Melissa Gorga

Melissa discusses Teresa's meeting with Joey and hopes everyone can reconcile.

on Jun 21, 20110

Hi, hope everyone had an incredible Father's Day! We spent it down on the shore with Joe's family and had a wonderful time. The kids made him the most beautiful gifts at school, and then we went out on a boat and went fishing. It was a great day with family! I cherish every moment with Joe and the kids more than ever, because I've been so busy. I miss my father so much and thought about him a lot this weekend. I just hope everyone appreciates every moment they have with their parents. Joe is such a great dad and he was beaming with pride when the kids gave him their gifts; it was so cute!

OK, well time to travel back in time and explain this episode (and what an episode it was). I'm glad Joe took the steps to talk to Teresa about why he's upset with her. It's obvious from the opening scenes that I will support whatever it takes for my husband to reconcile with his sister. It is so emotionally draining, but I tell him to stay positive. Teresa and I may never see eye to eye, but I know how much he loves her and wants his family back. I don't think we will ever be perfect, but I hope to at least get to a place where we can respect each other and have the kids together more and spend Sundays together as a family. 

I'm going to address what happened in this episode and try to give you some insight into why there is conflict between our families. Watching this episode it's obvious that from Teresa's point of view she feels it's completely my fault and my husband feels that Teresa and Joe Giudice are at fault. Every argument has two sides, and I admit I've made mistakes along the way. So here we go.

As you see in this episode (and more in next week's) the breakdown between my husband and his sister began well before I entered the picture. Teresa even admits that she put her brother before her husband; by doing that, she made her husband turn against her brother. I don't blame Joe Giudice for getting a complex and feeling the need to keep up with my husband, because at every turn he was being asked why Joey has this or look at the big house Joey built. That began way before I came around, and I could feel the tension from the very first day I spent with his family. That's the truth. 

403 comments
Melissa fan in Cali
Melissa fan in Cali

Trust me. Not all Cali women are Teresa fans. They might have been when it was her against Danielle, but not now. I am an Italian woman who has always lived on the California Coast and I am so sick of the bad rap Italians (especially women) get because of the Teresa's from NJ. Don't let me down Melissa. I am a fan of yours and your children, by far, are the best looking on TV.

Tootsie Roll
Tootsie Roll

Even though Bravo producers run the show and dictate what is asked of you while being interview in front of the camera alone, viewers still believe that it is YOU who decides to only complain about Teresa. Bravo edits your remarks and leaves in what they can work with to draw in and keep viewers interested. Unfortunately, most Bravo viewers are biased and not very intelligent!

I find it intriguing how you exposed the truth: Teresa's mommy and daddy live with her and help with the cooking, cleaning, kids, etc. No wonder Teresa spends a lot of time monitoring her blog and comments (removing many comments from her blog, too, as I never see mine posted each week).

Your husband isn't too bright, you are clearly the brains in the family. But Joey being far more successful than Joe has created a titanic rift in the family. And being that the parents live with Tree and Joe, they only hear one side each day.

Teresa is the one that has faked a luxurious and lavish lifestyle that you exposed to be utterly fake, and that has only added more fuel to an already growing fire. Every aspect of Teresa's life is failing - every single thing. You have it all (a baby boy, too) and it is obviously crystal clear to anyone with an unbiased approach while watching the show that Teresa is j e a l o u s.

IC
IC

If I was Teresa I would not talk to my brother if it meant I had to deal with your dumb childish self. GROW UP, YOU HAVE CHILDREN.

sweetlikekandy727
sweetlikekandy727

Hi Melissa I just wanted to say that I love you! I think you are a great addition to the show and you are one of my top five favorite housewives out of the whole Real housewives franchise. I do not understand all the negative feedback you are receiving because I think that you are a sweet caring person and you seem very genuine. I think you are funny too and I truly enjoy watching you.

Family situations can be tough especially with in-laws. I sympathize with you and your family (husband & kids) and I truly hope things get better for your family.

