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Kathy Wakile

Innocence

Kathy thinks the adults could learn a lot from the children.

Sep 15, 2011

Hello everyone, we’re back! Did you miss us? I sure missed you guys, so I just wanted to say a few words before I start my blog… As I sat and watched the events and memorials in the week leading up to anniversary of 9-11, I couldn’t help but be struck by the knowledge that so many families are still devastated by the events of that day and mourning the loss of loved ones. The country suffered a collective loss that so many of us still feel so deeply... So instead of writing my blog on Sunday, I stayed home with my husband and kids and enjoyed family time. I felt like I needed to count my blessings for what we have and live each day and be thankful. So on that note I will keep things in perspective and try to keep things positive.

Now back to Housewife reality and writing the blog…I’d like to make a few comments on the episode. First of all there’s nothing like the spirit of a little friendly competition to get everyone’s blood pumping and ready to compete for the 5K run. This run was for a good cause to provide housing for disabled veterans and people with disabilities and so why not…I am a good runner and enjoy participating in charity events, so when Caroline asked me to join, Rich and I were glad to help out. Victoria and Joseph are both runners too. It turned into a great way to start off our Sunday together. I started running years ago as a way to manage my weight, but as time has gone by, I have grown to enjoy the time I’m running to be alone with my thoughts. Running is the most amazing way to get your heart pumping. I love the way it makes me feel. Feeling great and taking care of your heart is after all the most important thing to me. It’s what’s on the inside that really counts for me. When our physical appearance fades, your heart is what sustains you later on in life. Of course everyone says little silly negative things here and there, but no one wants to hurt anyone, and it was all in the spirit of good fun. 

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I thought your husband made a very tacky comment about Joe's tooth and looking like a Beverly Hillbilly. Did you ever think that he didn't have enough money at that moment to get it fixed?

OMG I was rolling my eyes while reading your blog, and I don't do that. I don't 'love' Tre, but you came on the show to be mean to her and kick her while she is down. I know you probably make up w/ her for the cameras. Your a little better than your partner in crime Mel at being sneaky she is being found out that she is trying to sabatoge Tre in the media. If you had any talent you muddied it with a hateful spirit. I do hope there is some redemption for you.

Sorry Kathy, but you're a hypocrite. Do something with your husband please. His mouth is disgusting. What an embarrassment.

You and Melissa destroyed the show for me. I just watch Teresa, Caroline and jacqueline. Bravo should never had casted you and Melissa!

Snooze... so where would you be now without your successful cousin? Take note Kathy - the general public does not like mean girls. I hope Bravo boots you and Melissa's butts off the show.........

U did nt write ur blog bc of 9/11....why did nt u write it another day? Do u only write ur blog on Sunday?

You are such a good hearted person . You try to stay away from the 'drama' . Your family is very solid . I can tell you love your family and everyone around you even if they are a pain to be around . Best of luck for your future . Karen

I thought it was very rude of Teresa to mention your weight during the marathon. She made a comment about you running all the time but can't get skinny or something along those lines. She can be so nasty. I actually like yo Kathy. Keep your head up and don't let anyone's nasty comments sway you.

Kathy I really like you and am happy you have come to the show :) It is apparent as a viewer you have a heart of gold and love your family very much. I have felt badly for you ever since the 2nd episode I think it was when Teresa flipped the heck out on you at the fashion show. It might not have been the right place to have that conversation with her, BUT who the heck blows up over such a benign comment? It is really obvious so much has gone to Teresa's head which is a shame. I feel for you that you have had to endure such nastiness from her and the little jabs she always throws your way. You are such a class act to take the high road with her and even going above and beyond to going to her book signing (I don't think after the way she has treated you I would have been able to do the same). Just wanted to show a little bit of love for you!

i love you kathy keep up the good health, i enjoy going walking with my 1 year old son. I am trying to keep up with my health as well, so Little chris can have a healthy mama. Well this last episode was pretty good no drama just heartbreak. One day everyone will realize. Love Hanna

You need to tell your husband to grow up! He acts all nicey-nicey to Joe & Theresa's face and talks horribly about them behind their backs to Joe Gorga. You are both weird.

