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Hi everyone! So do we like the New Jersey Housewives on Sunday nights? As always I want to thank all of you who support me for your love. I've received so many emails lately, and I can't even explain the way you make me feel, thank you!
Well here we go, here comes the singing! I still can't believe it's all happening. Music was my first love! I could remember being in elementary school and loving music class so much. I would make excuses to just walk back in the classroom, I would purposely forget things, I would bring the teacher cupcakes, anything I could do to go back. I will never forget my music teacher, Mrs. Orkfiz. She wrote in my sixth grade yearbook that she can't wait to see me on the cover of People Magazine. I still have it and will never forget she wrote that. I loved her! Okay, I can't believe I pronounced the word wrong in 'Amazing Grace,' one of my all time favorite songs. I swear I know the right word, why did wench come out? I think knowing I was going to sing in front of the cameras for the first time got me nervous. Did it have to be THAT word? I'm sooo embarrassed! Please forgive me for that. We were laughing for fifteen minutes straight when we saw it, I knew the press was going to have a field day with that! I guess you're going to start to see a more vulnerable side of me. This is a long and crazy journey you are about to take with me. I still get incredibly choked up every time I think about the music and my father. I can't believe he's not here to see it happening, but I know he's watching! I am so excited for everyone to hear me sing, that was just a little taste, but as the episodes go on there will be more and more. I've toyed with the idea for years, but I always want to put my family first, so it was hard for me to make the decision to go for it. At this point I'm scared, I'm afraid, and I don't know if I can do it. But if I don't try, how will I ever know? Did you see Antonia and Gino jumping around the room? They are so cute and innocent, I them so much! Antonia is my mini me, I see so much of me in her. They now know every word to 'On Display.' It's their favorite song!
I think its interesting that you take time in this blog to attempt and NOT bash Teresa and play the innocent victem in this whole sherade. Every episode in this season you have started right off the bat maliciously bashing Teresa and her family. If you truly are wanting to mend fences w her and her family how do you expect to get any respect when you have been incredibly mean and cruel with your words. You want respect from the Guidices? Then give them reason to. I am sure a lot of things happen off camera that we as viewers do not see and I get that..however YOU have been the frontrunner in all the bashing and all the name calling and all the petty trash talking. I am unclear as to why you don't see that. I think you need to learn to edit yourself, because the cameras arent doing you any favors with what you are claiming you are truly wanting..which is peace and love in your family. You are only making it worse everytime you open your mouth...
I love you! You are so real! Teresa wrote about you in her whole blog! It's so obvious that she is sweating you! You are an amazing singer, I can just tell! you have the whole package and she cant take it! When Teresa is threatened she bashes people to try to change everyones mind, she dosen't have me fooled. She's so obvious. She says she wont write about her family and then writes about you the whole time. Team Melissa!!! Keep singing girl! Can't wait to see more of you! Love you!
Melissa, since episode one I tried to see things from your family's perspective as an unbiased viewer. However, as the show progresses I can only see that you are very self-absorbed. You may say that family is important to you, but your action speak differently. I think you ultimately went on the show for your own ulterior motives. I just hope that you don't fall into the "reality" curse and get a divorce because of your actions because, let's face it, you have no future when it comes to singing!
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
It almost looks as if Teresa thinks that you have replaced her in her brother's life. I have seen this type of thing happen before and Teresa may not even be consciously aware that she is doing it.
At one point Teresa said that "she is the matriarch of this family." That's a tough role to have if a younger sibling marries and his wife becomes the "matriarch" in his "family".
Someone may gently want to suggest this to Teresa. I love Teresa and I think she may feel threatened by you although there is no reason to be so. It may also help poor Joe patch up the hurt he feels from his sister's actions.
