I'm not going to lie, last night was not my favorite episode. What you see on the Housewives is ALL of us. Not only the good times. Not only the bad times. All the times. It's not easy to have your entire life taped. It's even harder to watch it played back on TV. It's nice when you get to see a happy memory again, like when you asked your best friend to be your new baby's godmother. It's not so nice to see the hard times -- the problems in your marriage, your finances, your business, your children's lives -- again. It's actually like living through it twice, which pretty much sucks.
We don't get to pick and choose what you see. We don't get to hide our problems. That's part of the fun of the Real Housewives shows, you're seeing inside Real Housewives' lives. You might not know everything your neighbor is going through, but you know all about your Housewife friends' lives. Hopefully it makes you feel better about your life, makes you appreciate things, gives you a laugh, gives you something to relate to, or at least gives you a night off from your own problems. We're not trying to cure cancer or anything. We're just letting you peek into our lives -- the good, the bad, the funny, the outrageous, the petty, the heartbreaking, the whole mess of it.
Yes, again you're seeing me during some hard times. Going through a very public bankruptcy but not being able to talk about all the legal aspects of the case has not been easy (and that's not because of the show, that's because of the legal system). I know it didn't make much sense when I said last night that Joe and I "won" the proceeding against us, but believe me, if you knew the ins and outs of this horrible case, the fact that Joe and I are still happily married, sane, and working hard does feel like a win. If you've ever been involved in a complicated business and personal bankruptcy or a nasty lawsuit (or two), you know the pain of this process. If you haven't, you can't imagine it. And God bless you for it. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Hang in there - both you and Joe work hard - you'll get back on your feet soon. I am on your side and don't like the way Melissa instigates trouble whenever she can - espcially between you and Kathy. And too, she constantly attacks you and then tries to give the impression that she's all about family and is on your side - if that's on your side, you don't need enemies. She's jealous of you or she wouldn't go out of her way to constantly put you down and start trouble between you and Kathy. Kathy and you need to sit down alone and talk things out. You did get a little snarky at Kathy's party - very uncalled for. Perhaps you were upset in what you're going through but Kathy opened her home to you and it wasn't necessary to make all those nasty comments. Don't become Melissa - God forbid.
Very well written blog, Teresa. It's a nice change to not be bashing your "family." I think it's big of you to apologize to your Jewish friends for what you said, but how about apologizing to Melissa for pretty much calling her a "street walker" with the outfit she had on? And as far as being welcomed in Kathy's home, I guess I had to be there because it seemed she was very gracious when you came in. I sure hope you guys can made amends.
Bravo, Teresa! You spelled it out perfectly, and I hope your "friends" read your blog! Keep smiling!
I loved this blog. I love how you are admitting mistakes and owning up to them. Good for you!! I also appreciate that you aren't bashing Jacqueline back, even though she TOTALLY deserves it for what she did to you last week in her blog and on twitter.. so immature and then for her daughter to do it also? Too high school and I now view Jac differntly because of it. I also like the fact that you haven't ever been in her shoes, therefore you can't/won't comment on her issues with her daughter. I hope nothing but the best for you Tre! You are great and all of this hatred towards you is breaking my heart for you. I competely 'get' why you have been so unhappy this season. I think what Bravo did, bringing people on who hate you, was so wrong. It changed the whole dynamic of the show and it's nowhere near as good as it used to be. I think with what's happend to Russell Armstrong should be a huge wake-up call for them that the ratings are not worth turning someone into a villian, it's beyond damaging and ever since he died, I worry about your own husband so much. Please stay strong Teresa, your real fans will not let you down or turn on you.. like some of your so-called 'friends' have.
Though I can't imagine how difficult reliving your worst moments along with the viewing public must be, the one good thing that could come from it would be that you get to look in a mirror that most of us don't. Try watching the last several episodes without your anger and pride. You are always quick to point out the flaws of others and look for the insult that sometimes isn't there. Instead, focus on your own behavior. You are fully aware that you are being filmed, especially in the interviews. Are you proud of how you come across? In this blog, you do admit that things are not always rosy, dispelling the rumors of late that you put a smile and ignore your problems. But, it is not enough. You do not hold yourself to the same standard that you require of those around you. Life is tooo short to count every little thing and parlay it into an epic feud. Love all of your blessings for their own value and merit, not because how they measure up and compare to others. I wish you well with your family and career. Remember, your kids will someday watch this.
