I feel like you got to listen to Teresa's excuse as to why she threw away the cookies I brought her for Christmas. However, I'm going to have to say I think it was a pretty lame excuse. I do feel the need to explain what happened though. I was four or five months pregnant at Christmas last year, when we were going to Teresa's house. I went to Corrados, the same store you see me do my Thanksgiving shopping at to buy cookies to bring to her house. I saw these beautiful Christmas-looking sparkly cookies wrapped beautifully in paper that I couldn't take my eyes of off. Maybe it was because I was pregnant and wanted everything. I love that store, it's the best Italian store in the area! When I first got married I used to go all the time with my father-in-law, we would go shopping together a couple times a month and before every holiday! He taught me to love that store! He told me they have the best of everything. Anyway, we had to go to Teresa's house the next day after Christmas, because it was my in-laws' anniversary, and we were going over for cake. Teresa had some friends there, we were all in the kitchen cleaning up, and Teresa said to me in front of everyone that she threw my cookies away because they looked like they were from a supermarket and not a bakery. She said she doesn't like that type of cookie, and no one ate them. She said the next time I come to her house I should bring pignoli cookies from a bakery. I don't know if she was implying that I'm cheap or she just wanted to be mean. I also don't know if she has now decided that she is Queen Elizabeth! Maybe I'm wrong, but I thought it was rude, and I was embarrassed in front of her friends. I was also pregnant and that makes it even worse. I was taught to be thankful for anything someone brings to my house. I'm the kind of person that doesn't expect anything from anyone. I will say that when I went back the next day after Christmas for the anniversary dinner, I brought a beautiful chocolate cake from a bakery hoping to please her this time. For the record, I happen to love colorful Christmas sprinkle cookies!
OK, so why did I write "redone home?" Contrary to the rumors, I don't wish to expose my husband's family, but I do think I should explain this. First off let me say it is a beautiful redone home. Was it a dig? Yes! Teresa did live in that house for five years before they decided to put the addition on it. (I'm still confused why she said she skeeves out at living in other people's homes, because she did for five years.) I don't see what's wrong with that. What's wrong with making rooms bigger and adding a couple! Is it just me? Most people would love to live in that house. Did I know she would not like the wording, yes. What you will see in episodes to come is that she has been throwing digs at me since the day I came into this family. Why? I don't know. I could never figure it out, I could never figure out why she would say something so rude to me and then two minutes later smile and want to go to lunch. To be honest I've been confused about Teresa since the day I met her. I've decided not to list the digs that have been thrown at me first before I wrote that card. If they play out on the show they do, if they don't, they don't. Was redone the best choice of words, no. When I entered this family I put them first, I spent more time with Teresa and Joe's parents then I did my own. I loved them, and my family lived an hour and a half away. We spent almost every Sunday with them and we went out to dinner with Joe and Teresa and Kathy and Rich almost every weekend! Believe me I tried, I put his family first.
I will say I'm also happy they showed us at the housewarming party! Can we now put all those rumors to rest that Joe and I were mad for not being around the cameras? It's just simply not true.
If you will stop at nothing to help the family make amends, then why do you continue speaking out against Teresa and her family every chance you get? If you just kept quiet and didn't respond to mean comments, pass on the mean comments, and talk about them to the media, maybe that would help??? Just sayin...
Melissa, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope and pray that you and Joe will work things out with the family. You are a lovely lady and an excellent addition to this show.
Melissa, Your Thanksgiving dinner looked beautiful & delicious. It is nice to see you being so supportive to your husband on mending his relationship with his sister. However you should take some responsibility on your actions on how it has gotten to this point. It seems (at least to me as a viewer) that you & Teresa BOTH are at fault as to why it has come to this point & your husband has been in the middle of it. Hopefully you all can really put the past behind you & start fresh because both families (Gorgas & Giudices) seem like such wonderful families & would be such a shame to have such petty animosity between the two.
"She kept us as far away during Season 1 and Season 2, because I think she knew this would happen when they found us." what did you imply here?
