Teresa Giudice

Teresa talks about the Kim G. situation and explains her kids' costumes.

on May 24, 20110

Hello! And congratulations! Did a fist fight just break out somewhere? Apparently that's all I have to say to cause a ruckus...

This week's episode was a lot easier to watch, obviously, because it was mostly about Halloween. I'm a summer girl, but I love the holidays. Everyone looked so cute in their fall clothes with their boots and little faux fur vests. Carving pumpkins at Jacqueline's house was great. And yes, we did send the kids away as soon as we started talking about the christening. I didn't want my kids to hear any of that. (And no, I didn't let them watch last week's episode either.) I'm glad baby Joey didn't know what was going on at his christening, but unfortunately my Gia did. I'm so sad she had to see any of that. I never expected in a million years that my brother would erupt like that, especially in front of his goddaughter. It's one of the millions of reasons I walked away immediately. I do not want to fight with my family ever, especially not in front of our kids and our parents, and especially not on TV.

Someone asked me an interesting question this week -- if the roles were reversed and I was asked to be on a show Melissa had been on already (knowing going on it would hurt our family) would I do it? Not in a million years. And certainly not for any opportunities being on TV might bring you. Nothing, nothing is worth breaking up your family -- not fame, not money, not anything. I'm a smart girl. If I wanted to still write a book, I think I could find a way to get it published. I do live near New York City. If I wanted to be a singer, I would audition for The Voice or something. Nothing is worth putting your family into situations like this.

Gia cried at school this week, because the kids were making fun of her family. I never, ever thought that would happen. Yes, I know, I flipped a table on Danielle. That's different. When someone on the outside is messing with your family and friends and trying to bully everyone, you stand up for yourself. I'll always stand up for myself, my family, and my friends. I never thought I would be in a position like this with anyone in my own family. It's beyond heartbreaking. I know I keep using that word, but it's the only word I can think of that comes close to describing this... Everyone keeps writing me that I look so much sadder this season, even in interviews about the show, and that's because I am sad. This hurts. I never wanted this, and I wouldn't wish this on anyone. All I can do is take things one day at a time, hold my head high, and hope for a brighter future!

320 comments
Dana from NL Canada
Dana from NL Canada

Teresa, I'm your biggest fan. I think your a great mom. I'm sorry to see you and your brother fighting this way. Gia is such a sweet and senitive girl. that is a statement about you as a mom. take care, Dana

Team Tre # 1
Team Tre # 1

I luve u Teresa your so pretty and down to earth, loyal, and the best mother in the world!

Friendly NJ
Friendly NJ

So sad to read this... It's so unfortunate to see you go from Theresa's last season to this sad and worried Theresa. Jacqueline is a great great friend and she always give you great advise in a caring way, try to listen to her more! Your brother and his wife are feeling left out of your life... They just can't get past the fact that you are a "Real Housewife" and they were not part of it, so they made their way back in your life, and in the spot light. That screams envy to me. But it's in their nature and you can't change that, they will have to do it on their owns, if they ever realize it. You can show them that they are important, more important than success... You know as Caroline said, wear the big girl pants, you are the one that can make it better... Best of Luck

Aly83
Aly83

You are the best! As far as I'm concerned you're sister in law should be kissing your feet because without you she wouldn't be on tv. Have some respect for the original housewives Melissa!!

DeeC
DeeC

I have to admit that this season is really bothering me. It is obvious that none of this should be on t.v. Melissa looks and acts like an opportunist, but unfortunately until everyone figures out her angle she will look the victim and angel in all of this. I don't think she or your brother should be in this show. They have eclipsed everything that goes on...it has turned into the Joe Gorga show, and that is sad. I want to know about what is going on with you and the girls, not your brother. I know family is first, but there are other people too.

