My dad always realized the importance of family. He was lucky enough to have most of his brothers living near him in America. So he wanted the same for my mother. During one of my father's visits back to Italy to see his sister, my dad decided he was going to sponsor my Uncle Giacinto to come to America. After all he was still single and didn't have any attachments in Italy. It was a great opportunity for him to have a more successful future.
When my Uncle Giacinto came to this country he lived with us. I still remember those days like they were yesterday. Whenever I see Joey Gorga and Gia together it sparks great memories in me, because my siblings and I were equally fond of my uncle. He possessed that same charisma that Joey has. My mother and my uncle had to get reacquainted since my mom left Italy and Giacinto was only about eleven years old. But in no time at all he quickly became a member of our family unit. He was an older brother to my brothers, and when you look at photos from that time, you will find either my sister Rosie or me hanging on his arm or on his lap.
After living with us for about a year or so my Uncle Giacinto went back home to visit his parents. He also met and married Teresa's mom. When they returned to America they lived with us for a little while until they found a place of their own and quickly our family tree began to grow. Teresa and Joey came along and Rosie and I were thrilled to finally have little cousins on my mother's side to grow up with.
Kathy You did stay for the bashing to begin and once Carolina and Lauren started you left!! So as you say get it straight!!! T is ur cousin and you should have had her back in the begining and Melissa should have respected it. Stop acting like it is all T's fault because it is not just her and yes she to is at fault as well as the Joes and ur husbands. kKeep the comments off camera because they aren't with you in areas!!
I do love u and ur family u all r very blessed and can't wait to see the rest of the season!
You are a beautiful person inside and out. It is only because you were once close to her that I can be led to semi believe that Teresa was once a good person. It's too bad what fame has done to her, and thus your whole family.
Your husband always brings a smile to my face and your family often chokes me up - with happiness for you. It is precious!!!
I know you must truly be a good person and not just edited that way because of how your family (husband and children) appear together. It is uplifting and heartwarming. Your issues with Teresa are in my prayers. We are all common souls - whether we are on TV or not and my heart is with you.
Watching the love you all have for each other is truly a blessing - thank you.
Teresa is mean and she needs to forget about the past. I actually used to love her but this season has shown her true colors. Kathy, you are the coolest cousin anyone could ever possibly ask for and you do the "right" thing.
WOW.. Kathy! You really can put on the Poor Me Act! Really, you don't think you did any thing wrong at all... It's all Teresa??? Give me a break!
You talk about being a christian doing the right thing... then call her a F***ing B**ch? What more did you want from her she Acknowledged you three times and you couldn't just let it be what it was. Teresa was trying to be nice at first till you kept coming at her.
Once you found out that Mellisa & Joe was going to go to Teresa's for Christmas Eve... Why didn't you tell them both not to worry about coming over at all and stay with Teresa and her Parents for the evening? Was it because you thought you would miss out on something? The first thing you asked Mellisa was well how did things go?
Maybe you should just call her or stop by her house with cookies, coffee or something and say we really need to talk, Fess up to what you did wrong and listen to what she has to say. You say you are the bigger Person Prove It!!!
Personally, I think Teresa is being very unreasonable. She says she wants to make peace with her brother and exclude everyone else. I hope things work out. By the way, your pastries look fabulous--very professional.
Kathy, I think you need to back off regarding Theresa. Be happy with your own lovely family and the relationship you have with the Gorgas. Families change, people go through things, and relatives who were once close don't always stay that way. I am Italian too and my family has gone through these issues as well. You may not see it, but Theresa and Joe have tried to be civil with you in public and you have kept pushing till you provoked a negative reaction. It is never appropriate to try to resolve problems at a public gathering. You have to accept that Theresa, for whatever reason, may not ever want to renew her relationship with you. She may just need more time. Leave it alone for a while or you'll make it even worse.
Kathy, I wasnt sure about you until I saw your lovely kids at Christmas. You must be doing something right to have such sweet, generous and wonderful kids! Kudos!
Love, Love, Love you! Am not going to get into it too deep except to say that someone in your family is terribly misguided and I find you real and warm and welcoming and your children and husband are so adorable. It's nice to finally see someone who's not materialistic and can stick to their guns about what they want to do with their life. I hope your catering business thrives, I am also a caterer, so Buena Suerte! (As we say in Spanish!) XOXO!
i think that while your intensions are pure you are going about things the wrong way. For starters maybe you should've tried talking to her in a private setting. I can understand why you would get upset with her responses but how you react is completely wrong. The way you allowed Kim G. to bash her in front of you is wrong. You are suppose to protect family from people like Kim G. under ANY circumstance. I really hope you guys work things out. I love Teresa very much and I getting to love you and your family. Hope you guys are around seasons to come.
