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Wasn't this episode so funny? I thought it was. It was like watching the Griswold's family vacation, wasn't it? I bet most other families are just as dysfunctional if you break it down for TV time. Define "normal" anyway. LOL!
When Teresa confided in Melissa that she was still upset with Kathy (even though she already talked to Kathy and said she never holds grudges), Melissa tried to reason with her to get her to understand a different view, while still staying neutral. Teresa interprets this as Melissa taking Kathy's side and wonders if they are really OK. Truthfully, if I were Kathy and Melissa, I'd be wondering the same thing.
You mark my words, if you and Teresa become close again, she is going to drop Melissa and Kathy like hot potatoes. After you and Caroline gave her the heeve-ho, she jumped right on their bandwagon and all of the sudden everything was honkydory with them. No more than a few hours before that fateful night, she couldn't stand the sight of Melissa and Kathy. Why, I ask? Because she was jealous of them and still is. Believe me, to stay in their good graces and keep the family together, Teresa has had to bite her tongue and actually out and out lie, to get along with them. No one can feel such venomous wrath for someone like she had for them one minute and turn around and be in love with them the next minute. That is exactly what happened. Teresa will never get on Caroline's good side again. They'll be civil, but that is as far as it'll go. Her relationship with you is a little deeper. You were her semi-confidant. Even though she didn't tell you much about herself, she did tell you some things. These were things she could never admit to the others. You know Teresa doesn't like to look weak or vulnerable. She uses you too, Jacqueline, like she uses everyone. She is just about at the end of her rope with Kathy (just look at what's happening between them now) and she is not to happy with Melissa for sort of taking Kathy's side. So, those old feelings she had for them must be creeping back. That means that she needs her BFF back before she goes off! Unfortunately, you inherited the BFF crown because she isn't as close to Dina anymore. Please don't fall for her dramatics. You really did do the right thing by keeping your distance.
Jacqueline, I think the "language barrier" you referred to in this past episode is actually a cultural barrier. Italians don't like to air their dirty laundry. You talked to her at least once a day, but have never had this problem before? I think it wasn't Teresa changing as a person as much as her circumstances changing that has become a problem for you. Whatever your reasons are behind that, that's really your problem, not hers. I don't think Teresa is very bright, but I think she knows enough to know there is something fishy about your sudden change of heart.
Jacqueline, I never knew what twitter was until you told us about it. I got on because of your constant reference and WOW, it's a tutorial on how you're just slowly going off the deep end. I climb on there when I can and "watching" you there is just fascinating. Normally I would NEVER take pleasure in someone else's demise before my very eyes, but after watching what you women have tried to do to Teresa with a fervor and with a smug group "handshake" makes it pretty easy to lose all sympathy. Yesterday you tweeted about spending time with The Lauritas and Caroline at the beach. I imagine the reuinion pow wow you guys are having. Getting your ducks in a row. You're hanging with Teresa's family who wants to se her pubically ruined- it's all turned so nasty and bitter and really has shown us all who you guys are. It's all $$$, and we absolutely get that. You spent so much of your enegrgies trying to ruin Teresa that THAT'S why we have no sympathy for BLK. Why your husband doesn't "get" that I'll never know, but he too joined in for the "kill." Meanwhile, Teresa is moving on with her life, while you guys are pow wowing. No one belives you love The Wakiles, or would have anything to do with them, if it wasn't to be able to post a "tweet" abouy hanging with them to stick it to Teresa. It's turned so petty and Teresa just hasn't played that way. Someone wrote that "you guys can play that way all you want, continue to trash her, and say we're an army of idiots and that you don't care, but I think you do. I tried to buy a bottle of fabellini to go with a recipe with one of my three cookbooks, and it was SOLD OUT yesterday,,he said they can't keep em on the shelves. So Jacqueline, meet "pudding." We'd help you out with BLK if you hadn't been so determined to ruin a best friend of 15 yrs simply because she was making it. That's the simple truth,,,and I think most people know it. The real irony is you and Teresa re ruined, you and Caroline will most likely faze out into oblivion which will kill you guys, and Melissa has set herself up on the show to "watch the reconciliation" while she forges ahead with her pop star career. She got eveything she wanted and ruined all of you. She played her hand well. ANd you're getting the heat.
