You say you want to move on, and then proceed to dissect everything that happened in this episode and bash Teresa.

1) We all saw the episode, and your negative actions speak louder than your re-cap. 2) Bashing Teresa does not indicate you want to move forward.

You really need to practice what you preach, otherwise all of this hypocrisy will continue to catch up with you.

I don't have to be Teresa's best friend. You just have to NOT create problems. Just accept Teresa for who she is and enjoy the good moments. STOP with the blaming!

4 pages of blaming and complaining and hateful words. Enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Come on! You are not as innocent as your explain yourself to be. Are we watching the same episode. You are full of breezy excuses for yourself and they are not adding up. I don't think Teresa is nearly as bad as you make her out to be. YOu should stop picking on her and Joe needs to grow up!

melissa i think u try to come off as the peacemaker,and want everything good but then u throw little jabs here n there with ur evil wicked step sisters and talk shit over n over on how i dont know if shes sincere or is this true,the matter of the fact is u n her brother think teresa needs to kiss ur feet like u guys r not gulity of anything with that dumb look on ur face like u dont care to hear anything she says.shes the one stepping up not u guys,get over yourselfs who do u guys think u are .your young i guess u have an excuse to act like a jackhole but your sisters their ancient tell them to act with some class sinc ur so classy ; )

Melissa, Honestly I could not even read this whole blog because all you do is go back and forth. Bringing up something Teresa said, counter attacking ... All ... 4 ... pages. I think this is part of the problem. She said, SHE said. I truly hope you and your family can work things out. Teresa is Joey's sister. You need to love her no matter what like she needs to do the same for you and accept you. Good luck.

Yay Melissa! This blog is an improvement, as was Teresa's. You both still have some issues you need to "own" but you two ladies may really work this out. By the way, the real issue does appear to be between you and Teresa, not the two Joes. I still have a hard time with the fact that you decided it was a good idea to come on the show, especially during all of Teresa's troubles. That's where your credibility and claim to "love your family" come into question. I can't think of anything more cruel than close family members kicking you when you are down, and on national/worldwide television.

You still have a long way to go to improve your image and convince the majority of us of your sincerity, but this was definetly a step in the right direction.

Melissa I find it amazing that ur post NEVER appear before Tre`s...Is it coincideence?

You might want to read Jay Mohr's blog because that pretty much how the viewers see you and you husband....You wonder why Teresa blames you, well lets look back at the scene after the gymnastics meet where you throw a wrench (or a wench in your case) in his plan to reconcile with his sister....

Melissa is trying to speak for her husband and explain his thoughts and paint him in a positive light. Unfortunately it appears she has been doing this from the start. Joey is not capable of explaining himself. So Melissa thought she could influence her husband enough to string this conflict along, long enough to gain conflict on the show to launch her singing career. At the expense of Teresa family. Melissa is not sincere in any way and it shows in her blogs and on air. She needs this fight to stay relevant.

You are starting to sound like a broken record. You say one thing but do the opposite. You all need to let the past go, and I know it is not easy, but let the past go and get on with life. You are waisting too much energy on negative stuff. Joe and his sister love each other. Let their parents have some peace seeing their children get along before it is too late!! Being the "in-law" is not easy, I get it, but look into your husbands heart and see it breaking and tell me that this is all worth it. You have to be the peace maker. God tells us it is the wife who will be the peacemaker.

if you and your husband love teresa like you say you do, why didn't you help her buy her furniture that was being auctioned off? you act like she needs to come crying to you, asking for your help, because you want to humiliate her? if my brother's furniture was being auctioned off, i would buy it back for him in a heartbeat, regardless of whether we were getting along or not. he wouldn't have to ask for my help. THAT is love and being a true friend/family member. you aren't fooling ANYONE.