Keep your head up...your beautiful and fabulous and you will work it out!

neenee2011
neenee2011

Girl I love u. u r the great mom and wife. girl when kim g said "she wished she looked like me" teressa girl i bout flipped u r 100 times better looking then her old messy behind. and u and yo family will be ok in my opinion if not u just gotta move on and keep pushing and take care of your wonderful family...love you girl

Angelcraze
Angelcraze

Teresa, listen when your friends try to give you advice on the show. It is obvious that your sister-n-law feeds all the negativity to your brother. Melissa seems to be competitive and it is obvious that she is jealous of you. She needs to grow up! Keep your head up!! Dios te bendiga!

retamay68
retamay68

I saw you on the runway. It seems you have a lot on your mind. I am sorry that this season has taken a toll on you personally. Do the best you can and keep smiling that pretty smile you have.

RetaMay
RetaMay

I have been watching the show since day one! I am sorry you are going through this with your family on national television. All families have their ups and downs. You and your family are terrific. You have a great husband and kids. Keep up the good work.

Lenni Laya Palanca
Lenni Laya Palanca

You are one brave and courageous lady! Thumbs up plus my big toes up to you Girl! I just love the way you are----so genuine. Your very core speaks volumes...and yes, the world is a much better place just because of Ladies like you. Even with all your flaws/imperfections, you are such a lovely, good-natured and classy Lady. In my book, you will always rock Theresa. Keep up the good work. Always remember that after the rain comes the sun. Thing will get better for you...and perhaps, things are already better for you and your family. God will never drop you further than your knees. Keep the faith and wishing you only the best life can offer because you deserve nothing less. Sending you big warm hugs with matching mwaahhsss from Dover, Delaware.

Nicle
Nicle

Teresa, We only see a small part of your life and its what the cameras want us to see- the good(or so they think)parts. All families bicker, fight and siblings ignore each other especially brothers and sisters. Both always think they are right.. time apart is good. To think to ponder to analyze. Keep loving life, moving forward, and broaden your world. They sky is the limits my dear reach for the stars we are watching. I know your family will fall right into place again for the better.

Toni 1987
Toni 1987

Love you Theresa. Your a great Mom. Good Luck with your cookbooks, stay Strong and keep shopping .

GoddessB
GoddessB

I see you taking others advice SLOWLY! You remind me of some of my clients, you won't immediately do what one asks or take the advice, but you do hear them (even while you are talking) and eventually you get it! You did say at the end of the letter that you are sorry for hurting him and his family & I think that was key and key advise Jacqueline gave you....Yet, like someone said earlier, YOU ARE DAMNED if you do and DAMNED if you DON't!

PH1978
PH1978

"Someone asked me an interesting question this week -- if the roles were reversed and I was asked to be on a show Melissa had been on already (knowing going on it would hurt our family) would I do it? Not in a million years. And certainly not for any opportunities being on TV might bring you. Nothing, nothing is worth breaking up your family -- not fame, not money, not anything. I'm a smart girl. If I wanted to still write a book, I think I could find a way to get it published. I do live near New York City. If I wanted to be a singer, I would audition for The Voice or something. Nothing is worth putting your family into situations like this."

my question ==== why does melissa coming on the show have to hurt the family?

annemariet
annemariet

Teresa I think your great and Im so sorry bravo brought your brother & his wife on the show. Your cousin Kathy they are all putting it on for the cameras and you are looking great they should be embarassed at the way they behave. It is sad your brother is driving such a wedge calling you garbage how dare he. I know you love your family but him & his wife are looking awful on TV. GOdbless YOU & your family.I also pray for your mother & father the greeneyed monster has definitly hit your brother & his icky wife . Holdf your head up ANNE MARIE T

jeannie Potter
jeannie Potter

I grew up in an Italian family right from Italy. My mom married into this wonderful family. Eight brothers and sisters and All that comes with it. I learned love, to talk loud if you want to be heard, lots of drama, family loyalty. My Auntie always said " you can say anything about your family but hell be to the person outside the family who says something about your family". At the end of the fights is love and that never stops...no matter what. Open those beautiful ears and listen to the pain. Compromise is the word to use for BOTH you and your brother. I feel you and your brother really need to 'put down the swords of the past' and start brand new. You are both missing and wasting precious time. Think about it...Please

Oanh
Oanh

Teresa, I do believe you owe Kathy an apology...she did get the kids during the drama. And yes, your children were left unattended during fight...it happens just admit it. The drama with your brother is sad, I do think you owe him an apology too, they are family.....and I agree with Melissa at least they pay their bills.