I am not going to bad-mouth Teresa because I do not know her and she is your sister-in-law but I will say that I believe that the Teresa that is on camera and the Teresa that is not on camera are two different people and you were right in your first blog I had no idea Teresa had a brother and a hot one at that! Girl your husband is sexy and you’re gorgeous and it is clear you love each other deeply. I will say that I believe Teresa misses and loves her brother but I do not believe that you are responsible for the issues between them. I mean maybe indirectly because of how much your husband loves you and because of how his family treats you but I do not believe that is your fault. I do not think you the victim and I do not believe that you try to portray yourself as one. You have admitted to making mistakes and not helping the situation which is way more than Teresa has admitted in my opinion.

Keep your head up ignore all the negativity you're young and gorgeous, you have a loving husband and beautiful children, you are a wonderful mother and wife and you are blessed to have your family(mother, sisters, ect.) which you already know that! You are a breath of fresh air and I look forward to reading your blogs so keep up the good work!

morticia
morticia

The problem between you and Teresa is this. You are both "Right" fighters. Both of you have to be right. In the end, neither of you will win. Grow up (both of you), put your big girl panties on (as Caroline would say), and get along for the sake of the families AND yourselves. Quit obsessing over each other and what the other one has. Quit trying to manipulate Joe, he will one day resent you for it. Quit talking to every Tom, Dick, and Harry about Teresa, it's none of their business.

Jaime Quinn
Jaime Quinn

Are you too busy now that you are a D list reality star to keep your posts current like the rest of the cast? Is there a reason you are always the last to post? If you are going to take on this role it would be nice if you kept up with your responsibilties.

JEANNIE18
JEANNIE18

NEWSFLASH: You can't sing!!!

ViewerWIcky Wack
ViewerWIcky Wack

Hey Golddigger,

how come we don't see you doing much with your kids? All we see you doing is complaining about Teresa. Get over it.

irenabell
irenabell

It is simply amazing to read the blogs you receive, Melissa. Here Teresa is - a woman whol was spoiled all her life who feels she is "entitled" (did she even go to college?) and there you are - a woman who worked 3 jobs to go to college. And YOU are the one called a golddigger? Wow - you can never overestimate the stupidity of the American public. What you might have said in passing - not even thinking about it - is that you looked at how hard working Joe was and that he had a life plan, as opposed to some other men. And Teresa twisted that innocent, complimentary comment, for her own needs. I would question who does the editorial cuts on the filming and why they seem to favor Teresa so much - and you might want to hire her PR company because they are obviously gifted to twist her to look good as they do. She's a real piece of work. You go, Girl.

Mom on the job
Mom on the job

Melissa, geez, you'll latch onto anything and run with it if you think it will put Teresa in a bad light. Naughty - naughty!!

First of all, FAMILY comes first, and it doesn't matter if it's your parents, siblings, your spouse or your children. Secondly, Teresa being proud of her brother is not a crime, and I'll never understand why you're trying to make it one. Thirdly, attempting to shift the blame for YOUR FUED with Teresa to Joe Giudice is just down right ridiculous and immature. Joe is a lot older than Joey and I'm sure he had a lot of things before Joey did.

It's obvious that YOUR husband is mad at his sister because YOU don't like her, and prefer finding fault in everything she does and doesn't do... then of course... pointing them out to everyone in town. Outside of that, he doesn't have any issues with her. You've said it yourself... YOUR husband works very hard. I'm sure he does, and I'm sure he's not calling HER children EVERY day. So why you think it's a crime that she's not calling yours is completely beyond me.

A couple of things have become painstakingly clear to me this season. 1). You don't really know what it is you want when it comes to family, but the one thing you ARE sure of is that Teresa should be jumping through your hoops to make things great for you. 2). You' re trying so hard to be someone you're not, that all the contradictions between how you actually conduct yourself and how you SAY you conduct yourself are getting the best of you. You make a liar out of yourself, and there's no one to blame for that but you.

You and Teresa will never see eye to eye, because we attract those who are most like ourselves, and you two are NOTHING alike. Teresa attracts down to Earth, genuine, honest, prudent, respectful and level headed people. You attract those who are just as petty and immature as you are.