Jac. I have a similiar friendship with someone as you do with Theresa! I've learned over the years... that even if you are the best of friends... you don't have to tell that friend everything, if Theresa's doesnt' tell you all.. so what... Just enjoyed having each other in your lives ...
I just caught the table flipping episode. I forgot in all the ruckous that Dina screams at Jacqueline before they all part: "Jaq , you're so two faced"! Very uncharacteristic of Dina. I think Dina not speaking to Caroline OR Jacqueline has done more to Jac then she's letting on. Dina isn't in her life either. She told us. I think Jaq already being so envious of Teresa, allowed herself to be talked into the Teresa theory by Caroline. How fitting that Dina has come out of hiding seven times to say untrue because Caroline so enjoyed Teresa's demise at the last reuion when her own family turned on Teresa with Caroline. Now Dina has made a fool of Jacqueline and Caroline because Jaq and Caroline needed us to swallow that excuse so their plan would work. Poetic justice.
You and Chris are such a wonderful couple of people. He seems like such a classy, gentle man. You are sweet, kind hearted, genuine and sensitive. I enjoy watching you on the show immensly!
Ashley is your kid so you have to deal with that drama as it comes. No escape there, thats mommyness but, you don't have to deal with Teresa's drama and lies -she is out! and Chris is WAY too good for the likes of Joe.
Side note- I don't get at all what you are talking about.... no wet suit cause your "chubby"? You have a rocking, adorable, hot bod and a heart so big that it shows on the outside.
Please only spend time with the good one's from now on. Those bad one's might start to dim your bright light. Shame on them and shame on you if you let them bring you down!!
You haven't blogged about the last episode. But I have to say, 'Don't turn your back on Teresa'. There's lots more drama to come. Teresa wants your friendship just to makeherself look better. All she cares about is what her fans think.
I do think Theresa really loves and cares about you!!! Give her another chance!!! In my family we all have issues and as I always tell my family members " accept and respect people for the way they are, even with their faults !! Do not judge anyone and being a friend also means accepting them with their faults!!! Good luck you are very sincere and sweet!!!
Teresa is so fake, Jac can do sooo much better!!!! Teresa is not a friend to anyone!!!! She holds grudges about everything! She is not the brightest either - "ingrediences" - learn the English language Teresa !!!! She seems like she says one thing on one episode & changes it on the next - like the contract for the magazine covers!!! If magazines write lies about you - you can sue them or make them print retractions, but I have seen Teresa do any of that, have you??
Jacqueline, I think you nailed it when you talked about Teresa being competitive. It's not just a sports thing, it seems to be embedded in her psyche. She's probably not even conscious of it, but for someone who's pathologically competitive, her friends have to choose a side, and they have to choose HER side. That means she's "ahead" of her opponent. (Notice she's always creating situations where it's her against somebody else?) On the other hand, if she's honest with her friends and before the cameras, she's vulnerable, and if she's vulnerable, she's weak. Weak people lose.
Like I said, I don't think she's doing this consciously. I think it's a personality problem. I don't blame you for being frustrated. She isn't listening to you. She doesn't want mutual understanding; she wants to "win" the conversation by any means necessary. I'd say cut your losses and find a real friend.
That's absolutely rediculous. They don't know Kathy but they say she's willing to try anything. Teresa tries it & she's being competitive! IT DOESN'T MATTER...WHAT TERESA DOES...IT WILL BE WRONG according to them!
No, Teresa just wanted to know what she had done...Jaq couldn' answer. She turned her face from the camera when Teresa said the ambush hurt her. Jaq couldn't give a cohesive reason. Very revealing.....
Sometimes with friends no matter how close they are, there are problems going on that do not need to be discussed. Theresa has some issues, and she is in denial. But, I know that with real serious issues she may not want to discuss on reality tv, because of embrrassment. I don't recall you discussing on tv your husband's business going bankrupt to her. think about it....
