Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline Laurita weighs in on the fight and opens up about her son's autism.

on Aug 27, 20120

The trip was nearly over, and I had a lot going on in my head at the time. Most of you have already heard the news that my youngest son, Nicholas, has been diagnosed with autism. This trip came at a time where it was all coming to a head. The entire cast and crew knew at this point that we were dealing with some serious issues with my son, but we just didn't have a label on it yet. The cast and crew, including Teresa (surprisingly), respected that until we got the diagnosis and a treatment plan in place for our son, we wanted to keep it private. At this point, it was a race to get him help and every step of the way was another waiting game. Waiting to get in to see different doctors, waiting for insurance, waiting for home therapy, putting a diet and supplement plan into place, researching and seeking out help, etc. It consumed me. The petty, redundant drama was like static in my ears or like nails on a chalkboard. I was SO OVER IT!

Caroline was not playing the game and may have come across a bit harsh at times. Caroline was being REAL while others were not. I, personally, couldn't take the fighting anymore. None of it mattered to me anymore.

383 comments
tasunkewakinyan
tasunkewakinyan

Hi, Jacqueline. I want you to know that I think you are an amazing person! Anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you. That other woman whose name I am not going to even mention next to your name is disgusting and I am glad you got away from her. Good for you on making more awareness on Autism and my heart bleed for you when you talked about it. 

maryann.mestre
maryann.mestre

Hi Jacqueline, I am a single mother of 5 and one of my children is autistic. He is my second oldest and he is 18 years old now. He is the love of my life. He was diagnosed when he was 1. He did not walk or say any words until he was 2. He did not spoon feed until he was 2 as well. I would have to puree his food and feed him through his bottle because he would choke on solid foods. It has been a up and down struggle but with all the therapy that he has been receiving, he is high functioning. He does everything for himself. He is more socialable, he makes alot more eye contact when he is speaking to you. Everyone that meets him for the first time falls in love with him. He does regress every once in awhile but he snaps out of it. I just want to tell you that I do feel what you are going through and my heart goes out to you and your family. Even though your son does not tell you verbally that he loves you but just look into his eyes when you tell him and you will see that he is saying it back to you. He will tell you that he loves you again. Wish you and your family the best.

gml019
gml019

Hi Jacqueline,  Have you and your husband looked into the possibility of your son having allergies?  Remember how Jenni McCarthy's son was diagnosed as autistic, but later they realized he just had bad allergies that caused a misdiagnosis of autism? I am sure you are getting many different opinions from many doctors, but keep asking them.  I had an issue with my daughter.  I felt like I had three different doctors all telling me the same thing (and my husband agreeing with them).  I just kept asking doctors, and I finally found one that had a different opinion.....and he was right in the end!  Not all doctors know everything, even if they have the best intentions.  I don't usually write in blogs or even read them.  I do have to tell you that I do like you and all of the housewives.  Some of you have done things I don't like, but haven't we all?  I don't think you are right about Theresa knowing about the setup.  I guess I would be considered "team Theresa" bc I think she is getting attacked for the wrong things, in many instances.  Has she made mistakes?  Yes!  Kathy is a manipulator.  The only reason I sense that there is some good in her is bc her kids are so good.  I think she is a "not so nice" person that is only just sometimes nice.  When i watch the episodes I think that you must change your opinions once you watch the episodes.  Ever heard of "mob mentality" ?  It is when people do things they may not normally do bc there are people around them saying/doing it...they just get caught up in it.  I feel like there are too many people saying negative things about Theresa and everyone else gets that mob mentality.  Like I said, she may make it easier to attack her bc she has made mistakes.  Theresa gets so heated that she blurts out things she shouldn't (like saying Caroline had blubber).  If she just stayed quiet I think more people would actually agree with her.  I don't blame her for getting so heated though....wouldn't you be mad if you were being attacked?   I like you a lot, but you are wrong here.  I like Melissa too.  Of course she was mortified when that guy approached her about dancing.  It was embarrassing, but she made a mistake in her past and it is over...who cares??  In that bad time it was easiest to turn around and blame it on Theresa.  Plus it misdirected everyone's attention, didn't it?   On the episode don't you think it was weird when you heard her whisper to her husband, "say shame on you to your sister"??  Plus, she said to him right away, "it was your sister".  A trusting husband, or a man that doesn't know how women can operate"  would easily just assume.  Caroline is wrong too.  She wants to not like her (bc of issues we don't see with Dina maybe??).  I think Caroline is twisting anything Theresa says.  It is easy to do, and even easier to get people to agree with you.  Like I said about all of those doctors telling me about the issue with my daughter...they were all wrong.  And, they would be easy to believe bc they, after all, are all highly respected doctors.  Sometime you don't need to listen to other people...you know what is right. You may never be friends with Theresa after all of this, but it is never too late to admit you were wrong with some things....to get out of the mob mentality.

