Cast Blog: #RHONJ

A Work in Progress

Melissa is just thankful for how far things have come between the Gorgas and the Giudices.

Hello again! How is everyone? Sorry it's taken me so long to sit down and write to you, but the weather has been so beautiful in Jersey that I've been taking full advantage and playing with the kids outside! Can you believe this Indian Summer? Well it's October, so it's that time of the year that we start to eat a lot again! I just started with a new trainer so I can eat everything and then work out! I absolutely love October! It's my favorite month!

So here we are at the end. Can't believe it! Will you miss us? I will miss you and all your wonderful comments and well wishes. Thank you so much for an amazing first season. It was a little rough in the beginning, but I held in there and knew my true colors would show. It's amazing to see how Joe and his family went a complete 180 from the first episode to the last. Thank you, Jesus! That makes me happier than you know. That's all he ever wanted, that's all he was looking for.

The season finale was really about family. It was so beautiful to see Kathy and Victoria. The love she has for her children is incredible. And Rich with Victoria's date was hysterical! Then you see how Jacqueline and her family come together and support Ashley. They will do anything to help her find happiness. And the Manzo clan is always a strong unit that supports and loves each other. I was happy we got to see the Gorgas and the Giudices come together as a family in this episode as well. We are a work in progress, but there is love at the root, and I will always try to keep us on the right path.

When the stylist, Meital, was at my house she was styling me for another performance not the family picture. Obviously I would never wear any of those outfits to the family picture! She owns Reve Boutique in Englewood, NJ. All the Housewives shop at her store, every single one of us! I've been going to her for about eight years now. So she threw me off a little when she said that Teresa told her not to dress me or to style me, but I didn't make a big deal of it, I just ignored it. I have never approached Teresa on any of this, I never asked her why. I try not to argue about the things that are not going to hurt my life or my family. 

I went to Teresa's house that night for the family picture and didn't say a word. It's petty and I just wanted to wipe the slate clean. Did you see us all together at that family picture? It came out so beautiful, and that was such a great night! I felt complete inside and so did Joe! Those children are so innocent and so special and so beautiful, each and every one of them! My mother-in-law and father-in-law should be so proud of their seven healthy, beautiful grandchildren! And they both have one named after them (Antonia and Gino). What could be better? I just don't see how anything else could matter, I am so ready to put all the pettiness behind us and all the hurt feelings. Let's start fresh. Let's enjoy each other, and let the kids enjoy each other, before we know it they will be in high school. Why hurt one another, what does it get you?

So lets talk about the cookbook! Ugh! Why? Everything was so perfect! Each and everyone of us were in a good spot! Kathy, Caroline, Teresa, Jacqueline and I! Finally we could all just be together and have fun. I didn't make a big deal about it, I really think it's childish and kind of stupid. It just doesn't fit, it doesn't make sense. Everything was so good between us, why take that risk on messing things up again?

For one thing, I definitely don't copy off of Teresa and I don't have chairs on my front porch, so I really just don't get it. I decided not to make a big deal about it and not to tell my husband. Obviously he did find out about it, but not through me. I'm not going to let something this ridiculous start problems for us again. Even still, I don't think it is cool to write about your brother's wife negatively in a family cookbook. Those are his parents' recipes too.

As far as Caroline goes, I think those words were insulting to her good friend. Funny? Not so much. Again, I still don't get it, that is your good friend who has backed you up for years, why insult her and her family? I bet you the cookbook would have sold just as well without it. Well, maybe not, seeing as we are all writing about it and it's now huge news. LOL! OK so it worked, but now she lost a friend. It's sad, I hate to see them like this. I just wish she would have asked someone, anyone, for advice before she put it in the book and asked if she should do it or not. And if she did, I'm sure she asked the people who are getting a cut of the sales, because anyone who really loved her would have told her not to do it.

One thing I want to clear up is in the final credits it says that in April I had a party for Joey's first birthday and Teresa never showed. I didn't have a huge party, I had cake with our parents and Teresa was absolutely invited. Little Joey wasn't feeling well, so Teresa and I talked about how it wasn't a good idea to have everyone over and possibly get her girls sick, so she said she would come over the next week to see him for his birthday and give him his present. She came over in September to see Joey and give him his gift. To be honest, this show has brought us together and we spent more time as a family then we have in years. I will always back Teresa up or any of my friends and family when something is not true or misleading. Love it or hate it, I think it's better to be straight forward.

The reunion is next week, and it's going to blow your mind. A lot of your questions are going to be answered. It was a really long day, probably the longest day of my life. It was draining and hurtful and I hope I never have to do another one again like that, especially when things were so raw from the night before.

On a positive note, tune into Wendy Williams today! Caroline, Kathy, and I will be on We are also ringing the Stock Exchange Bell! How exciting! Joe is coming for that one!

The Best news yet is that On Display is in the top fifteen on iTunes right now! Thank you, thank you, thank you! I love you all for your support on this! I have the best people supporting me, good people, I can tell! Thank you! Here's the link to On Display. Help me get it into the top ten! (I didn't say a bad word to anyone on it either! LOL!)

The stylist Meital has a great website with incredible clothes on it! www.reveboutique.com

Check in with my website www.melissagorga.co for my new schedule! Lots of dates coming up to meet you guys! I'm also getting lots of questions on my shoes and my outfit from WWHL! I tell you everything I'm wearing in my blog, so get to the website now!

Follow me on Twitter too @melissagorga and on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/melissagorga.co

I hope everyone has a magnifico giornata!!

Xoxo

Melissa

Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo

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