last, u should all consider that just like u guys said mean things while mad so did Teresa, obviously she even confided them to caroline n jac which ended up betraying her. Would u like it if you said something mean while angry and someone told on u later? You can make this right by making up with her n trying to help now, when no ones watching, prove ur real. Come on u guys got on her show and left her with nothing, give her a break she may not be perfect but at least shes straight up, unlike Melissa who plays Victim n secretly kicks her under the table. Remember if T leaves the show will need a new villain that could be u someday!
Hi Kathy, I saw the Reunion about 4 times. It is painful to see all the madness. I know that you and your husband and children are good people. The only way things can be resolved, is sitting down with Teresa and get to the root of this problem. If she does not want to, then you all will be enemies forever. I am really sorry. I am so confused. For example Caroline says that Teresa has said somethings about her brother and Melissa, but Teresa denies this and even calls Caroline a "freeking liar". And I do not know what to think. I know that the 2nd. Reunion will be worse than the 1st. one. I hope that at one point this can be resolved between Teresa, Melissa and you. But, I know that Caroline will never forgive Teresa for what she says about her and her children. God Bless you and your Family.
Yolanda Garcia Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico
Fact: the ONLY reason you and Melissa are on the show is becasue of Teresa. Make no mistake about it!
Well, you admitted yourself that you knew coming on the show would drive Teresa crazy. Must be a joke that you couldn't find the time to tell her in person that you were going to be filming a TV show with her - I mean, if someone in your family had passed away could you have found the time to tell her? My point is that when something is important or urgent - you find the time! I hope your 10 minutes of fame was worth it - no one will even remember you after this show is over.
Kathy I didn't know Bravo came and sought you out that you had shown not interest and they wanted you and you had to soul search. I know Melissa wanted on the show badly, which is fine, and so did her husband. Teresa does come away as insecure. You come away as very mean. You poke the bear(T), in the worst time in her life and then sit back and say "see" rally the troops and play the victim while stirring the pot. You say that Reality Tv is so real but some of us know the in and outs of it. Your children are so beautiful and funny, but every scene w/ them does look set up, not off the cuff. I don't think you played fair from the beginning.
Kathy! Seriously, when you made the mistake and said you were "not Gorga" and was aware of it and it was corrected no one cared it was over and forgiven. I hope you dont go into anymore reasoning at the reunion about it bc it was an honest mistake.
However, please please and please quit defending Caroline she is NOT your friend and is using you and Messy Melissa to get back and Teresa. Hopefully, it wont take you long to figure it out. It's obvious from the reunion that you possibly will have to find out the hard way like everyone else. Same for Melissa-Caroline is not your friend...She uses people to stick it to the person that she dislikes. Example, she used Teresa, her sister and Jac (remember she was trying to get her to choose sides either her family or friend) to go after Danielle! It's fact go watch the previous seasons again in regards to it. Maybe it will open your eyes.
Wow, can't be more eloquent than that. You are so charming, smart, beautiful nice, kind, gentle, loving, it's amazing anyone would have anything but good to say about you. There are the naysayers, that will speak ill of you no matter what just to protect your cousin.
Love you and hope your desserts are coming our way soon. There's room for everyone to be rich.
ARE YOU SERIOUS WHAT OTHER REASON WOULD BRAVO WANT YOU ON THE SHOW IF NOT TO BRING THE DRAMA. AND FACT 1 WATCH AGAIN WHEN TERESA CAME TO THE TABLE YOU WERE THE ONE THAT ANSWERED THE QUESTION AS TO WHY TERESA WAS INVITED. I THINK THAT SET THE TUNE FOR THE SHOW YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING ALL SEASON BUT BAD MOUTH YOUR FAMILY ALL SEASON LONG BEHIND HER BACK. YOU ALWAYS OVER REACT OVER THE THINGS TERESA SAID AND YOUR CHILDREN DO SEEM NICE BUT SO WHAT. I'M SURE WE WILL SEE YOU. YOU ARE JUST AS BAD AS YOU SAY TERESA IS OWN UP TO YOUR ACTIONS. AND ONCE AGAIN YOUR BLOG IS ALL ABOUT TERESA. WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE TO OFFER WITHOUT HER.
