Kathy Wakile

Kathy was happy to try and move forward with Teresa.

on Jun 25, 20120

I leave you all on that note. I know my sister Rosie had a wonderful time enjoying Pride weekend in NYC. I hope everyone celebrating in different cities had an incredible time celebrating Pride Day. Happy Pride!

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xoxo Kathy

88 comments
lesliann44
lesliann44

The family and the friends have stuck out their necks for everyone on the show.  I think Teresa did say Kathy is fake to Jacqueline and Carolina.  As always Teresa always turns it against the other people and friends. 

 

I think the only reason Teresa called Kathy to talk was to have Kathy on her side and go against the other women that Teresa is pissed off at.   Teresa is the fake one on the show.  She is always bragging about her life and her books.

Getrealgoteamworld01
Getrealgoteamworld01

Kathy, Your such an awesome human being and such a classy traditional lady! I Love ur family and the warmth u being 2 the show! I'm sorry u have to even deal with Teresa and her "ingrediences" she has Lost total touch with reality and The saddest part is how she's put everything out there for money and doesn't realize! We can watch For an hour and comment-but she has to live that fictious life! One day she will realize just how bad she ruined all of her relationships and she will b alone/and I really hope that $ that she made will comfort her! I also love the fact that u managed to get the majority of her drama loving 50 fans to defend poor Teresa for creating anamousity and being an instigator between u and ur sister! She was basically saying ur defending ur sister now about the tabloids (which I have admitted on numerous occasions that I get paid for-but it wasn't me) but remember all the stuff she did to u-who does that? I know she's ignorant-but stupid? Only when it suits her agenda! They can all bash u-like Teresa Does-all 50 of them but the other 160,000 + fans all agree with u-do u watch the polls? Except those people don't have the time to sit here and point out the obvious to people that have nothing better to do! U don't stand down and stand by somebody that is so self centered, bitter and fake-u r so genuine and deserve nothing but the best! Don't waste anymore time on somebody that doesn't deserve one bit of ur good energy! I wish u nothing but the best and remember for every negative comment u get on ur blog there's 30x's the people agreeing with u

kqren41
kqren41

i really dont see the problem..Teresa is your cousin, so she is family...i would deal w/her in small doses (teresa is selfish and about teresa, joe, and her girls, but she is still family)...i would be friends w/caroline and jacqueline, but i'd make it clear that i do not want to discuss family!

mozencrath
mozencrath

Kathy and Rosie - its refreshing to see such nice real people on a "Housewives" show.

mrmarcus
mrmarcus

Kathy, your husband is truly a very lucky man because I truly believe you are a seriously hot mommie, and your eye's are beautiful!

thenikkinoel
thenikkinoel

Kathy, I love your family! I have been a housewife fan for years, its my guilty pleasure and you and your family are a blast. You seem more real, and I love your perspective. Thanks!

christine9
christine9

Kathy,

 I just love you! You always come off as being so kind and real. I don't understand how anone can say anything nasty about you. You always try to be fair and it is obvious that you truly want to bring your family back together. I really hope that Mel, Joey and Tre can own up to their parts in their fued.They are all at fault in one way or another. I really like Tre but she has been a bit unreasonable this season as far as putting blame and you guys and not taking any responsibility at all for her part in your guys problems. I give her credit for being optimistic while going thru an awful time, but she needs to do a better job at realizing her faults. It is sad to see her and Jacs friendship end, I really hope they can work it out. It is so nice to see that you do your best to try and be there for her. I also love the relationship you have with your kids as well as Tre and Mel's kids! I wish you and your whole family peace. Please be wary of Caroline though. She is so arrogant and thinks she can do no wrong. She has been so nasty to others and is so hypocritical! She needs to take a look at her own family instead of judging others'. Stay strong and know that you are an awsome lady!!!

jillybeans
jillybeans

Kathy, I hope you mean it when you say you want to patch things up with your family member. If you mean it you might have to make a choice between someone who is related to you by blood and someone who you just met. Think of how you would advise your two children. What choice would you expect them to make?

