Wow Teresa, you truly do come across like the who world and every conversation is about you. When you live ready for a fight, you will always have one. Take a step back, breath and stop over reacting to every conversation. Seriously, this is the first time this season I liked Joe and it was because he was finally trying to tell you to end the nonsense. It is ok to admit you were wrong....but you can't get out of your own way. 50% of the people writing in will agree with you and 50% won't, you will only agree with the 50% who agree with you.... Take some time to really look at your life positively and stop being so negative-it is not becoming. You do look like a loving mother, but a loving mother would not explode, overreact and flip tables in front of their kids. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react.... think about that.

Teresa, I was just thinking about you unfortunate argument with Kathy. Whether Kathy said what she said to you as a thoughtless comment or a purposeful dig, either way, I think you should rise above those types of comments and not fight back with her. If you know you are a good mother and Joe knows that you are a good mother and everyone who sees you as a mother knows you are a good mother and most of all God knows you are a good mother, you really don't have any need to defend yourself. Your "good mother" behavior already speaks for itself. Be confident in that. And don't let someone bait you and get your goat. My mother used to always tell me to consider the source and rise above it.

That whole epsidoe with Kathy was just Tersea picking a fight. IT is obvious that Kathy was talking her own life and not making any references to Tersea. I think Teresa is getting too carried away with trying to cause a fight on television and prove how tough she is for the camera. That sceane was a real disappoitment.

Oh teresa, teresa, teresa, I feel so bad for you, alot of people dont get why you found and opportunity to lash out at kathy. I just wanted to let you know i get it, im a mother too and my kids are my whole life. No one better go there with my kids, so i get it.

Kathy's whole goddess party was to kiss it up to Caroline and Jacqueline promoting her and Melissa's relationship with them and also, to get more camera time to promote her baking and cooking talents.

You can't handle what you 'think' are digs towards you, but how about all of the digs you throw their way. When you all were talking about how close the Manzo boys were, you had to throw in "yeah, now, but wait til they get married". You're a hypocrite. But at least Melissa handled it like a lady and ignored it. Then you say let the past be the past, quit bringing up the past. But you are the one who constantly brings up the past. Practice what you preach.

For me in the beginning episodes Melissa and Kathy were definitely pot-stirrers.but I think Teresa needs to hold her tongue sometimes and on the beach in Punta Cana was one of those times. The problem is the family never talks about what the matter really is and so the problem is never solved or put to bed. They all hold such grudges and keep bringing things up from years ago. They need to hash them out and let them go. It"s called acting like adults . Also I do not like the way Lauren Albie Chris and Greg make snide remarks and have seem to have taken sides. Caroline sometimes makes remarks too. Not helpful. Although Teresa does not take advice from anyone. She is not a good listener.

Teresa so sorry your so called friends have turned their backs on you when you needed them the most, especially Caroline and her family. They have been very rude and disrespectful to you and your family. You were loyal to her and her family especially during the Danielle days wish you would remind them of that

Tre (love it when Joe calls you that), stop worrying about cousin Kathy and sister-in-law Melissa! They are riding off of your coattail but you are giving them factor by letting them know petty things matter to you. Irrelivant!!!! You are a wonderful mother, no doubt. We've clearly seen that way before your irritating family entered the scene. I'm happy that the relationship with your brother has improved but he's in the wrong as much as Joe (Juicy). Carolyn and Jacqueline seem fed up with it all and often appear to have jumped ship though that could very well not be the case (in view of the things Jacqueline has going on and the fact that I love her personality). I also do not agree with the way Carolyn's children and that irritating Greg have been treating you. They have definitely jumped ship. Guess we'll soon get clarity to it all but clearly there's a lot going on that we've yet to learn.....so I'll stay tuned. Wishing you the best and stay fabulous!!!!

Keep your head up Teresa. Bravo always gives popular housewives the bad edit so they don't get too big for their britches! Of course Joe is grumpy over what you both have gone through. He also probably holds grudges against people that have hurt you, long after you already forgave them. That's the sign of a good man. Don't worry about what Bravo chooses to show. Most of the viewers are not taken in by Kathy and Melissa. Their few fans may be, but the real viewrs from season 1 know whats up. When you left the table at the christening, there was no fight and I believe both of your mothers in addtion to others were at the table.

