Cast Blog: #RHONJ

The Talk

Kathy shares her secret to communicating with her kids.

Hello, everyone! I hope you all have been enjoying your summer. It’s been a really great one here in New Jersey. We only have a few short weeks left to go. The kids will be back to school in no time. Forgive me for getting this blog out late. I’ve been very busy working on my summer desserts. You guessed it, ice cream.

Time has a way of flying by. It certainly doesn’t stand still for anyone. If only we could slow things down a bit.

As I start to watch this episode I can’t help remembering when my kids were small and how difficult it was to get a family photo. It seemed the more I tried to get a perfect shot, the more they didn’t cooperate. I remember getting the family all dressed and camera ready, only to get frustrated and cancel the whole shoot, because the kids just were not having it. So as a result I have some great photos of my kids that I took myself, most of them when they were clowning around. Teresa stuck it out and got beautiful shots for her new cookbook. 

Victoria will always be daddy’s little girl. I guess that’s why even the mere suggestion of having “the talk” with her got him crazy. Of course Rich realizes that she’s growing up, there’s no denying that. Maybe I should have not even mentioned it to Rich, he got so worked up over nothing. It’s not like we haven’t had a talk with Victoria about the birds and the bees before. We would be very irresponsible if we waited till she was sixteen, don’t you think?

It’s pretty obvious to everyone that we talk to our kids about growing up and the world we live in. Our approach as parents is to talk to them as much as possible. Often times we put a different spin on the subject we are addressing. You never know what they will relate to best. So we change it up and try to add some humor as well. 

I always try to find a creative way to get the message through loud and clear. My talk with Victoria was more about her responsibility to herself. How making the right choices has an impact on perception, sending the right message and knowing how to handle the reactions you receive. That’s why I thought dress shopping was a creative way to start the conversation. The choices that we make as we grow up always have an impact on our future. 

It’s so hard to find the right words when we talk to our kids. I think that’s especially true for mothers and daughters. No matter how hard we try, sometimes one word or the tone in our voices can turn a pleasant conversation into a shouting match. All we ever want to do is protect them. However that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes we just lose it.

It was great to see Caroline and Lauren having a heart to heart. Lauren is a beautiful young woman, but unfortunately like so many girls her age she can’t see it. Lauren is so lucky to have fantastic role models like Caroline and Jacqueline. It was great to see the whole family working out together. Working out isn’t one of my favorite things to do either, but they made look like so much fun. I had to rewind that scene over and over; they crack me up. Greg’s shorts certainly do have a mind of their own! 

So we finally meet Ashlee’s dad. I have to admit, he’s not at all what I expected. I guess since he lives out of state I didn’t expect him to be so involved in Ashlee’s upbringing. He and his wife are kind, loving, and supportive. How lucky Ashlee is to have two sets of parents who love her and want to help her find her direction in life. Chris definitely wins the best stepfather award, hands down.

Watching Jacqueline cry like that broke my heart. Her years of frustration and hurt just came flowing out. It’s so obvious that Jacqueline has been trying to do everything right for Ashlee for all these years. I can’t understand why Ashlee can’t see it. One day Ashlee you’re going to be a mother, and I can assure you, you're going to feel so bad for not responding to your mom’s guidance. I hope that by watching this you will be feeling what everyone else is feeling. You’re a great girl, with such a bright future ahead of you. Maybe you’re right, you just need sometime away to sort things out. I’m praying for you. 

Having a solid foundation in life is one of the most important things we can have as we are growing up. I was fortunate enough to have both of mine. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate my hard-working, loving, and supportive parents. That’s not always the case for everyone. It was so emotional for me to watch Melissa and her sisters talk about the medium and her message from Melissa’s departed father. Not saying that I believe in all that stuff, but there’s no denying that our loved ones that have passed still have an impact on our lives. Melissa’s father was one of her biggest fans as we’ve seen in some of her old home movies. Yes, Melissa, he had to be smiling from ear to ear this week as you released your first single, On Display. It was a great success, and we are all so proud of you. Dreams can come true. 

Special thank you to Lynn at www.thefigleafboutique.com. Keep watching to see which dress Victoria chose to wear for the junior formal.

See you all next week!

Lots of Love,

xoxo Kathy 

 

Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo

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