Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Blue Crush

Kathy Wakile loved the rush you get while surfing.

Hi friends. Summer has really been flying by so fast, and I hope that everyone has been enjoying it. We’re wrapping up our time at the Jersey shore this week, so I’m going to make this brief. I don’t want to spend any more time than I have to at my computer and miss the best time of year here!

Talking about the shore, did you all catch the view of Half Moon Bay in California? How silly did we all look getting ready to surf? We were clearly out of our element, and wet suits are not my thing, but thankfully we had them. We all got tossed around by the waves, but I was determined to do my best. I can’t believe the rush you get when you get up and ride the wave. It was exhilarating and very gratifying. Lesson learned: It’s never too late to try something new; try it and surprise yourself.

I hope you all enjoyed watching us have some fun, even though there were some sad moments. Unfortunately that’s the way life is, but that was a year ago, and it’s true that time does heal.

Next week we go to the incredible Lancaster Estate and get a tour of their vineyard and enjoy some of their delicious wine (well a little more than just some). Let’s just say many bottles were uncorked, and we’ll leave it at that.

See you all next week. Rich and I are off to the beach with Victoria and Joseph. Only two weeks until Victoria starts college, and Joseph is back to school as well. Time is precious, enjoy it while you can!

As always, you can catch up with me on my website and through my newsletter at www.kathywakile.com, on Facebook, and Twitter @KathyWakile, @RichardWakile, @VictoriaWakile, and @JosephWakile.

Lots of Love,

Kathy xoxo

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.