Kathy Wakile

Kathy clears up some questions from Part I and explains some of her comments from this season.

on Oct 19, 20110

Fact: I have had a lifelong relationship with Teresa, and I know her very well. There are so many things that go on behind the scenes that the cameras are not catching and the viewers don't know about.
 
Fact:  I was crucified ALL season by Teresa for trying to reconcile my cousins just as Jacqueline and Caroline did. Teresa humiliated and embarrassed me that night, and at that point I was angry. How dare she? This set the tone for the whole season. I continued to try to put things behind us. Teresa made that impossible by clearly indicating that she was not willing to forgive me. This was very upsetting to me, because it didn't have to go that way. I couldn't figure out why she would act this way towards me.

Fact: I was always a friend as well as Teresa's cousin. I always tried to see her side of things. Whenever I would disagree and try to make her understand a different point of view, things didn't go so well. I continued to stick up for her and see the best in her. Unfortunately after time passed, I began to see what everyone else was talking about, and I could no longer come to her defense and maintain my own integrity. I started hearing so many things that Teresa and Joe were saying behind my back about me and my husband.

Fact: Richie and I tried many times to settle these issues before we signed on to do the show.

437 comments
Rodrigo
Rodrigo

I'm on neither side to be heosnt-Teresa wrote a poorly humourous quip about Caroline, even though it was unmalicious it still offended another person, also I doubt she seeked out Caroline's permission to have her named used in the book.However, Caroline is making a mountain out of a moehill, Teresa made one iffy remark but it wasnt that offensive. Teresa apologized to Caroline, Caroline should have accepted it and ended it.If your asking who I like more as a person, hands down its Teresa- Sure she can say cruel things in the heat of the moment and sure she has a big stubborn streak BUT shes genuine, she's loyal to her family and friends, she doesnt meddle in other people's affairs, she's an extremely hard worker and just an all around decent person.Caroline on the other hand I cant stand her, she comes off as very controlling, "my way is the highway, and if you dont like it get off the road" type attitude. I also hate how she meddles in other peoples' business and looks her nose down upon others as well when they dont live up to her standards. I couldnt stand it when she called Danielle garbage, downright uncalled for. Now if someone called Caroline that, she'd be screaming mad and probably getting her husband to order a hit on you lol.I heard a rumour that Caroline and Jaqueline were told by Bravo that if they didnt start bringing the drama for Season 4 then they would be fired. I'm wondering if Caroline is just playing this up in order to keep her job, because really I cant see someone being THAT worked up over a quote like this "Caroline is 1/16th italialian".

Natalia P.
Natalia P.

Good looking out for the babies at the christening. Theresa and her mother-in-law were both distracted by the almost fight. Audrianna was unattended. If a flying glass or chair had injured her baby, Theresa would have no one to blame but herself. That "Congratuations" was for the camera and was sooooooo fake!

Natalia P.
Natalia P.

Kathy, I love the maturity, intelligence, and class that you have brought to the show. Those who hate you just like tacky entertainment. You are a good cousin. Theresa isn't the main attraction anymore and she (and her die hard fans) can't handle it. You are 1/2 of the 3 classy couples I see on the show: you and your husband, Caroline and her husband, and Jacqueline and her husband. The other couples are a little rough around the edges, but I guess that makes for good tv, doesn't it. I don't have a problem with you inviting Melissa and Joe over on Christmas Eve. They didn't have to come. It was their choice. Theresa was so selfish to insist they spend the whole evening with her. They came over and spent time with the parents and children. Juicy Joe bad-mouthed Melissa and Theresa lies about it. Are you kidding me? Until you admit the problem, you can't solve it. You can't mend the relationship with Theresa cause she's a liar and will not admit the truth. She's struggling to keep up a the facade of a lifestyle she can't afford and is jealous that you and Melissa have husbands who can actually afford to treat you like queens. I feel sorry for Theresa, because when her crumbling world collapses around her, she's gonna need the family she's alienating right now. Don't stoop to her level, Kathy. Keep being mature and classy.

WAYTOGO
WAYTOGO

Stay who you are. You and your family are very sweet. Theresa has lost it. I loved watching you and Melissa this year. You guys were an asset to the show.

kramos2
kramos2

Salute to one classy lady~!~

Ms M
Ms M

The show is not JUST about Teresa it's about all of you so if Teresa can't share the spot light with the rest of you then maybe she needs to be replaced.