Melissa, I just wrote Teresa a note as well. You both need to admit that you are each not 100% right 100% of the time! Caroline hit the nail on the head when she said that you are both so alike you can't even see it. I think that you both are vivacious, fun, and fiercely love your families. The flip side which makes you human? You both at times can be very arrogant and cannot admit to doing wrong hence the downfall of your family relationships. You write about how precious life is. You are right and if you feel that way prove it, get honest with yourself, and admit that your behavior has not always been perfectly loving and non passive aggressive toward Teresa. Just admit it and hopefully she can too. Move forward and for God sakes, the both of you need to lighten up! Go have a glass of wine (or five - ha!) and just laugh at the fact that you both are fabulous but can sometimes be divas with attitude, and I mean that in the best way possible. I am the same way, but now I am lightening up and admitting my faults and it has made my life so much better. Anyway, I am going to send blessings to you and Teresa and pray that you move forward. You CAN let it go anytime you both choose. xoxo
I was just starting to really like you, when I go to tell you what a beautiful family you have & how cute you & Joey are as a couple, I find out I am not allowed to comment & you had removed my Like of your page. The first episode I told you that I loved Teresa, Joe & their family & that I was reserving judgment of you & Joey until I saw the season unfold & I hoped that Teresa & her brother fix things. I never said anything rude or unkind! Why do you remove comments you don't like & block people from commenting? The rest of the housewives (all NYC, OC etc.) have never done that. They take the good & bad. FYI..The Marco sisters are not & will never be the Kardashians...keep dreaming! I like you & your family! Just sayin
Why on the show anytime you have a get together or something everyone is always asking about Teresa. It seems like some people like to add fuel to the fire. You might want to watch out for that.
Why on the show anytime you have a get together or something everyone is always asking about Teresa. It seems like some people like to add fuel to the fire. You might want to watch out for that.
No excuses for Theresa and joe's behavior (Joe her husband) but think if you had to foreclose on your home and not afford everything that you once could (even paying for the turkey seemed to be a problem when they used to spend without thinking - unarguably what led them to their situation given the housing mkt crisis and not heeding the warnings) and then imagine your family member in the same business still thriving and providing a lovely lifestyle for their family. Tough to swallow - again - all their own downfall but nonetheless difficult. Also having just 1 brother - my best friend ever - no one is good enough for him - I don't care how smart, sweet, successful... Still hard to accept your brother now has a queen to take care of when your whole life he treated you like a princess. I really think you and your Joe have to be the bigger people now - it's too much to expect of the other side - jealousy runs too deep (even if they can't admit much of it is due to this). Good luck
I have to say Melissa that you are starting to grow on me. I have a sister in law that I don't always get along with and like you i'm still trying to figure out why. We both get offended by the stupidest things. Maybe we're just too alike and over analyze things. But I can see where Joe Guidice would be just as offended as Teresa at your dig on their redone house just as your husband takes offense at his sisters actions and comments against you. As Caroline said, the digs gotta stop and someone has to be the bigger person. That's so true, believe me, I know.
Don't know what to say.When my sister-in-law came into my family she behaved a lot like what I see you doing.............controlling my brother's will and his behavior, and it upset me. We don't have camera's to play out our drama, but, after a few years, I personally tried to understand my sister-in-law and have worked with her since then. In time, Teresa and you will work together;her brother and her were close, in Teresa's psyche you are not the girl that she wants for him , and only time will control it.Unfortunately everyone's lives is caught up in material things including cameras;if you could all just get off the camera and talk it through.............maybe something good will emerge. Best of luck.
i think you wanted all of joes' attention when you got married and you were maybe a little jealous of him and his sisters' connection, like you said , you lost your father and when that happens sometimes women just want all of their husbands affection and then there is no room left for his sister,it does happen.
Melissa, I have NEVER considered commenting on any blog, however something you said in your blog really touched a nerve and I find myself commenting.....I lost my husband in a car accident when I was 30 years old. I too am still angry with him for not wearing a seatbelt. He left 2 daughters that do not have their father to walk them down the aisle and he has missed 3 high school gradualtions. He was the most loving husband and father I have known, how he could have left us by being so irresponsible still kills me. A close loving family gets me through and I was fortunate enough to meet a 2nd wonderful loving husband and father to spend my life with. As my step daughter pointed out when her daddy died, I could find another husband and she could not find another daddy. My heart goes out to you.