katnmat
katnmat

I don't normally follow your blog, but I felt lead to read and reply to this one. I also have an autistic son. He is almost 6. He hasn't talked with words since he was maybe one. He is my angel. He is still speaks to me with his smiles and hugs and kisses. I know that every day is a struggle, but it is worth it. It will be a hard journey, but it is worth it. I always say that God gave every person everything they need to be exactly who they are meant to be. God has a plan.

paula-paula3
paula-paula3

Jacqueline, my little brother was diagnosed with autism when he was three and I was four. I absolutely love him to pieces and he is my best friend. He is so affectionate. All he does is tell my mom how much he loves her and hugs and kisses her all the time. I promise you Nicholas will tell you he loves you again. God bless you, Nicholas, and the rest of your family.

marmart924
marmart924

Jacqueline in my opinion you're a wonderful person and a great friend.  Too bad Teresa couldn't value that.  I'd love to have you in my circle of friends, no drama here my friend, we're small and close knit.  On a different note, i to am a mother of an autistic child, actually 2 infact.  Both my son and daughter are austic.  My son, also named Nicholas will be 13 (9/26), and my daugher (Amarylis) is 11.  It was the hardest thing i had to deal with in my life.  But i've decided that as long as my children are happy, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!!  You hang in there Jac!!!  Remember special kids, special parents!  God will see you through this! All the best to you and your family!!!

geminilady
geminilady

Jacqueline, from one mom of a child with autism spectrum disorder (age 5) to another, thank you so much for going public about Nicholas' dx! Awaremess is so important and sharing your story only helps the rest of us! I think you are such a loving, caring, compassionate individual and you certainly don't need the kind of drama Teresa brings to your life combined with dealing with your adorable son's needs. Much love and best of luck! XO 

jennifer.quinones.5
jennifer.quinones.5

I have a son as well with Autism.  He is now 6 and we have thankfully gotten rid of many of his Autistic signs.  He is highly verbal, and we did everything that you are embarking on.  Gluten free, ABA therapy, full school day at three.  The one thing that I can say to you is that my son remembers EVERYTHING from his early infancy.  Even when I didn't know he was aware, he was.  For Gabe (my son) we found the 1 thing that made him look at us in the eyes and did it over and over and over again.  For our son it was music.  He learned to sing before he could talk.  When they are looking at you keep doing what interests them.  These early years are so important to his success.  Find the obsession and then use it to teach him.  Good luck to you!

DebKS
DebKS

Jacqueline, thank you for sharing about Nicholas. You seem to be a good parent and are intent on doing what is best for him, that is what is important.  I really understood what you went through with Ashley,  my son was similar and my husband and I had to make some tough decisions, thankfully, he is doing well now.  Letting go is the hardest thing to do.   

 

krking
krking

If you had been a true friend to Teresa you would have known that she didn't want to talk about financial matters or her husband possibly going to jail while being taped. In fact they were probably told by their lawyer not to discuss these things because then it could be used against them. That is why she says with a nervous laugh that she'll give you her lawyer's number.

