Teresa Giudice

Teresa explains what you see if what you get when it comes to her.

on Aug 9, 20110

I don't like being manipulated, and I think you can tell on my face when I walk into a new surprise in every scene. This season has been like the Twilight Zone to me, because I'm seeing crazy changes in people I've known a very long time and I'm just trying to keep up. I understand that a lot of viewers love the drama because it makes for good TV. But it doesn't make for good family.

When I found out that Melissa and Kathy, my family, were joining the show this year, I'll be honest, that made it hard for me to trust them at first. I was pretty sure they didn't just want to be on TV for fun, because they saw what happened to me and my family with the bad tabloid stories and people going through your trash and filing crazy lawsuits against you. That part's not really fun, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I might not always get along with Melissa, but I don't want people making fun of her on blogs and saying nasty things about her children. It hurts. And she's my family.

So yes, at the beginning of the season, I was trying to figure out why they joined. It slowly became clear, and you see my reaction as I discover it. If you remember, they came out of the gate insulting me, hanging around people that insulted me, and I felt betrayed. I think if you were in my shoes, you would feel the same. But why? Why go on TV just to bash your family? I didn't get to read any of their pre-show interviews about what they hoped to get out of it (although reading that Melissa joined because "karma is a bitch" didn't make me feel any better...). But back then, I was trying to figure out why.

369 comments
llori
llori

OMG i love you teresa. you are such a blonde.i'm old enough to be your mother (55) but i have never been so addicted to a show the way i am this deal ya'll have going on. i am a texas woman but you are the icing on the cake. you remind me of me when i was younger. the way you listen intensively and the remarks that come out of your month. i was never know to keep my thoughts secret. i to speak my mind and that is literally. just watched the fashion show episode of the fashion show with danielle. whats her deal...she has a chip on her shoulder i'd like to even knock off. oh @ the words caroline said to kim g at teresas' party that was the same thing with daniell. then the fricking bull of carry me, carry me to my car i lost my heal; well i wish ashley would have drug her by her hair for that cr--. anyhow i favor you but love to watch you jersey women ya'll are hillarious and great drama queens. don't forget everybody wants to do your husband. that hunk a hunk of burning love. really ya'll remind me of mine the way he always has to pull you away from conflick. and get back together with kathy she loves you and you do to so quit pretending...

Viewer
Viewer

You need to stop. You need to just get over yourself and get along with your family. You make it sound like it is all them, but it is all you. They're the ones trying to make an effort and you're the one who is being rude in the whole situation. GROW UP!

Jennis
Jennis

You talk about everyone's reasons for coming on the show. But what was yours? I can't believe how you talk about everyone's get-rich-schemes when you have plenty of them! You talk about all of the down sides and why would they want to go through that, but you are putting your family through it, just to make money.

EjadeS
EjadeS

Just wanted to let you know that I love how you can always put a smile on your face & keep it moving, even thru the hard times! You make the best out of life, instead of pitying yourself & doing the poor me like so many! I love you & everything you stand for! You are such an inspiration to watch! Hope life is getting easier for you & your family! You are real as they come & we love you b/c of it! It must be hard to have Kathy & Melissa on the show, especially since no one bothered to tell you about it! I know you love your family & it will all work out! The ppl saying you are a hypocrite is ridiculous! Wishing you all the best!

Asia28
Asia28

I am so glad to read your perspective. If people read what you said, it's seems that Melissa was on a mission to get on this show and I don't think you are jealous AT ALL. You are just questioning her motives which is understandable.

Seems to me she very much wanted to get on the show and if you were not aware and didn't know about all of this drama, no wonder you have a bit of an attitude. Ignore the rest of these negatives post. Some of us see the truth.

Fame and notoriety changes people, or rather amplifies who they really are. Clearly your family wanted in the show. I can't even imagine what goes on behind the scenes with reality TV.

Keep your head up.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

You must be getting dizzy from all that spinning!

