Melissa i feel  so bad for your husband and you.

Okay, first off, I am a big fan of reality tv. And, The Real Housewives of New Jersey have to be my favorite of all time to watch. I haven't seen this show's first season or anthing but what i have seen I absolutely LOVE Melissa. She, to me is handling stuff the right way. i can tell that she want everybody to get along but she refuses to get in the middle of Teresa and Joe's family drama. I would be the same way. Its not her place to step in and fight teesa and joe's fight. From what I have seen of Teresa, she is something else and not in the good way. She does everything in her power to bash her family members and make herself look like the victim.

I think on this new episode tonight, Melissa Gorga really keeps up the drama. All you talked about is Teresa. You are very negative toward the family and that is your whole conversation focus on what Teresa is not doing. If you look at the show, Melissa is the main one talking negative toward Teresa.

I think you and your two sisters need three Irish Catholic sisters to teach you how to behave.

Mellisa, I really enjoyed this episode so far. I guess Theresa wasn't so tough without her hanchos around tonite..Her husband Joe didn't even come to her side during the upset. Anyway, I'm sure the puppet master will take care of everything. Team Mellisa

I can't say that I blame Teresa for staying away from you as I would too if you were my sister-in-law. Just because you are family does not mean she has to like you or involve you in her life.

Melissa, I absolutely adore you! You are a breath of fresh air to the show! I've been a fan of the show from the first season, and I'm so sorry that you & Joe have the heartache of family problems...trust me, I've been there myself. I have to say, I like Teresa as well...so I hope that, at some point, all of you will be able to work everything out. God bless! Keep keeping it honest and real!

Completely understand the issues you may have with Teresa. You and your family seem great. However, how it seems on the episode is the fight could have been avoided if your husband and sister would have just let her walk away instead of slamming tables and trying to get the last word in. Of course Joe would charge after seeing that from afar, your husband would do the same. Regardless, great tv!

I am a big Teresa fan, BUT it showed in the episode you wanted to keep peace.... Looking forward to seeing your story unfold! btw AMAZING house!

Love ya girl..Your family is amazing to everyone..You guys all look great on TV. Cant wait for more episodes.

Hi Melissa, I know there must be more to the story than we know for now, but I really do believe that everyone needs to put their differences aside for the sake of your father-in-law. He seems very ill and the cause of the problem may very well be that his children are not on good terms. Life is very valuable and fragile, you need to all come together and make amends. This must be weighing so very heavy on his heart and it's the responsibility of everyone around him to make it right. It also seems that jealousy and competition could be what's tearing everyone apart, no money in the world is worth having hatred and bitterness within families like yours. You all really need to come together for his own peace!!

I love Teresa, But I like you, there is a sweetness about you that has shown through and you can tell you wanted to keep peace and didn't want to seek an altercation, Looking forward to seeing your story unfold..... btws AMAZING house!

As im watching this episode, Im like I really like this new housewife, but then you really came across to be a negative person and very stuck up. COMPETITION? Their is no competition between you and Teresa, SORRY...... I dont like the fact that you dont even try and talk to Teresa about this family situation and try and fix it. You just let it happen. Im sorry but i work to and go to school, I have kids and im a wife also, but i still have time for my father so thats no excuse. Teresa is trying hard to be nice. I just dont understand why couldn't you run and take that or even say can we please have a heart to heart talk. I feel like you dont care about nobody but yourself. As for your husband, I know my husband would have lost it also, but you really need to have self control, especially since it was your son's christening and also kids were their come on now.... Im gonna pray for you and your fam cause you all really need to re-connect together and stop being so competitive its disgusting. Cant wait to see more of you!!!!

I think your amazing! And yesss we love your husband! What a sweetheart!!