Linnie-0711
Linnie-0711

Teresa is only using you now that she doesn't have her friends. I thought on one show she said she had a lot of friends. Where are they? The only friend she seems to have is Kim who will agree to anything Teresa has to say, she is a LOSER. Be careful.

Lin8888
Lin8888

You are not going to be able to stay 'on the fence' any longer if you truly want a relationship with your cousin and if you want a positive image with the audience.  The Manzos and Lauritas have now drawn 'lines in the sand' and you're going to have to take sides not to be seen as a hypocrit and I would think that after watching the current season episodes, it is obvious what a beating your cousin has undeservedly taken and you should be taking her side.  You did, for sure, contribute to what has transpired between Teresa and her ex-friends and I think you know that.  Her 'friends' and family seem to think that Teresa is a punching bag and that all their trumped up loving friendship with each other is going to make Teresa look like the bad guy and save their asses but that is not the case.   With the current news of Danielle and Melissa's text messages, Teresa has been vindicated.  Evidently she is not so crazy after all.  I hope you are not also, like her other 'friends', going to admonish her about that being in the past.  It is very new news to Teresa. At this point, if I were Teresa, Danielle is the only one I would want to be friends with.

GinaCJennings
GinaCJennings

Hey Kathy,

    I saw that you just did a walk with your daughter for the National Brain Tumor Society. My best friend lost her father in February from a brain tumor that eventually ended up being diagnosed as stage 4 cancer. We walked last November in Philadelphia for her dad to show him we were right beside him through his struggle. Sadly, this year, we will walk in honor of his life and fight. I know this society is near and dear to your heart and I was hoping you could come support us in November. My best friend and her mom are huge fans of RHONJ and it would mean a lot if you and your daughter could walk with us. If you could find the time to email me at gcj1124@gmail.com, I can give you all the information regarding the event. I hope to hear from you Kathy. It would mean the world to my best friend.

margie.santos.338
margie.santos.338

I just love you and your family, I don't know why everyone is telling you to stay away from

Caroline and Jacqueline I think both of them are great. Don't let Teresa use you and hurt you she is just out to destroy anyone that tries to help her. They need to get her off the show.  You should write your own cook book.

Kat1313
Kat1313

Kathy, I hope it works out with Teresa. Although Teresa has been coming off as a pathological narcissist in the last few seasons. I hope that isn't what she truly is..

rebecca1966
rebecca1966

Kathy love you and your family .. with that said run don't walk away from CAROLINE.. that women is spreading her hate like cancer, your better then that .. she has one reason to hate Teresa  she is jealous and that is the facts. that women couldn't come close to making the money the Teresa has  made and that is why she hates like she does....  i hope you see that cause i can see your mom knew that in the last season that you all did .. she didn't like what was being said around the table and said that was enough!

! it must be so hard for Caroline to not be in control..  if all the story's that Teresa has to deal with was on Caroline that women would be in a ball on her floor.. and she hates that Teresa is smiling through it ... what does she want her to do break down and die or fight back and make money and pay her bills ?  Caroline is a hater and you can see that with what she said to joe "If i back out then you all cant fix this" really  She needs to go back to the doctor and get some meds she has a problem, but then again you cant fix stupid!!!

dorchester
dorchester

Kathy,

Ask Bravo to give you and Rosie your own show.  If you stay on RHONJ you'll end up like Caroline.

 

Love, love, love - Kathy.

Yolanda1
Yolanda1

Hi Kathy,

As always, I will tell you that I like you and your Family.  I see that you have Peace in your Heart and you are a caring person.  You do not want problems and confrontation. 

The problem with Teresa and Melissa is that they have hated each other, and it has gone for a long time.  I know that Joey wants to have a relationship with her sister, but the way it is, it cannot be.  Too many people are involved in this family mess, which should not be.

They need a Family Therapist and confront what they have been doing to each other, make ammends and go forward.  I think this will be very difficult, but if the Giudices and the Gorgas wants to, they can do it.