6887nuts
6887nuts

Kathy, It was truly refreshing to have you on the show and can't wait till next season. You are as down to earth as they come. Nothing about you, besides your gorgeous desserts, was too over the top. Lastly, you are a wonderful mom and your children are a true testament to this. Can't wait to see you next season!

bnsain
bnsain

Kathy, I like you and I think you are about the only sane one on the show.

housewifeviewer22
housewifeviewer22

I agree that an earlier post that you and Melissa are very transparent. The two of you are always making comments about Teresa and then pretending you didn't anything. You seem to always try to cause conflict between the Guidices and the Gorgas. Maybe one day the Gorgas will be smart enought to realize that.

audpaud
audpaud

You are n-o-t-h-i-n-g without Teresa. Get over yourself and be grateful for your 14.9 minutes.

ZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz . . . . !

Ann Lynn
Ann Lynn

Teresa is right...you are a lousy cousin. Sneaky and fake like your buddy Melissa. Way to intrude on Teresa's fame.Get a life.

Dr.X
Dr.X

That first scene of you on the show where you're riding the bike to the market was hilarious. The first thing I thought of was the wicked witch of the west.

Debbie "team Manzo"
Debbie "team Manzo"

Kathy, I just love you and your family! Thank God you and Melissa joined the show. I'm sorry your cousin is a nutjob. Love her but stay as far away as possible.

talmquist
talmquist

Love you and your family. Please continue to speak the truth even when Teresa wishes you would zip it. Your baking is amazing, you really should come out with a recipe book.

Jackieo415
Jackieo415

Kathy,

I really do think you are a wonderful person. But no wonder Teresa gets defensive, you guys gang up on her. And personally, Teresa is self-centered because you, Richie, Melissa and Joe can't keep Teresa's name out of your mouth for one minute! Every scene you are all just sitting around talking about Teresa. I know there's editing, but you don't see her just sitting around bashing you guys and calling you crazy. You both were obviously jealous of what she had with the show or else you wouldn't have done it. Honestly, I could def do with the old cast of RHWNJ, you two are just boring to me. I'm tired of the family drama. Thanks. Jackie

PUH-LEASE!!!
PUH-LEASE!!!

Please skip the doe-in the headlights act Kathy. You don't know "why Teresa would flip out"?? Ummm, HELLO!! THIS whole season validates exactly why she would flip out. No cook book or caterer needed to follow this one- One part established and sometimes controversial celeb on a reality TV show, 2 parts estranged and volitale family members of the celeb, wanting a shot at the spotlight, add in a pinch of jealousy, envy and a Tspn of "friends" who jump ship, let marinate for a season of cameras rolling, and dirty laundry airing and you get one big "REcipe for Disaster"....

Teresa clearly can't be wrong and that is childish, but this was her gig and you all should have recorded your Pop songs and started your catering without riding on her coat tails. Sort of proves the childish "copying" arguement, don't you think??

Oh and watch Seasons 1 & 2...Caroline's great...just keep agreeing with her!

tanisha2020
tanisha2020

kathy please just stop ur following a woman that america hates when the only reason ur on the show is cuz of teresa. u should stick by ur family. cuz just like caroline says there the only ones who will be there throught thick and thin. a wise man learn his mistakes from others while the fool learns from his own mistakes. so y dnt u take a look at how caroline turnd on teresa after all theyve been through bcuz if teresa leaves u or melissa is next. dnt ruin ur family 4 sum1 ur barly know. seriously take a minute and think u clearly cant trust caroline do the right thing and make up with teresa

MichelleAM
MichelleAM

Kathy , saw reunion 2 last night, I cant believe you did not back your cousin up for one instant. I totally get what Teresa was saying about Christmas. If you were a good cousin you would of told Joe that he needs to spent time with his family. His parents, his sister and nieces. Inviting him to your house only gave him an option to leave Teresa house and his parents. I didnt like that way you were hovering all over Melissa, OMG were is your loyalty . Caroline is not your blood, take alook at your own values before you judge Tre. Part of being a cousin is being a friend. You could of backed Teresa up. Shame

Liz6
Liz6

I have to say I really like you Kathy, and do hope you start a desert company...Make sure we can have them shipped to Illinois :) I really admire the way you bit your tongue most of the season. I do not think your actions were out of context!! Your entitled to stand up for yourself. I also admire your marriage...I loved it when you and richie were in the bathroom, so cute!! Best of luck to you in whatever you chose to do and Im ready for Season 4!!!

