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Hi, everyone! How are you? Excited for Memorial Day weekend? I am just looking forward to going down the shore with my family and relaxing.
It was a tough week. Reliving that first episode was brutal. I survived as I always do. I'm still here! Sorry to all my haters, but I'm not going anywhere! Something tells me that as the season goes on the haters may change their opinions. Well, I hope so at least. I will say that I do love how loyal the fans are to their favorites, it's sweet. I mean that and I get it. It's not exactly easy coming into a show as the freshman when you are with all the seniors that have been in school together for years. People have been watching those seniors for three years. Suddenly I'm back to my first day of high school remembering that knot you get in your stomach when you're the new girl. Well that knot has been there all week. You tend to feel like you have to prove yourself. It stinks and you start to wonder why they just don't see what a nice freshman you are. But If I just keep telling the truth, I won't get myself into a bind. It's the best way to go.
Even if you're still trying to figure me out, know this -- I love family. I used to cry when my father didn't come home to dinner, because I wanted for us all to eat together. I love my husband's family as well. So if you don't like something I do, then that's fair, but if you are just listening to what someone else says, that's not. Give me the chance to defend myself, you can't believe what someone says just because they say it. You need to see the two-way conversation and then make your decision.
Which brings me to answering some of your questions. Joe and I have never once asked Teresa to put us on TV. We were at all the kids' birthday parties, so of course you would see us in the background sometimes during past seasons. There was no way she wouldn't invite us to the kids' parties, what would everyone think? Where is her only brother, right? Of course we were there. Once again it was a "technicality," but on her part this time. We usually kiss hello and then say goodbye when it's over. To be perfectly honest with you, Joe never wanted to be around the cameras. We were happy for her when she got the show, and I told her she should do it. It might be easy to think that we were jealous that she was on TV, but that is not the case. I hope in time, viewers can understand where I am coming from. We never had the kind of relationship where I would call and say, "Why don't you do something with your brother and the kids, it would be cute for the show." I would feel so uncomfortable saying that, and she would look at me like I had ten heads. Even in episode when I saw them making the sauce, a tradition that her brother would usually be invited to as well, we still never called or argued once about that. Whether cameras are there or not, we just wanted to be a family. Period. There is nothing more to it than that. I know it might appear otherwise, but it's just not the truth. Oh one other thing, yes, I do write my own blog!
your blog and kathy"s seem to be trying to convince "US" that Teresa is the bad guy here.... BUT ITS CLEAR YOU BOTH ARE !! Stop being so OBSESSED with Teresa.. I know she IS Fab! but your jelousy is sooo obvious.Also, you seem to be trying to win over the other girls with your FAKE compliments... Caroline and Jaq are very Loyal friends and dont i highly doubt they will truly be friends with you .... With that said I LOVE,LOVE , LOVE Teresa Joe and theyre Beautiful Girls !!
You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. You and Joe are Real and don't put on a front like other people on the show. Whatever happend the Teresa should have never treated Joe and You with such disregard like that it's hurtful. And then to go up to you and start talking to you just because you're on the show and she want's to look good on camera is disgusting. And anyone who dosen't see that is an idiot.
Good luck Terry
You're right Melissa, you and Teresa cousin are acting like high school children. This has nothing to do with being "the new one on the block" This has to do with a brother, father, sister and mother relationship. Your husband grew up with, live with ate and love with "HIS immediate =Family" long before you came into the picture.
I said it once, and I will say it again. Joey's parents and sister can and will never be replaced. But you can.
Just ask Donald Trump!
While certain people may not like you out of loyalty to Teresa, that isn't my problem. My problem is YOUR behavior.
Great blog Melissa!! It's hard not to believe you when you speak because you never stumble and are soo concise with what you have to say....I'm sure the family drama is super tough, hope it gets better!! And I agree, viewers should keep watching before they judge, the first episode was soo intense, it was kind of hard to not make opinions...but I look forward to see what happens as the season unfolds. And I loved your fashion show walk lol!!
Melissa, each of your great blogs, puts the missing pieces together.
How can I tel you this so you will understand...HATERS are the most vocal, and WANT TO TRY TO BREAK YOU. Girl don't YOU DARE let them. Please understand that the people who LIKE you so far, (becoming a fan takes time, so be patient, lol )aren't thinking just yet to come on here and blog (like fans tend to do), they just like you, and go about their day. But your HATERS feel compelled to come on your blog, or track you down and tell you how much they hate you. (HATE is the new LOVE, baby!) Listen, I don"t care for Theresa at all, so I don't go near her blogs or twitter to tell her I don"t like her. WTF for? I'd rather come here and tell you how much I LIKE YOU, and show you support. I can't stand bullies and T's fans tend to act like that. So again,...PLEASE know you have people that have taken a liking to you and understand you and appreciate where your heart is - with you fam.