Melissa, You say you're "happy" we got to see you got to go out with Kathy and Rich and bash Teresa right after her brother and her talked. How is that taking the "High" road? Obviously, you have no intention to have things fixed with Joe and Teresa or else you wouldn't bash her infront of him with his cousin, right after they talked. Teresa has done nothing to you, and seeing you and Joe- i see you love him but i also see you DO love his money, probably just as much. I don't know what your problem is- maybe you're just jealous Teresa got on the show before you did... Please stop your game- it's their relationship you're messing with, and we can all see how close they were. Also, i dont know how you and Joe can be so blind, as to blame TERESA for Joey's christening incedent. This might be hard to believe, but i'd really like to like you- you got nice style, a beautiful family, it's just i can't, seeing what you're doing to Teresa

Well lets see... I have my fingers cross for next week, I hope you guys get it together...

You keep taking digs at Teresa don't you? You really could care less about reconciliation, admit it. God help you.

Melissa-As the newbie it is hard to break into the TV family. But You and Kathy are very likeable and as a 3 season viewer it is a breath of fresh air now that we are into a few more episodes. Unfortunatelly, there are two sides to every story or relationship. I have noticed in several episodes that you praise Jesus and cross yourself. As a Catholic maybe just ask the Lord to help you with your relationships and to help you be Christlike in your responses to Teresa and Joe G. Try to stop the tit for tat and show the love of Christ to your family even if it means you might have to swallow your pride. It may help to defuse the situations with the hot tempered relatives. God bless!!

enough already... your family drama is getting old. if you really want to patch things up and be one big happy family, then stop all the pettiness and the nitpicking. as the youngest sister, you have always been on the take. now, that you're married, you're slowly learning what it is to give. enough of the belly-aching and grow up.

People have a problem with you because you are beautiful and outgoing. Keep your head held high and hopefully we will get to see more of your singing, marriage, and beautiful children. Peace.

i feel like this is the first time i am hearing you tell the truth! i hope you guys get through this ... and things turn around. although sometimes i think you act childish i can relate to what you are going through. my dads family does this to my mom, my brother and i. it has been going on for as long as i can remember and it has yet to change. good luck to you and family. i hope everything works out

It's seems rather obvious that you and Teresa are so hostile with each other because you are exactly alike. You both each manipulate the facts to paint a picture favorable to you...classic victim behavior. What makes it worse is that you are using your family members as pawns in this competitive, narcissistic game. My heart goes out to your kids; nieces; and to some extent, Joey and your in-laws.

Hello. My name is Ashley and I am from Toms River. Congratulations on all your success. I have had the same problem with my boyfriend's sister. The one major difference was I had to live under the same roof. So I understand what you are feeling. You don't want to get in between family but there is only so many times that you will be poked until you poke back. Around 4 months ago I was recieving notes every morning with some rude comment or being talked down to like a 5 year old. I felt so badly that I was crying almost everyday because I didn't want to come between a brother/sister relationship, but didn't feel like I should be a doormat either. And everyday my boyfriend would come home from busting his a** I didn't want to slam him with this. I felt that we were adults and we should be able to handle it as such, but everytime I went to talk about it I would get screamed at. So when I finally told my boyfriend I was moving out he stood up for me, let's just say she didn't take it so well, and her and I got into a physical altercation. It was horrible one b/c I never wanted it to come to that and two b/c it happened in front of her 9 year old daughter who is my life. Sorry for babbling but I just want you to know that I know what you're going through. Now that we no longer live under the same roof our relationship is much better. I have come to learn that "the night is always darkest before the dawn" Good luck with everything.

Melissa, your blog sounds similar to Kathy's especially when discussing the "gold digger" comment. I think you both are not understanding the comment however. I believe what Theresa was trying to say is that you married Joe for a number of reasons INCLUDING money. Why not admit it? You worked three jobs and put yourself through life, and when you met Joe, I am sure you were excited that you wouldn't have to do that anymore. I would be. Just call a spade a spade and move on with it. She wasn't saying that Joe has nothing else to offer, and by saying that, you and Kathy are simply stirring the pot and widening the distance between Theresa and Joe. That's sad. Sorry to say but you and Kathy come across as the mean girls of that family.