Anyone who thinks Teresa and Joe keep these dramas from their kids hasn't been watching this show. They have been talking smack about Melissa and Joey since they came on the show and they do it in front of their kids....so why wouldn't Gia know what's going on ... she has to be hearing it all the time.

Kathy, I'm shocked by the way you attacked Teresa and attempted to make her feel like a bad mother at the fashion show. Instead of making things better between her and her brother you make things worse. I thought it was disgusting behaviour on your part. Honestly you just seem to be jealous of Teresa. YOur acting like a snake. You seem so untrustworthy.

I said it last week Kat, I see you in a whole new level. Your heart is so noble, I like you more and more.

I can't stand that picture with smoke coming out of your nose. It makes you look like a bull. Short blog and not about teresa, good job! keep it up.

Short and sweet and NO INSULTS TO TERESA, just the way I like it!

Kathy I think you look great and wish I could run! I can walk, run the treadmill and swim but I cannot run and would love to. I think I have this fear of conking out in the middle of the street and looking like a fool lol.

Next week looks like it heats up between you and Teresa and things don't look so good, it looks like everyone starts to gang up on Teresa too. I am just praying you're all in a better place and you're all past this and this does NOT bring up bad feelings all over again. Well thanks for a nice blog, what you said about 9/11 was very nice. xo

If your heart breaks for Gia then you should be seeing that it's Melissa and her whitchy sisters that are causing the problem. Why not sit down with Melissa and explain it to her... cause the rest of the world can see it and you can't.. Intelligence is not important to you . Isn't that what you said about Teresa YOUR COUSIN?

You are so right. Children do notice things especially when her father is the one stiring up the pot. Teresa needs to understand that a man could be here today and gone tomorrow a brother will always be your brother.

Kathy, too short and abrupt. I always love your perspective but this blog was a bit disappointing considering all of you missed a week.

I like you I also noticed that at Melania's bday party Caroline was trying to say things to you and you were very proper listened to her but didn't make any comments or remarks. You are truly a lady hope you all can fix your relationship, forget the manzo and lauritas here come gorga, giudice and wakile.

I was wrong about you. I made a comment that wasn't nice. I am sorry. I have watched the show and I do like you and think you are trying to make peace.

I think your husband, you, Melissa and her husband are not nice with Teresa and her husband, plus you and Melissa gossip to much, then act like you two don't understand why Teresa doesn't trust you. Please grow up and teach Melissa, in life not always is about feeling good over other people suffering.

Love you Kathy..you are a great mother and wife. PLEASE don't worry about Teresa fans that troll every housewife blog because your fans LOVE you. Teresa fans are just unaware of a few things about her and they will see what type of person she is real soon.

I really think that you are a sincere person. Just because Teresa is your cousin doesn't mean that you have to take her negative and over-bearing attitude. It is so refreshing to she a woman with your shear heart of gold, and energy on this show. I have to admit, I was not a fan until you came on this show. Don't buy into the negative comments some bloggers have said. Continue to stay true to yourself. It shows by the way you approach life and the way your family express their gradatitude to each other that you have a pure heart. You are one classy lady! Good luck to you.

Hi Kath, I love watching your show. I too am Italian and feel everything you and the girls go through with each other..Well..minus the glitz!:) I was wondering how it must feel when you see the show for the first time? And to hear and see all those nasty comments being said about you and your husband? That must make you sick! I am happy you joined the show and I hope to see you for a long time.. God Bless;; Cyndi

Kathy, please, please take your own advice!

kathy

wrong place, wrong time to be talking to Teresa... I find that all you ladies cannot find the right time to talk. Like Carol said kill each other at your own homes...... I see that you are trying to be the peacemaker, but I feel like you and ur husband dont know how to keep the peace, or say the right thing. You are dealing wif adults, its alot harder to keep anyone happy. Tesera and her brother need to talk it out!.... That is the only way for all of you to be together as a family.

Kathy, What did Gia teach you about your behavior. So not a fan of anyone who does not take responsibility for their own behavior.

Hi Kathy,

Ignore the haters. It's obvious that Team Teresa is living in a world of oblivion.