Hugs, a fan.
First of all, Joey should have called Teresa to apologize and not the other way around. He's the one that went batsh*t crazy and called her garbage when all she did was come over and congratulate the two of you. Second of all, we'll see just how "sincere" you are when we see how you handle that note Teresa left on the door. Are you going to turn Joey against Teresa again or let them work it out alone??? Time will tell.
I think you and your husband need to take responsibility for what happend at your baby's christening.
I'm in my 20's and a girl and if I were Joe Giudice I would have really hurt your man for his behavior towards his wife and daughter.
Don't let your pride get in the way, you were wrong, passing the blame or making lame excuses like a famous 'look from the eyes' just makes you look dumb. sad
nobody is buying it melissa. just look at the results from the WWHL poll last night. 92% are team teresa.
If you love your husband you would do more to mend his relationship with his sister rather than trying to drive the wedge even further apart. Your husband and YOUR sisters are at fault for the fiasco at the Christening, not Teresa's husband. He was defending his wife. If the shoe was on the other foot we all know your husband would do the samething. Trust me we aren't all haters. We have to actaully like you to hate you...your just a younger version of Danielle. It's a shame that this season has to turn to this. You and Kathy make me not want to see the show. Grow up and in 10 years when you are divorced from your husband he will realize you were the problem between him and his sister!
BRAVO, I'm tired of taking the time to write these if you never post them. Get with it, people!
Miss Freshman, Interesting that you felt like a peacock on that particular night. Interesting that Teresa was somber and not herself. It's all there, clear as day. You can blame every single fan of this show not liking you because you are the "freshman" as you put it, however; think of Cindy, think of Sonja, think of Kandy, think of Gretchen, Alexis, Peggy... Funny how they've all been "freshman" too and while they've all had their moments, they're all still well liked by enough people to stay on the show. Whereas people want you gone, and it's only episode 2! You are entitled, and that is irritating to people. Humble yourself, or you'll never last.
Why did you & your husband agree to do the show if you didn't get on with Teresa? Why not let her do her own thing & you do yours? The fact she's successfully on television doesn't mean you should do the same thing especially if you didn't get along with her in the first place must you do what she does? It's so embarassing seeing everything that goes on in the family on television & I feel so sorry for Teresa.
i'm not really a fan of Teresa..but in this case, she doesn't seem at fault.. - first of all saying hello to your mother-in-law and teresa' MIL doesn't make you a better person at all....I'm glad you did it and didn't listen to your sisters..but that makes you normal..not better person - keep your sisters out of your family life....i can smell trouble... - don't take you husband's love for granted...he can get another wife, but can't have another sister...........u never know when might that brotherly love come to surface...so don't push his buttons by always badmouthing teresa - how can you expect apology form teresa...u should be the one doing it...she was your guest. Did she ever cause that drama when you were invited to her parties?....if teresa and your husband already had some problems, that might have been the reason that she kept you off camera...b/c no one wants to spill beans about their private lives on TV - Teresa is caring...she hasn't talked bad about you to anyone; she got into fight with danielle for talking about her relationship with you guys......she cares...its so obvious....she even told her husband to shutup when he was talking about beating your husband on the christening night - its funny how ur last blog was all about how you wanted to be on the show...karma's bitch..and now you got the show....and in this blog you say that your husband didn't want to be on TV....so what is he really mad about? I thought the issue was that you guys were kept out of T's tv life..... - words for your husband: its so obvious that Teresa LOVES HIM TO DEATH...you can see it in her eyes.
..i think i kinda wrote a blog myself....lol
time to grow up, and dont let your sisters influence you. Joe started everything, if he has a problem with teresa then he shouldve told her instead of blowing up. Joe needs to make the first move. And you need to stay out of it.
Honestly if this is the way Housewives is turning I'm not watching any more .Say how much you love your family then in the same sentence cut down your husbands family,I really think you and your sisters are deceiving and cunning,stirring up trouble excites you and your sister even if it hurts your family,who do people turn to when their sick and they cut out the people that would help them.I have a huge house and have great cars can pay cash for what ever I want , I spend my time helping people not trying to glorify myself, what about the elderly, homeless ,life is not about how much we have ,I'm so glad I don't flaunt my good fortune in front of others. Like I said I can buy what I want when I want and I do at times but I also know it's a big mistake to think money is more than the priceless gift of a solid family ,sometimes money causes more problems trust me I know.I just can't understand why anyone would chose money at the expense of family,tisk, tisk,so sad.