ViewerVera the Mouse
ViewerVera the Mouse

Melissa, you are a breath of fresh air. Teresa is jealous of you because you are smart and well educated and you take the spotlight away from her. Kick her ass and don't take any bull from her. teresa, Jaqueline and Caroline bullied Danielle and now I truly beleive what goes around comes around. Like I said Kick their ass!

Honestly
Honestly

TERESA TERESA TERESA! Sweetie please come up with something better to talk about because everytime they show your face you become instantly annoying. How dare you talk about her financial problems when hunny you was the one struggling in college just to make ends meet way before you met joe, Am I right? So your no different booboo! The fact that you say things like "we have bills to pay" WRONG, Joe has bills to pay! You sit on your butt and talk down on Teresa all day and take care of your kids. Or the fact that you say "Your in no need to talk about financial problems right now" or "Joe had this big house all by himself before I met him" and blah blah blah. Listen hunny, what goes around, comes right back around. And God does not like ugly. Yes your beautiful but your attitude is pure dog crap 100% and you will receive the worst in life while Teresa walks around with happiness, love, and success. Get a clue baby girl and grow up, QUICK! P.S Who in the hell picked you to be on the show because if it was up to me, I would tell them to "SEND YOU BACK!"

DD-O
DD-O

Meliss...I do not think you are a trouble maker, or to blame, or control your husband. You seem like a nice girl, and have written honestly on your blogs and took the blame where you needed to. There are lots of rumors going around that you are not a full Italian girl and that is why this family doesnt accept you. To that I day...WHO GIVES A DAMN! You outshine this group by a mile. Yes you can be babyish but you are the baby sister so that I understand. But this is like the clan of the cave bear here. You can tell they don't like you and you will never be able to change them due to the fact that they are controlled by Teresa, that witch! She is jealous of you for sure. They are all groross, and you need to keep helping your Joe to lose that grossness. Keep up the good work there. She is only about herself and her kids. You are not included and it is a shame. I say just get together with the kids, once a week at your house, then at hers...each of you stay home and let your mom-in-law come to help out BOTH families and see how they are ALL her grandkids, not just red-headed step children

For love and friendship, stick with your own sisters...they truly love you!

Louise30
Louise30

I'm Sorry but its not Teresa @ all , You say things to your husband to tick him off about his sister and let him blow then try to patch it up by saying you want them to work it out when you don't. I think you did this show to tick her off and its back firing on you, showing your true colors, also you did that run way walk in front of the store owner just so she can ask you to be in it to TICK TERESA off , your aiming to hurt your own husbands family just so you can get your way and you know Teresa sees what your doing and who you really are.... You have A good life live it stop making your husband stressed with this drama he can love you his kids his mom and dad and sister @ the same time trust me and stop this you look dumb.....

LoveYouMelissa
LoveYouMelissa

Hey Melissa! I have been a "Real Housewives" fan since the original OC show. I don't think I've ever changed my mind about someone as I have Theresa. Your joining the show has really revealed what has been going on behind the scenes.

I thought Teresa's honesty was so charming---but now I see she was being fake for the cameras. Living in denial (about money and relationships) has been her downfall.

I think you are darling and I love the relationshipyou have with Joe and your children.

Thanks for sharing your family and life with us!

***Jennifer***
***Jennifer***

PLEASE GET OFF OF THIS SHOW!! YOU HAVE TURNED A ONCE HAPPY SHOW INTO AN UNPLEASANT DRAMA!! I THINK A BETTER SHOW FOR YOU TO BE ON WOULD HAVE BEEN JERSEY SHORE!!

***Jennifer***
***Jennifer***

I almost hope Joey's mother cant understand English after the things you have said on this show! Are you trying to kill his father?? Calling his wife the nanny??? Saying that Teresa's mother watching her kids is why you have a nanny and adding that you pay for it?? You have reached a new low and I did not know it was even possible!