Caroline is like an annoying mother-in-law who thinks she knows better and must voice her opinion and her husband is so DULL! I like Kathy and Richie they are a great addition to the show!! They kids are cute and their son is funny. :) I think Caroline so leave the show (or at least show less of her) and have more Kathy and Richie. Team Kathy...woo hoo!!!

Kathy, I think you can only do so much to mend fence's w/Teresa and then the Ball is in her court. I wanted to tell you , your Catering Party was extremly nice. I am a 43yr.old female, who w/her husband is a Partner/Treasurer and Certified Food Safety Manager for our Wholesale/Retail Meat Company. I have been doing Catering on the side, and your party has given me some great idea's. Caroline's husband Albert is correct, you are so better off catering, a Resteraunt is like a new born baby , you are there day & night you have to be you are the owner's . I can relate to Caroline on her husband and his hour's that is the same with me with my husband. Difference is due to Cancer at age of 35yrs.old I had to have a Complete Hystro. But in October we will be celebrating our 18th Anniversary. With Catering you can decide if you want to do it or not . Where a restaurant you have to ( it is your bread & butter ). I loved your catering party. I think Caroline did what I figured she would do and it is something I learned from my Parent's. You judge if you like a person you do not , not like someone just because someone you know does not like them, make up your own mind. She did . And I have to say , when anything good happen's for you or Melissa , she cannot accept it , and jealousy come's out in her . Especially with Melissa, I believe it is obvious she is jelous of her , which is So Highschool it is unbelievealbe. She tell's Melissa to talk to her husband ( her brother ) and she will talk to her husband. Well what happened with the Fundraiser, he started right away saying he knew who would win, he has been running away like a little girl since he was little . That was Teresa's husband to her brother. REALLY GROW-UP! That song was so sad that young girl sang, she should not even be worring about adult problem's like that at all. She apparently hear's all they say and that is so wrong. My parent's never let us hear any of that. The main part that bothered me the most of that song was, I go to school thinking, worring & crying. THEY REALLY NEED TO GET THEIR PRIORITIE'S STRAIGHT. By the way , the baby was left alone at the Christning, I saw that along with all the other's . One last thing - I didn't even think Teresa had any sibling's or family around except her parent's and in-law's , I thought she was an only child. I was surprised to she see she had a sibling and a cousin living nearby! I looked at her over the top Christening to see where you guy's where , and the camera was on you guy's for like a second. SO WRONG! KEEP UP THE GREAT CATERING, THIS IS FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN DOING IT FOR OVER 15 - YEAR'S . FROM STEAK FRY'S TO WEDDING'S AND I SAW SOME GREAT IDEA'S FROM YOUR'S!! :) :)

Kathy, Great Job Catering. I am a Partner / Owner and Certified Food Safety Manager for my Wholesale/Retail Meat Company. I have been also doing Catering for over 15yrs. I am a 43yr. old Woman and on the side not connected to our Business we do Catering on the Side, We have cut down on how many we do , because it can run into alot of weekend's lost. That is why Albert is right , with catering you can pick & choose. With my Experience, you had an awesome party and gave me some great idea's! Also I think Teresa is jealous of you & Melissa, really jealous of Melissa. You have done enough to try making mend's with her , let the ball be in her court also at the christning, the baby was left alone in the middle of the room. You are not lying. Last; I never knew Teresa had a sibling, thought she was an Only Child w/just parent's & In-law's and did not know she had Cousin's living near her at all. Did not even see you guy's at that over the top Christning she held , before all the problems'!

Kathy you are a great addition to the show. I love your family! You guys are great parents...Someday you might consider joining Caroline on her radio show for advice and making contracts w/your kids. I love watching you cook..I still have't seen Teresa really showcase her cooking/food on the show...I want to taste those pastries you make...you make cooking look so fun and thats why your hubby & kids want to join in ...You might want to rethink how you deliver messages to Teresa...she doesn't get it no matter what...so who cares...continue to be YOU...pray for her...that she would be on the constant defense and that she would also recognize her errors ...keep cooking for us to see!!!

