You are absolutely right, Jacqueline - I read these blogs because I want to know a deeper side of what was going on with each episode we watch. I want to know what caused certain feuds and why things are the way they are. I expect clarification when I read the blogs and I appreciate HONESTY when I am reading it. I don't have to agree with any of you ladies, but I at least like to know what I am reading is the truth. I know you get heat for focusing too much in Teresa, but the fact is, the is what the SHOW is focusing on. Right now that is the main story line and I know we are about to see your friendship reach a breaking point so ai appreciate the thoughts and feelings that lead up to that. Don't listen to haters. If you weren't writing what you write or saying what you say, they'd be bitching at you for something else! Thanks for great blogs and keep them coming!!

Jacqueline - the nicest most honest thing you have done this season and the truest friend you have been - is to Jolene - for giving her the opportunity to blog. Maybe you should treat other people in your life with the same respect you have just shown her and you wouldn't have all of these preoblems. And Jolene - God Bless you Honey - you are courageous and brave and didn't owe these RHNJ viewers anything.

Jacs - you hit the nail right on the head with your Teresa explanation - her behavior toward her sister-in-law and need for her brother's attention is WEIRD. She's all about what is said in front of the cameras, she didn't mean it when she said she loved her sister-in-law at the BLK party - she thought it would be a nice touch for the last episode of the season -

You're a great mom, wife, and friend...I hope you never change!

Jacqueline you're a class act. What a great blog and I wish you and your family the best! Keep being you!

THANK U JAQUELINE! EVERY BLOG IS BETTER THAN THE LAST!

I wonder how you would feel if Tre or any of the housewives for that matter, wrote even half of all that you wrote (dissected) about Tre and her life/behavior/actions/decisions, etc. OMG seriously? How about you step back and just love. Don't join the army. Just sit back and love. Tre is not being malicious to you nor to Caroline or Kathy. She definitely has issues with her brother and his wife and once in a while needs to vent to you. Be a friend, let her vent. Don't tell her what to do, don't judge. Just be a friend. Its amazing that everyone (viewers) can see what a slimeball phony Melissa is but you've all welcomed her with open arms and hearts. Whatever. Karma, karma, karma. Again, how would you feel if everyone was dissecting your choices regarding your early pregnancy, single motherhood back in the day and your very very wrong choices you've made which led your daughter on the path she got on? Wouldn't be fair and definitely is not anyone's business. Quit judging and name-calling, just love.

Respect given equals respect received!

Jacqueline, I really respect your blog because it seems so honest, compared to others who seem to be continuously trying to sell us their side of the story. You address where Teresa is being dishonest, and you address where you have sympathy and love for her. For the record, I think Teresa is on the WRONG side of most arguments, but she was once your friend and does have some redeeming qualities. I applaud your honesty, and I wish you and your family all the best.

I have a feeling you will get many comments on here about stirring the pot, sticking your nose in where it doesn't belong, etc. I think it's because those people love the drama and want to keep it going. However, I found your blog honest, compassionate and real, even if it isn't your blood family. Sometimes it takes someone on the outside (and who have been there) to see things real. Sometimes it's hard to see the forest through the trees. Teresa mentioned in her blog that she does not read the other housewives' blogs. I hope she makes an exception in your case and can read it with an open heart. I actually like Teresa, even though I don't agree with her behavior right now. I think that while she may be spoiled, at the core of who she is lies a kind-hearted, loving person. No matter what, Jaqueline, I feel for the real, true problems that plague all of you on the show. Good luck to all of you!

Aw Jacqueline I think you hit the nail on the head exactly here! I hope Melissa, Teresa, Joe and Joey all read this. This was the best Housewives blog I've read! You seem like a great person to play mediator/peacemaker. You and Kathy should join forces since you're both so level-headed.

