Melissa Gorga

Melissa explains her relationship with Teresa.

on May 16, 20110

Hi, everyone! I'm so happy that I have received this amazing opportunity to share my life with you -- the good, the bad, and the ugly. You're really getting a true insight into my life, and for those of you who decide to stand by me through this, thank you in advance.

First off I never realized how animated I am when I speak, especially when I'm making a point and speaking the truth. It certainly doesn't make for boring TV! Anyway, my life is pretty crazy right now. I've had so many incredible opportunities come my way and met wonderful people. I am so grateful! However, this first episode has left me with many sleepless nights and lots of tears. My heart is broken for my son after the events of his christening. It was extremely hard for me to watch, and I wanted to quit the show as soon as I saw it. I will do reality TV as long as it makes me happy and I am enjoying it. The second it puts a strain on my marriage or my children, ciao. Period! One thing you will learn about me is that when I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong. When I have a headache, I say I have a headache. When I'm having a bad day or going through a difficult time, I will not deny it. That's just me. I speak the truth, and that's why I don't stutter or look like I'm thinking when I talk. I am real.

Some of you may be very confused right now. You may be thinking, "Teresa has a brother?" Before all the press, you probably didn't know we existed, did you? Well here we are! I know the episode is a bit confusing at first. You're probably wondering why Joe acted the way he did when his sister came up to him. It's understandable so let me explain. Teresa has kept my husband, Joe, and his family (me and my three children) away from everything she has been going through and everything that has been so exciting in her life for the last three years. Although this all started before the show even existed. You will get a lot of the back-story as the season goes on, so I'm not going to go too far back. I would be writing for days! She has never been happy for her brother or cared about anything good going on in his life or his children's. She only wants to discuss her life and only cares about herself. She kept us as far away during Season 1 and Season 2, because I think she knew this would happen when they found us. Karma is a bitch. Family comes first for me, but unfortunately it does not for her, and it never will. It's just not who she is, and that's OK, but don't think we are going to go on national TV and be fake with you. We are not fakers, sorry. 

I think it is extremely obvious when she comes to the table giving us a kiss and saying congratulations for the second time that it was not the norm. You can read it all over all three of our faces. We really were not speaking to Teresa at the time of the christening, but of course I invited her to come, because we always invite each other to all of the children's parties. I am always invited to her kids' parties as well, and I will never miss one. We also had many bad conversations on the phone prior to the christening day, but it was my son's christening, so of course I will kiss them hello and expect that they will do what they normally do at all the kids' parties -- not speak. We never do, never! On top of that, Joe obviously didn't want to be there. He never wants to come to anything. With that in mind, seeing him hold Joey, whom he barely knows, and dance with him in front of the people for more than fifteen minutes was just bizarre to me. They are both very transparent, and I saw right through it. It was for show, it was for the people, and I still didn't grab my son from them. I said nothing. I allowed them to do it. It was a christening, and I didn't want to stir the pot. 

661 comments
malickikerry
malickikerry

Melissa i feel  so bad for your husband and you.

realist9211
realist9211

Okay, first off, I am a big fan of reality tv. And, The Real Housewives of New Jersey have to be my favorite of all time to watch. I haven't seen this show's first season or anthing but what i have seen I absolutely LOVE Melissa. She, to me is handling stuff the right way. i can tell that she want everybody to get along but she refuses to get in the middle of Teresa and Joe's family drama. I would be the same way. Its not her place to step in and fight teesa and joe's fight. From what I have seen of Teresa, she is something else and not in the good way. She does everything in her power to bash her family members and make herself look like the victim.

Vassia
Vassia

Melissa, I commend you in your attempts to get your hubby and Teresa back. I know what it's like to have a sister-in-law who treats you like second class. She didn't give you a chance from the beginning and she seems to hold your every comment against you. You are married to her brother and she needs to treat you like a sister of course. At the same time I don't believe it's appropriate to tell the other wives about what Teresa said and why or how she said it. It's not right either Melissa. This is between you and Teresa to work out. Stay positive and level headed. Christ said we have to forgive those who hurt us 7 times 77, ie. always. You have to keep chipping through her layers. Eventually, you will get through to her. She observes and takes everything into account so be very careful in all you do and say concerning her on camera. Show her love every chance you get, it will get easier.It won't happen over night because this is years of tension you guys will have to work through slowly. Best of luck, Vassia

Di from Chicago
Di from Chicago

Melissa...Keep holding your head up and take care of those who truly love you!! You are doing the right thing. I understand all the crap you are going through as I have had very similar circumstances to face in all of my family, (and it's a big one). Your husband and children are fun and precious to watch all at the same time. Loved your family photos for Christmas. Your kids are absolutely adorable!!! Obvoiusly, the dirt always comes out in the wash. Watching the seasons finale, and hearing Andy talk to Therese about hers and Joe's criminal behavior is just that, the dirt coming out in the wash. I feel very sad for them, and hope one day they face the truth about themselves.

