Cast Blog: #RHONJ

No Hate

Caroline doesn't think Joe meant to be hurtful with his comment about Greg.

Hey guys, happy Sunday! It was a gorgeous day in N.J. and we spent it barbequing and relaxing. Hope you all enjoyed your day as well.
I liked this episode -- not too much nonsense, lots of laughs, and good times. Hopefully this is the start of something good. Wishful thinking on my part? Time will tell.
I give Rosie so much credit for sitting Joseph and Victoria down and discussing her sexuality. The easy road would have been for her to have Kathy speak to the kids and be done with it. I love that she asked them if they had any questions. She gave them the opportunity to be open and honest with her, and Joseph’s question was priceless, absolutely adorable. Bravo to Rosie, well done.

When Joe and Melissa were in the warehouse you saw Melissa in true form. She is constantly on, acting out scenes from Disney movies, singing, and dancing. Joe just watches and smiles, letting her do her thing. Cute, very cute.Chicago was a whirlwind trip, hastily planned, and so much fun. My brother Jaime and his partner Rich have been together for a long time, and it was so nice to finally see them happy and at peace. I had so much on my mind that weekend, and I was trying desperately not to let the negative feelings I was having ruin my brothers special day. Hey, I even wore a hat with a flower saucily tilted on my head like a proper English lady!

Let’s talk about Joe Giudice and the remark he made to Greg on the bus. I’m probably going to get crucified for this, but I don’t think he meant it with malice. Now understand that I think the remark was awful and in the poorest of taste, but I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, he’s like a kid, he just blurts things out regardless of how it hurts. Yes, he is a 40-year-old man, and yes he should know better, but when he said that he immediately took it back and apologized. Over the past few seasons he has made numerous gay slurs, and there's no denying that there's an issue there, but in this instance I think he was making a poor attempt to be funny. Call me crazy, but that’s the way I feel. On the other hand, I also meant what I said about him being a shell of the man I met a few years ago. The Joe I remember was fun, carefree. I truly believe that back then he didn’t need more than a good cigar, a bottle of homemade wine, and his family and friends around him to be happy. The guy could live in a cardboard box and be happy. Something changed along the way, and he’s become bitter, guarded. Sad, we all miss the old Joe. I’m not saying this for brownie points, or to be politically correct. I mean this sincerely.
Jaime and Rich’s commitment ceremony will resume next week. It was a great time, and yes, I did prepare a speech! Better late than never. It’s a wonderful, peaceful ceremony, filled with love. I was happy to be a part of it. Make sure you tune in next Sunday, love is in the air!

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.