Debbie V
Debbie V

I first want to thank you on signing your first book in neveda..my son got to meet you and you were very nice to find the time in doing so. Your family has been through alot and i commend you for wanting to fix things with your brother..but as i watch the show i realize that may not happen to the extreme that you would like. It seems everytime you have a civil conversation with Melissa it seems to be a negative one to her. You see all her talks with her husband and with Kathy have been hyprocritical..she say's she wants to make peace but does the opposite and bashes you. you have to come to terms that your relationship may never be close again but you can stay in touch and get together with your parents. make it about them, your and Joes kids. see Melissa will always make sure the closeness between you two not happen.accept it and move on. accept her singing desires and kathy's baking goods..you may not like how they are accomplishing their dreams but be thankful for your true blessings and focus on your career because in the end it will all workout. Also on Caroline it seems she is never wrong..but you know the truth and i am sure it hurts but you all have to work together..i don't get Jacqueline's outburst in her new blog..she is not a friend she showed it with Kim G you are all in this for your own personal reasons and are gaining from it ..so keep your head up high and sparkle like you always do.

Love THE #1 Tre NJ Housewife
Love THE #1 Tre NJ Housewife

Team Tre all the way forever1. Kat and Mel are trash not class they are def excess baggage!

Love Bravo TV Biggest Fan and please get rid if Kat & Mel!

lisa gosnell
lisa gosnell

GET YOUR STORIES STRAIGHT AND STOP THE JEALOUSY. WHO CARES IF MELISSA AND KATHY ARE MAKING A BRIGHTER FUTURE ON TV................YOU DID, YOU HAVE AND CONT TO KEEP PROMOTING NEW THINGS....MAKEUP, LIP GLOSS, COOK BOOKS, ETC THE LIST GOES ON. BE HAPPY FOR YOUR FAMILY.

YOUR SUCH A HYPOCRITE. EVEN ABOUT THE DANIELLE ISSUE, U LIED ABOUT THIS !! I DO NOT LIKE U OR UR ATTITUDE....GET A NEW ONE

NY147
NY147

Girl you need to get a grip! Seriously you are turning into a very hypocritical show biz type. You used to be very down to earth and I am really surprised you can actually say you didn't have a problem with Danielle and that you only flipped a table and started a fight at a fashion show for Caroline and Jacqueline. And to have the nerve to call anyone else out for making money from being on the show is so hypocritical. You have hocked more items and worked on your brand almost as much as Bethany from NY housewives. Seriously Tre you were once my favorite (as was Bethany), but you are letting fame go to your head (just like Bethany). Don't do it girl! I still want to love you, but I am most def Team Jacqueline on this one.

BILL DOLAN
BILL DOLAN

LL THE CRAZY BLOWUPS YOU'VE HAD IN THE PAST BUT BEING IN AN ITALIAN FAMILY I KNOW IT ALL MEANS NOTHING BECAUSE LIFE IS SHORT AND I KNOW YOU ALL DEEP DOWN LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH. PLEASE WRITE BACK BILL DOLAN AND DIANE PASCONE.

C C
C C

Teresa,

I don't care how mean you are to tweedle dee and tweedle dum...U are my favorite person on the show, and I pity the fool, that tries to cross U. If they can't take it, then they shouldn't serve it. It is, what it is...It is not a good idea for them to play little kid games with grown ups, so tell them to take that to the bank. Take care and I will chat with you later:)

AmyW
AmyW

When I watched the show, I didn't understand your reactions. Now that you explain them, I get it. I have had "friends" not have my back like Caroline is to you and I totally dig what you are saying. I hate when that happens and I have broken off friendships for it. Because if you are my friend you will have my back, period. As I have yours. Don't have my back, we aren't friends. So I'm sorry that Caroline wasn't there for you as you felt she should be. While I like Caroline, I think all this giving advice and making peace has gone a bit to her head and she forgot about backing up a friend. I also love Jacqueline but I don't get why she bashed you in her blog. I hope that you aren't feeling too lonely cuz your fans have your back! Take care!

SD1028
SD1028

I am so happy that you keep it real. Maybe people are "fed up" with how you feel but I think your honesty is amazing! Families do not always get along, there is no rule book that says you always have to. I love that you have been 100% real about this and have said yeah you know what they ticked me off and I'm not happy! I find Caroline so hypocritcal to sit and pass judgement and to force a happy reunion on you. It's very clear there has been some major drama in her own family, it's time for her to just stay quiet. You keep doing you and God Bless!