Only thing is this. Teresa was given a very hard time for her cookbook comments. I agree the were unecessary and some even hurtful. That said, why is everyone coming down on her so hard for that, when Richie made the repo joke (funny but in poor taste and hurtful to his wife;s family). I hope they address this on the reunion. And I am sorry to say it but your SIL in Caroline is a big hypocrite on this matter (and several other matters). Her son made rude jokes about Teresa;s children - who ARE kids. Caroline wants to talk about protecting her kids, they didn't sign up for this blah blah blah when they are all ADULTS and calling a 5-year old a terrorist? Really? I hope they address that on the reunion too! Oh and the fact that Andy Cohen (rightfully) lambasts Teresa every year about her husband's use of the F-word (I agree it is appalling) but Richie and Joey Gorga do it ON CAMERA ALL THE TIME too! So Melissa and Kathy should be called out on this one in addition to Teresa.

You are so right. It was Teresa who put her family business out on TV first. As for Ashley, I hope that she is in a much better place and working towards a better future. I'm proud of Jolene for acknowledging her alcoholism and for her sobriety. Hang in there, Jacqueline!

I love you, Jacqueline. Always have that warm heart!

I agree with everything you said. Great Blog. You are a straight shooter and tell it like it is. When you get married, your spouse comes first, before anyone. I have no idea why Teresa believes that she should be first. I really think she wants Melissa out of her brother's life because she is so jealous of her in so many ways besides having Joe. I think its actually really sick and sad. She needs to get therapy. That is not love, when you love your family, you don't do or say things to stir up trouble, especially go and tell your brother that his wife might cheat with no real proof or basis. That was so low. How can anyone defend her. Your also right that Teresa talks about her "legal issues" when she wants to or when she is getting paid for an interview. Then its ok. I also don't believe for a second that she is past all this...that would require maturity and kindness and understanding of one's actions against others. She says and does things to all of you and then plays the victim by pretending she actually meant something else and she was "misunderstood".

I think you and your family are great. Keep being you and saying it the way it is. !!!! ( I hope this gets posted.)

Jacqueline..... I wait patiently every week for your blog! It is the BIBLE OF THE RHONJ! Well written and to the point! Oh, and SO TRUE!

Jacqueline, I think you missed your calling as a therapist! I've been struggling to understand Teresa's anger & hostility towards her brother & Melissa since they joined the show. I think you perfectly put into words what the true issue(s) are between the family. I always enjoy reading your blogs more than others because you don't try to hide or B.S. the audience. Thank you, thank you! Keep 'em coming!

Well written Jacqueline!!

You are so smart! Also, its obvious that you are a very good friend!

Jacs, Your blog is great.....Teresa should read it...perhaps she will see how totally selfish she has been. I think therapy would be a good thing for her..she needs someone, who is not a family member, to tell her she needs to stop having these toxic feeling about everyone associated with the show, especially Melissa and her brother. She does twist things around and she changes the subject quite frequently to get the heat off of her...really sad. Her anger and jealousy is just a waste of time and energy.

Keep being real...

your a kind person...kinder than caroline

Bravo, your blog was precise and objective! I hope that Teresa sees the accuracy in what you wrote, in reference to her (horrible) behavior!

Wow Jac.. A very honest blog. Well done!

Bravo Jolene and Jacqueline! It takes a strong person to be so transparent. I wish more people would be. Transparency is a beautiful thing. I can only imagine how many people you have helped. All of this other nonsense aside, this was the best episode because you are now sober.

Jacqueline, You are amazing! Such an unconditional friend. You are showing us all how a friend is supposed to act.

xoxo

Don't listen to the haters. You are awesome. I love how you see the good in people. Love watching you and your family. I love you and Chris. SO fun to watch.

Hello love you on the show don't you know by now you could show Teresa a clip of herself saying something on camera and she still would deny she said it or try to blame someone else? she has no common sense she never ever will like ever there is no reasoning with someone like her. :-)

Just stay out of the middle Jacqueline. It will simplify your life.

Very well said Jacquline!!!!!!!!!! You've hit the nail right on the head concerning Teresa and her brother!!!...although i dont know for sure since i wasnt there but didnt Teresa tell u about what she said to her brother after her brother already brought it up to her on camera at the beach, she knew the cameras were there and it was going to come out so then she told you about it on camera...i apologize if she told u before that but as a viewer it seems like that..Love You Favorite Housewife..Stay Real Stay True...

