I don't like being manipulated, and I think you can tell on my face when I walk into a new surprise in every scene. This season has been like the Twilight Zone to me, because I'm seeing crazy changes in people I've known a very long time and I'm just trying to keep up. I understand that a lot of viewers love the drama because it makes for good TV. But it doesn't make for good family.
When I found out that Melissa and Kathy, my family, were joining the show this year, I'll be honest, that made it hard for me to trust them at first. I was pretty sure they didn't just want to be on TV for fun, because they saw what happened to me and my family with the bad tabloid stories and people going through your trash and filing crazy lawsuits against you. That part's not really fun, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I might not always get along with Melissa, but I don't want people making fun of her on blogs and saying nasty things about her children. It hurts. And she's my family.
So yes, at the beginning of the season, I was trying to figure out why they joined. It slowly became clear, and you see my reaction as I discover it. If you remember, they came out of the gate insulting me, hanging around people that insulted me, and I felt betrayed. I think if you were in my shoes, you would feel the same. But why? Why go on TV just to bash your family? I didn't get to read any of their pre-show interviews about what they hoped to get out of it (although reading that Melissa joined because "karma is a bitch" didn't make me feel any better...). But back then, I was trying to figure out why.
Teresa - 10 pages full of anger and venom. I used to like you, but you have really turned into a demon. Your behavior on the after show with Andy was really crass - especially when you were talking about Richie.
This blog is nothing but a contradiction.
"I'm not judging people who use them. You either compliment a mom or keep your mouth shut about it"
-- you didn't keep your mouth shut. You said you don't have a nanny, like melissa does. Why do you need to take shots at people like that? And if she didn't want people to know she had a nanny you certainly made sure she did...
next.. "New Year's Eve is such a special night to me. It's a chance to put everything behind you and start fresh"
Yet here you are in this entire blog which should basically be called "why I will never give melissa a chance."
Week after week it's pretty clear everyone is trying here except for you. The only thing I agree with you on is that your brother should have stayed with your parents on Christmas Eve but that's about it. This episode was uncomfortable to watch during the kids playdate. Everything Melissa said you shot back at her with daggers. I don't know Teresa, the only one ruining your reputation here is you.
Please, stop the Hate! Grow up and learn that you are acting like a spoiled child on TV, which shows in your kids too. Those catty comments you make about everyone and especially about your sister-in-law are so petty. It's plain to see why your brother, Joe, did not want to stay with you on Christmas eve. They aired the comments your husband made to the grandparents about Melissa. We all saw it. You are only annoyed that you aren't the darling of the show anymore and you can't handle it. And your husband shouldn't even be shown anymore.
Teresa, That is a wonderful blog! I do think you kept your cool at the New Year's party and I'm sure the "fake" comment hurt. So, kudos to you. You have been through a lot & are probably still enduring the stress of it all, so having these relatives (with or without their agenda's) on this show with you hasn't helped decrease your very high stress level. The reaction to the "singing" on Melissa's part is well-explained. So, there just seems to be a lot of one-upping and you're right-it's hurtful. I still believe in my heart that ANYTHING Caroline says/does comes from a place of peace. She has loved you for a long time and I don't see that changing. Does she get frustrated? Sure, we all do! But, there is a an extremely strong foundation of love and trust you two (and Jacqueline) share. I hope all works out for you and your family. Your husband loses his cool and may say some inappropriate things at times-but OH MY...that mouth on Kathy's husband is unreal!!!!! I don't care for him at all. I honestly think no gentleman refers to a woman the way he has you. Still, I do hope you and Kathy find peace. Your children are beautiful, your husband supports you and you are a strong, strong woman! Blessings!!!
Your explanations were pretty clear, to the point, and settles a few misleading thoughts I had. I understand that you are being you but as viewers we are pointing out that you happen to have certain social behaviors that are self-serving. The way you speak to people is off putting at times.
I really like you...most of the time. But either the editing is making you look bad or you are really struggling with all this family turmoil. For the life of me, I cannot understand what you see in your husband, Joe. He is so crude...so foul mouthed. The way he talks about and to people is inexcusable...just as the way Richie talks is ridiculous! I thought it was great the way you disciplined your children at Melissa's...Gia (God love her) wanted to sit in and listen to you and Melissa "argue". Thanks for the great blog...you explained a lot that wasn't in the show. And you definitely speak your mind better in type than you do in person! I think that your "thinking" in Italian and "speaking" in English often leaves some gaps! Major hugs to you...
Sorry about all the mean comments. Your right, we don't know the history, we the fans aren't use to seeing you in this light, be patient with us, we will come around...I pray you have a better year with no stress, you have had your share, stay true and the truth will come out, it always does, May God Bless you and keep you.....
Teresa, bla bla bla. OMG 8 pages of negitive talk about Melisa! You should be embarassed of you and your husband after watching the show. You speak truth in saying you are yourself on the show. But, it's not a good heart with good intentions. Melissa truly shows good intentions of trying to put the family together. Take a lesson.
