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Kathy Wakile

Over It?

Kathy was a little disturbed by Teresa's ability to act as if they never had the argument on the beach.

Oct 4, 2011

In Teresa's conversation with Joe, she continues to try and justify her outburst. Joe really doesn't even want to hear it anymore, or maybe it's just her voice he's tired of. Yes, I should take the high road, but try reasoning with Teresa and see how irrational you become. Watching this scene over again really pisses me off. It takes me back to the Posche fashion show confrontation months ago when Teresa rationalized her outburst by twisting my words to suit herself.

When Jacqueline tries to make sense of Teresa's reaction, it gives Teresa the backing to legitimize her outburst. Jacqueline is being a good friend, but is also trying to present another side of the argument to get through to her. Unfortunately Teresa's response, like all of her responses, is that "I'm over it." Well, if you really are over it, why don't you do what Jacqueline says and come over and give me a hug and try to clear it up instead of pretending that everything is fine. Instead of dealing with a problem in a real way, she buries it. Who knows when she's going to clock me again with it? If she were over it she would come talk to me like a rational adult. Her lack of remorse shows me that she has no conscience and that's disturbing. I think you can tell that I can't fake it and pretend that the argument didn't affect me. 

So the next day we have a trip to the market. When it comes to Teresa, I always feel like I'm waiting to be ambushed. According to Teresa, we're going to the market to do research for this "Italian/Italian" fusion book. Was it Southern Italian versus Northern Italian, no, she's talking Latin/Italian. Once again Teresa demonstrates her knowledge of food and culinary expertise.

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I really like you and your husband and family. You seem so genuine which is nice break for this show. I think it's very telling how Teresa says she's all about family but other than her parents and in laws she seems not to have any around. I think with some family you can only hope to come to a place of tolerance and with Teresa's no insight to her own actions and selfishness, I don't think you will ever be able to have a relationship of any depth. That's just how it goes. Take care and thanks for being such a great addition for us to watch!

Wow! What a nice ending to this episode. Teresa apologized and you seem to have made up...but here's your blog. As usual, you're bashing your cousin. So sad.

Love you Kathy! Greg said it best, you are a classy lady!!

Love you Kathy! Greg said it best, you are a classy lady!!

you are a serious class act and your cousin is a very sad character.

I'll tell you who is over it. ME.....and thousands of other viewers.

So sick of you and your blog-you spend most of it bashing Theresa and you are just plain mean.

Kathy, I absolutely love you and you have been a breath of fresh air this season. You are an amazing mother, friend, sister, and cousin and I wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavors. Love love watching you on the show

Kathy, You have been a wonderful addition to this show. I have so much love and respect for you. You are such a warm and very sincere lady and full of so much love. I want to know how your catering business is coming along, and will you be writing a cookbook? I have a pretty good idea you probably have already started one. The food you made during Thanksgiving and Christmas looked so yummy and absolutely divine. So good luck with whatever you are doing with that. And hope to hear good things soon. Kathy, you just keep being the bigger person and always stay true to yourself and everything else will fall into place. May god bless you and your family!!! All is well and lots of love to u and your family!!!

Love, love, love, love you! It's nice to see someone real and authentic on the show. Keep your chin up! Don't let haters get their way and have you think for a second you aren't a class act, because you are.

The best of luck!

I'm was hanging in there with you, but I have had enough of watching you play the victim while taking all of these jabs at Teresa. You don't turn the cheek...you get even in your blogs and interviews. Teresa is no better, but quit pretending like you are....I'm pretty much over the NJHW....horrible season

Kathy,

Please DON'T take your time to pay attention to the negative comments. YOU are a great lady.

Another dig as Teresa was apologizing....you mentioned her putting all your family receipes in her cook book (did) a subtle one but a dig non the less.