Carolina Girl
Carolina Girl

Team Teresa! I think Melissa is the instigator in this family fued. Clearly she was all about getting in the spotlight. Why couldn't she do it on her own instead of riding on your coattails? I am sorry for your parents. It is HEARTBREAKING and they deserve better so I do hope for their sake your brother and you can resolve your issues. Congratulations on your new cookbook. I know you are working this hard to help your financial situation and to seize the moment. That makes you a very smart business woman!

ViewerKittykat2011
ViewerKittykat2011

Theresa;try to watch the show whenever its on.Sometimes too much drama with family.Keep the family squabbles on the down low.Put the names of your cookbooks on and where we can buy them...Thanks.This is a great show and altho I was born in Jersey haven't lived there since 1947....Times and things change...Good luck to you and God Bless You All,will pray for you.....

Nicole Anna
Nicole Anna

Teresea, I'm with you all the way sweetheart!! Keep your heart full of Jesus!! You need to forgive, because Our Father tells us to forgive so He can forgive us. So, hun, I know you will do the right thing. You have a blessed soul. I live in a small town in MN. Even in MN we love you!!! From one Italian mama to another, God bless you and your family!!! May you always walk in His grace and mercy!!! Nicole

Alysha Brown
Alysha Brown

Team Teresa all the way. Melissa it is not Teresa's fault for what happen it was your husbands fault. And no it not Teresa who's not fulling any one its you Melissa.

LeeAnn
LeeAnn

Teresa, Hey Honey, I love love love you! I wish I could afford to buy your cook books! I have been watching the show since day one and love you more this season than before! Your a great mom and wife! You are a good sister too! I feel very sad for you with all the family issues you are having at this time! Your brother does need to grow up! But I think your sister-in-law has some potential! She is trying to genuinely get your brother to do the right thing! Please just always remember to keep the faith God gave you! It will all work out the way God has planned it! I will continue to pray for you all cause I come from a broken family also and complete understand where you are coming from!

Lot's of love from LeeAnn in Arkansas!

fairymom45
fairymom45

Theresa, Let me just tell you that the story that is playing out with your brother is almost identical to the relationship I have (or don't have) with my brother. I am the eldest and only sister of three kids. The older of my two brothers has always had a lot of anger and problems with his temper. When we were growing up he was always in trouble and I was always the one to bail him out, stand up for him etc...We were always close but bumped heads often. Now that we are older, married with kids, he has chosen to shut me out of his life. It really hurts because it is the kids that pay the price...His wife is a trouble maker and is not to be trusted. I have reached out to them a few times and have gotten nothing but the cold shoulder. It really hurts me because I remember how I always stood by him and now he has just written me out of his life. As it stands I have made the choice to just let it be and pray that someday he will see the light. I can no longer apologize for things I have not done and am tired of kissing a__ just to be beaten down over and over again. It is not worth the pain and the energy that it takes away from my own family. Yes being Italian like you our Family is Family....But where do you draw the line? Hold your ground and demand love and respect....If he is not willing to give it just let it go... I know how you feel and am anxious to see how this plays out for you.

Stay Strong! Dee

  # 1 Vegas HW
# 1 Vegas HW

TEAM TERESA ~ I feel the same as Caroline~I do not care what happened between you and your family. Just fix it !

JustStop
JustStop

Please, please, please listen to Caroline. She gets you and she gets Joey. Let her help you.

Speaking without thinking is like shooting without aiming. Dont do it.

Lose the husband and grow.

