You are the Caroline on your side of the family. You had good intentions, Teresa is a loose cannon.

Here's some advice, keep your nose out of other people's business.

still TEAM THERESA!

its simple. You knew the cameras were on you and you picked a fight in a public place so people could see. This show has been on a long time, your type is easy to spot.

I have a brother and yes, the dynamics between our relationship changed when he got married....and it should have. His wife is his priority, but at the same time he should not be taking sides. At some point, Joe is going to need Teresa. He's the man...he needs but aside his childish ways and be the mature one. He needs to open the door for change between his wife and his sister...HE needs to bridge that gap. Tell him to grow up since you seem to be the "sister" figure in his life.

Family is family. I don't think it was cool for you to not put Kim in her place by just explaining it was a family issue and it would be dealt with as such. You have known your cousins way longer than you have known Melissa.

If you were trying to be nice to Teresa, you blew it.

I see why Teresa got upset, I would have done the same. You know you wanted to make her mad...I saw the intention. There is a time and a place for everything and you talk on her back and then act like a two faced wanted to be the good peace maker. Not cool at all, and with your age, you should know better. What a shame!

Wrong place, wrong time. Regardless of your "intentions". If you were truly pure in your thought process, you would have called her to meet at your home or hers. This is afterall your cousin. Your tone was very condescending when you broached the subject of moving Theresas' child. Not to mention the conversation had already gone sour when you did. Any person emotionally invested would have been defensive. Not that Theresa should have involved the mothers. She should have told you it was NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS and walked away. From what I have seen, you are antagonizing the situation by asking what are you gonna do when you see her??? Well, how are you gonna act?? Come on. Never your intention?? Yeah Right....

You had no business getting so involved. You may think it comes from a place of love, but it doesn't show that way. You should have remained neutral, but you've chosen sides and you've made that very clear. Approaching Theresa was antagonistic because you had taken sides.

You had no business getting so involved. You may think it comes from a place of love, but it doesn't show that way. You should have remained neutral, but you've chosen sides and you've made that very clear. Approaching Theresa was antagonistic because you had taken sides.

Kathy, please stop to put more fuel in the fire.... You are the Real Drama Queen...

Sorry, But you were in my opinion COMPLETELY WRONG in approaching Teresa at the event. Obviously the entire family has issues keeping their demeaner under control, and as you are part of that family you know that. One of your homes is the only place to discuss issues of this magnitude. Minus the children of course. TV cameras optional. Careful you might get the reputation of playing to the camera if you stir the family pot intentionally, Oh and by the way, given your age, you should realize that melissa is very insecure and stop feeding into that it's not flattering

Kathy I don't know if it is because you wanted camera-time or what but you should not have approached Teresa at a social function to discuss such a personal issue. If you invited Melissa and Joe Gorga to your house to discuss the issue then you could've invited Teresa and Joe over on a separate night to discuss. Then you could have brought them together. But you chose to show that you aren't really sincere helping the family resolve the issue and really just as conniving as Kim G(the older lady)

When you approached Theresa at the fashion show, you may of meant well, but you were out of line. With me being a fan of the show, even I know Theresa is very sensitive when it comes to her kids and her husband. You being her first cousin, you knew what buttons that would push her to anger. It was very obvious that you and that Melissa are out to get Theresa on this show. How pathetic to treat family that way in public. I hope you seeing yourself take sides in a family quarrel, helps you see your faults in it.

You really need to stop playing bothsides and tell bothsides they are family and not keep the shit going ..... Like you need to try to get them to resolve it not maje it worse im just saying

It was not the time or place for you to try to talk to Teresa. You were wrong.

Even if you were well intentioned, you should have either talked at a more appropriate place. You even said that you bet Theresa would get defensive. Knowing that, you probably should not have gotten involved at all.

Not the time or place. You were wrong.

So disappointed i thought that you were going to be the mature one out of your family I feel like you totally ruined that when you tried to cause problems at the fashion show! I still think you are so awesome and I hope that you keep moving forward and don't get caught up in all the drama!

Kathy, since you are the queen of intelligence, why weren't you intelligent enough to realize that fashion show wasn't the best place to approach Teresa about Christening debacle. As Caroline pointed out. Also, "you don't get involved"???!!!! You being on this show is getting involved!!! You have done nothing but get involved and take sides! She have shown yourself to be as much of a camera seeking Wh00re as Melissa. I was not necessarily "a Teresa fan", but I certainly feel sorry for her after seeing you all. If Joey, Melissa and you are her family, she doesn't need enemies. You all want to single handedly ruin her opportunities on the show, because you all are jealous about whatever celebrity you all think she has gained. Especially that immature, petty brother of hers.