Jacqueline - you are exactly right you want an authentic friendship and if that is not what you are getting from Teresa then you have to realize that relationshipseither grow or stagnate...and if they are stagnate the open up to distance and drifting apart.....Teresa has a different view of what she wants in a friend and I have had that myself....and at some point you have to decide that if you aren't getting what you need from that friendship and it is more based on a one sided view - the friendship wasn't as close as you thought it was....doesn't mean you have to be mean or never speak - but you put that relationship in perspective....and realize the closeness is not going to be there.....
I'm "on your side" ;)).
But I really am, usually don't watch these shows. But You seem to me a real person. I think it's cool that you are not selling out (especially your children!!!).
And I so so get You with Theresa, it is so hard to be friends with someone who NEVER NEVER admits that they are wrong. Why is she making her life so difficult??
docis Are you new to this show?/ I am asking you honestly because you would have seen her sell HER DAUGHTER Ashlee out.......
Jacqueline, each of our friends bring to the table different strengths and faults. Teresa has a serious problem with denial and some definite narcissism that she appears to need to cope. You can’t change that about her. But, if you find that you can learn to accept her friendship with her limitations, that can be to your benefit and hers. You just have to know the boundaries — what you can and cannot get out of your friendship with her. Once you identify those two categories, if you feel like you can still get some joy from the relationship, go for it! I’ve had to learn this about my circle of friends. There are those who have a number of limitations, and those whose limitations are almost nil. As long as your friendships balance out between the givers and the takers, you’ll be ok.
jACQUELINE don't listen to Caroline...she carries bad Karma and doesn't want any good to come to Theresa. Theresa comes from a good place and from her experience dealing with her husband, she has been able to be forgiving of the people in her family that have hurt her. I was disapointed in you doing Caroline's venomous work for her.There is not a mean bone in her body, but Caroline is mean spirited. Dina recognizes the meanness and disassociates herself from it. You should too
Noodlebomb13no I don't think so. Itreally doesn't matter what you think anyway. She's laughing all the way to the bank!
I've noticed that when you are alone with Teresa, you become more of your old self again. You want to be friends, but are struggleing with some klnd of inner turmoil. Your reasons for ending the friendship are not making sense (its like you are trying to remember a script of what to say) and it also conflicts with your crying when Teresa agrees with you that you two should go your separate ways. Add that to the way Caroline watches you like a hawk and consistently pumps you up with anti-Teresa comments and it really makes me wonder why you are going along with this tirade against Teresa that doesn't seem to fit your personality.
Jacqueline; Thank you for reinforcing that nothing has changed, that you are still the same person I saw from season one, who will not "go after" another at the behest of anyone, even a friend you love dearly. That you are fair in your assessments of people and make your own opinions, and definitely not a bully.
Although Jacq demands Teresa not make a simple reply to Danielle because, Jacqueline doesn't like her??? I'm confused if you are for this behaviour or against it.
Claudia660 Jaqs had every right to ask this of her friend...if it was Teresa...she would of had a cow!!!
Jac should have STOOD UP for her friend when the bad guy "Danielle" showed her proof of her SIL's EVIL doings! Instead she blamed Teresa. Teresa is BETTER OFF without friends like that!
Noodlebomb13 Then you are saying Teresa had every right to ask her friend Jacqueline not to talk to Melissa?
coloitalian so you haven't seen or refuse to read her tweets? so far from the truth. please.
These blog comments are just as entertaining as the show!!!!! With that being said, here's my two cents...
Theresa seems like she's living in her own pretend bubble and she freaks when others don't participate in her make believe life. I could see how trying to be her friend in fantasy world would get frustrating and be a little bizarre. Should Jacqueline have confronted her about it on camera? Probably not. Common sense would tell me that Theresa mos def can't talk about any of that on camera until it's over and done with. It seems like Jacqueline's frustration is that Theresa is trying to keep up appearances even with the camera not rolling. Even tho I think Jac's execution was poor on the patio/deck argument, I do think she was sincerely worried about Theresa and just wanted the truth about how she was doing, is she ok, etc. and just wanted to be the shoulder for Theresa to lean on. Of course Theresa immediately went on the defense because god forbid someone bring up something negative on camera that's happening in her actual life.
