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Happy Mother’s Day!
Did everyone have a great day? What did you all do? We had a great day barbecuing at our house, we shared some our favorite mom stories, and with nine kids between my mom and mother-in-law, there was no shortage of laughter. I’m so glad that there’s a day to celebrate mothers, but folks don’t wait for just one day in May to show your mamma a little love. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; sometimes it’s just a quick phone call or even a text. It can really make a difference in her day!
Now for my thoughts on this week’s episode. By the way, watching this play back is never that easy, especially because it is family. As you all know, we did live through this a year ago and most of our emotions have settled down since then, so it’s always difficult to watch when everything is churned up again. The other difficulty is to have to listen to what is being said about you when you are not around. I will admit and take responsibility, as I have in the past, for anything that I have said to hurt anyone’s feelings. While I’m not making excuses for myself or Richie’s comments, I can honestly say that they were not said to maliciously hurt anyone. We say things out of anger and frustration. We are human, and our emotions do get the best of us at times. In all fairness though, when I hear juvenile comments about me and Rich I feel hurt just like anyone else.
When Richie and I were discussing the events of the solstice party, I was giving my opinion about the comments Teresa made to her brother Joey about Melissa. Whatever her motivation was, whether she felt she was justified or not, my feelings are that she was wrong to say that to her brother. Again, that’s my opinion and I’m entitled to have one. I felt that it was a toxic statement that would serve no purpose other than to be hurtful. As you noticed I stayed out of that entire conversation and kept my opinion to myself where Teresa was concerned. I did not want to get involved because, as we all know, anything that I approach Teresa with gets taken the wrong way. I had made a conscious decision at the BLK launch party to try to mend our relationship. I don’t know exactly what Teresa is going through, and I don’t want to add another set of opinions to her plate that would overwhelm her, and quite frankly she would clearly not listen to them anyway.
I think the hit of the party was Rosie's belly flop that was the greatest part of the show that day. I agree when all of you girls approach Teresa with issues it is taken the wrong way. Teresa doesn't see it like she is in the wrong. Like when it comes to her and her family.
Love you so much Kathy. You have a beautiful heart and a lovely family. Thanks for joining the show.
Why should Tre listen to anything that you have to say? You have ganged up on her with Melissa and her brother. You and your husband only seem to see one side of a conversation. Stay out of the brother/sister drama unless it is something between your own children. Your husband is no help either. Such a two face, stirring up drama. You all feel compelled to gang up on Tre, whether she is going through something or not. There is a reason she distanced herself from your part of the family, she refuses to be brainwashed by the jealous comments. People do know when you talk about them and wish them ill will. It is a sixth sense that they have. Please try to stop Rosie from doing your dirty work. I use to like her because she was neutral and now she is just like the rest of you.
Kathy, why do you think you & your husbands nasty digs & comments are not juvenile? Cause your the only one who thinks that! You & your husbands comments are just as hurtful as Joe's comments about you....Joe says one thing & you & richie have been taking dig after dig...enough with trying to play the victim...you are family...grow up already...all you's do is talk about Teresa...find something productive to do already & stay out of the Teresa & Joe gorga saga!!
So did Bravo talk to you and Melissa about ruining Teresa because that seems to be what this season is all about. BTW...your sister Rosie is a trouble maker.
Recognize each others feelings....Really???
This was a one way conversation with Joey constantly telling Teresa that she was "Wrong". That is not recognizing each others feelings, that is a one way street to disaster. You really are clueless.
You always seem to find an excuse for everything everybody else does but hold Teresa and Joe accountable for every little thing. If you REALLY wanted family peace you would tell Richie to shut up and take the same advice. How can any normal person take Joe Gorga's side after what he did to Teresa at your party? What possible excuse can be made for calling his sister a "bitch"? All he did was fight with her and tell her how wrong she and her husband are. That is not even trying. He is a giant jerk. And what a stupid place to have a talk. At someone's party. You both are on the wrong side of the argument for sure. Can't YOU see that? And I have to differ with you. You should NOT have an opinion on what should have been private between Joe Gorga and his sister. That is NON YA. Joe Gorga just started another stupid thing because he couldn't act like an adult and keep his mouth shut. He is so afraid that his wife is going to do exactly what Teresa said that he had to say it. So obvious. You all fuel the fire with the fights. IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, THEN SAY NOTHING AT ALL!