Jen95123
Jen95123

I use to feel like Danielle picked on you and you were innocent. But you are so filled with bitterness and just plain ugly actions that I think you should leave the show.

mangi12330
mangi12330

Teresa you are acting like such a hypocrite. Whats the big deal if they came on the show to make money or not. Their your family that "you love" you should be happy their getting money regardless of how they get it it's not like their robbing a bank or anything. You even promote your buisness on your blogs and shows ! You do the same thing. And you say you didnt hate Danielle and the lame comments she makes dont bother you. Yet all you preach on the shwo is noone hurts or says anything about my family...

texas girl
texas girl

Theresa I love watching your girls they are sooo darling. Gia can never play poker ,you know exactly what she's feeling and thinking on that beautiful little face !! . Good luck with everything and I wouldn't trust Melissa or Kathy either.

stlouisms
stlouisms

Quit being jealous of Melissa. You are so possessive of your brother that it's weird, like you would want to be his wife. You are sooo nasty to Melissa and your cousin Kathy. Life is too short to be the "mean girl". Be the better person and give in and make-up. Who care's about the past, live in the moment and get over it and you will be a happier person for it. I'm tired of watching you and your husband bad mouth everyone. All the make-up, pretty dresses, and fancy house will not make you a better person, only your attitude. Wake up!

esther194
esther194

Teresa, if you are going to continue to treat Kathy like dirt on the show, then it is time you let us all in on WHY you are so tee'd off with her.

debraloy
debraloy

Teresa, You need to stop saying things about you'r brother's wife !!!! same for her too you both do it behide the back and its not rite. You keep saying family matter's to you then love her and stand by her with her singing and when you go shopping or what ever add her in there. You say you are the bigger person then do what you say. I watch the show every week and i have not yet seen you really try to show the love as you clame to. I think you need to set down and look at caroline's family for a day now thats real family .....

Viewer from Livermore
Viewer from Livermore

Teresa, your family has been through so much and you have gone through it with your head held high and stand behind your family, no questions asked. I know how important it is to maintain a good relationship with my brothers. But I have to ask, if your brother being in your life is so important, why do you continue to make digs at Melissa at every opportunity. Whether you like her or not, she is your brother's wife and the mother of his children. She is trying hard to put the family back together, but it never will with your attitude. When she asked you if you wanted some of her recipes, why didn't you just thank her, explain that is too late to add to it, but would certainly ask her for the next book you do. When she tells you she is singing, instead of making an issue that you never knew she sang, why not tell her that you didn't realize she sang but you would love to hear her. No, you have to be so rude. Your girls learn how to be ladies by wathcing you. Do you really want them to be so rude and ungracious to people that you are? Come on, rise above and stop blaming your heredity for your poor behavior. Continue being the loving & devoted mother and wife, and stop being so RUDE and obnoxious. I know you can do it!

KP88
KP88

Hi Teresa,

Thank you for explaining your perspective on things. It would have been a lot nicer to see you be supportive of Melissa-- even later on Andy's aftershow when you have had months to digest that she truly had been a child/teen singer and had always dreamed of being a singer. There is an ugliness there within you that is not becoming. I hope you let it go. You are too beautiful to be carrying around all of this hate, regardless of who started what and who put it there. I'll pray for you to let go your demons, and to cleanse you of all that ugliness within you as it is starting to affect your outside beauty as well. Your face is always twisted up and is starting to get really hard-- almost leathery looking. You used to be so soft and beautiful. I know it isn't just your family. It's all the stress of the things going on in your life, and the fact that your family is not helping ease it but is adding on to the pile, probably makes it even worse for you. However, it can only be worse if you let it. You proved that with your brother.

The talk you had with your brother and the things that came out of your mouth in that talk a few episodes ago were MAGNIFICENT and so mature. They empowered you -- and him to some degree-- to put the past in the past and start taking baby steps to a more positive and love-filled future. Unfortunately, when he showed that he was on board to trying to heal, you allowed yourself to get huge expectations that everything could be exactly the same right away before the rift which is why you were so disappointed by them leaving early for Christmas Eve. I agree that Kathy should have encouraged them to stay with you once she learned their intentions, BUT, they may have left early regardless because your brother just was not ready to be 'all in' or how things used to be. He was willing to get his feet and maybe his legs wet in the pool, but he wasn't ready to go swimming just yet. You need to respect that and then perhaps you can forgive the situation, Kathy, and your brother for not doing as YOU had expected rather than what your brother was ready to handle. Please Teresa, start thinking of others in the equation. Not just you. You will be far happier when you do so and the world will get their "Tre" back. You used to be the sparkle in a scene, now you are the salt in everyone's water. Not cool. I pray that changes. Good luck!

