Cast Blog: #RHONJ

The Talk

Amber Calls Out Andy Cohen

Dina: What am I Doing Here?

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Teresa: We Love Hard, We Fight Hard

Dina: The Ladybug Event was Perfection

Amber: I Felt I Like I Was Being Hazed

Melissa: Continue to Pray for Teresa's Family

Why Amber Shares Her Cancer Story

Dina: I Was Team Santa

Teresa: I Don't Blame Jim

Bobby's Unacceptable Behavior

Amber: Dina is Jealous

Melissa: "We are Heartbroken"

Dina Reacts to the Sentencing

Kathy Talks Kevin Jonas

Amber: Dina Was Planning a Blood Bath

Jim and Amber Were on Different Pages

Dina on Bobby's "Bizarre" Behavior

Amber Calls BS on Dina

Nicole: Words are So Powerful

Teresa: "Kudos to Dina!"

Teresa: I Love the Show, I Love My Fans

Praying for a Positive Outcome for Teresa

"Tipsy Melissa is My Spirit Animal"

Dina's Lose-Lose Situation

Jacqueline on Her Status with Teresa

Why Teresa Told Dina the Rumor

Amber on Her Cancer Scare

Teresa: There was an Agenda to Hurt My Family

Melissa: I Do Feel for Amber

Dina: Gia's Beautiful Inside and Out

Nicole: This is Not 'Jerry Springer'

Amber on Her Meltdown with Teresa

Amber's Emotional Call to Teresa

Teresa Thanks the Fans

Dina: Florida Will Be the New Scary Island

Teresa: I Wish I Never Heard the Rumor

Amber on the Shocking Rino Rumor

Victoria Gotti's Big No No

The Talk

Kathy shares her secret to communicating with her kids.

Hello, everyone! I hope you all have been enjoying your summer. It’s been a really great one here in New Jersey. We only have a few short weeks left to go. The kids will be back to school in no time. Forgive me for getting this blog out late. I’ve been very busy working on my summer desserts. You guessed it, ice cream.

Time has a way of flying by. It certainly doesn’t stand still for anyone. If only we could slow things down a bit.

As I start to watch this episode I can’t help remembering when my kids were small and how difficult it was to get a family photo. It seemed the more I tried to get a perfect shot, the more they didn’t cooperate. I remember getting the family all dressed and camera ready, only to get frustrated and cancel the whole shoot, because the kids just were not having it. So as a result I have some great photos of my kids that I took myself, most of them when they were clowning around. Teresa stuck it out and got beautiful shots for her new cookbook. 

Victoria will always be daddy’s little girl. I guess that’s why even the mere suggestion of having “the talk” with her got him crazy. Of course Rich realizes that she’s growing up, there’s no denying that. Maybe I should have not even mentioned it to Rich, he got so worked up over nothing. It’s not like we haven’t had a talk with Victoria about the birds and the bees before. We would be very irresponsible if we waited till she was sixteen, don’t you think?

It’s pretty obvious to everyone that we talk to our kids about growing up and the world we live in. Our approach as parents is to talk to them as much as possible. Often times we put a different spin on the subject we are addressing. You never know what they will relate to best. So we change it up and try to add some humor as well. 

I always try to find a creative way to get the message through loud and clear. My talk with Victoria was more about her responsibility to herself. How making the right choices has an impact on perception, sending the right message and knowing how to handle the reactions you receive. That’s why I thought dress shopping was a creative way to start the conversation. The choices that we make as we grow up always have an impact on our future. 

It’s so hard to find the right words when we talk to our kids. I think that’s especially true for mothers and daughters. No matter how hard we try, sometimes one word or the tone in our voices can turn a pleasant conversation into a shouting match. All we ever want to do is protect them. However that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes we just lose it.

It was great to see Caroline and Lauren having a heart to heart. Lauren is a beautiful young woman, but unfortunately like so many girls her age she can’t see it. Lauren is so lucky to have fantastic role models like Caroline and Jacqueline. It was great to see the whole family working out together. Working out isn’t one of my favorite things to do either, but they made look like so much fun. I had to rewind that scene over and over; they crack me up. Greg’s shorts certainly do have a mind of their own! 

So we finally meet Ashlee’s dad. I have to admit, he’s not at all what I expected. I guess since he lives out of state I didn’t expect him to be so involved in Ashlee’s upbringing. He and his wife are kind, loving, and supportive. How lucky Ashlee is to have two sets of parents who love her and want to help her find her direction in life. Chris definitely wins the best stepfather award, hands down.

Watching Jacqueline cry like that broke my heart. Her years of frustration and hurt just came flowing out. It’s so obvious that Jacqueline has been trying to do everything right for Ashlee for all these years. I can’t understand why Ashlee can’t see it. One day Ashlee you’re going to be a mother, and I can assure you, you're going to feel so bad for not responding to your mom’s guidance. I hope that by watching this you will be feeling what everyone else is feeling. You’re a great girl, with such a bright future ahead of you. Maybe you’re right, you just need sometime away to sort things out. I’m praying for you. 

Having a solid foundation in life is one of the most important things we can have as we are growing up. I was fortunate enough to have both of mine. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate my hard-working, loving, and supportive parents. That’s not always the case for everyone. It was so emotional for me to watch Melissa and her sisters talk about the medium and her message from Melissa’s departed father. Not saying that I believe in all that stuff, but there’s no denying that our loved ones that have passed still have an impact on our lives. Melissa’s father was one of her biggest fans as we’ve seen in some of her old home movies. Yes, Melissa, he had to be smiling from ear to ear this week as you released your first single, On Display. It was a great success, and we are all so proud of you. Dreams can come true. 

Special thank you to Lynn at Keep watching to see which dress Victoria chose to wear for the junior formal.

See you all next week!

Lots of Love,

xoxo Kathy 


Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.