Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Cracking Nuts

Amber Calls Out Andy Cohen

Dina: What am I Doing Here?

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Teresa: We Love Hard, We Fight Hard

Dina: The Ladybug Event was Perfection

Amber: I Felt I Like I Was Being Hazed

Melissa: Continue to Pray for Teresa's Family

Why Amber Shares Her Cancer Story

Dina: I Was Team Santa

Teresa: I Don't Blame Jim

Bobby's Unacceptable Behavior

Amber: Dina is Jealous

Melissa: "We are Heartbroken"

Dina Reacts to the Sentencing

Kathy Talks Kevin Jonas

Amber: Dina Was Planning a Blood Bath

Jim and Amber Were on Different Pages

Dina on Bobby's "Bizarre" Behavior

Amber Calls BS on Dina

Nicole: Words are So Powerful

Teresa: "Kudos to Dina!"

Teresa: I Love the Show, I Love My Fans

Praying for a Positive Outcome for Teresa

"Tipsy Melissa is My Spirit Animal"

Dina's Lose-Lose Situation

Jacqueline on Her Status with Teresa

Why Teresa Told Dina the Rumor

Amber on Her Cancer Scare

Teresa: There was an Agenda to Hurt My Family

Melissa: I Do Feel for Amber

Dina: Gia's Beautiful Inside and Out

Nicole: This is Not 'Jerry Springer'

Amber on Her Meltdown with Teresa

Amber's Emotional Call to Teresa

Teresa Thanks the Fans

Dina: Florida Will Be the New Scary Island

Teresa: I Wish I Never Heard the Rumor

Amber on the Shocking Rino Rumor

Victoria Gotti's Big No No

Cracking Nuts

Kathy talks about Victoria's special night and Rich giving Paulie a hard time.

I want to take this chance to thank everyone who came out for the Real Housewives Live Tour in Chicago. It was so much fun meeting all the viewers, taking pictures, and getting the opportunity to talk to all of you. I loved Chicago and it was so great to see how they loved this Jersey Girl right back! Thank you so much!

I have something to address that has been bothering me. On Sunday, 10/9, as the episode was airing, Teresa tweeted that, "Victoria's illness was devastating to all of us." I'm probably being too sensitive and protective of my daughter, but I would just like to clarify that Victoria had a benign brain tumor. I appreciate Teresa's concern, but I didn't want to misrepresent what she had as cancer or a sickness. It was a scary and difficult time, because her tumor affected her unexpectedly yet so severely. We consider ourselves very lucky and I want to thank all of you who have reached out with concern for my daughter. She is doing very well and we appreciate how much you care. Our thoughts and prayers always go out to those families with children who have not been as fortunate as we. We felt like we won the lottery and that experience has forever changed our lives.

It was wonderful to see Chris Laurita's brother Jamie come to talk to Ashley. I only met him once, but he is the kind of guy who leaves a lasting impression. He was terrific with Ashley and gave her such sound advice. It must be great to have such a cool uncle as a go-to person when you are growing up. Chris has proven to be a great dad to Ashley. She is so lucky to have two fathers who love her and want the best for her.
It was fantastic to watch Caroline on her radio show. Life experiences don't make you an expert on everything, but when you live through all the ups and downs (and God knows a mother certainly has to deal with her fair share) you come out with a pretty thorough education! What makes Caroline special is her ability to turn her life experiences into advice to help others.

As a mother, your children are your every joy. But then what? Caroline is exploring the "then what" and I have a feeling that wherever it takes her, she will be just fine. I wish her lots of luck.

What about my beautiful daughter Victoria at her prom party! I arranged to have my makeup consultant, Alyssa of Blush Makeup Studio, come over to do Victoria's makeup. She looked so beautiful, and Rich and I wanted it to be a special night for her. We live for these important moments with our children.

Victoria's date, Paulie, is a great kid and a family friend that we have known for years. Leave it to my Rich to find a way to try to crack some nuts!For those of you who were wondering about the restaurant and catering business that Rich and I were considering, know that I am still trying to figure it all out. For now, however, I am focusing on developing and making my desserts. Since I have been lucky enough to be a stay at home mom all these years, I just want to continue to cherish all the time I have with my kids. I know that all too soon they will be taking off for college.

The Gorga family photo captured such a beautiful moment. Just remember, though, as fast as the shutter clicks and the photo is snapped, so does life go by. Wouldn't it be great to be able to preserve that picture perfect image in real time? I think it reminds us all to treasure the moments that we do have together.

Knowing my Zio Giacinto as I do, I was so happy that the photo session afforded all of you the chance to see him as he truly is. Insisting that his daughter-in-law and son-in-law sit on either side of him at the dinner table is his way of embracing them as his own children.There you go…wouldn't it have been nice to end like this, BUT, just when you think it's safe to go back into the kitchen…what do you know, someone gets burned! I think things speak for themselves, but stay tuned for our reunion show when everything heats up! We go from the frying pan into the fire…OMG!

You won't want to miss it.
Until next week...

Lots of Love,
xoxo Kathy

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P.S. I want to thank some very special people that have helped me throughout this season:

Erez Boutique in Englewood, N.J.
Reve Boutique in Englewood N.J.
The Fig Leaf Boutique in Garfield, N.J.
Accessories from Pink Jewels in Livingston N.J.
Makeup by Alyssa Shackil at Blush Makeup Studio in Hawthorne,N.J.
Hair by Mina Terranova at L'Egance Salon in Totowa, N.J.

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.