Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Over It?

Kathy was a little disturbed by Teresa's ability to act as if they never had the argument on the beach.

Hello everyone, it's been a great week. We just celebrated our 20-year wedding anniversary! Many thanks to all of you who have sent us warm wishes. I can't believe how quickly time flies by. I can honestly say that after 20 years I have more respect and love for him than I did when we were first married. I truly am lucky to be married to my best friend.

So here we are back on the beach, sharing our Jersey love with the Dominican Republic. Isn't it wonderful? All kidding aside, the Dominican Republic is a great place to visit and the beaches are gorgeous. But the confrontation isn't necessary. Joe's comment to Teresa when they walked off the beach is very telling. Judging by the way they're acting, it's obvious that Teresa and Joe really don't care about what people say or feel. As we're having a perfectly normal conversation, Teresa takes my comment out of context and once again causes an unnecessary ruckus. I have no idea how we could have such a huge argument and then moments later Teresa is flouncing around like nothing happened. You can see by the expression on my face that things don't roll off my shoulders that easily when it involves people who I care about, believe it or not. She's my family so there's no escaping her. To think we can go at each other so strongly and minutes later she's la-di-dah-ing around like she doesn't have a worry in the world is creepy. Maybe she doesn't care and enjoys my misery. I'm seriously beginning to wonder. 

In Teresa's conversation with Joe, she continues to try and justify her outburst. Joe really doesn't even want to hear it anymore, or maybe it's just her voice he's tired of. Yes, I should take the high road, but try reasoning with Teresa and see how irrational you become. Watching this scene over again really pisses me off. It takes me back to the Posche fashion show confrontation months ago when Teresa rationalized her outburst by twisting my words to suit herself.

When Jacqueline tries to make sense of Teresa's reaction, it gives Teresa the backing to legitimize her outburst. Jacqueline is being a good friend, but is also trying to present another side of the argument to get through to her. Unfortunately Teresa's response, like all of her responses, is that "I'm over it." Well, if you really are over it, why don't you do what Jacqueline says and come over and give me a hug and try to clear it up instead of pretending that everything is fine. Instead of dealing with a problem in a real way, she buries it. Who knows when she's going to clock me again with it? If she were over it she would come talk to me like a rational adult. Her lack of remorse shows me that she has no conscience and that's disturbing. I think you can tell that I can't fake it and pretend that the argument didn't affect me. 

So the next day we have a trip to the market. When it comes to Teresa, I always feel like I'm waiting to be ambushed. According to Teresa, we're going to the market to do research for this "Italian/Italian" fusion book. Was it Southern Italian versus Northern Italian, no, she's talking Latin/Italian. Once again Teresa demonstrates her knowledge of food and culinary expertise.

But if truth be told, this trip to the market only demonstrated what an embarrassment Teresa really is. In my opinion, she was disrespectful and condescending. She arrived at the market in her Academy Award gown, and it was as if she was making a mockery of the Dominican people. FYI, Teresa, we didn't need to go to a market in the Dominican Republic to bring back spices that you cannot even bring back to the United States! Salt? We can get that at the local grocery store. I just want to let you know that the next time you want to do research on Dominican spices, you don't have to travel very far. You can go 20 minutes from our home to Washington Heights, N.Y. where you can find everything Dominican as well as everything Caribbean.

Greg always manages to crack me up. We arrive at the market and obviously it's not what we expected and there is clearly no Starbucks here. He always finds a way to make me laugh, and I love him for it. He really doesn't take things too seriously and is a sweet, sassy soul. 

The Manzo boys' launch party for BLK was a great success! I think this is the start of something BIG! The product is just flying off the shelves! Pick up a few bottles and see what everybody's talking about. 

Melissa's performance was absolutely incredible. We are all proud of her. She overcame her fears, showed true courage, and did an outstanding job. It's wonderful to see Melissa follow her dream. Although her father had passed, he continued to motivate her. It's amazing what daughters will do to make their daddys proud, whether they are with us or not. I'm so glad I was part of that from the beginning. 

It was refreshing to see Joe Giudice show some love when he said with all sincerity that Melissa did a great job and it was more than he could ever do. 

Regarding my talk with Teresa, I am happy that she decided to apologize and reconcile. I certainly wasn't going to talk to her if she wasn't ready. Many of you may wonder why I get so frustrated when I'm talking to others about my issues with Teresa and then when we are face to face, I don't say anything. I know this sounds crazy, but I turn the other cheek because I still see Teresa as the little cousin with banana curls, so it's always surprising when she comes after me. I don't enjoy confrontation, so it's easier for me to rant to other people. Although all I really want is peace and to forgive and forget with Teresa, I won't back down anymore. 

Rosie is the best sister anyone could ask for, but I would never want to be on the receiving end of a Rosie stare-down. Although she is loving and kind, you do not want to be on her bad side. I hope that everyone understands she was just being protective of her sister.

Teresa says she doesn't like to hold grudges and I can only hope that holds true and I will continue to hope for a sincere reconciliation.

Please stay with us for the finale. You are in for quite a night!

Lots of love,

xoxo,

Kathy

P.S. For everyone that commented on my vacation wardrobe, the dress I wore at the beach and the white blouse I wore when we packed up to leave are both from reveboutique.com.

I also received so many compliments on the turquoise beaded blouse, I wish I could remember where I bought it. It was a small boutique in Florida.

The dress I wore to blk. launch party and Melissa's performance was from Erez boutique in Englewood N.J. 

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Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo

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