Kathy you're the greatest. Very sweet person. How you related to Teresa. She (Teresa) is NOT a good person. SOmeone needs to put her in her place I don't know why anyone wastes time with her. Team Kathy and MElissa!!
OK welcome back, everyone! Hope you all had a great week. Rich and I had so much fun last week with Jay Mohr on Watch What Happens Live, although hey Jay…let me get a couple of words in. Thank you so much for your wonderful comments and continued support. Trust me when I tell you the things Jay had to say during commercial breaks were even funnier than what he said on air.
I stand corrected, last week I misquoted a song and said it was the "happiest time of the year." Thanks to the clever viewer who pointed out it is "the most wonderful time of the year." Happy, wonderful, it all means the same to me. Don't they go hand in hand with Christmas anyway?
Decorating for Christmas has always been one of my favorite things to do. I’ve been creative and sometimes a bit kooky since I was a young girl. As a child I always volunteered to decorate our home during the holidays. My tree may not be totally traditional, but I hope you like it. I enjoy making the decorating a family activity with Rich and the kids. I hope Victoria and Joseph will carry on my love for holiday decorating as well. I guess I just have to wait and see. This year I was lucky enough to get Rich to help, even if that just means hiring a crew to decorate our home on the outside.
There's nothing like Christmas to bring families together, but there is always added stress. It was great to watch everyone decorating and preparing for Christmas in their homes, in their own special way. My heart goes out to Ashlee for feeling that she is in a lose-lose situation. But as Jacqueline told her, she is in a win-win situation because she has two families that love her dearly. It’s sometimes hard to see the positive, but I hope Ashlee can begin to see how much her family loves her beyond the material things.
Kathy you're the greatest. Very sweet person. How you related to Teresa. She (Teresa) is NOT a good person. SOmeone needs to put her in her place I don't know why anyone wastes time with her. Team Kathy and MElissa!!
Put The Wicked Witch (Melissa) in her place, STAND UP for your family! Do what is right! I can't believe you guys are Italian.
I haven't quite understood your role on this show. You come off trying to be a good person (almost wanting to be like Caroline) but instead you're very condescending. Your comment about Teresa not taking care of her child was very appalling! Your husband is a joke (and I don't mean that he's funny!)! You may be cousins but she needs to work things out with her brother before adding you on to her plate. Why did you assume to point fingers at her during the fashion show? What did you expect to receive back with your comments?
Kathy, first let me say that I am impressed you held your temper as long as you did. I would have lost it with Teresa the second day I knew her. I really don't like her. If you are not apart of the (INNER TERESA CIRCLE) you are out regardless if you are family or not. TERESA NOT COOL!! Great example you are setting for your girls. If you think they don't know, let me enlighten you they do. They are not stupid. Kathy, Teresa should take lessons from you. Love you!!! Love you!!! Keep the faith. Everything will work out.
kathy you tried to make up with teresa because she is your family stop crying shes not worth your tears sometimes you have to love family from afar and let them go. in your case teresa is that family she will not stop craving attention and when she does not get it shes gonna let her bitchiness spread and destroy everyone in her way. soon her friends will find out. girl just make the best of your life make your family happy and those who surround you with true hearts. your a lady a real italian lady.
Kathy, I am happy you attempted to make peace with Teresa. She is hurting by all the betrayal from you, and will need time to see your efforts. Family is important and YOU as a grown member should continue to reach out to her. Stop trying to prolong to negative. It seems like you would like to have to conflict continue. Make peace with your cousin!!