Teresa, I really think that when you had the conversation with Kathy at the fashion show, she was trying to emphasize how serious the altercation was, taking place as it did around the children, to suggest that it needed to be addressed. You jumped in before she finished, overreacted and made it into something it didn't need to be. And perhaps in Punta Cana she was also hinting that taking care of a restaurant would be very hard on family life. Many people there were hinting or saying straight out that you might want to think hard about this restaurant idea. I think you are just poised to interpret everything Kathy says or does in the most negative possible light and you are not a good listener. I think if you took one step toward her, she would take two toward you. However, you just don't seem to want to mend the relationship, so that is that.

Teresa, Kathy was very obvious... I have a friend that does the same thing.. Always with digs and sometimes only the person it's directed at will pick it up. Very sneaky in that way.. She will never own it either - instead will turn it around somehow to make YOU look bad. I know exactly what that's like...

God bless!

Hi Teresa,

Kathy was definitely throwing a dig at you because she knew she get a reaction. Unforunately you gave her exactly what she wanted in front of the right people. It's sad that the people you thought were friends are ripping you apart behind your back. Even sadder that her children and their clown friend Greg, who needs to mind his business, are also taking jabs at you. Greg is like an old wash woman, probably because he wishes he were a woman. Fortunately for him he's not man enough to say it to your face or in front of your husband. What would be really sad, is if your brother heard their comments about you and said nothing in your defense. You really need to keep your distance from Caroline. I can't imagine keeping a friendship with a person who smiles to your face and attacks you behind your back.

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T- I know this past year has been hard on you!! I know all the family stuff has been beyond difficult. Please stay strong. I agree that you and Joe aren't getting a fair shake b/c I see that Bravo seems to also be showing the Manzo's and Jacqueline in a baad light. Even Albie and Chris seem rude this season. How you are handling the nasty comments you see they have made behind your back is beyond me. I feel for you chica!! It is also obvious to me that others on the show are trying to fuel the fire. Greg and the others knew at this point how bad things were w/you, Melissa and Kathy and yet they kept saying how hot Melissa was and how great Kathy is all in front of you in a very childish way. They were making things worse. I hope in "real time" everyone is still friends and you and your family have made up and all is well. TEAM TERESA SIEMPRE!!

Finally-someone defending Joe! Right on. He has had a tough year, played out in public. He is a proud, loving husband, father and friend-who has supported, with love - his wife and his daughters. Cut the guy some slack, jeez. It isn't entertaining watch as everyone piles it on when people are down. Hope the rest of the season gives the Giudice family a break.

Teresa, I do understand your position with Kathy, I have a few of those in my family as well. Usually, it’s the ones that really want to distract to from your happiness mostly when things are a little rocky but you keep on smiling. I think they really want to see you fall because they are jealous and unhappy. The only thing I really wish you would change is talking to Caroline she really is not a nice person, friend to you. Please stop going over her house and telling your business. Don’t make phone calls in front of her she really does enjoy the trouble you have with your family right now. I think it takes the focus away from the fact that she has nothing to do with herself. Makes me wonder why Jacqueline punched her in the face. Disturbing how she talks about you and tries to imitate you and claimed you give her a migraine yet she thinks her son speaking in that most irritating voice is so funny. Tre, you are beautiful, and the real deal don't worry about what other people say. Caroline was probably annoyed when her husband was enjoying checking you out in your hot bikini's. Keep showing strength , and stay happy you are true to who you are and I don’t see that with anyone else on NJ Housewives. Know who your haters are and keep yourself away from them. Please wear red somewhere on you whenever you are around those haters. Mainly Caroline.. she has two faces..

Teresa, People make comments like Kathy did all the time. They are trying to build themselves up in their own eyes and other peoples eyes. You have to rise above it all and let your actions of your own behavior speak for themselves instead of responding to that sort of thing and calling the other person out on things said. It only makes you look like you are ready to fight and make you, yourself, look bad. Let those things go, relax and know you do well and don't have to prove it or defend yourself. Because, you really don't. Don't waste your time and energy on such things. Always, Team Teresa.