 

God Bless you and your Family.

spvati
spvati

I think Kathy is a beautiful person inside and out. God bless her for giving Teresa another chance even after all the crap Teresa said to and about her, trying to turn others against her. Even after Kathy realized Tre only called her for lunch, etc. b/c Jac and Caroline had washed their hands of her, Kathy still appreciated the chance to mend fences. I don't blame her for not wanting to get in the middle of Tre's falling out w/Caroline & Jac. Kathy's allowed to be friends w/them despite what Tre or her fans might think. I don't see where Kathy's a "bad cousin"....what kind of cousin had Tre been to her?????

 

Kathy....thanks for being part of the show and letting us enjoy your wonderful family (especially the terrific Rosie!) My husband was also born in the Middle East, so I enjoy watching Richie (loved the belly dancing/hookah pipe party!)

nolesgrl85
nolesgrl85

I could see the true love for your cousin in your eyes as you were on the brink of tears while Caroline and her sister in law tired orner you and belittle Teresa. The very same thing they are accusing her of doing!!!  Anyway, you are the anchor, the realist, I don't always agree with you, but 95.6 percent of the time I do.  you a great mother, friend, sister, and wife!!!!

fraya
fraya

You're really the only housewife on Jersey that I can currently tolerate; you and Rosie, who isn't technically a "housewife" (i.e. full-time cast member), but should be. I know people think you've somehow betrayed Teresa, but I don't see that at all, especially now that Andy Cohen confirmed that Teresa was well aware of Bravo's decision to bring you and Melissa onto the show. I also don't agree that you're more worried about your friendship with Caroline and Jacqueline than your relationship with your cousin. From my perspective, you appear to be cautious about *all* of your relationships with these women...and you should be. The whole point of these Housewives shows is that women get paid to treat each other badly and we all watch and add fuel to fire as viewers by choosing sides. I get the sense that you're becoming the 'peacemaker' on the show, which is great, but be careful. Often, it's the peacemaker that gets crucified in the end for wanting peace and civility...

Petlover4
Petlover4

You are such a pushover.  The only reason Teresa is calling you is because she can't call Jacqueline every morning to talk about her life and go on about how great she is.  Teresa is just using you until she can find someone else to call, as she has made it clear in the past how she feels about you.  Yes, maybe you are the better person for taking her back, but don't you remember how she talked TO you last season, and what she says about you behind your back.  How you can take that and then jump when she finally reaches out to you out of pure need on her part, is amazing.  She is only using you, and you deserve better than that. 

SheliaKay
SheliaKay

Kathy,  At first I was a bit skeptical about how you and Melissa got on the show behind Teresa's back, and being I have never been "team Teresa" I gave you and Melissa the benefit of the doubt and tried to keep an open mind. Throughout the season you have been the most consistent compared to all the others and it shows the kind of woman you are by the wonderful kids you raised. I adore your family you and Rich have done a wonderful Job. With that being said, if you are serious about improving your relationship with your cousin STAY AWAY FROM CAROLINE AND JACQUELINE. They are out to destroy her and they will use you and anyone to do it. I use to like them both until this season. Caroline has turned into an old bitter, jealous lady, and Jac is just a complete nutcase under Caroline's control and will do whatever it takes to bring Teresa down. As her cousin you need to show Teresa and the other ladies that you will be there no matter what. then your relationship with your cousin will improve dramatically, but she needs to trust you again. Stand by her, she needs you now more then your realize. Look at Teresa's fan base she is not going anywhere stick with her and she will take you on the ride to success. The others will drag you down to their level. I would love to see the Manzo's. Laurita's and the Gorga's off the show and keep you, the Giudice's, Your sister Rosie and Mom needs a full-time position and another

ppowerball
ppowerball

I know that you all have seen these episodes and know what is going on behind everyone's back.  I have respect for you and your husband and am about to stop watching because of Teresa.  I'm amazed that she thinks" everyone" one needs  counciling and that she is sane.  She makes me turn the channel most times.  Watch your back and hang in there or just don't involve yourself next session.

kazport11
kazport11

Kathy all i can say is you are the most sane person on the show. Be careful of Caroline. As one blogger said she loves to go Godfather on everyone.  It is getting really old with the whole "family" therapy lessons she doles out.  She should reap what she sows.