Kathy! You are the best housewife on the show!!! You have the best heart and such an amazing family!!!!
you should contact Theresa and work out your differences together-alone-just the 2 of you-not in the middle of a family christmas party-you shud have contacted her the day after the last altercation. put it to bed, forgive, and get on w life-life is way toooo short to have hate feelings for family
When you discussed your daughter's brain tumor you mentioned that Teresa was there for you and for your daughter. That's wonderful because you know how desperate and stressed you were while you worried for your daughter's life. Do you think there might have been a few times when you were rude or lashed out at Teresa due to the stress you were under? Did she turn her back on you and trash you to one and all? Did she DELIBERATELY join forces with people who hated you and laugh at your misfortune? Have you considered even once that Teresa's financial situation is just as stressful and painful as in many ways as your daughter's health ordeal? Remember, she knew nothing about how dire the situation was until the you-know-what hit the fan and then her world came crashing down around her. She went from having no limitations to struggling to keep the family's head above water. Does she need the love and support of those closest to her? Does she need compassion from those closest to her? Did you or her brother offer any financial assistance whatsoever? Instead, it seems you chose to jump at the opportunity to appear on TV so you could trash Teresa in front of millions of people. Apparently, the humiliation of what she was already publicly facing wasn't enough to satisfy you ... I just don't see anything genuine in you when it comes to Teresa. The satisfaction you feel when the Kim G's of the world attack her completely negates your protestations of "Family First".
Kathy, You have nothing to be ashamed of as you did extend the olive branch first. Teresa is so full of herself is makes me sick watching her. You also can cook circles around her and that ticks her off also. Your kids are adorable and very respectful of people, great job! You and your husband seem very secure unlike Teresa and her husband. You manage your money shey cannot. So have pity o her as she has alot to learn and she isn't getting any younger! Take Care my dear
Kathy- I give you alot of credit for going up there and saying hi to Teresa. I'm sure that took alot. I understand why your pissed off but I also get why she is too. It's one of those situations where you have to work it out as a family and come to agreeing terms. I have watched every show possible this season and have grown to love it because it really defines what family is and should be. Everyone on the show is teaching alot of people so don't let something little get between a family as close as yours!
I agree with most of the posts I've read....I guess now we know why Teresa did not want to include reconciling with you when she did do with Joey and his wife. You just wanted to start a fight--repeating your snarky hello, trying to get Teresa to go off. Is it the camera time you crave? You would be much happier to get out of the Gorga's fight and their family. Work on your catering business and desserts. You can find huge success there, and your happiness will attract them to you.
Kathy, I give you so much credit for trying to talk to people. So what if it was bad timing, you made an effort. Teresa didn't make any effort and acted like the queen. We love you and your family. Stay positive.
I think your husband is a bigger drama queen than you are, he's not scoring any points yet, so i'll keep watching and maybe my views will change. He gossips worst than a female and it's not appealing.
Kathy, I think you're great and I know that you probably miss Teresa. But you said a HORRIBLE thing to her. Very horrible. You accused her of neglectful parenting and in a time when Teresa is in a struggle and feels that she's not at her best the way she use to be, she has always felt she's been the best mom! Her feelings are hurt. The way you're trying to mend fences is all kinds of wrong. You have to apologize, that's it, and it'll be over. And do it one on one for christ sake! Put a leg out! Quit looking for an opportunity and make your own
Kathy dear, I just LOVE your hubby! he cracks me up- he is the right amount of sweetness, cursing and "a larger than life mob husband personality" ( I know you aren't mafia but he is a girl's mafia dream!). I love how he dotes on you and you seem to have a sweet relationship- you are deserving of every bit!
And I adore your kids, especially your son. He is such a little "old soul". I was so impressed with the contracts you and Rich had them sign. In this day of parents spoiling their children rotten with no responsibilities or consequences it was great to see some good old fashioned parenting and insistence of accountability!
Everyone gets on this show and lets it go their head- I hope you keep your wits about you and continue to be the sincere person you seem to be. Don't let all the drama get to you! Best to you and your beautiful, hilarious family...
I watched the " fight before Christmas" episode and you lied several times about what Teresa said. You made it seem as if she was at fault and clearly you were the one at fault. You kept going after her when she clearly wanted to get away. It is odd how when you caused the problem at the Brownstone you made a bee-line to caroline's house to ask her forgiveness. When she saw through your " fakeness" and told you to make things right with your cousin you didn 't. I guess Bravo wouldn't cover you making up with Teresa so you had to grab camera-time at Melissa's party. I hop you and your "thug-like" husband don't return next season.