I really think y'all are awesome, but this episode was super hard to watch, and I feel like that's how the season will go. It is just so hard to see brothers and sisters get that angry, I cannot even imagine it! But after all, we as viewers are not in the situation. I hope after this, everyone will be forced to see everyone else's points of view, either from the public being too intrusive or seeing each other's mini interview sessions. Once again I think everyone is awesome on this show and I think it's going to be a rough season for all, but maybe reconciliation in the end will make it really great!

It seems like you enjoy causing trouble between your husband and his sister.

WOW! How jealous of a person are you? I cannot stand to watch you speak, so thankful I have TiVo and I can fast-forward through all your parts! Way too competitive with Teresa! You and your husband are so sensitive! You two need to realize not everything is about you!

The only part that I don't understand is why you chose to through digs and burns Teresa's way every chance you got. How is that being the bigger person and showing you have class? Also you said your real and for the most part I believe that but saying you love Teresa is not being real. You obviously have NO love for her so don't try to paint this picture that your so perfect. Lastly my heart melted for Gia tonight. Seeing her reaction to the fight and how she was trying to tell your husband and her mother to stop in the beginning of it all was really hard to watch. You should ALL be ashamed of yourselves.

The only part that I don't understand is why you chose to through digs and burns Teresa's way every chance you got. How is that being the bigger person and showing you have class? Also you said your real and for the most part I believe that but saying you love Teresa is not being real. You obviously have NO love for her so don't try to paint this picture that your so perfect. Lastly my heart melted for Gia tonight. Seeing her reaction to the fight and how she was trying to tell your husband and her mother to stop in the beginning of it all was really hard to watch. You should ALL be ashamed of yourselves.

All, I have to say to you is: let you husband work thinkgs with his sister..blood is ticker then water.

This is the first time I have written a comment but are you for real? I am not a fan of Teresa's but it finally took someone as nasty and self absorbed as you to make me like her. You and your sisters are mean girls aka women. Teresa's brother called her trash what was she suppose to do. You are right karma is a bi--- and you should be careful. Anyone who delights in others downfalls and hardtimes is just plain cruel. I am not sure you watched (or remember) the same show that just aired but in my eyes you did something I never thought possible you made me like Teresa.

I am not a fan. I dont see me liking you your husband or Rich and Kathy. You are not as bad as Danielle, but you are a trouble maker.

Melissa ~ Joe owes Gia and appology. My stomach was in knots seeing a family brawl but it broke my heart to see Gia come in to protect her mother from her brothers harsh words. It's appalling the way he spoke in front of his 12 year old neice.

I am pretty sure this is exactly why Teresa did not include you on the show or the "exciting things." This is going to destroy your family, you are just as fame hungry as claim she is. Is it worth it?

I can appreciate your attempt to be polite (that is what you should have done), but let's not ignore that your husband maaaaaay have been drunk at his son's christening and your sister was completely rude and hurtful. Let's call it what it is. You should be working hard to bridge the gap between the families because you fit the personality type that would further the gap.

Danielle left and we still have this! Are you kidding me? This was like watching animals at a zoo. Please, in the future, shorten your blogs. The rattling on and on about Teresa was quite redundant. It is clear and you make many inferences that you and your family are jealous that you all haven't been in the limelight (the show). Many people keep their family private for obvious reasons-protection. Teresa is no posterchild for calmness (table flipper), however, after tonight, I understand why she wanted to keep her family private. Jerry Springer couldn't hold a candle. It was like the adult version of the Jersey Shore. That poor grandfather and the children. You all should be ashamed!

Hey Melissa, you make a great addition to the show! I think you and Tersea will make up! I think the main reason why you and Tersea don't get along is because you both are simliar! Good luck on the show!

Oh Melissa, I am so excited that you have joined the Real Housewives of NJ family. I have always felt that there is a different perspective to Teresa's story that us, the viewers, were not getting. Like you explained in your blog you say it like it is whether it be good, bad, or ugly. Teresa seemed to be so vague and a bit snotty in her confessionals since the beginning. I hope to watch the true story unfold throughout this season.