Family feuds are THE worst. There is more drama, insults, heartache... things said that can't be taken back. Doesn't help that all of this is aired for everyone to see. People get much nastier when they are fighting with family and close friends than with random strangers. With strangers you can easily disconnect and let go, while with the loved ones its frustrating because you care deeply for them. I watch the episodes with hope that somehow you ladies will make it work. Seems that there is too much pride, stubbornness and finger pointing. I don't see any of you ladies taking a high road, there is nothing classy with eyes rolling and gossiping behind each others back (especially in front of a CAMERA!). I sincerely hope that somehow, someway you ladies come together and make it work. You are family after all. I adore each one of you. I have to note, your pastries and desserts look absolutely YUMMY! :) Any chance of a cookbook? "wink, wink"

Seriously? you open up with wishing Theresa would talk to you and when she does, you still have to criticize...how can you not see your contraction in what you say and what you do? It's what you say about Theresa all the time. The analolgy that when you point at someone, there are three fingers pointing back could not more be appropriate for you. Take a look at yourself - you aren't that compassionate and forgiving as you think you are.

You need to "get over it" and quit your bashing of Teresa!

Talk about beating a dead horse! You made up at the end of the episode, why are you still talking about this!? You made snarky comments about her as well, as you all do on the show. Your victim routine is getting old!

This show used to be a fun guilty pleasure of mine and now it is just depressing. I really like you, but this season is a classical example of the group think mindset. You have all decided that Teresa is bad, and when the brain makes a conclusion like that, it then looks for evidence to prove itself right, while ignoring all evidence to the contrary. Real life is not that black and white. Teresa can be self-absorbed and has her share of bad qualities, as we all do, but she does not seem to be a fatally flawed bad person. You guys are going to live to regret it if you all bash her. Fans are going to get sick of it and it will leave you looking like a bully, and you're not. Deep down I believe you know it is wrong to treat her like it is her against the world. You guys made up at the end of the episode and it was happy, focus on the good in one another and not the bad. Teresa's tendency to brush problems under the rug is not a sign of no conscience, it is her coping mechanism, and it has proven to be very destructive in her life, so don't take it so personally.

It's clear to the viewers that you are a lovely lady. You have to understand that Theresa is angry that you and Melissa joined the show while you were not on speaking terms with her. I knew you guys being together on the show was not going to work; since Tre views the show as her territory and see you guys as interlopers, but I still hope you guys can reconcile because you have so much fun when you're together. The other problem is too much outside influence mixed together with family problems. Families are supposed to work on their problems together, everyone else needs to butt out.

ugh you and melissa would have been such better additions to the show if it didnt showcase your problems with teresa. there was no need to bash her on your blog after your reconciliation. or have you not reconciled? team teresa all the way!

You are so kind and understanding of everyone except your cousin Teresa. We viewers cannot possibly all the intricacies of the family relationships, but it is obvious that T has been through some tough times and I don't think you are very nice to her.

Why accept an apology if you are going to bash- disgusting. You say Tre needs to grow up- no u do. You are the type that goes where the wind blows. Everyone hating Tre this week and you follow. Have you no mind of your own?

U hope for a sincere reconciliation? But all u do in your blog is bash Teresa, stop pretending to be a victim, u say you turn the other cheek sure u need to stop bashing your cousin. TEAM TERESA ALL THE WAY!!

You claim you are hoping for a sincere reconciliation yet this is just a little of what you have to say about Teresa in just this blog.....

"No escaping her" "creepy" "enjoys my misery" "has no conscience and that's disturbing" "I'm waiting to be ambushed" "Once again Teresa demonstrates her knowledge of food and culinary expertise." "demonstrated what an embarrassment Teresa really is" "disrespectful and condescending"

Do you really have to wonder why people don't like or trust you? You obviously don't want a reconciliation and are passive aggressive and petty.

If my cousin ever said these things about me, I would never speak to her again. I would consider her to be toxic and vile. Your comment about her culinary abilities shows how green with envy you are about her successful cookbooks.

In case you didn't notice, Teresa took the high road and apologized. I don't know why she bothered after reading this.

Ugh, you are fake and hurtful and I hope Teresa cuts you and the rest of the backstabbers out of her life for good.

OMG.... with cousins and in-laws like you two, who wants enemies!