Kathy, I wish I had a cousin like you and Rosie! Mine have not talked to me for 34 years. Theresa has tunnel vision and can never admit she is at fault. That is so immature. She is only positive about her family, no one else. She finds fault with the most insignificant things, it's like revisiting high school days. You have such a loving family and your children are so responsible and thoughtful. Ashley could learn a lesson or two from them. I work with special needs children and have alot of patience but I do not have patience with individuals who are perfectly capable and lack the ambition to be productive. You and your husband show so much pride through your actions regarding your family. Way to go!
Please keep working on Teresa - she's being so stubborn!. Family is truly the most important thing you can have in your life. My siblings and I recently discovered a secret my mother held concerning someone else in our family, but we never knew about it and now all those who knew this secret - that really could have changed things in our family - are now dead. Please don't give up on this - I know it's hard, but it's hard being the adult.
By the way - all of you on the show remind me of my old neighborhood in Massachusetts. I was the token Frenchie surrounded by Italian families. They all acted so much like all of you. We were all Roman Catholics (fish Fridays) with large families.
Your point of view on the situation rings resentment and you sound just as arrogant as she can be at times. Questions arise that makes me want to know why you can't control your emotions better, timing is everything or had you not learned that as of yet, is it a situation about camera time, and why do you write with bitterness? You put down just like your cousin does so that should show you where she is at mentally regarding the two of you. The attempt off camera would be a better situation and shows you are more concerned with family. Melissa has hinted in enter views that her attempt for the show becoming more interesting due to their conflict...something is not right there! Why would you want this aired and documented...it's nutty! I only watch for certain people now and watch the FoodNetwork when the crazy approaches.
Kathy, I jUst asdmirer you and your family i admirer your relationship with your husband which just puts the icing to family....Teresa is unappreciative with what she has you and Joe are just so uplifted and very caring i just love how you go on about with family....I know Teresa is blood and all but dont make sacrafices for someone who will not appreciate it yet take Deb. S advice and if that doesnt work well it is her loss you have lots more family who love and care about you. Keep your head up you are very beautiful to have a frown over a careless person !
Kathy, I just love you and your family...you are the perfect family. I sincerely mean it your husband loves you and you kids do too. I know having peace with family is important, but if I had a husband like Rich and beautiful kids that love you the way they do...that would be all I need.
My parents have been married for nearly 40 years and my father has NEVER worn a wedding ring! (He lost it in the first year of marriage to my mother thirty-some years ago.) Now, I am about to celebrate my first year of marriage to the most amazing man ever. (Actually, he reminds me a lot of your husband!) Of course, my husband lost his wedding ring within the first six months! He was so upset when it happened, but I told him I would be mad if he replaced it. IMHO, lost wedding rings are a GOOD sign! Loyalty and love is in the heart... not on the hand. :)
Kathy, I am so very glad u have joined the show!!! You are an amazing Women, Wife and Mother! Your soul is beautiful and watching the christmas episode; your family touched me the MOST! I see you trying so very hard and I would be blessed to have a mother like you and to be a part of a family like yours!!! You have the RIGHT idea on family! God bless you and your family and it would be the most wonderful thing to meet you some day! Your husband is so supportive, tough when he needs to be and gentle when he needs to be! Your children act so well mannered and seem so grateful for you and your husband! I have never ever posted on something like this but I had to post to you that you are amazing and wished I could be a part of a family like yours! God be with you and your family always!
OMG! I love your children. They are the best behaved, most respectful and loving children. Even though they are children of privilege, they seem so down to earth and unspoiled. You should be very proud of them. You and your husband have done a wonderful job with parenting.
WOW! Some pretty nasty comments here. I have grown to really like you and your adorable family. I think alot of T's problem right now is all the off camera junk she is going through. She looks tired and beaten down. And from this viewer's point of view, she has not much support from her husband. He hasn't a nice word to say about anything these days. Don't give up on your cousin. They had been in court all day and a party was probably the last place they wanted to be that night. Your heart is clearly in the right place. Trying off camera next time might be better. Best to you all!
