Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline talks about Ashlee's departure, Teresa's apologies, and the poker night fight.

on Apr 30, 20120

Ashlee's send off wasn't as cold as it seemed. It was hard seeing it play out like that. Although she had only one day to pack before she had to leave, we did have a heart to heart talk before she left, a hug, a kiss, a few tears, and some words of encouragement. I wanted her to learn as much as she could while she was at her Aunt Mary and Uncle Tom's for those two weeks. She still didn't know that her dad was going to surprise her there and take her to Texas for the summer to live with them, work, and go to community college. He wanted to retrain her as much as he could and try to get through to her. Ashlee is lucky to have so many people in her life that love and care about her and truly want to help. We just needed her to want to get motivated and help herself. She could only come back home when she had a concrete plan in place that she was ready to execute.

Ashlee has this crazy fear of flying, so we had arranged for her to talk to someone and get some medication prescribed to her to help get her through the flight. Other than that, she is not on any medication. The morning Ashlee left, she still had not finished packing. She had gone out the night before to say good-bye to her friends, and the next morning was a scramble to get her out the door on time for her flight. I don't drive to the airport, because I'm afraid. I don't understand airport directions. LOL! I also needed to be home to pick CJ up from school, so Albie volunteered to take her. He's a good kid. I also didn't want to take the risk of fighting with her on the way to the airport and have to send her off like that either. We had said our proper good byes, and I needed to stand firm and strong, although it was killing me inside. Tough love.

170 comments
nancy dunlap
nancy dunlap

I saw the chandelier of my dreams. When i went to get it was gone.As I was watching you today OMG I saw it in your kitchen. The alabaster and rod iron with the lion faces. Can you tell me the manufacturer. Love your show.

Oklahoma Viewer
Oklahoma Viewer

Im so glad you have relatives to take over Ashlee. Tough Love is hard but you are on the right track. She needs to realize that life is not a free handout. And your desires establish the lifestyle you have to WORK to achieve. It took our son until he was 25-27 years old to respect us and now he owns his own home and mentors other young men on HOW TO GROWUP AND WORK TOO!

dumpy1
dumpy1

For the most part, I think you are honest, real, true. We have 4 boys - Honey, it is "Nature over Nurture". All 4 born within 7 yrs - 9 mo, same parents (not split/divorce/separate), all 4 really really different. One we had a "situation" with much like you and kicked out of house at 21. Had it all set up, he was to live with Aunt. Didn't work out so well BUT we did what was right. As did you & husband/family as far as your daughter goes. She should be ashamed. Getting Tattoo, going out, blonde hair? AND a phone? Paid for by.....? On being a good friend to Teresa goes - I hope you stay true to your heart. We only see 5% of what might happen in your "REAL LIVES". Keep your friends, life turns on a dime. And, God gave us "Family" that's why we choose our "Friends". We should love our family, doesn't mean we always have to like them. All my best, D..

cj53
cj53

I see where this season is going. The Laurita clan against the Guidice's Shame on all of you!!

Michelle Chase
Michelle Chase

You've got to cut Ashley loose if you are ever going to get her back. She plays you like a fiddle. You expose the guilt you feel toward her, and she uses it to reel you in again and again. You have to stop being the victim and asking Chris to handle her. You have to go on with your life and let her figure out hers. It's going to be tough, but you can't fix her. Why aren't you in therapy? I get the idea that Jersey girls are tough and they don't need it, but we see irrational behavior played out continually without ever any solution. It just rotates around your little group. Perhaps you and your family need to tour the rest of America and see how the other half lives. It's all about STUFF which means nothing. I have never seen such anger in my life. That's why I watch it I guess, but Caroline who portrayed herself as the voice of reason is cracking at the seems and finally revealing her core which is cut throat and mean. However, if she didn't have money and what her husband provides her with, she'd be a scared frightened shell of a woman. None of you develop yourselves intellectually, or learn to behave in a more unselfish, dignified way. These things can be learned and everyone on this show has much to learn about life and how to contribute to the good of the world instead of lavishing everything you have on your selfindulging ways. You're afraid of everything. How do you expect to grow as a person if you don't push yourself beyond your fears. None of you ever grew up. You've all been stiffled and have not developed life skills to aid you in taking care of yourselves.