Klk0808
Klk0808

Advice: LISTEN - if you're talking and planning on what to say next you're not. as long as you don't you will be judged as the 'angry - crazy one' - don't give them ammunition.

buffy0504
buffy0504

Teresa- I cry every time I see you or your brother separately talk about the pain you are each in. I am going through the same thing with my brother- you are so lucky that your sister in law wants you and Joe to talk. My sis in law - doesn't want me in my brother's life and now my nephews- and unfortunately my brother has followed with her demands. We no longer live inthe same state at leaset my parents provide me with pictures and updates in regards to my nephew ( i can tell you that it kills my parents that my brother and I are estranged and I did reach out the olive branch many times- as did my husband only for my brother to laugh in his face). I'm am anxiously waiting to see resolution for you and your brother. I love my brother too- I love his new baby and while I'm annoyed with his wife of course I love her.

God Bless

Monica
Monica

You gotta love Teresa. Even when most think she's going down she raises heself up and becomes an author. Good for her! At least she's being a strong example for her daughters and not sitting at home crying and asking her husband "what ae we going to do". I love that they are working through this difficult time together. Thank god for Bravo and this show who has allowed her this oppotunity. In regards to her brother and sister-in-law, it seems that they are very jeolous of Teresa and her family. Her brother is crying about his father liking Teresa's husband more than him and Melissa wanted to be the center of attention at her son's event. That's really sad for two adults to act that way. The brother was obviously drunk and Melissa just made excuses for him ("my husband had had a couple of drinks", duh) I believe that Teresa is being the bigger person even making the gesture of writing the letter after her own brother called her gabage and told her to leave. I know he's her brother, but he will be nothing but poison for Teresa and her immediate family because he's just too insecure and immature. Good luck!

edawn
edawn

Bought your new cookbook over the weekend-I LOVE IT!!!!! Can't wait to cook everything for my family!!!!! Stay fabulous!!!!! Keep them coming!!!!!

VinnnMannn
VinnnMannn

I LOVE YOU T. YOU KEEP STRONG. YOU ARE THE BEST :)

Deborah G
Deborah G

Just thought i'd say, Teresa you are such a good mom to your babies and gosh things happen for a reason but i do wish you and your brother fix things between each other. you are family and family is alot stronger than anyone elses opinions. Keep up the good work and always keep your head high. we are never promised tomorrow so take whatever it is for today and make the best of it.

nanakat
nanakat

Hang tough Girlfriend, we love you.

mamacita420
mamacita420

I use to really like you. I really did. Teresa, poor child ( because that's what you are now, is a poor child. There is a thing called karma. You dish it out and it comes back in a different form. I never wish anyone pain and suffering, but you are really paying for all of the things you dished out, and the way you still think. You act like you have done no wrong and it's everyone else. No, boo-boo..... it's not your world. You threw sticks and stones. And look at where you are now. You need to repent and start making your rounds of apologies. A long list... I know who u are. And until you make those rounds of apologies, no matter how much sucess you get from tv and books...... you will remain unhappy in your heart. Imma pray for you.

Barbara In Tn.
Barbara In Tn.

Teresa, Just wanted to say I admire how you have held your head high and not let anyone get you down. I see you as a strong person who will soar high above all the catty, petty people who have nothing else to do but cause gossip that"s totally not needed. As for Kim G. She is a two faced human who needs to keep her mouth shut. Your brother needs to quit acting feel sorry for me and be a brother to you, I promise there is one sibling rivery in every family. As for your family you are an awesome mother and wife, Love both your cookbooks I'm cooking Italian in Tn. tell Caroline and Jacqueline Hello and I"ll be wastching in Tn.

Pamela Mickens Guerin
Pamela Mickens Guerin

Girl....YOU ARE A JERSEY GIRL.....we don't hold our tempers to well when ppl mess with our Family and Friends.....You Go Girl..... I hope your sister-in-law isn't on next season....I dont like her...She is a show off and thinks she is better than everyone.....I am proud of the show.....MUCH PROUDER THAN THOSE IDIOTS ON JERSEY SHORE.....Love you all!!!

Alysha Brown
Alysha Brown

Melissa why do you have to be so mean to Teresa she is family and does try to get along with you but your side does not try. Melissa you just need to get over yourself because your husband's the one who started the fight not Teresa. Lot of love to you Teresa! Don't worrywe all know who is the trobble maker! (Melissa) lol

Fenster
Fenster

Love you Teresa!!! I hope Bravo does not renew your family's contract!!!