How can you not see that your sister-in-law does not want you to be Teresa's friend. I think you should ask your husband why Caroline miraculously showed up while you and T were on the deck. Either he made a phone call or you knew she was coming over.

All this discussion with your family in the RV about what your plans are to have or not have a friendship with T and what kind of relationship you should have collectively as a family with the Gorgas and Wakilies...  It looks like you are taking a vote! It all comes back to the fact that it appears as though no one in the Manzo family can have a relationship with anyone outside the family without it being approved by Caroline. Note the disgusted look on her face and the way she turns her head when she proclaims that she is "done." I believe Caroline's biggest resentment with T has to do with the fact that T and Dina are still friendly while Dina is not even speaking to Caroline. She is jealous of both of their successes. She wants everyone to side with her. Why can't you see that she wants to divide T's family to get back at T for  what she believes is the reason for her own alienation within her own family. So sad.

Why does Bravo air these things out of sequence. T's launch party was in October, after the Posh party, after the taping of the 2011 Reunion show, so why would you feel hurt that you were not invited ? You accused T of setting Melissa up, without proof !

If I were T I wouldn't want you as a friend.

 

AnairamVega
AnairamVega

I am watching you on the Anderson show as i type and I feel so proud of you! I have a son with Autism as well and I know how difficult and lonely it can get some times. I am sure that your coming out will help so many of us who sometimes feel like no one understands. Don't ever loose hope. There are a lot of treatments and therapies that can have great results. Lots of you and prayers for you and your family!

fixit
fixit

Seems to me that Caroline is the one you need to watch out for.  It's disappointing.  She consistently will say to Teresa's family that she doesn't want to get involved, it's family, they need to work things out, etc. being seemingly supportive to Kathy and Melissa, however, she follows that up with her even more exaggerated stories pertaining to sequence of events with Teresa.  Calling her garbage, disgusting.  Stirring the pot.  Telling her family over and over that Teresa told everyone not to speak to them. (so tired of hearing that) Seriously, Does Caroline really think that Teresa could brain wash you into doing as she wants? "Jacqueline did blah blah because Teresa told her to" .  funny!   It seems Caroline is the one attempting to purposely create a wedge within families.  I believe this is because she feels that Teresa has turned her sister against her.  HOW MANY TIMES does Dina need to publicly (in interviews) state that Teresa has had no involvement for Caroline to actually believe it??  I don't think Teresa is "intentionally" malicious.  I think she is embarrassed of what she has done in order to make money,  blinded by her own deeds and doesn't want it outed on tv.. She certainly has a difficult time telling the truth.  In general there is a lot of dishonesty and avoidance because you are on camera.   Every single one of you joined the show for either money or fame.  Simple as that.  Glad you're over it!

jaynagowski
jaynagowski

I have a son who is 10 years old now and was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 3. When I heard this I thought my world crumpled and blamed myself. Kubrick turned out to be one of the happiest, loving, brillant little boys who light up everyones life. There are so many programs out there, that can help your son. Start early with the programs and remember to never treat him as a "label" treat him as you would your other children.  Just talk a deep breath and remember you have support.

 

lhuggett
lhuggett

jac happy to here your going on anderson, your a classy lady and pick what is good for you and family and friends and not on some cheesey  mag

HawaiiBlue
HawaiiBlue

Jacqueline - now that Nicholas has been diagnosed, you don't need all this drama in your life.  It would be different if the cast members were getting along and it was stress-free but it's not.  You need to put yourself and him first and surround yourself with a good support system. 

clptexas
clptexas

did anyone else notice how Lauren sat on the couch right in front of Jac's face while she was fake sleeping? she was definitely mad at Jac and her way of showing it was sitting on her face. 