P.S. I find it funny that out of all the housewives, Teresa does not have a blog to defend her side of the story...

Sweetie , I think you are the trouble maker from start to finish. I think we will see how fake you are. FYI,Jesus knows fake people when he sees them.

It looked more like the trouble was instigated by your husband who seems to have major issues with his self esteem. It was disturbing to watch his infantile behavior with his parents as well.

your husbands behavior was shameful. how dare he speak to his sister like that especially in front of her children. you like to stir the pot melissa. shame on you!

Family is family , that was horrible what happend. Garbage really , as a woman of the house you should of stepped up and stopped that befoe it happend, Horrible

First off, I already think you and your husband are bringing the drama in. Seriously, you only invited the Guidices' to the christening to show off what kind of parties you could throw. Of course I wasn't there, but it was written all over your face as well. It HAS to be a jealousy thing that your husband has that your father in law spends all his time with Joe Guidice. Yes they were going through financial problems and no its not your problem ("Thank you, Jesus") but come on! Maybe he was there for support, maybe he gave them advice. You can clearly see it by your father in laws words and actions that he was very well disappointed in him, irregardless. I mean seriously, who the hell acts like that at their son's christening? Who even THINKS to drink at their son's christening party?!! My son was just christened and you best believe that anyone who was drinking would have been thrown out to avoid unnecessary drama, such as the one that happened at your son's. How convenient that your husband didn't remember that he called Teresa garbage and regrets it?? Its no surprise to me as he obviously thinks that of all women since he's teaching your son that "cleaning is for women". No wonder, you're a cook, a lady, and whore! He needs to learn how to respect regardless. Your children are BEAUTIFUL but they don't need to be taught that. Regardless, the first episode was intense and although as much as I love the original girls of New Jersey (except Danielle), I'm looking foward to the rest of the season and getting to know you and Kathy.

Oh Melissa, I am so excited that you have joined the Real Housewives of NJ family. I have always felt that there is a different perspective to Teresa's story that us, the viewers, were not getting. Like you explained in your blog you say it like it is whether it be good, bad, or ugly. Teresa seemed to be so vague and a bit snotty in her confessionals since the beginning. I hope to watch the true story unfold throughout this season.

P.S. I find it funny that out of all the housewives, Teresa does not have a blog to defend her side of the story...

When I saw the previews I really expected to like you ! But of course now, I think you and your husband ( and your sisters) are DISGUSTING !!!!

if I was Teresa I would have kept you "in hiding" too. I am sure she never acknowledged you and your husband, because she is embarrased by you guys, I sure as heck know I would be if i was your sister / sister in law !

But I do enjoy drama in my shows so I do actually hope to see you and your ugly fake sisters ( well maybe hope to see you fail)

God Bless.

Wow. It seems you are definitely in the running for the next Danielle Staub. If that was your goal, congratulations.

I think you're terrific so far! I just wish you didn't have the enormous chip on your shoulder about Teresa but I know you have to talk about these things for the show and plot line. I think you're fabulous just on your own. I hope this doesn't change as the season plays out!

What an awesome blog! You did good. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders girlfriend. I hope things will eventually simmer down with the family, but I know from experience that's easier said than done.

No matter what has happened in the past between Teresa and her brother Joe.... there is NO excuse for him to call his own sister garbage! How can you possibly defend that kind of behavior. I personally thought your husband was abnoxious. Teresa may have her faults, but it looks like you have several of your own my dear!

To me it seems you and your sister add more drama to the situation instead of try to get along and help the relationship between your husband and his sister. There should not be competition between a sister and wife.. You are both great girls and now that Teresa is going through a rough patch you guys should lend her a hand .. That is what a good Italian family would do

You're so right Family does come first!!! And I'm team Teresa! Thank you! Thank you.

I would say your family dysfunction stems from the grandfather pitting his children against each other. I feel sorry for your husband but Teresa is a very strong person and her brother will always be a little baby.

