Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline updates us on Ashlee (and her skull tattoo).

on Jul 2, 20120

I remember feeling this same way before the Season 2 reunion with Danielle. I went there armed and ready for battle. I had my gun loaded with plenty of ammunition to win. God knows what I thought I was winning. I had so much dirt on that woman that I was actually looking forward to exposing her, because I felt like she deserved it. Halfway through the reunion, I realized that this need to destroy her with her ugly truths was making me just as ugly of a person as she was. Hate makes you ugly. I didn't want to be that ugly person. It is not who I am. My heart is much too big to be driven to the dark side. I was allowing myself to become someone that I was not proud of. I got control of myself and decided to let go of all the hate, move forward, and not look back. The awkward hug was about letting go of the hate and the fight. She promised to stop harassing my family and move on. (Although she never kept her word.) I didn't want to become that bitter person then, and I don't want to become that person now. I've decided once and for all, to let go of all the hate. I know what I know, and that is all I need to know. I also know that the season is not over yet, and there will be episodes that I will want to respond to in my blogs. For now, I will continue to respond to each episode, but I will try to do so without as much animosity.

See you next week!

XOXO,

Gossip Girl

381 comments
Lilyofthevalley48
Lilyofthevalley48

My heart went out to u when u were goin the tough times with Ashlee. U did a great job, along with yur good husband's support. Happy times did come n hopefully u have yur daughter back. Good luck!!

NanaBeth
NanaBeth

Jacqueline,  Thank You so much for allowing us the public into your life enough to show us the true happenings between mother and older teenage daughter. It brought tears to my eyes and down my face when I watched how Ashlee treated you the same way my 16 year old daughter treats me. I was feeling like Wow am I really that clueless in todays world that my youngest daughter treats me worse than my older children ever thought of, and much worse than anyone else ever has.  I am so sorry that you too have to endure the worst Pain and Hurt a Mom can hear every day and in my case sometimes every minute of everyday!

I pray that thru your braveness of letting us in to see first hand that we are not the only MOM who's having the same Purposeful Pain and Hurt put onto them by their daughters! 

Thank You again for your loving Heart to allow us (the Public) into one of the most painful moments of your life as a mom!! 

viewerlainie
viewerlainie

Jaq, I do feel bad for you because I feel like you let Caroline talk you into ambushing your best friend. You are a nice person, so of course you should feel remorse. You spoke to Teresa every day for years at eight o'clock in the morning; If it was really out of concern you would have asked her then. She never wants to talk about it on camera and you knew that. Also about the magazines, the week you were on WWHL it was in the magazine with quotes attributed to the Manzo boys that Caroline and Aunt Dina are friends now. The same day I read it, I heard you tell Andy, they are not friends. The magazine even had a big picture of Dina and Caroline. Who should be blamed for that one?            

cehemise
cehemise

I'd stop being sorry about the fight with Teresa.  She earned what you had to say and what you asked.  You didn't get any answers, though.  I doubt you ever will.  I am disappointed at how many people have been bashing you and Caroline.  It's misdirected anger, to be sure.  There sure do seem to be a lot of bullies here as well, that support the "other" side like attack dogs.  That's way out of line and so sad to see.

 

I think you two were simply trying to get at some facts and were so frustrated when you could not get anywhere at all.  That's telling.  One of the other posters commented on anger "tells" from Teresa.  I think she was right on point there.  She has a lot of "tells."

 

You tried and it didn't work.  That's too bad, but don't hang onto it.  Move forward and put the problems and the complaints behind you.  You'll be fine.  And Caroline?  She usually keeps her serious face when she talks to Teresa.  She knows she's getting nonsense and she sends a clear message that it is not working.  Many people seem to interpret that as being nasty.  It isn't.  It's simply being serious and not overly emotional.  Teresa doesn't know what to do with that, as she operates in the realm of emotion only.  Doesn't make Caroline wrong.  She doesn't deserve all the criticism she has been getting.

jakkia.johnson
jakkia.johnson

hey girl love you but worried for you. Thought you in T where a good team I guess you have to stand with your family. I feel like they have poisoned your mind. It seems like they make a decision who to hate every year in you all just follow suit. Sad it is like a mean girls club. In Caroline is the leader, your the sad follow, and Melissa is that sneaky girl. You remember what it was like in high school.  I wanted to say something on your comment on the Kathy you can tell she clearly was not comfortable at that dinner look at it again. She is the only one making a big deal to show how she didn't have a problem with it. I thought in felt that the whole time if it wasn't a problem it would have been natural in they wouldn't have to say its not a problem.  

randrew
randrew

Oh my gosh J, you're just the bestest friend ever. I'm being sarcastic in case you didn't know.