DISNEYFAN
DISNEYFAN

TERESA LOVE YOU MAMMI - YOUR A STRONG WOMAN IN REGARDS TO THE SITUATION WITH YOUR FAMILY AND THE ARGUMENT IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE AND IT WASNT. LISTEN NO FAMILY IS NORMAL IN FACT WHAT IS NORMAL?. ALL FAMILIES ARE DYSFUNCTIONAL AND WE ALL ARGUE AND ALL MEND OUR DIFFERENCES. AS YOUR DAUGHTERS GET OLDER THEY WILL UNDERSTAND THAT. THIS KINDA STUFF HAPPENS. WERE ITALIAN WERE LOUD WE ARGUE WE LOVE ONE ANOTHER AND AT TIMES WE CANNOT BE AROUND ONE ANOTHER. JUST FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE AND BE THANK FUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE. THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO IS SUFFEREING MORE THAN YOU SO WHEN YOU THINK YOU HAVE IT BAD JUST THINK OF THOSE WORDS. YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS.

tria
tria

Teresa, I'm really not being hateful when I say you ar delusional. Do yourself and family a favor and listen to Caroline. You talk too much & you need to spend more time listening to people who are not as emotionally involved. The situation is always clearer on the outside. I will say that it was not your fault at the baptism, your brother was out of control, probably from too much alcohol. However, you do come across too self absorbed and righteous.

You saying you have more brains than your brother was hateful & cruel. You need to think before you speak. How would you feel if someone said that about you or your daughters?

You called your daughters godfather stupid on the episode tonight. If he is stupid & lacks brains why did you give him such an important role? Horrible words to say about anyone!

You need to wake up just as much as your brother!

Jadiva
Jadiva

Teresa, let's get real here. The Manzos and even Danielle shared their families last season. Now, we see why you didn't want your family to be seen on the show. You showed your parents in season 2 ...the trip to italy. Why didn't you introduce your brother and the rest of the family at your daughter's christening? They let you have the limelight...because it was your child's day. Why go to the table? You had already said congratulations. Your brother asked you several times to leave the table. Then you get into it with Lisa. This was Lil Joey's day, not yours. You constantly call your sister-in-law a "bitch". You are the eldest, but your brother is providing financially for your parents for years. Stop discussing your family with your friends. Your husband disrespected the family by not attending the christening at the church, but his "runs" must have stopped because he made it to the dinner. YOU WERE WRONG!!! YOU INSTIGATED THIS EVENT AS YOU HAVE DONE EVERY TIME. EVERYWHERE YOU GO IS DRAMA!!! YOU ALWAYS WANT TO START FIGHTS. You also owe your cousin Kathy an apology. She did get the kids away from the drama. WAKE UP!!! YOU ARE IN DENIAL!!! Your brother is tired of his family disrespecting him.

karenCakes
karenCakes

Dear Theresa You are so beyond wonderful. You have grown so much, and it shows. People are just loving you this season because youre real. The past seasons when you acted so so happy with your life and just loved spending money, rdidn't give many people anything to relate to or care about. Now, everyone cares about you. And don't worry, Mellissa and Kathy must be in shock when they read viewers comments. and how they are really seen. And they must be shamed when they read YOUR viewers comments - and trust me I'm sure they do - !

smm2011
smm2011

Team Teresa all day long... You did nothing wrong at the christaning or at the fashion show. I don't think I can stomach Melissa for the rest of the season and Kathy's husband is a tool with a big mouth. Your issue with him was how he tells you not to spend money yet he goes out and buys his wife a car for having a conversation with Caroline..really?? You are damned if you do and damned if you don't and what happened at the christaning would have been unforgivable for me. I think that Jaquline and Caroline mean well but sometimes you just need someone to listen and not to give advise. Here is a clue..if you hear the words..what should I do...then advise is welcome..if not then just be a friend and listen. My heart breaks for you and maybe if Melissa starts having sex with Joe 4 times a day he would not be such a maniac.

