Kathy Wakile

Kathy thinks the adults could learn a lot from the children.

on Sep 15, 20110

Hello everyone, we’re back! Did you miss us? I sure missed you guys, so I just wanted to say a few words before I start my blog… As I sat and watched the events and memorials in the week leading up to anniversary of 9-11, I couldn’t help but be struck by the knowledge that so many families are still devastated by the events of that day and mourning the loss of loved ones. The country suffered a collective loss that so many of us still feel so deeply... So instead of writing my blog on Sunday, I stayed home with my husband and kids and enjoyed family time. I felt like I needed to count my blessings for what we have and live each day and be thankful. So on that note I will keep things in perspective and try to keep things positive.

Now back to Housewife reality and writing the blog…I’d like to make a few comments on the episode. First of all there’s nothing like the spirit of a little friendly competition to get everyone’s blood pumping and ready to compete for the 5K run. This run was for a good cause to provide housing for disabled veterans and people with disabilities and so why not…I am a good runner and enjoy participating in charity events, so when Caroline asked me to join, Rich and I were glad to help out. Victoria and Joseph are both runners too. It turned into a great way to start off our Sunday together. I started running years ago as a way to manage my weight, but as time has gone by, I have grown to enjoy the time I’m running to be alone with my thoughts. Running is the most amazing way to get your heart pumping. I love the way it makes me feel. Feeling great and taking care of your heart is after all the most important thing to me. It’s what’s on the inside that really counts for me. When our physical appearance fades, your heart is what sustains you later on in life. Of course everyone says little silly negative things here and there, but no one wants to hurt anyone, and it was all in the spirit of good fun. 

118 comments
Karen--SC
Karen--SC

Kathy, that was so touching about 9-11. My husband served in the Military for 25 years and has a Purple Heart. So nice to know that you care about others, it shows you have a wonderful heart. Stay that way!!

Livsey
Livsey

Kathy,

Love you, Stay just the way you are!!! Think that you are just great!!!

jersey1980
jersey1980

Kathy,

You are a very classy women. Don't let Teresa bring you down. She is just mean & nasty to people! I read that someone said that Teresa has gone threw alot this year. So who CARES they brought it on themselves. Don't spend money that you don't have... I'm gald that you put her in her place.

Nebraska Granny
Nebraska Granny

You are a very passive/aggressive personality....you know exactly what you are saying when you're baiting Teresa, and frankly, you're too old to be batting and rolling and making your eyes big to try to feint innocence. The show was much better before you were added....Melissa I can understand because she is Teresa's sister in law, but you? You are just a family troublemaker. Aaarrgghhh

newengland01
newengland01

Kathy, OWN what you say... You made the "detachment" comment to hurt T. You seem very jealous of her and of her success. Are you afraid they may succeed in their restaurant venture? You didn't mention any type of feelings of detachment from your kids when you were inquiring about the possibility of your own restaurant. Stop being so passive-aggressive... Your "coo coo" comments only make YOU look "coo coo".. Perhaps you should just stay away from your cousin, make your OWN friends, and find your own TV show to star in. Uh, good luck with THAT.

schellr33
schellr33

I hope they don't have you apart of the show next year... I have a big group of girls come over and watch the Housewives but everytime you come on we switch the channel... You come across so fake you drive us crazy... BRAVO please get a new housewife to replace Kathy next year....!!

loveyourshow45
loveyourshow45

I just want to say one thing-Your children are adorable & have won the hearts of many! So Sweet! Love them!:)

napgrl
napgrl

Kathy, I believe the icing on the cake was the way you finished with "Good luck with that", and the tone you used in regards to children and the restaurant business. You were fine before finishing your explanation to Teresa that way. Just saying.....

Elisabeth Hill
Elisabeth Hill

Only one comment for you Kathy; You are a lady!!! You love your husband and your kids are fantastic; not brats. That shows just what a wonderful woman you are. Don't ever change. ♥

Denise F
Denise F

I love how you handle things, and your family values are wonderful!!! Great looking family!!!!! =)

Denise F
Denise F

I love your eyes, they're so gorgeous!!! You have great family values, and I yer kids and husband are so much fun. You seem like nice people!!!! I wish I had your eyes, your make up is so gorgeous on them, and makes them stand out. So pretty!!!! =) You are classy and nice too.