I don't think it's fair for you to say that your husband's and your comments were well-intentioned and Teresa and Joe's weren't. I didn't care for Joe's comments either, but I imagine he's sick of the drama and feels like he's sticking up for HIS wife, just like you think Richie is doing. I feel like Richie starts the drama by constantly talking negatively about the Giudices and he makes things a self-fulfilling prophecy when he constantly assumes that things are going to go badly. I guess I don't see you or Richie as well-intentioned. You're clearly on Melissa's side and Teresa can see that. Of course she's defensive, everyone is ganging up on her. And don't come up with some excuse or argument. EVERYONE is against her. (You would think she was a serial killer with the level of hatred that you all have for her. Really, what's she guilty of? Being a bit self-centered and competitive? And hating her sister-in-law. Lots of people hate their in-laws.)
You didn't really say anything bad tonight, but your husband is a pot-stirrer. Maybe he needs to see that and admit it as well.
P.S. I think the therapy thing is a GREAT idea. But real therapy. Not made for TV therapy. And not where Joe Gorga goes home after therapy and stirs up his wife by telling her what Teresa said in therapy. Therapy doesn't work without trust. And I wouldn't trust Joe Gorga either in Teresa's position.
I honestly don't know how you write this blog without seeing the sheer hypocrisy! I am team "nobody" but umm I don't see you jumping in and defending Teresa when Richie says to "burn Teresa at the stake" or when he calls her a "pea brain" or says "does she even know how to swim"!!! But looking like a frog is offensive and gets you going?... Oh that's right I forgot Richie doesn't say anything with malicious intent...he's just sarcastic and funny!
Blah blah blah...now it's time to go beg Caroline for forgiveness for saying you were pissed....have fun with that one....
Bravo please post....though you never have so I won't hold mt breath.
Kathie it was wonderful to see your compassion for your cousin Teresa. It felt genuine and brave because you stood by your ground even though Richie didn't agree. Your kindness shows a positive force amidst all the attacks and negativity Teresa is up against. I think she feels very alone right now. And it is going to take someone like you who has her best interest at heart to step back and start trusting tha t people really care about her and love her. Maybe if she feels secure with at least one family member she won't be so defensive. I notice she is real calm when interacting with Rosie. Rosie addresses her in a loving and calm way. Even when she calls her Honey I think it makes Teresa feel safe and she knows Rosie just wants her to see things in different light. Kathy you were the bright spot for me tonight. You gave me a glimmer of hope that Teresa wasn't all alone over there. Your pretty big eyes showed concern and kindness and made them even more beautiful. I admired that so much. God Bless I hope these people. Can work it out . Life is so short. If we could just love unconditionally we would see the best come out of people.
weather Richie agreed or not. Bravo to you.
Don't be a hypocrite, Never heard a word from you with all of Richie's comments including burn that b1tch on the stake and talk about repossession. Own your words. You and your husband have said things too. Be real. Everyone has a reason for saying what they are saying including Teresa. Glass houses, Kathy, glass houses.
Wow, I wonder if I will be the first comment posted. I never get my posts put on this blog. I love Kathy and Richie and their family. That family is so classy and they are decent to one another and their children are well behaved and respect their parents.
Rosie is the Frick'in Bomb....but I think Joe Guidice said she was something else. But then again, he made alot of childish comments about everyone except his wife. I won't put them all on hear because they should not be repeated. He would like that too much. I like how Joe didn't show up to the party, cause he has "meetings" Joe loves that Tre is fighting with her family. I loved the statement about how "everyone was with Melissa before she got married" Theresa didn't even tell him to knock off the nasty comments about her brothers wife. She loves it when he takes her side and puts down everyone else. They are two of a kind. Mean, jealous, vindictive and they need to win.