Medford
Medford

From the point of view of a 21 yr old who was asked to leave my parent's house because of my disrespect of my parent's house rules, it was the best thing my parents ever did for me. I didn't have a safety net like Ashlee does. It was find a roommate and make ends meet. I was working a full-time job since 18, but my parents didn't like me staying out late, not knowing what I was doing, etc. I'm now 50, put myself through school by working 3 part-time jobs to pay for it as well as full-time, bought a house when I was 39, and just got married last year. This is the best thing you can do for her, as I know first hand. I was always responsible, but having to fend for myself, taught me that I could do anything that I put my mind to and to be independent. Even now, I can afford to take care of all the bills if something should happen to my husband and that's a great feeling. So, chin up! My mom used to cry about it too (she told me many years later, of course), but it's the right thing for your daughter, your relationship with her, and your marriage. Tough love works. God bless!

HThomasKC
HThomasKC

I would think someone in your place with a bad out of control life, lawsuits, etc, that you would choose to scoop Teresa up and be a friend instead of being Carolines puppet! It's sad because you can read it in your words. You don' t even want to hate her, you are doing what you are told. Weak people are disgusting

MONTEZ
MONTEZ

jac wake up and see the truth about lying tre. really!!!!!!!!! selling a apology to intouch, how much does it take before you see her for what she really is a: who insults people then flips it on them, and who models bathing suits in front of their friends husbands, come on jac who does that, i dont care how good a person looks it is not cool. (its one thing to just be in a bikini in front of friends and husbands its another thing to model). its her way or no way or she claims your not for her, she has been ugly from the beginning jac stop being passive about her ugly behavior towards her sister-law and brother she has always been a jealous person and attacks if she is losing on the attention side. i know you know the truth of her charactor your justing missing the fun side. and then she texts to the bravo show with kelly O and you on, and gives kelly a compliment wow she is sly jac. she is not that air head she tries to act like ,it is her act to get over on people to insult and then play dumb you know that saying crazy like a fox - thats her

Linda Virgilio
Linda Virgilio

Jacqueline - 5 years ago I was going through the same type of turmoil with my son - he had several different role models avaiable to him, and chose the worst. We did not have the strength or foresight to work through his issues using "tough love". He committed suicide on May 7, 2007. Stand your guns with Ashley - know that your are making certain she has an appropriate base to enter the adult life. God Bless

West LA viewer
West LA viewer

Great blog, Jacqueline. I cried when I watched you looking at Ashlee's baby pictures. I am a single mom of a two year old and I worry about how my little girl will grow up, am I doing enough, giving her all the opportunities I didn't have and am I showing her how much she is loved. Being a parent is by far the hardest job in the world. At the end of the day, all we can do is try our best to do what is right and what is in our child's best interest. Based on what I have seen, you have done that and more. Bravo to you and your family.

Katie R.
Katie R.

I think you have always been a great friend and you really do give people so many chances! You and Chris are such a cute couple! Good luck with Ashlee, i hope she really is doing well now but it seems as though she started down the wrong path, i really do love you and i hate to say this but i couldnt stand watching her on the show, but i now we dont see everything about a person! if shes doing better now good for her, its hard growing up on tv! I love you girls of Jersey Housewives!!

Tommy93654ca
Tommy93654ca

Jacqueline , great blog , it's so nice to finally hear that someone on this show wants to forgive and be close again , that is why many viewers watch new jersey because we loved seeing the bond between u n Teresa and your families. When someone we love hurts us we tend to say things that will hurt that person , the more you love that person the bigger the argument will be and the longer will it last. I truly hope u and Teresa can take these baby steps to be friends again , their is love there at the bottom of all that hurt . The way the show is going with the constant "Teresa wrote this, Teresa said this , I heard a rumor bout Teresa and Joe". The storyline is getting so old and we r tired of the of the hate and meanesss and tension this show is about, we want episodes like season 2 " don't drink the holy water " it has u n caroline at audrianas chrisstening and you and Caroline started to cry when Teresa n Joe had their 1st dance wit baby audriana , that's what we love and want

kjilll
kjilll

Kudos to you!!!!! Best of everything to you and your family.