Hang in there Melissa. There is a light at the end of every tunnel. It just isn't visible yet. (((((Melissa)))))
I think the viewers want to like you, but you make it very hard because there is a huge disconnect between your words and your actions. Everything that you write in your blog is completely inconsistent and it’s almost like a different person is writing it than the one we see onscreen actually making the actions. You come off fake on screen. You write in your blog that you love to sing and this is your passion and you are so comfortable doing it, yet on screen you pretend you don’t know you are good, randomly act shy about it, like “who me?..really, I can sing? Do you really mean it?” Fishing for compliments is so unattractive especially for someone your age. You claim you want T and Joey to fix things, but are you watching the same episodes as everyone else? TOTAL disconnect between your words and your actions. You come off appearing like a jealous wife who is insecure losing her husband to his family. Maybe that is why you cater to him so much.
Melissa, while I have never been "Team Teresa", I can honesty say that I feel you are being very passive/aggressive in your actions and that you are the bulk of the problem. By having this "moment" where you are saying that you will put up with anything in order to get the family back together, you really are saying that you are being treated unfairly and that you want your husband to put an end to it. What decent husband would stand by when their wife says something like that? Your husband may have the wool pulled over his eyes when it comes to you, but we the viewers certainly don't. Be honest with yourself and your husband. You can't twist this around any longer. You are the thorn in this family's relationship. You clearly want to be the center of everything and with Teresa in the picture, you can't.
You know I'm not sure I believe you want to fix it after watching the last bit of Sunday night's episode. I really do hope you mean it. You know you all just need to let it go. Close the book, and start again. Don't bring it up the past is done. You can't change it you just have to move on and I think you all need to forget what was said and done otherwise you won't ever heal the rift if you keep bringing up things that happened years ago. JMO
I want to like you because you are blessed, beautiful, and have a beautiful family but... I think you were very manipulative this past episode. I just don't get you quite yet. You seem so sweet on your blogs but then on the show you seem to stir the pot on the show between teresa and your husband.
I don't know about you Melissa. I believe you love your family. And you and Joe have something special, no doubt about it. You talk a good game in your blog but you come off as being very manipulative on the show. If you want Joe and Teresa to work it out then back off.
I think you need to open your eyes and see that your sisters really start alot of the drama between you and Teresa!!! Your husband shouldnt drink so much I think thats why things got started at the church!! Teresa tried to talk to you both but instead he blew up at her, shame on both of you for letting the kids see that!! TERRIBLE!!!!
I hope they post this:
Melissa, you're heading in the right direction as far as the kids go. Both your & Terresa's daughters are such "Mamadellas" (you know what I mean if your Italian), they can't be any more cuter and sweeter when they see each other. Putting all of your egos aside, is the best thing to do. Let the kids play and enjoy one another. The other things will come together. Peace & Love to you & your families. Take care!
Melissa you really have a beautiful voice. I can't wait to hear your song!. Ignore Teresa she's not worth your energy!!
Melissa why don't you quit making excuses and just apologize to Teresa! It truely is that simple. You say the same thing over and over in your weekly blogs, talk is cheap, so suck it up and just apologize and quit acting as if you are trying to bring your husband's family back together. The camera doesn't lie and neither do your facial expressions!
I agree with Teresa and what she said on her blog. You're all gung-ho for your husband to reconcile with his sister and once they do so in baby-steps you poison his mind with your insecurities and now he's back to placing he blame and pointing fingers at his mother and sister. That was just wrong!
I don't believe a word you said. You are a LIAR and Manipulator. I can't believe you think that you will have a successful career as a singer! You are not a Mariah Carey, honey!
Things will start to work out for your husband and his biological family when you stop acting like a spoiled brat. Sorry but you are mean, manipulative, condescending, backstabbing, and rude. You should have said goodbye to your mother-in-law, not expect her to seek you out. You need to grow up and stop trying to be the little girl that you once were. You are an adult with three children, now grow up. For goodness sake please stop contradicting yourself each and every episode. You lose credibility. Example: you said your sisters were your best friends, now you tell us that Kathy is, what is the truth?