The first episode I'll admit...I didn't like you because I didn't get you, and now I'm starting to understand more. I'm also starting to relate to you more. My father also died in an accident when I was in high school because he too wasn't wearing a seatbelt. After that I do appreciate family so much more. So Im convinced that you really care about family. Teresa has no excuse for throwing away the cookies. That whole situation was plain childish and mean. And you were pregnant and emotional at the time?! Again, no excuse. I'm lucky husbands family loves me. I don't know how you handle all the pressure. You're starting to grow on me :)
It does seem you could have done more than bring store bought cookies, especially with your family, I am wondering if there wasn't something behind it. You should have been embarrassed about the cookies, not that Teresa brought them up. Doesn't Joey know what bad manners it is to wear his hat at a meal? His talking about sex in front of others is disgusting! What he and his friends talk about in private is one thing, but in front of kids, your friends, family, NATIONAL TV, where are his manners?
Melissa, I have to say that you and Joe are growing on me. It wasn't that way after the first show but that was a tense episode and it was hard not to feel uncomfortable with "the new guys" and the insane drama that occured. Now, the powers that be at RHONJ have allowed us to see your softer sides and we see what appears to be a genuine love and affection between you and your husband, your absolutely beautiful children and a loving family. I really did feel the love that was at your Thanksgiving table...and I was surprised at your warmth. You really do seem like a cool chick with a pretty cool family. So, I'm happy to say that so far I think I was wrong about you guys. Nice blog too--keep 'em coming.
Melissa if you truly truly mean what you wrote DO IT. First step would be STOP the BASHING of Teresa on facebook, Tweeter. Tell your sisters to stop making swipes about Joey's family. PERIOD. Tell Joey that no matter what at the end of the day his parents and Teresa and Joe and the children are his family, come to an understanding. Truth is you are all wrong. You have all done and said things that are hurtful and just plain silly. There are people who don't have their families around, stop with the nonsense and taking jabs. Melissa, it does not put any rumors to rest about you and Joey wanting to come on the show. You made the choice to come on and air the dirty laundry of Joey's family. Shame on you and Kathy. There is no doubt why you both came on the show. Sad, think of the children, cousins caught in the cross fire. Wake up Melissa, if you want this feud to end END IT, simply as that from this day forward stop picking everything apart, stopping making digs, stop trying to out do, this show is not worth losing family, the show will someday end, but family is forever.
I'm glad we were able to see the back story finally. It seems that you have both been so tit for tat that its become a bad situation. Hopefully, people will start to see Teresa's true colors. She's trying to take the "high road" but is failing miserably. Contrary to what she has been saying, she has done plenty of things wrong to make this situation worse. I love how much you love your family!
Your table looked beautiful, Kathy's desserts looked like they were to die for and it appeared that everyone enjoyed themselves. My only question is why the hell does your husband insist on wearing a hat- does he wear it to bed too?
Sorry for the loss of your father. I really think that even though you say that you want to fix things your actions sometimes show otherwise. Your a very strong personality and a warm heart use it to bring your family back together. I think you a Theresa would get along better than you think.
I love you on this show. I think Teresa is clearly jealous that you have a husband who takes an active role in your family. Joe Gudice is lazy and disrespectful.
So sorry about your Dad, I too lost my father and each and every day he is still in my thoughts and in my heart. Time never heals pain it just makes it easier.
On a lighter note, I did enjoy visiting with your family during your Thanksgiving holiday. However you hinted in your blog you are not a materialistic individual, however your first comment when your husband asked to meet him in the front of the house, was is it diamonds. Please girl grow up, diamonds on Thanksgiving, I too know that Italians are all about the bling, however, you definitely take it to a trashy level. Thanksgiving is about family and a good meal. To say that comment showed your true nature. As far as this argument with Teresa and your husband is concerned, stay out of it, let him make his own decision and go with it. This way no one can critize you for what you said and did. Also remember you can say anything about family but do not let anyone else. Stay true to that and all your problems with family should stop. When someone talks trash about your in-laws say not interested and move. What an example you would be setting for your children. Remember children learn from what they see. Start acting like the mother you want everyone to assume you are. Your children will definitely benefit from it.
OMG. I love the real housewives of Jersey, but I'm so sick of the back and forth between the two families. You can really tell how much Teresa and Joe are trying to make peace and only trying to look out for what's best for their family. Melissa and the other Joe seem so superficial. Why do you need to become a singer etc? You are a mom and wife, that's all you should care about. Stop using the show to become famous. I am really mad that bravo has decided to use that family to create drama within the show. Teresa has been through enough drama with Danielle and now this! She deserves her own show, for real.
