Kathy Wakile

Kathy talks about Victoria's special night and Rich giving Paulie a hard time.

on Oct 14, 20110

I want to take this chance to thank everyone who came out for the Real Housewives Live Tour in Chicago. It was so much fun meeting all the viewers, taking pictures, and getting the opportunity to talk to all of you. I loved Chicago and it was so great to see how they loved this Jersey Girl right back! Thank you so much!

I have something to address that has been bothering me. On Sunday, 10/9, as the episode was airing, Teresa tweeted that, "Victoria's illness was devastating to all of us." I'm probably being too sensitive and protective of my daughter, but I would just like to clarify that Victoria had a benign brain tumor. I appreciate Teresa's concern, but I didn't want to misrepresent what she had as cancer or a sickness. It was a scary and difficult time, because her tumor affected her unexpectedly yet so severely. We consider ourselves very lucky and I want to thank all of you who have reached out with concern for my daughter. She is doing very well and we appreciate how much you care. Our thoughts and prayers always go out to those families with children who have not been as fortunate as we. We felt like we won the lottery and that experience has forever changed our lives.

It was wonderful to see Chris Laurita's brother Jamie come to talk to Ashley. I only met him once, but he is the kind of guy who leaves a lasting impression. He was terrific with Ashley and gave her such sound advice. It must be great to have such a cool uncle as a go-to person when you are growing up. Chris has proven to be a great dad to Ashley. She is so lucky to have two fathers who love her and want the best for her.

124 comments
plw
plw

Kathy, you're a great Mom & wife!! It's evident by the wonderful relationship you have with your kids - I find that SO admirable!! That's certainly not faked for TV!! I unfortunately do not have a good relationship with my Mother, and my Dad - to whom I was VERY close - has been gone for 2 1/2 years. This Christmas - the third since he's gone - seems so much harder than the previous two. I think it's because after recent conflicts with her, I realize things are never going to change - no matter how hard I try & how many times I turn the other cheek!!

jeanthomas
jeanthomas

kathy just wanted to give u a few words of encouragement, its hard to speak and have what u say heard and not misunderstood and turned around. as i watched the show and got to know u by what is being put together for the show sake i find that u r a lovely person with a good heart and kind spirte. i understand the love u have for ur children especially for a child that suffers, i too have a daughter that has grown up way too fast due to her life threatening illness and she still goin through it, ur daughter has ur eyes, ur husband does look like that actor, its nice. i hope that this show does not chng u. but we all chng when the lights r on always , keep ur head on and god bless.

jackofhearts
jackofhearts

I love those beautiful eyes and pretty smile Cathy, you also seem quite charming.

nesbitt929
nesbitt929

Hi Kathy,I think you and your family are tops!Your desserts look sooo good,I am a good cook according to many but not as good as you I am sure.I think you should be writing a cookbook of your own.Maybe just desserts,I don't know but I would buy it! I am sure if a recipe came from your mom you would tell that in your book.Maybe open a just desserts shop but that would be a lot more work.Anyway,you are my favorite on the show.Your daughter shows you so much love and respect which is so refreshing in this day and time.Shows what a great job you have done.

shalissa
shalissa

Kathy, I think you are a wonderful wife and mother! Also, I hope and wish you the very best with owning your own restraunt someday, because your cooking and baking looked so amazing. Wow, you really inspired me to achieve what I want in life!!!!!!!!!!

KATHY, MEL AND TERESA FAN
KATHY, MEL AND TERESA FAN

KATHY,

PLEASE READ CAROLINE MANZO'S MAY 26, 2009 BRAVO BLOG !

SHE WROTE THAT TERESA WAS ( MODERN DAY LUCILLE BALL)

TERESA DID TELL THE TRUTH AND IN CAROLINES OWN WORDS "T'S IN BLACK AND WHITE.

kendallavc
kendallavc

Newyorkgirlfan. That was lysa that said that, not Kathy so do your homework please. Kathy you are my favorite housewife and you need your own dessert spinoff. Best of luck and be aware of Caroline.

WP4U
WP4U

To NewYorkGirlfan, you're obviously not paying attention, Kathy did not say that to Teresa, about her being invited on a technicality. That comment was made by Melissa's sister. So before you start spewing off hate, make sure you know what you're talking about, you sound as dumb as Teresa does.

Becky R
Becky R

To H8r- um so glad you aren't judging her. lol.....Lordy be some people's children. Don't listen to the haters out there Kathy, just keep your head up and I am on no team, I say this to all of the ladies. Love to you and your family

Lauren T.
Lauren T.