TCGlenmont
TCGlenmont

Why do you all feel Tre is dishonest, not a good friend or cousin because she does not air her personal laundry on television ?   Specifically she has put on a happy face and refuses to confide in any of you on or off camera?  Thank God she was smart enough not to as all of you have torn her apart behind her back - with no ammunition -  the entire season.  Imagine if she had given you real information?   A bunch of jealous, insecure, angry, mean-spirited women.   

suzyq1234
suzyq1234

Do you know when Caroline started being cordial to you?  It was your first season (several episodes in)  and she stated in one of her on camera interviews that her husband had asked her to be friendly to you. I believe she said that her husband did business with your husband.  Why worry about losing a friend like that?

silvia.ordonez.7902
silvia.ordonez.7902

KATHY, I DID NOT LIKE YOU AT FIRST BUT I KIND OF LIKE YOU NOW. I JUSTO HOPE U DIDN´T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT WHAT MELISSA DID 2 YEARS AGO.

BravoPrincess
BravoPrincess

Hey Kathy,im glad in the episode you went out with Teresa,Now present time Teresa was upset of what went down in the view more with melissa than you.I see your heart i like you because of it.Im not gonna say i have been upset about your treatment of Teresa in the past but it is that the past.I really hope that things get better think of getting old with your first cousin.You are like a sister to her and she is like a sister to you.Be with her im not saying she is perfect but look forward to all the fun things you guys can do as a family. hoping for the two of you to talk again.

team916
team916

My opinion on how you make your family look.  You are Teresa's cousin, end of story.  when it comes to Melissa, Melissa's sisters, Jacqueline or Caroline any opinion you have about your cousin Teresa should not come up.  You have your husband, sister to talk and vent things with.  The worst thing you can do is allow another person put your family down, and for you to worry Jacqueline and Caroline would be upset with you over going to lunch with your COUSIN is crazy! Set the example, if you think what Teresa does is wrong show her that you dont treat family that way!

 

Just_Sayin
Just_Sayin

Kathy, you are by FAR the most down to earth housewife in Jersey! You are the voice of reason! Thank you for just being you! :-)

fleurs
fleurs

Kathy, I think you are being really naive as far as Teresa is concerned.  Yeah, she was dissing you the day before, it figures.  And you are right that Jacqueline and Caroline became sacritifical lambs.  Teresa is really full of herself.  I still love you, though!

ocdeb65
ocdeb65

You can't be so naive as to believe you're not being used by Teresa! She only wants to make up with you so you'll be on her side. She doesn't really care about anyone but herself.

msvzuno
msvzuno

Kathy - you are one of my two favorite people on the show. You keep it real while being nice. It is ridiculous for people to say that you came to show with the agenda of ruining Teresa - when she has ruined  her family herself! She admitted that you had done nothing bad to her before but is clearly upset that you and your family joined the show. I can see that you are family oriented - having close ties to your cousin Joe, your sister and your adorable mother. It is a shame that you find yourself in the middle of it. Teresa has not been a nice and welcoming cousin - she has wanted the all the attention for herself going so far asselling stories to the weekly tabloids. Hopefully she comes around and means it when she says she wants to be a family again. I love the relationship you have with your husband and children! Hope you continue to be blessed!

Malibu-Princess
Malibu-Princess

YOU ARE MY FAVORITE.  YOU AND ROSIE.  TOTAL CLASS.....

bailee
bailee

If you truly want to work things out with Teresa, please distance yourself from the haters.  I thought it was atrocious that her friends were talking about her to her family.  None of us are perfect but the hope is that we have a safe place to land with our nearest and dearest.  You have made mistakes too but at the end of the day, if it is about family, don't let anyone trash yours--including your outlaw, Melissa.  Teresa is clearly under a lot of stress and has had her moments but no one deserves the way they have tried to incite hate to her.  You are better than this.