Kathy, I am so glad you and your family joined the show. I am from PA and moved to the south 8 years ago, and wathching your family reminds me of my italian family friends back home. I think you guys are great, and a role model family. I can't understand why any viewers would give you guys a hard time, you are by far the most grounded and for lack of a better word, normal, family on the show. I hope Teresea comes around and realizes you are coming from a good place.
PS Your giant canoli looked awesome, I am insipired to try that this year for the holiday's! Hope you and Melissa come back next season!!
hi Kat! I think you have a good heart and it translates on t.v. However, I don't think the xmas party was the most appropiate time to hash things out with teresa. A good time to reconcile would have been before the party. That way, things would have gone alot smoother during the party. Teresa's reaction was justified. She was still hurt by your comments at the Posche fashion show. But i don't believe you have a malicious bone in your body. I could see that you were trying to reconcile in the spirit of xmas. It was just bad timing.
You say you want to make things right between you and Teresa, but your attitude when things don't go your way is un-called for. You need to remember wshe and her husband are going through "TOUGH" times now and she needs kindness and understanding. I've gone through a bankruptcy and let me tell you, it's life changing and "EXTREMELY" upsetting. It's embarassing and bvery stressful. The last thing Teresa need is a confrontaion for ANYONE!!!! Your timing was way off. Don't confront her when there are people around. Call her and meet her somewhere (jaqueline's house) where the two of you can talk. Be sincerre and if something is said that you don't like, don't get an attitude and start being defensive. Also, if you really wanted to mend things with her, you acted two faced, running to your husband and calling her names. Your husband needs to watch what he says, cause some people don't take the comment about burning down a house too lightly. Also, pray about the situation with her and always ask yourself what would Jesus do and possibly things will go well.
Kathy: "I'm a good christian" cut to Kathy: "She's an F'n b... bleepidy bleep bleep bleeep" Rich: I'll burn this house down. Classy.
Kathy, If you truly care about Joe and his sister, back off and let them try and rebuild their relationship. What you did at the party was designed to start an altercation and you know it! Butt out!
Don't sweat Teresa, she's a hothead and can't be reasoned with. I don't know anyone with that kind of temper, nor would I associate with them.
Kathy, don't sweat Teresa- she's a hothead and can't be reasoned with. Out here in the 'ol midwest, I don't even know anyone with that kind of temper, nor would I associate with them.
Wow Kathy you have some nerve......Saying hi is one thing...but to continue when the other person obviously doens't want to talk. All that drama was caused by you my dear and no one else. And "Good Christians" don't run into the bathroom with their husband and start bad mouthing their families and calling them awful names. And then laughing when their husband threatens to burn down the house. YOU ARE JUST As CLASSLESS As KIM G. You need to figure out when the right time and place is to bring things up....like maybe off camera in private instead of on camera and in front of everybody and their mother. Maybe if you put more effort into contacting Teresa and apologizing for your comments, then maybe she could forgive and forget.
Here's an Idea Kathy, why not call Tre if you want to work it out. NOT wait until there is a party with a house full of people and cameras! How fake can you be! Oh yea, by the way, thell oyur husband he is not all that!
Kathy, have to agree, you are no teenager nor new to this family, a public social event is no place to air or repair personal matters, what did you expect, really. I watch this episode have to say a little empathy would go a long, long way all around. Regardless of the reasons for their financial trouble, remember " There But For The Grace of God Go I" I live in a wonderful home in a beautiful neighborhood watching, hard working, responsible, caring people loosing their homes, cars, fake friends, family and spirits weekly to Cancer, Death, Corruption, Theives and the Economy. I pray your life is never shaken.
Kathy, you should have contacted Teresa when the cameras were not rolling, your timing was way off. Just when I start liking you, wam bam you act a fool again.