Startsnow
Startsnow

I find it funny that for a cast who supposedly hate Teresa you guys can't keep her name or personal issues out of your mouths. It seems like Caroline keeps trying to bully Jacqueline into hating Theresa. It's actually kind of sick.

jonathan0828
jonathan0828

I think Jacqueline is really scared of Theresa.  She may talk a good game but she's afraid of her.  Actually afraid to be without her.

valgal62
valgal62

OMG again with the pages and pages about Teresa. I am looking at those very tabloids, that Teresa has taken a beating in. They are nothing more than quotes from the show and interviews, thanks to you ladies. If in touch is such a unreputable magazine, whe did you pose for it with Teresa. Got news for you, people magazine is about 1/2 step above in touch. Last time I heard Joe was not Teresas manager, was drunk, and most likley doesnt have a clue about Teresas business dealings. Teresas faballini lauch was taped after the fashion show, so I have to assume last years reunion you couldnt attend, but were able to tweet thru was taped the day after the posh fashion show. After all that was said, why in the world would you be expecting a invitation?

M.LaRue
M.LaRue

Jacqueline - so sorry to hear about your little boy's diagnosis of autism. If you haven 't already read it, the book 'Let Me Hear Your Voice' by Catherine Maurice tells how they recovered 2 of their children from autism. Yes! Recovery is possible. The author even has the treatment plan in the back of the book. Good luck to you and your family. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Jennwilkey
Jennwilkey

Out of all the housewives I can relate to you the most. I've been in a similar position you were in with Teresa. It's hard to give up a friendship after fifteen years, I get it! Sometimes it's just easier to give in and be friends again but at some point you have to ask yourself-what does this person do for me? How do I feel when I am around them? Do i trust them not to hurt me? When it becomes toxic to have that person in your life you have to say goodbye. This is not easy because in a sense you have to grieve for the loss of that person. I've been there-like all things as time goes by it will get easier. You don't have to hate that person or get into a fight and announce you dont want to be friends anymore. Instead you just need to silently let go.

desimuir
desimuir

You are an amazing person. I wish I could be more like you. I am watching the Anderson Cooper Show and just saw the your announcement about your sons diagnosis. I know you and you husband are both going to be amazing advocates for the people in the Autism community. I have worked with children diagnosed with Autism for the past 8 years, and I am blessed every single day to be surrounded by such loving children. My thoughts and prayers will be with you family. 

Take Care, 

Desi Muir

ohwhatever12
ohwhatever12

Theresa just doesn't matter.  Family does.  I hope that you and your family are doing well. 

selena78
selena78

Caroline is your Sister-In-Law so your staying neutral with her, but I can tell that you don't necessarily like her all that much. You punched her in the face and rightfully so. Don't blame it on PPD. You admitted and danced around the fact that, on one of the older reunions, she pissed you off by sticking her nose where it doesn't belong (like always) and she yelled at you for leaving your baby with his own FATHER!!! I, myself, never liked the way she is always saying insulting things about Ashley and tells you how you should be raising her. You never asked for her advice and her kids are not so perfect that you should even want her advice. I can understand wanting to keep the peace in your family. That is your husband's sister, but if I were you I would much rather have Teresa over for wine and cheese and talk to her about my problems than know it all Caroline. If you truly don't want to be friends with Teresa any longer than fine, but it should be for your reasons and not to stay on Caroline's good side or from her brainwashing you into thinking Teresa is this evil vilian. Teresa is not an angel, but neither are you and Caroline certainly isn't either. I had to laugh when she was telling Teresa that you weren't involving yourself in their stupid fight because "Teresa told you not to" If I were you I would be furious with Caroline for that comment, as if even if Teresa did tell you that, you are so little and insignificant that you would do whatever Teresa tells you to do or not to do. I'm sure Teresa is the last thing on your mind these days, but if I'm fighting with someone and they tell me not to contact them I'm not going to under any circumstances, even in the worse of circumstances, but I'm sure if you were to reach out to her she would be there for you with a drop of a hat. Something to think about. Good luck to you and your family. 