Kathy- I have really enjoyed you and Melissa as additions to the RHWONJ. You seem like a really sweet person. I hope BRAVO is reconsidering Teresa's contract. I knew she was like Danielle, but, I never knew how much!!! I hope they ( BRAVO) See that where's the smoke, there's fire!!!! I heard about the POSCHE (sp?) Fashion show and again, Teresa tries to embarass Melissa. (Did Teresa really say that MG was a stripper?) Is Jacqueline leaving the show as the press is reporting? I hope not!!! I also hope she has figured out what Teresa is!

I'm so over this drama. If you and Teresa hate each other so much why did you join the show? Enough is enough. This family feud will start turning people away from this show. Very disturbing.

Um Kathy if you watched the show close ENOUGH you would have heard her later correct herself and say ITALIAN/LATIN FUSION. I heard it. It's been 10 months since you filmed this and youre talking about it like it was last sunday. You were a little snarky talking of the restaurant. I know they were being delusional talking of opening a restaurant it was just talk, they dont have the money or time to start a tough tough business, what fool would loan them money? You did cut a little dig when you said,"I couldn't separate myself from my kids", "good luck with that."You did make it about her. You did, just by saying,"good luck with that" If you know how short her fuse is when it comes to you. Leave it alone. Not nice going after her cookbooks selling those cookbooks is how she makes a living supporting her kids. Kathy you're the older more sophisticated one leave it alone. If you truly care for her, for her kids, stop knocking her cookbooks.At least she was trying to explore in the local cuisine. To bad it couldn't have been a five star Dominican restaurant as opposed to a meat market. LOL. That's part of her charm. Andy gets a kick out of her. She has a lot of fans. She wont be going anywhere. Teresa brings it more than Jaqs does. I would rather watch Teresa and her adorable girls than watch Jaqs have an intervention with the dad who is now facing arson and money laundering charges, and Ashley who sat there with that horrible smirk. Our kids our a product of ourselves. Youve done right when it comes to your whole family dynamic. Youve got great kids and a wonderful loving husband you're so blessed. I would rather see positive scenes that inspire me. Sadly Jaqs isn't bringing it . Now her fallout with Teresa makes her look two faced and no longer the sweet girl she portrayed. She's rubbing it in Teresa's face on Twitter."Thanks @kathywalkile for the yummy red velvet gelato" Come on now!!! The Manzo's and Laurito's were the Guideses friends and didnt have any problems until you and Melisa came aboard. That speaks volumes on how Teresa is feeling. Be emphatic. How would it make you feel?

That's what it is all about isn't it! How can Teresa have such successful books when you have so much more culinary knowledge than her? Lets be real shall we? Your oddly timed love of cooking has been shown quite a bit on the show. Could it be someone is thinking of some recipe book competition? Too funny. Yes, Teresa is a character, and you obviously aren't smart enough yet to get that is why she is so popular. OMG I told you something you didn't know! If she were boring like you, she'd only be on the show for a couple of seasons and then dropped like a hot potato. Yes, your time on RHONJ is coming to a close. Once you and Teresa really reconcile, there isn't much reason to have you still on the show now is there. Yes, your comments on the beach were such an obvious digg. Why didn't you really admit that you just didn't want to be a restaurant chef? Bringing family into it and saying that was the reason was just sad. Hmm, I guess exposing your family on national TV is so great for them. Oh, so much better than a restaurant! We wouldn't want you to have to take time away from them more than you already have to for the show.....lol

I am definitely a fan Kathy & your husband is a riot! I was not a 'Jersey' housewives fan until you showed up girl:) I believe you have to be one of the prettiest women I've ever seen on reality television. I feel bad for Teresa on many levels, but more so cause as family members, you're right, you'll have to deal with her one way or the other for the rest of your life. I encourage you to not give her so much power over you emotionally. If she's unable to grow up & discuss differences like an adult than move on & talk to others who appreciate you. If God intends for her to manifest growth in her life, she'll come to you or you may just be better off without her (socially). I admire you & your family, the adoration in your husband & kids eyes when they look at you is what maybe Teresa should concentrate on aspiring to instead of her next outfit. Ooops! Proof's in the puddin'. ;)

I dont know Kathy why spend so much negativity bashing Teresa on your blog and to other people, you seem nice but somehow untrustworthy, I hope everyone is able to reconcile, specially for the children but its going to be very hard to do if you dont open your eyes and stop letting yourself be manipulated. Wish you guys all the luck in the world fixing everything.... PS Just like Melissa was given props even though she lip synched, you should give Teresa props for have 2 best seller books, once again the way you treat both of them is quite apperent and maybe the reason why there is so much confrontation....