The only thing we didn't understand was that YOU wanted an apology from Teresa at that boutique fashion show?????????????What for? Your husband started the entire fiasco right, you cannot deny that, so WHY did you expect an apology? Just because?
Melissa, I do like you but as stated last week I like Teresa. You do have the power to put this issue to bed. Teresa and Joey (her brother) are 2 peas in a pod... they are stubborn mules...Bring it to a close this is getting to be a very disappointing season.
You said what everyone thinks on today's episode when you said "When people start shouting, it is because they are wrong." Which is exactly what your husband did... Now I know he is your husband, so you are going to take his side, but he was clearly the one in the wrong. I do understand that we do not know what happened in the past, but what we all observe is that none of you are acting like adults. When Teresa came to you and said hi, you thought it rude, would you have rather she came up to you and talked about your issues there? And possibly ruin the even? I think the reason why you both are fighting is because you both love the same man, and very much so. If you truly love family that much, then show how mature you are by making the first step towards reconciliation, no matter what it takes.
It was your event. It was your responsibility to make Teresa comfortable. Your husband and sister acted DEPLORABLE!!! You should have been on your hands and knees at Teresa's house the next day begging for forgiveness. Why should she have called you? She did nothing wrong. You seem to forget this is all on camera. There is no way for you to spin it. We see the truth.
Also, you mentioned to Kathy at the fashion show that people yell when they get defensive and are in the wrong - you are SO right - I guess that is why your Joe went ballistic!!!!
Freshmen's should learn their place. You can't instantly say how mean the "seniors" are and then compliment them in your blog. It's phony. If Teresa and Joe want to solve their differences, then you should be on the fence of approving that. No one should have to apologize for the christening except your husband. When he apologizes to you then learn to drop it. You're not trying, and whether you're italian or not family is family...if you need to see these two make up then make it happen and take yourself out of it.
Melissa, I truly think there is potential for you to be a fan fav. But, you should be wise in who you align with. The Kims have alway strived to be in the thick of things and I think Bravo knows the score. Notice they were not added as regulars... I am from an Italian family and even when we are having disagreements and not getting along, I do not let anyone feed the fire. I still stand up for them with just a simple comment of "That's my family, please refrain from going there." Handle it with the class I know you have. I think you and Kathy are wonderful. I already am a fan of the previous cast, but you two are great additions. Just don't let anyone use you for time in the lime light.
Joe and teresa deserved to be invited over to kathy's separately from kathy talking to teresa at the fashion show. You didnt get pulled aside like teresa did and got a chance to talk in a more neutral setting than at the brownstone. I still think you're a fame-seeker and pushed to get on the show to cause drama. You seem to thrive on it. You could do a lot to mend the family issues but you seem to be more interested in throwing fuel onto the fire instead.
Great blog... you explained a lot. Thanks for the rational take. You ROCKED the cat suit... GO GIRL!
You talk about how things will play out and we will see more of the family dynamic. It still makes me curious as to why you would join a tv show with a family member you are so at odds with. The world now sees your family tragedy... why would you want that to happen?
Why do YOU think you have "haters"? Think about that.
I am stunned that you actually think you deserve an apology from Teresa. I mean, REALLY??? You need to come on down from that cloud you are on.
"You have to understand my situation, I am caught in the middle of a brother and sister quarrel."
Then DONT get in the middle!! This is between them! Yes, you are his wife and yes, he should defend you but you need to stay out of it and let them work it out. You may think you're doing the right thing, but how's that been working out for ya?
Melissa I love how you took the time out to answer some of the viewer's questions in this blog and I hope you do the same with mine. I understand that you and Joe felt like your christening was ruined but whose fault was it? Honestly all Teresa did was say "Congratulations." Do you think that is deserving of being called garbage and being made a fool of in front of all your friends and family AND on national television? If you guys didn't want her to speak to you then why did you invite her? You should take some responsibility for what happened and realized that although you guys may have your reasons for being angry with Teresa that YOUR HUSBAND STARTED IT. I hope you all figure this mess out because it is truely sad to see a family in such turmoil. Best of wishes.