OMG I'm so glad someone finally called Teresa out for exposing HERSELF on camera. She brings up the legal issues....but when someone responds to it she gets upset. Almost everything I know about her has come from her mouth first. She exposed Joe's DUI, car crash, Joe going to jail, etc. She sells all these stories to the tabloids but when her family brings them up she scolds them for it. I guess unless you' have a check in your hand for her, your'e not getting the scoop.

Love you to pieces! Well said!

You Rock Jacqueline! I love that you are honest and are telling it like it is!

Nice blog. Makes sense. I can tell you really wish people would get along. I am similar in personality and try to see all sides, too, but once I see someone playing victim while being very much a participant, I also have to be direct. Especially as a friend! So, I see what you are trying to do with Theresa. Maybe someday. I have nothing to comment on Theresa - she is a delusional digster and that's obvious. I do wish her luck. I know she has to support her family, but the exploiting them the way she has on magazines is hurting them all.

I think it was very cool of Jolene to add to your blog. It is wonderful she is coming up on one year sobriety. Her blog was 100% ownership while also recognizing her accomplishment! I wish Theresa could take ownership and recognize the accomplishments of others - not just herself. It would go a long way. It is always admirable when people just say - you know what? I was jealous, hurt, angry, feeling low and I hurt others as a result. Today, I am going to own it all and move on, clean slate, and be positive about others.

Maybe Teresa should have befriended Danielle when you had problems with her. Isn't that what your are doing to Teresa. Knowingly, befriending her sister-in-law who she can't get along with. Both you and Caroline deliberately got close to Melissa to get back at Teresa. Or maybe you get along with Melissa becuase you both have a past that needs to stay quiet. Why you think you can give advice is beyond me. Both you and Caroline need to stay out of the mess.

Jacqueline, you articulated this very well. Most people with a modicum of sense can see that Teresa just doesn't GET it. The way she sees the world is that everyone else is wrong. Sad thing is, I don't think there's anything that can be done to help the situation. This is the way she is programmed.

AMEN SISTA!!!

Jacqueline- I love watching you and the way you are on this show. You keep things real and you have such a good heart. Lots of people have negative things to say on here and the way they feel you come across. . . ignore them. Continue to stay true to yourself.

Well said Jacqueline. Sometimes people mistake kindess for weakness. There is nothing weak about you. Finally, a voice of reason with no critisicm or bullying. Just genuine and loving thoughts and perhaps a solution to this mess.I hope you and Teresa can become friends again.

Jacqueline, it is very sad to see what has happened to the friendships on the show. Teresa had every right to tell her brother what she said. She was being a real sister. How dare you all turn it out to be something so horrible? Her brother is so immature and must have low self esteem to have to do this to her. I have a younger brother and I love him very much. I have had numerous conversations with him about his girlfriend, and he never once went back and told her, and she and I are close, but he is my brother and we have loyalty. He knows I am looking out for him and it is true Melissa can find someone else, and if she is in the club scene he should be a little extra careful. As for Caroline, you better watch her... SHE IS POISON. She talks crap. She likes to feed off everyone else and it is plain to see she is jealous of Teresa and wants nothing but for Teresa to fail. First it was all the lies with Danielle, Dina and now Teresa. You will soon have issues again, do you not see how she even talks about you and your daughter. Tough love is hard for both the parent and the child; I wish the best for Ashley. I hope you both realize how short life is and one day you will wake up and have realized that you wasted all this time. There is no love like a mother’s love. I lost my Mom when I was 20 years old and my dad just 2 years ago at 31. Again, life is too short for this nonsense. Melissa, you need to grow up and start thinking about how all of this is going to look to your daughter. Your husband is a pig and very immature. He doesn’t need to talk about his poison, he makes sex sound like a chore and something so nasty, how do you deal with that? Kathy, sometimes it seems like you are hurting and that you see that Teresa isn’t the only one at fault, but you seem to sway with the other ladies. Kathy, I can tell you know family is most important. As Teresa’s cousin if you know your husband’s comments hurt her, maybe you can talk to him, bashing your cousin doesn’t make him a better man. It just makes it sadder. Your kids are beautiful and so amazing. I wish all the best for you all, and hope that this Teresa bashing stops, so what if her husband WENT AWAY, let her deal with that the way she knows how, with a smile on her face. LET HER BE... Teresa I love you, and I don’t care about the tit for tat, everyone grow up, enjoy your children, stop trying to show up one another, and realize what is truly important. Teresa, I hope you find peace in life and allow your brother to live his life. You and Mel do not have to be close, but the kids have nothing to do with it. Always from your heart get them a gift even if money is tight, they should not be in the middle of this war. AND PLEASE stop saying you throw away everything that Mel and your brother give you and your girls. That is wrong, I know you say it out of anger and hurt, but allow the girls to receive the gifts from Aunt Melissa and Uncle Joe. That is the right thing to do, and also I know your husband is who he is but it seems like Bravo just wants to make him look bad.. I still love you and your entire family. I am sending prayers for your mom and dad.