I'm glad the show ended with you and Teresa making up. I hope it continues. I love that your sister Rosie is protective! Yeah, she looked pretty scary...hope to see more of her next season! :D Too bad you didn't get a dessert cookbook out before the holidays. Please say you will be making one soon, I don't care if it does look like your copying someone, I want one!! Good luck to you, your family, and all of the RHONJ Housewives!

I find you charming sometimes - wow then read the blogs and see your short takes and see how passive aggressive you are. You clearly want to take your cousin down and hurt her, I am unsure if you see how passive/aggressive you are with her. With that said, I want to like you, but really find you dangerous.

To gigifromPA, stop reading the blog then. You sound like a mini Teresa. Notice the correct spelling of her name. Kathy is one of a very few women in all of the Housewives who actually is genuine, intelligent and a loving person. Her "bashing" is not at all bashing, but stating what is true for her. As a viewer, it is true for all. Teresa has many issues and unfortunately may never work on them. Sounds like many people, unfortunately. The sad part of all of this is that they are family and sometimes, you have to detach and move on with focusing on your own. Kathy, you've done a great job in doing so, your kids are proof of it. Congratulations to you and Rich for 20 years. I wish you another 20 together. It is very rare to see a respectful, loving and happy couple.

Hi Kathy: Happy 20th Anniversary!!! Love you and Richie and I am so happy to see that most of the blogs are positive. When I think about you, I often picture all of your good cooking before my eyes (smile). Again, I hope you will write a book someday! Once again, you and Richie are great additions to the show!

I don't think u even read any of the comments from the viewers....GET OVER YOURSELF!!!! your cousin apologized....so why make a big deal out of it??? GET OVER IT!!!

I am so glad to see a sensible housewife on the show. Someone who has a very nice house, but not over-the-top expensive. The way you are with your kids, the way you and your husband joke around, and the way you think through things and try to reconcile -- I just really relate. My husband and I used to own a restaurant and it sadly, was among the 95% of those that fail. We lost our nest egg, I rarely saw my children for 2 years and remember nights they fell asleep on the booths and I would have to carry them home like that on school nights, and our marriage suffered as well. It is a tough, tough job and the fact that you said you decided that you didn't want to be away from your kids is a smart decision. Teresa is foolish if she thinks her and Joe can make it work. I think she's about the silliest and egotistical person I've ever seen on a reality show and Joe's definitely not a brainiac. Your remarks about Teresa's Dom. Rep. market research for her new cookbook were funny. I wonder if she could've even named any Latin "ingredientses". Actually, I think she just knew if she mentioned that she was doing research for her cookbook then she can justify any personal money they spent on this trip as a business tax write-off. LOVE Rosie and hope they can include her more.

Oh and as far as Housewife hotness goes? You are by far the prettiest. Your eyes are gorgeous, you have a great figure and thank God you don't appear to be into botox, cheek injections and have trout lips. Jacqueline could learn from you. Just continue being yourself. It's working for you.

I realize bravo is not going to post this but i have to write it anyway. Kathy are you for real? Do you even read these blogs before you post them. You say you can't believe how Theresa can just come back after the fight and act as though nothing happened, what should she have done since she admitted to Jacquelyn that she wasn't ready to forgive and forget? would it have been better for her to come back and start screaming at you again, or do what she did, which was avoid any more unpleasantness. You are truly a fake, and I am amazed that no one else sees this. You told Theresa at your goddess party that you admired her ability to let things roll of her back and put on a happy face, but now you can't understand it. So was Theresa right then, when she wondered if this was an actual compliment or was she right on the beach, when she said you comment was a passive aggressive dig. This blog makes it seem as though she was right both times.

