Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline admires Rosie and Jaime's courage to be out and proud on national TV.

on Jun 3, 2012

It breaks my heart that there are still so many people in this world that are fighting inside themselves to suppress their feelings, afraid and ashamed to "come out" because of the fear of what others might say and think about them. People have so much anxiety about "coming out" to their loved ones and to society. It's as if they are made to feel that they are actually feeling something wrong. LOVE of others, no matter what sex they are and no matter what sex YOU are, is NOT wrong! It's STILL love. Not knowing whether you will be rejected or accepted has got to cause incredible anxiety. Guess what? There are a LOT of OTHER things in your life that people are going to be judging you for, so you should just let people judge away while you are happy and confident being yourself in order to get what you really want in life. In the worst circumstance people struggle so badly with their fear of not being accepted and that their relationships will change once they come out, that they contemplate suicide. SUICIDE SHOULD NEVER BE AN OPTION! ANY kind of change in your life can be awkward and hard at first, before getting acclimated. Have the belief that everything will eventually fall into place. It always does.

 

Let me make you understand something. NOBODY is living your daily life but YOU! Honestly, if someone who loves you today, wouldn't love you tomorrow because of your sexual preference, then those may not be the right people that you should have in your life anyway and there is probably a reason that you don't feel comfortable around them even BEFORE "coming out". Those that truly love you, will continue to love you. Some may just need time to adjust, but they will eventually accept it and come around. It is usually more of an issue of theirs and has nothing to do with you. Surround yourself with those who support you. They are plenty of support groups out there if you don't have those people in your life. ALWAYS  live your life feeling free to be who you are for the sake of your own happiness.

If there are some people you love that can't accept who you are, all you can do is educate them, pray for them, and hope that someday they will understand. I know it can be hurtful, when people you love reject you, but regardless, there will always be people in this lifetime that you love that will hurt you at some point anyway. That is when you find your inner-strength, you learn to deal with it, and you move on. You will find support, acceptance and love again.