Good job Kathy, you are a sweet, lovely down the earth person. Your tea cakes and all the other yummy stuff looked amazing at your party. What two beautiful, well brought up children you two have together. Your husband is a gem also. Don't worry about patching things up with Teresa, she is very stubborn and always wants to be right. She never owns any wrong doing. Sometimes I feel sorry for her as her husband is such a bum with a filthy mouth. She is always standing up for him.Your husband and Melissa's husband are so loving to their women....as should be. I believe Teresa is jealous of her brothers success and feel the need to over spend to full fill her unhappiness. She will need her family one of these days, as Jo's mother may punch her:-)) Hope you open up a cake shop and go online and then will get to taste some of those lovely pastries and cakes... God Bless
Kathy, I want to come to your house for Christmas dinner, or at least dessert! Where is your desert cook book??? Your family is a joy to watch. The love & respect you each show one another is commendable. I would definiely buy a book on your parenting as well, awesome job. Keep your head up, your a class act.
You're a hard person to figure out. You say you want to reconcile with Teresa, but won't admit you were wrong for your comments to her at the fashion show. Why would you ask HER what happened? Her brother called HER garbage in front of Melissa's family and millions of viewers. Being the caring cousin you claim to be, you should have consoled her instead of insulting her parenting skills. Did you confront her brother also by asking him why he would say such a horrible thing to his sister? Why would you even walk up to Kim G and listen to her bash your cousin while she's within earshot of the conversation? At the fashion show, Kim G said "should we boo her"? I would have said "excuse me, but that's my cousin and I don't appreciate that comment." You said nothing. I grew up in a tight-knit family in Queens. No matter how angry we were with eachother, we would NEVER just sit back and allow someone to insult or hurt them. Especially someone I'm trying to reconcile with.
If you wanted to make amends with your cousin why didn't you go over to her house the same way you went to Carolines. No.. you want to put your cousin on display at her brother's house.. and then play the victim.. are you serious.. you cause your cousin so much pain.. and you know it.. which is why you invited Melissa and Joe to your house on Christmas Eve.. to hurt her. Shame on you!
You should have never invited Melissa and Joe..he needed to be with his )Own.. not yours.. you're a cousin., ok.. you are not his sister.. it was just another stab to Teresa..which is why she isn't going to kiss and make up when you feel its time... I do not understand you girls.. seriously.. you and Melissa are on this show thanks to Teresa, how dare you both treat her so badly.. and you are her blood.. every week I try to like you but no not yet..
I'm not a fan of yours usually but on Christmas morning, the scene with your kids was lovely. you raised 2 awesome teens and I wanted to let you know because I am vocal about my critics so now that I think something is AWESOME, I wanna let you know about it.
You were talking trash about Teresa to Kim G. You both were enjoying causing pain to Teresa. I would not consider you a good cousin.
Kathy, you seem like an upstanding person, and genuine. I think your husband is adorable too. You're new to the show this season so that makes you a target on the show and with the fans. Just remember this is reality T.V. You know how much editing they do. If there isn't conflict nobody would watch. You know what's real in your lives and what's not. I'm sure after people are on the show a few years, they act differently. They have fans, and that affects people. When this show is all over, and the fans are long gone, I'm sure the family will be back together because there will be no interference. This is a saying that has gotten me through the roughest times in my life...Nothing lasts forever, this to shall pass. Just stick with your husband and your beautiful children for now. You know who you are and you stay that way. You keep your integrity. In time everything will fall into place with your family. Have a good season, and and an even better life!
Hi Kathy I have to say Im all about Teresa but thats bc I really feel for her she has taken some really big hits and it looks like its been hard on her. My cousin and myself had a relationship like yours and Teresa's I know you said that you were persistent but I really do think it was bad timing she really needs to work on her relationship w Joe and Melissa then maybe you and her. People have to realize that she has had to defend herself and it looks like now it just comes natural to be on the defensive side all the time and yes sometimes she does say things that she shouldn't but who doesnt no ones perfect and it looked like on tonights show that she wants her brother in her life so much but hes always rushing off to be with your side of the family that must be hurtfull too especially when shes trying shes really hurt. Ive been there in Teresa shoes, I think that if you all could be positve and not talk crap about each other you ALL would be better off and possibly be friends one last thing you said you wanted to talk to Teresa bc you were a good christian but do christians curse espesially the F bomb when they dont like what someone else says dont think so maybe you should be playing the poor me thing then act like that sorry being honest.