Teresa I adore you and your family. All of the children are beautiful. I actually like both your brother and Kathy, I am not too crazy about her husband though. I thought the whole fight at the christening was caused by your brother's temper, but during all of the ruckus your daughter Audriana was left alone. I'm not saying it is your fault, but whoever was supposed to be watching her stepped away during the chaos. At least she was in the stroller and not wandering around on the floor, that would have been much worse. I don't think Kathy was trying to make a dig at you and you know that. I think you were still a little peeved about what she said about your baby being unattended and you wanted to have a reason to bring that up.

I don't know about anyone else, but Greg got on my nerves. First off I don't understand why he had to be there and secondly I thought all of those catty comments he made about Teresa were uncalled for. There is nothing cute about a family feud and he really shouldn't be taking sides. I understand he loves Joe and Melissa, but I really wish someone would have told him to cool it with his remarks.

Teresa so sorry your so called friends have turned their backs on you when you needed them the most, especially Caroline and her family. They have been very rude and disrespectful to you and your family. You were loyal to her and her family especially during the Danielle days wish you would remind them of that

I saw the comment that someone said about driving 100 to your resturant. Ditto. I would, too. Love You.

I'm still on your side....I get the Kathy thing and see through her too. But I have to say this..YOUR BROTHER IS A PIG!

Hey Tre, Your husband Joe is right! Who cares what people think and what they say? You have a right to speak as you feel. Your standing up for youself. The thing is, wheather or not your daughter was left unattended that night, Kathy was being a good cousin and looking out because she cares. It was a crazy episode that night because when their is children around, they come first and I think kathy was being concerned while you sorted things out so be grateful even if it was just a minute Kathy was looking after her.Just turn every negative situtaion into a positve one. Just let it be and so longs you & your husband know the truth, then it doesnt matter. You keep being you.. Your awesome & a great mother & wife. Your husband does show his love to you and just wants to give you all the happiness in the world. I hear that you might be expecting a lil one again. Family is a beautiful thing & if you are expecting, I bet it's lil juicy Joe JR this time.. All the best for you & your family always!!

I think you have way to much on your plate and sometimes when we are stressed out we overreact. Your cousin is not an angel and we all see who she is but sometimes it's best to take a deep breath and let people help us with what we're going through. You try to go through all the pressure by yourself and it's taking a toll on you plus it's pushing people who care about you away. I wish you peace of mind T.

my whole personal problem this season is that you and Joe are not getting a fair shake..everyone now has an ax to grind with you and Joe..I watch the show in little bits and pieces now..I too am disappointed in Caroline..but you know, what goes around comes around, and everyone will see everyone for who they really are in the end.

Teresa, let me just start by saying that I do like you so please don't take this the wrong way....it's just constructive criticism. Outwardly, you appear to be a self-confident woman, but inwardly, it seems you are very self-conscious. If you weren't, then perhaps you would not find fault in everything said and somehow take it personally. Other people are allowed to talk about life inside their own little boxes, are they not? And as far as your thinking Kathy made a dig at you by talking about her own life, then you should replay the part where you were talking about Chris and Albie being close now but "just wait 'til one of them gets married". You may not have meant that as a dig at Melissa, but that's how she took it. See? Sometimes it's not meant the way it sounds. I think you're a sweet woman, but you *may* have selective hearing. When someone speaks, just count to 10 and let it go.

Theresa,

Why do you care what anyone says. The fighting between you, Kathy, Melissan and your brother is getting old. Turn the other check and let it go, you will be much happier when you do.

Kathy was making a crack...who are we kidding. She was all gung-ho to do the restaurant until albert talked some sense into them. Now her excuse is that her kids need her. The polite thing would have been for her to just sit quiet or to congratulate them. She stirs the pot...oh so sheepishly.

Teresa ~ You've always been one of my favs (it hasn't changed). I am not sure if it is editing or not when you make comments about Melissa's looks, singing, or cooking - you shouldn't. You both are beautiful & both seem to be great mothers and you both have husbands that are protective. That should be a common ground not a battle ground. (plus too much of it makes you look jealous & you have no reason to be).