Kathy, I find you to be a class act. You and Caroline are cut from the same cloth this way. You both are devoted mothers and cherish your families, and know what the true definition of loyalty is. I respect how you said it how it was, without being crass. Teresa could learn a thing or two from you. It was sad to watch the Reunion show and notice how three (almost four) out of five women all say one thing, and Teresa's perspective is very altered. I hope that you are all able to mend things realistically and get along. I wish you the best with your future endeavors, the health of your family, and the happiness that we all deserve. God bless and stay in the positive!

uliano
uliano

Kathy - your cousin is AWFUL to U. Her parents must be ashamed with the way she is acting - to her family no less. Anyway - that comment that She made to you that you are "half" Gorga - so is she. Unless her mom was a Gorga too. Even though her name was Gorga - and yours wasn't - only one parent was Gorga - so she is no more Gorga than you! how stupid is she??????

Carmen Ruth
Carmen Ruth

I know this is off subject but I have to ask Kathy. I follow you guys on Twitter & I've noticed some really strikingly odd comments posted by some of your cast memebers. Example, after it was asked if Melissa was half black, half Italian she posted 100% Italian as though there is something wrong with the mixture! What's with that? Then I see where Ashlee is posting quotes from the well know secret society "The Illuminati". What's the deal? I mean really? Considering your husband is Lebaniese I woul hope that you and him stand alone in ideals and beliefs because for an intelligent peron paying attention I see why Rich doesn't reall gel well with these people. I'm shocked and disappointed. I still love both you and Rich as a couple, as parents, and as overall decent people. I hope this is not an act for the cameras because I am taken back at some of your friends comments. SMH

M.C
M.C

There is something wrong with this picture. I strongly believe that there is alot of unwanted drama that is creeping to make it the "reality show" to watch. Teresa has alot on her plate and I am not sure she has come to terms with it so much...as she is always defensive and builds a wall around her which hinders any helping hand.

Loyalty is a word that is being used alot but I am not sure if any of them knows the definition of it. Sometimes it seems to me, there is alot of "double - standards" once thing is preached but actions say a different thing altogether.

What i would like truly, for Teresa to accept a genuine helping hand for those who are her family and perhaps her friends. I dont think attacking each other is going to get us anywhere. It wont her to listen Theresa.

Kathy you need to be there for her and encourage her sister in law, Melissa to do the same. I think as everyone is being so critical of her that she is so defensive which influence her to think before she speaks which could be offensive.

With Caroline, I think once she have talked bad about her she burns the bridge. No one is perfect. Loyalty means too that each person has a different opinion on any topic or issue and should be respected. It isnt all about "i speak the gospel, so do it or take the high road".

Let's be mature, know when to use humour and embrace it. It would be sad to know that this drama is occurring to have good ratings on the show. i hate what is doing to the families and friendships.

Lbryant936
Lbryant936

You and your sly ways have finally turned Caroline and Jacqueline over to your side. But wait a couple of seasons, she will turn against you just like she has Teresa and her own blood (Dina). She is "garbage" and so are you and Melissa. You both do not fool me for one second. You try to act all innocent to other people's faces, but we see what goes on behind the scenes. Your and Melissa's little digs and bashing behind Teresa's back has been shown all season. Believe me, Caroline will wake up and smell the coffee one day and she will turn on you if she sees that the ratings calls for it. You need to leave the show!

sleepycarol
sleepycarol

Kathy, I really enjoyed getting to know you and your beautiful family this season. You are good people. Keep on your path. P.S. Your husband has a great sense of humor, tell him Thanks for the comic relief this season!

fool2cry
fool2cry

Kathy:

Keep taking the high road. Its hard to do, but keep trying. You and Richie have an amazing family and perhaps Teresa is jealous.

Zach Nair
Zach Nair

Hi Kathey I am a huge fan of yours and I love how you are always nice and sweet

debbie ronca
debbie ronca

Kathy I love you and your family on the NJ housewives show. Your kids are so adorable and well behaved you have done a good job. I hope you stay on. As for your cousin Teresa I'm ready to see her go. She is a trouble maker and a liar!!!! I watched the episode at the baptismal party and her daughter was left unattended and she was crying she just is so embarrassed to admit it. You did wheel her out of that HOT MESS!!! I know you love Teresa but she is not worthy of your love until she can stop being so jealous of your and Melissa's success. By the way I hope you come out with a desserts cook book at least you can spell and your book will actually have recipes in it! All the best to you and your success!!!