Anyway, your on the right track with always trying to love others. Keep it up because Jesus sees it.

Emily Anne
Emily Anne

First off let me say I can understand how hard relationships with family members can get at the end of the day. Jealous, greed, and keeping up with the people are temptations we all deal with especially towards family mixed in with loyalty, love, and the bond with your own blood. People make mistakes and we are only humane. It takes years full of time, space, and life to heal a lot of family problems. I always love the Real House Wives of New Jersey the most. Over time I hate to see all of ya’ll fight, knowing what is at stake for your children, and even yourself. Miscommunication and fighting is a heart break situation when that certain person dies, and no one is promised tomorrow. God is real, and I feel like he is very much needed in this situation. Ya’ll are so blessed to be in this situation, beautiful families, homes, and I do not feel like any gratefulness is shown.

njhousewivesviewer
njhousewivesviewer

I didn't like you the first episode I watched this year and left you a comment here saying as much. Over the season I came to see that you are a good mommy and have a good relationship with your husband. Who knows what the status of your relationship is now with your in-laws but hope somehow you all can make peace - real peace. Good luck!

mrs.sweezy
mrs.sweezy

Melissa I think you rock. You are right when you said that Teresa cares only about herself. I feel sorry that Joe even calls her his sister. maybe one day she will wake up from her fanasty land and think hey my family does come first because right now only her asshole husband matters to her. he needs to get a life and stop contolling hers. Any enough about her you are great and i think you did nothing wrong

Taryn07
Taryn07

So you are one of 2 people who had a coarctation Of the aorta and they cut you through the back? Guess I must be the other person!

Seda
Seda

I agree with most of everyone you dont like your sister in law and you need to be honest about it because you are holding back a family relationship and people can see through it thats your problem. You say your about family but at the end of the day you mean your blood family. Its wrong what your doing because your sister in law did the right thing and your causing hiccups in your own husband relationship with his blood but his not doing that to you.

Lori305
Lori305

Do you even see how negative you are towards Teresa? You take jabs at her and when she comes back you want to turn it all around and put the blame on her. You are the family's problem Melissa. You need an attitude adjustment. I don't care what she's done, that's your hubby's sister and coming between them is not a good thing. You know the saying . . . "if you don't have anything good to say . . ."

Theresa's Friend
Theresa's Friend

Seriously, you are not nice at all! Its your fault Theresa and Joe arent friends! I hope you didnt get on this show to put down your husbands sister!!! Get some class and grow up!!! I thought you were pretty at first, but what person as mean as you are has any type of beauty. Beauty is skin deep sweety!!! Im truly not trying to be mean but your humiliating youself :(

CAN YOU PLEASE LEAVE THERESA ALONE!!!!

charlotte jones
charlotte jones

I do like Teresa even though she turned over the table in season 1 rather crazily, but maybe she and her brother Joey and you react in a very itaian emotional way. Everybody gets easily disrespected, so nobody can see clearly about wanting to put pride before everthing else,so that there is no resolution. Being that I am bi-polar but not italian I have been acused of wanting to cause trouble and be the center of attention many times. However I got help 20 years ago and now I have 3 grandaughters I embarass and a husband of 40 years that I still frustrate at time, but I have learned to give and take much more since living 60 years have made me realize how fast it goes Look at life as a future to look back on with as few regrets as possible, Good luck and GOD give love and forgivness to the whole extended family.

Really?!
Really?!

Melissa, these digs on Teresa are just getting rediculous. It can't all be her fault; I think a little confessing will help clear everything up instead of just demanding apologies. Teresa at least admits where she did wrong in some cases, but, by your account, you are a saint! By the way, how dare you accuse Teresa of not being all about family when she was the one throwing a kid's Halloween Party and you were the one wearing the sexy cat outfit and going out clubbing! Also, Joe Giudice can't be the one planting the chasm between your father-in-law and your husband. One person? Really? Oh, yeah, and it was a terrible, heinous dig to bring up the Giudice's financial trouble. I thought you wanted to repair this fight, Miss Innocent.