Renee

Teresa....you should have ignored Kathys' remark. If it were a dig she lookes like a fool, you should control your temper. Also I don't care for Melissa but you are jealous of her.....everyone can see it. She is your brothers wife, be happy for him, stop competing and get a grip, you are a Mother and are acting like a little child! Very sad.

Teresa some things in life aren't worth fighting over, and what Kathy implied about your ability as a mother is not one of them. You know that you're a great mom, and so do those of us who watch the show, so forgive your cousin, and shame the devil who would like to see a family ripped apart. Next time, just enjoy the time spent with family and friends, and leave that garbage behind. Someone wise once said to me "You can be bitter, or you can be better." Choose to be a better a person, and you'll feel better....Not to mention you'll piss a lot of foes off without even lifting a finger.

I wish you the very best and it saddens me to say that the more this season has gone on, the more empathy I've gained for Kathy and Melissa.

Wow how people including Teresa read into every little thing and look for a reason to attack someone. Kathy had considered doing a restaurant and changed her mind after realizing it was way too much work. This is why she brought it up. If she had never considered doing a restaurant then it could be considered a dig BUT even Bravo showed Kathy going looking at places with Rich for a restaurant.

To take Kathy's statement and then run with--its a dig or insult on Teresa is absolutely crazy. Teresa has issues that have to do with alot more than this statement.

Melodramatic once again.

Teresa, I have never written a comment here after reading any of the blogs--but feel compelled to do so at this time. I have watched the show from the beginning and always thought you were crazy fun--as well as your family. However as last season came to a close and this season has opened I feel you are becoming a bitter and jealous person. Yes you have been through alot with your situation (its not easy I can imagine let alone have it being played out on television!) but let's be honest--you never have anything nice to say about anyone--what they do, what they wear, etc. It comes across as jealousy. Secondly, you always say you don't want to bring up the past--but it's always you that does! I can't beleive you don't see it when you watch the show back. I do believe there are two sides to every story and we do not know the past with Joe and Melissa and Kathy and Rich--only what we've been told on the show--so I am not saying it's all your fault, but if you do not want to lose your brother and cousin for good, than stop!! be happy for what you have and what they have and move forward and forget the past (like you say). You are all wonderful parents and give them the best of everything--again, you should all be happy that you can do that--and you should be happy that your brother's kids have that as well--you come off as very jealous and if you are not the center of attention and the best at everything you rip them apart. You will lose your friends and family that way--it's already happening. Get it together!

One more thing T...You looked very nice in all your bathing suits, but modeling them for everyone was just a bit too much. Enough already with the me, me, me. Give me a break. I think you gave Caroline a migraine. Still Team Teresa

The difference is this, Kathy would be doing most of the cooking or supervising with a new restaurant. When Theresa and Joe have a restaurant, Theresa just breezes in to make an appearance and sign books. Joe, or someone else, does most of the work. Theresa still has plenty of time to make sure the girls all have matching headbands. SO! Kathy's time with her children would be greatly reduced while Theresa's wouldn't. Surely no one thinks Theresa is going to be sweating in the kitchen making the food on a nightly basis.... That's why what Kathy said didn't reflect on Theresa at all, except to point out that Theresa wouldn't be missing much time with her children because she wouldn't be near as involved in the business as Kathy would be. Hello????????

Teresa, it is obvious Kathy was trying to get to you, but wanted to appear innocent to everyone else. I also hate how she always gossips after you two have an altercation, and she never repeats what was actualy said. She is always trying to get Melissa to hate you more and more. But anyways, just ignore her. You are so beautiful (definitely the best looking on the show) and you have an amazing family. Keep being you! I love to watch you and I only watch the show because of you!

Theresa, I will tell you what I tell my daughter when people pick on her, make fun of her, give her digs, etc., just ignore them. They are obviously jealous and want to bring you down to their level. Don't let them. Have enough self confidence to do what you want, when you want, and not care what anyone says about it. PS. I agree that Joe is not getting a fair shake this season.

Theresa isn't going to be involved in the restaurant business on a daily basis. Joe, or his designee, will be doing all the real work. Kathy, on the other hand, would be very involved in all aspects of the business. There's a difference between signing recipe books and actually sweating in a kitchen all night every night. Kathy would be much more involved than Theresa has ever been. That's what she was referring to when it comes to losing time with her two teenage kids. Theresa will still have plenty of time to make sure everyone has matching headbands while they're running around hitting each other. Really???? Doesn't everyone see the ridiculousness in Theresa comparing herself to Kathy in regard to operating a restaurant?????? Theresa, it's not a slap at you as a mother, it's a slap at you as a serious restauranteur.