I guess you still don't see your own faults. Maybe if you did not come right out of the gate trying to knock Teresa you would not have so many haters. See we all fell in love with her from the beginning with the BOOBIes and fabulous etc. So we knew her before all the drama happened. I feel a lot of the drama stems from stress from all the finacial woes. Teresa is going through really tough times right now so I can see why she is on edge. Some empathy can go a long way. It will not be long until all your finacial woes will come out as well. Development companies are not doing so well right now, taxes need to paid and hopefully you will be able to sell your house that you have been trying to sell for several years. Of course I am sure none of this will come out on the show.
I think maybe you need to rethink saying you do everything in your power to mend fences. The only thing you've done in 2 episodes is bash Teresa and her family and make matters much, much worse. I find it hysterical that you think Teresa should've been the one to apologize. She said "congratulations" to you and your husband and your sisters completely ganged up on her and embarrassed not only her but your entire family! She was walking away and never did I hear her spew hateful names at her family. What is she to apologize for? For saying congratulations? Stop acting like a spoiled 4 year old and own up to your own flaws, then maybe you'll actually understand the meaning of "being the bigger person"
You, your sister and your husband are wrong, fess up, apologize and move on. I can not believe you are trying to defend your husband for ruining his own son christening party and the way he talked to his father, shame on you. You are a newbie, you have a long way to go, know your position and behave likewise otherwise this is not going to be fun for you. chao!
Melissa...are you watching the same episodes that the rest of us are watching? Teresa has been handling this situation like an adult. You say you are all about family but you have done nothing but talk about Teresa and her husband on the show AND your blogs. I'm surprised you're a little turned off by Kim G...I think you too have a lot in common so far...
It seems you are still trying to find your place in this family, when in fact you are your husband's wife and should not get involved in his family disputes. You are not in the middle. You put yourself in the middle...just saying.
Who could possibly think you have done anything wrong? From what I have seen from the first two episodes, Teresa is like a loose canon. I love you and your family and Kat and her family. You guys are a breath of fresh air!!!!!!!
you say not to judge you too soon. Stop talking badly about Teresa!! Fans dont like it and then wont like you!!
Bravo, please post!
Girl, you have a lot of growing to do!! Just like Teresa did when she first came on the show. Your sisters are the worse, I am sorry! I know you can't change or exchange them, but you can direct the way they treat this matter which really is not their business. Why did you let Bravo make you the new Danielle? Of course this show must have its drama and rivals, but why did you buy into this part with family? If you knew there was an underlying strain in this family, why sign on to this project? You and your husband are entertaining without this drama...why didn't you let someone else sign up to be the rival? I'd like to ask the same to Kathy.
I'm sorry but I just don't understand you. So it makes sense for you and Joey to attend every event they had for the kids and sake of family, but then bash your nieces mom and father on national TV and allow another woman outside the family (Kim G.) to talk about Teresa. NOT ONLY are you keeping a rift between you and the Guidices but this strife WILL GROW when all your children get older and see this for themselves, forming their own opinions. THIS CRAP IS GOING TO LAST FOR YEARS. Hope it was worth it!
I just read all the comments from your first blog and boy were they harsh. Granted I know you are on television so everyone is going to have their opinions, but I definitely think you are brave for coming on as a rookie and trying to share your side of things. Hopefully now in present time things have gotten better in regards to your relationship with Teresa and Joe's relationship with her and his parents. I just wanted to post a positive message saying I think you bring a fresh look to the show and I am enjoying watching you and your beautiful family. Keep it up with being yourself and screw what everyone else thinks!
The first episode, I really didn't like you and your sisters. But after watching the second episode, I can see that you are REALLY caught in the middle of all of this mess. Hope things get better between all of you, because at the end of the day, YOU ARE ALL FAMILY, whether by blood or marriage, (and yes that includes your sisters.) The ones to suffer from all of this drama are your and Teresa's beautiful children. Hoping for the best!
Melissa, please look in the mirror and eat some humble pie. You, Joe and your sisters have been hateful to Teresa and her family. Viewers are not hateful as you call us for seeing reality and truth. Beg forgiveness and YOU need to pick up the phone to apologize and stop trashing everyone in the press and in your blogs. Otherwise you can just be the villian of the series. The ball is in your court.
Melissa you are great on this show don't let these haters get to you. Theresa and her family should be embarrassed pay off your debt and live within your means. Everyone will see who she is eventually.
You obviously want nothing to do with your Husband's sister, but if you want to be the bigger person, stop talking about her. It sounds to me as if YOU are the problem here. If they had a good relationship before you came along you shouldn't have ruined it for them. You should never say such awful things about your in-laws, one day your Husband will open his eyes and realise what you have done.