Theresa...you have lost a fan. Everyone goes through difficult times, but you have turned into a nasty and rude person.
some of the healing process is not to put yourself in situations that you are not comfortable in. Perhaps you should have been more gracious towards Kathy when being invited into her home. If you were not comfortable, perhaps a phone call ahead of time to clear the air would have been appropriate. Richie is an idiot and so is Melissa -either Melissa has your back or she doesn't.
Keep being yourself Theresa....thats all you can be. We viewers see through everything else.............
Bravo, pls post my comment, thx! I have to be honest with you, it's not up to you to pick & choose who is asked to be on the show, that's Bravo's job. I don't know what's written in your contract with them, so all I'll say is, leave the show, if you're not obligated to them. I don't understand how some ladies re-sign season after season, but come off as un-happy & regret a lot of things. Just say "No". I understand you have a lot going on in your personal life, but you really need to check yourself because your attitude is horrible. I'm not a hater, I'm just giving my two-cents. Good luck with everything. p.s. I happen to like Kathy & Melissa
I love you T. I understand where you are coming from. You have to make up with your family when it right for you. Its evident that Mellissa is causing drama between you and Kathy. Why would she tell Kathy something negative she claim you said right before the party. She should have just kept it to herself. Mellisa does not fool me. I see right thru her. She is a sneaky person. On the other hand you are very up front and open about how you feel. She claims she wants peace. Then she makes statements to cause more drama between you and Kathy. If you have something to say. You say it to Kathy's face or Mellisa's face. Melissa goes behind your back and runs her mouth about whatever conversation you and her have. She should just keep the conversation between you and her. Team T keep your head up girl!!!
You are still beloved Theresa by a lot of people. I am sorry you are going through such turmoil, but know you are strong and will eventually end up happy, healthy, and hopefully reconciled with your family - all of them! We love you mess and all.
Teresa, Bravo never posts anything I have to say, but I am going to keep doing it until they do! Bless you. We can see how hard it is on you and we understand the snarky comments towards Melissa and Kathy. They are trying to kiss up to Caroline and Jacqueline and it is pathetic. While at the same time bad-mouthing you to the audience. Kathy is just stupid and Melissa is two-faced and a drama queen. I am sure your parents are so proud of their daughter-in-law trashing their daughter on tv.God Bless you and keep holding your head up high. You are only accountable for your actions; not the actions of others.
Teresa you really put it all out there and Bravo doesn't heavily edit you..like maybe..they do the Manzos, the Holy Family..just guessing. I know they're trying to put a story out there but they really have you and your family in a bad light including your children and I think little kids should be off limits. Hang in there Teresa.. love you!! There would be no RHONJ without you..it would be very boring.
You were upset at Kathy's because:
1. You saw all the wonderful food she made by herself without any help from her mother or mother-in-law. 2. Caroline and Jackie were complimenting her on her food 3. Your "friends" were getting along with your "family"
And that is the truth!!!!
I love you T. I see right thru Mellisa. Right before the party she tell Kathy that you think her husband is obsessed and wants to sleep with you. You never said he wanted to sleep with you. LOL.. I played it back on my DVR. You said why would her mind go there. Im wondering that to. Why would she go back and tell Kathy about a conversation between you and her if she really wanted peace. She is just playing the innocent role all the while trying to start confusion. Did she want Kathy to confront you at the party and you to blow up about. While she just sits there and act like she did nothing wrong. I like you Teresa because you are upfront and you tell people directly to there face how you feel. Mellisa is a little sneak.
I must say, your blog intrigued me. I'm not going to nitpick at the tiny things you wrote, but I think one day you will learn to let go. Maybe you already have.