Ecoop
Ecoop

Kathy, the reason Teresa flipped out when you and Melissa joined the show is very obvious to those of us with intelligence...she flipped because the jig was up...everyone would find out who the real Teresa is and that sent her over the crazy edge! She is evil, vindictive, jealous and so narcissistic that she couldn't deal with the spotlight being off her. I've never been able to watch a scene with her in it where I just wanted to shake the stupid out of her! Thank you for being a class act! You and Melissa are good people! I would rather buy a cookbook from you with your own recipes than someone who just hi-jacked her mom's stuff to save her sorry butt from bankruptcy!

bluegreen
bluegreen

Hi Kathy,

I know that you have a strained relationship with Teresa and frankly it is obvious that you could care less whether or not it gets better. You say you want it better but your actions on the show tell a different story. Not your fan when dealing with the other ladies. You really don't care about your real extended family, you are only loyal people who are not related to you by blood: Melissa and Caroline. Maybe you felt burned by your real family too often. Or maybe it's just the way your side of family is. As for the rest of the family, they seem like a normal family. Your husband could have a show all on his own. Too funny. Never know when he is serious. Hopefully, we will see more of them and the humorous side of Housewives of New Jersey next season. It has gotten to the point that I can't have Bravo on with the kids around. BTW, Andy needs to be replaced as the host for this group of housewives! The host is supposed to be neutral and keep the flow of conversation going. Not forcing his beliefs down the throats of the people, giving grammar tips, or taking sides. I didn't turn on the reunion to watch him.

Carolyn L
Carolyn L

Hi kathy, hope to see you guys next season

Annamarie Kunik
Annamarie Kunik

Kathy: you are a class act and have nothing to be ashamed about. Teresa is a self center witch I think there is something wrong with her. She is so defensive and has to be the center of attention all the time, it is beginning to get old.

Kathy you were my favorite you can hold your head up high. You have a great family and that is what it is all about, not this petty crap with Teresa, she is such a drama queen and who needs it.

Princess Diva
Princess Diva

Kathy, You and your family are absoluely adorable. You have more class in your pinky finger than Teresa has in her entire body. Don't worry about that ridiculous woman. In the finale I was waiting for Rosie to break that glass and beat Teresa down...I know she's your cousin but, just forget her. Her intentions are not good. Rich is hilarious and your children are well behaved..You did a fabulous job raising your kids and you and Rich love is genuine and I absolutely love it!! Your beautiful keep letting your light shine and good luck with your catering business!! Your food looked fabulous.

Team Teresa!!!
Team Teresa!!!

I can not believe you would come to the show and air all your family issues out like this. Was the money worth it? Teresa was here first, you and melissa came on the show with the intentions to bash teresa and defame her. Why wouldn't teresa be on the defense, when this is her job and is helping her get through these financial crises. Who like to mix work and family problems? You and Melissa knew what you were doing, so stop acting so innocent. It's a shame..... DISGUSTING!!!!

anastacia55
anastacia55

OMG!!! I was thinking te same thing ??????

Samantha stewart
Samantha stewart

First of all, your comments to Theresa's parenting are NOT compliments!! The comment on the beach was clearly a dig. You didn't fool anyone, except for maybe Caroline. You are a good wife and mother but you need to work on your friendships.

Austin viewer
Austin viewer

Kathy- So glad that you and Melissa were added to the show. However, you should not feel that you need to "explain" or clear up anything. You behaved like a lady all the while your cousin, Teresa, was behaving horribly toward you and Melissa. I feel sorry for her because she doesn't realize what she had in you two ladies; true friends. Shame on her for every thing she has done and said. Kudos to you, Melissa, and Caroline for not blowing up at her during the reunion and lowering yourselves to her level. Sorry to say, but I do hope that Teresa is let go from the show. She truly is "poison." There are no excuses for her behavior, anymore.

Katherine-H.
Katherine-H.