Viewer987543
Viewer987543

Ok, so I'm pregnant and don't know how to make meatballs. You were cooking some delicious looking meatballs in a skillet and they showed it for 2 seconds and I started drooling. Any chance you can post the recipe :)

VAlady51
VAlady51

Just remember to be there for Ashley...she'll love you for it. Try to point out the good things more and criticize less. She'll come back to you...you will see. :) She might feel lonely sometimes being from parents who both started new families. Where does she fit in? Unfortunately this is the side effect of broken families.

RHfanLI
RHfanLI

Glad to hear things are great with you and Ashley! The only thing I want to say "constructive criticism" or perhaps a reminder is that maybe, Jaqueline, Teresa didn't reply to your texts at first, because the night the reunion aired, you called her scum on Twitter! You forgot to mention that. I know for a fact, I would be so terribly hurt if a friend (former friend) ever said that on a public social media source. I'm thinking if there wasn't all this outside infuence (Caroline and espeially Melissa) you could forgive her. I enjoyed your friendship and thought it was fun and ou two had a special bond. Life is short, Caroline, both you and Teresa should put everything in the past (I mean for a show, really), and try without the others to see if you can mend your friendship. Also, Jaqueline, I know you like to vent and speak on Twitter, but please remember some of the things you say about/regarding Teresa and your private conversations (like you had to rehash again in this blog) are very hurtful and mean.

rukiddingme?
rukiddingme?

You're a much better person that I could ever hope to be. I'd have written Teresa off a loooooong time ago. Love you!

ErinChicago
ErinChicago

Sad to see the fighting between you and Teresa. I have watched the season since the beginning and have always enjoyed you two together. People make mistakes and I'm sure you both have said things you regret. I sure hope you can find a common ground and move forward.

quirkygrl16
quirkygrl16

First of all I want to tell you that you have always been my favorite on the show. I wasn't going to watch this season when I heard rumors you were quitting. So glad to see you back. Secondly regarding Ashlee, I can relate to her but I feel she is being so stubborn and rebellious right now. While we are about the same age (I'm 22) and both children of young mothers (My mom was 18 when she had me) I wouldn't EVER speak to my mother as she has you. I used to feel bad for her, thinking she just wanted attention,but not anymore. She needs to grow up and put her big girl panties on. She has been given the world and chooses not to use it. I'm proud of you and Chris from finally standing your ground.

MG39
MG39

Thank goodness the Xanax was only for a few days. That stuff is dangerous. And thank goodness she only went to LAS VEGAS for Two weeks. I was born and raised there. I love my home town but it's not the place to send a troubled teen. I see Ashley's potential too. Te thing is Jac that you are a reat parent. Bth of you aw. But you have to let the, learn on their own. She has seen good examples from her home and parents. She will end up doing the right thing. Keep that tough love going and you'll see the results in time.

Stay strong!

Rose Noire
Rose Noire

You are doing the right thing by your daughter.

I'm sorry your friendship with Theresa didnt work out. Fans are treating you and the Manzos like crap and you dont deserve that. Sometimes people change, and sometimes friendships dont last. Its completely normal. I just stopped being friends with one of my best girlfriends because she couldnt stop stirring up drama. I didnt want, need, or have time for that kind of silly and immature behavior.

You need to live your life in a way that works best for you. You dont need our approval.

XOXOX

Jenny Taylor
Jenny Taylor

I only hope you two can reconnect. Your the only one who gets her.

ChiPsych
ChiPsych

Jacqueline, I enjoy your insightful blogs. It is clear that you are empathetic to all sides; these qualities, as well as your openness and kindness, are great assets that many people do not realize in life. Have you considered a career in psychology, counseling, social work? You would be very successful.

LA viewer
LA viewer

Wow! Who needs enemies when they have friends like you and Caroline? You ladies turned your back on your friend when she is going through some really hard times. Sad.

Eileen (Brooklyn, NY)
Eileen (Brooklyn, NY)

I feel for you Jacqueline. I went through a similiar situation with my daughter at around the same age as Ashlee's age. Thank God things worked out but I do still worry every day. I cried last night when you were crying b/c I know what you are feeling. I hope Ashlee realizes what she had before it's to late and she gets her act together.