smm2011
smm2011

Team Teresa all day long. Look, I think you are damned if you do and damned if you don't as far as your immediated family is concerned. The way you were treated at the christaning and then what Kathy said to you at the fashion show would have been a deal breaker for me. The fact that they expect you to appologize to them is mind blowing. On what planet would anyone think that any of that was your fault. Kathy acted as if you left your child alone at the mall..that was such a low blow. Your daughter was close by with family and friends and was never in any danger. I don't think I can stomach Melissa for the rest of the season and Kathy's husband is a complete tool with a big mouth. They are all trouble makers and have made it so clear to the viewers that they will stab a family member in the back to maintain the drama for the camera time. They are just like Danielle...they talk of nothing else everytime the camera is on them and they are obsessed with bringing you down. They all look like they have beautiful homes and alot of money.. I find it hard to believe they have nothing else intersting to talk about other than you. My heart breaks for you and you are a better person than I am because what they did would be unforgivable to me. I think that jaquline and caroline mean well but sometimes you just need people to listen and not give advise.. You were not wrong in anything you did (from

Judy M
Judy M

I don't get it 1st off I don't want to come across as a hater cause I really enjoy the show and watching your family. What I don't get though is if you are trying to make up with your brother why do you have to keep playing the victim by saying "well look at what he has done to me". Everytime Caroline tried to get you to see that you couldn't even stop talking long enough to take any of it in. I don't think you guys will ever truly square things off till you decide to let it be the past and stop pointing the finger at him and his wife. I always thought if you could just stop already with the game of he did this and he did that. Be grown up show your kids how a grown up deals with these kind of problems. Just zip it..

Jilly
Jilly

Theresa, I do like you on the show however, I wish you would learn the lesson to think before you speak. You had mentioned at the beginning of the show something to the effect about having to make the money to support the kids and your husband. It comes off as a resentful snarky statement. I don't ever recall Joe complaining like that when you were off spending millions that he earned for the kids and you. I think he has tried to give you everything and more. You knew you had money problems ( maybe you didn't know the extent )but you knew, yet you never slowed down your extravagant spending even when he told you that things were tighter now. While I would never wish anyone ill will, I think that sometimes it takes a bit of a rough patch to bring people down to reality and humble them a bit. Men like to spoil and provide for their wife and family and so when you make a statement like the one that I mentioned, I would think it would make him feel small.

Aunt Pol
Aunt Pol

My sister-in-law is so much like yours it's unbelievable! She has turned my brother away from my Mother and I so much so that we have zero contact with him and were not even supposed to know that they had a baby. It's sad just how much trouble someone can cause and yet your own brother will stand by and watch them rip your family apart. I feel so bad for you Teresa...I only hope, for your families sake, that your brother will wake up to himself soon.

Mary B
Mary B

Theresa - Get overr yourself.,... Take some of the blame ... You don;t need to be loud to try and prove your right. People who get loud are usually the ones who are guilty...... Take a chill - they are your family and you need to women up - accept your part in all this and try and put your family back together...

attheleast
attheleast

Theresa, I would really love to see you make a few changes. You absolutely refuse to take "suggestions" from friends, but they have to suffer thru your talking about your problems - you can't have it both ways. The problem really is you talk sooooooooo much; you never shut up long enough to realllllllllllly listen to other people. You say the communication problem is Joe's. Wrong again sweetheart; you say they are Stupid; well Doll, you are not the brightest bulb in the package and you prove that quite often. At the fashion show you could not STAND seeing Caroline talking to Kathy & Melissa. Instead of just letting it be you starting screaming her name across the room in your loud nasal voice over & over to try & stop her. Then you said yu didn't care; duh; you obviously did care; you were jealous and wanted to stop it and you did it in a really white trash kind of way. You could do so much better by just not being the center of attention and LISTENING to people; let other people talk instead of you; always you.

flobe
flobe

Teresa, If you don't accept your sister in law your brother will never come around. They are your family "together" now. Get it??

La-La
La-La

I hope you and your family get all the fame and fortune you want, you deserve it! Keep god first and all else will fall into place. Many many good things are coming your way, you'll see!