Kathy I like you...quit apologizing...you don't see Teresa apologizing when she's snarky... it happens...
you are my favorite kathy. i love you and your family. your children seem so wonderful. you have a lot to be proud of and thankful for. i love richies' sense of humor. best of luck
I haven't been a fan of the way Teresa behaved this season but I kind of get it. The RHONJ was her "thing" and the sister in law she competes with and her cousin who likes her sister in law were coming on the show and may steal a bit of her thunder. Plus no matter how real everyone claims to be on the show, I'm sure you all are not quite the same in real life and it's difficult to keep up the character you created (that is really you but not exactly real life you because come on...who gets their hair and makeup done as often as you ladies and I never saw anyone just having a pajama day. Everyone is dressed to impress) and I would imagine Teresa felt it would be impossible to play the RHONJ Teresa when her family was there to bust her. I get all of that...what really bothered me about the reunion show was Caroline. She was Teresa's friend and Teresa vented to her and she decided to regress to high school and tell you and Melissa what Teresa has said in anger. Not cool. I think you have handled yourself very well and I enjoy watching your husband...he makes me LOL. Please keep trying to mend fences even though Teresa'a paranoia may make it difficult. Maybe take pity on her...it must be very difficult going through life thinking everyone is out to get you.
I have to tell you, you are so annoying! How long do you spend with the "Oh, I just want everyone to be happy and yet, let me tell you how horrible Teresa is. The question has always been, why did you go on? How did you get asked? You weren't some big part of Teresa'a life, so how did Bravo even hear about you? You don't live in the same town... I'm seriously stumped? Keep the sweetness and light crap to a minimum, it makes me as nauseous.
Good luck .. please remember how a crazed cat reacts when when cornered.. I know i am no one to any of you but .. when your plate is full and one is already on emotional overload it is very bad timing to continue pushing what is your or your timeline to forgiveness agenda on someone else.You say you know Theresa has always been one to be defensive , then why would she not be even more so now?
You don't throw stones and rocks at family members on TV. you stand by them what ever problems your having.
Funny how everyone can try to explain this mess away. Fact: you continually bashed Teresa, you all did and now you want to use the "Joke" card. Why is it you can use it and when someone else does it's an insult.
First, thank you for being the only one to blog on the reunion. I like you; you seem very nice overall. However, I still do not buy your intentions for the show being all good. What good could you have possibly seen from joining the cast? That is the "fact" you have yet to define. Although Teresa is definitely dismissive and petty, it does not negate the "fact" that you were jealous of her success and fame. Both you and Melissa wanted a part of that and admitting that would help greatly.
As for never getting a moment to meet up, you are much to bright to think that lame "fact" will fly. A call to Teresa to say "let's meet; I've been approached about being a member of the cast" would have helped. This is not discussing it over the phone but it would open a chance to meet.
Finally, you should be ashamed that not one of you told Andy to stop with the 20 questions on Teresa's finances. That is not something to discuss; he should be discussing all the woman's relationships only. Andy was trying to be Barbara Walters but it just wasn't working.
I did enjoy your goddess night - i thought it was entertaining and the food looked very tasty. I am a fan of Teresa and I must say - I did not like the way she acted at your home, you tried to make everyone fell welcome. Great Job Kathy. It looked like a fun evening, wish I was invited.:) I think you did a good job at the reunion show part 1 - you pretty much stayed above the finger pointing and screaming.
You stated that you and Rich had issues with Theresa before joining the show and you also stated that you knew how Theresa would react to you joining the show, negatively. So why did you join? If you truly are the "family" person you claim to be, why put your family into a losing situation. Sounds like to me this family disaster could have been avoided. Now we DO see your true colors.