Thank you for putting your honest, caring and insightful words out there for those of us (definity myself!) who normally view the Housewives Shows for lessons in how NOT to play small in life and towards others, with a huge incentive to be better as women and as friends, lol! Clearly, you have an active spiritual life and are sincere in your empathetic communication (aka; the ability to understand another's viewpoint). I admire those of you who can be honest about your own shortcomings, yet forgiving, loving and helpful in trying to resolve your family conflicts. Please keep it up--you are growing into an empowered "goddess"-- someone who has learned to detach in healthy ways when your peace is constantly threatened, or a relationship becomes toxic. That's such an important lesson for viewers who may not yet know how to do that, and allow themselves to be used or abused. You (like Kathy) are healers and peacemakers and it is very obvious that you both want the highest good for all concerned. Take heart, it may take time, even years, but keep doing the right thing and trust that people (like Teresa) are capable of change when they are finally ready. Like when they get sick and tired of keeping up a facade or the pain pushes them to it. Blessings to you and all of yours,

jacqueline, You are the naive, sweet woman who like the same type of girl in high school gets used by the mean girl. That's Theresa in case you didn't get it. I had a close friend like you in high school and for many years after that. We got along great and she was even in my wedding. Then I had her and her family over for dinner one Sunday and her 12 year old son, who I already knew from her telling me had a behavioral problem, closed a metal gate on my 3 year old daughter and hurt her hand. All I said to my friend as she kept apologizing was that he might need some help like counseling. I know his schol was already telling her that but she couldn't handle hearing it again so she chose to walk away from our years of friendship and not speak to me any longer. I still miss her. I think that is what will happen eventually to you and Theresa because you keep trying to show her in every nice way you can what she is doing to contribute to the mess. But she wants you to just agree with her and tell her she's right. You can only go so far for anyone and I have a feeling Theresa is going to push you to your limit. Ashley did it to you and she is your daughter. I hope you are prepared for it and try not to let it breal your heart. You have been hurt by those close to yuo too many times already. I pray for you, especially with what you have been through with Ashley. Just please, remember it wasn't your fault Ashley chose the way she was going. Tough love is hard on everyone involved. So many tears should lead to a path where it will be better, I pray.

Great blog. It's obvious you miss your friend. But let her go. Again Teresa has hate on her heart n hopefully it changes cause I know I miss the old Teresa.. but don't see that... she s very all about herself. Ugly way to be

I love your blog because it is spot on and from your heart. Theresa is delusional and incapable of seeing anything from anyone's perspective other than her own. I think that your blog spells it out for her in a way that her "pea brain" can understand so maybe a miracle will occur and she might finally get it. I love you and Caroline as you both call it as you see it rather than putting on an act like Theresa. Theresa is obviously being coached with her fake apologies etc but she isn't bright enough to be consistent with her act so she contradicts herself constantly. Keep your head up and keep the blogs coming.

Thanks Jac, for letting this unaccountable whiny women waste your blog space.I have MS, that's a freakin disease. Brain disease,are you kidding me ? I have lesions on my brain and spine,for reals. My disease doesn't give me a nice high,but it does make me walk like a drunk,lol. She's nothing but a dry drunk.

Bravo, Jacqueline! What a powerful blog!

(I wish I could leave it at that, but I have to address page one of your blog, which I wish you would have left out. Teresa only talked about what she told her brother AFTER he told his wife and it became an issue.)