LillyAnne
LillyAnne

Teresa - you're a score keeper and you're not honest about your own behavior. When Kathy tried to talk to you at the Christmas party you were hateful from the get go. Your comments are spiteful and cutting. You are not working toward mending your relationships, you are only driving wedges deeper and deeper. It seems like you are insanely jealous of your sister-in-law. Melissa makes your brother very happy, you should embrace her if only for the reason that she is important to the one you love so dear. The things you have said about Richie are mean and ugly. Your kids are out of control - they are not cute and nice but appear more mean and nasty - much like what we are seeing from you this year. Everyone does not have to chose your side in situations, you pick your battles and they are your battles alone - don't expect everyone to to dislike people you are angry with. You are coming across as cold and bitter. When people who love you have tried to talk to you, you shut down and fire back, you don't listen. This is the first year that I am not in your court. Sadly, I doubt that you are able to see it when you watch the show back, because you divert any issue away from your behavior onto something someone else has done to you in the past. It appears as though your heart is full of anger and hate - you should try to replace that with happiness, joy and love. You will be much happier and easier to love.

sonny524
sonny524

Teresa I always loved how real u were and how u protected ur family. when u were dealing with Danielle u were so real and right on and u were right there for ur family, but this crap with Melissa and Kathy is rediculious. Your competitive and jelious with Melissa,I think u were so close to your brother u felt like u lost him to Melissa. get over it.You said u, ur husband and Joe were close and they were ur life well joe needs a partner to and he chose melissa u need to respect that. I can't belive how u were changing up what u have said to Melissa and Kathy to make it sound like it was them. thats not u what happen. own it. I know ur better than that Milissa is trying u should do the same because ur really not.stop talking down to her.Other than that ur great

Mclight
Mclight

You are a strong powerful woman God bless you and your family. Keep your head up. I have found in my life that so call family treat you worse than strangers. There are friends that I have that blood wouldn't make us any closer. I understand how hard it is to forget the past hurt and act like everything is cool. I wouldn't ask anyone to do that but forgiveness releases you :)

Sherie
Sherie

Teresa, Loved the blog tonight. I hope you and your family are all getting along at this point. You make very good points about why Melissa and Kathy would join the show. I think you all need to just let it go and live your lives. If you want to get along with each other you will. If you don't, you won't. I think that most people given the chance to be on one of these shows now know that you can go on a show, get some notoriety that will help you sell whatever you are trying to sell. Be that singing, cookbooks, alcohol, whatever. I think the producers need to be a bit more selective and savvy in who they pick for these shows from now on.

Mel
Mel

Teresa i am a fan of yours i enjoy watching you, but from what i'm observing i believe its very competitive between you and Melissa, and you don't seem to admit your faults. When a situation is being discussed your so quick to say it was someone else's fault and your not willing to take any responsibility. I think things would have been resolved a long time ago if you took SOME ownership of the situation. I don't think Melissa is an angel in the slightest, but there has to be a point where you can put everything in the past and stop the competitiveness, because your kids are suffering. You are a great woman and a fantastic mother i'm behind you 100% thats just my opinion from what i see watching the show.

lori cortez
lori cortez

Teresa, I have loved how real you are since season one. You are fun loving and family oriented, but I can say on this season you have been showing a lot of your dark side. You seem to be snippy at Caroline, don't forget she kicked Kim G. out of Melissa's house because she was talking smack about you. You seem to have a lot on you shoulders, I get that, but I just want the funny, outrageous Teresa back. I also think that you need to accept Melissa a little more if you truely want your brother in your life, he loves her and that makes her family. Come on Teresa don't be the trouble maker, besides forgiveness is for you. You can be civil to Melissa and Kathy without having to be best friends. I rooting for you!!