This is for all the ladies I will start by saying that I think Teresa has done some bad things and has not been at her best, and I am not trying to cover those up or try to offer any kind of excuse....BUT I think that people need to chill out with her and see things from a diff point of view. Teresa has NEVER been well spoken and her jokes have always been a little off due to that, but she has never been malicious. You guys would not have been friends with her for so long if she had been. She is going through a really really rough time and that causes people to act funny and be a little off their game. With her not being so well spoken, I think even more so things are coming out of her mouth all wrong. I think she was first upset that her family was joining because she wanted it to be her thing, and there is no shame in that at all. You can call her selfish, but sometimes in life there are just things you want for yourself. No one is that selfless in life, for them to not ever just want something for themselves. Yes she is going overboard by still being upset about it, cuz you do at one point have to realized that this is the way it is now, deal with it. It also sounds like things were not good with her family at that point too, so as part of wanting that for herself, she would be wondering why, when we are not getting along would you join the cast and it led into her thinking things that were not true about the why,, but is understandable with the way the human brain works. She was upset, so just like 95% of the population would, her brain went into overdrive and she made things worse than they really were in her head. I think part of her saying people will make fun of whatever she said, was her saying watch out, you may not know exactly what you are getting yourself into, but then again just by watching her from the start, she is not well spoken and it prolly came out like a dig. From then yes, she said and did many ugly things, but it was tit for tat. Everyone was back and fourth with the things they have said and done. If everyone can say I was reacting to her, I was in a bad place, or it was a joke then why does the same not apply to her. You can't have it both ways. You can't give reason's for why you did it, but wave it off when she says the same thing. Guess what, the anger and hurt you feel about it and the way you feel you are right and she is wrong, is how she see's things too! She too feels that she has been hurt and is angry over that and that she is right and you are wrong. When you get to that point, no one is going to back down cuz everyone is so hell bent on being right, due to the way you feel about it. Its not wrong, but at some point you have to stop and think about it and try to see things a diff way. How could you really be friends with someone over a lifetime, or over 10 years, or even just 5 short ones and love that person as family and then all the sudden see they are no good, not the person you knew, but is the person that others have said they are. Even more so when they are going through the worst time of their lives. I am thankful that I had friends that stood by me through my trials and all my craziness during it. It was so easy for them to see it was out of character. I also think that some of this is taking things way to personal or literal. I 100% believe she said she didn't want to make up with her brother cuz he was an a$$hole....but she didn't mean it really, she was just angry venting. Which I would think any good friend would get. I find it very telling of any one's character who would turn that around to make it look bad, or worse than it really was. You knew it was just going to make her look bad and had no real stock to it. Things that make you go hummmmmm. Also why would Teresa not be defensive and be "swinging back" at the reunion. Do you really think it is ok, all good in the hood, for everyone to take "swings" at her, but then to call her out for defending herself and being defensive about it. Just pile it all on ladies, cuz you look so classy when you gang up on one person! Yes Teresa has plenty to say she is sorry for, but so dose everyone else, so quit making it look like you are all peaches and cream and making it so I had to defend someone who has done many wrongs too!
Kathy - I just love your spirit and optimism. You put up with a lot from your cousin during the season and it was clear to me that she was the instigator and clearly had no intention of making anything right. You seemed to be a loving mother and wife and I think the fact that your children used their money to buy you a laptop for Christmas is proof that you have done a great job raising your children. Much love to you and your family - may you have a life full of peace and wonderful things. Keep on being positive.
This would be the time that you truly reconcile with Teresa. From a viewers perspective, she reacted badly to Melissa and Kathy joining the show when you were not on good terms to begin with. That was questionable. Teresa is your family, not Caroline or Jacqueline. In years to come, when the Manzo clan and Laurita clan are not around, Teresa will still be your family.
Oh Kathie.. I really like you and wish the best for you. It must be exhasuting to have to constantly defend yourself, but just know that there are a LOT of people out there who see the truth, plain and simple, and think you are great. Chase your dreams and God bless.
These episodes will live on forever. You may want to step back and regroup. You are just as guilty as everyone else.
I haven't been reading much of the blogs lately and didn't realize you and Melissa for that matter had already taken sides against you. I admit, I had some reservations about Melissa but I could see right away that I really liked you and your family. I adore Richie and the kids, you did do a fine job and they're not even fully grownup yet! It was plain to me to see the love you all have for one another and I especially love seeing a man love his woman! It is so rare to see a man dote on his wife after so many years together, I congratulate you both.
I appreciate your acknowleding your own behavior toward Teresa could have been better but I understand where it's coming from, no explanation necessary. I remember something you mentioned very briefly earlier on in the season regarding your mother's relationship with the other Gorgas and without knowing her at all, my heart broke that the bad blood is still there. My heart broke alot this season and did shed some tears at various segments. I thoroughly enjoyed this season as I was concerned Danielle's department would render the show uninteresting but I am glad I was wrong. I look forward to seeing more of you and your family next season and all the best to you!
Kathy, thank you for being honest. No one else seems to do the same. I don't agree with what Teresa did with her cookbook but I think you and Melissa could've made the time to call her and say, " hey, btw i'm signing on to do the show." I think I woud have been hurt too if I found out by producers rather than my own family.