You owe Teresa a sincere apology for passing judgement on her when she clearly did nothing wrong at the christening. Please open your eyes. There are always two sides to every story.

I think you need to pay attention to how fake Melissa is and try to rebuild a relationship with your cousin. team teresa

So disappointed i thought that you were going to be the mature one out of your family I feel like you totally ruined that when you tried to cause problems at the fashion show! I still think you are so awesome and I hope that you keep moving forward and don't get caught up in all the drama!

I see you. You're eloquent. However your intentions are very questionable. Super bad timing has made it look like you're desperate for camera time. -good luck, you're on your way!

Kathy, p.s. stop pretending to be neutral. It is quite obvious that you don't like Teresa. Funny you say that she said family su*ks. After seeing you 3, I can see how or why she would say that. However, that comment is totally inconsistent with anything everyone else has seen from Teresa for 3 yrs. So, you made it up.

Sigh, where do I begin? I think its pretty evident for most of the viewers that watch this show that you and melissa are both trying to play the whole " Im the good one trying to save the day card". Lets me serious now I think you're old enough to see that you're acting like a 13 year old girl. You say you want to fix things but you ARE NOT HELPING. What you are doing is stirring up the pot and causing more issues. Hop on your bike and keep it moving. You picked an extremely bad time to have your little chit chat with teresa.

Please Kathy remove yourself from the situation, your negativity is not needed.

You're just awesome. Sorry that you're related to the table flipper.

Hi Kathy!

I really want to like you. You seem very bias toward Joe and Melissa. I don't think you want to hear Teresa's side or see what she sees. You only see what Melissa and Joey "tell" you. I know I am not there and don't know what the underlying issues are, but you are always so quick to point the finger at Teresa. You come across as the possible peacemaker, but you are also getting in your unclassy digs all the time on camera. You just did with your "unintelligent" remark. That is not nice and all this bully tactics towards Teresa is insane. Melissa's sisters are the fuel to an argument that lies between Joey and Teresa. Melissa needs to back off as she has a victim complex. Have some compassion....Teresa has her hands full and needs some support. She came out of the room and looked to her mother because she feels like she is being attacked from all angles. Perception is a funny thing. Everyone has their own perception of the truth. Try looking at hers for once before pointing the finger.

Melissa is a spoiled brat and is campaigning against Teresa. Constantly with the "I'm better than Teresa" crap. She needs to get over herself.

Kathy- I think you just stir the pot between Teresa and Melissa. You create problems and then run away for other people to deal with it. Just stay out of it and people will be better off.

Kathy you did nothing wrong, Teresa was the problem. Caroline Manzo ahould have been lecturing Teresa instead of you & Melissa. I think you know Teresa well & this is going to be an interesting season. I like you so far.

Wrong place.. wrong time.. mind your business.. You adding fuel to the fire like melissa's sisters

Kathy,

So far I am liking you. You could tell you were obviously uncomfortable when Kim was putting down Teresa. How immature her actions are. But I also have to say about you trying to talk to Teresa about the Christening at the fashion show was out of line. There is a time and place for every thing and that was not it. I think it was disrespectful to Carolyn and her husband who has worked so hard at keeping their business respectable. Other than that, I hope I keep seeing the side of you that I like.

You should have stayed out of it - you cause more drama to the family! not a fan

You chose to pick the wrong place to talk to Tresa about what happened I think you should mind your own business your like Melissa you both LOVE drama!!!!!

Not buying it Kath. The fashion show was no place to have the discussion. If it was so important that you put yourself in the middle, why not make a phone call, have lunch, go to Teresa's house? Now, I watched last week and would like for someone to tell me why Teresa owes an apology. Still don't get that one. Anyway, not loving you and Melissa so far but the season is young.

Kathy, I think you are adding fuel to the fire and enjoying it. Why would Teresa call her brother to apologize after he called her garbage. You and Melissa are both crazy if you don't think Joe Gorga is the one who owes his sister the apology. Please watch the episode again without your rose colored glasses.

You really do seem to have good intention but it was neither the place nor time for such conversations to be brought up. It really is disturbing too how you insult your cousin calling her unintelligent and stupid. She doesn't say things like that about you. Maybe because you are on TV, but you seem too quick to name call and stir things up. You clearly picked a side.

Kathy, I think you are a kind and loving person. It was obvious that you were not trying to attack Teresa or her parenting style. Teresa has some serious issues. Keep being the fabulous beautiful person that you are. You are a welcome addition to the show.