Melissa717NJ
Melissa717NJ

Read Jay Mohr blog. PS goggle the words to Amazing Grace!!!!

CaitlinElaine
CaitlinElaine

How can you say you try to patch everything up for the kids and then you think it's bizarre for Joe to hold little Joey? Would you rather him ignore the little man at his christening? I think you are a joke, Melissa. You both need to realize that it's making you look completely ridiculous that you're bashing your own family. Who is going to trust and confide in you in life when you talk about your own family on camera? You knew you would do that going on this show and you went on the show trying to get back at Teresa. NOT CLASSY, honey, *Teresa voice* "Sorrrryyyyy"

Tiffany Paler
Tiffany Paler

"That is still his sister at the end of the day. He does love her. And so do I."

How can you say that when 75% of your blog is bashing Teresa??

Grniiiiz
Grniiiiz

Coming from a place similar to yours, Melissa, I think you need to let Joe love his family. It's pretty obvious that they all miss eachother and no, they don't need to love you and be your best-friend. I stepped away from my husbands family when I knew I wasn't wanted and I think you should too. Joe's happiness should over-rule any feelings you have towards his family.. and keeping the kids apart, really? go drop them off at Teresa's and Teresa should be able to drop hers off with you cuz like your husband said, they are innocent in all this. You need to stop picking at everything Teresa does or doen't do and focus on your family..it's pretty obvious your husband is unhappy! Who cares how Teresa or his parents feel about you!! And so what if you were not mentioned in RHONJ before.. it's wasn't your show! why get offended? As a loving wife, it is your responsibility to smile when your husbands family is around.. either that or ignore them.. just like you do and everything will work itself out! Adding rude and dumb comments to teresa's blogs, really? Have a bit of dignity and let the family heal.. it's your husbands only sibling!!! the competition needs to cease. Good luck :-)

Keylon
Keylon

At last! Somneoe who understands! Thanks for posting!

marjorie w
marjorie w

Tell your husband Joe that is rude to where a hat at the THANKSGIVING dinner table....so rude & no class. Who does that? Joe is not kid, remove the hat. Get a clue!!

so sad
so sad

I have watched this show from the beginning and very disappointed that the first new episode shows a sister in law (Melissa) bashing Theresa. I have family problems too and also a sister that comes on too strong, seems to me that you were coming out fighting right from the beginning. If you say you want Theresa and her Brother back together then why all the bashing about Theresa. My Sister is the same way and it has caused lots of family problems, she is the one always looking for the attention and you are acting the same way my sister acts. Maybe you should tone it down a little bit and things in the family would get resolved. If my sister would do that then we could get our family back together. I come from a family of 9 and 8 out of the 9of us feel the same way as I do. Please think about this you only get 1 family.

Angelica Rey
Angelica Rey

Hi Melissa!

Welcome to the show! I have to say that you really grew on me and I really like you. At first, I thought you were gonna be this complete "b", but your actually a real sweet person who speaks the truth. I also, really love, love Teresa as well, but I have to say that I think it's hilar when you try to imitate her voice as your retell a story your really pretty good at it. I do see at times Teresa comes off as self-centered and has a "It's all about me" personality so I can see what you mean, but there is no doubt that Teresa and Joe (your husband) love each other so much you can see the hurt, the pain and the love they have for each other in their eyes. Love you both and I hope you all can work it out life is way too short! God Bless and Best of Luck Girly!

REALupstateNYhousewife
REALupstateNYhousewife

Although not one of the Real Housewives shows portrays a "real" housewife, I still watch for entertainment. However, coming from an extremely close family, I must say New Jersey is making me think twice about continuing to watch the show. IT IS SAD! I don't believe us as viewers have the right to judge personally because we are not there. But I will say, if it was me, I would fix myself & my family before I exposed my children & the world to such pain & turmoil. It does NOT make for good tv. Again, it is sad. Life is short. You people are blessed. You should put your differences aside, accept that the world turns because we are all different & find some love & loyalty. I pray for a happy ending for all!

deedeats
deedeats

Did everyone miss the first part where Joe Gorga invited the other Joe to do a shot and he rudely blew him off and walked away??? That started it! And I think Teresa took the baby because the cameras were not on her for a second and she knew that would direct attention to her. Having said that I think Melissa is also very jealous and has been starting problems since the beginning. Love Teresa but Joe Guidice had an attitude the whole time they were getting ready to go to the Christening.

Yvonne Evonne MA
Yvonne Evonne MA

you father in law obviosly enjoys Joe ' G's presence more than your Joe his son.Gosh I wonder why.If he takes a chill pill maybe just maybe daddy will give him the time of day.