Mary87
Mary87

You have a great husband!!

Susie Q.
Susie Q.

Who do u and Caroline think u r???? Do not throw stones at glass houses!!! Watching this show makes me sick!

PaulHouse1
PaulHouse1

Uh oh Jaqueline, you didn't COMPLETELY rip apart Teresa. Those aren't your leader-" Caroline The "Crucifiers" directions. I bet she's already contacted you regarding your blog! :LOL. When will you all realize, what you have done to Teresa is horrific and we DID read between the lines. Caroline always transfers her plan into perfect words only to the wrong person. Another example: SHE was willing to destroy a family, to get Teresa out of America's lives. Fail...You "sort" really depicted dispicable behavior, Especially the talentless coniving Melissa, and her weasel of a husband. Don't you wonder why everything you guys touch doesn't work :radio, black water,singing,baking etc, and Teresa's does. Leave the dark side Jaqueline. The world is fair and miserable people like Kathy, Melissa, Joe Gorga, Caroline and her thugs have gone too far and we have spoken. That side lost. You now all look ridiculous rehashing. Tell your big sis to get a life. She really hurt your husband's new business. We have control and we despise what you all have done to Teresa from behind. As far as your daughter goes, I'm sure you have nothing but her best interest at heart. End of story.

Monica
Monica

I haven't heard anyone apologize to her. Her brother hasn't for slights on *last season*. When it's brought up, he blames his behavior on another person. How come that is ok for some, but not ok when you "see Teresa not give a real apology"?

I just am not understanding the double standard there.

Plus, I remember you going toe to toe with Caroline and Dina over someone you really didn't even know (Danielle), yet with a close friend for years like Teresa you are willing to just pack it up in such a short time and attack her or believe the worst? Wow..just wow.

Honestly, you used to be my fave after the first two seasons. What in the crap happened to you? It makes me sad now when I see scenes that have you and/or Caroline in them.

SourCandyxoxo
SourCandyxoxo

Jacqueline,

I love how RICH can say LITERALLY ANYTHING he wants (including burning Teresa on a steak) and you all LAUGH, but then when Teresa makes jokes they're "insults." I'm sorry, I can't stand Caroline this season. She's a cold person and Teresa hardly did anything to her for her to be treated this way. Melissa acts as if she wants to move on and ignore Teresa's comments about her, but her actions don't reflect that. I would never talk about my family in such a negative way to my friends as Melissa and Kathy have about Teresa. It's sick. The looks on her and Kathy's faces when Teresa walked into the room were so evil! And then her comment about Teresa using you all to make a buck was even more disgusting, knowing what she's dealing with financially! Those comments in her book did not help it sell...the simple fact that it was HER book is the reason it sold! This season it seems the entire cast makes all of the episodes about Teresa, Teresa, Teresa and why she's so horrible... It's ridiculous. I do commend you though for trying to reach out to her and move on. I can't say the same for Ms. Boss lady, Caroline and Teresa's so-called family.

Tammy and Doug
Tammy and Doug

Jacqueline, I love you on the show! Please don't fall into the bullying BS on your friend Teresa! You're one of the few sincere girls on the show! Have to say your patience with Ashlee is admirable! I would have kicked her out a long time ago! She has never respected you and she finds a reason to always go after you. Stop defending her actions! She needs to grow up and appreciate everything you and your hsband do for her! And yet she doesn't! My gosh you guys let her live there rent free, and have a car all she had to do was go to school. Shes very lucky to have you and Chris! I do think you were a little cruel when you were making fun of Teresa last season, it was hard to see you laughing at her when you and her were so close. I can see why it would hurt her! I hope eventually you two will work out your differences!

Donna Gagnon
Donna Gagnon

Jacqueline I love you keep being you, you and Caroline and Kathy are the best on the show Theresa should keep her mouth shut and stop acting the way she does and dress down she as the bigest mouth on the show I can't stand her I wish she was not on the show she thinks everyone need to listen to her, Stay friend the Caroline and Kathy.