PLEASE BRAVO!!! Lets take a vote for the MOST HATED HOUSEWIFE - I HEREBY NOMINATE MELISSA GORGA! LOL

Amoretti
Amoretti

Melissa, I really want to like you and I know my sister thinks you're adorable. However, I can see why people are writing mean comments. True, there is nothing wrong with having to work three jobs through college, but why didn't you become a teacher then? Many women do not have to work, but they do so for their own self worth and identity. As a teacher myself, I cannot imagine giving up my profession and throwing away my degree. You don't need all these flashy clothes and fur coats, but you do wear them. Also, why did you bash Teresa for having her mom watch the kids? My grandparents always watched me and my sisters. It's better than having a nanny. It's family! Why do you have a nanny if you don't work? I just feel like people would like you more if you were genuine and relatable. All you seem to do is shop and play dress up, and bash Teresa with your sisters.

***Jennifer***
***Jennifer***

Sheesh! It never ends with you!! You say "family first" and agree to "start fresh" with Teresa and then continue bashing her endlessly!! What is wrong with you?? Why are you so fixated on Teresa?? You seem to take pleasure in her demise and you speak about her personal business as if it is your own??

Well I am calling you out Melissa because you know Teresa is going through some horrible times and I have never once heard you offer or even suggest helping her and your nieces in anyway. So save your "family comes first" act for another show because we all know it is FAKE - LIKE YOU!

Lmvw
Lmvw

I'm ready to not see you, your sisters or your husband anymore. Please don't come back next year unless you're family is able to grow up by then and stop ripping your husband's family apart. You and your sisters are truly the most repulsive people on television. Actually, maybe your cute kids can live with Teresa next year so we can still see them! It's time for you to keep your mouth shut and quit spreading the poison onto your husband. Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...learn it!

Libbiec
Libbiec

Can only surmise the reason for the lack of blog update--as the majority of commentors here see through your shallowness and insincerity. Certainly not ego boosting to such a narcissist such as yourself. Perhaps we are all trying to get you to clean up your act with respect to honoring your husband and being thoughtful to your sister-in-law because of your husband. And perhaps your husband should consider apologizing to his parents for his disrespectful behavior to his father at your son's christening party. Both of you need to take responsibility for your share of the discord in the family--it is not fair to either Joe's parents nor his sister to expect them to take all the blame--nor is it fair to place all the weight on his sister to mending things between all parties. Own up--both of you and grow up. You might be surprised how good things may get if you actually are sincere.

HawaiiWahine
HawaiiWahine

I hope that all will work out for all families, I come from a large family and know the difficulties as I have a couple of siblings who are not speaking to each other. That said, I hope that YOU really did and continue to try to be nice to Teresa. Credit goes to her for really trying to mend things for her brothers sake. It was sad that you kept rolling your eyes and displayed body language that clearly showed complete disinterest, disbelief and disrespect for everything Teresa said to you. Then you so rudely brought up her financial situation, wow. I was hoping to like you, but it is getting harder and harder.

Sure Teresa is very extravagant, but so are you and too brag about it and put her down about not being able to afford a nanny. Shame on you.

L.Forte
L.Forte

From where I sit i see you as a sneaky woman who moved on up and tried to move his family out!You talk bad about his sister as she does you! yet you blame her for everything!All in all take your blame and grow up. from both sides the children act more mature!You did not just marry him you also married and should embrace his family good,bad or ugly!Your sisters need to find some business to mind instead of starting more drama!

Valaerie A.
Valaerie A.

Ignore all these haters!! I find you so lovable, Melissa! You are wonderful! I know it is so hard dealing with Teresa's BS as a sister-in-law. Jus tkeep loving your husband, your kids, and your family. Teresa is a hothead-- it so clearly shows. You are definitely in the right.

norrisky
norrisky

Bravo please take Melissa and Kathy off the show, they are big trouble...

Texas Fan 123
Texas Fan 123

You and Kathy BORE me!! Bravo please show Caroline, Jacqueline, and Teresa; I keep having to fast-forward when Kathy and Melissa appear on my T.V screen!!!

sassybaby
sassybaby

It never ceases to amaze me how blind people can be. Why is it that if you say something that is not complimentary to Teresa it is a dig, but if she does the same to you she is just stating the truth. I feel really badly for you because I think Teresa's fans are just cruel regarding you and Joe. None of us knows any of you really, and to pass such judgment is really ridiculous. Hang in there.

mimolimp
mimolimp

Can anybody tell me what Kathy's husband does for a living? Just curious.