Kathy, you are like Jacqueline and you want to me a peacemaker. But, it isn't working and you need to just let it go. Theresa needs some intensive therapy for all her issues. She is bringing everyone down. I really haven't liked Theresa since the first show I watched ever of RHONJ and she was picking out furniture for her new mansion and she paid with hundreds of thousands of cash. She was so proud that she had all that money. She is all about material possessions and she is jealous of Melissa. Tre needs money now, cause I don't think Joe is working, so she will sell her family for money. You cannot trust her. Lastly, you have a wonderful family and I only wish the party would have went better.
You say your husband is tired of the drama, but all everyone does is talk about Teresa. It seems like you and the others don't have anything else to talk about. At your pool party and at the summer solstice party everyone was talking about Teresa before she got there. She was also confronted first at both parties, she did not start the drama either time. The entire cast needs to just leave her alone. Teresa is fun, funny, and fabulous. I liked the show much better when it focused on Teresa's everyday life with her children. I am tired of watching everyone talking about and giving their opinions of Teresa.
You go girl, you still got that full of life, don't give a shyt attitude as you did when we were kids in "Hillcrest". Love watching you on RHONJ, you crack me up! Denise, xoxoxo
I still for the life of me cannot figure out why all of you think that what Joe Guidice says is any different than what the Manzos and your husband says about Teresa. You laugh at their nasty comments about her and have been all along. While he's not my favorite guy in the world, Joe Guidice can see what all of you are doing to his wife and is reacting to it. What is the excuse from the rest of you? Teresa needs to quit filming with any of you. It's always a set up to get her.
You have so much class, always carried yourself well as kids in school & around & about the old neighborhood "Hillcrest"!!! Go girls of Hillcrest!! LOL. We can't pick our family, ( I have a few fakes in mine as well) cousin Theresa is as FAKE as they come. She needs to get real, grow up & stop putting on the phony act "all is well"....Her life is a trainwreck, it is painfully embarassing watching her antics & mouthing off every chance she gets. One can only hope she takes some cues from you and respects herself & her family enough to get some class! Love the show now that you bring reality & class to it! You go girl! XoXoXo Denise :)
"Teresa must have thought they were all pretty hysterical as well, because I didn’t see her interrupting Joe when he was way out of line."
That's right! Just like you must've thought that the idea of "burning that bitch at the stake" was so funny when Richie said it. Oh, I almost forgot. It's ok when your creepy, rude husband does it but it's never okay when Teresa or Joe do it. Hypocrital much? To think, I had hopes for you after last week when you stayed out of things. Your true colors are showing once again.
I cannot believe that you are not holding Joe Gorga responsible for calling his sister a $#@ b$tch. For shame. No, you only have negative words for Teresa, once again. You are a coward.
Funny how you didn't mention how horrible teresa's brothers disgusting comments were to her! Wow, her brother has a trash moth! How can he preach the word of god in one breath and call his sister all that in another!
Oh my God, stop it with the 9 page blogs Kathy! I really thought you were going somewhere there for a second until you started trashing Teresa for the first 3 pages, so I stopped reading your boring blogs! GO AWAY, take Caroline with you, you can leave Rosie, but you and Richie can just go!
I can't believe I came to give you a nice comment until I read 10% of your pathetic blog.
Happy Mothers Day
I wish that I had your patience, your pool party looked like a lot of fun with alot of food which was probably fantastic ! I know that your intentions are all good and I know that you would love to make things better but Teresa and her foul mouth husband make it hard. Your dealing with a couple that can not take responsibilty for anything at all, let alone apologize. At this point if an apology was made it wouldn't be sincere. I feel bad for her kids, they don't even get the gifts from their uncle and aunt that are sent to them the parents throw them away. It's sickening. But good luck to you if you continue to try. Teresa doesn't act like a aunt to Joey and Melissa kids, when Teresa was at the beach and Antonio ran over to Teresa they barely gave her a hug and Teresa told her that she loved her and not to forget it, it was strange to me and it bothered me. Those are just words she doesn't show it in her actions.
This show has so much drama it's nice to break away from it, your party was a nice break..
Cathy, Rosie is so fun to watch!! I think you and Richie are about the most down to earth people on the show. I thought the comment that Joe made about you having a frog face was way out of line to talk about a woman like that not to mention that fact that your his wife's cousin....."family" was awful. Maybe you need to cut your losses with Teresa & Joe even though she is family.