Melissa, finally someone to give Teresa a taste of her own medicine! I think you are funny and you keep it real. It is kind of funny how nobody ever knew Teresa had a brother.... Hopefully, your father-in-law will see what your husband was trying to say. Welcome :-)

I think you are beautiful, genuine and a great addition to the show. Your family is beautiful and you seem like a wonderful mother. Welcome to the show.

Welcome! I can relate to the brother - sister relationship. Jealousy is pouring from this episode. I hope your not going to continue to be a mean girl this season. Good luck.

Melissa - thanks for such a great blog..it helps to put some of the pieces together! My heart broke for your husband tonight...I hope he and his father are in a better place now. Can't wait to see your story unfold!! Much love

Well 1st welcome to RHONJ! You and your family are a great addition. 2nd my heart hurt to see the Gorga family so torn. Yes it was evident what Teresa did @christening by saying congratulations 2x, I was able to see what you are talking about. My issue is that you don't need to spend so much time dogging the Guidice family. If your in a happy place then you should be the bigger person and take advantage of teresa ("fake") kindness and be kind back. Sometimes with family you have to turn the cheek over n over. I think instead of constantly talking negatively about the Guidice's focus on bringing the Gorga family together, if joe talks bad about his sister, don't encourage it, tell him how much she loves him. You spoke Jesus name often, so when u want to be upset think "WWJD"- WHAT would JESUS do? I am sure she has done alot, but LIFE IS TOO SHORT, what your fighting about is silly- PS I did know she had a brother, she had mentioned him in prior seasons or blogs, forget which one xoxo

Welcome Melissa, You seem fairly nice and smart too. What I didn't like is all and only the negative things you had to say about Teresa and Joe. I'm sure there is more emotional history than viewers know, however you seem to hold a lot, and only resentment, competition, and my odds are with even jealousy towards Teresa and Joe. I would believe that Teresa also would have demonstrated competition towards you as well (ie. throwing better parties than you, which she does), maybe even leading you to your present feelings about her. And I thought it was really gracious of you to at least express some openness towards Teresa when she came to your table to congratulate you and her brother on your son's celebration - It actually showed maybe even a glimpse of you really wanting to open the doors of family resolve between you and her family. However, your husband is disrespectful, abusive, foul mouth, and all around acts like a child throwing a tantrum - turned goon, wop trash jackhole. While you are constantly trying to portray him as a boohoo victim (understandable being his wife - I guess), putting bad thoughts in your father in law's head. We've been watching Joe for many years now, and Joe never barely talks, let alone sets out to start any trouble. If anything, it was your husband's low class hoodlum behavior, and BIG MOUTH the showed he's the one full of poison - not Teresa's husband Joe. Your husband is constantly wining and blaming everyone else for his family woes, but never once did we see him make any effort toward his sister throughout the whole celebration. And then had the nerve to upset his father (knowing as ill as he was), just because your husband seems to always need to make it selfishly about him. Just because you live in a big house, doesn't make you or your husband interesting. Danielle was more entertaining. Tell your husband to get some professional therapy for all his issues, and stop trashing Teresa and Joe. Oh and ps. Tell your sister to mind her own business, when no one is having a conversation with her. If she's seeking her own show, tell her HONJ have enough boring Quidettes on the show. Some intelligent women would render the ratings higher at this point. Remember, you guys just came on board, show some humility, at the very least some manners (that goes for your sister too).

Seems like alot of instigating on your part.

Wow, at first I was very upset. I thought, how can she do this to her husband. How can someone come in between a sister and brother?

Then I smile, because I am going through the same thing. My cousin is going through the same thing. We all are.

Sometimes our siblings actions hurt us, but in the end. My husband stand next to me. And I am happy your husband was standing next to you. I love that fact you say that you both are hard working people because you could see it. I like you and even though I was like how dare she.. I am your number one fan.....