Kathy-

I admit I was prepared not to like you at first- same as Melissa- however, you have shown yourself to be a genuine and lovely person. I am so sorry that you have had to endure such harsh criticism and scrutiny. I can relate when it comes to family situations. I love watching you cook! I too enjoy cooking, and it is nice to be inspired by watching you create desserts and host parties! It's also nice to see kids being open and honest with their parents and not screaming and saying that they hate something or don't want to do something! My husband and I have decided to throw a Prom Party for our daughter! Thank you so much for being a voice of reason, calmness, and loveliness this season. Trust me, fans notice! All the best! Katherine H.

JennyCal
JennyCal

You are an exceptional person. I admire you as a woman and mother. True class all the way baby!

skinny german
skinny german

Kathy, I must confess that in the beginning I wasn't sure if I would like you or not. To be honest I was leaning towards not after you told Teresa her child was "unattended". I just felt it was kinda of a low blow. You could've said it in a different way so it didn't come off like a personal attack. I do think you're an honest enough person to admit you handled it wrong at the moment. That being said, I think you won over a lot of viewersin the end, myself included! Can't wait to see you next season!

bellabravofan
bellabravofan

Kathy, it's amazing that you are able to write, "fact: I did not sign on to this show to hurt or bash my cousin" .... when we have all seen the footage showing the contrary. Like Caroline just wrote, the camera doesn't lie. Do you watch yourself on the show?? You and Melissa are SO transparent.

theodora      Viewer
theodora Viewer

Blood is thicker than water, always stand by family first friends last.watch your comments they are very harsh

Eman Karns
Eman Karns

Family is family and you don't get to choose them. However, you can choose who you keep in your life. Teresa needs mental health help.

Kasady
Kasady

Would definitely watch Kathy & Rich on a Food Network show!

fakin and bakin
fakin and bakin

give me a break Kathy! I cannot believe you came on this show to hurt your cousin. If I had the problems you guys have, I would never air it out like you do. It's terrible! You were so wrong to bring up Gia and Teresa's decision to let her sing. Teresa didn't know she was going to sing that song. Let me guess, you have always made the perfect decision, right? We are all human, I think it reprehensible what your intentions were coming on this show and how you have judged Teresa. Take a look in the mirror sweety, you are nothing above her.

keepinitrealyall
keepinitrealyall

Fact: nobody cares what you think. Go back to baking and being a good wife and mother. Apologize publicly to your cousin and allow the bitterness to leave your life.

Lizfran
Lizfran

Kathy,

I actually liked you the whole season. I have watched from the beginning and you are genuine. Please don't fall for Caroline. She is a bully and thinks she knows it all. You are by far a better mom then her. I liked her until I starting seeing how she creates a lot of drama and remember she wanted nothing to do with you when you came to her even after you have done a lot of business with her husband. It is obvious you love your cousin...I love her too even though she is a mess but more so this season (probably all of the legal stuff and dealing with her brother and you)... make it work you guys have such a small family. She means well she is just always being attached and as you mentioned you say one thing and she thinks something else... and that "good cousin" thing is annoying but you are way more mature so don't let it bother you. She needs you and yes your husband can be too much but that is family. Make it work and don't let blogs bother you because you showed who you were from the beginning and that is a sweet person!

praying for peace in nj
praying for peace in nj

Kathy, every person who has commented on here, myself included, has no right to judge any of you by what we see on tv. Your true self shines in the eyes of your children. You and your husband have raised a couple of incredible kids, decent, kind, and respectful like you and Rich are. Unfortunately, other people's kids aren't as lucky to have such honorable role models... You just keep doing what you do, because no one can do it better!!! You and Caroline are both fantastic moms, honest and loving wives, and decent, honorable people. Much respect. Erica

MichFan
MichFan

HI Kathy, I'm curious to know how you feel about the reunion? What a mess I felt it was. I can't believe Teresa just does'nt get it. She is so blinded by wanting to be right that she can't see past her own thoughts and feelings. Very Sad. She should have been thankful that you had your eye out for the girls at the christing.

Don't let her get to you. I know it's got to be hard for you. Just remember that she is sick right now. Her illness is her self obsorbsion of herself. I really liked her until this season. She clearly needs some help.

You are a good lady, wife, friend and mom. You should be proud of who you are and just keep moving forward and stay who you are. Don't let the show change you and turn you into someone your not. Best Wishes!