Kimfl
Kimfl

In all due respect, you and your husband were so obviously in the wrong that you and you husband Joe, both owe Theresa and her family an apology. I can only hope you have already done so.

I am embarrassed by you and your husbands childish behavior on the show. My two teenagers were shocked over how immature you behaved. As Luann de Lesseps sings, money can't buy you class. Please though, try for the citizens of New Jersey you represent.

I do hope you can find a resolution to your family problems.

ginger567
ginger567

You are not helping ur husband by bashing teresa. his justfied anger toward hi sister and father is sapping his energy. Would rather be right or happy. You and joey may not have all the info involved.

Tiger's Mommy
Tiger's Mommy

I watched the first episode, truly trying to embrace the "newer" cast members... & truly think you have a beautiful family. However the whole christening party makes it really hard to embrace you. Seems it bothered you that Teresa came to your table to congratulate you & that it truly irritated you that they danced with your son. She said congratulations... wouldnt' the smart thing to do is say thank you and let her walk away? How do you not see that? & the party was for your son... his aunt did something that she feels is special with him... Despite whatever "intentions" you thought she had, couldn't you just appreciate that she was making him the center of her attention, as he shouldve been since it was a party to celebrate him? I dont' hate the Gorga family & I won't say i'm team teresa or melissa because, I have this profound feeling that its not right to choose. You are FAMILY... you can't choose your family... you work thru your differences/agree to disagree & move forward. I Truly hope thats what happens for you guys. It is clear that the issues are deep rooted & as a viewer we see that... but those deep rooted issues have to be worked on or as we all saw, pple explode. Best Wishes

Arabus
Arabus

Glad to see you on the show. Hope you get to the point that you can understand your husband's behavior coupled with too many drinks helped get your son's christening turned into a melee. When you two are able to recognize your part in that you MIGHT be able to come to a resolution.

Starr1
Starr1

Team Theresa! Better help your husband work things out with his father and mother ! The reasons he gives about Theresa's Husband Joe are foolish and ridiculas. No one can change a fathers heart towards his own son. If that happenes its the sons fault. You as his wife should stop blaming his sister and husband. It wont matter if his father dies from the stress of everything and the footage of the party will haunt your husband forever, if that happens possibly, then he will cling to his sister and be upset with you . Seen it happen . Good Luck with your efforts.If you fix this you wilkl be the hero not the zero. Just saying

zoe1
zoe1

Team Theresa!! I am shocked at Melissa's behavior. She is clearly vindictive, back-biting and extremely jealous of her sister-in-law! She claims to be "honest" - this is just an excuse to be mean. It is my opinion that Melissa is at the root of the problems in their family. She also obviously thoroughly enjoys her camera time - it is almost embarassing to watch her.

zoe1
zoe1

Team Theresa! I am shocked by Melissa's behavior - she is clearly vindictive and jealous of her sister-in-law. It is also my opinion that she is the real cause of the problems in the family. She thinks she is "honest" - that is an excuse for being mean. I also think she is thrilled to have camera time - its actually almost embarassing to watch her.

Gwinnie
Gwinnie

So, as I see it, you're the one who drove the wedge between Joey and Teresa. Any thoughts?

Debra Gatewood
Debra Gatewood

Also you said Teresa has kept you away from her family but OUT OF UR OWN MOUTH said that u were at her babys christening and you were holding her .... if shes keeping you away from everything .. why would she invite you in the first place , and her friends had met you .... your a walking contradiction ... i think id rather have danielle back then have to watch you all season!!

cali girl
cali girl

Everyone seems to blame Melissa's Joe. Well Teresa and her Joe continued to engage with them and egg it on. Let's not forget that Teresa's Joe charge at Melissa's Joe. Teresa needed to know her place especially when there is tention between her and her brother. She should have just walked away and left him talking (screaming and yelling). Let your brother be the crazy one. Don't be crazy with him. At the end of the day ladies you know we all have our husbands ears. Teresa needs to seriously know her place as a sister.

Ashley Go Teresa
Ashley Go Teresa

This is Teresa's SHOW. We dont like you . You are going on the show being ugly to her. No Honey that is not how it works. All you have done is talk about her. You talk about her more then your husband does. And umm did you not see the last season KIM G omg your not very smart are you? You need to stop bashing on Teresa got it.

jerseygirl19
jerseygirl19

i hope all is working out with you and your extended family. it breaks my heart to see this going on with your family....because i go through the same thing in mine. please try and mend things between your husband and his sister. urge him to talk to her. it hurts them both, and you can see that they both want to things better.

countystar
countystar

Your husband Joey had too much to drink and he is the one that started the whole thing not Teresa. Joey needs to contact his sister and work this out.