Its sad that you see nothing wrong with you and your husband speaking bad about Theresa but she is wrong to speak bad about you. GROW UP
Kathie, You make all these excuses that never seem to make sense. One thing i have seen with you guys and dealing with teresa is that you always put words in her mouth and then twist them to make her look bad. How about you just drop YOUR viewpoint and YOUR feelings and emotions because guess what... ITS NOT ABOUT YOU! its not about JOEY GORGA.. its not about his selfish wife Melissa.. ITs about what Teresa is going through. You ever wonder why she doesnt say anything to you guys or turns to you for help? Its not very smart to be vulnerable and open with people who clearly show that they want nothing to do with you except cause you trouble. Im so sick of you guys jumping into the middle of things and making them your own problems. You wanted to be on the show so you could TRY to make a fool of Teresa. All you are really doing is making a fool out of yourself. If i was Teresa, i wouldnt want to be around either of you either.. Least of all Joey Gorga. GROW UP! And your dumb justification of Richie's comments just goes to further prove how two faced and malicious you really are. How can you say that you are trying to be the bigger person and bring the family together and then allow your dumb husband to make that comment to your kids about their family member.. dont invite your friends? Thats not a funny joke.. thats worse than what was written about you in the dang cookbook that everyone cried and pitched a fit over. Yet Teresa is the one that gets crucified, called all these nasty names, and what not.. How much of a pot stirrer/hypocrite are you going to become..? This show used to be such an engaging, funny, and heartwarming show. Then you, melissa, and danielle came along and had to screw things up. Really hope you either become part of the solution or get out of the equation all together.
Kathy Happy Mother's day and I hope that you will have many more with your kids. Girl I love your husband does he have a brother for me smile. but keep your head up Teresa has to get better, as you said she is hurting but we don't know how much so she is acting out with her brother and family. God has not shown her the light yet but he will and I pray for you and the family because if she doesn't stop it she will lose all of it and then she will know what real hurt is. sissy
Oh please. Richie's derogatory comments towards Teresa were 10 - 1 the number of remarks directed towards you. You seemed to be trying to be neutral, I will give you that. The convo between Joey and Teresa was NOT about compromise. It was about Joey trying to bring Teresa down, a common goal amongst all of y'all this season. Oh, and BTW, thanks for letting us know who loaned you the patio furniture. I could tell that it wasn't yours, based on your homely interior furnishings.
BRAVO... please post.
His (Teresa's) comments come from frustration. I will admit they are often over-the-top, but that’s just Richie (Teresa). So you all have had enough of giving Teresa the benefit of the doubt and Richie is just frustrated because all of this has been going on for years.... way before you joined the show. SO ONCE AGAIN, THEN WHY DID YOU AND MELISSA JOIN TERESA'S PLATFORM IF SHE IS SOOOOO HORRIBLE? You are great at writing your blogs to show a softer, mature side to you but the mere fact that you helped to enable all this banter is pitiful in the very least and says little of your moral character. Your pen writes the words but your actions show differently. Put your big girl panties on and suck it up just like you expect Teresa to do. She is no angel but when it was just her on the show you never heard her say anything negative about her family. It was a non-issue. I don't like the way the dynamic of how the show has changed since you and Melissa have joined. You wonder why Teresa is defensive? Come on Kathy, you're a smart woman. Her family came in like hungry wolves and she is the bait. How is that for the betterment of a family? If this is what you thought would bring back the warm, fuzzy feelings from when you guys were kids then you need a real reality check because going on a reality show to air dirty family laundry is not the mature, healthy way to do it.
This episode just illustrated how Teresa has a warped sense when it comes to her relationship with her brother. She acts as though she is more important to Joe Gorga than his own wife is. Very weird.
Blah...Blah....Blah yea we know everything is Theresa's fault and all of you bashing her is in Love and Fun. Are you serious your husband has said far worst things since you guys has joined. I can't take it. Shame on you and Bravo for this BS
Why don't you tell your husband to act like a man instead of old lady gossip. When he talks about Teresa, he looks like an ass. NO man should stick his nose in your family problems.