 

You are obsessed with Teresa, she's all you can talk about. You should clean up your house and stay out of hers. And the same with the others.

 

including GREGG! Who the hell does he think he is.

 

I can only watch your show in bits and pieces this season after you all beat her up at the Reunion. OOps, my bad, because you weren't THERE!!!!!

 

Seriously, you need to get a grip and get a job, maybe that'll cut down in you drinking wine all day and doing nothing.

cindy1963
cindy1963

Jacqueline,

 I just want to say that I am sorry for all that you have gone through with this whole Teresa situation. I know there are alot of people who are defending Teresa but I can't understand why. She is fake, she lies (we see that on the show) and she is the one that starting raising her voice to you at your house. Did you see the way the veins were popping in her neck? Geez, the only time people get like that is when they know they are hiding something and the way they defend themselves is by yelling and screaming and putting the blame on others. I wish you the best of luck. You don't need her, it's her loss. Anyway, I really do like the fact that this season we are finally getting to see and hear your husband Chris. I love him, I have always thought he was great from the beginning. He seems like a really good guy. Hold on to him, he's a keeper!! I like hearing him speak because he is REAL unlike so many others that are just PHONY!! Whoever had the idea of letting Chris speak his mind and give his opinion on things was brilliant. GOD BLESS YOU, CHRIS AND YOUR CHILDREN ALWAYS! REMEMBER, GOD SEES EVERYTHING AND HE KNOWS THE TRUTH AND WE ALL WILL STAND BEFORE HIM ONE DAY AND HE IS THE ONE WHO WILL PASS JUDGMENT, NO ONE ELSE! LOVE YOU GUYS. ENJOY THE REST OF THE SUMMER (THIS HOT ONE THAT WE ARE EXPERIENCING HERE IN NJ).

kim_01
kim_01

Jacqueline, I know EXACTLY where you are coming from!  I had someone just like this in my life.  I completely understand your need to qualify and explain.  I have a feeling all of the naysayers will be seeing things in a different light when the last episode airs.   There is something seriously wrong with Teresa and if people can't see that by now, they must be watching a different show.  I believe that you are a real, true and loyal friend so to have someone that you felt was the same just turn on you like this feels like a death.  It is a death, the death of a friendship.  Teresa only wanted her blood family back in her life once she lost everyone in your family.   

 

People, the purpose of these blogs are to explain what the most recent episode was about.  It's not to make up garbage to try to fool everyone into believing they didn't see and hear what they saw and heard!

 

If I continually saw my "best friend" in the tabloids after she, herself told me that she was selling stories to them, I would be worried too.  

 

Please try to take a step back and just know that in the end, everyone will see the truth, including Dina.  I'm saying this for your own personal health and well being.  You just have to continue to do your blog about each show as they come though, that is what they are for.

 

I haven't seen even one of my posts posted yet but I at least hope that you get to read this.  You are an amazing wife and mother. Hang in there.  Hold your head up.  March on and keep on being your same, wonderful self!

dderob72
dderob72

Maybe Teresa didn't want to talk about it because it just reminded her of the many problems she was facing. She has to explain herself to the public constantly. And she has to explain herself to her best friend as well? You should have done what a real best friend does and not judge her. If it works for her to bury her head in the sand, let her. She has lawyers working for her to help resolve her issues. It's not for you to worry about. And how a person earns and spends their money is their own business.

monique513
monique513

You are so beautiful and sweet... Don't let anyone get to you, you have tons of fans that think you're great! There are too many miserable people sitting at home taking the time to put you down, if I were you I'd just feel sorry for them, I mean how bad must their lives be if they take the time to say mean things.. Keep up the good work as a mother, wife and friend.. Best wishes :)

lizzie5409
lizzie5409

I think most of the women including you and Caroline are mad jealous of T's hustle and success! You need to do America and yourself a HUGE favor and give it up after this season. All you do is bash T which is boring and you and your family add NOTHING to the storyline. And go out play with your kids put the Twitter down for a few (gasp) weeks!

PassaicCat
PassaicCat

Jacqueline:

If you and Teresa have been friends for 15 years, then you should KNOW the way she handles problems.  You would know if she was going to jail, etc.

Lighten up woman !  I think you are overloaded with Ashley problems, that you're transferring that to T.