NY mom
NY mom

Not a Theresa lover- but not a Kathy fan either. You are family- get along- you should have her back and not beat her over the silliest things. Caroline looked like the head mean girl and throwing silent tantrums, you and Melissa backing her up. Theresa has always been Theresa... Clearly you had a nice relationship years ago- why not now? If it is worth fixing- and you all want it- get off the show- all three of the family members and save the family. In a way you all sold your soul to the devil on this one. Bravo used you all to throw your dirty laundry out there and you all came out smelling badly. I would hate for my family to be picked apart in public- and you guys allow it by promoting it. They made money- your family got trashed. Your daughter is sweet, smart and beautiful- but people talk about her in a less than flattering way. Get off the show- for you and the kids. Not worth what a little fame will bring you...

Monica
Monica

Kathy,

At first, I watched this season with a similar mindset that Caroline noted in your final blog-- you were one of the enemies. But now, reading your blogs, watching the reunion and mostly just watching you raise your family, it is simple to see you are a sweet person with good intentions. I watched the reunion part two and wished that I had a person as pure as you in my own life. I look up to you for your good heart, your beautiful family and your adoring nature. You are an amazing addition to the housewives franchise and you truly represent what a mother and wife should look like. I wish your family and you the very best and I will continue to follow your story and await your many accomplishments to come. Thank you for all the inspiration and I can only hope that those who have doubted your intentions can take a step back to recognize the importance of getting to know someone. This season is a lesson for all of us to look past the preconceived notions and make our own judgements. Essentially, Teresa is wrong and you were mistreated. I can't wait to get to know the real Kathy more without her misguided words in the back of my head.

just a veiwer
just a veiwer

I have to say I caught this show a few weeks ago and had never seen it before, but it so hooked me. As I watched I couldn't help but think how mean Teresa was, then my DVR recorded past seasons and saw that back then she was completely different, she was actually nice. I was surprised, but it is clear that this season Teresa has changed, she has let little things get to her, she has been down right ugly and rude to cast members. Its funny that people are bashing Kathy and Melissa for saying things, but think its ok for Teresa to do it. Also its not any of Teresa's business if they join the show, they don't have to ask her permission, that just shows how controlling she wants to be. Kathy, I think you handled yourself the bets you could under the circumstances, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!!

rhonjroxdramasux
rhonjroxdramasux

i think u are great i love watching u with ur husband and kids !!! BUT i think u al need to admit u are all at fault for the pettiness u ALL talk trash about teresa and then u guys want to get mad when she does it too anyways my point admit you guys are at fault and get over it i want to see more happiness next season enough with the degrading high school mean girls garbage :)

Erin K
Erin K

Kathy,

You my dear, are awesome!!!!!!! You, Melissa, Caroline, and Jaqueline have true hearts and the reunion showed that. I could probably sit here and write a book on all my "feelings" about the show, however I will keep it simple and say.... All four of you stayed true to yourselves and who you all were and that showed. You have many, many viewers that adore you all. Keep your heads up!

michlin
michlin

watch your back with caroline and jax... if they can do what they're doing to teresa, they'll definately do it to you....

Blueridgesunrise
Blueridgesunrise

Kat,

It's been a blast. You and Rich are an awesome couple! The cracking nuts comment to your daughter's date - hilarious. Can't wait for Season 4. Stay true to yourself.

Nellybell
Nellybell

I believe Kathy is a lady, but a bit one-sided toward Melissa. Richie, however, is not a gentleman. No gentleman would ever make the remarks that he did.

Viewer in Jacksonville
Viewer in Jacksonville

Kathy, you are my favorite. I have a lot of admiration for you. Many people feel the same way. I was so disgusted at Teresa's behavior on both segments of the reunion. She had the attitude that it was the Teresa show and no one else had any right at any time to speak. She interrupted all of you every time you opened your mouths. She took no responsibility for any of the unfortunate things that happened during that season. She is obviously a narcisscist and needs professional help as she can't seem to relate to anyone else's feelings, not even her children. It is always about how everything makes "her" FEEL. It appears she has a personality disorder. When any of you are complimented she can't handle it. Her jealousy comes out of her pores, her entire body language gives her away. She can't be happy for you or Melissa as it's not about her. So sad! Good luck to you during season 4 and with your new business endeavor. I know it will be a roaring success! By the way, your kids are so cute and well mannered. Congrats to you and Rich! You've done a wonderful job parenting those two delightful young people.