Csmg
Csmg

Melissa you and your sister need to quit talking constant trash about Teresa. In case you haven't noticed We all love Teresa and it is making you look bad. This was not a good way to start off.

Ridiculous
Ridiculous

I hope you are reading these comments because you could really learn from them. Obviously from your point of view, nothing Teresa says or does is right no matter what. If she doesn't show up to the party it's because she is disrespectful, if she does show up it's only because she will never miss a party. If she doesn't congratulate you, you will say she never even said anything. If she does congratulate you, you will tell her to go away because it is not sincere. She can't win no matter what she does.

Teresa does not owe you an apology. You and your husband owe her an apology for being so incredibly rude to her when she came up to talk to you guys. She did not ruin your son's christening - you and your husband did with your negativity and classless comments.

Teresa's husband went up to confront your husband after he called Teresa "garbage" and told her to get away in front of Gia (who your husband supposedly loves so much.) What husband would not react after seeing that happen to his wife and daughter? Your husband can clearly be seen lunging first and having to be held back. You two have no one to blame but yourselves for that fiasco.

Southern Girl
Southern Girl

Did you watch Andy Cohen's show WWHL! 92% of people are Team Theresa and 8% of people are Team Melissa. I think we would could that a landslide! Enough said!!

LisQuin
LisQuin

Do you realize if you just said "Thank you" - none of this would have happened. My impression is that you are the one that is jealous. It sounds as if you are mad because your sister-in-law would not put you on TV. What ashame. It sounds like you are the one stirring the pot - not your brother in law. So sad..

iwespo
iwespo

Melissa, I sure hope you have a safety net underneath that pedistal that you have placed yourself on. If and when you fall, it's going to be a long way down.

JNLNJKN
JNLNJKN

Any husband would be pissed if someone called their wife garbage! Nothing good can come of it! Besides, whether Teresa's congrats was "fake" or not, all you both had to say was thank you. It surely would have prevented that ridiculous fiasco. Sounds like there are more underlying issues between your families than you tell.

maureen leibovitz
maureen leibovitz

Teresa used the word garbage plenty in the first two seasons. So why is it all of a sudden so offensive if her brother does it. She didn't include her brother and especially Melissa in her life on t.v. anyway. You can't have it both ways. Love you Melissa!!

maureen leibovitz
maureen leibovitz

Teresa used the word garbage plenty in the first two seasons. So why is it all of a sudden so offensive if her brother does it. She didn't include her brother and especially Melissa in her life on t.v. anyway. You can't have it both ways. Love you Melissa!!

Missing my Brother
Missing my Brother

Melissa, First let me say, I really like you. As much fun as it is to watch these shows for the drama, it's nice to see someone as dignified as yourself. I have a situation similar in my family. My brother and I don't really speak and I hardly ever see my nephews because my SIL is a horrible person. She has taken advantage of my whole family and poisoned my brother against me all by spreading lies and then acting like a dumb bimbo who didn't do anything. I completely understand how your husband feels about Teresa's husband. That is how I feel about my SIL. We are also a big Italian family (although my SIL is not but tries to be) so it is hard to completely avoid them. I miss my brother (the way he used to be) and my nephews so much but I can't take what my SIL is doing to my family (most of whom don't realize it). The position you are in is like my husband. He hates that my brother has treated me so bad and believed the lies his wife has told. He takes the high road like you do. I'm just glad to see the way you are working this out. I hope I will get some advice on how to get through to my brother. Thank you for being such a classy lady.

viewer1960
viewer1960

You certainly are demanding attention. I saw two people that weren't gracious enough to accept a congratulations. You started the whole problem and I believe you are so jealous of Teresa and Joe you think this is the way to get your face on TV. Forget it Melissa. You will fail. I know you are trying to get your hubby to back off from his family. Hopefully, he will see you for what you are.

barbara from chicago
barbara from chicago

I agree with everyone your husband started it not Teresa and even if you both thought it was fake he should of kept his mouth shut one more night an important night for son. I say your husband was the one that got drunk and started it he couldnt explode another day you giving him excuses isnt helping. I would of been pissed at my husband for exploding like that at his sons big event. I would of told him your a man couldnt hold it for one more day so your just has bad.