Kathy Wakile

Kathy explains why she wanted to throw her goddess party.

on Aug 23, 20110

I don't know about you, but after Christmas and New Year's celebrating we all need something, something to lift those winter blahs that descend on us in January, especially here in New Jersey. 

In the spirit of trying to keep up with my New Year's resolution, I tried to put my best foot forward. Since everyone usually has a dieting resolution, why not do a little lite bite evening...cocktails, small portions, a little music, some laughs, and sure, why not a little post holiday bling here and there, even if it's in my hair.

Even though I didn't know Caroline, Jacqueline, and Lauren all that well, we've all been through so many things in just a few short months that I thought the best way to chase those winter blues away would be to get together and have a fun gals' night in. I thought it would be a positive thing to think about each of the ladies and what they are truly best at. I wanted to find their best goddess-like qualities and let them know that I recognize and appreciated them. I honestly believe that each and every one of us has wonderful qualities to share with the world.

455 comments
Sophia McK
Sophia McK

Hi Kathy Lordy, Lordy, Lordy I love the show it's a knucklehead in every family like T. You have the patience of a turtle I don't mean that in a Bad way. I'm looking forward to watching the show that air you guys being on vacation. I have to agree with you don't back down from T un-sure if the family problems will ever come to an end even giving time time. You've tried and tried T is just a Hot Head who don't really look at the Big Picture as you've said in the clip that's being aired. She has to have the LAST WORD all the time at least that what her behavior is showing during the taping I can only imagine how it is when the camera's are off. Until our HOT Heads acknowledge their part in a mess they are really HARD folk to OWN their stuff and stop blaming making excuses in my family the Hot Head is my daughter she's a nightmare to us we just keep her in prayer it's Sad because she just had a baby in March of this year. What she thought the lavishing with gifts was going to come because she had her baby and that did'nt happen because of her disrespect and temper that's her b/f place sometimes the lesson comes threw someone else un-fortunately it's at her babies exspense she don't want or try to take a look at that because it's our fault she BLAMES the family for everything she's the 1st grandchild the oldest of 13 and truly believes she's owed or intitled to those days are Long, Long, gone Kathy she's 35 not a new born or 3. A know it All rude speak over you loud when the attention isn't on her OMG Cybil. I'm her mom she'll be eating dirt or carpet act a fool on me.:) Honey I'm from the Old School I can still feel the sting from my grandmama, the neighbor then my aunt. I did'nt take another chance after going threw those whippings. I Love them just don't and won't allow my daughter to behave that way in my pressence when she wake up I'll be available like I am now just from a distance. Your food look divine on TV. Kathy you also have a beautiful family and home. Take Care Stay Positive & Strong. Have a Great 1. Sophia VaBch,Va

Carrie
Carrie

Would like to hear more about the Ice Cream Shop you own that you talked about on Top Chef Just Desserts. I saw show where u talked to Caroline's husband but had never seen anything about the fact that you did open up dessert place, can't believe you don't plug it on the show considering how much we see all the other housewives get publicity for all their cookbooks, bottled water, makeup so on and so on...

Margo McKenzie
Margo McKenzie

Dear Kathy, My eyes were glued to the episode where you gave your Goddess Party. Please let me in on some of those marvalous dishes that you prepared. They really looked inviting. Of course, I love food and I love creating but, what you did in creating was so far over the top that my mouth watered. Especially that brussel sprout dish. That little vegtable is one of my favorites. My problem is that I can't find any recipe in the 50 some odd cook books that features brussels sprouts. I would be ever so honored if you would give me your creative brussel sprout recipe. I would be ever so grateful. Margo

SC7
SC7

lovely idea to keep things on a positive note by throwing that party- and unless they edited it out - keeping your cool while those comments were being made by Teresa.

Maupfin
Maupfin

I thought that your efforts were great. Teresa is a mess. I really like you as your reflection comes though with your family. Good job!

Maupfin
Maupfin

I thought your effort was a great one....teresa needs to either change her attitude or go away. You are a very nice addition to the show....it shows in your family.