 

Jstellmama
Jstellmama

You have to be fake! You're all upset that you and Teresa aren't friends yet you initiated it.  Grow up and stop your drama.

valgal62
valgal62

Where is roxygirl? Hope she makes it to the reunion!

george27
george27

Jacqueline -  Why do you spend so much time reading all these tabloids?  Do you have a job or hobbies or something to occupy all your time instead of worrying about Teresa. She appears to be taking care of herself and her family just fine!

george27
george27

Jacqueline - why are you spending so much energy reading tabloids.

californiafan
californiafan

Jacqueline: I understand why you confronted Teresa about the tabloids, it was out of concern as a longtime friend who was only trying to get the facts straight and any decent friend would do the same.  Frankly, I'm glad that you/Lauritas and Manzo's have distanced themselves from Teresa, it's about time!   Put aside your tears and emotions and move on with your life and other friendships!  I'm sorry to say but your connection with Teresa and Joe only made you look naive and dumb.  It's interesting that you still have emotions about this when speaking to the camera, but Teresa has absolutely none as she's only concerned with trying to patch things up with the Gorgas/Waikle (Caroline was right!).  Goes to show you who was the REAL friend!   

taffi
taffi

Jacqueline, Please don't go around spreading rumors that Teresa and Joe live separate lives.  It makes you look like a backstabbing, angry bitter woman.  ( notice that the same adjectives keep showing up ) .

fleurs
fleurs

Jacqueline, I hope you stay on RHONJ, but if you decide not to I would totally understand.  You are a sweet person and very genuine, I've really enjoyed watching you and would love to see more, BUT, you probably are too nice for this as well.  Danielle was trash and so is Teresa.

bbnyc823
bbnyc823

you used to be my favorite....what happened to you!?  Mind your own business..

gasalgal
gasalgal

You are a good hearted person & sincere in your friendships. Theresa on the other hand is selfish.  You have a one-sided relationship where she is concerned.  Your Dad spoke volumes in the few words that he spoke.  He is a man of great wisdom.

JlovesAvery
JlovesAvery

Hey Jacqueline- I have loved watching you from day 1...you try your best to be true to yourself and others which is such an admirable quality. And you care so strongly for the ones you love. I'm sorry about your falling out with Teresa, but sometimes friends are only in your life for a season, and that's okay. Your dad ROCKS. I loved your conversation with him in your yard. You are blessed with an amazing family! God bless

dderob72
dderob72

I think Teresa just wants at least one person whom she doesn't have to explain herself to. She has to explain herself to the media, to her husband, the kids, family, lawyers, etc. etc. Maybe she wants her friend to be an "escape" for her. Someone she can spend fun time with without being judged or constantly reminded of the problems she's facing.

 

For some people, talking about their problems with friends is like therapy and it makes them feel better. For others, it's the opposite effect. Talking about it just reminds them of the problems they're facing and it stresses them out.  I think Teresa falls in that category.

 

If she needs help, she'll ask for it. If she says everything is ok, then it's ok. She hired lawyers to worry about and help her with her situation. It's not for you to worry about or to try to make it all better. And finances are a private matter anyway and how people make and spend their money is their own business. And don't beieve everything you read, especially in the tabloids!

BGonzo
BGonzo

Jacqueline you really need to focus on more important people in your life like your daughter. Teresa is not worth all the heartache. Teresa has no concept of loyalty to family or friends. Open your eyes and stay as far away from her as you can, she is only going to be evil and negativity in your life. Don't waste your tears on her, you save those for more important people in your life like your husband and children.

 

emcee
emcee

Teresa is just a different type of person. I don't think she is reflective or in touch with her emotions, she's just one of those people that isn't fully aware of others. You were struggling and you expected her to be there for you but her personality is more one in which you need to tell her that you need her, she's not one to empathize greatly. Tabloids are tabloids, like she said, no one goes to them for news. I'm sure she does make money off them but I think she backtracked on that because she probably realized she shouldn't be saying that on TV, to protect the "integrity" of her business partners. She is a good business woman. I think it's wrong how everyone talks about her behind her back, be it greg, lauren, caroline, joe g., rick.. the things they say are really cruel and if the tables were turned they'd be furious but Teresa just ignores it no matter how many seasons this has been going on for and is still cordial towards them. Everyone spends so much time collectively bashing her , it undoubtably sows resentment towards her. I like that you and Chris never did that but do note that Caroline did put things into peoples head like when she said "Teresa is lying to you" or "Teresa is bullying you" .. I don't think Teresa is a bully, she's just a different breed that deals with her matters by herself and doesn't feel like anyone is affected by it and assumes others do the same. She keeps matters very much for herself. She's not in touch with herself enough to realize what a grudge she holds against Melissa and Kathy. You are a beautiful person, I hope you patch things up with her, she needs someone on her side and you don't need more stress and to be in conflict with anyone. You don't deserve to have someone be angry with you.