Dear Kathy: I grew up in NJ (Bergen Co.) and moved away in the early 70s. I do get homesick for NJ and I really enjoy watching the Housewives of NJ -- I love the humor and the drama. I haved really enjoyed you and Melissa on the show, you two are great. As far as I am concerned any time is the right time to get a relationship right again. You were gutsy to try and get things right with Teresa. Your husband is funny and very protective of you -- 100 points for the man !! And, the desserts that you made for Melissa looked incredible -- I don't think I have ever seen such a beautiful arrangement of desserts -- it should have been photographed for the cover of some food magazine. You have talent. You should have your own cooking show on Bravo -- Dessert Diva ! Linda
I have 4 sisters and 1 brother out in Oklahoma. And lots of cousins. So believe me when I say I understand strong-headed women and a brother who seems to be our "victim" at times (LOL!). I have lived in Florida for the past ten years and miss them so much! Recent health problems have prevented me from being able to travel and I am only 48, so being apart from them has broken my heart many times. When I watched the episode at the Gorga's Christmas party, I felt so bad for you due to Teresa's reaction. Don't get me wrong, I am a big Teresa fan, but she was wrong to shoot you down the way she did. I wish so much that Teresa can pray and find the courage to heal the hurts in her heart so that you ALL can be a family. My husband and I are huge fans of you New Jersey folks (hubby is from New York). We watch every single episode and are very much enjoying the addition of you and Joey and your families to the show. Just be patient Kathy, I believe that in the end, Teresa will come around. There is just too much to lose by her not swallowing her pride, as well as you. Just want to say that we love you and we LOVE Rich and especially your kids. That little Richie is a hoot! And your daughter is absolutely beautiful. Keep up the good thoughts for your family. Sometimes it's hard to make amends, but when you do, it's worth every single second you had to wait for it to happen. Welcome to the show, it's made watching the Jersey families worth watching every minute!!! XOXO - Oh, and don't pay attention to the negative comments about the length of your blog or anything else, some people just can't be nice!
Kathy, I think Teresa's anger toward you is somewhat misdirected. I really think its hurt, not anger. Timing is an important part of mending relationships and can't always be on your time. It doesn't seem you have truly had the opportunity--in private to talk things over. Perhaps a letter--seemed to work well for Teresa? As an outsider looking in, I think I would have some jealous feeling seeing my only and dearest brother and his wife buddies with my cousin and her husband, when my own relationship with them is so strained. She sees the realtionship you have with them, and could only wish her family and his could be that way.
If you take responsibility for you actions, your words, your criticims- forgiveness is not your responsibility, its hers. Love is the universal language. Peace and love to you and your family.
Kathy, do you actually watch the show when it airs? Your version of events always seem to be off. Teresa was cordial to you...what did you expect her to do, jump in your arms? You haven't spoken to her since your fight and you thought the Christmas Party was the right place to speak? Really? What ever happened to picking up the phone?
Also, why make the bee-line to Kim G? You looked so happy to be lapping up Kim G's snide comments. I thought Family was everything??? I really liked you in the beginning but now find you despicable...you're on the same level as Melissa's sisters in my book.
You know what you think talking to Kim "Genius" was smart? Do you think that made you awesome? Well it only made you look like a fool. Even Carolines daughter who is WAY younger than you stopped you guys from talking up a storm. Teresa is your family. If you care about her - then you talk to her in private not at an event. You know I just lost my cousin to a car accident. 24 years old he was. And I love every single moment that I shared with him. I remember it and I always smile. God forbid anything will ever happen to anyone of you but imagine having that empty feeling in your heart. Thats sad. No one ever wants that feeling. you know? Grow up. Be mature. and Be strong. You love Teresa? Then show it by talking to her in private and not saying "YOU did this." "YOU did that." Thats what starts fights. LEARN! I'm SO YOUNGER than you and I know its wrong to approach someone you are fighting with at a party. LEarn from this. Or just leave the show because you annoy me.
I appreciate your thoroughness and sincerity in your blog. It did look like you were nodding in agreement with Kim G., but I 'm glad you explained you did not feel that. To be on this tv show, you need to speak up at the time against the bad behavior like Jacqueline did but Jacqueline seems to have learned to speak up over time which you can too. Good luck.
Kathy, I feel that you are and upstanding person and a genuine person. Your husband is just adorable. Being the new one to the cast this year makes you a target, both on the show and with the fans. What's happening with Teresa is unfortunate. Remember the show has been going on for a few years, and I'm sure that the fame has an effect on people. Don't get me wrong, I do like Teresa to some extent. I just feel that your not the type to involve yourself in headgames that people play on each other. Being on this show has kind of thrown you into a world of the headgames on this show. That's reality T.V. If this wasn't true, people wouldn't watch. All I can say is stay true to your convictions, and know that this is a show, not your real life. Your know, how much is edited to make it "interesting". I truley hope that you don't get sucked into the antics of the games that are played in front of the camera. I've lived by this saying that has gotten me through the roughest times in my life.....Nothing lasts forever, this too shall pass. At some point in your lives the family will be back together as the wisdom grows older, maybe not on this show, but sometime.