Your blog is such a beautiful example of forgiveness and the power of forgiveness. You have such incredible insight! Really, you have a gift for healing, as we saw at the reunion with Danielle. Which is why I don't understand the first page of your blog is filled with resentment against Tre, but the rest of it is BEAUTIFUL! Just like You!

Jacqueline, your blog was honest and from the heart, if Teresa can't see that, then it's her loss. I wish you and your family the best...hope the issues with Dina get resolved so you can all get back to being a family. Jolene, congrats to you, keep up the great work, you've come a long way and I'm sure everyone is proud of you!! :)

Jacqueline, THAT was an amazing blog and so to the point and truthful! You really did capture the essence of what makes Teresa tick and it hasn't been easy to view...it's been frustrating! So, I cannot imagine being Melissa or her husband (or Kathy and her husband) and hearing those immature and nasty remarks from Teresa's husband show after show.... So hurtful, as you pointed out, because they were trying to mend fences.... I think, as I have always said, you have a kind heart and it's always in the right place. It comes from one of peace/love/understanding. You've been put in the middle far too often and it's just not a happy place to be as a friend. Teresa has burned some important bridges in her life. Her husband is so hostile. But, if you could just make her understand your main point-RELATIONSHIPS CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE!! And, they should! The dedication shifts towards raising your own family.... I think you hit the nail on the head when you stated that Teresa is so unhappy in her marriage, that the envy/jealousy just spills out onto everyone around her-esp Joe and Melissa! Kudos to your friend and work out instructor! What a brave thing to do. She's beautiful and young. Most importantly, she seems to recognize her disease and wishes to change her life. All good things! I wish you peace with all of it~Ashely too! You have a great husband and a lot of love there. Just embrace Caroline's theory and remove yourself when you're not comfortable. It'll save you a ton of angst! Best wishes!

Wow Jaqueline, you hit the nail right on the head. Everything you said about the dynamic between Teresa/Joey/Melissa/Joe was spot on.

Ok Jacqueline, respect is a two way street. Didn't last season start with joe Gorga exploding at Teresa at his owns sons Christening. He started it. He was drunk. Where was the respect then? Of course Teresa thinks her brothers wife has influenced him. I am sure he never said those nasty things until after Melissa. She probably told him Teresa changed since the show, which I am sure she did, you all did. When you look back, don't you ask yourself the whys and how the Gorgas came on the show. Now Teresa and her husband have talked about their situation. But not the days he was "away". They have talked about the up and coming situation. Thats their business and only theirs. Yes she did a magazine article about it for money.People want to know what she has to say. You do the show for money don't you? Joe Gorga brought it up at the beach, and tried to salvage the fact he did nothing for her. His poor excuse about talking to her in the past and she refused money, well she explained she didnt know at that time how bad things were. She was proud. Then he adds salt to the wound by bringing up another time he lent them money. Real respect there. Meanwhile, once Joe Giudice mentions (last season)that Teresa gave her brother money when no one else would, Teresa didnt continue the conversation for her brothers sake..respect any one. As for the so called private conversation. Teresa did not tell anyone until JOE TOLD MELISSA. Remember that Teresa and Joes parents are real old school Italians. How do you think they will feel about Melissa singing in nightclubs. Not the same as writing a FAMILY cookbook. Sorry not as respectful. Melissa is entitled to her dream, but remember it will have a cost. If they are ok with it, then God bless. Jacqueline you are no doubt a good person. I liked you best when you stood up for yourself at the table flipping dinner. Even though Danielle had a very very shady past, you would not let her be bullied by your sisters in law. You spoke the truth about how the book was outted. (Funny how there is a "book" again) I am sure that was hard, and i think that is partly why you won't go there again. I'm sure Chris and you both got a lot of backlash from that. Another thing, I think Kathy is staying a little quiet these last two episodes because she knows more than she will let on. She knows that Joe Gorga and Joe Giudice are a lot alike. It showed more last season, but I think bravo likes it better this way so the edit out all Joe Gorgas "reality". Remember last season when the Gorgas were at dinner with their lawyers or someone like that and the conversation went immediately to the Giudices problems. Joe let them talk about his sister-he respectfully stayed quiet?? Remember the sarcastic card Melissa gave them on their house, I wonder if she signed it Respectfully yours? One thing you have to say Teresa may cross the line, but she stands by her motives, she felt she was doing for her brother sakes, she believes that, it doesn't matter what you believe. If it was tit for tat, after her brother text to her husband, well than Joe Gorga, pull up your big girl panties and take it like you dish it out. Jacqueline, look again, you knew Teresa before, faults and all, and I truly truly believe she loved you like a sister. She respected your decision with Ashley, she respected your issues with Dina. She does feel betrayed, and though I don't think thats what you wanted, I can't blame her. Caroline is sooooo wrong, she is bent out of shape cuz of the stripper car wash, she will not let it go> We've been there before with Caroline, she holds onto a grudge. With her its do as I says not as I do. Everyone knows that she RESPECTFULLY NEEDS TO BUT OUT. That goes for Richie too, he is not sarcastic, he is mean. He flip flops sometimes, but his meaniness is so uncool. Respect your wife Richie, this is her family, hold your tongue. I cannot make excuses for Joe Giudice, so I will not even try. But like I said before Joe Gorga is not far behind him.