PASally
PASally

Here's why you are not liked; plain and simple: You came on the show to make money and launch a business via tv fame (that's fine, who wouldn't, I would). The PROBLEM is you did it by exposing,(created or there already) a family fight with your cousin which has destroyed her and her parent’s lives; hopefully just for now. Not cool at all. You then acted like Teresa was the problem. And when you realized we were all “on” to it, your new moa was "What?,there's room for everybody to be a TV success." Everyone, including yourself and Teresa's family will NEVER forget it in their hearts. I hope the ends justify the means but I think not. Success isn't so great when you get it by destroying others is it? The sad part is, had you gone to Teresa before you joined RHW, and told her what you wanted to do with your talent, she probably would have helped you when she could tie it into her storyline but you didn't. You went with Sneaky Melissa when you wanted it NOW and saw the success others were having from the show. Even if Teresa would never have helped you, it doesn't matter- you rode tails that weren't yours via mean,manipulation with M. You now have to live in it. Enjoy your success.

Alice S.
Alice S.

I do not understand how you and the other women who all claim to be Roman Catholic can participate in Goddess parties, smudging and other new age or alternative practices that fly in the face of Catholicism. Please speak to a good and orthodox Catholic priest about the advisability of such practices.

from rhode island
from rhode island

Hi Kathy - just soo you know - I Love Parsley!!!! No idea what Teresa was talking about - "Parsley is not in Italian food". But I am Italian and cook a lot of Italian food and I am a very good cook - and use lots and lots of parsley!!!! It's my fav in a salad mixed with romaine! I would have loved the food you made at your party! (I may be influenced by my lebabese babysitter growing up - but don't tell your cousin!) What do you think of posting a cpl of your lebabese recipes??????

Susanh
Susanh

I very much agree with Linda Howard's statement. You hit the nail on the head! I always felt that Kathy hit T below the belt by telling her on NATIONAL TELEVISION that she wasn't taking appropriate care of her child during her brother's unforgivable tantrum.

SaraPhnx
SaraPhnx

Kathy, I think you're family is about the only stable one in RHONJ.

Love your amazing desserts!!!

When is your cookbook coming out?

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

Insinuating that Teresa is a melting witch at your party was not trying to get along. Her word about trying to get along are empty words. She's a phoney.

bootheel chick
bootheel chick

I think your great and I thought the holy water was hilarious, your husband is a riot and obviously loves you and is a great father.

solina09
solina09

kathy,

Two words: Fix it!.... If you say family is all you have.. than FIX IT!... You say your the bigger person.... FIX IT!... But dont go behind their back and s#*@! on them.... coz that is not fixing it!... You and Melissa talk toooo much about family, but you cant fix anything between yous and Teresa.... You both are the touble makers of the family...

solina09
solina09

Kathy,

I think you are trouble between Joey and Teresa.... You are not family if you dont try and keep the peace, between them. You talk about it, but nothing is said to them face to face. wifout the inlaws.. hint!hint! Take out Melissa and Joe... And jst have family talk. Use your head if you are the older one....

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

I didn't like the way Richie thanked Kathy for "not" inviting Teresa and Joe to his party. He proved that Teresa is right that he is always making digs and insults at her. I was glad to see how he behaved himself at the bookstore and was actually pleasant and kind to her. That was refreshing. I hope he continues to be that better person.

cathyanne4
cathyanne4

I love your kids!! They could have their own show and I would watch, they're gorgeous and funny and very intelligent. They were raised well!!

teri kiyotee
teri kiyotee

This is to Kathy. Your husband is so funny. He can dish out comments left and right and no one seems to really care or take it to heart much. But, however!,Teresa's husband Joe says anything at all, then everyone takes and holds on every word he says.. I wonder why that is..lol

RvrDelta
RvrDelta

Kathy I have liked you from the start. Keep being you.

Donna M
Donna M

Hi Kathy,

I thought the Goddess party was an excellent idea. But I think you and Teresa need to stop bashing each other. Tit for tat. Why don't you 2 get together and do some charity work? NJ is full of volunteer opportunities. Do it "Just For Today!"

Just for today: I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today: I will be happy. This assume to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, *Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.*

Just for today: I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will Take my *luck* as it comes, and fit myself into it

Just for today:I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort. Thought and concentration.

Just for today: I will exercise my soul in three ways: it will do somebody a good turn and not get found out; if anybody know of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don't want to do-- just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt: they may be hurt but today I will not show it.

Just for today: I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low,be courteous,criticize not one bit. I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody else but myself.

Just for today: I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: Hurry and Indecision's.

Just for today: I will have a quiet half hour all by myself, and relax. During this half hour, sometime I will try to get a better perspective of my life.