Rene'
Rene'

Kathy your great and your family is too. There shouldn't be ANY bad, nasty or disrespectful comment about you. I understand that your dishing it out just like its given. There isn't ANYONE anyone on your blog that hasn't done the same thing, one way or another......NOT ONE! Teresa took your comment wrong and then she wants others to just overlook hers(that's family for you). I hope your catering business becomes very fruitful and successful for you, when your ready. God bless you and your family. Richie is a hoot!

kboot68
kboot68

You are a classy woman. I am Proud to be from New Jersey and I'm proud to be Italian because of women like you and Caroline.

dama de espana
dama de espana

Dear Kathy, "...It was a joke. I was kidding. It wasnt meant to intentionally hurt anyone." No, that wasn't Teresa's response: it was YOUR own response. What's that proverb about glass houses?

Denise Bantz
Denise Bantz

Kathy, I was ready to hate you this season--until I saw how you always (almost, anyway) handled yourself like a lady. You are fun, funny, intelligent, and a genuinely good person. You have great kids and a wonderful, loving marriage. I appreciate how much of a lady you were on part one of the reunion show, though I could tell that it was hard not to reach out to the woman sitting next to you, grab her by the shoulders (or throat), and shake some sense into her. You have tried to be nothing but forgiving with her, but she cannot forgive you (like you really need forgiving, by the way). I must advise you to move on, look lovingly on the memories of what once was, and move on to the future. I wish you well in your dessert business. Are you going to publish a cookbook? I would love to buy it if you are! I hope that you will be returning for the next season, as you are such a good fit with (most of) the other ladies! Take care, and God bless!!! :-)

Linda Rhoades
Linda Rhoades

i'm with you Smc223 i hope they lose in the long run Teresa is real no fake about her i will ot watch the show if Kathy and Melissa is on there and that Nut Caroline she is to old to act like she does i just wonder if she is on something she acts like she is better then any one on the show like i said she wouldn't have anything either if it wasn't for her husband ad her husband's father that left them every thing google them

queeny1
queeny1

Kathy, I really enjoyed watching you this season and on the reunion. You are a very sincere and genuine person, and it made me sick to see how Teresa treated you, well, and everyone else for that matter. I am so glad that your daughter is doing well. Also, don't let Teresa get to you. She comes across as a woman with zero class, and extremely insecure. She needs to get some help, and she needs to get some help for her oldest child. You cannot raise children in chaos and think that is ok, it is not. I hope that you can become closer with Carolyn and Jacqueline, who I also believe to be genuine and sincere. good luck to you! You should definitely do a cookbook, your food looks delicious. Best wishes to you and your family.

Angelina SoCal Rodriguez
Angelina SoCal Rodriguez

Hello kathy, this comment is for the way you and Melissa (bless her lil heart) hold your ground as family should. You don't need negativity in your life and if that has to be from a family member then so be it! You and Melissa have been nothing but kind to her, even after she talks the s@*t first and can only take so much. Misery needs company!Teresa may act like she's all hard but deep down behind all that make-up and laughing, she's hurting. Hopefully one day she will just except the fact there is going to come a time when someone cooks better than her, looks better than her and acts better than her and be joyful in that she too was once all of the above! For what it's worth keep your head up, your immediate family (Hubby n kids) close and everything will be great! Take care and Godbless (=

courtenayrogers
courtenayrogers

kathy i love you and your family. i think your kids are sweet as can be and your husband is hilarious. dont let those braindead teresa supporters make you feel bad for defending yourself against tre. i have to wonder if we are all watching the same show because its a sad state of affairs when people can defend teresa (unbelievable)

Sara J.
Sara J.

Kathy, I think your kids are great, I think your husband has a foul mouth, and I think you are not a good person to have as family. I don't know why you think Melissa & Caroline of all people are so great. My family always has my back as I do theirs. I wonder how Joey felt when you said you were not a Gorga, and your poor Mom, that was disgusting.

Allison Cavicchi
Allison Cavicchi

Kathy i have to say that I admire you so much as a mom... I am 26 and i was born with a chromosome disorder and i would be nothing today without the support of my mom when i was young. It touched me so much to see a mom so devoted that she'd 'celebrate a can of tuna being opened' and it really impressed me that you refuse to accept anything less then being there for every dance, first date and everything else still to come. That's the way it should be =)

desertrose7
desertrose7

After the reunion show, I am back to how I felt about you from the beginning of the season. You attack Teresa about what she wrote in her book, which was NOT bad, but then, you justify the negative things you and your husband have said on the show by saying you both were joking; seriously!!! Your demeanor always displays your true character on the show, which is a two-faced and jealous person! Teresa has a problem of being loud and direct - which she needs to tone it down. Melissa tries to play the victim and the innocent sister-in-law that does nothing wrong... they BOTH have issues and need to own up to the things they have done wrong to one another!!! If you have issues with Teresa, stop trying to act as if you want to be a family again!!!