I wish everyone else would stop being fake and own the fact that they wanted what you have. No need to throw anyone under the bus, especially your family. I always felt I understood how you have been reacting, because I, like you, show my emotion on my face and would feel the same way you have felt through this experience. I am glad that you tried to explain it in this blog for those who don't quite see it. Teresa, you can't be fake, you can only be you and I have enjoyed watching! Buona fortuna!
I'm so glad you put the truth out there. I felt the same say about Kathy, Melissa, and Caroline from the beginning of the season. Hang in there!
Though I agree with your assessment of why Kathy and Melissa joined the show, outting them isn' t going to help the family situation. The two of them have you outnumbered. Teresa, why do you think they are so close? There is power in numbers and they are so jealous of your fame!
Sorry Teresa, you lost me at page 1. Since you pride yourself on being "real", here's some real advice. The problem is You, your jealousy and your unwillingness to share the spotlight and the Manzo's. I hope that you will learn from this experience and stop bullying people with your attitude and snarky remarks/faces. One day you may find yourself on the outside of the "in" crowd and you'll know the value of family when you're crying at their doorsteps.
There must be something wrong with you that your perception of the events we all see on TV is skewed. You can't possible act as you do and then pretend that you are in the right about anything. You attempt to explain away the poor behavior of both you and your husband with obviously fabricated excuses that assume we, the audience is too stupid to see through your lame spin. Its transparent and pathetic and we are certainly smarter than you give us credit for and smarter than you in general. Good luck to you, you are going to need it.
We just love you Teresa!!!!! I have both of your cookbooks and really enjoy using them.It is sooooo obvious what Melissa and Cathy are trying to do,singing and cooking..... please. You are so right. My family just rolls our eyes and fast forwards thru the attempt at singing and the obvious dessert pushing. Hang in there,your fans are loyal and here for you.I'm out here in Montana and we love you.
Teresa~You are RIGHT!~ You are NOT fake or phony and you DO say what you mean and you mean exactly what you say on the show. During the on camera times when you and the other ladies are taking to the camera, you are the only one who is honest. You don't say one thing to the us ( camera) and then go to the other women and act a different way. Melissa and Kathy do. They say things about you and your husband on camera, but then when they are actually with you, they act all different, as if they never said those things or feel as they do. It is very annoying that people can't see that. I like you this year...I liked you all the other seasons but I really like you now because you are real and honest with us. You have been thru HELL and that DOES change you inside. It is how you deal with those changes that is what is important. Kathy may be a nice person, but her comments about you and Joe, as well as her husband's were terrible and showed the real true colors of their characters. Keep pushing through the stuff Teresa, I admire you so much
Teresa love you..all your loyal fans do!! It has been very disappointing to see Caroline climb on the hate train (as she likes to call it) against you. It has also been very disappointing to see Melissa and Kathy be so insulting and backstabbing on the show. It was right of you NOT to want your family drama on the show. It's pretty obvious Melisssa and her witchy sisters just want to be on TV and are riding your coat tails to do so. I have both your cookbooks as do many of my friends and we are pulling for you and your family in this difficult time. Keep your head up, you have a lot of fans who know what's up!
Teresa you are talking about God. God does not want u to hold a grudge. Forgive and forget. Life is so much fun if u get along with your family just make up with Kathy and Melissa you have nothing to lose but u get your family back together. I enjoy drama but this not kind of drama family feuds are not easy to watch it breaks my heart. I wish u all the best God bless u. I pray for your family all the time
It may have taken you awhile to figure out their (Melissa & Kathy) motivation to join the show, but your viewers could see it from the beginning. Melissa has been obvious in her manipulation of her husband and well placed snide remarks about you and Joe. If she insincerely exclaims "thank you jesus!" one more time, I may have to reach through the screen and smack her! talk about fake! Kathy is just bitter towards you, her husband a vulgar bully. The fact that she can only try to talk to you when the cameras are on speaks volumes. Keep your head up, Teresa. Those of us with half a brain know the score.
Teresa, I absolutely get where you are coming from and why you feel the way you do about Melissa and Kathy joining the show. I am glad you took the time to explain all of this in your blogs for those that don't get it. I also understood what you meant by Richie's obsession. I never thought you meant sexually and it was bizarre that Melissa took it that way. I love how real you are. I hope everything works out for you and your family. Try to let some of these things roll off your back. I know it's hard, but sometimes it's just not worth holding on to it. You are beautiful and you have a beautiful family, try to focus on that.
WOW, I've not read these blogs for awhile, but do watch the 'reality' show. Teresa it was obvious to most of us that Melissa and Kathy were plugging ideas for publicity - they came out of the gate quickly with their new found 'ideas'. The singing is not surprise to anyone viewer, after all anyone can put a song together and the housewives are the laughing stock of them.....so no surprise there. Kathy should open a desert shop, she would get a killer business, here deserts look awesome and this show helped with all that, but she knew this too. You are spot on with your thoughts and inquiries as to 'why'....