Bravo please post
You and Teresa have to learn to stop being rude and start being respectful to each other for the sake of your husband and your in-laws. You are both guilty. Why can't you acknowledge the fact that the video of the housewarming proved that Teresa did not ignore her brother. Her acknowledgement deserved a dance from her bother at his son's christening, not to be ignored and called "garbage".
I was just starting to think you really were interested in bringing the family together all along when you admit you were getting in your digs with that card. The whole situation seems to be a collection of hurtful slights between you and Teresa, and your husband seems to be in the middle. I am not taking sides since I think Teresa is wrong as well.
I believe you & Teresa need to grow up. Oh and you should tell your sisters to stay out of it. Seems to me that they make matters worst. So sad that your husband doesn't see what both (you & Teresa) are doing to the family. Really its so sad to see.
Keep your head up Melissa. I've never doubted you from day one. Teresa and Joe are just upset about what their lives have become on account of Joe's stupidity. He's a fine one to talk about "class". God Bless You and your family. Your father would have loved them to pieces.
I think you need to step out of the situation with Joe and Teresa because you are making it worse. I know you want to help because you love your husband but sometimes "outsiders" need to let family handle their own problems.
Hi Melissa! I just want to say that I am so glad you joined the cast. I love love love you and your family. I think we should start calling YOUR husband JUICY JOE. hehehehe. You are a lucky girl and it's awesome that you dont have a big head about it. I normally dont comment on these blogs but I had to on this one. I lost my dad to a car accident as well. I was only 13 months old. Be happy for the memories you have of your dad. Dont dwell on the things he could have done different. I would give anything in the world for 10 minutes with my dad. Anyway, You are my new favorite. XOXOXO Love, Kristen
I love you guys! Adopt me... I will eat any cookie, especially a sprinkle cookie! I love watching you guys every week. I did not speak to my father for over a year (over a silly fight) and I can relate to the drama between Joe and Teresa. My father and I recently reunited, in time for him to walk me down the aisle. I never thought I'd have that. Anyway, I can see there is still love there and I pray it all gets worked out.
Melissa, My daughter (she is 7yrs old) and I met you in Hoboken this past weekend. She absolutely loves you! You were such a sweetheart to her....I can't even describe how happy you made her. When asked if you would take a photo with her, you did not hesitate. She is so proud of that photo and took it to school to show off. You are so beautiful both inside and out. I just wanted to thank you so much for being so kind. You are definitely our favorite!
I like you Melissa. Good luck dealing with a self centered person who always has to be first. You are doing a good job.
If you will stop at nothing to fix things with Joe's family, please stop bad mouthing them... Both sides have done and said terrible things to each other. In one paragraph, you say nasty things about Joe’s family, and then say you will do anything to make it better… It doesn’t make sense. Continuing this fight might be good for ratings, but the lasting impacts to your family and the kids will be heartbreaking… My dad and his sister don’t speak and I have 1st cousins that I wouldn’t even recognize if I passed them on the street. It’s very sad and I wish my dad and his sister had worked harder to get along…
Melissa, the whole "cookie" incident was so ridiculous (on both sides) but to hear you try to justify your actions is beyond belief. If you're going to send a family member a card to congratulate them, then do it whole heartedly. You intentionally put a snide remark in that card because you know it would piss off Teresa. I thought you weren't about taking digs? Whatever happened to just wanting to create a big loving happy family where everyone got along? Teresa and yourself are both behaving immature in this situation but at least she admits when shes wrong and owns it. You still cant seem to get there. Hopefully with age, you'll get a little wiser and look back on this and say, "Oh my goodness, I cant believe I behaved that way". I believe that deep down you want a happy ending to this for your kids and husband. With that being said, I dont believe your sisters have the same intentions. I would be warry of their advice and their meddling in your and Teresas relationship. They seem to be sitting back and enjoying the drama. Everytime you speak of Teresa theres always a smirk followed by a little giggle and low insult. Great minds discuss ideas Average minds discuss events Small minds discuss people -E Roosevelt
What do you mean, I like that we were shown at housewarming party can we put rumors to rest? You and your husband are the ones who kept saying that Teresa never acknowledged you in the first place while you all were not on the show. It seems as though you enjoy the drama, clearly Teresa is the one who is truly hurt. I hope that your husband and his sister make up and that you mature enough to let it happen.
Love you Mellisa keep your head up,have been watchn Teresa since season one it has to always be her way.......she thinks she is all that but karma will come her way.......don't even bother to mention her at your blog........hope u n your family hv a great summer.......hope to see you next season......
