Kathy, you're a great Mom & wife!! It's evident by the wonderful relationship you have with your kids - I find that SO admirable!! That's certainly not faked for TV!! I unfortunately do not have a good relationship with my Mother, and my Dad - to whom I was VERY close - has been gone for 2 1/2 years. This Christmas - the third since he's gone - seems so much harder than the previous two. I think it's because after recent conflicts with her, I realize things are never going to change - no matter how hard I try & how many times I turn the other cheek!!