Kathy, I think you are great and your husband is hilarious! My daughter and I just crack up whenever we see him on the show! I think you have been very classy, handling all the crap from Teresa and her juiced husband. I can't wait until I see you say your piece to her. Who died and made her Jersey queen! Keep being classy! Linda

Kathy I think your desserts are spectacular.....Can we expect a cookbook with illustrations on your beautiful displays in the near future.....I would just love...love...love to see that in the stores......please consider it....

kathy....i just want to say...YOU ROCK! i love how you are the bigger person and dont belittle yourself in Teresa's drama roll...it's clearly she likes DRAMA...i like how you continue to stay positive in so many ways...i also congratulate you on completing the run for charity...i commend you for being a great example to me. i look up to you and love the fact that you are an incredible BAKER...maybe someday i can get a chance to taste your cooking. keep up the good work...just so you know...YOU LOOK BETTER THEN TERESA.

Love you.. you are the best on the show. I think Teresa is writing , because no one in their right mind would take her side over yours. She's a brat and completely nuts.

@ Dana from NL Canada, I must've missed something. I watched this episode at Kathy did not attack Teresa. She spoke the truth and Teresa dealt with it the only way she knows how...OVER REACTING causing a scene.

I think your very jealous of Teresa and your husband is no better! You can probably be a good person but now your not cuz your on the backburner when it comes to Teresa!

Love you and your family. I'm so confused as to why Teresa has any fans and they are totally creepy and fanatical. Anyone can see she is a loose cannon. I feel for her though and pray for her family

We know you treat your family so well. Why not try the same with Tre and Joe? I am sure your children and Melissa's children hear it all from you also. I've seen many times where they have all been present. Don't try to play the martyr alone with Melissa. Nothing is ever all right or wrong , you all are involved. Everybody should try to take told of their share of the problem. I would hope if I shared something with someone in private I would not appreciate them editing it and passing it along.

Kathy,

Milania's birthday was months ago. If you really believed what you wrote in this blog you would not have been writing the horrible the things about Teresa in all your previous blogs or your current tweets. You are not fooling anyone. As most of us have said on here before - you should be thanking Teresa without her you would never have had your 15 minutes of fame.

KATHY, I forgot to mention to you in my earlier posting that Iam a mother-in-law of a distinguished AMERCIAN SOLDIER who just returned from Afghanistan a year ago and he will be going back out to the war zone on his 2nd tour next year in March.... You mentioned that the run was for disabled veterans. Thank you for sticking with the run to the very end! You and your cousin Teresa are definetly cut from the same cloth! Thanks to you and Teresa for being compassionate enough to finish the race/run! It really saddened me to see self centered people like Caroline, Melissa, Jackie not having the compassion to honor our AMERICAN SOLDIERS...Cheating or taking the short route in order to finish first....is in no way of honoring our vets and soldiers.....Sadly to say.... these honorable men and women risk their limbs and their lives for our freedom everyday so that people like Caroline and her children could live such "privileged" lives and so that Melissa, and Jackie can live the life of high rollers... But you and Teresa stayed with it to the very end. that is why Teresa has captured my heart! It Is because of her compassion! And that is why you have just captured my heart! Because I saw the very same compassion in you that I see in your cousin Teresa ! Continue to shine bright! You and Tre have a heart of gold!

Love the title of your blog. The adults could learn from the kids. Listen to your own advice. Learn from Gia and quit badmouthing Teresa behind her back. Realize that she has a hard marriage obviously her husband has an alcohol problem and she is caring for four kids on her own while trying to financial support the family. You all tell her to keep Joe in check keep your own foul mouthed husband in check. You also bad mouth her in front of your children. I thought Teresa made up stuff about her family in the beginning but not after watching the season so far. Also enough with the facial expressions. no wonder this family fued continues from your mother to Teresa's father.

Hi Kathy! I love you, and your personality so much. I can see that you are a kind-hearted, down to earth person, and a great Mom. You bring calmness to the show. You're the "phenominal woman". I feel so bad when viewers make negative comments about you, or Richie. Yes, Richie does have a potty mouth **smile**, but he makes me laugh. I hope you continue with RHONJ until the end. Many more continued blessings to you and your family.

Thank you for explaining what the charity was about and actually taking it seriously. No one else seemed to care what it was even about and then proceeded to make a complete mockery out of the event.

