Cast Blog: #RHONJ


Kathy thinks the adults could learn a lot from the children.

Hello everyone, we’re back! Did you miss us? I sure missed you guys, so I just wanted to say a few words before I start my blog… As I sat and watched the events and memorials in the week leading up to anniversary of 9-11, I couldn’t help but be struck by the knowledge that so many families are still devastated by the events of that day and mourning the loss of loved ones. The country suffered a collective loss that so many of us still feel so deeply... So instead of writing my blog on Sunday, I stayed home with my husband and kids and enjoyed family time. I felt like I needed to count my blessings for what we have and live each day and be thankful. So on that note I will keep things in perspective and try to keep things positive.

Now back to Housewife reality and writing the blog…I’d like to make a few comments on the episode. First of all there’s nothing like the spirit of a little friendly competition to get everyone’s blood pumping and ready to compete for the 5K run. This run was for a good cause to provide housing for disabled veterans and people with disabilities and so why not…I am a good runner and enjoy participating in charity events, so when Caroline asked me to join, Rich and I were glad to help out. Victoria and Joseph are both runners too. It turned into a great way to start off our Sunday together. I started running years ago as a way to manage my weight, but as time has gone by, I have grown to enjoy the time I’m running to be alone with my thoughts. Running is the most amazing way to get your heart pumping. I love the way it makes me feel. Feeling great and taking care of your heart is after all the most important thing to me. It’s what’s on the inside that really counts for me. When our physical appearance fades, your heart is what sustains you later on in life. Of course everyone says little silly negative things here and there, but no one wants to hurt anyone, and it was all in the spirit of good fun. 

I was happy to go to Milania’s birthday party. It was so cute to see all the kids together. I miss that time with my kids when my they were younger and their cousins, friends, and classmates all got together to celebrate birthdays.

My heart broke for Gia when she sang that song. She’s a smart little girl who is very sensitive and she knows what’s going on. It just points out the innocence of children with their pure hearts. They don’t see all the things that cloud our judgment. They look at the world from an unjaded perspective and they see things for what they are. They just know their hearts. I think we all can learn a lesson here -- we need to step back and listen to our kids sometimes. They put it very simply and seem to leave out all that baggage that we adults bring along.

Things really start to heat up as we all take off for Punta Cana. Stay with us to share a truly unique experience. Talk to you next week…

Lots of Love, 

Xoxo Kathy



Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.