DownSouth Team
DownSouth Team

Keep your head up Melissa! It's obvious that Teresa is a trouble maker from past seasons. Disregard the cruel comments because the new people never gets a fair chance. Teresa is a sociopath and looks down on people, she is illiterate and a spendthrift with no regards for money.

Jay Carlton
Jay Carlton

Melissa -- Firstly, your protestations that the problems between Joe & Teresa preceded your entrance on the scene simply lacks credibility. Shakespeare said, I think she doth protest too much. You are the wedge between them and Joe's "obsession" with your feminine gifts is the source of his support for you over his sister. You remind me of the girl who throws a stone at the glass house, then hides her hand with a look of innocence as she says.."who did that?" Your transparency is only out matched by your husband's insecurities.

VTMom
VTMom

Come on Melissa, are you serious? You always get your digs in when it comes to Teresa and then in the next breath you are saying that you want the families to get back together. You are a hipocrite as far as I'm concerned. I was so upset at you for the way you acted to Teresa when you went to meet with her. You had an attitude from the minute you sat down with her, did you see the look on your face??? Again, you "say" you want to make things better, but you are a complete snob. At your son's Christening you and your husband started the fight and it is so obvious you are jealous of Teresa. No matter what she does you accuse her of having a motive. You need to act like an adult and stop being so caddy and jealous. You are very immature and it's also clear that you are loving the fact that there is tension with Kathy and Teresa. You seem like the type of girl that will always be involved in drama, needs to be the center of attention etc. I feel sorry for you because this show has made us see your "true colors" and we don't like what we see. Teresa has a lot more class than you, that's for sure. GROW UP!!!!

Larissa a
Larissa a

You are such a wanna be. Such a new rich and you have absolutely ZERO charisma!!!...And, I change the TV every time the show you because you are BORING!

Andie Smith
Andie Smith

I am so sick of you talking about your sister-in-laws finances....you are so spoiled!

Curlyny
Curlyny

Melissa I hope you get to read these posts, I know you have not addressed it yet but I could not believe what you have to deal with with Teresa! It's like you need a freaking psychology degree to be around her, it is exhausting just watching it!

She did not come at you with the same intention as she did when meeting Joe. She made it all about you as the one that does not care and does not show love to her and her family and I do not blame you for wanting to talk and bring up stuff because she has hurt you and Joe and she owed you a sincere apology and she did not give it, and it was just for her conveinence not to talk about the past.

I respect you for saying you will do what it takes to see your husband but there is only so much one can take. A person like Teresa will stick it to you more knowing you are swallowing a lot. You have to watch your back with her and be wise. Teresa wants only her and her kids to be the center of everyone's attention. Listen Teresa has been up front about one thing that she keeps saying over and over again and even you quoted her in your blog; she keeps stating that this is because of you and it is your fault, the truth is in her eyes you and your kids pose a problem for her because you took her brothers attention away from her. Good luck.

NJRHW FANIn MIA FL
NJRHW FANIn MIA FL

Were is your blog ,, Its Tuesday ,, You are really showing your true colors,,, Tell your sisters to stay off the show,, Oh thats right you mention that when Teresa was on the previously and you were not Teresa never acknowlages you , You do not want a Family Feud with your sister because they do not have Camera time Right ,, That was the huge problem with you ,, You were mad that Teresa did not spent time with you and Her brother while filming early eposiode, before your TV debute,, I beleive that is the whole reason why you and kathy feel the way you do toward Teresa,, Every one talks about what Teresa has done ,, WHAT HAS SHE DONE.. oh yeah be on TV ,,,

Jessica Robinson
Jessica Robinson

I could tell that you just couldn't wait to start digging on Teresa on your blog. It's pretty sad to see how obsessed you are with her. As the Countess would say "Get a life".