Melissa you need to grow up-you talk out both sides of your mouth. Yes, Teresa and her family is trying to do whatever it takes to get brother and sister back to being cordial. You will not stop digging and digging. You will reap what you sow. Why do you always wait until Teresa write her blogs before you write yours? I thinks you are so jealous of Teresa that you make yourself sick. Kathy is a wannabe. Joey can't see the forest for the trees. No matter how Teresa treated her brother over her husband- it DID NOT cause the commotion you have created. Little Joey boy will see the real Melissa one day, just hope it's not too late.

What we see and what you write never are the same. I think that you really need to relax and not compete with Teresa. You are instigating situations. Take ownership. And learn what you and Teresa have in common and just enjoy that part of each other. Your honey has you 1st so stop making the situations worse then what they are.

Once again your blog does not match up with your actions.

Are you watching the same show we're all watching??

EVEN your own husband admited you were "colder". Reality check Melissa!

Why the long explanation trying to reedem yourself ? you do not give the viewers enough credit !!! just because you say something is so - does not make it so !! you were not innocent in any of this !! your brother STOPPED the bashing of the Giudice's by having empathy for her & everyone took his lead .... you need to suck it up and love your husband in reality !! deal with the family drama because you lost your Dad and know he has limited time with his ... stop the drama !

Why do you always wait to post last, so that you can refute everyone who points out the obvious? It's sad that you can't love your husband enough to truly try to love his family without jealosy. The things out of your mouths are shameful and rude. Your face at the sit-down said it all- not interested. Your loss, and you will regret it someday.

Well, for once, I feel your sincerity. I have no doubt that Teresa is overly blunt. While I understand that makes you push her away (you admitted that you didn't answer her calls), don't be surprised when she stops calling. So how can she have a relationship with her niece and nephews (your kids) if you are not available (for right or for wrong) to get together? Now she is obviously really busy providing for her family. Of course she doesn't have time to play cat and mouse with you.

The only way you can move forward is to take Teresa for who she is - a bit of a big mouth. But you know she loves her brother and she will love your kids if you let her. You and Teresa have to agree to disagree and just be ok with standing next to each other for the sake of your collective family.

I will say I understand the second generation dynamics. When she had Gia first, the whole family, including Zio Joe, loved and adored her. All the attention was on her. Many years later, when you had Antonia, she didn't really switch gears (ie acknowledge that everything wasn't going to revolve around her and Gia like it had when there were no other cousins). She was too busy growing her own family. I had the same thing with my in-laws. My sister-in-law thought the whole world should revolve around her and her older kids because, up until I had my kids, that's what was happening. I didn't make a big deal about it. I just politely declined invitations that didn't work for me and a newborn's schedule. She eventually caught on and her kids starting having their own lives. So now she can't wait to be with my kids and truly loves them like her own.

I wonder why Teresa had to mention in her blog about physical hitting and Caroline and Jacqueline? Did something happen way back when and it's being rehashed? Not sure why I'm sending this blog. You all already know the outcome of the show and Bravo doesn't publish what I send anyway. I feel bad for you and Joey's entire family or any family that feels obligated to make things work. If you don't like each other, stay the hell away from each other. Get somebody else to take the kids to cousin play-dates. Take it from an old fool who wishes she could do it all over again. Concentrate on something else that benefits you personally. Teresa and Joey are siblings and will always love each other, but sometimes the in-laws just don't get along. I will always love my brother, but I have learned that his wife is just not my kind of people. I do miss being around my nieces and nephews, but sometimes you just have to accept the hand that is dealt to you. God Bless you and your family.

You still don't air your dirty laundery. All family fight but you should know by now where you draw the line. Discussing family matters with your accountant? Get real!

regardless of what teresa does because im an sure she contributes to everything, no one is perfect, YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND seem to not be taking ANY responsibitly for anything that happens. you BOTH are saying its all teresa and her husband and his parents. sweetie, it takes TWO to tango so as much as you want to believe it ALL teresa its not. I DONT know you personally but from what i can see on the show you seem to contradict yourself COMPLETELY. you say youll do anything and "endure " anything to have your husbands family back together yet just on the episode you rolled your eyes and said well see when they asked you if everything was going to be ok with teresa. you play the sympathy card way to much hunny and its starting to show. last week you tried to play the victim and your husband obviously so in love with you that he doesnt see it. im not saying your always wrong but you definatly need to own up to YOUR actions as well. AND STOPPP PLAYING THE SYMPATHY CARD it just make you look more transparent. and for your sisters tell them to stop acting like the evil stepsisters from cinderella. they need to mind their own business along with kahty wakile.