Love NJHW
Love NJHW

Wow...a commenter above mentioned how you brought flowers and an apology to Caroline's house. They also mentioned how there's no footage of you doing that for Teresa (your blood, the woman you've known most of your life). I hope Bravo just edited that part out to make you appear sneaky and passive aggressive. And I think you're smart enough to realize that mothering/parenting skills should be off limits when it comes to you and Teresa. Why? Because you've clearly taken multiple digs at her regarding her parenting. She's a great mother no matter how you try to protray her as a parent who has no problem detaching themselves....smh.

nelda
nelda

Kathy, I think you're a woman of class and Terese does not know how to react to your integrity other than spit at you at any given chance. You're a strong woman with strong morals and your children are a true example. Terese has no power over you and honestly, this kills her. Stay true to yourself.

jsbach5000
jsbach5000

Kathy, you know that you took a dig at Theresa with your detaching comment. Be a woman and own it. I like your husband, but he is vicious. At least he doesn't pretend not to be. You have great kids so there has to be something good about you, but I have not seen it yet.

Please Fess Up!
Please Fess Up!

Kathy, Kathy Kathy. I am not a violent person and can barely even kill a cockroach but if anyone ever said anything to imply that I had ever harmed or neglected my children, that person would have no teeth. You saw the show, you know it happened. I wish you would just apologize! That one little comment was so hurtful I can feel it. It's your only misstep, but it was a very significant one. Please just say you're sorry! Teresa has a temper, but in this situation, I really can't blame her. Oh well, that was about 6 months ago, wasn't it? You've probably already apologized by now!

Linda B
Linda B

Well done handling yourself with Teresa! Dont back down to that drama queen mean girl. I think you and your family are great. So glad your on the show!

Sky Snow
Sky Snow

Kathy, the only thing that comes to mind when describing you is that you are "A Snake In The Grass". You intentionally insinuated that Teresa would not care for her children properly given the time it would take to run a restaurant. It was very clear and even the great Albert Manzo missed it. You are such a manipulator. Honestly this should be called "The Mean Season" of NJ housewives as it has all been based on everyone alienating Teresa and Joe, in there worst of times, while embracing each other. It is so completely shameful. You have no compassion for others unless they are your gossip buddy. You and Melissa have the "common enemy" friendship. It is what fuels and nourishes your relationship with each other, bashing Teresa. Can't watch another season of this with you in it. Obviously no one has a heart when it comes to the extreme amount of difficulties Teresa and Joe have gone through, not to mention Gia. But you sit on the beach and chant Coo - Koo, Coo - Koo about her mother. What a wonderful person you are.

Mimi2222
Mimi2222

Hey Kathy, OMG!!!! BABES YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG, You were making your opinion heard and like caroline's husband said she was looking for a gate to bring the previous drama back....DON'T worry the TRUTH will come out during the reunion...I LOVE RICHIE!!! His like the Mafia leader with the deep voice which has rubbed off on your son so cute....I love your daughter very down to earth, B you have an amazing Family an forget Teresa she really feeds shit to her Husband xxxxxxxxxxxxxx Love your Big Beautiful Eyes and your WINK xxxx Kiss Kiss

Otowngrl77
Otowngrl77

I know you are a sweet person, but please don't forget how much Teresa has gone through in the past year. Sometimes advice isn't a good thing to give someone, and it's better to just give your support and love. I know your comments are meant to be helpful, but when they seem to bring up others' feelings of fear or guilt, it's best to forego them... otherwise, it looks like you're taking a dig at them when they're vulnerable. I hope you and Teresa patch things up because you both seem like you need your family to be whole again. You both deserve the best! BTW, I love running too.

Otowngrl77
Otowngrl77

I know you are a sweet person, but please don't forget how much Teresa has gone through in the past year. Sometimes advice isn't a good thing to give someone, and it's better to just give your support and love. I know your comments are meant to be helpful, but when they seem to bring up others' feelings of fear or guilt, it's best to forego them... otherwise, it looks like you're taking a dig at them when they're vulnerable. I hope you and Teresa patch things up because you both seem like you need your family to be whole again. You both deserve the best! BTW, I love running too.