 

 

skyomally92
skyomally92

WOW your always thinking about the Manzos the ugly ppl that tore Teresa apart and were bashing her all these season...WHAT KIND OF COUSIN R YOU???   Its sad to see that you and melissa came on this show to bash Teresa and her family. Im so glad teresa is a strong hard working woman...something u both r not

EjadeS
EjadeS

I have watchd the show from the very beginning and here is my take. I don't see where Teresa has changed at all! I liked everyone but Danielle b/c I thought she like stirring up trouble. I think T was busy w/the show & then after the BK went to work doing all the appearences she cld, wrote a cook book etc. to support her family & did not have time for her extended family as much. I believe this made Melissa livid b/c she wanted to be around while T was filiming to try to get attention & was angry T didn't try to get her on the show or film with her. I think you know exactly how Melissa is & you know she would turn on you in a heart beat, so why do you associate so much w/her?  Also since you were worried about Jac & Caroline being upset w/you over going to lunch w/family?! Are you the same way as Melissa or are you a truly sweet lady? I am wondering if you & Melissa were both out to get T b/c she didnt include you on the show.  You don't see Caroline & Jac include other family members like cousins, siblings etc. (Caroline & Chris have like 11).  Teresa whom I do love & admire for her hard work & fun personlity has always been the same. Why if your intentions for coming on the show were good did you bash her out of the gate your first episode? You & Melissa had a plan & that plan was to do whatever you could to get on the show & stick it to T for not including you in the first 2 seasons. I hope I am wrong about you but your husband acting like her really cares & his set up scenes w/Joey Gorga are ridiculous!

tobyno
tobyno

Kathy,

I liked you from the start.  I think you genuinely care about Teresa.  I'm hoping you did not know what that snake Melissa did to Tre at the reunion show with Danielle.  If you did and didn't say anything shame on you and I coudn't support you anymore. 

 

Wonder how you would have handled it if it were you and your family on National TV, and Tre did something like that to you?  Please be honest!

ckt06
ckt06

kathy why would you even care about ruining your new "relationship" with jaq and caroline, because teresa got into it with them? She's your cousin and they were her friends, not yours to begin with. Whether Teresa is right or wrong, it just proves that you are a back stabber.

melsweet
melsweet

When your cousin Teresa reached out to you for support (you may have meant well, but your comments about her daughter being unattended last year certainly came off wrong, like you were trying to embarass her) your first thought was about keeping your friendship with the Manzos.  Are you serious?  Who the hell are these people and what do they represent to you?  Haven't you learned that in their circle you can be here today, gone tomorrow?  They must hold a lot of influence in Franklin Lakes because everybody seems to be obsessed with their approval and I can't imagine why.  You seem like a nice lady but you need to get on the right side of loyalty and speak up for your family.  It was so awkward to watch you listen to Caroline and Jaq talk about how they are done with Teresa, your cousin!!!, and you sit there and not say a word.  Why?  Are you that desperate to be invited to their Christmas party?  Same thing with darling Melissa (gag) she was so rude to you..."go sit on her steps and talk to her about it" and again you say nothing.  Teresa is the one you grew up with, and clearly your jealousy of her and desperation to be on the show led you into the wrong group. Very disgusting and very sad.  Read the writing on the wall and make things right with your cousin, these other people might dump you any second.

RHWvwr
RHWvwr

How can YOU forgive and forget everything that happened? Oh my god, I'm speechelss. I don't know about Teresa, but I will never forget how you came on this show in cahoots with Melissa to take down and lterally RUIN Teresa, and badmouth her in every scene you two could crawl onto. I don't care if Teresa forgives you, she will never feel the same about you. It wasn't a little thing Kathy, " because make no mistake, if you had had your WAY, Teresa would be in the "shunned" gutter and NOT be able to support her family if she needs to. That's what you guys tried to make happen with every ounce of your body and manipulated scenes. You don't know if YOU can forget???yeesh.... 

hammajamma
hammajamma

Wow, there are so many unkind folks posting out there. Kathy, you seem like a decent sort and opening up your life to TV cameras has got to be full of unanticipated and frequently challenges. Best wishes to you and your family.

christine9
christine9

So true! Kathy is awsome and so real and level-headed. You can tell how much she loves her family and just wants peace for all of them. Rosie is hilarious!