Bravo Melissa! It's so nice to see someone stand up and act like a grown up. I'm sure your father is looking down at you and is very proud of his little girl.
Teresa is nothing but a very possesive and jealous woman who wants to be at the center of everything. It seems like you were an instant threat when you married her brother.
You are a very genuine and humble woman who puts her family first and herself second. It can be seen very clearly on the show.
I love this show because of you and how much strength and patience you have with Teresa and will not let her put you down.
I really hope Bravo prints my comment, they never seem to print what I write.
I have to say, I have not been your biggest fan. Funny thing is, I can really relate to your situation with your husbands family. I know from first hand experience that a spouse's family can sometimes make judgements about you for no reason at all except wanting to exclude you. My husband's brother and his wife did that to me. I think she may have felt threatened by me. Not that she was jealous, I just think she wanted her position in this all male family to remain the same.
I put up with constant passive aggressive digs and just plain disrespect. My family would never treat anyone the way they treated me.
I spent months making my sister in law ( and mother in law) a beautiful hand made christmas basket with beautiful items and food that I put a lot of love into. She tossed it off as if I didn't have enough money to buy her an actual present. It actually DID cost a lot in addition to all that time. I gave up.
Unfortunately she died 6 months later and we were never able to mend the relationship. I hope you BOTH work this out before it's not possible anymore.
You're table was beautiful and so was the food. What you serve at a party is always a sense of pride for a hostess. Kathy did the proper thing in bringing beautiful dessert. It is apparent you can cook so can't you see how it would come off like you didn't care by bringing cheap sprinkle cookies? Your guests made the effort to bring beautiful dessert after you slaved over the food and that was the least you could have done if Teresa was cooking. Being pregnant isn't really an excuse! If anything you could have had Joe go pick something up! He needs to stop being sexist and realize that this is 2011, a woman's job isn't to sit there and serve her husband.
Melissa I think your cool still trying to get use to your hubby but, your a nice addition to the Bravo NJ crew.
Melissa, I think your reasoning for the using the word, "redone" was too funny! You and Joe are a great couple. I see how you and Teresa could not get along but when each of you give your side of a story, it makes sense. This seems to be all perception and sensitivity. Family is precious, as you know. I lost my father 13 years ago when I was 27 and as a man of now 41, I still miss his laugh, his sense of humor, his advice, wanted and unwanted lol. I have a large family, my mother is still here-the six of us, my brothers and sisters, are still here, spouses are still here and all 18+ grandchildren, many that my father did not live to meet are here. Love family, forgive family, thank God for family.
Melissa, Please tell you husband Joe to take his hat OFF during dinner or any meal. It is totally disrespectful and rude to wear a hat at anyone's table.
Although I am a fan of Teresa, I do see how some of her actions and words towards you were not fair at all. And I don't blame you for giving it right back.
- Jeanette Monmouth County NJ housewife
You married into the Gorga family. Remember your place! So childish with the "get-back at her" games. You will get no respect until you stop throwing stones in defense of yourself. It is still throwing stones and wrong. Yes Teresa is guilty of that too, to a smaller degree. All you can control is your behavior....and your behavior has been childish...you are so used to being the youngest child..the baby. GROW UP
You are a very lucky girl. So, stop being so sensitive around Teresa and taking everything so personally. If you truly felt as blessed as you say you do, her little digs wouldn't get to you as much as they seem to. You are always calling on Jesus, so heed his words and learn to turn the other cheek with your sister in law. Without holding things against her.Your relationship with her seems to be the ONE trial your are being given in life, so rise to the ocassion, be the bigger person and practice what you preach.
You say you will do anything to repair your family, yet you continue to trash Teresa in your blogs. This will not help to repair things; it just adds more fuel to the fire. You make excuses for your digs towards her, yet fail to comprehend why she throws digs at you. If you stop, she will eventually stop. It's the law of physics.
At the end of the day Teresa is your husband's only sister. She is related to your children. Improve your relationship with her for the sake of your family, if not for yourself. Jesus would want you to. :-)
As they say LET YOUR HATERS BE YOU MOTIVATORS !!! Anyways.. your actually my favorite on the show.. And ive watched since day one... and i have actually noticed you before.. i think you were wearing this awsome black jacket and I said to my self.. now that chick should be on the show.. Anyways god bless.. and by the way loved the bull on thanksgiving !!