H8r
H8r

Wow, you will have to answer to God one day for your actions, so we won't judge you but remember, you are getting videotaped and what you say about Teresa is recorded.......I can see why you and Melissa are buddies you have one thing in common, you hate Teresa. I hope your ready because you preach about her doing right and you need to look in your own reflection dear.

Cnelle
Cnelle

I just want to say...to all the people saying that Kathy is not a good cousin, Teresa is her blood, she should have stuck by her, etc..that just because some one is your "family" does not mean they have your best interest at heart. Many times family will do you wrong well before a close friend will. I understand that family is something that should be cherished...but if you have tried and tried and that person is not willing to return the favor...family or not...it is time to move on. In a perfect world family..be it brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers, cousins vs cousins would not be having such troubles/problems and if they did they could work through it quickly and move on... but we all know it isn't a perfect world. Step back and think...maybe Melissa has been there for Kathy more than Teresa could ever be or ever wanted to be. In that case I don't blame her for where her loyalties may lie. Don't be so quick to judge.

Laura22
Laura22

I would like to see you all take the high road, mend what is broken, put the past in the past and have fun. But I guess the reality is that is not what sells reality tv. I hate where things have gone with all of you. This all makes me miss Danielle and I loathed her.

KymmLisa
KymmLisa

Kathy, Just as others have saie on here, I think you and your family have found the secret to a happy life. I admire you on the show for not feeding in to Teresa's insanity and living your life with your family the way you all enjoy and makes you all happiest!

Love Ya, Kymm, Menifee, CA

Cella D
Cella D

Kathy, you and your family are adorable and I just love the relationship you have with your husband the way you both relate to your kids. Its so nice to see families as close as yours and teenagers who are so respectful and who enjoy their parents' company. I am a big lover of sweets and your desserts look delicious! Being Italian also, I know how much you must love to cook for your family and it shows through your beautiful dishes. I hope that you continue doing what you do and that all good things come your way. God Bless you and your family.....

Wine Pro
Wine Pro

Evidently crazy doesn't run in the family. What a relief. You've done a fine job of maintaining your dignity, keep it up and you'll have no regrets and won't spend each week of your blog apologizing.

kvammer9
kvammer9

I feel soooooo bad for Teresa. Open up your heart and be kind to your cousin, she is having such a rough go of things, she works hard, she could use a break. You all gang up on her!

NewYorkGirlfan
NewYorkGirlfan

“New York Girl” was right on the money. Thank you fellow blogger. Kathy, YOU revealed yourself when at the christening, when no one know whoyou were yet, when Teresa asked her BROTHER “why did you invite me then?” you gleefully chimed in with a mean sneer, “I think it was a technicality”. Right there, from the gate, BEFORE as you said, everything was fine and you and Theresa were close, your intentions were forthcoming. You call everyone else out and mean, vile things get printed about Teresa and we are tired of it. You are a liar! Plain and simple. Now you’re spittin’ mad that you won’t get a BRAVO bakery career out of it and made all those desserts for the Thanksgiving episode. The plan to get rich quick at Theresa’s expense, creating all this mean spiritness against her was foiled. That is why you are so miserable now and blaming Teresa. Kathy, you can never beat karma, it’s fair and in the end always wins. Please leave Teresa alone, you are insignificant in the fact that your only plan, only storyline didn’t work. In the process you showed your true colors to us all. Go, go away, (insert wicked witch voice) and your little dog too.”(Melissa). It didn’t happen and you are just going to make your children’s lives worse now. We viewers are so sick of Teresa’s mean spirited blogs getting printed, when that is not the consensus on how America feels, I hear it every day. It’s ok to write nasty things about her but BRAVO won’t print what we are all feeling about you and Melissa. “New York Girl” you hit it right on the head “Check for s pulse.” How did your blog get through???

anet shirvanian
anet shirvanian

You are getting paid to talk about Tresa, you are two face sneak to be in the show you and your ugly husband find something, Caroline using her looser sons and daughter, Jaquelin selling her daughter as street girl what kind of mother do that to her daughter shame on her.

WP4U
WP4U

I can see you love your cousin, but in all honesty, she truly deserves all the harshness coming her way. Teresa and her husband put themselves in their tough financial situation and are trying to take it out and lash out at everyone around them. There is obvious hatred sitting in her. She needs therapy and she needs to get away from that husband of hers. He's bad news. On the other hand, your family seems quite lovely and tightly woven. Its very refreshing to see you with your husband and grown children doing normal family things and loving each other with out any drama needing to come into play. Thats what I enjoy watching on this show. I love to see the beautiful family times. You are doing wonderfully and please ignore all the Teresa fans. It doesn't matter what bad Teresa can do, they will still defend her. They are of the same mind frame as her, violent, mean spirited, jealous. You are fabulous Kathy!