After the last reunion show I've wondered if Theresa really believes everything that comes out of her own mouth? Granted, I only see what's on TV but I just don't believe her. I think she lies, or maybe Juicy Joe really does keep her in the dark and feeds her different versions of what's really going down? Who knows.
I don't understand all the hatred towards Caroline online. I'm sure other stuff has gone on, but just the digs Theresa took in her cookbook alone, would make me be mean to her and dislike her. Is Caroline my fav? No. Do I totally get where she's coming from? Heck ya I do! Theresa is pretty mean and makes nasty comments just like the rest of them. To say that she's being ganged up on is far from the truth. She dishes out her share, just like the rest of them.
Also, everyone saying that the rest of the girls can't stop talking about Theresa. Well, ya hi, the shows are airing and then they are commenting or recapping for us. Duh! It's all part of being a fan of the show. I watch every Sunday, then I want to hear everyone's take on it after.
Anyways, I wish Jacqueline would just come out and tell Theresa that she thinks she's being fake and doesn't like it. It's like pulling teeth with those two. Get down and dirty, yell it out and move on!
ps -- I'm really upset Rosie wasn't on the RV trip!
Jaqueline you used to be my favorite, but you got too involved in Teresa's business, you need to mind your own issues, and jus be a good friend, no matter what. Maybe Teresa is a difficult person to deal with, but that's the beauty of life, that everybody is different!!! You cannot expect every single one of your friends to be as good one, as you say you are!!!
On the other hand you should concentrate on your self image and marriage, there is not a single thing men love more that a women with confidence!! I understand that you may not feel you have the greatest body, but your husband says he loves it!!!!, Rock what you've got before he finds someone who does it with CONFIDENCE!!!
Finally, you still one of my faves, but try not to let evil Caroline run your mind, please be your own person!!!! xoxo
I love you Jacqueline! I have watched EVERY episode since the beginning. You have always been a good friend to someone especially when others have turned against them. I used to like Teresa, but it seems that celeb status has really went to her head. I agree with the reason why you would be hurt by her. She knows what the magazines say, I am sure she reads them. She should not be offended if you ask her what is real and what is fake, especially if they put stuff in the article about you or one of your family members. Anyone's reaction would be "why is that in there, can you clear that up?" Instead Teresa's reaction is "I don't know why that is there" she goes in circles with her answers and never really addresses them, then acts like everyone but her is in the wrong. I would have more respect for her if she took some accountability. This last episode, you apologized and she said she has nothing to be sorry for since she did nothing wrong, instead of apologizing for not being as open with you about her life. I tell my friends everything important about my life, they give me advice and it's nice to vent to them sometimes. I also understand that some people like to keep things private, but HELLO your on a reality show, good luck with your privacy. Anyways, my point is, don't let anyone bring you down or tell you that your Caroline's puppet. If that were the case you would have dropped Teresa (and Danielle sooner than you did) a long time ago. I would be grateful to have a friend like you and people that are not..it's their loss not yours. The only thing negative that I would say about you is that you give more chances than I would and tread lightly with your future friendships..it should be earned not just given. Good luck in life and I look forward for the rest of the season and especially the reunion!
OK, I don't get these people, you all are supposed to blog right?? It goes with the job you have on the show,what's up with that??
Sweetie just remember she is crazy. I would tell her but she will never listen to anyone, but I explained this to my 15 year old girl and she got it. Just because you think you didn't do or say anything wrong if the other person is hurt or feels disrespected then you have. And you say to that person I am sorry for making you feel that way it wasn't my intenetion and I will think before I speck next time. That is what Teresa should have said to you. YOU ARE RIGHT
Jaq, I do believe you felt really hurt from Teresa, however I do not believe you came to that conclusion without Caroline whispering in your ear. Rewatch that scene when you were in the r.v. With Teresa. Caroline was not worried about you getting hurt, she was worried you would not keep the alliance. The minute I saw Caroline changing her tune on Teresa, first thing I thought or better yet knew, was that you would no longer get to be friends with Teresa either. This she was not really a friend thing is crazy and makes no sense. I would imagine the bankruptcy and these crazy tabloid stories we terribly embarrasing for her, I would think she just wanted some sense of normalcy in her life, and that was her friendship with you. You both talked everymorning on the phone, why wait for the cameras to roll to start talking. That is not real. So whats the real story, because it is really unfair for the viewers, to be presented one thing, when its really another. The story that Teresa wouldnt invest, or put her hot selling name to blk, is starting to make a whole lot more sense. But you got it wrong, Caroline is the one who has been a bad friend, and she continues to use you for her own gain.