Hi melissa, I am going to be honest, at first I did not like you, but the more I started watching the show, I began to realize that you are a genuinely good person. I just want to say that I am very proud of you for making these steps towards bringing your husband and his sister closer. I enjoyed seeing the children play together because that is how it should always be. The children have nothing to do with what is going on, and it is sad that things had to come to this point. I understand your issues about being included or accepted into your husband's family, I have went through the same issues myself. All I can say is keep your head up and always be the bigger person and always let everyone know how you feel.
How could you say anything about your mother-in-law, she was treating you with a lot of respect during the Gymnastics Meet. You were the one whining there. Actually, the only one not happy with everybody getting along.
No, you didn't! Why when you got home, you started whining and complaining to your husband about his family? You are shady, lady!
keep up the good work Melissa...keep supporting and encouraging your Joe to mend things with his sister (it's going to be hard cause Teresa is very stubborn and thinks she is right all the time but keep up the good work)
I really wish I could believe that your heart was in the right place concerning Teresa and Joe's (your husband) reconciliation. But the cameras don't lie. You come across two-faced. Telling your husband one thing and doing another. If you really want peace for the children and your WHOLE family stop bashing Teresa. As far as the singing goes, the who love you have lied to you (probably because they love you!) but they weren't doing you any favors. You really can't sing. I know you won't listen. But I just wanted you to know you're not fooling everyone, but I guess you're fooling who you need to.
Hi Mellissa, I'm going to be honest with you, at first I didnt like you, but the more I started watching the show, I began to realize that your are a genuinely nice person. I'm very happy that you are taking the steps toward bringing your husband and his sister closer. And I was happy to see the children play together because that's how it should always be, and they have nothing to do with the situation. When the family goes through this kind of thing, the children ultimately pay the price for it, and its sad that it had to come to that point.
Please put your husband's feeling first. Let him reconnect with his family. Why would you manipulate your husband like that. Keep you mouth shut, it isn't about you.
You saw Gia cry because she was so happy her uncle was coming then you show up late and don't even say sorry?! Who does that, really? Your face was priceless when you were there. Trust me, nobody would mistake you for being happy. When your daughter asked to play with her cousin, it was you who made her cry. At least own it Melissa. One thing I have to say that is beyond bothersome, is how you constantly sterotype Italian men. If someone else did it, you would be complaining but you have no problem, "He's Italian so....Italian men....He wants me pregnant and in the kitchen" it sounds completely ridiculous. I really wish you would look outside your little grown up Jersey Shore bubble. Real Italian men do NOT act like your husband. Trust me on that.
What! You wanted to talk to your husband 1 hour before he was going to meet with Teresa to poison him against her, AGAIN. The problem is YOU. We all saw!
Just remember--he can always get a new wife, he can't get a new sister...Know your place. You should stop being so passive aggressive. You do things spitefully and then try to get everyone to think you are a victim. You aren't fooling anyone by saying you want more than anything for this situation to be fixed and then filling your husband's head with how evil his family is. Give it up and everyone can move on.
The only bad vibes anyone could see at the gymnastics meet were coming from you. You are full of it. Jay Mohr has your number!
Melissa, I am not sure what show you were watching, but you are not grasping what is actually going on with your husband and Teresa. You say you wanted to have a positive talk with him before he met Teresa? Are you serious? There was not a positive thought in your discussion with him. You are obviously the queen of manipulation. I will give you that much credit. You have made your bed in the feud with Teresa's family, so live with what you did.
Melissa, you just wrote:
"My daughter and my sons have no idea of this whole situation, and they never will as long as I can help it."
Too late, you chose to be on tv and air out your family's troubles! Good for you Melissa. Also, Stop playing the victim. I can't believe you also wanted to have a talk with Joe before he leaves to speak with his sister. Really? The only things you should have told him was "let's make this better, we're family" not
"Should I just be the doormat!" blah blah blah. Youre true colors are showing Melissa and it's not a good look on you, or anyone else.