I believe the conversation between Joey and Teresa really showed Teresa's obsession with Melissa. She kept bringing her up in every sentence although Joey kept asking her not to. He kept saying lets work on our relationship as sister and brother. But Teresa just wanted to keep speaking badly about his wife. And she didn't want o take any responsibility for what she's done wrong which seems to be a pattern for Teresa. In the conversation she said that Joey needed to be his old self and not let his wife talk bad her. But when her husband was calling her brother the b word she had nothing to say.. I know this was a year ago so I hope their relationship has gotten better. If not then it's a shame.
You know what is so sad about the whole situation is NOONE want to take responsibility for nothing. Just because Kathy you put the disclaimer out there about your husband and the things you and him have said about Tereasa does not mean that you take responsibility. It is so crazy to me how when the comments are thrown the other way we find a way to make the other person "more wrong" than we are. And I say we because we all do it as HUMANbeings. Rich has said some aweful mean and inappopriate things about tereasa and her family and you can not justify his comments with "Rich is being Rich" or "that's just how Rich is." Everybody can't be a victim. Tereasa is wrong by far but you all are as well. Kathy you are not a peace maker, please stop pretending because if you really want to help, talk to her one on one. Let her know that you are on her team. That does not mean to agree with what she is doing but don't join the gossip group and partake in the gossip. And just because you throw in every now and then "well she is going threw alot" does not give the illusion that you are neutral.
Here we go again, another blog bashing Teresa. Boy I thought you had finally wised up last week when you went the whole blog without mentioning her name. That didn't last long did it. First of all Richie is not funny, he is a very mean spirited man. Sounds like you really didn't like JOe G calling you a frog but it's ok for Richie to say burn the bitch at the stake. If that conversation was Joey's idea of a positive conversation then I'd hate to see what his idea of a negative one is, he called her a bitch while referring to himself as an Angel of God. Who does that? What right does Joey have to tell Teresa very thing she does is wrong when he doesn't even listen to what she is trying to tell him? I don't buy your trying to stay out of it line, you and Richie love to see the drama, that's just the way you are. If I were Teresa I would cut the cancer out of my life and be done with all of you. And what's really disgusting is I'm sticking up for her. I hope this was worth it for you and that fake Melissa
please talk about someone other than Teresa...This is so boring. All you guys do is talk crap about her, ok we get it. MOVE ON!!!
I REALLY UNDERSTAND YOU WANT TO HELP HER BUT SOMETIMES ITS BEST TO THEM CRASH ON THERE OWN AND OPEN THERE OWN EYES . I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A FRIEND LIKE YOU . YOU A GREAT MOTHER AND WIFE . HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU...
Kathy your such a phoney. From day 1 your husband has said nothing but derogatory things about Teresa. I'm not saying he has to like her. He doesn't. He might even have the best reasons too not like her. Just quit pretending he does. Go back and look at every comment made about Teresa from your husband for both seasons and tell me he likes her. So really, give up the whole were family crap. By the way he needs too stop acting as if he's Italian. He's not. Just because he married one, doesn't make him Italian. It's annoying as hell. If you were my cousin I wouldn't have anything to do with you. Sure you want Teresa in your life. That's why you talk about your cousin to non-family members about her. Yeah, that's a real loyal thing to do. If I have something to say to my cousin. I say it too her face. Not to individuals who obviously dislike her. What do you expect them to say. Just cool all the goody two shoe just want to bring the family together crap. Really, we see right through it.
Kathy you have in your post about comments being made,and you werent pleased that Teresa didnt say anything when her husband said negative things. I cant think of an episode of YOUR husband making numerous comments about Joe or Teresa which were negative,and you stopping him by telling him to stop. This is my problem also with you,you allow Jaq,Carolyn,and all the other non family cast to say bad things about YOUR family and you never tell them to stop either. Teresa see's all of these things,and you wonder why she doesnt trust you guys!
Since you want us to notice joey's tone. (because he is so wonderful) I hope you noticed melissa taking a dig at teresa as soon as she got to the party. Teresa is asking what you have to drink and melissa says: I can drink .... I am not high maintenance.