Grow Up
Grow Up

Kathy, your kids are amazing. They represent the kid of parents you and your husband are. Good job!! Keep your head up, stay away from Teresa's drama and enjoy your kids and your very supportive husband. Congrats on everything!!

Jessica151
Jessica151

It's amazing to me that Teresa can sit next to all of "yous" and act as though the viewers are either stupid or blind. Does she not see how she behaved all season? I shook my head more this season than even when Danielle was around and that's saying something! Only because she would be on camera saying that she was so forgiving and family is so important etc. and in the next minute, you see her behaving completely opposite of her words. When everyone went to your house for the party with belly dancers. A good time was had by all...almost. She sat there not smiling and borderline rude with snippy little comments while everyone else was laughing and having a great time. BTW...your desserts look AMAZING. And her behavior last night was appalling. WE know when she's lying, how does SHE not seem to?! It's difficult to have family issues. We all have them now and again but unfortunately you have to share yours with millions of viewers. I feel for you! But you have supporters you don't even know!

Abby C.
Abby C.

Kathy, You are such a genuine character in this show. Your family's dynamics are just so heartwarming, it truly makes me work to bring my own closer together each and every day! You have truly come into your own this season and I cannot wait for what you do in the seasons to come. I just know that whatever you choose to do with your wonderful gift of cooking will take off and be very successful. Your dishes looked stunning, especially the desserts that you brought to the Gorga's for Thanksgiving! Wishing you the best and many blessings during this upcoming holiday season!

Kristy L
Kristy L

benign brain tumor... cancer or illness would be all in the same boat. why wouldn't teresa tweet, "Victoria's illness was devastating to all of us" I mean she probebly was being sensative to the fact she didnt wanna put alll the business out there. you just don't like her and anything she does says you have to do what you do...

Rosanne in FL
Rosanne in FL

Why did you start out being on Melissa's side in the first place? I know Melissa felt that from the start she and Joe should of been involved in the last 2 seasons and held a gruge against Teresa...but why would you think you should of been on it also from the beginning?? That could be the only explanation as to why you are on Melissa's side all the time. You talk about family yet Teresa is more family than Melissa. It seems like the four of you love the lime light. I never noticed that with the other husbands...they are there but they feel they have to because their wives are in it. I just see right through you and Melissa. I feel Teresa was ganged up on at the reunion and she really had to fight for herself...Even Andy supprised me with his questions...I did not know he was a cop, i just thought he would relate questions that the people had wanted to know.

Maggie's Mom
Maggie's Mom

I was never a fan of Teresa except for this season. I cannot believe how you and Melissa attacked and demeaned her throughout the entire season. What is wrong with you? Teresa apologized to you and you accepted the apology and then you trash her on your blog. If you think this is "family" caring about each other, you're in serious trouble. Melissa is on a campaign to get Teresa and you're right along with her. If Melissa had a facebook relationship with Danielle, why didn't she tell Teresa. She and Danielle were in collusion to bring Teresa down - and that's family values. Melissa is so jealous of Teresa, and you are obviously too, that she must lose sleep. She is going through some major stuff in her family and insead of wishing her well and/or offering to help her you continually attack, attack, attack. No one buys the routine that you're the nice one - all you have to do is watch the shows and your true colors come out. You even insulted Joe personally when it wasn't called for and you think that's normal???????? And, really, your husband feels he has any room to criticize anyone else - PLEASE!

BriannaH
BriannaH

Kathy, you love to act like you are so humble and sweet and innocent and morally superior to the rest of the women- you're not. you're just as bad as the rest of them. you're just passive aggressive and try to cover up your nasty comments with a smile, whereas teresa has the nerve to say what she wants to say flat out.

momobom5
momobom5

Kathy, only one comment- Theresa is unintelligent right? You are not a Gorga? Was your mother adopted?

Lee DeMatteo
Lee DeMatteo

Kathy, I just love your kids... you and your husband did a great job raising them... I know their is so much drama between you and Teresa... and I think it's not because of you... I think Teresa is always on the defensive side... she strikes out without thinking at all... I hope that someday... both of you can look back on all the "drama"... and say... how stupid all of it was...Teresa is really very insecure... and she keeps smiling to hide it all.

seattlesnjfan
seattlesnjfan

Cathy i love who you are, i hope that one day u and teresa can work on a book together because i love her forever..stay cool you are such a sweetheart