Kellyt
Kellyt

Feel bad saying this Jacqueline, but maybe you want to let go of the hate at the reunion because some truth will come your way at the reunion!  Sudden change in emotion since blogs 2 weeks ago.  

wendyjm
wendyjm

you have a nice life, you should enjoy it.  teresa is not worth 5 minutes of aggravation.

 

Sam64
Sam64

Watching the rerun today I realize that your situation is like Jill and Bethenny's in NY. Jill was mean to Bethenny and told her they were done.....she then regretted that decision but there was no going back. You were mean to Teresa and said that you were distancing your family from hers and told her to f off. Now you are feeling bad and want to backtrack.....too late. You may feel bad because it was not your decision 100% to dissolve the friendship.....I imagine Caroline had a hand in that as well.....what a shame.

louise123
louise123

When you were sitting on that couch at Melissa's "song" party, your face and anger were seething and the reason you were so mad is because when Teresa asked you what she did to you you could actually hear crickets....She saved your arse by saying "do you want me to say I'm going to jail?" And the reason is because she hadn't figured out this was all jealousy and Caroline driven yet....Screaming about any future money she would make would be needed to pay back her debt??? My god you are jealous, and this whole thing is greed driven cuz you flopped. You looked just obsessed yelling at your husband about Teresa and shaking in a jealous, spoiled brat manner. I believe we saw the "Jacqueline" who Ashlee faced her formitive years and it's emotionally scary. Teresa rose way above you in sanity and perspective. You did ambush her and your comment "it wasn't suppose to be an ambush, it was suppose to be an awakening" also told me you and Caroline were chomping at the bit to corner her on camera. Teresa ended up making a fool of you, you know,,,the person you were trying to expose. However, your comment at the END was fitting though.....I see you for EXACTLY who you are, only I was thinking that about you.

mu_doc
mu_doc

I think the Jersey housewives have entirely too much time on their hands. All of you should get a JOB, and stop obsessing over what's going on in each others lives. Bravo should rename you guys to the real DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES of New Jersey. 

teachncc
teachncc

Jacqueline....please let this be your last season!!! Without Teresa, you are boring, uneventful, and a snooze to watch! Thank goodness for DVR! Whenever I see your little segment coming on, I hit the "Fastforward" button! So lame! Time to go bye-bye!

 

Spajnki
Spajnki

For what is worth, I think you're doing the right thing with Ashlee and Teresa.  There comes a time that people have to learn the hard way, no matter how hard it is for us to let go.  All we can do is hope that we have done our best, either as a mom or as a friend.  And you have.  You've done all you can do in both situations.  Keep your chin up!  Things will get better and easier.   

 

P.S.  Relax and enjoy your trip to Napa!     Leave the Guidices home!!!

Ladygirl08721
Ladygirl08721

Jacqueline - Please do not allow others to upset you. I understand the problems with Ashlee, but you did all you could to raise her and now it is up to her to take what she learned and make it or break it on her own - all you can do is cross your fingers and pray. Now, as far as theresa, kick her to the curb - she is not worthy of your friendship. You are the exact type of person I look for in a friend. Theresa is poison and you don't need poison. Don't waste your goodness on her. Consider her backstabbing as a learning experience -never let her hurt you again! People do not change - she will never be a true friend to you. You have now learned that she has been a phony for all these years. Good luck to you and Chris - you are a beautiful couple.

Gail512
Gail512

I'm so sorry for all your problems with your daughter...you and I could be friends because when I see what you're going through I actually FEEL it, I've been through much of the same with my son.  I hope you and Theresa can patch things up, you need each other!

jmbgmom
jmbgmom

 @viewerlainie Does Teresea, the dragon lady, remember that it was you and you alone that helped her write that letter and then drove her over to her brother's house to leave the note that helped them start the dialoge to get them back together as a family. Teresea only remember's the things she wants to remember. I personally am discusted by her, her husband, and the way her family acts....

pennskee
pennskee

I just saw in a TABLOID that Tom Cruise left Katie Holmes for an alien....do you believe that?  Come on now...tabloids are for entertainment.  Just like this show.... @kim_01

 

Sam64
Sam64

@fleurs LOL! not sure which show you are watching. Sweet and genuine.....hilarious!