BRAVO - PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE POST THIS!

Jacqueline - This blog makes complete sense and I feel like I am getting a truthful insight into what I already thought was going on. Sad to say that I do not think that it will sink in to Teresa as she has already stated that she does not read the other girls' blogs (which I do not believe). She will have an excuse why she is always the victim and it is everyone else ganging up on her and not being truthful that is the problem. The only problem with that logic, is that the viewer can see on camera Teresa's actions and unfair expectations that have caused a lot of the drama in her own life. I think you are amazing and I love seeing you on TV, reading your blogs, and following you on Twitter. I love that you are truthful to what you believe and don't make excuses for any mistakes (or perceived mistakes) that you have made. I think RHONJ needs some levelheadedness to counteract the craziness and that is why I love watching you and Caroline so much (as well as Melissa and Kathy -- not so much Teresa). I am glad you are in a happier place and I hope you receive nothing but health, happiness, and love in the future. XOXO

I think teresa needs to grow up and leave melissa alone and stay out of there business.Teresa thinks she's right about everything she is selfcenter like her husband. I feel so bad for her girls beause she is the one keeping the family apart. Terese needs to shout her mouth and open her eye and see that she's the trouble maker. She keeps bring up stuff for the past. She needs to try and work thing out with her brother with her husand doing the things he's one that my be aa she has her brother is right she needs to hit rock bottom to see the truth.

Jacqueline, It must be very difficult to see your friend, Teresa, spiral so out of control. It is painful to see you put in the middle of this, It appears that she does not value your friendship the way she is using you. She is not a good friend to you, I guess you see that now. You are a one of a kind, sincere friend to many. I am sure that someday, Teresa will realize what a true and loyal friend she had in you. Stay true to yourself you are a lovely person with a equally lovely family.

Jaclyn, I so want to like you again, but sometimes, I just don't understand what you are trying to convey in your blogs. There really is no need (although I do understand some people want to know everything) to rehash every single thing that happened in this episode. Every single blog from ALL the ladies have included negative comments about Teresa. When will this end? We read the papers, we see the articles, why do you all have to continue to bash her? I know for sure she has made incredibly stupid remarks, but so have many of you. You started your blog, basically calling Teresa out on everything and bashing her. Maybe, you two can sit ALONE and talk about this amongst yourselves. Everything does NOT need to be aired out for everyone else. Then, half way down your blog, it seems like you have some empathy for Teresa, but stick up for Melissa way more than your once true friend. You've only known Melissa - what 2 years? How do you know what went on in that family. Melissa does NOT come off as a saint at all...she gets her digs in every chance she gets. Finally, I'm surprised you brought Dina into this, as I thought she made it clear she didn't want to be involved in all of this anymore. Is that going to help your family fued at all? I'm more confused than ever by your blog, but with that said, I do hope you and Teresa (again, WITHOUT ANY OUTSIDE SOURCES/INFLUENCES) can recapture some of your old friendshp. You two were very cute together, and it seems like she really cares for you.