Just for today: I will be un-afraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful,and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give back to me. Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr

Joanna dawn
Joanna dawn

Kathy, I am soooo glad you showed up for your cousins book signing!! Puts you in a whole new light for me. Although she didn't hop up and hug you, I think she really wanted too! Sweet moment!

NJfan66
NJfan66

I love you Kathy, you're the best!! Your husband is hilarious and your children are gorgeous and so respectful. Your food (both main and desserts) look amazing! I will definitely buy several copies of your cookbook. They will make excellant Christmas gifts. By the way, please tell Richie that I loved him in "The Fly".

rchl62
rchl62

Very sneaky and Melissa gets you everytime. Stop begging Tre to talk to you and sucking up to Caroline won't help, believe it or not she does not know everything. You and Melissa are the ones that keep it going Stay out of it

jacquelines
jacquelines

I watched the video last night of the belly dancers and let me just say this they were hot! I so love your cooking better than your cousin teresa lol! j/p/ you 2 definitely know how to cook and put love and taste on your plates and dishes. I like the fact that your daughter nor your son were not around in the godess party. Was your daughter actually going to go do homework or you just told her to go to her room? The candle thing was a good idea good job richie! I can relate to you and melissa a whole lot! take care and good luck! god bless!

yael
yael

i just saw your video with the top chef- just dessert judges. WoW!!! not everyone would have been brave enough to be judged by them. they are serious and they loved your desserts. also- when they did give you suggestions you took it really well. i will wait for your book or line of frozen desserts to come out and will gladly buy them.

like in wonderland
like in wonderland

Kathy!! OMG Congratulations on the stellar feedback from the Just Desserts team!!! Your desserts have made me wish for smellovision and taste-ovision all season!! I admire your approach to dessert as being decadent and delicious, and small. I have often had family and friends ask for recipes of mine, and then comment on the fat and sugar and calories. I tell them, it is all about portion size folks. Never compromise on your cooking. You've got this Lady!! Much success in your future!

Caelainn
Caelainn

kathy! your baking looks sooo amazing!!! i am an aspiring pastry/baking artist and I am so amazed by your work! If you ever need any help let me know!!!!!!

miss vickie
miss vickie

Hey, Kathy! Your Goddess Party was fabulous, and I wondered where you found your amazing crystal jeweled display upon which the tasty little tidbits were showcased. It added such glam and I wish I had one. Will you please share your source? Thank you in advance!

ladycheryl
ladycheryl

Kathy,

You have a fabulous family!!! Your husband should have been a comedian; you have beautiful, respectful children, and sometimes I want to jump through the televison and taste your food! You should have a cookbook and Rich should take his act on the road.

debharrington
debharrington

Kathy, I think that you and Rich have done an amazing job raising your children. There is only one thing that really makes me cringe. Please don't speak badly about other adults around your children, especially other family members. Your children love and respect you so much, they will not be able to distinguish between a temporary disagreement/spat and actuality. They will hang on to the bitterness a lot longer than you will because of their loyalty to you.

CMP55
CMP55

You are hands down my favorite, your husband is a doll, your children are beautiful inside and out, that says volumes about you and Rich. What wonderful role models you are.

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

Kathy says in her interview that she doesn't understand why things got so blown out of proportion with her and Teresa. I hope that she realizes that the answer to that would be Melissa Gorga and also, her own misplaced loyalty when she chkums up with Melissa and listens to Melissa bash Teresa. That makes Teresa feel betrayed.

sesca
sesca

Kathy, I think you and your family are great. It is so wonderful to see how all of you love and respect each other. I think you are so gracious. I would love to try your food. Good Luck with your catering endeavor. I think you will be a great success.

chicago fan
chicago fan

Kathy,

You are so kind, talented, ( creating your own recipes ) elegant, classy, and you chose a husband who respects you... makes it hard to believe that you and Teresa are related.....

Deep in the heart of Texas
Deep in the heart of Texas

Also, stay away from the word "Skinny", that is Bethany's brand........you need a very interesting name for your business. Would be a good contest.....

Bunny
Bunny

Kathy, I would be very very lucky if my marriage and children turn out as well as yours. You clearly have a strong relationship with your children that is respectful as well as fun. And you and your husband seem very in love. I wish you both the best.