Tainayosoyboricua
Tainayosoyboricua

Wow! Nothing happen to Jacqueline, she is fine, the only problem that she has is being a very good true friend, which it's too bad Teresa is not a real friend like Jacqueline, and hell yeah it is Jacqueline's business as a friend she should ask her friend Teresa what is really going on, it's better when friends can confide in eachother and find the truth within eachother, but you probably saw a different show to ask such a dumb question...

LindafromFlorida
LindafromFlorida

 @bbnyc823 oh you mean like Teresa minds hers?  Are you delusional...Teresa is always butting her nose in Melissa and Joe's life.  

elephantlover
elephantlover

 @dderob72

 I wish there was a "LOVE" button for this post! I agree with everything you said. Teresa has to deal with her problems constantly, she just wants Jacqueline to be someone she doesn't have to answer to. Someone she can relax with.

Tainayosoyboricua
Tainayosoyboricua

Oh please, Teresa talks so much about others behind their backs as well, Teresa has done damages to everyone, she has not been honest to anyone, not even her so call friends, Jacqueline as a real true friend ask a question, as a friend I would want to know by them not by tabloid and I would hope my friend would tell me, not act as if I was going to destroy her, Jacqueline asked in a nice way she was concern for her friend, but Teresa took it wrong and bash her and made her feel as if she is wrong to feel anything for Teresa, when in fact she was worry especially what she read in the papers, and if it's not true then it shouldn't make Teresa upset, right there Teresa should have told Jacqueline, again Teresa was the one who said they were like family, she did say they were friends for 15 years and that is what real friends do, but maybe you don't know the meaning of real friendship, a real friend wouldn't mind explaining things to another good real friend, a real friend would not get so mad and start spreading lies to people, Teresa was never truthful, she has lied so many times, what show were you all watching?

fleurs
fleurs

 @Sam64

 The only way both situations are similar is that both Teresa and Bethenny are self-absorbed twits not worth Jacqueline or Jill's time.

SSpalmer
SSpalmer

 @louise123 You Teresa fans are really as delusional as Teresa.I keep hearing people say the other women are jealous of Teresa.What is there to be jealous of,,,,,,having a husband who treats her like crap,her manipulative ways or her denial when it comes to admitting her mistakes.Jacqueline didn't need to answer her it is like talking to brick wall...pointless.It makes me wonder when I see people supporting Teresa what kind of relationships they have.It can't be meaningful or honest because you don't know the meaning of a true friend.It sound like you and Teresa only want people who will pacify you and agree even when they know you are wrong and that is not a friend.This woman has been constantly caught in countless lies but you just like continue to blame veryone but the person lying.No one is jealous of Teresa.She is a miserable shell living in the land of make believe.I am so tired of hearing that jealous comment.I have been a faithful viewer from the first episode and I can tell you that this woman has changed and I know she has troubles but look around so does everyone else that still does not give her the right to act like that.Pretty soon that ego will deflate and those same people she pushed away with the lies and drama will be those same people she will need.Those people who supported her and were honest with her.I applaud Jacqueline and the other ladies because you can only play crazy for the crazy for so long and they did it longer than I would have ever attempted to.Truth be told you people only like her because she is a train wreck with alot of drama.

fleurs
fleurs

 @teachncc

 No!  Please keep Jacqueline and dump that moron Teresa!

RHWvwr
RHWvwr

 @Spajnki

 Um, this was filmed last year, the trip is over.....yeesh....

jenos9
jenos9

maybe she did discuss her problems with Jac but Jac doesn't emember because she has been drinking so much lately. I don't understand why all the problems w/Ashley didn't upset her as much as a story about Teresa in US weeky??

Sam64
Sam64

@fleurs Both Bethenny and Teresa have successful businesses as a result of bravo. Jill and Jaq are both jealous they are not in the limelight. I have not seen Jill at all since she left last year. The same will happen forJac. She will disappear after she is off the show.

Tainayosoyboricua
Tainayosoyboricua

Love you!!! Thank you for the comment, SSpalmer, I was wondering myself we have lots of Teresa's fan here, whew! I thought I was the only one that noticed.  You are so right in your comment, it's so true.

fleurs
fleurs

 @RHWvwr

 So what?  That comment was necessary to post?  Sheesh