Lori

hisprincessdiana
hisprincessdiana

I have always been a big supporter of you but I have to admit you really do need to watch what you say to people. Quit judging people or expecting people to do what you would do! They are not you. I feel sorry for your brother, he is stuck in the middle, and you are mean to his wife. You really are mouthy, why do you think you have the right to tell them what they need to do. You don’t take advice from anyone not even Carlin who is coming from a loving place.

I think you need to self-reflect and watch yourself and see how cutting your words are. I know you have a good heart but Teresa, Jesus’ word is very clear, what’s in one heart comes out in their mouth. You say things that reveal that you are jealous, bitter, insensitive, controlling, and immature. As Christians we are to be peace seekers, soldiers of God, love others, not judge. It would behoove you to "listen". Just once stop and listen! Stop focusing on the past. Get on your knees and pray and thank God for your brother and his family! It really is that simple.

You have a great opportunity to have a wonderful bond with your brother and his family but I’m afraid if you don’t check your mouth you can destroy it. I’m sorry if this sounds harsh but I am being honest. You may want to justify why you do what you do, but be honest with yourself Teresa you have allowed yourself to establish some pretty bad habits, with what you allow to come out of your mouth. Have class and treat others with respect and love. Teresa I know you have a good heart and you are so honest and I love your husband but please don’t let your pride get in the way of your reconciling with your brother and his family.

Tom Tuddle
Tom Tuddle

I'm sad to say that Teresa is the new Danelle. Each time Melissa or Kathy reach out to her Teresa takes pot shots at them and has a beligerant attitude towards them. I was a Teresa fan but she is making it very hard for me to be a supporter with her snide comments and hypocritical behavior. If family Is that important then forgive and move on and stop acting like your poop doesnt stink.

Ashley
Ashley

I used to LOVE Teresa. But now she has turned into a snob & Im gettting into loning melissa more and more. I dont think that Kathy did ANYTHING wrong. period. She politely asked if they wanted to come for xmas. Teresa likes to make everything dramatic.

Steve Lynch
Steve Lynch

Danielle... I mean Teresa... You seem to have taken Danielle's spot on the show! - You seem to have lost some of your " i q " what happened?

bellabravofan
bellabravofan

Bravo - please post! Teresa; I think viewers are missing the big picture here. Your family came on the show with the intent to hurt and insult you. I don't blame you for being slow to forgive ... I would be leery of these people too. Melissa is so transparent! Her version of trying to bring the family together is to stir the pot (once again), but this time on New Year's Eve, with YOUR friends Caroline and Jacqueline at the table. And I agree with you about Caroline .... can you imagine if Jacqueline or another sister-in-law came on the show to start trouble with her family?!?!? WATCH OUT!!!!!

viewer tammy
viewer tammy

Teresa, I love the show! I make sure to set the DVR just in case im not home. Ove the last few seasons I have grown to love all of you and think its great to have a peek into your lives. My husband says its cause I love the drama....Maybe that and the fact that its not mine! I just wanted to say that I know how family drama can be but its really not worth it. In my opinion I think you should really try to be nicer. I understand its hard and us viewers don't know the whole story but if they seem to be trying then you should too, without all the hurtful comments. I know its not the same, but I lost my mom last year to cancer. My sister was there to take care of her because I lived far away. I came when I could and the stress was high on both ends, so we ended up having a really bad fight before my mom passed away. I realized that our mom didn't have much time and we were able to patch things up....Thats what its all about, forgive and forget because you don't know how much time you have left! I hope before the season ends you all are able to look past the drama and make things good. Good luck to you and your family....I know you have had a hard time but at least your real, not making excuses and trying to make things better for your family.....Lots of love,Tammy in KY

Merlo
Merlo

I really think alot of you Tre fans do not see the same show as the rest of us. Clearly there are some behind the scences stuff going on that we are not aware of but this is crazy. Tre throws more jabs than Mike Tyson. Joe and Rich has potty mouths and Kathy just goes off when she hear negative comments or get the cold shoulder from Tre. In regards to Melissa singing--I have friends that did not know I sang because I am not around them all the time. Stop calling their hustle a Get-Rich-Qick scheme. What do you make of your cookbooks? You are a hypocrite! WWHL was funny---you can tell Andy and the other guest was trying to tell/show you how you behaved on that episode but as always you were in denial. You finally answered my issue with u--I always wondered why you didnt like Danielle! I dont care for her either but you said because your friends didnt like her. Well grow up---you dont like someone because someone else doesnt like them---thats high school. Finally, please learn to listen take it in and then respond!