No sweetie! Even Joe Giudice was being civil . He even looked at you to say goodbye and you ignored him and continue texting. You are blaming everybody for your mistakes.
Great blog keep been you,n just becareful with Teresa she is evil can't stand her......#Teammillesa...
I really like you and joes relationship, you seem truly in love. It's really hard as a new jersey housewives fan not to side with Teresa because we have been watching for her so long and she is a popular character. It would be great if you and Teresa, woman to woman can make things go smoothly towards each other for the whole family! good luck!
Ok, why are all of your clothes bejeweled?? First it was the dress at the Christening and next your hat. Do you get your clothes from your daughters dress up closet?? Is it a Jersey thing?? It's very distracting.
You are the new Danielle! The only problem is that Caroline and Jacqueline can't say what they really think about you. I wish you weren't related to Teresa. So we could hear the truth from them also.
Pitty party for 1 please! It's time to own up to your digs as well! Both need to just stop! and so does your husband!
Both you and Teresa need to stop talking about mending fences and just do it. It's so sad to read both of your blogs bad mouthing each other but still saying you want things worked out. It's disgusting to think of families feuding. If I were in that position I would do everything to stop it. Everything including stop writing condescending blogs.
Oh Melissa-You are such a pretty girl, but you are soooo trying to prove something. You have a wonderful husband who clearly loves the floor you walk on and you have everything you could ever want. It seems like you are always trying to say that you are the one that is putting Teresa and him back together, but you are not. You are a pot stirrer and they were brother and sister long before you and Joe were husband and wife. He is clearly torn between being a good brother and being a good husband. Dont make him choose. Do the right thing sweetie because your father passed and you of all people should know what it is to lose a family member.
At least you said "wench" and not "witch" while singing 'Amazing Grace'.... simple mistake and glad you aren't sweating it. Other than that... you have a beautiful voice and best of luck with your musical endeavors.
Melissa: You are a breath of fresh air for the show compared to that idiot Danielle. You are the freshman of the group with Kathy and you both need to understand that this show works because of the benefits we watchers can obtain in our lives. Caroline, Jaqueline and Teresa have a quality in them that is genuine to heart. I realize that there is a distance between you and Teresa that the bridge needs to be gapped. Teresa has been all about family since we met her and now you believe that she doesn't feel that way and it's coming across as a bad jamb. Teresa has gone through a public life she never intended on and the more bashing the more hurt she becomes. I too sometimes believe her Joe is going through the financial meltdown that alot of us have gone through but in time he will be again be the Joe we thought was funny and genuine. You and your Joe didn't have to go through what Teresa and Joe went through so alot of us watchers have and we know that we spiral and hope our friends and family catch us. Did you ever think of talking to Teresa yourself? I know she can be set in her ways but in the past three years her life has changed so much, she is no longer an at home mom, she is a woman that is learning to spread her wings and help her family and that right there should tell you that sometimes people are so busy they forget the little things and sometimes it's nice to know that there is family there to surprise her with a prepared dinner/lunch or whatever after she has been on the road and that as she looks at her entire family and smiles.....We are not looking for an apology for your behavior at the meet for Gia but an understanding that you looked horrible and only you can fix it. In laws are never easy but they can be great if you open your heart.
Melissa, I totally *get* how Teresa's family makes you feel. Believe me, I understand it first hand. BUT you're starting to say one thing, and do another. If you want Joey and his sister to work things out, you need to quit making it about you. Believe me, my sister in law is the wench from hell (lol) and finally when I quit reacting to his maltreatment of me, my husband saw what she was doing. Once he called her out for it on HIS terms (not mine), things go a lot better. Now he has a relationship with her and she knows she has to behave herself as well. Good luck!!
I was giving you the benefit of the doubt until this last episode. you are transparent. Teresa is completely right about you. It looks like the new Danielle has arrived.