Linda B
Linda B

Well done handling yourself with Teresa! Dont back down to that drama queen mean girl. I think you and your family are great. So glad your on the show!

naepooh
naepooh

Kathy you say you want things to go well between you and Teresa, but I have noticed you have a very negative attitude when it comes to her. Her husband and her have gone through "hell" on the bankruptcy. Put yourself in her plce for once....her life has not been all peaches and cream. TShe and Joe need alot of understanding and positive reinforcement from EVERYONE. So back off with the hateful remrks and stop stirring the pot and act like a relative instead of being so hateful.

debbieinmissouricitytx
debbieinmissouricitytx

kathy...you disappointed me...you made that detachment comment to hurt Teresa...yes you did...own it! Because here is why I know, because you never made mention of it during your quest to open a restaurant! Yuo never once said that you would feel detached from your kids....That was so wrong...Kathy you gotta grow up and let it go. Be of good cheer, be inspired and uplifted. Be ready to find new solutions to old, exasperating problems. No matter how elusive these may have proved in the past...prepare to heal wounds and build bridges, to deepen important relationships and forge new friendships. Prepare to love and be loved. It wont happen overnight but at least you will be headed in the right direction. Have you thought about paying your cousin a visit with flowers and goodies. It worked for Caroline!

Cici26
Cici26

Kathy i really liked the way you handled your self with Teresa. U do not need to apologize or walk on egg shells with no one she says what she thinks and goes on and on abt things. If he gets bother by the comment if because deep down she knows she isnt doing her job right other wise it would not even face her. But dont worry because she is so out of control because everyone is seeing exactly the way she truly is and she cant control it or control the friendship being developed with the Caroline and Jacqueline... So keep going and shame on her

SpaGal
SpaGal

I think you're a Classy lady!! Keep up the good work with your baking, they look amazing!!! Thank you also for caring about our True Hero's, our Vets!!!

T-Bella
T-Bella

Kathy, I just wanted to tell you that you are, without question, one of my favorite housewives. I would like to know if Teresa's mother in law was watching Audriana during the Christening then how did her mother in law supposedly get her hair pulled by Melissa's sister during the fight. Teresa should be thanking you for being considerate enough to take the initiative to take Audriana to a safer place during the chaos at the Christening. You are an amazing mother and your children's behavior and attitude demonstates your excellent parenting skills. I wish you and your family all the best.

Best of Boston
Best of Boston

Kathy, Keep up the good work. You bring a lot of class to the show and that is one of the reasons that Teresa is so jealous of you. She is the typical "trailer park trash" girl. She always has to try and one up everyone but it only makes us she her for what she is. You have a super family and your children are top shelf.... could you give Teresa some helpful hints on how to "train" her monsters. I want to throw up everytime we are subjected to them on the show. Hopefully Bravo will get is right and send Teresa and her brood the way of the RHNY..... Keep on smiling - you always come out on top no matter what crap "she" tries to throw at you.

ready to change the channel
ready to change the channel

You are a saint and theresa needs to go. She needs to be retired from the show just like danielle staud. I love the others and you and melissa keep up the faith you are a class act.

tired viewer
tired viewer

I agree with the others, Teresa will take issue with anything you say. It wouldn't even matter if you talked about the weather. Is having her in your life worth the energy? Just try to co-exist.

Love your family. You are doing a great job with your kids. Being married to Richie has to be a trip. You make a great couple.

VAGIRL5103
VAGIRL5103

KATHY YOU KNOW TERESA IS SENSITIVE WHEN IT COMES TO HER CHILDREN .. I THINK YOU KNEW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE DOING WHEN YOU MADE THAT DIG ABOUT DETACHMENT FROM THE CHILDREN.

LisainTn
LisainTn

Kathy, You are becoming one of my favorite housewifes. I think you, Rich and your kids are great. I couldn't beleive Tereasa got upset about what you said. It is clear that you are trying to work things out with her. She needs to meet you half way. I do think what you said about Terease realizing that not everyone is against her would be better received if the rest of the cast didn't talk about her everytime she walks away. Especially Greg and the three Manzo kids. But, at least you are keeping it classy and I can tell you are sincere in your efforts in reconciling.

Melinda L
Melinda L

Kathy, I think your very inspiring. Great mother and true person all the way around. I am so glad that bravo added you and Melissa to the show. Teresa used to be one of my faves on the show after watching this season up until now I am actually annoyed with her. She shows herself as being fake and jealous. I wish you and your family the best and hope you come out with a dessert cook book.