I would be mortified if you were my cousin! No matter what you think of your cousin or how she made you feel, it's not okay to so publicly call her an embarassment, disparage her new food career, and spend most of your blog mocking her. You say you want peace but it doesn't show, and it hasn't from the very inception of your presence on this show.

When you are not talking about Teresa, or schilling the Manzo dirty water, you seem like a nice, level-headed lady. Too bad your bitterness is bigger than your heart.

wow this is something i would never do to my FIRST cousin totally BASH HER...and then try to be miss innocent to be honest i dont care about caroline and jacq...i think they need to leave the show but i do know i would NEVER EVER bash my first cousin or let my husband....your a nice lady deep down with good kids but you better stay away from the crew your hanging with cos let me tell you...they did it to her its not to far from them doing it to you! best wishes

I get you, Kathy! I know you'll continue to hold your head high and be strong.

You spent most of your blog trashing Tre! She came back and tried to enjoy the trip after your snide little remark while you pouted the rest of the night. At least she did call you out and apologize at the Blk party. As for Greg, I'm still trying to figure out how he got on the show. All he does is cause drama and gets a kick out of all the catfights. We are sick of them ourselves!! None of you are innocent in any of this mess but I do wonder what your and Melissa's reasons for coming on the show were. I think you both were jealous of Tre and came on to hurt her. Everytime you get together it's a "let's bash Tereasa party." I will say I do think your a great mother and your children seem to be wonderful young adults. Just stop all the drama and backstabbing and I would like you more. Take care and remember friends come and go but family is forever.

ALWAYS BASHING BASHING BASHING TERESA!!!!!!!!

Saying this as a full blooded Italian. Do I agree or side with theresa? Not really. But you don't bash family in public. You deal with it offline. Both of you. Everyone says you have more class but it disappears where you talk about her behind her back and write this stuff. It is called triangulation and this behavior just as toxic as hers. As a CEO there is confidential information I know that affects decision I make. I sometimes have to expect that others will say negative stuff based on what they know. I have to take the high road and not always have to respond. I have to trust I know the truth. You think you are but you are not. You came on the show to bash a cousin you gave had issues with for a while. There are so many things about you I like but this part with Theresa. Unbecoming.

Kathy, In this blog you spoke negatively of Theresa. you voiced the thoughts in your head instead of kept them to yourself. You said how she was ignorant and made a mockery of the Dominican people. I thought you guys apologized and settled everything. APPARENTLY, YOU HOLD GRUDGES and AREN"T AS NICE AS YOU PRETEND TO BE.

I tell children if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing!

Kathy, I really want to like you, but seriously, you just shredded Teresa as a human being. Are you not aware of what happened with RHWBH? Between you and Jacqueline, you go way beyond what's considered acceptable in my world in trying to understand someone in my life. Your blog was cruel. Bravo, will this be printed?

Do you do anything besides bash Teresa? You and Melissa are the worse things to happen to this Housewives cast. I really hope Bravo cleans house on this edition and you are the first to go. For all your meanness, you and Melissa ought to remember that your association with Teresa is the ONLY reason you're even on this show. I don't think anyone would argue that Teresa is innocent. She clearly does hold grudges despite what she says and has a tendency to be irrational. However, the things you've said about her on national television and on this blog are downright disgusting. I've lost count of the many ways you've called her stupid and other derogatory names that I won't even mention. That's how you treat people you love? Do you call your daughter the b-word when you argue with her?

LOL @ Greg, who is also a super tacky pot stirrer, calling you classy. There is nothing even remotely classy about you.

Wow you really are mean!

To call your cousin an embarrassment, to say she has a lack of culinary expertise after being a NY Bestseller TWICE and say so many other mean things about her publically is just low and disrespectful. I have to ask, are you jealous about her cookbook? Be honest now. What pisses me off is that you still feel this way after so long it makes me shudder, it makes my heart sink. To me you seem more like an enemy of Teresa than family and I am basing that on your actions on tv and more so on your blogs. Because your blogs gives you time to reflect and you come out with this. Just makes you appear very hateful! If that is the brand you are going for then I have to say you are being very successful with it.

Why do you keep bringing up the beach...Teresa apologized yet you don't let it go...