DC Mom
DC Mom

Jacqueline, You and Ashlee (sp) and the rest of your family, are in my thoughts, and prayers. After having gone thru something very similar with my daughter it was quite sad watching the power struggle between the two of you--glad things have worked out favorable for the five of you; Chris, and the boys were also affected by this. As far as the relationship between you and Teresa, is concerned, we as the viewers only get to see a small portion of watch is actually happening, so I will keep my fingers crossed that you all work things out and renew your friendship. I just feel you both were coming from the same place, a place of pain. And we all know "hurt people, hurt people'...Stay positive & strong Jacqueline, you have Much to be thankful for!

Soncie Housewives fan!

iwespo
iwespo

Glad you and Chris finally booted Ashlee. It has been a long time coming.

Texas Lady
Texas Lady

Jackie - Nice blog. I think because Teresa and Joey were always close as brother and sister, she is jealous of Melissa. She can't seem to grasp she needs to give Joey the respect he deserves for his wife, after all he loves her and she should, rightfully, now be his #1. Teresa needs to back off and if she can't say something nice about Melissa - for Joey's sake - keep quiet. I do admire Melissa for all the effort she puts into trying to smooth things over with the family. Additionally, I admire Chris for all he does, especially in trying to handle Ashley.....when will she learn he has her best interests at heart? She is SO lucky to have such a wonderful stepfather, as well as her own Dad. Maybe she'll "get it" by the time she is 30. Teresa seems to be putting her best foot forward on Celebrity Apprentice.....perhaps she will learn a few lessons here. It's too bad she has let fame and fortune unduly influence her in some cases. As to the book, she should have known that once things are in writing...there is no going back. She owes everybody a SINCERE apology. Hugs to you and Caroline and your lovely families. Isn't Albie a sweetie? I felt sorry for him that the airport run was a bust -- he DID try.

s.elaine
s.elaine

RHNJ needs you!! You are the peacemaker, the voice of reason. Yes, you and Mellisa. If it wasn't for Mellisa, Joey and Teresa wouldn't have any kind of relationship. Unfortunately Teresa is emotionally bankrupt and doesn't have the intelligence to get past it. Not to slam her, it's just what it is.

MN Momma
MN Momma

I can honestly say that I cried with Jacqueline while she was talking about Ashleys departure and the situation that led to it....I am a mother of four and just recently had to say "goodbye" to my almost 20yr old oldest son. He too was lost and I knew that any additional help I offered would only be enabling him. It was, to date, the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I struggle each day trying to come to terms with my decision and how internally broken I feel right now. My son has always been my "reason" for wanting to be a better person and I pray that someday he wants just as much for himself. Jacqueline, my heart goes out to you, do not doubt yourself and know that you are a WONDERFUL mother!

vivolina
vivolina

The fair peacemaker act is getting old! I don't think you're the even-tempered angel you try to act like.

ellen40
ellen40

Your a great mother and you did the right thing!

InthePink3
InthePink3

You're too nice for this show. How do you emotionally sustain yourself among all of that negative energy? I would lose my mind. More power to you girl!

Whacked Out
Whacked Out

Enough with the 8 page long blogs. I get bored 1/2 way thru!

Vanessa28
Vanessa28

Jacqueline, I must say I am proud of you! It seems you are becoming the person we all fell in love with in the 1st season!! I know it is hard when your family feels one way and you are trying to stay true to your own feelings! I hope this is how it remains through out the remaining of the season, as I can not watch anymore with every scene "Teresa Bashing"...it's to the point of sadness...this is not why people watch the show!!

GGC-FLA
GGC-FLA

You and Chris did what you needed to in order to help your daughter, I admire you for that. You are one of my favorites on NJ Housewives. Joe & Teresa have shot themselves in the foot. No one can make excuses for them for their actions. As a viewer I see (what is actually aired) the way they are. One can only try to be their friend for so long, after that...bye bye. I wish you and your family the best.

jennbiwelledwardson
jennbiwelledwardson

Tough love. Why does it hurt us as parents more than it seems to affect our kids? I am glad you stayed strong and worked with your family to help Ashlee move on with her life. When you asked her to leave, you never threw her out on the street--you found her a different place to live for awhile. We don't want our kids to repeat our mistakes, but we forget sometimes they have to make their own mistakes in order to figure out how to succeed. As a parent, I've been in the same position as you and staying strong in the moment, no matter how our hearts are breaking inside, is so important. Good for you. I am glad you're in a better place with Ashlee now, and it can only get better. Thanks for sharing your struggle with the public, hopefully other parents will learn from this and realize how important it is to hold kids accountable and help them to grow.