Teximexi
Teximexi

 @SheliaKay I agree.  Take the Manzos and Lauritas off the show.  But I gotta say I am very intrigued with the counseling sessions with Teresa and Joe.  I already liked the therapist said about the Napa trip to her -- don't go!

borncynic
borncynic

 @TCGlenmont Those of us that think Teresa is shallow, conniving, deceitful, and jealous beyond measure also think she is manipulative, a back-stabber and two-faced.   But . . . that's because we're watching RHONJ.  What show are you watching?  Each of the wives has it better than Teresa so what is there to be jealous of?  Who would want to be married to the slug she calls her "husbent"?  Kathy has it hands down over Teresa any day.  She has a good heart, devoted husband, great kids, and has no reason to envy anyone.  Jealous, insecure, angry, and mean-spirited is an excellent description of Teresa.

spvati
spvati

But Caroline has admitted to Kathy's face that when she first met her, she didn't give her an honest chance & was all, "I don't like you". She apologized to Kathy for this negative attitude and realized that once she opened her heart to Kathy that Kathy was a genuine and good person that she wanted to get to know. Teresa is the one who badmouthed her family members and I'm sure poisoned the well where Kathy and Melissa were concerned. It's been shown many times where Tre says, "Shouldn't they be on MY side?", meaning that Jac and Car aren't supposed to like Kathy or Mel at all...they have to be "Team Teresa" or else! Tre acts like she's still in grade school, "If you're MY friend, you can't be HER friend".

louise123
louise123

 @tobyno If what Kathy has done is "genuingly caring" about Teresa, yeesh, I'll pass. Kathy to me is more dangerous than Melissa. She has passive aggressive down to a science, and sways with whichever story is current to pummel Teresa with. Forgive me if this sounds cruel, but Kathy had about as much of a chance at landing a role on this HW show as my Aunt Mildred, but did so with a silent nod to attack her own blood. Every single scene was devoted to that very task. The nerve to now say "how do you forgive and forget" is mindblowing to me, and proves this is still a game of get Teresa, trying to still win points for their "team." I believe Kathy has had her eye on the prize from day one- a cookbook career, and I personally will support no such venture for it came at too high a price on Teresa and her small girls.  I imagine Kathy will go with the wind again at the reunion, and if it's a shark fest, she will swim up the shallow waters. I think Kathy knows she sold her soul, and will seek redemption that is never due.

 

Malibu-Princess
Malibu-Princess

 @RHWvwr I don't believe kathy did that.  i believe melissa did it all on her own....  Kathy is far too old to play games like this.  It's so obvious who the attention seeker is here.  I hope Teresa and Kathy do mend fences...

FanViewerNJ
FanViewerNJ

 @hammajamma

 hammajamma, I think you are reading so many ":unkind" statements because they PALE in comparison to what Kathy tried to do with Melissa to her own cousin. It was really disturbing to watch. Kathy even brought up Joe Guidice's sentencing on CAMERA, saying "what happened to people having to take resposibilty?"His sentencing is still yet to BE, and she said that, about her own family. She did that on camera at a backyard quiet barbeque. I'll spell it out- she waited for the cameras to come set up, start rolling, and then told the nation about the sentencing: "people need to take responsibility for their actions in punishment form. Most folks would try and help their family facing jail time over a no harm, no foul, allegation but not Kathy. Her career (cookbooks) and winning one for her "side" was more important. The manipulations and bad mouthing of her cousin on this sho, where Teresa has not done anything malicious to ANYONE, has a lot of people angry. I think these opinions and posts Kathy is getting are a refelction. She tried to hurt her cousin in every bloody scene she was in for two seasons: "look how bad my cousin is" "everybody, listen to how bad she is". The comments from her, and husband were constant and disturbing within a family. Now she has a career, and I'm SURE a cookbook coming, all at the expendse of Teresa who made it possible for her, c'mon, do you really think Kathy would be a housewife on this show w-out Teresa. I think she's getting off easy on these blogs.