Kathy, After watching tonight's episode, the problem I have is that you are also Teresa's cousin. From what it seems, you also grew up with her. I understand that you can be close to her brother and wife, but how can you go against her on national t.v.? You seem to have a level head. I know that families have their feuds, but this is your cousin. I felt you were laughing at her when Kim G. came into the store and made some nasty comments about Teresa's figure. It seemed that you enjoyed that. Kim G. is an older woman who wants to act like she is in her twenties - a real sad case of a woman. How could you also expect Teresa to call to apologize to Melissa and Joe when he called her "garbage" and wanted her to "walk away". It seemed to me that Teresa was trying. Her brother was drunk and acted like an animal. This whole thing is horrendous. I feel badly for Teresa's parents. You need to reevaluate the way you have taken sides. You need to butt out.

Kathy,

Seems like you have a good head on your shoulder - but I think you are taking Melissa's side way too much and are not seeing the whole picture. Teresa simply came to say congrats and all they had to do was to say, "Thank You". However, Joe had to lose his temper for whatever reason and told her to scam and to make matters even worse, called her "garbage" I don't know about you, but to me that makes it Joe's fault. Although Teresa didn't handle it very well and neither did your husband - how would your husband act if someone, your OWN blood, called you garbage? If you really care about family like you say you do, just see it from both sides.

Plus, I do have to point out that you didn't have to attack Teresa like that at the fashion show. Like Caroline said, you bring that up in a private place, not in public like that. Also, you're gonna laugh at how Kim G was making fun of Teresa and befriend her? How do you expect Teresa to listen to you after she sees you with her? That's ridiculous - I KNOW you have a good head on your shoulder - so show it and don't be ridiculous.

I love how you say we are all watching this. You must be watching a different show then me.I think you wanted to just talk with Teresa,but you kinda blamed her for what happen at the christening.Bad things happen in every family,If any one should have called it should have been Joey to say sorry for calling his sister garbage,clearly he,his wife and her trash bag of a sister caused what happen.Maybe you should watch the rerun of show one.Teresa didnt do anything to be treated that way.

stirring the pot....

I just wanted to say that you are a breathe of fresh air. Welcome to the show, I wish you and your whole family, including Teresa, peace and happiness. There will be light at the end of the tunnel I hope for you all.

I'm sorry, I did not see your "good intentions" when you went to talk to Teresa (at the wrong time, by the way) considering you are clearly on Melissa's side. I don't understand why you want to be on this show JUST to talk trash on Teresa. I really hope you are not as jealous as you look on the first two episodes of the show.

Kathy,

I think it was clear in this episode that you did not mean any malice and did not intend to cause a scene when you approached Teresa about the christening. What I don't understand is why the whole initial fight broke out over a "congratulations." As you said in this post, there is a lot more behind it, and perhaps we will see more of that as the season goes on. However, it seems as though Teresa was trying to do the right thing by saying congratulations and attempting to put the strife aside for the night so that everyone could celebrate a child's christening. Perhaps that's why, when you confronted her at the fashion show, she reacted the way she did - she seems to have been thinking, Why are you coming to me for an explanation/apology when I wasn't the one who started the fight? Shouldn't you be going to Joey or Melissa for an explanation? I have to agree with her there.

You seem to be very level-headed and I definitely don't think you meant any criticism when you brought up Audriana. I think Teresa acted irrationally at that point because she felt attacked. You both seem like good people who just happen to disagree, and I have hope that if you haven't already, some day the two of you and your two families will come together again. All the best.

If Kathy Really wanted to help open a door of communication and heal wounds in that family, why did she talk to Teresa at the end of a hectic evening when everyone is tired and emotions easier to got out of control. Why didn't Kathy invite Teresa and Joe to her house for a dinner and conversation that would have been a Much better venue. After all, Kathy offered a private place to discuss the situation with Melissa and Joe when she had them over for dinner without the children.

Everything that comes out of your husband's mouth is hilarious. I don't know if it is intentional or if it's in his delivery. Can he get his own blog?

Its clear your loyalty lies with Melissa. You can not possibly think that Melissa and Joe did not start the fight with their rude and disrespectful behavior. Joe spoke to his father in a manner no one should ever do. Come on, NOW!

Ok Kathy, let's be honest here.. You were trying to imply to Teresa to apologize to Melissa and Joey, for Melissa and Joey's problem... Melissa wants Teresa to apologize for Joe charging Joey, yet no apology from her for Joey calling Teresa garbage, and pounding on the table??... Let me tell you something... Every wife, who watched that episode, will not side with Melissa.. Because they know that their husbands would do the same, and justified, whenever their wife is in a threatening situation....