Lorna L
Lorna L

I want to like you, but you make it hard. One minute your all about family and then it's throw Teresa under the bus. Get over yourself, you say it all for me in the opening credits, "You live a life that most gilrs would love to have" or something close to that. Adn that may be a true statement, however it seems like you carry this thing that folks "envy" you. Maybe some do but not everbody. It's obvious that your husband is suffering from some type of insecurity and you feed on that. Just remember here today and gone today so watch how you talk about other people you never know when you may be in their shoes. I'm not wanting that for you but you need to take a honest look at yourself and start practicing what you preach.

Randifrombedford
Randifrombedford

Love you and your hubby...you are both great and though I am happy some amends were made on the family front, hope you will be VERY careful in dealing with Teresa I just don't trust her and think shes insanely jealous. Good luck!

pmbguy
pmbguy

Teresa needs to stop leaving messages on your blog page lol I think your fine, just ignore the B.S.

dedo
dedo

Mellisa you are the Danielle Junior. You have no class and you hate Teresa. Please don't show your sisters next season (if u are still here , I hope not) there are so trash ,so trash I will be a shame to consider them a family. Sisters stay away from the cameras.

Belleandbeast
Belleandbeast

Melissa, You are two-faced, fake, and hypocritical! Would hate to have a sister-in-law like you! Poor Teresa!!!!

JRo
JRo

Please forgive and move on. Don't hate anyone in your family (and yes...T is part of your family now). Take the high road and get over the past...and...yourself...many have already. ForgIve and forget...my best advice. And...own your part...for real.

realityviewer
realityviewer

EXPOSED! You & The Brat (excuse me, your husband) are the problem. Poor poor Joe Gorga, he's being manipulated like a fool.

manuela
manuela

Melissa, you have a son and your turn will come. your son will treat you the very same way that you have made your husband to treat his mom. I hope Iam around to see it! If Bravo does not get rid of you soon, I will no longer be a fan of bravo!

lanelle
lanelle

Melissa, you and Kathy have no life! boring! you and her are snakes in the grass. BRAVO should look to repalce you two with women who have a social life like Theresa!

JDH
JDH

Wow! You sure backed a lot in this weeks blog. I want to ask a few questions regarding what you wrote. You wrote Watching this episode it's obvious that from Teresa's point of view she feels it's completely my fault and my husband feels that Teresa and Joe Giudice are at fault. If you watched Teresa did say she has done things too. Everyone has said it takes two. You have your version, they have their version and then somewhere in the middle is truth. People take out different things from conversations or arguments, doesn't mean one lies just means different points are more important to them than you. Tension between the joe's is ego on their part. Both want Teresa's attention and admiration because Joe (brother) always had it since birth and Joe (husband) deserves it as a husband. A mans ego is huge. It seems as the outsider looking in that both families have been hurt by each of you. No one is in the right. You have said and done things to hurt Teresa, she has done the same to you, even the men. If Teresa want to act as tho life is fine and great what does it matter to you? Their money issues is just that their money issues. They are not to be brought up and talked about, that was bad mouthing them with ill will. If you were in the reverse situation how would that sit with you? For the children they love each other that is clear. Joe says Teresa never calls but phone works both ways. Being a busy mother like we all are gives little time to your own kids and splitting that up is even harder. you call and ask for a park date to play, and talk. Little by little it will get easier. Figure that sisters stick together, right. Well when men get married they they follow their wives. You are mad at someone and upset your husband wants to protect, just normal male behavior. Take a look at yourself on tape and see maybe someone may feel your cold. I don't know I don't know you. But can tell you that if you try always never the less of what anyone else says or does. If you try always then it will show everyone that you tried. This is out of love for family!

RH #1 Fan
RH #1 Fan

Hey Melissa - where the bleep is your blog??????

What's going on with you - you wanted to be on the show, well.....part of the show is to blog about each episode - so what's up? You hiding, you scared, you don't know what to say???? Looks like T's fans have said it all.

JRo
JRo

I am embarrassed for you and your family. Please show a more mature side and see what is truly important in life before you lose it all. Your family, including your in laws, are the only ones that love you unconditionally. Show them the respect they deserve and get over yourself already. I have, as it appears many others have too.

Donna in CA
Donna in CA

Melissa, You paint yourself as the martyr when you are really the instigator. After reading so many comments, I see that everyone else can see it.