Teresa, I watch just about all the Housewives shows and you are my favorite. You're real, you're fun and I LOVE your girls. I really do think you need your own show. Outside of that, your argument with Kathy was TOTALLY LEGIT! I know people like her and they make me sick. Because they are jealous, they have to shoot you down to make you think that their lives are better than yours. I guess they're trying to convince themselves of that. Kind of like when a bridesmaid who has no boyfriend or husband tells everyone at the wedding that she's so happy she's single and doesn't have to be tied down to anyone. Yeah, OK. Rich's comment about not wanting to sacrifice his weekends - what does he think catering will do? Does he plan on actually having booked affairs? Will Kathy not be there to "Cater" those events? Don't most events happen on weekends? And that won't take them from their kids? Then Kathy walks over and says she doesn't want to be detached from her children, which, to anyone with a brain, means that anyone who owns a restaurant will be detached from their children. According to her comment, that's the nature of the business. So yes, it was meant to tell you that YOU are OK with being detached from your kids. Her and Melissa need to start owning up to what they say and not play innocent. If she misstated something, then she should have apologized. She, and your brother, never have. That's ugly. And Caroline's comments and attitude were just plain gross. What is up with her? I think she's jealous of you, too. I will say this, though. I don't think you should have modeled your bikinis in front of everyone. I think everyone was uncomfortable. I can see you thinking that they will see you in a bikini anyway, but I think it was a little bit much. You looked great in each one, though! My fav was the mermaid. :) Other than that, I see you doing no wrong in any of these episodes. BTW, wish I would have been able to see you when you came to Chicago! I have two babies at home and no sitter! :(

Gosh, first you don't want to go there; then you go there.

Kathy first stated way back the word "alone", you used "unattended". You really need to let the past go, and if Kathy is talking about her children and HER feeling, then let them be her feelings. The more you go on the attack and make it about you, the more you push everyone away.

Again, what people did in the past, is the past ... move on otherwise it will become a broken family.

Teresa, you're not crazy nor cuckoo. When I heard Kathy say she couldn't leave her children for the restaurant biz all I could say was "Wh-a-a-a-a-t?" It was a passive aggressive dig. She is very good at those. I'm so disappointed in Caroline this year, and Jacqueline too. All I can say is that people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I was appalled by the Manzo boys and their friend Greg, making fun of you. I didn't expect them to be so disrespectful or to show such bad manners. Maybe if Caroline had been there they would have kept their mouths closed, but somehow I doubt it. You need true friends who support and love you. Friends cheer when you succeed, our Skinny Italian girl, and they comfort you when things are bad. I think you get this from Joe, probably from Dina, and probably from friends we never even get to see. You certainly don't get it from Caroline, Jacqueline, Melissa or Kathy/Rich. Just know that some of us think you are the best, and we love you.

Teresa I love you and I wish you and your family the best through all of this. I used to watch all the housewives shows, but I have especially disliked how Bravo allows and support bullying and fighting, and I have stopped watching all shows. It started with New York and the bullying there and now Bravo has effectively allowed it to start on New Jersey and brought in family members! I am very disappointed in Bravo to allow this behavior and fighting to continue. I find it extremely sad, and I miss the housewives shows with the fun and laughter at the "small" drama. :)

I hope that you and your family make it through this and that it has no permanent effects on any of you. love, love, love you!

I don't think people know how Italian men are. Most of them LOVE to peacock. Remember, Joe has these cameras pointed in his face all the time! My husband changes when there's people around too! I get a huge kick out of teresa and joe, and the girls. still my favorite family to watch on the show!

Teresa, we all know that you were both under a lot of stress during filming. As far as "bringing up the past", it would be best to not act as if you don't do that. You should try to take the high road. We can tell when things get to you or when you are trying way too hard to make us (and the cast) think you are as happy as ever. It's not convincing and it just adds to the insecurity that seems to fuel your negative comments.