It's been fun watching your show, especially the friendships between you and the other housewives. It's really sad that you are taking out the stress in your life on Theresa. On the show she has been a loyal friend to you, yet you keep bad mouthing her - maybe you should tell the whole truth about it or just let it go. I have greatly empathized with you as a mother, yet seeing you and the rest of the family constantly berating Theresa's family to her brother and cousin seems immature. Can you be honest with Theresa or just let it go?
writeaboutit couldn't Theresa be honest with her friend of 15 years? The issues are not one sided. And speaking of letting things go...Why, after talking to Kathy, Theresa just HAD to talk to Melissa about her "grudge"? Why not just let it go after talking to the source of her problem?
I get what your saying, but I was refering specifically to Jac's extreme emotions over this season. It seems as if she is not being open because her reactions are so much bigger than the situation - it seems like she is having a breakdown. If she can't bring herself to discuss it openly she should at least just move past her friendship with Theresa. Dwelling on negativity is really unhealthy. I have enjoyed their friendship in the past, and hope they both find a way to make peace.
There are many things that obviously has been said to Jaq. by Theresa confidence that Jaq. does not want to mention (not to bring it out on TV because it will hurt Theresa). Theresa talked and acted like Jaq. was a dog. She tried to manipulate her in the RV and it was very fake and for Theresa to say "I dont want know if I could forgive Jaq) Theresa is still trying to manipulating Jaq and I am dead azz serious. There are thing Theresa told Jaq off camera in confidence and Theresa does not want Jaq. to go and tell everything but it will come out AND I CANT WAIT. Watch and see on the next reunion. Jaq, you're a good person with a wonderful heart and SPEAK THE HELL UP DAYUM IT! You're my favorite and I wish you would get some back bone and put it all out there because believe me, to us (the viewers) some may seem like you're looking stupid but the bottom line is....There are many secrets, discussions and information that you know but were sworn never to speak about (especially while filming) However, Theresa (the con that she is, is throwing you under the bus sweety). Let it out and let her go. Once this show airs, she is going to realize her little itty bitty husband is playing her.
Jacqueline, you have not been honest and straightforward with Teresa. You need to stop crying in a corner and tell her, listen, when MY Daughter was going through hell all you did was call and talk about yourself. Then you can begin to have a real conversation. Teresa is too selfish to even think about your needs and all you do is cry in a corner, and she rubs your arm, and all of a sudden you are ok. That's not right.
Please! I want to understand your point of view and the justification of your extreme hatefulness towards Teresa! What did she do to you? Keep her legal issues off camera? Not want to invest in BLK? What?? Do you even have a valid reason or is it all emotional chaos that you are venting on Tre?
Seriously? What explanation does Jacqueline owe you? We have no idea what has happened off camera. I would hope that my "best friend" would be honest as well. All we know based off of what we have been shown is Jacqueline always gives people around her the benefit of the doub,t even Danielle. Perhaps we should all learn a lesson of forgiving.
She doesn't OWE anyone an explanation, but she IS on a reaity show discussing her relationship with Teresa, tweeting very negative comments, going on talk shows with snarky comments, writing blogs about the show that are mostly about her relationship with Teresa, all attempting to persuade viewers that she is justified in her anger towards her. It just doesn't make sense to go to all that trouble and simply NOT just spell it out. Jaqueline's kindness on this episode was over a year ago and she is obviously still mad, so where's the forgiveness you were talking about?
I so agee wth you.I have been trying to figure out the hatefulnes also . I thought that maybe I missed an episode ! Why is Caroline involved in all of this ? Who I think she has poured gasoline on the fire !
you have to watch the show, Been there done that. Teresa said to Jacqueline, "I feel bad, with everything going on" (meaning her bankrupcy) she said 'I feel I haven't been a good friend to you lately not asking about Ashely. How are you two doing?"