Ramsey NJ Mom
Ramsey NJ Mom

you guys really crack me up....you all claim to want to "be there for her when she needs it", but why in gods name would she go to any of you the way you speak behind her back about her?? You can try to talk around it all you want.....but you all want Theresa groveling at your feet and apologizing for her success.....that is the truth. How many more apologies does this girl have to give? enough! I'm glad she's not calling you back....she needs to move on from all of you....all of you leave her alone already!!!!

MeFan
MeFan

Wow, this blog is full of excuses. You don't do this, you don't understand that, you have to be here. Get over yourself and stop following so closely to Caroline - if she stops fast they'll be pulling you out by your heels.

Dawn from Minneapolis
Dawn from Minneapolis

Your my favorite on the show...great mom, wife, friend, person. Teresa just wants all the limelight! When she says 'it's a joke' why is she the only one laughing?

Carri G
Carri G

Jac, u are a beautiful, in every sense of the term. Physically, as well as attitude. You are a WONDERFUL mother, wife and friend, and always see the best in people. Please dont worry bout Ashlee. You & Chris have done a great job raising her and now she needs to help herself. Trust me, I have a 17 year old daughter that I am gpong through something similar too, and I've finally realized, after a lot of soul searching, extensive counseling, as well as medication, I came to the conclusion that you need to come to, we cant fix them. I am praying for you and your family, and wish u nothing but the best!! I;m not touching the "Teresa" drama. Just remember, keep your friends close, and enemies closer! XOXO

Glenna Bible
Glenna Bible

I watched the episodes tonight and I teared up when you were looking at Ashlee's pics when she was younger. We took in a 9year old little girl, in 1984, when a couple at church told us about her. They were in and out of foster care all their lives and they were going to be taken again and put up for adoption. Their grandfather wanted them in good Christian homes. The other couple took her half sister. She is now 36 with 3 children. She got married the same day she graduated from high school and 10 months later she gave birth to her first child and was diagnosed as bi-polar. She was a pleasure growing up. I couldn't have children so I just knew God had given her to us. My ex and I have been there for her and the kids, because she has gone off and left them alone, always has to have a man around, been married 4 times and had 2 other men, in between husbands, living with her and the kids. They have been exposed to way too much, too early in life. She lies and even the kids call her out when she does lie. Once one of her boyfriends was beating her and the oldest boy rode his bike to a nearby church and ran in and asked for help, that her BF was going to kill his mom. The police came and my "daughter" lied and told them her son was lying. They have moved 17 times in 11 years. Is it any wonder the boys have been diagnosed as ADHD, Bi-Polar, and each have failed a year in school? The youngest is a girl and I pray her step-dad, who obsseses about her, will not sexually abuse her. I had to file for custody last Summer of all 3 because she went back to her abusive husband (abused her and the kids) 2 weeks after we helped her move away from him. The oldest boy is where he wanted to be , with his dad and he seems to be doing well. The 2 younger are back home and supposedly they are all in therapy and DCS is following them. I haven't been allowed to see them or have them spend weekends with me, because I am being "punished" because I had custody of them. and she is angry about it. Or rather her evil, controlling husband is angry and she is so weak she has no backbone to stand up for what she feels or thinks. Never mind that I had to protect the kids, she wasn't. Now I come to the part where I tell you why I told you all of this.........to make you feel better about intervening for Ashlee. And hopefully it will help you and her to avoid what we have been through. I believe in prayer and pray for them constantly. And talk about the fear about their future......wow, this is a biggie. I will soon turn 67 and I fervently pray, begging God to let me live as long as the kids need me and my ex is 78 and I don't know what I will do without him so I pray he lives to be a 100 !!!! So, God bless you and I pray 10 years from now you and Ashlee can laugh about it all and she understands why you all did what you did for her and she will be grateful. "Love covers a multitude of sins".