VApinkorchid
VApinkorchid

I cant believe that people here give kudos to you for such bad behavior.

Vlora
Vlora

Theresa I'm sorry to say but Your behavior and comments towards Melissa in this episode only made you look jealous and childish... I cant wait to see further episodes!

dora954
dora954

I admire how you always keep it REAL unlike some of the other housewives. We get to see the good and bad side of you and i admire that trait. I understand the friction with Melissa and agree with you 100% now that I have read your blog. Thank you for always keeping it real- we love you!

glowmartinez
glowmartinez

T- I love you! I know the situation your in with your sister-in-law because I have been in the same situation with one of my sister-in laws. However, I don't play games and will not allow her to control me. I don't give her the time of day especially when she does nothing but talk bad about my family including my children. As hard as it is though, you have to put your best foot forward for the sake of the kids and the rest of the family. In the end, everyone will see who is fake and who is real. You don't owe anyone any explanations, take care of you and your family first! God Bless you and your family! glo

Mrs. V
Mrs. V

Teresa you've been one of my fave housewives since the premiere of your 1st season, but I barely recognize you this season. You say family is important and that you want to love forward with your brother and Melissa, but yet you continue to make little snide, tit for tat comments. Its almost as if you don't even realize how you sound. Melissa appears to be making a conscious effort to extend and olive branch, while you act content with holding a grudge. Ultimately life is short and very uncertain, if a family member attempts to be cordial and move forward, what does it cost you to just get on board and move on? What do you gain by being bitter and holding onto anger within? God blesses you and your family with life day after day, and you should be living a life that honors God, as well as your WHOLE family. Obviously its not easy to look past things when you feel justified about your feelings, but you need to focus on the bigger picture. Its not about "being real" vs being fake. Its more so about being wise enough to know when to TRULY let go of past issues and move on. Leave the sarcastic and piercing remarks behind. I sure hope that, that behavior didn't continue after the show. Xoxo, missing the Teresa I've come to love.

Viewer
Viewer

Teresa - How can you say week after week that you are all about putting family first when all you do is badmouth your sister-in-law and cousin? Melissa has gone out of her way to make peace with you and Kathy has done nothing to you. If you're still mad about the comment she made about keeping an eye on your daughter, get over it. We all saw the show and she did exactly what she said she did. Are you that jealous of what they have? You aren't real - you're phony and insecure. I also found it pretty arrogant of you to think that Rich is lusting over you. Really? It's quite obvious that he is very much in love with Kathy.

jerseygal098
jerseygal098

I can not get over how outright RUDE you are to your sister in law. I know you think she "stole your brother from you", but NEWSFLASH...thats what happens when you get married!! its a little...a LOT weird that you are that close to him that you hate his wife, because shes married to him. Yes, Melissa did say some wrong things at times, but you just don't stop! And you know what you look like? a pathetic, jealous, prideful jerk. You couldn't just be happy for her that she's trying to sing?? Can't you see how hard she is trying to make things right? You're going to end up severing relationships between you and your brother if you dont act like an adult and shut your mouth. Don't call it "im just being real". Theres a big difference between real and straight up MEAN and jealous. PLease do me and America a favor and grow up. I'm not choosing a team because thats stupid, but you really need to grow up..

Mrs. V
Mrs. V

Teresa you've been one of my favorite housewives since the 1st episode RHOJ. You're bubbly and fun loving personality is refreshing to watch. With that being said, it has been extremely disappointing to see how unforgiving you've been towards Melissa and Kathy. It seems like you ALL could have done things differently in the past, and Melissa appears to be putting fourth the effort to wipe the slate clean and move forward, while you make little nit picky comments and throw little daggers at her. You've been coming across as very combative and argumentative and that just doesn't seem like the strong, fun woman that I've come to enoy watching. At this point, its not about "keeping it real" vs being fake. Its about being wise enough to know when to leave the past in the past and move on 100%. I'm not sure that you're even aware of how you come off at times. Praying for you to get it together girl.

Muff
Muff

Teresa, the correspondence between Danielle and Melissa.....unbelievable!