Kathy - I want to start by saying omg I LOVE your family! You and Rich should be very proud of your children and the life you built together. I normally dont get into family drama, but I have a first cousin who I am extremly close with and I cant not imagine fighting and not speaking like you and Teresa. Now this is just my opinion and no one has to listen or agree. But it seems like the timing of you and Teresa not talking is going on when her family is at their lowest. The bankruptcy is in EVERY paper and magazine, everyone is talking about her and now she is fighting with you and Melissa. So I think that maybe you should have been a little more understanding to her flipping out being her and Joe really seem to have the world against them right now. I pray that you two make up soon and try to not take a side when Teresa and Melissa fight, they need you to guide them back to reality. Again just wanted to tell you how much I LOVE watching your family-you guys crack me up!
I think down deep you do want to make it work w/ Teresa and hopefully she feels the same way too.... However, your timing is off.... What I'm confused about is why you made sure and called Caroline to meet w/ her after the fashion show, but you didn't call to meet w/ Teresa?????????
Kathy, I applaud you trying to clear up things with Teresa. Believe me that I know about family troubles, but.......Timing is everything..........and a family and friends/charity Christmas party was not the time to confront Teresa. And yes, what you did was CONFRONT her. All you had to say was that you wanted to set up a time to talk to clear the air in PRIVATE - not in front of a bunch of strangers at a charity event. I hope you are still open to talking to her and clearing things up. Try a luncheon at a neutral space (not one of your or your friend's homes....sorry Jacqueline but sometimes it's easier without the well meaning friend) or just meet for coffee at a quiet little shop. Wish you the best of luck. I think both you and Teresa seem to need family and I hope you can resolve your issues.
kathy- it seems to me you did not think this through. this was your first time to see teresa since you called her parenting skills out. Have you called to apologize? have you gone to her home to apologize? you made that much effort with caroline when she was a stranger to you. Tersea is family and you want to try and work your issues out at a Christmas party? I would have a whole lot to say to you if i were Teresa and parties arent the time or the place. shame on you for being so closed minded
I love you and rich! He's hilarious and you seem very sweet but remember: no one can make you feel anything. You alone are responsible for your feelings. The timing was way off
Kathy I thought that the way you handled the situation wasn't good. You might have had good intentions but it all came of wrong. First of all how would you handled the situation if you were in her shoes? As family she didn't deserve that as much as you didn't. I have learned that treated people the way you want to be treated and I can assure you that you never would have wanted to clear the air at a party and with cameras on sure if it was a friend but your blood. I'm not taking any sides but to me it seems that you aren't seeing the situations that occur from the two views and you arent understanding that you could have dealt with this early if you soo wanted to be cool. Somehow you insulted her and you don't see how put yourself in her shoes for once... One thing I want to say to you is even if you arent friends with your FIRST cousin you should not be talking about her behind her back with your so-called friends. You should know one thing friends come and goes but at the end of the day your FAMILY will be there. Theresa needs to know that too. It took alot of courage to do what you did.
I have some thoughts and I will say them respectfully to you. First I just want to say that I really like you on the show and love your calm demeanor. Your husband makes me laugh!
Although I think your intentions came from your heart, I don't think that you perhaps didn't think through how it might have felt for Teresa to try have this conversation at a christmas party - not only that but a party where there is already tension. I do want to believe that you had pure intentions but perhaps next time you may want to consider thinking about whether the person on the receiving end is in the right space and place to accept and be a part of that kind of conversation. I read Teresa's blog and I can see how she felt and hence why she responded the way she did. I would probably have felt the same way if months had gone by and the only time I was approached to bury the hatchet was in front of cameras and in public.
Anyway, I sincerely hope that your family is able to make peace and be happy once again.
Best wishes! Love you on the show! Your kids are beautiful!