Teresa, that was a well written blog and it really helped me understand your actions a lot better. It just goes to show that it's hard to judge relationships unless you are directly in them! The long history that you are talking about with Kathy and Melissa makes sense and I can understand why you do not trust them. Your girls are absolutely beautiful and you are such a loving mom. I admire your courage for being real and hope things go well in your life!!!!
Teresa, I am one of your biggest fans!! Love you and your family! ....My advice is to put the past in the past and move forward. It takes more energy to hate then to forgive and be happy....There's another New Year approaching soon, try to bring it in with nothing but positive energy and positive things will follow, promise...
Teresa it will not take a lot for u to stop holding a grudge and forgive. Kathy and Melissa are trying to make up with u, but u keep passing positive comments not good. Just be positive. I hope u can all make up and be a happy family. Friends like u but family loves u. I am sure you will be at peace if u stop holding a grudge, u are a christian and you now what I am talking about. God wants you to forgive. I enjoy watching drama but family drama is not good at all it breaks my heart to see u and your family fighting. I pray for u everyday. God bless u and your family. I hope next season we'll be watching a one big happy family. Peace
I got both your cookbooks in the mail yesterday and I dropped what I was doing to sit down and read them both cover to cover. They are well written and funny. So many great facts (you had me running to the kitchen to 1) toss my veg oil, 2) check my own olive oil to make sure it was extra virgin, and 3) check my pasta for semolina durum only!!!)...
Friends have asked what from your cookbooks I will make first and I have to tell them everything sounds so delicious and seems so easy that I just dont know!
Thanks for everything you do!!!
PLease Teresa!! u r as fake as any of them. U show one face in front of Melissa, and then u make an insulting comment about her. Let be honest, u r not real either.
You are the BEST! Keep it real God Bless! I hope you all make up but I completely understand how you are feeling! B blessed Tre!
Kathy has *not* bashed your family on the show. My word, woman, please look at the truth. Don't harbor grudges or worse, make them up out of whole cloth. That behavior is not becoming in the least.
Love your family, I love everyone this season especially the kids. Please fix your family, ou risk looking like the Kelly Bessimon of the group....delusional....and possibly insane. Your attitude is fowl this season, and all kathy said was your kids were unattended..and they were. Let it go and get back to being the classy chick that you are.
I love you, you are the best. Sad there is no loyalty with your "friends or family" anymore. Hope it was worth it in the end when the show is over and long gone. Team Teresa!!
I enjoyed every word of your blog and I LOVE you even more! Thanks for the honesty and it doesn't matter what your sister inlaw, Kathy or Caroline writes because I believe you and I know you are a good person.
Now this is the Teresa I love and know! She's back everyone! YAAAY! Love you and Team Teresa all the way!
I hate to say it, but Teresa is the WORST of all!!!! She makes me want to turn the show off everytime I hear her awful voice! She is so negative and rude to everybody and it seems as though she is the root of all the problems. hmmmmm....maybe she should look at herself! I LOVE her sister-in-law Melissa and Kathy her cousin as well....to me, they seem nice and real and Teresa just seems to hate on everybody!!!!
Teresa I fricking LOVE you and for everything that is sacred this blog is RIGHT ON ! AMEN SISTER ! Your real fans know and can see right through all this phoniness this season ! Between Melissa , Kathy , and Caroline bs I don't know how you hold it together ! You don't have to defend yourself tho we get it and have gotten it since DAY ONE with these people. You and Bethenney are THE MOST successful housewives for the fact that you keep it REAL. Keep keeping it real because you will always have your REAL fans right here backing you up! BTW if it was me I would have flipped a MILLION tables by now lol XOXO
I admire your passion for your family and true relationships. It may not always be easy, but family and real friends are everlasting.
I think your blog is down to earth and real. I think your reactions at the time and everything that your family has gone through is real. It doesn't mean it was right, but it was how you felt at the time and everyone shouldn't judge you based on that. The real question is why are Kathy and Melissa on the show when they KNEW that you were not getting along with them, but they were the best of friends? Strange and I don't like it.
I'm amazed how you expect your family to not bash you, but you spent a great amount of time bashing them as well. Oh, you think you're just responding to an insult, but you're just fueling it. If you want hurtful words to stop, it begins with you. I wonder if you hold your husband to the same standard that you expect from others? After all, HE is the one that got you into a lot of messes in the past while you've kept your eyes wide shut. Your husband like to trash your family members and I don't see you, sincerely, asking him to stop. You do an equal amount of bashing right back. I do agree with the "Hate train" comment you made about Caroline. Very true and funny.
I really wanted to feel for you Teresa and I have been on your side... until now. I'm watching the re-run of this weeks episode and you are Nasty and biting towards Melissa. It was tit for tat before when you two were going at it, but now that Melissa is making a genuine effort to turn a corner, after YOU initiated a family truce, you're still throwing daggers. When you watched this week's episode were you embarrassed by your behavior towards Melissa?