I KNOW, it was just a joke and melissa's joke are always funny!!!!!!!!! NOT!
Why why why is it ok when everyone else says horrible things about Teresa, her husband, and her kids but it is never ok when she says anything negative about anyone else. I think this question has been asked alot and none of you have yet to answer it honestly. You all use the same excuse she does that it is a joke or out of anger. It seems everyone gave give it but not take it. And if you knew you had such a hard time dealing with your cousin why why why did you join a show she was already the star of????
Why is it okay that richie can call Teresa names but Joe Guidice can't call you names? Richie has been relentless in his attack on Teresa. I am glad Joe is sticking up for his wife! you need to grow thicker skin or get out of the kitchen!
Kathy, whether you can admit or not you make excuses for your know-it-all husbands rude and insensitive remarks about Teresa. No one on this show is without fault for saying things they shouldn't have said but your husband just keeps it up and keeps it up. He needs to mind his own business and shut his obnoxious mouth.
You said "I really don't wanna get involved in their fight BUT" then you get involved. You are not the glue to bring them back together but you are the big spoon. All you do is stir up trouble. And why is it OK for Rich and your kids to bad mouth Teresa but it is not OK for Teresa to say anything about anybody. When Rich does it, it is a joke. That makes no sense to me. He is not funny but he is rude and has a filthy mouth. He has said he would burn down a home, burn Teresa at the stake and throw someone (he knows can't swim) into the pool. To me that is a threat NOT a joke. Leave Teresa alone! You, Melissa, Caroline & Jacqueline are BULLIES!
it's heart wrenching to watch all of you corner Teresa ...attack her and then EXPECT her to apologize to you. Her brother is ignorant and his wife manipulates every one of you. C'mon Kathy...you act like you want peace yet throw constant digs at her in your blog even a year later. You talk out of both sides of your mouth. Much success to Teresa...the rest of you should crawl back under the rock that you came out of...this show has gone downhill since you and Melissa joined it. I try to like you...but then I see your true motives...it's just sad.
KATHY, If YOU AND TERESA NEVER GOT ALONG. WHY DID YOU JOIN THE SHOW AGAIN? OH! I GET IT, YOUR PLAYING "FOLLOW THE LEADER". TERESA'S THE LEADER AND YOU AND MELISSA ARE THE FOLLOWERS. YOUR BLOG IS THE SAME WEEK AFTER WEEK. BORING!!! I ONLY READ THREE PAGES. BLAH, BLAH, BLAH AND TERESA DID THIS, TERESA DID THAT, JOE GUIDICE IS MEAN. MY HUSBAND RICH IS WONDERFUL AND KIND. JOEY AND MELISSA ARE GREAT. BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.
KATHY THIS SEASON YOUR NOT MAKING NASTY COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR COUSIN. YOUR STAYING OUT OF IT. HUH..REALLY!!! IN THE MEANTIME YOUR HUSBAND RICHY IS TAKING ALL THE SHOTS POSSIBLE AT TERESA AND JOE GIUDICE. IS RICHY DOING ALL YOUR DIRTY WORK THIS SEASON? YOUR HUSBAND IS THE ONLY MIDDLE EASTERN MAN THAT I HAVE SEEN GET SO INVOLVED IN WOMEN GOSSIP. I PERDICT YOUR GOING TO TRY AND SELL (US) THE VIEWERS SOMETHING AND THAT'S WHY YOUR STAYING OUT OF IT. (HIDDEN AGENDA MUCH) YOU MUST WIN THE FANS OVER IN ORDER TO SELL STUFF LIKE YOUR COUSIN TERESA. KATHY DID CAROLINE WRITE YOUR BLOG? SOUNDS JUST LIKE HER. MAYBE THAT'S WHY CAROLINE ONLY WROTE TWO PAGES BECAUSE SHE WAS BUSY WRITING FIVE PAGES FOR YOU. THAT'S REALLY SAD. YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING ELSE GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE SO YOU MUST FOCUS ON YOUR COUSIN TERESA. YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD STOP ACTING LIKE A GOSSIP GIRL. JUST SAYIN