Hello Kathy! I rarely comment on these blogs, since I'm pretty sure the comments aren't read (really, who has time?!) but I had to just incase you do read them. You're my new favorite housewife. :) You remind me so much of aunts I have in my own family. I don't blame you for wanting to talk to Teresa, I can only fault on the reaction (and even not, not so much). Teresa seems to be having some issues this season (well, phase of her life) and I think she's going to continue taking it out on those around her. I don't think that means you should stop trying to make amends, just try not to have high expectations. She'll see your good intentions or she won't. You can only extend an olive branch so many times... especially when you're practically beaten with it. I also wanted to say how much I adore your family! You're kids are so cute and already such characters. Kudos. :) Good luck with everything!
You are the nicest and best dressed woman at that Christmas party, and I wish I had made that dress !!! You keep it real !!! Greetings from New Orleans, FRD.
Kathy, I just have to say something. Although I think Theresa is just kind of used to holding onto grudges, I do kind of understand where she is coming from. You know, I’ll use an example. One of my high school teachers used to say that he would accept a late assignment from us if we were to seek him out. If we just happened to be in class with him, he would not accept it because it did not show a real effort or any real understanding of the fact that we are acknowledging that it is a late assignment. The same principle applies to mending fences. It is awfully convenient for you to try to do so when you just so happen to be at an event together. I think it could probably have gone down differently (and probably showed that you cared more) if you had sought her out independently and tried to have a conversation with her. She couldn’t really say what she would want to say (nor could you really say what you might want to say) at such an event because you are not in private and you are not in one another’s homes. It’s not really an appropriate time to try to mend a relationship and because you can’t really make amends, you are stuck being phony just to keep the peace and Theresa was cordial enough with you but when you kept insisting how good it was to see her, she no longer wanted to be phony and her true frustrations slipped out. It is bound to happen. She’s trying to keep the peace at her brother’s party and not get into it with you while it’s obvious there are a lot of things simmering under the skin for both of you. I understand you feeling hurt because I felt bad for you too, but I feel bad for Theresa as well. She is getting a bad rap when no one is really taking the time to deal with her in a way that could present some semblance of success.
Hi Kathy, Now that I read your blog I have a better idea of what you were trying to do at the party, but unfortunately this is the second time your communication has come off awkward and I feel I must "side" with Teresa.
At Posche you should have simply hugged Teresa and let her know you were not taking sides. Instead you attacked and accused her as if everything that happened at the christening was all her fault, with no blame towards her brother for his behavior. Come on. Then you suggested that she abandoned her child. Clearly in the chaos she may have been more worried about her husband throwing a punch at someone. Yet, she knew she was among family and was confident that some family member, you or someone else, would step in a help with the kids if necessary. You didn't need to blow your own horn for doing the right thing. You should have left that out of it.
At the Christmas party you seemed to want to get into an emotional discussion. If you really wanted to make up with your cousin, how come you never called her in the weeks between the christening and Christmas party? I don't blame Teresa for scooting away. I would have done the same. Not the time or place for a discussion that could bring out high emotions, and she was right, you did owe her an apology for the way you treated her the last time you two met, but the Christmas party wasn't the time or place. Teresa was probably already on edge after what happened at the christening and also for having to show her face among a lot of people who were probably talking and gossiping about her legal and financial situation.
Kathy, Yep, I've gotta agree with all the other viewers. You had no problem seeking Caroline out at HER HOME to discuss your actions, but insist on addressing Tre in public again. Can you say "camera time"?
Kathy, I really like you, and the last two episodes have really opened my eyes! It is clear that Teresa has ALOT on her mind, which making her even more hot headed. You are currently on two different paths, and God only knows that it is probably whats best! Your paths with join again, when the time is right. Keep your chin up and don't forget your faith.
I think you tried! Should you have done it in such a public place? No! But I can understand why you did it. Since Theresa is your cousin she should forgive you! Every one is complaining about Rich said! But what about what Joe said! Anyone with a bit of sense knows that Rich was just blowing steam but Joe meant what he said!!! I love your family Kathy! Keep keeping it real
You and your family are wonderful. So much fun to watch you and Melissa and Joe. I felt so sorry for you in how Teresa treated you. Teresa is a miserable person. Dont worry about her, I like watching you and Melissa! You girls are fashionable, sweet and true ladies.