Teresa, You have been going through an awful time, everyone has them. However, you carry a grudge foreverrrrrr, give it up already. You were an invited guest to your cousin's home, she knocked herself out. I am sure she was nervous too, however, she had wonderful manners while you were rude and inconsiderate. You were bossy to Melissa and you criticized or made fun of Kathy's food,etc. Why bother coming? Go, slap a smile on, keep QUIET about what you do not like to eat, skip over it and be APPRECIATIVE instead of criticizing everything and everyone. Either that..........or stay home. Enough already!!!!
I hope this gets posted! Wow watching all the stuff that we see you went through really does take my mind off my family problems, (for at least and hour) and yes I would hate it if my family were on a show like you! And YES if my Husband put me through what yours did I would not be calm, cool, and colected like you are on TV! It's crappy to see everyone pushing you to make up with Kathy! Best wishes for all!
Teresa....I've been on "your side" through the whole Kathy "thing", but I must scold you about your rudeness at Kathy's house this week. No...the other ladies weren't on their best behavior either, but I expected better from you than the snide remarks that you were making. You accepted the invitation to the goddess party and in so doing, you should have acted like a grateful & gracious guest instead of making witchy comments. Remember...if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Good for you, Teresa! Your blog is honest and insightful. Keep trying to take the high road and it will pay off in the end.
I understand why you feel how you feel. I still think in this episode and previoius ones that you were spiteful, jealous and mean, which is part of the reason why Melissa & Kathy weren't getting along with you. The nasty comments will never stop if you continue to be nasty. Same goes for Kathy & Melissa... everyone needs to start over and try to be kind to one another. Also, are you really opening up a restaurant? Or were you just saying that....
I love this blog. Thanks for your honesty. BTW, I made your rose mary chicken yesterday. My husband loved it and my home smelled like love. It was so easy. Shh don't tell him.
Teresa, I love, love, love it when you take the high road and own your mistakes, we all make them, thankfully mine aren't on t.v.!
TERESA, Your blog was well said, you couldn't have say it any better!!!!! You’re an amazing person keep doing what you do. What comes around goes around and those will get it when the time is right. They will fall on their own and not by you spreading rumors.. This is what you call "TAKING THE HIGH ROAD".... Love ya... TEAM TERESA ALL THE WAY!!!
Teresa...How you've gotten through all of this without losing your mind is beyond me! I think we (viewers) need to take into consideration how affecting that kind of stress would be on ANYONE...regardless of circumstance(s), it would absolutely take it's toll. You have held strong and been true to your husband and your children...no small feat! I can only assume that the family rifts in relation to you, Melissa and Kathy are deep seated and will never be fully divulged and/or comprehended by mere fans and viewers of this show. It's not our place to understand...and in turn...not for us to judge you or either of them!
"Leading a good life is the noblest revenge"...fight the good fight Tre! We are all guilty of not always doing the right thing...but I truly believe if you give Melissa and Kathy the love that you want in return than it will happen. You deserve it...they deserve it...your entire family deserves it!
Still luv ya crazy girl...pulling for all of you to come through this in a much better place!!
If you are tired of your life being out there for everyone to see and comment on then don't do the show anymore
Love u Teresa - your sister in law and cousin are TERRIBLE! I wish they never got on the show too! I bet you would have a much better life wo them ruining ur time!!! So sorry :( Keep ur head up - u r an inspiration :)
Ponder on this ~ "God only forgive those who forgive others!" ~ according to the Bible ~ "The Lord's Prayer"
Things will hopefully get better for you and you can go back to being yourself. I'm not really liking you this season but I know it's from all the stress. And I'm very proud of you taking the VERY high road with Jacqueline. She really ripped you last week on her blog, but then tweeted your husband was at her house, smdh. Anywho, love, love, love you.
Hi tre, your such an amazing classy lady and keep strong for your beautiful kids and lovely husband. We fans def love you so much because your a real true loyal friend that tell it how it is and if the other ladies are hating there just jealous trashy biotches that wishes they had the italian traditions you and your family do. But your brother and melissa are so trashy and fake stay away from them they will only cause you trouble. Love you girl! Xoxoxoxoxoxoxo #1 fan from california love xoxoxoxo
Teresa, You are so right, its a gift you all give us to be able to peek into your lives for "entertainment".So thanks cuz I love it :).I really have no judements on any of you because we dont know the whole picture and I am sure there is good and not so good in EVERYONE.I also like the fact that even through the most difficult times you are able to put on a brave face and muscle through it no matter what anyone says.Enough of your business is in the street aleady so why add to it?You know the truth and every thing passes with time.So,stay strong,happy and POSITIVE :).