From your singing "Amazing Grace" and thanking Jesus, I conclude that you are a Christian. Please review what the Fourth Commandment means and help your husband to obey it. None of this makes sense to me. You all seem to not know why you are so angry, but everyone sure seems stick to slights and bring up the past a lot.

Not sure what high road you have been taking. Maybe you are lost since it doesn't seem very high. If the pain on your husband's face weren't so real, I would think this was all made up. Sadly, I think you are enjoying all this drama.

All my comments never get published, hope this one does...

Melissa, we can see your actions. Unfortunately they do NOT match your words. You spent the entire blog attacking your sister in law, pointing out all her flaws. Yet you have YET to really look at your role in all this. The one time you kind of do (about the "redone" comment), you end up justifying it because you were pushed into it. Oh please! You want to fix the family? Stay out of the fight, and more importantly stay out of the show. You do more harm than good!

Melissa,

You don't want to make up, its obvious each week when you blog. Let it go and quit expecting your husbands family to kiss up to you.

No matter how you slice it, the Gorga family was a lot closer before you came along. That’s sad because I do truly believe that a wife can make it or break it. Seems like you broke it but it will come back to bite you.

While Joe was on route to see Teresa you clearly said, “Unless she (Teresa) fesses up to what she’s done, she’s not even going to have a brother.” It was clear that you have a need for an apology for specific things from Teresa. And yet I only see you taking blame for writing the word “redone” in a card. That sounds silly, but so far you seem to pretend to have a halo on your head except for one mistake of a written word.

Your husband Joe walked into the restaurant with a chip on his shoulder. He seemed to be there to defend you instead of listen to his sister’s heart. It’s sad to set your husband up to feel that he has to defend you to his family. That’s your doing. He even went on to blame his entire family including his sister, mom and dad.

Your in-laws may favor their daughter over you. It really is their right to do so. They seem like nice respectful people towards you and the children, and they would probably have extended themselves to you more if you weren’t pitting yourself against their daughter. It’s really not your place to expect more of them. You must be hurting them deeply.

You, not Joe, seem to need Teresa to apologize and acknowledge wrongdoing. Sadly, you may really believe that you, your husband, your sisters and brothers-in law, acted fine at the Christening. I doubt there are many that would agree with you. And prior to the Christening, you act as if the list is endless. According to your husband you have a long list of things Teresa said or did to hurt you. Try to stop being a right-fighter. It makes you look childish and mean.

Once again, you are trying to play the nice innocent one and no one is buying it. If you wanted your family back together than put on a little effort. Teresa has now tried with both of you and you are still sitting back and doing nothing. You don't want to make up and we all know it.

Melissa, I think you have manipulated this situation to your advantage with your husband. It's not about you it's about Joe and his family reconciling. Your whole blog is about "Poor Melissa" and how you have been mistreated by the family. You aren't accountable for anything that you've done. You say you want everything healed but your actions say differently. Your insincerity shows through more and more every episode. No wonder the viewers dislike you so much...me included.

Why did you find it neccessary to bring up Theresa and Joe's financial problems at a dinner? Not the loyal sister-in-law you claim to be and why is everything about you don't you see that your husband is fine with moving on but you keep dragging your feet. Build a bridge and get over IT!

Hi Melissa,

I think you need to view these episodes all over again ... your constantly say that you want to make things work but then when it comes down to it your attitude and behavior say a whole different things. Between you rolling your eyes and always twisting the story to be about you I don't blame Teresa for the dislike she has for you. You sorry to say are one of the most fakest housewives.I truly do think you joined the show to gain publicity and get "famous" ... You just admitted that you didn't pick up Teresa's phone calls ... that shows how you keep the cousin away but you want them to be so close? I just don't get you ... I feel like I can see right through you and many of the other viewers as well ... I think you do love Joe but you don't love his family .... you want him to be very much apart of your family but when it comes to his you just don't make the effort.