Hang in there! You will make it through. Love ya a lot!
Kathy, i love you and richie and am so glad you have been added to this show. keep your head held high with respect to teresa. you have handled yourself with grace in the face of some very disrespectful conduct. IMO, you're not the one who looks bad here, especially in light of recent episodes. loved you and richie on "watch what happens: live" and completely cracked up when richie said on air (regarding the outdoor christmas lights) that he needed to show you that "[he] could do things too...like call someone [to put up the lights.]" lolol... keep it coming!
Obviously it's all about family for you, and that's so sweet and genuine. Thanks for the history on the family. I truly hope you and Teresa can get past this and move on. Grudges are evil and ruin many relationships, pointlessly. I enjoy watching you and your family! :) You looked Great at Melissa's party!!!
Signing up for real housewives, I guess you understand you can get good and bad reactions. Also, however the editors want to cut the episode is up to them, they need ratings. If any of us were in the spotlight, and not used to it, we may begin to write to defend ourselves as well. As the episodes go on, I'd probably defend less and less. I'd love to read about people who liked how I was portrayed, not particularly read about those who didn't like it---but bottom line, if it could help my financial future, I wouldn't mind being blogged about or writing one myself.
After reading your blog, I have confirmed that you are a GOOD and DECENT person with a wonderful heart, Kathy! I appreciate your honesty and sincerity in all of your blogs. You're in a tough situation here, being the "newbie", and allegiances have already been established well before your arrival. People love Teresa, as do I! But I really think that, in time, as people get to know you better, they too will see that your heart is in the RIGHT PLACE, and it was with every move you made this season. I'm really glad they brought you in this season. You have a beautiful family, Kathy! Hang in there!!!
Hi Kathy, I was really moved when your mother so genuinely explained the situation between her husband and her brother (Teresa's Dad) I'm glad they resolved their issues before her husband passed I think that you realize how important it is to resolve issues and move on. I like all the housewives (no favorites) but I commend you for what you tried to do with Teresa listen, everybody telling you that it wasn't the right place, yeah maybe, but that's no excuse for Teresa to be rude and nasty towards you, Why is she like this towards you? well I know you said some not so nice things about her (I read on some of your blogs) Stop doing that, it is part of the issue with her be more neutral and maybe she will be more receptive to you, and for her to do the same to towards you hopefully the two of you can come together and have a good relationship, Life is too short. Kathy, your husband Richie is too funny he's a good man, unlike teresa husband juicy joe, he has a nasty attitude, and shows no respect for her with his rude comments towards her and other people she doesn't say a word, she just ignore him, Kathy, before I go, PLEASE BE AWARE OF KIM G !!! I saw you talking to her at the Gorgas Xmas party she's bad news, stay away from her, especially now while your'e trying to mend fences with teresa that won't help the situation at all. GOODLUCK!!!
PS. I hope your dessert cookbook is in the making, looking forward to making some of those delicious treats.
You seem like a nice person Kathy, but you DID insult Teresa. You DID insinuate she was a lousy mother. Like Caroline said "Them's fighting words". That needs to be addressed, acknowledged by you and an apology is due to Teresa. Oh I know she's not perfect either, but you NEVER insinuate someone is a bad parent and expect it to be forgotten.
Kathy, Out of all the New Jersey housewives, it appears you are the only one with any degree of class. You are my favorite!
Hang in there, Kathy. I can see you are trying so hard to fit in and make this work. It will happen in time!! Just keep being yourself!! xoxoxoxoxo
Kathy, Why so deffensive! You write the blogs, we viewers read them, give our opinions!! just like you, we have the right to our feelings to. You acted like you were so happy to see Kim G. you've been hanging out with her & talking crap about your cousin teresa the whole season with her !! so wat changed? Oh i know, the manzos kicked her out! Now you dont like her, youve been sucking up to caroline all season! ur a follower. and its sad to see once again your whole blog is about teresa! I think teresa would give you a chance, if you would stop being so two faced. Im glad to hear that you do read all of the comments from the viewers! Maybe if you stop making excuses!! people would sstart to understand you! I hope your not on the show next season!
Still did not address why you did not even attempt to coointact Teresa before the party in anyway. A text, a voice mail, facebook any social media ways. Yet you did for Caroline whom you did not even know, for Melissa but not for Teresa, I don't think she is without fault but I still think you are on here to hock products and the bonus is you get to hurt Teresa, wow wonder what her poor sweet kids will think of you when they grownup???