Great blog...very generous of you not to comment on Jacqueline's blog of last week...you're right, rhonj is not scripted so not every episode is going to have a happy ending but, unfortunately, that's what makes us tune in...the show is more dramatic than any show on tv.
I'm glad you have your husband to lean on. It is tough, and I have watched and loved you since Season 1. I'm glad Dina Manzo is still a friend. I'm disappointed in Jacqueline and Caroline, but not surpised. I'm not surprised to see Kathy and Melissa mock you either. They would not be on the show without you. It must hurt them to know that all of the viewers know that. Keep your head up. Your children are adorable. Even when the 4 year old is kicking butt and taking names. I can't really blame her!
Tre, I have loved you so much for the past few years...but this year is different. I still like you more than your annoying sister-in-law and cousin, but seeing this mean-spirited side of you is not the "Teresa" we all fell in love with. I hope you can find her and bring her back next season. XO!
You're absolutely right. Viewers really have no true insight into you and your life. We only see a small glimpse. This season, I was a bit disappointed in you, and especially Joe. You are right. I don't necessarily agree with the comments or actions, especially aimed at Melissa, Joe(your brother) or Kathy. AND, they've said a few nasty things as well. I'm sure there is much water under those bridges, and sometimes you can't see what's ahead for the fog. You've got to look past the fog(the past, the hurt), if you ever want to go further (closer with your family). I'm sorry your life has had such troubled times, and that you must feel lonely, not being able to share your troubles, for fear of someone profiting off the tale. Teresa, you are never alone. God watches over us all. I will tell you that you have to let the small stuff go. Life is short. All we have is a moment in time to share with loved ones; to live life. So live, love and for your own health, learn to let go, if for no one else, but your self. God bless you and yours, always.
Teresa, I do feel for you and what you're going through. I see the tension in your voice and your face. I'm just suggesting that you get away for a bit with your family. No phones, no tv, no nothing. It's time to relax and get back to family. You've all been through so much. I feel it would be good for you to step back, get away then go back and appoligize to Melissa and Kathy. No I don't much care Melissa. Honestly I think she's to full of herself but never the less she is family and so is Kathy. I'm a single parent so I know about hard times. You can do and something my father always told me was "the hard times make you stonger". They really do.
Teresa you always look like a crazy person on TV and then seem so real in your blogs. I think you live in a dream world and are one of those people that want eevryone to think you are totally fine when you clearly are not! With that said I think you are entertaining and a very real person!
Hang in there Theresa we all go through ups and downs. Yours are just televised for the world to see. May God Bless you and your family through the storms.
You were so mean at Kathy's house that it was embarrasing. You have a lot of hate in your heart and I only hope you can get a grip on reality and stop being so nasty.
Hang in there Theresa! Let God direct your life, and you will be fine. My motto is "Let go, and let GOD!
You are so right about everything Teresa, especially the problems and going through them in front of the world. I always wonder what Melissa and Kathy would be like if suddenly their entire worlds fell apart..they had to declare bankruptcy due to the economy, and the rest fell like dominos. I wonder how humble they might be. It is hard to think of because they are both very opinionated about you and your situation, despite being family to you. Neither of them can imagine what it would really be like. I wonder if their marriages would survive. I don't think so. You have gone through things that have changed you forever right? You know inside that you are not the same Teresa that we met on the first episode. That is was LIFE does to us. Kudos to you and your kids and husband....I know, I have been there too...but not in front of the world.
Best blog ever.Teresa i certainly hope you and yours are in a better place. This season you have come across unyielding towards Melissa and Kathy. Maybe you were just anxious. But why do you always have to try and out do someone. when Kathy was talking about opening a restuarant you said we are going to open a restaurant. Can't you just let someone else have something and not begrudge them or try to 1 up them?. SAD. Stop trying to keep up with the JONES' it makes a person very unhappy. Good thoughts to you.