Kathy you have shown yourself to be nothing but classy, gentle and forgiving throughout the whole season. The only time you lost your cool was at Melissa's holiday party, which was understandable. I still laugh at your husband threatening to burn the house down. Your family was a nice addition to the show and I hope you stay. Best wishes to you all.
Kathy thank you for being honest about the things you said that were hurtful to Teresa. It seems like no one esle want to own up to the hurtful things they said. I don't agree with what Teresa did with her cookbook but I have to say no one is so busy they can't call a family memer to say, "Hey I just signed on to do the show." I know I would have felt hurt if I had to find out by a producer of the show rather than my family directly.
Thank You for clarifying a few points for us. Teresa was a whole different person this season and it was hard to watch. You have such a loving, caring and devoted family. You are a Welcome addition to RHONJ. Wakile Family Rocks!!!
You dont have to explain anything Kathy....we all know Teresa is COO COO!!! lol!!! love you and rich!!!
Your children are beautiful and kind individuals and you should be proud. You and Rich must be the same to have them turn out the way they have. As much as I love this show, this cast seems to have become so destructive to all who join it. I would be careful because Bravo will never get rid of Theresa because of the drama she brings to the show and she will only continue to try and destroy those around her to further herself.
Kathy I really admire you. You are a lovely woman with a seemingly lovable but goofy husband and two beautiful kids. (Tell Rich to cool his Jersey-guy language. *L*)
Watching all season it was evident that the prima donna, Teresa, couldn't stand anyone else in the spotlight. I used to get a kick out of her. If she is so tough and so Italian why doesn't she kick that piece of garbage spouse of hers to the curb? Unless, of course, they are from the same mold.
Go your own way, have fun and I wish I could bake like you...*S*
Kathy, Sometimes you can't fix things. What you said about Teresa's intelligence popped out (honestly we are all saying the same thing). She acts dumb as a post when people are trying to tell her something, she is thinking about what SHE wants to say and therefore not listening. She should listen more and talk less. The viewers get it all, believe me. Your family is a breath of fresh air. The truth will out and everyone gets it. Working for her friendship may be an unachievable goal. She doesn't really get the friendship thing. Just ask Caroline and Jacqueline. She shoots her mouth off.. its a JOKE. HAHA. She is NOT funny.
Love you Kathy. You tried and tried to talk to her and to make up. Anybody can see that. Don't stress about it. Theresa thinks what she wants and makes up her own reality.
I really like you and Rich and the kids. You have true class, elegance and style. Stop making excuses for Teresa and Joe. They have to grow up.
I see you and Caroline and Al being friends for a very long time. I imagine that family gatherings will be awkward, but I suspect they always were. You can live without the conflict of the Teresa and Joe.
It has been my experience that when people get desperate, they try to pull others down to pull themselves up. Walk away.
Love your kids!
I luvvv you Kathy and I am glad you are on the show keep your integrity and best of luck with your catering!!
I hope you enjoy the little fame that you have gained by airing your families dirty laundry in public. Even if everything you and Melissa said is true (and I'm sure a lot of it is) how could you go on T.V. and destroy whatever family bond was left for the spotlight. Funny how a group of grown women can form a bond over bulling another during the worst time in her life! You should be really proud, you all got the best of Teresa when she was down. Like a pack of wolves tearing apart the omega. BRAVO!
Kathy, I totally understand where you're coming from. Everything you said makes sense. I believe you're being honest and not delusional. I started watching this season with preconceived notions and ended up feeling completely different by it's end. I'd keep my distance from a family member so toxic, who isn't supportive and acts jealous and competitive over successes. Bad energy to have in your life. As you may know, the evil eye superstition...which is also Greek and Turkish...is about protecting yoursel from jealous, spiteful people who don't have your best interests at heart. Sad when it's your family members. Teresa keeps accusing you of being a bad cousin....SHE is a bad cousin! I think you'll have a good friend in Caroline...glad she's seen the light! Blood is not always thicker than water. I for one have wonderful lifelong friends in place of some rotten egg family members. I'm Greek and have been raised w/the family is everything attitude...even when they stink! Not always so! Love you!
FACT: if you knew there were issues, that could not be resolved, and you knew there were, you absolutely should NOT have joined the show. You only fueled the fire. But you knew it would, right?
You seem to be the only who has a snowball's chance at putting this family back together. As long as you continue to take the high road and don't get caught up in being only defensive, you could really show America (and Caroline), how a family is able to forgive and move on. Best of luck with that.
I hope you do get a deal for a dessert cookbook. I'd buy it!