Sammy21
Sammy21

You are such a beautiful person, but too caught up in family issues, you should make the choice and leave tv. Who CARES about a tabloid magazine, real celebrities deal with fake bull everyday why make such a big deal about it , it is ridiculous and Caroline is a bully, I think her ego has gotten the better of her and she and your family are jealous of Teresa's fame and money $$ she is making, and not helping you all make money...it is so OBVIOUS to viewers. You appear so classy and you should move to LA and do a makeover show for women

Shery1975
Shery1975

I just wanted to say that there are times that I've watched the show and I am amazed at all the drama between friends and families, it is something I just don't understand and I can see how stressful it can be especially when it seems to bounce around between different people.What I really want to tell you is that I can sympathize with you about your son, my son is also Autistic, diagnosed about a year and a half ago. I knew there was some kind of issue and it took a long time to get the diagnoses. Sometimes there are a lot of loop wholes to go through and waiting to get through but it is worth everything you can do for you. Just remember it's not the worst thing in the world, he is still the same little boy that you love with all your heart and though every day will bring its challenges you'll still have some great wonderful moments ;).Don't worry you are a great mother and are proving it with all that you are doing. Raising your son will present new challenges as a mom but I promise you that you'll get through it and realize how strong you are as a mom and how strong you are as a family.

SAC
SAC

If I were you, I would have slept through everything too.  Dump Teresa - she does not add that much too your life....

HawaiiBlue
HawaiiBlue

Jacqueline - Teresa did not acknowledge your feelings on the show that you would be hurt if she didn't invite you to the party.  She again, did not acknowledge your feelings when Andy said you were hurt that you were not invited.  Sadly, that does not say much about her friendship.  And you are right to wonder, why after all this time she's inviting Dina. 

wadeknit
wadeknit

Jacqueline read your blogs and love what you say in them. Also I pray for you and your family"s good health and many blessings. I wrote to Teresa about her blog and how she treated you this year in hopes that  she reads it and hope it helps her. I wonder if anything can get through to her. I am hoping you and Teresa will be good friends again. That is when she wakes up from her dream life and come back to planet earth.  love ya.  Lou, @wadeknit

Beckyy
Beckyy

Jacqueline I don't understand why you feel you have walk on "egg shells" around Teresa.  You need to do as Caroline has done and stoping taking "crap" from Teresa.  Believe me she is going to step all over you again !   Teresa doesn't have any problem when you say something to her she doesn't like or doesn't want to hear.  Watch that knife in your back....she's stabed you twice and I see a third knife coming again.  Don't say I didn't warn you....

Tofyboo
Tofyboo

Jaqcueline you are amazing!

jbethallen
jbethallen

Jacqueline,please move away from Teresa.  Blood is thicker than water ALWAYS - even Teresa proved that.  Family sticks together and you have great one so please appreciate them and leave the drama behind.  You deserve better, Chris deserves better and your kids deserve better. 

BeaStag1955
BeaStag1955

Jacq you have such a good heart, a wonderful husband and a beautiful son. You don't need a leach for a friend, in all the shows it just looks like Teresa was using you! When you were discussing friendship, I agree with you. A true friend can share EVERYTHING! and not have to worry. She was just feed you what she wanted you to know and then she turned on you and said behind you back that you were the one tell the "rags" those stories! In my book that is not a friend. Anyone that says one thing to your face and then another behind your back is NOT a friend. In my opinion you a better off without her! After the way she treated her own cousin on the trip to California that is so rude and unforgiveable. But, I have always said that Teresa lives in her own little world where she is never wrong and it is always every one elses falt! So do you really want a friend like that? Take care of your husband and beautiful son. Caroline would be a good person to depend on, you may have had your differences, but I bet she would be there if your really needed her. She really seems to be that kind of person. I may be wrong, but she just puts that across. God Bless