Homer's Truth
Homer's Truth

LOVE YOU, KATHY and your whole family (immediate family, that is). You, your husband and kids are awesome to watch. You show grace in the face of chaos. Love your husbands sense of humor. I would not be watching the show anymore if our family was not on it. You are a total class act!!!

K-Song Kreations
K-Song Kreations

Cathy, I wasn't sure how I was going to like you, that being said, I just adore you and your family. Your desserts are going to be a huge success. I would love to try them for the upcoming holidays. How do I reach you to discuss? Keep up the class act, and I adore your children. I have a close large family and I get the drama!!! Must be hard with the cameras and having to look at yourself through Americas eyes. My daughter is 26 now and I have a 3 year old granddaughter and I wish you all the happiness in the world. Best to you..Kristine

AMiller
AMiller

It took me awhile to warm up to you Kathy, but i like you more and more after each episode. You are very kind, warm and level headed. Can't wait to see what next week has in store!

SascSam
SascSam

Love You Kathy !!!! My Favorite of All !!!!

Texanne
Texanne

Here's an idea. Why don't you ignore Teresa? She has real anger issues that will never be resolved until she goes to anger management classes. Joe needs to go with her. Let them find out by themselves about the restaurant business. With the economy the way it is, it will fail anyway.

Kristina
Kristina

Kathy you are a great addition to the show. i normally watch this show to learn what not to do in life, but with your true love for your family and yourself, i see a totally different side of reality tv. i admire your optimism and wish you the best when your in the next 'lose lose egotistical about tre time discussion turned arguement" with Tre.

Ceecee18
Ceecee18

I just adore you Mrs. Kathy!! First impressions aren't always the correct ones of people, and you have truly out grown yours from my point of view. Your trying to make things work with your family and thats all that matters! Keep going and stay strong!! All the best!!!

dawn26
dawn26

Kathy, After watching this episode thrice. It is crystal clear that nothing you said was meant to put Teresa down. It amazed me that she even had a snide comment to you telling her that she was a good mother. Like Tre would say "Who does that?" Obviously she does. It seems that the reason she has a grudge with you is because you befriended who she feels to be her competition for some insane reason....Melissa. If you are confident in yourself there should be no competition. I don't see you trying to compete, .....you are the only one who has it right in that family and is secure to be your beautiful self. Before the airing I was so worried for you since Bravo's description of the episode was that Kathy and Teresa come to blows on the beach. Coming to blows means hitting or assaulting eachother...at least to me? Thankfully this was an exageration. You are a class act lady and drop dead gorgeous too. It makes me smile to think of those two who are so busy in their competition may have a few more wrinkles and not be as pretty as you at your age. Juicy can put you down all he wants. He knows a beautiful woman when he see's one and it upsets him that you are not impressed by him and have his 411.

Love You...Hope all is better in the year you are living now. xoxo

plump4jersey
plump4jersey

Kathy ~ I just want to say that YOU TOTALLY ROCK. You have so much class in you that i enjoy watching the show because of you. I think you n Richie make a great looking couple...I think you have a hot husband you loves and adores you and that's what makes you stand out. I cant wait for you to make a dessert cookbook cause i would really buy it off the market. i think you make a great cater to the dessert world. i just finished watching the newest episode where you guys were talking about the kids on cunta. Teresa just likes to live off the past...and you kept your cool and i love that about you. Teresa is all about herself...in the beginning of the show she said to leave the past in the past and then at the beach she bought it all back up....wtf?? i enjoy watching the show because of you. i love how you continue to carry yourself and at your age, i hope to look as good as you cause you're such a hot momma...i really enjoy learning from you and take what you do in life for myself. i will continue to watch this show until i dont see you again. i hope someday i can meet you in person and give you a hug for completeing the race and run...you were the only person who didnt cheat and i commend you for that. i so admire you as a mother, wife and the best cousin in the world...i wish you were part of my family cause you rock. i love your kids, the most beautiful kids ever. and they are special. may the good Lord continues to bless you and your family and looking forward to always watching the classy side of you. YOU ROCK KATHY..AND SO DOES RITCHIE...LOVE YA.