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

Kathy, You and Rich seem to have turned around 180 when it comes to Teresa and Joe in this last episode. You seem sincere. It is heartwarming and refreshing.

terriya
terriya

Hi Kathy I must admit that you have not endeared yourself to me , with all of the on camera and behind the back comments insulting Teresa, but this past week I was very touched with your kind words. You spoke from your heart, I could tell, when you were talking about how you really only want the best for Teresa and her family. It was very moving and it was real..Keep it up...

caysee
caysee

I would give my right arm for a basket of your wonderful food. Sweets and savory. I wanted to share this with you. I think you're very beautiful inside and out. I'm currently doing chemo therapy and needless to say, I don't always have much of an appetite. I love watching the show and seeing the wonderful things you make. I keep telling myself that would be something I could eat at this time. My family laughs at me when I talk about your food. As for Teresa, I think you're both beautiful and it is my prayer that you finally make up. Life is too short to waste on arguing. Trust me this is something I know and understand because I'm fighting for one more day on this earth. My kids need me also. Thank you for being a beautiful and caring woman. I hope you actually read this and find my words encouraging. GOD BLESS

Debbin CA
Debbin CA

Kathy Melissa bates you and you bite. Holy water ,exorcism wouldn't you be offended. Melissa doesn't want anyone to make amends ,she says one thing does another. Joe Guidice is the same he keeps the hate rolling. You, Teresa are family and Joe Gorga. you all could make it work and tell everyone else to butt out. Melissa is very immature and self centered. The children are really getting the worst of all this negative talk and actions.Model the behavior you want them to have.Children do as we do not as we say. Best wishes to all of you.

Mr. C
Mr. C

I think that Kathy is way worse than Melissa. At the end of the day, Teresa and Kathy are supposed to be cousins so you would think that there would be a sense of loyalty there. Anytime Kathy supposedly attempts to "make up" with Teresa, it comes off as incredibly forced and disingenuous. Her seemingly desperate need to become friendly with the others, especially Caroline, provides for much needed comic relief. Melissa and Teresa - simply in-law rivalry that'll work its way out. Teresa and Kathy - family backstabbing.

Vicki Bennetts
Vicki Bennetts

Theresa is hurt because Kathy desserted her?????? Come on - Theresa is the one who abandoned Kathy. Kathy did rescue Theresa's child at Joe's boys baptism party. T just won't accept that.

I love Kathy, her funny husband and her kids. They are a good family and should remain true to who they are.

Kathy - please tell me what stones are in the goddess bracelets and what they represent? Thank you.

miss mumi
miss mumi

also, can you post some recipes on your blog?

miss mumi
miss mumi

I think you should have a cookbook! I would buy it. Also a food network show! You can teach your desserts and middle eastern food. Hope you do it!

PBRAGG
PBRAGG

I LIKE KATHY..SHE IS OK..I LOVE THE WAY SHE IS WITH HER CHILDREN..VERY REFRESHING!!! JUST SAYING!!!!

Ally
Ally

I raelly like you. I hope you and Teresa can fix things. I'm afraid Melissa is just making things worse. She doesn't want things to work out with T and her husband. Or with T and you, for that matter. Be careful when around Melissa. She can't be trusted. I think you probably have figured that out, watching the shows this season. Best of luck to you and your beautiful family in whatever you choose to do.

Upset
Upset

Why do you only "support" Teresa when the cameras are rolling?

Viewer176
Viewer176

I've not been a fan of yours, but I like you way more than Melissa. It bothers me that you side with her in every single thing because you are mature, Melissa is not, she lied right to your face in your kitchen during her 'venting' session (you know, how she left the part out that SHE thinks your husband wants her). Please tell me you noticed that after watching the show. Be your own person. Try to work it out with Teresa because cousins can be some of the best friends in life!! I think without Melissa, you and Teresa would have worked it out long ago. Good luck! Also, if your husband could keep his mouth shut and Teresa's Joe would keep his mouth shut... you all would be better off :)

TaiChiJes
TaiChiJes

It would be wonderful for you to have your own show, "Kathy's Kitchen"! It is fun to watch someone cook w/passion. BTW: Just saw a video with you and the Top Chef Just Desserts jugdes... you got a wonderful offer! Take them up on it!

Annie003
Annie003

Way to go Kathy, you have now bashed and insulted both Teresa AND Bethenny Frankel in your video with "Skinny this... Skinny that"!