If that is TRULY how you feel Melissa, then you can start helping your brother and Teresa to reconcile RIGHT NOW in the present. It's never too late. If you want your children to know their cousins, then allow Joey to be around his Mom, Dad and sister without going home and getting Joey in the privacy of your kitchen and saying, "Joey I felt uncomfortable. They ignored me. They didn't say Hi loud enough to me, I sneezed and no one said bless you, etc."

Wow, you and your husband think the world revolves around you. NEITHER of you know how to listen. You both just shoot your mouths off.

Well, Melissa, if I had a sister-in-law like you...it would probably be the same type of relationship.

Melissa if that is truly how you feel, then it's not too late. Allow your husband to be around his family without going home and getting him in the privacy of your kitchen and saying, "Joey I felt uncomfortable. They didn't say 'Hi' loud enough. I sneezed and no one said 'Bless you.' Gia hugged you before she hugged me, etc." ike Caroline said to Teresa, put your big girl panties on and let your husband be with his family. You are his family - but so are they !!! A man needs his wife and his Mother, Father and sister. You can help them reconcile right now!!!

Ok, so I have really tried to keep an open mind with you, but, I have had enough of you. Grow up Melissa, you misconstrue everything to try and make you look like you are trying, you can't "edit" bitchiness..........

i find it interesting that you only blog after teresa. it's as if you have to read her blog 1st before you can respond. i saw her blog up this morning and said to myself, "melissa's will be up soon." sure enough, it was. hilarious.

Melissa,someone has to give! I had a very similar situation as you and my sister inlaw passed...I look back now and say all that trivial stuff was nonscense..I would give anything to have her back today.She was only 41 when she passed suddenly and left 2 little girls.It was such a tradegy and all I could think of when she passed was all the times I wanted to prove to people how right I was..wish your family health and happiness

Melissa-You seem nice but what I don't understand is you always say "everything Theresa has done" but you never have any real examples. It is just lumped all together. It's hard to see "your side." The specific examples always seem to be a "tit for tat" where she did something then you did something and back and forth so you really can't take sides in that stuff. Also, I don't think saying that you didn't grow up with a silver spoon in your mouth was an insult. She said the same thing about herself and her husband on a reunion show. And I seem to remember a clip of your sit down with Theresa where the first thing out of your mouth was something along the lines of "I don't see how this could ever work," that sure makes it seem like you really don't care as much as you say you do. I want to think you're genuine, but you're making it really hard.

I have a feeling that given the kind of person you are, your gonna be doing nothing but defending yourself, your mouth, and your actions after EVERY episode. If I were you I would cut my losses and move on because you are going to cause nothing but embarressment for yourself, your kids, and your extended family.

Mellisa----You talk about is how much you guys care about family. Every time you on the screne, you guys trash Teresa. It would'nt matter how mad I was at my brother I never trash them to anyone. I have yet to understand what it is that was so bad that it is worth selling your family down the river. You keep trying to make excuses about why you have to explain again. Everyone can tell you are dripping with VENOM for Teresa. It make you and Kathy look bad. Teresa has had some of the worst couple of years that she ever had, so instead of you standing by her you guys jump on her at the worst time of her life. If I understand all because Teresa did'nt invite them to a book signing?????? I It is shameful and sad. If it was'nt for Teresa you two would not be on TV. Actually I don't let my kids watch because I never, never, never want them to act the way you, Joey and Melissa act towards family. You guys really have really come off looking bad!!!! hopefully they will post this.

I think both of you need to own up to what you have done. Both of you have a side that is understandable. But the constant airing of dirty laundry and digs are just toxic and will eventually rub off on your children.

This is a sweet blog.......but you say one thing and are doing the total opposite!!!!! If you was sincere you would quit all this childish mess and stop bashing Teresa and you would not let others talk about her in front of you either. I keep hopeing you will watch yourself on TV and realize why NO ONE likes you. And your husband......he needs to take responsiblity for his actions to. Its really hard to like either of you.