I think somewhere in there you are a really nice person, you should focus on that and just be that person. I'm not on anyone's team because to be honest none of you people mean anything to me, but I do see where Teresa is coming from. She's been beat up black and blue by all of you people this season and that's just what we see each week, it's probably a lot worse off camera. She seems like a raw nerve that's now always in defense mode and can't relax because she's always under attack. It seems like out of all of you, you and Teresa have the best potential to be close. I sure hope things are better now and you should both take time away from the cameras and everyone else and find each other again.

Watch your back with Carolyn and I sure hope that after you watch the episodes you're seeing how Melissa is twisting things and using you.

You REALLY want to make up with Teresa? Just admit to her that it was wrong for you to take Melissa's side and you're sorry you turned your back on her. Aside from that, you seem nice and caring. From what we've seen, Teresa has no reason to dislike you other than for your choosing sides. Its taking her a long time to get over it because you were like a sister to her and what you did was a stab in the heart and she was really hurt by it. Once you acknowledge it and apologize she can start to get over it.

Never mind the comments about Richie. He's funny and obviously is just standing by his wife and sticking up for her even if she's wrong. He is so loyal to you. Maybe if you had that same attitude with Teresa at the start none of this would have happened between you.

Every week I read the blogs. I think fans are divided about how they feel about you and there is very little in the middle opinion.

I applaude you trying to get your business, your passion, off the ground. I don't agree with the forum in which you used to do it. Teresa was already on the show, their was already conflict, and you still decided to go on the show.

You often talk out of both sides of your mouth. You say on one hand you want to resolve conflict between the families and then bash Teresa.

In my lifetime I have watched so many people try to project the perfect life, the perfect husband, and the perfect kids. In the end the skeletons came out. The truth is you try to project that everyone else has the issues and is to blame and you have no fault.

I think you want Teresa to gravel. She is not going to do that ever. It isn't her style. Don't get me wrong, I am not her biggest fan, but as a compassionate human being, it is obvious she is struggling to keep everything together.

Yes, Gia, sees the conflict in her family. But, her life, as she knew it, has changed. Money is now tight, her Mom is doing all she can to keep things afloat. I am sure kids have been cruel to her.

Your husband has a potty mouth. You talk about what a good guy he is. But, he doesn't present himself that way. I mean I wouldn't want my kids around him.

I think you need to look in your own closet before judging others.

Kathy........I often feel like I'm watching a different show than some of these other viewers. I want to start by saying that your children are truly great kids, who have been raised to help out and think of others. Good job! I do not think you're perfect but certainly are head and shoulders above many. As for all the sympathy that the Teresa fans dole out, I find it mind-boggling. All the talk about "kicking her when she's Down" and all the hardship she's had to overcome, OH PLEASE!!!! Are these people serious? THEY got themselves into the financial debt that they did. Joe was the one forging signatures of his partner, who rightfully sued him. NONE of this things are anyone elses fault but their own greed and stupidity. People who are truly down on their luck and need our prayers and sympathy are those who have a sick child or family member. Possible even those who have lost a child or loved one. There are thousands of people who have to declare bankruptcy because they took ill, or there was a death of the household bread-winner. NOT because someone like Teresa had to have a multi-million dollar home. Then have it filled with furniture they couldn't afford and fixtures and finishes not found in the most opulent of homes. Gia seems to be maturing in spite of the garbage she is exposed to. The two girls younger than her are bratty and bold. By Teresa just ignoring their bad behavior is something she will pay for many years to come. After each obnoxious thing those children do, she sits in front of the camera raving about them. She is doing not a single favours to those poor kids. True love is in the limits, boundaries and consistency you set for them. You can never love your kids enough, however giving them their way to shut them up will lead to 4 "Ashley"s" in her future. They will have no respect for anybody and be girls who think the world owes them. Kathy try not to fall into Teresa's trap. She is NOT happy! Her words fool few of us. Her husband is a grump! The more people brag about their sex life, the less they are to be believed. Teresa might not have known what her husband texted to her brother that night because they lied to her and only showed her parts of the messages, but DID SHE NOT WATCH THE SHOW? It was there in print. Her husband is a bully and a trouble maker. All the best to you Kathy. I think you're a hard worker, a good wife and even a better mother!