soundbites
soundbites

You're my fave on the show! It was so refreshing to see you introduce Lebanese/Mediterranean food at your "Goddess Party" on the show. I am Armenian/Lebanese. It shows your latitude about food, and open-minded palate. Teresa, by contrast, who has written two books and claims to have a culinary palate, made low-brow comments about Tabouli, "Shepherd's salad." It is absolutely delicious, fresh and low in calories. The parsley used in Tabouli is made typically with ITALIAN PARSLEY. Her narrow-minded comments displayed her limited understanding of fresh ingredients and international cuisine. The world doesn't revolve around tomato sauce! My conclusion about her books is that she just slapped her identity to recipes that were genuinely created by your family. She's not a true epicurean and sadly, I wouldn't buy her cook books. To rectify your relationship, maybe you could cook together---Teresa would learn more. Equally, it was great to see Richie's birthday party at a Lebanese supper club celebrating with nargile, belly dancers and mezza. I've been to the supper club Sayat Nova next door, and look forward to trying Aladdin. Thanks for sharing great food and places on the show.

Paula Johnson
Paula Johnson

Hello Kathy Darling!

Finished watching the show a couple hours ago and felt like I had to write to you. It's pertaining to the Sunday Sept 18th showing. Personally Kathy, I don't know how you keep your cool as much as you do! Dealing with Teresa has got to be so exasperating and frustrating! You were right, all you said was how you felt about being so detached from your children if you do decide to open the restaurant. Teresa made it about her! You were speaking about yourself, not her! I think it is some kind of guilt on her part. Otherwise why did she get so defensive? I think she is very insecure why does she feel she has to compete with all the time! Even coming out there to model all her bathing suits(stripper outfits) for everyone was a bit rude and ridiculous! She should have been doing that for her husband only! It made me laugh when she said there wasn't any competition there LOL! She was jealous of Melissa! Well anyway, gotta give you some Kudos Kathy, how you don't slap her face constantly astounds me! LOL You're the best, love your whole family! You've tried over and over,just like Melissa, to work things out with her! Teresa is way too immature to approach the situation like an adult! Even after Gia cried while singing her song at the b-day party she couldn't reign her mouth in! You're a very classy and lovely lady Kathy!

Steffieann
Steffieann

Kathy,let me say you are a breathe of fresh air. You are what the show needed. You seem to be so down to earth. Just stop letting Teresa run all over you. The only reason she turns your words. Is because she is insecure with who she is!!!

shawneedawn21
shawneedawn21

kathy you are a great wife mother sister daughter and so much more and i do belive you when you wont to make mends with treasa but when you were talking to all the ladies at ur godess party and you said that ur were going to start a resturant and treasa just cut you off if the spot light is not on her then it cant be on any one else with is think is so crappy because it was ur party and not her's some people need to keep there mouth shut and be happy for someone else for a change. BITTER- jelousy for sure xoxo keep on keeping on haha

Mrs. R
Mrs. R

You seem to be such a warm caring and genuine person, it is so Sad to see how Teresa acts towards you, but it appears she is jealous because you are such a genuine and Classy Lady. By the way your Mom seems so warm and Loving as well so I can see that the apple did not fall far from that tree. Great Family!

Michelle Z.
Michelle Z.

Kathy,you are so sweet and anyone would be blessed to have you for a friend, mother, sister, cousin, wife!! Your kids are great! You are a classy lady! Richie is awesome! Love, love, love watching you guys!

ViewerSio
ViewerSio

Cathy, you are a wonderful, smart, beautiful Woman and a class act, you are a great mother. One thing all of you need to realize, and I believe you have already, Teresa, is a very insecure person. I'm sure she is a good person, but she takes everything personally. You clearly did not say anything bad about her and her mothering. Things have not been resolved from the Christening and as an outsider, I could see both parties at fault (not you Cathy) But since then, Teresa takes everything personally...so no matter what you say, even if you say to her, she's a great mom from out of the blue, she doesn't know how to take a compliment. Now, maybe with all the stress they have been through, with the financials and their lives being aired all over, they just take everything personally, so maybe a little break would do them well, but it's hard to have a nice relationship with people that are constantly defending themselves, even though they are with family and loved ones they don't see it. They are constantly in competition with everyone. Teresa can't just be happy her brother is so in love with a woman that makes him happy and she is a good, beautiful person. Teresa has to always have the floor as you said, but she has to be in the spot light constantly. I am sure Teresa is a good person with a great heart, but has a hard time getting through the green jealousy of others. I wish you all the best...you handle yourself like a lady and you are a wonderful person from what I see on the tv show. :-)