Leva
Leva

 @krking

 Caroline is the best sister in law Jacqueline can ever have. I wish I had a sister in law that stood up for me and protected me and my family as well. Dina does not not what she lost. I hope someday these ladies will patch up their situation and maybe they can all go back to being friends and looking after each other.

gml019
gml019

 @krking A bit harsh, but I agree.  Caroline (who I happen to like overall) is wrong here.  It is easy to sway people to feel like you do.  Caroline can be convincing, and Jacqueline can be an easy "sell".  I don't think Caroline is jealous of the success of others.  I think she is more bothered by the relationship with Dina and Theresa (of course all of this is not made know to us).  People want to dislike Theresa so they twist everything.  When she said about Kathy, "my dad was there for her more than her own father was", was she saying that to imply bc Kathy's father was deceased??  It is not like she said, "you called my dad a liar.....your dad was a loser, deadbeat so my dad had to be there bc yours was not" (not saying there is truth to that about Kathy's father, but you know what I mean??)  If Kathy's father was a deadbeat, it would have been a great time for Theresa to say harsh words back at her.  But, she didn't bc she wasn't saying that in the first place.  I think she meant, 'I can't believe you are calling my dad a liar, when you know how much he was there for you when you needed a father figure'.  A perfect example of the other women twisting Theresa's words/actions.

inlove25
inlove25

 @fixit No, Caroline is tired of Teresa's messy ways and I don't blame her!!!!!!

Leva
Leva

 @jonathan0828

 I had thought of that as well. I used to have a friend that would be so great at first then turn on me and then want to be with me again. It was a cycle I had to break after 10 years of so called friendship. Sometimes people are so jealous and they only get happy when something bad happens to you.

Leva
Leva

 @selena78

 Caroline is only looking out for her sister in law.

bmax
bmax

 @Sammy21 Why and how should Teresa help them all make money, as you say? 

gggggg
gggggg

 @SAC  I wholehearted agree. I don't believe Tre know what real friendship is!

selena78
selena78

 @HawaiiBlue

 Its not after all this time that she is inviting Dina. She didn't want to be on the show any longer so you don't see her as much as Teresa has to film with the cast members. I'm sure Teresa has many other friends, you just don't see them because they are not a part of the show.

Sam64
Sam64

@HawaiiBlue Jaq wanted to distance herself from Teresa and now she is upset that Teresa doesn't invite her?? Unbelievable!!!

jonathan0828
jonathan0828

 @Tofyboo amazingly naive and somewhat dumb, that is!  no sense of loyalty here.  When Jacqueline was done wrong by Theresa, everyone heard about it, and Caroline was right there to support Jacqueline, but now that the tables are turned, jacqueline wimps out and pretends to be asleep, except for some stupid remark about "unhealthy purging."   Suddenly she doesn't want to get involved, she wants to be left out of it.  her friendship with Theresa means so much more to her than he relationship with Caroline.  Say what you will about Caroline, but she is at the very least, a bright, thinking woman.  Theresa, who can't ever admit when she's wrong, and now jaqueline is becoming just like her.  If I were Caroline, I wouldn't look at any of those women---Melissa, Jacqueline, and Kathy---who abandoned her when she needed the, She always has evertone's back, and nobody was there for her.  Caroline has a brain, which is something that these others can't brag about.

Leva
Leva

 @gggggg  @SAC

 so true. Her friendship is one sided. Her side.

inlove25
inlove25

 @Linda_M  @HawaiiBlue So what and she's been friends with Jac too, and she claim to love her so much so why didn't she invite her?

Leva
Leva

 @viewer99  @BeaStag1955

 If Tre. and Dina continue as they are they will soon get into a fight and then talk about each other like Tre does about Jac. and Caroline. Tre only loves herself.

skye8844
skye8844

 @Logan89  @viewer99  @BeaStag1955

 I agree.  Jaq would be much better for being friends with Teresa than Caroline.  Caroline is jealous and has tried to stir up trash with all the girls against Teresa.  Geaux Teresa!!!!  Sick of that Manzo bunch.