Nobody knows the truth. We are only spectators into your lives which thanks to Bravo, provide us with entertainment. We didn't put your lives on television for open discussion, you all did! So we will talk, we see through the behaviors and all we can do is hope that you and the rest of the cast live happy, honest and healthy lives. If the media and the show are a disruption, I hope you step away and get through the issues in private, without the public scrutinizing all that goes on. All the best to you and yours.

Everyone can say what they want, but in the end Kathy new EXACTLY where she was going with that comment. Maybe if she minded her business nobody would be giving her hell. ♥ Teresa!

Tre. I am sorry but I hope that in the time since the taping of these episodes that you have had the time to reflect on your behavior. I enjoy you on RHONJ, but I do not feel that your are putting your best foot forward. I wish both you and your family the best.

I love you Teresa and think you really tried to keep the arguement from progressing. I get you because I would have done the same thing. The subject came up, you wanted clarity because you were hurt, and then tried to end it. You weren't trying to argue with her, you just wanted to clear it up and move forward. PLEASE get that dude Greg off the show. Why is he even there? He isn't related to anyone, isn't a cast member, and isn't funny.

i just saw the episode with Kathy on the beach ... i think it was a manipulation of boundaries and inferrance on Kathy's part that "owning a restaurant takes away from the relationships with children" ........ it was more of a generalization rather than her stating that IN HER CASE it would do that ... but for YOU it would never detract or interfere from your attention to your children and home ... i see exactly why you defended yourself ... being sensitive to criticism and false accusations ... i love your clarity and no nonsense way

Teresa, I love that you speak Italian.. It is very nice to see you and your brother speaking Italian to your parents. I really hope things are better between you and your brother. Remember to be nice to Melissa. I know it is hard.. but you just have to come to terms with the fact that she is the key to your brother's heart. It is very sad how man are so weak and how they do whatever their wives want but that's life and you just have to accept it. Moving on to a different topic, I must admit that you get annoying and rub people off the wrong way.. Why would you show off your incredible body and put on so many bathing suits! c'mon Teresa!! you were doing this in front of people with body image issues. Haven't you seen the things that Caroline's daughter says about her body.. and even Jacqueline does not feel comfortable in her own skin.. also Caroline is older and probably does not feel comfortable in a bathing suit.. and there you go with your rocking body giving a show to everyone.. additionally, it does not look good for you to show off in front of two other married man.. anyway, just wanted to point that out.

T, I think u read too much into what Kathy and Melissa say. You r my fav njhw, but this season it seems like u r all about being prettier, dressed better, etc. I want 2 share something w/you cause I see u heading into the wrong turn that I did re; sis in law. My brother hasnt spoke to me in o/20 yrs and hasn't seen me since 1995, my mom's funeral. He is my only sibling. I didn't try to make him choose between me, our fmly or her, but she treated my parents like crap and he let her get aaway w/it. She spoke down to them and it pissed me off, she thought she was better than us. We grew up in the same italian neighborhood, only my family is full blooded where she was a half breed. She died at age 55 and they were divorced and he still doesn't talk to me. Hes my daughters godfather & in the process he disowned her too. He actually changed his lsat name so people wouldn't associate him w/me. Do u see where I am going with this? Your actions r going to force Joe to choose between u and M. Hes gonna choose her, shes his wife, mom of his kids. You r his sister, hes not gonna live w/u the rest of his life. Another thing I noticed is thata u r alaways comparing him to your Joe. Stop this! They r both great and good looking guys. U r so lucky w/your beautiful, full family so nurture them. Stop fighting w/Kathy. She is your cousin and she always talks nice about u including that u r a great Mom. So, Big T, u dont have to prove anything to us viewers or your family anf friends. They all luve the 2 of you and for different reasons. Altho, u & Melissa have a lot of similar qualities and maybe thats why Joe married her. If she is copying u, thats aa compliment, take it as such, don't knock her cause of it. Good luck & remember what I said, cause I am 58 now and the only one left in what use to be a big fmly is my brother, who doesn't bother w/me and I miss him. I am lonely for the family I use to have at holidays and such. So tread softly and stop reading bad meanings into words where there aren't any and take them 4 what they r, at facevalue.